Reflective Listening: How to Be a Good Listener

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Reflective listening is an essential communication skill, but most of us stink at it. It's a pretty simple and really powerful way to help people heal and work through problems. Seriously. I spent a year learning this skill in grad school and the next seven years reminding myself to use it because it's one of the most effective tools to help others feel understood and understand themselves. Reflective listening is one element of active listening, an essential communication skill.
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@x0xpamx0x 5 жыл бұрын

I want my thinking clarified.... I want to understand my emotions and I want to find solutions! I love having healthy relationships with my family and friends.

@BERTINEADDE 2 ай бұрын

Me too😂😂😂

@ivydoll7195 4 ай бұрын

This is my 2nd year as a new-ish therapist and this video feels like a masterclass in Reflective Listening. Thank you, truly.

@lisajohnson6453 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I'm not a counselor, but just want to be a better friend. People come to me a lot with their problems and I'd rather help them come up with what is best for them than just offering solutions (I feel like that would be better for them). I'd love, love, love a practice video--maybe where you give us possible scenarios, have us pause the video, and see what possible reflective listening responses we could use?

@cyfisher8679 10 ай бұрын

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:04 🎧 Reflective listening is the skill of understanding and summarizing what someone is saying to show empathy and help them clarify their thoughts. 01:02 🗣️ Reflective listening basics involve summarizing what the other person said and asking if you understood correctly, but sincerity is crucial. 03:12 🤝 Reflective listening can help uncover underlying emotions and concerns, leading to better communication and acceptance. 05:00 ❓ Reflective statements are often better than questions as questions can direct the conversation and make the other person defensive. 06:20 💡 Reflective listening can help individuals express and understand complex emotions and meanings, enhancing their self-awareness and growth. Made with HARPA AI

@statia98 3 жыл бұрын

Me and my girls watch a video of yours everyday and learn a lot from you. Thank you so much!❤️❤️

@octopusmime 3 жыл бұрын

I am here to learn these skills as I am definitely a ‘fixer’. Thank you so much for sharing this with the world! The after effects of emotional trauma make it difficult to listen effectively to my husband when he is sharing. It’s really hard for me to hear him and to not feel so moved/re-stimulated by what he may be saying. I’m getting better at setting realistic healthy boundaries like tapping out when I feel overwhelmed, but I forget sometimes. It really is a process. So here I am learning some more. It feels like strength training.

@177SC 11 ай бұрын

I had no idea how to listen to my teenager, and this video definitely improved our communication. Thank you

@Lr8_youtube 6 ай бұрын

Reflective listening - summarize the context in a kind way

@womaninamerica4572 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for doing these videos, and sharing your experience and knowledge

@davidthomspson9771 4 жыл бұрын

This was very good.Thank you.I have to embrace this,I have actually damaged relationships because I had not thought this way nor embraced it.

@AdiraHeart 9 ай бұрын

Emma! Thank you so so much for all you do and this video in particular! We are using it during a difficult time. I so appreciate you.

@yourhikingbuddy2189 8 ай бұрын

Something I love about your channel is that it is aimed towards personal growth rather than being stuck on fear-based diagnoses and thinking everyone else is the problem. Your channel is breath of fresh air in a world of 5 second Tik-Tok self-diagnosing psychology! It’s always tough to take responsibility at first but really more worth it

@tinaodero4949 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you.. Well put

@abrila.3324 4 жыл бұрын

THIS STARTS WITH OUR SELVES, IF WE CAN APPLY THIS SKILLS TO OUR OWN MIND AN BODY THEN UNDERSTANDING AND ACCEPTING OTHERS WILL COME IN LIKE POURING RAIN! I THINK. THANKS !

@TherapyinaNutshell 4 жыл бұрын

agreed

@shm2594 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you this really helps!

@JulioGonzalez-ps8jb 2 жыл бұрын

Excellent material!

@jennifertobbon2164 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing !!

@actsrv9 4 жыл бұрын

In technology, when computers communicate with each other, there are many protocols where the receiver of information sends back a "checksum" to the sender as acknowledgement, which is a unique number generated only when the entire message is correctly received, without error. We humans should learn a little bit from computer protocols. Some CS major should also do a psychology major and write a book about how the problems of software and communication are very similar and apply solutions from one to the other. Also, Need-Based Communication.

@octopusmime 3 жыл бұрын

That is awesome. I would love to read more about that!

@GratefulDeb270 2 жыл бұрын

Wow! Ty so much! 🌸

@jenniferstachnik3287 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this!

@johntindell9591 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@albertwegener7786 Жыл бұрын

Good stuff, thanks!!

@marcelaleyva6700 3 жыл бұрын

Repeat, paraphrase & reflect

@AnandaSh4k3 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this, very interesting.

@TherapyinaNutshell 4 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@KUNDANSINGHMCA 4 жыл бұрын

great job ...

@TherapyinaNutshell 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks :)

@martinratcliffe5987 3 жыл бұрын

3:55 'and so he accepted me and my advice.' it seemed like such an ironic outcome in working with a compulsive advice giver

@soundhealingbygene 11 ай бұрын

helpfull

@TheP8R 4 жыл бұрын

Atleast one social skill I am not being so bad as an introvert xD

@jessicacereceres6211 Жыл бұрын

Hello I just came across this video, is the course still available?

@alexmihai6617 4 жыл бұрын

This is actually very interesting but like you say it is important to have a relationship to be able to apply this otherwise it is going to come across patronising so it makes it a skill for specific circumstances not general communication... Nonetheless, very good and insightful. Thank you :-)

@cesareocontreras1204 3 ай бұрын

Hi! My name is Elizabeth Contreras. I'm a retired Spanish teacher. Un My family There are a Lot people with mental illness, including My self and My oldest daugther. I'm still trying to get Netter with medication and family support. There are so many people ground me that does nut unferstand depression. Yo make a story short, I'm thinking about becoming the voice of people with depression. What should I do! Gracias! Elizabeth Contreras from Massachusetts