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Wow, and here I thought I was s good listener. Turns out I listened without direction, without knowing why I was listening, all because I didn't have anything to say. To get to a place that is better than where we started off? That's a much better reason to listen.

It's unbelievable how many bad listeners there are and how you notice that good listening is actually really important and actually a gift. I see myself as a good listener now, but not because I am like that from the beginning but because I worked at least on that. And I am sure that many will agree with me here if they talk and the other person listens in the sense of just dull listening, it's actually much more like "hearing". But the only thing you get from the other side is, for example, if you tell a bad story about yourself and talk about how hard and bad it affected you, the person from the other side only tells you how much worse things actually happened to himself and how much it could have been worse and suddenly it's all about the feelings and experiences of the other one. And I'm sure 90% of the people you know are like that. It's the same the other way around. For example you tell them you went to a great birthday party and the other side replies that they have seen a much better one. Maybe it is hard to not put the focus on yourself and telling the other one about how much worse / better things you've experienced but if you are aware of exactly that point, why not show pity or understanding to the other person? Why not ask the person more questions so that they feel understood and addressed? So that the person feels that someone is listening and that it is really only about this person who wants to be listened to. Even if we refrain from the fact that the other person has no bad intentions and downgrades us, it actually happens unconsciously and many are not even aware of it. In the meantime, when someone tells something, I listen, I ask questions as Jordan Peterson also mentioned and the end result may not be that both have learned something, but definitely that both are better, which Jordan Peterson clearly mentions here . In the end, it's about both of them having improved

my god I wish I had this man as a professor when I was at university

*Listening is an action in which the miracle of understanding takes place.*

He is talking about active listening. Focusing on the persons words and maybe paraphrasing to let the other person know they are being heard and understood.

These thumbnails are great.

Very true what he says. Quite often how we respond to even a seemingly boring conversation can make it interesting.

Well if somebody doesn't want to get involved in a reciprocal relationship, you listen. You'll still learn something and when you're gone maybe that person will realise that they have been listened to for once.

This guy is freaking brilliant

I just realized this why I never got married. There was never any true synergy. They always thought I was amazing, now I see its cause i listened to them and then acted on what I heard (favorite food, etc). They never listened to me but rather tried to superimpose upon me the identity, thoughts and force actions they thought I should have.

So much admiration and respect for this man.

If I had someone like this to help me analyze my thoughts, ideas, intentions, and emotions, while I was in my late teens or early 20's, wow! Who knows what I could have become? Peterson has a phenomenal thinking pattern. He's really off the charts.

Confucius said: *“Without knowing the force of words, it is impossible to know more.”*

And that's when I realized I need more of this man's wisdom in my life.

What did he say? I wasn't listening.

This clip didn't really make much sense to me for several years, until I realised "you have something to tell me" meant "you know something about me that I don't"

So much consideration needed

Such valuable information, i had to download this vid.

Very interesting and uplifting.Give people time to sort out things in their own minds and then come to conclusions and don't rush them either

Hey, thanks for sharing this video! This is very good!

Listening is the key to showing respect.

I need this on paper

Thank you kermit

This is a very helpful video. I see myself as a strong listener, but I'm not as good as I could be. I see myself expressing ideas and thoughts to impress those around me to showcase my knowledge and intelligence, rather than to further the conversation. It's a selfish tendency that I must work on going forward.

Golden as always. ✨ JBP rules!

I would offer that these lectures are for prospective psychologists: they must be able to listen to their patients for tens of minutes. Many of them.

I’m watching this and thinking this professor’s name rings a bell, and then I found the book “12 rules for life” on my bookshelf 😂 I’m going to read it now.

Thank you !!!

I'm jealous of the students he has had. I would love a professor like Dr. Peterson

Not bad at all. Thanks for the time and effort.

Simply the best

a great great teacher!

Two brains are better than one. Listen to what others have to say because they will certainly speak some truth or something that you don't know of. Truth in communication produces health. When someone doesn't listen, it indicates it's might not be a therapeutic relationship. If you think someone is dull in communication it's because you do not listen carefully. A good listener can always find talkers speak something interesting about themself. -Ask questions to keep the conversation going -the goal of listening is to produce better results in a conversation. -you get what you pay for

this is awesome

P I'm so thankful that you're there I mean I'm listening totally and you hit on a lot of my issues have to do with communication

I like it! " It is the case that two brains are better than one." and " The exchange of truth is curative."

Omg i Love this Guy i want him to be my Professor

Jorden doing well here here's got even the guys in the class listening to him,not easy Hy 😀

very interesting

I learn something everything I listen to peterson

To me a good listener is the person that listen what you have to say, then offers a different view of what was said, not to be "against" the opinion of whoever you are talking to, but to have a different view of the experience that person is talking about. basically try to understand if that person thought about that perspective in life. Make them think. Also, avoiding talking about personal experiences is a must, after all when listening it's not about us, it's about whoever is in front of you. Also it's not repeating what he/she said and after that saying "oh yeah, I totally understand what you are saying". :p

Thanks dad.

Fantastisk!

5/5

Yeah my dad always try to teach me the difference between listening to someome vs hearing them out. You pay attention! It's difficult to do but it isn't impossible

maan, the final part got me

How to be a good listener? Listen to the night mother carefully and make sure her will is obeyed.

Im a small business owner, and I always am working in my store. I always thought I was a decent listener, but over the years it's been nuts the things total strangers have said to me just because I listen to them. Blue collar, hard working man crying about some crazy dream where they dround their son and it twisted them up because they don't know why they'd think of that. A man who owns a construction company crying about his family members addiction issues. Elderly women crying because her cancer is back and she's not sure she wants to do chemo again. I can't even remember most of them because it happens usually once a week. The only shitty part is I can never find someone who will listen to me.

'Truth produces health'

Its like he is speaking to me. I have exactly the situation he described.

Listening to do this, while doing something else. Like to think I am learning something..

So, there's for some reason a stigma around Jordan Peterson. I don't know why. But I was curious and watched a couple of his videos. Although I don't agree with everything he says, he did enrich me and I am happy that I did as he suggests: Listen to someone outside of your comfort zone.

What is the difference between to hear and to listen?

1.

Listening is more important than speaking.

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If you listen people are really weird. Depends if you already know them, also depends how garded that person is. People on the internet, when annonymous are generally candid strangers so yeah they do tend to be really weird.

What brand are those laptops? mmm i can see several laptops. That room is big.

Never thought about it like that. What result do you want from the conversation, both parties better off than when they started otherwise what are you trying to achieve?

I never knew i did this till i heard it. I love listening but when people genuinely listen to me, i don't believe it 😭

This video kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jtJkhdiBpq-pj3k.html is also about being a good listener by removing barriers and learning about active listening.

Crucial conversation…. It’s a good book

So many words that i do not kw

of course i half listened to this like it was a podcast

im at 4:25 and just realized i've not listened a dam thing gotta replay

Would a conversation with the purpose of entertainment fall into this category? One is not necessarily trying to become better, just make everyone in the conversation temporarily happier.

Does he teach at an English speaking university in Asia?

I feel like i am a good listener, but struggle with what people say, regarding big words to which i think some people misunderstand (if that makes sense) words they don't fully know, Almost like when the government try and use big words to throw people off when they're not educated enough to understand the words they're saying.

but how do you do this and formulate a fluid conversation

*CONFESSION* Being a 27 year old man I'm pretty shabby at socialising. Although I have a couple of close friends I can share anything with, I have never really felt like my skills made that happen. Always a feeling of not having connected with anyone ever in my life organically. It's killing me. It's on my mind so much that it even affected my studies & career thereby or so I think. And grappling with anxiety & arguably futile mental rituals is only creating more of a disappointment. I really wanna be good at socialising, making smart conversation, LISTENING, replying appropriately, being witty, & all the other good things. I really wanna live a good life.

So how to be a good listener without asking too many questions??

I'm so bad at listening, I had to watch this twice, for about half the information presented.

I don't know, I like to talk to those people who can give me some information which is helping me to grow (e.g- sharing ideas about business, politics, history, culture,art etc). I look for knowledge from people but when I talk to someone who likes to talk about girls, gossip, cars and other bullshit stuff, I just can't concentrate on them! I like to gather ideas, not wasting shit talks! But I have one more problem, I am shy towards the older elderly people but can talk to my same age or younger than me! Any tips??

Should say why you should be a good listener.

Look around, I do not really have many relationships at all in the end !!!

If anybody wants to talk, I'll listen 😁

1 minute into "How to Be a Good Listener" me: ah fuck i wasn't listening

I mean honestly it's crazy there even needs to be a video on this in the first place/that it is a topic of discussion. Is it genuinely difficult to pay attention what someone has to say? 🙃😂

2:35 this is why LSD could be good when used properly, brings out the truth

had to restart this 5 times

At least everybody's got a sense of humor I try to listen to other people because I know they're sick of hearing me say anything I might as well hear what they have to say cuz I know I'm not that interesting lol

3:30 "What makes a relationship therapeutic?- If you have a real relationship, it's therapeutic. If isn't, what you have is not a relationship. God only knows what you have.." 4:11 "If you listen to people, they will tell you the weirdest bloody things so darn fast you just cannot believe it. So if you're having a conversation with someone and it's dull, then you're stupid. That's why. You're not listening to them properly, because they're weird. They're like wombats or rhinoceroses, they're strange creatures. And so, if you were actually communicating with them, and they were telling you how weird they really are, it would be anything but boring."

I would love to agree with this, but .. if I were to have a conversation with someone who believed the Earth was flat, it would be pointless. There are positions for which this technique will not advance understanding. The context of this must be conversations held in a mutually encompassing framework. So much of our political discourse, conversations about vaccines, religious conversations and the like, are so far afield, that there really is no point in trying to listen to the 'other'.

I feel 99.314% more intelligent now. Time for a slice of pi.

How do I send this to my dad without sending this to my dad? 😅

Wonderful Video! Listening is definitely an important skill to master if you want to improve your relations with others. I made a video similar to this one, so if you want, feel free to check it out. 😉

These monologues at places of education concern me. There's no debate or challenge. Just a lecturer giving opinions as fact. I'm not saying about JP who I think has points, but no wonder a whole generation of our brightest minds have been bent in a way of doctrine if this is how they spend their day.

Yeah just listen to what people are saying acknowledge them act interested or at least try That's about it Jordan can make a 45-minute lecture out of that off and wonder what it would be like to be born with a high IQ I don't know myself cuz I don't have one I'm guessing I'm about in the middle maybe low end I hope not

I need to be a better listener.

The 8 people that disliked this were hired by Sam Harris.

Listen to LEARN not to REPLY.

Does he not know that there are people out there who are actually just boring

Who's here because their classes are about to start after lockdown?

Mental Health First Aiders start by saying I’m going to tell you why I’m write, and I’ll win if you agree. M.H.Injured be like I still hurt please make the pain stop. M.H. First Aiders be like, your wrong, your not trying hard enough.

I’ve seen far far better professors…. He’s kind of all over the place.

Super interesting but I can't stop hearing kermit the frog lol

'Two ears, one mouth'. Listen twice as much as you speak.

Damn I wish I could afford college

I’m sorry but I just can’t get Kermit The Frogs voice out my my head