There is always more to learn, about any subject.

Same. Once you recognize the signs your only response should be to get out of the situation as quickly as you can.

I watch them when I think I need a reminder of their tactics because it’s easy to be side swiped by them. I have too many in my life to not be on my guard and I was wondering about if it was doing damage. Because of the life long abuse it’s made it incredibly difficult to achieve closeness and friends.

@@AngelKrystalStar analysis paralysis

I just go back to certain ones for a quick recap Last topic i searched was what is their weaknesses Now i strike em blow after blow covertly Only when the narc tries it again Which they will ofcourse

That last point is important music therapy works as well or better than talk therapy

Spot on

@@hansonel I find music hard to listen to, it is like noise when I wish to hear the environment for anormalities.

@@reallythere I can relate to that, and went through a similar stage myself. Hyper-vigilance and the inability to relax and let your guard down. Caused by unrelenting threat, stress and trauma I think. Are you able to sleep?

@@Jen.K I can sleep, I need to be familiar with all the ambient noise of my home. I wake up to any anormalities. I don't sleep very deeply. It's caused me to be low energy, gain weight, won't exercise and can't concentrate etc

I think we'll know when we've had enough.

It happened close the door and live 💜

Yes. I did not understand what happened to me. And so I started watching your videos. It made sense, I got it, and I started to forgive myself that I had something like that happen to me. That I let it happen. I am thankful for your videos because I could not have understood it on my own. I don’t need your help any lpnger but I mean it in the best possible way. I can take it for here. But thank you.. so much.

This. It became like an obsession because I was so traumatized I was terrified of going through some things again. I’m feeling better now thank God and I’m learning and honestly it’s helped me to try and not look at as much as I was to help get some things out of my head too ❤

I came from the future to inform Richard is still making money by making content to the "hugging box machine". Sometimes Richard incorporates people he admires and it ends up being those hypocritical videos in which he is the smart one "out of the matrix" and we are a bunch of masturbating weaklings.

Me too. It gave me permission to leave and take control of my life.

Ditto

Ditto

You can't be everything to everyone. I love your style and the subtleties and your humour. You have helped me immensely. If people don't resonate with your style they'll find someone else who they resonate with. Thanks Richard xxx

Wow, I'm so happy to see these reports! *Understanding the condition* and your own self, is key.

Great comment

*accountability?

@@maricamaas5555 Yes because we put up with their shit for far to long. Nowadays if someone disrespects me I'm out.

@@maricamaas5555 fixed it thank you

@@demolitor2359 ..Very True.

Agreed, and I think the investment you made was invaluable in order to take your next steps in living.

amen Diane

Love it!

I completely get that. Pureed steak, on a teaspoon would have been too much. For the first few years after I escaped my x, I never asked myself why I put up with it. I wasn't ready. I had to understand what had happened first before I could ask myself why I put up with what happened. ROme was not built in a day.

Agreed!

Yes, perfectly said! The real healing (at least for me) has been uncomfortable at times, but seeing our own past patterns gives us the opportunity to decide our future. After the initial unease of self-examination, the real work begins, and it’s empowering.

Amy Vaknin are you married to Sam Vaknin??

@@susanhoward189 *WAS married lol

@@canecorsomom2023 I totally get that but as hard as I try the ex and my parents are after me through court (another playground of control even though I went no contact) they use my kids against me and constantly put a spanner in the works with divorce. I’d love to find a solution as I left for a reason but still tied up in it. Peace is what I want. I pray even though I don’t know who or what god is as no one is coming to the rescue as emotional abuse goes unnoticed by most unless you are the target. Any solutions I’d love to hear as there aren’t too many people lawyers included that have a clue

But why has there been so little progress, so little attempt to share educate and help family scapegoat children everywhere? Nobody not even the hog box cares about family scapegoat in their own street... It’s a failure A failed attempt A failed sick loop

@@canecorsomom2023 hi yes I have watched her. She is quite useful and everything she says resonates. I don’t have the money to sign up to a lot of these things so just listen to the free content. Thank you for the heads up x

@@canecorsomom2023 & Grace Kelly - I think who we associate with and run into at the grocery store is important as well. If we continue to have exchanges with them they will get more manipulative and needy if they see you're pulling away or attempting to succeed at something. I had to go NO CONTACT - I can't keep myself positive and up and in control of my life with my mother and brothers in it. Its to abusive and mentally and emotionally harsh and based on alot of my mother's lies. My Narc is my Mom & she needed to make me fell less than all my life. I had a lot of successes but as I got older she literally found ways to pull the rug out from under my feet especially with my brothers.- I'm so tired of that shit after 5 decades. Its time for me to live and dream and forget people who suck the life force out of us. So I believe we are most focused on it when around it because it continues to poke at our good sense and we continue to take it. Its much easier to get healthy removing manyparties or greatly limiting and setting boundaries - - - but there will be kick back with that - so be prepared.

Why is it disgustingly painful.?I feel for you. I hope you are seeing a professional, or at least support away from the internet. Do you have PTSD or has the abuse and researching the subject led you to believe you have many of these tendencies. The part I agreed on with Richard, is that it is healthy to have narcissistic traits. But yeah, if they are out weighing, then work on them, with this trendy 'shadow work'(it's as old as time). I say new because it used to be referred to as being self aware, all the shitty bits included! Don't like lots of questions but since 2021, it's all see through, worryingly.

Thank you for the comment, because I was at a train stop and just like you I felt completely embarrassing all these narcissism videos on my damn KZfaq feed. I don't think the binge watching it was a waste of time. It got me out to bad relationships. Or bad friendship and a bad romantic relationship. That being said, two months of anti NPD rehab is enough for me. It s just like always going liked to the red pill or to certain self-help forms. It becomes an addiction. Then as original as I used to try to be, the next thing it's about, just parroting the same old stuff. You just stay stuck in a way

some of the decent ones at least put a disclaimer at the beginning at least.

Going through this now dealing with my gf of 5 months. Nothing but Narcissism crap. Just worn out. Ive negelected things Ive enjoyed for these videos. I saw this video by passing and I think enough it enough.

😂😂😂😂 you and I both

i have never owned one of those phones. i was afraid of the thing. Still am.

damn, i thought the phone and internet was everything. Glad to learn it is not.

@@Richard-vq7ud In all honestly I'm terrified that somebody would come to a revelation over a thought like "There are things in life that your phone and internet won't ever give you ". It's an 11 out of 10 on the "duh" scale. All I have to do is go for a walk outside and realize how small this whole "narcissism hug box" really is. I'm even sick of Sam Vaknin now ... I dunno.

@@cloudsephiroth1222 I hear ya. This whole world has gone crazy. I am so tired of sitting for hours at work meetings listening to all the important people talk and disect the most obvious points for hours. It is fascinating that someone was impressed by what seems to me as ridiculous.

Yeah. And: " There are things on the internet that in real life no one EVER gave me." Like pointing to and education in narcissism, codependency/CPTSD, so I now finally understand interactions between narcissists and me. I've changed from ignorant, confused prey to someone seeing options to not behave like prey anymore.

If I had known that vulnerable narcissism existed, I would have been a LOT more circumspect about entering into relationships. I know it isn’t about me, but as a survivor I don’t believe I have no flaws. I know I have unresolved issues of my own. I had no idea what I was dealing with until the mask came off completely. Yes, my issues played a role, but I didn’t lie, cheat, future fake, triangulate, gaslight, discard at the worst possible time, or take sadistic pleasure in another’s pain. These things are not the same. It’s not about right and wrong. It’s about letting people know that damaged individuals with no empathy exist, and how to heal if they have the misfortune of becoming entangled with one. That being said, I truly hope eventually there will be real treatment for NPD, like there is now for BPD. I take responsibility for my own issues, but I was not to blame for the depths of depravity that were hidden from view. One can’t blame someone who is suffering from NPD as a result of trauma, but you can say that these people cause terrible damage. I have survived many seriously traumatic things, and have always been resilient eventually. The experience with a vulnerable narcissist was incomparable to anything else. I’m concerned there is currently a strong wave of sentiment which appears to be aimed at undermining survivors by attempting to ‘pathologize’ the trauma caused by serious abuse. One can’t wallow and live in victimhood, but when one’s life has genuinely been blown apart systematically to a degree that makes it incredibly difficult to recoup losses of all kinds, it feels like there is an overemphasis on the survivor’s dark side. Maybe some red flags were missed, maybe it’s co-dependency, unhealed wounds, whatever. What it isn’t, is torture inflicted at your weakest by the person closest to you, who finds pleasure in your destruction and continues to wish to see you completely crippled even after you are shattered. What person in their right mind would not want to rise above that and live a worthwhile life? It’s not so easy when you have been deeply traumatised to a degree that makes it difficult to do simple daily tasks when once you ran large projects with ease. Was it a dark side or some form of narcissism on my part that got me into that situation? I don’t believe so. Was my vulnerability linked in some way to my damage? Sure. But who have I truly harmed except myself, mainly through being unawakened? It’s like your tiny boat running into a giant iceberg, and people asking what was wrong with your skills and boat. The iceberg is the cause of the damage. Maybe your boat is the best you could afford, maybe it was impossible to see the iceberg for whatever reason. If you receive life changing injuries as a result, no-one is likely to ask you to examine your own failings to a great degree. But those who know what the warning signs are for icebergs, and how to spot them, ought to warn those who are unaware. Demonizing people with NPD doesn’t take us anywhere. Allowing survivors their own way of venting is a separate issue. It is necessary to do the work to examine why one keeps encountering icebergs, and what underlying issues in one’s boat need repairing. Looking for reasons why survivors are complicit in their abuse, and trying to label that, and their subsequent struggles to recover, as some form of PD is ludicrous and dangerous. Assisting them to navigate their way out of the trauma to find healing, and educating others about the dangers, is important work.

Tania, I definitely relate to what you said. This is really complex stuff, and there is genuine victimization in it. I know I was so oblivious to certain things...I was so bent on seeing the best in people and trying so hard to create harmony. I made myself way too responsible for how things went, which really was it’s own problem. It did contribute to my being in that scenario, but not in any way that was my fault...I was ignorant and also had some issues inside that stuff I was unaware I had, and that made me an easier mark. That’s a thing I take responsibility for learning from and shifting things I think and do so that I’m not in that position again...at no point does that diminish or excuse things another person did maliciously (or even at times in their own brand of ignorance and reactions). It’s a fine line to locate, that place of genuine personal responsibility for growing and learning, whilst holding others accountable. There’s no easy way to package a thing like that, and it’s difficult to put across in a way that doesn’t end up with a true victim feeling blamed for where they are. The best thing I can offer about that from my own experience is to say when I just get clear with myself on knowing where I did contribute to it (not intentionally, by any means) and where the other person was seriously being extremely nasty or harmful (especially in those subtle and hard to spot ways), I can trust myself to know what my experience was and not expect anyone else to fully get or understand it (which no one is obligated to do, although it’s really nice and helpful when that does occur lol). I have to decide for myself what’s what, and that’s difficult. It means asking myself tough questions with compassion, and trying to locate that truth for myself. Not an easy task. And maybe it’s necessary in a way that it is a challenging task. When it comes to consuming videos about pathological behavior patterns, I think that can be incredibly helpful. We have to understand the dynamics in order to sort out what really is our responsibility and what isn’t, and the thing is, most people experiencing that kind of abuse were conditioned to believe it was all their fault, and their responsibility to fix. To adjust that stuff to a healthier place, it’s really necessary to understand what behaviors are playing into that. And I believe there’s a stage in it where owning victim hood is necessary and helpful, for a time, because there’s real truth in it. There should be no shame in owning feeling victimized when that really occurred, and pushing anyone past that too soon won’t help. But there comes a point when being in that section of the journey is no longer helpful, and it’s then time to ask different questions around understanding how what we’ve learned can empower us to make different and better choices than we had the capacity to make before we learned the painful things we learned. If we can take that painful lesson and translate it into empowerment through responsibility for growing in our decision space, owning it a bit lore fully each day, and take that towards living a life we actually like a whole lot more, then we’ve changed the crap into fertilizer for a garden we choose to cultivate, on our own terms. In effect, to me, that means, “yes, I was a victim...but I choose now to not become a victim as much as my learning will allow me to create different experiences using my own choices.” It’s also quite painful when people seem to judge things like why we didn’t see the red flags, or why we didn’t just leave, or how we did enable the situation. The truth is, once we did realize it, we were in a harder place to exit, and when your sense of yourself and your capabilities is being diminished, it becomes very hard to make a choice to just exit because you stop believing you are capable of the things that requires, and there’s usually a serious predicament around power imbalances that makes that harder also (like finances, access to decisions and the information required to make useful decisions, as an example). It’s truly difficult to achieve under those conditions, and never a simple prospect, to put it mildly. And to do it means rebuilding ourselves and our resilience, and digging pretty deep for a strength when we are worn down and fatigued and discouraged. It’s paramount to creating energy and strength out of thin air when you simply do not have it, and that’s a damned hard thing to do. It can be done, but it ain’t easy. So it’s all quite complicated, and nobody has the right to pass judgment on another person’s journey. Nobody but ourselves can understand exactly what we are facing, unless they’ve experienced something very similar. It’s difficult enough to understand our own experiences let alone expect anyone who hasn’t lived them should somehow manage that. And one reason there’s a long period of seeking that kind of understanding, even if it’s just listening to someone else express things in a way that says we aren’t alone and someone out there gets it is so compelling is we (in these relationships) experience a severe lack of validation and understanding; quite the harsh opposite, in fact. So it’s okay to seek that out for a while, and probably positive. But at some point, it’s more useful to wean off that stuff and start having more experiences that have nothing at all to do with these topics, and start living a life that is about what we choose instead of remaining with one foot (or more) stuck in that old dynamic. That takes bravery and some self discipline...and weaning off it is probably often better than just quitting it. But each person needs to find that point in their own way and time, and if it’s a thing people need to do until they work through that, it’s nothing to feel badly about at all. There are legitimate reasons for it. So I’d suggest to anyone that they ought not feel badly about that, and just very gently explore the idea that maybe weaning off it gradually might feel better and is worth considering. Try it and see how it feels.

@Tania Scott yes well said! I’m in the process of recovery from a 10 year marriage with a vulnerable narcissist - I relate to what you say - thank you for your comment.

@@shae809 Well said, and spot on, this mirrors my recovery experience very closely. There is a time for owning our victimization, and for seeking validation, for all the reasons you pointed out. I hope Richard reads your comment.

Exactly! He really cares and is brutally honest. i love it!

And the worrying thing is the same accusation could be levelled at the person doing the flirting. So you have two people doing something common in relationships (one pushing a boundary and the other responding negatively) and both (using the logic of “internet narcissism expertise”) can effectively be accused of having NPD. It’s far from helpful.

I agree. These channels are encouraging people to pretend like their family/friends/significant others are supposed to be perfect angels all the time, or--gasp--they're a narcissist! It's ludicrous. We are ALL flawed people. There's going to be bickering. There's going to be a lie or two, a jealous spat or two, in any relationship. But these narc "experts" are encouraging viewers to believe the second your loved one makes a human error, they must be a narcissist or sociopath.

I think it’s gone too far with notmwk behaviours it’s all a money making industry and making humans become more and more isolated from each other and paranoid !!! Being start today see this is a money making industry that they are enjoying promoting

I don't know which of the two responses to LOL😁 at. Maybe both.

I gave the narc only one stab at me, one, when I figured it out with the help of a professional I was gone and NEVER looked back. Doormat no...warrior yes

Submission simplified😂

Love this!!!!!!

Point well taken.

@@emp9413 Agreed. "Better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war." I don't want to sit around and be a victim, I want to strengthen myself and be willing to swing my sword if needed. And yah if he moves on there's still plenty of content.

@@emp9413 😂😂 I mean, come on, a nice shiny sword looks good in battle. I will say this -- I agree with his sentiment but I do also think directly after a difficult relationship or event these videos can validate our experiences especially after gaslighting. But at some point we gotta get back in the game and not use the past as an excuse.

@@emp9413 To you too! An actual positive interaction in the KZfaq comment section... Amazing😂

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US is right! A whole community used to be here to help raise a child build a barn, be good neighbors, help others in person. This is a small part of that picture, as it is all virtual and has glitches still. We evolve together still. 💘

and guess who made a load of money from making video's for that industry

agree bee

Doctor Ramani's videos saved my sanity.

@@LSMH528Hz yes !!! Agree it’s all a scam to make more money

@@LSMH528Hz do u believe also it’s a sway to make money to call someone a villain

Good luck!

I so much resonate with your comment. I wish you luck and please wish me luck also . I’m a survivor of childhood neglect so attachment for me meant repeating the trauma I felt in childhood . X

@@disandero2333 I wish you luck from the heart Di Sandero! We can make it and there's always time**

@@darja2546 thank you 🙏

Well said 🙌🏾🙏🏾 now get outta my head🤣

I do relate, it can happen to the best of us. Now learning to forgive myself and others like parents etc. to heal. From letting people walk over me and then reversing and being callous to others. Stopping the cycle within myself. It's become a search of understanding and peace with the world.

Snap lisa... I had so much guilt cos of the behaviours I’d learned..,and acted .. I used drink and drugs to give me confidence and that caused mayhem at times especially in relationships.. but yes I’m over it now got rid of all negative emotions after years of being riddled with anxiety even as s kid I was anxious, I grew up in such an anxious environment my mum bless her, she didn’t know better, my dad lived 100 miles away they split when I was a baby.. I could go on but I won’t.. I just though I’d comment as I really relate to your comment and good for you xxx ❤️ HNY

Malignant narcissists always programme a curtain way - whether it’s a veil, or a mask, or a burka or burkini...it’s a mirror to themselves confirming their divinity - any god worth its pillar of salt needs mirroring in this universe

@@Mel-os3ld thank you, I believe none of us knew better, but now that I do I was determined to break the generational curse. We all deserve it. Hugs to you and props for all the work you’ve done and are doing.

@@mattsael8665 I used to ask myself every time I had an reaction to someone, do I have a right to feel this way or am I over reacting from old behaviors. Where is it coming from a good and healthy place.❤️

Thank you: "The reason I needed to see content on narcissism is because I couldn't make head nor tail of what was happening to me - and what my response was to that toxicity."

Exactly Rich needs to continue his content to continue to help those that need to see reality of narcissism! I stopped watching when I learned enough but Don’t stop Rich

Beautifully said 👋👋👋

@Kerrie Daly Thank you very much!! 😊

Exactly!

Couldn't agree with you more..validation was EVERYTHING and now I have to work on my dysregulation and health problems.

YES! Extremely well said! The dying inside resonated with me deeply. There is no other way to describe it. Validation is essential in clearing that fog. Feeling there is something on the other side of all if that torment and pain that eats you whole. Thank you for your eloquent depiction of this experience. While I suppose it was somewhat triggering I believe it was a good thing. Helping to remind me just hiw far I have come. How far we have come😃 and that there are people out there that are also learning to walk again this time on their own two feet in the direction they choose. We can be there to cheer each other on without getting in the way and I think that is a spectacular thing and continues to be helpful as I am still learning how to differentiate the good from the bad. So thank you for the reminder of the direction I need to be heading and why the effort in getting there is essential to avoid returning to that pain. With every bit of heartache there lies a gem of truth. Pick it up. Place it in your crown and hold your head up high. Your true strength lies not in your ability to get thru life, but in your ability to stand tall and excel despite the weight on your shoulders. Knowledge is brought thru success of experience, good or bad it is the most certain way to gain first hand knowledge. Dont ever stop reaching out for those new experiences. No matter what happens its only you who can determine the out come. Live and learn is the path to success and inner happiness. Nothing else can get you there .It all begins within you.

Cool message that resonates with me. Congrats 🥂☮

i like what you said about being a former doormat and now a flying carpet. So my flight on wednesday shouldnt bother me. im moving to mexico and i am so scared. physical symptoms, i hope they go away.

Late to the party, was on another call . . . . .

@Britt Rubin narcissism is a lot more than vanity, which is what I'm assuming you're conflating it with.

@@oliviarose3513 I don't even consider President Trump vain. Not at all. Generally speaking, we tend to dislike people who are not self-confident and weak. But when we come across one who is very self-confident and in charge (traits we need in a good, strong leader) some confuse that with Narcissism. It was this generally wrong understanding of Narcissism that held me back for years, wasted, suffering years, before I finally turned that stone over (having exhausted so many psychological classifications) and had my "Aha!" moment. It was only then that I experienced my awakening and my many confirmations of things I had observed and suspected and reasoned were true but which all the gaslighting and crazymaking, all the duality, had me blinded and enslaved by. How I would have preferred it were a mere vanity problem!

yes I don't want to focus on all the evil.....its always gonna be there.....

Same I don't watch that bs I can't relate

Sht not me man. Thats what helped me find out WHY this person I was with for 13 years did what they did. The random flip of persona, the infentile voice, actions etc. 40 years old yet emotionally and mentally stuck at 2 or maybe 10 if I'm lucky. It's morbid to think I've slept with them for 13 years and they're that age...

they can be addictive and can keep you in a rumination loop.

It’s because you are understanding how much you’ve been abused.

I think if you come away from these teachings self righteous, then....maybe you were self righteous anyway? Not a bad thing if you are right, but if it's a horrible and snotty attitude that one provides their information or even just carries themselves with, then I think that wants looking at.

I didn't get involved, they inserted themselves, I was doing fine before the toxic narcs stepped in and destroyed everything I worked for.

@nero zero I absolutely feel that. It feels good knowing other people are like minded.

Woah that’s the truth.. I was scared to live life. Now I’m not as scared I’m way better now. Thank God.

@@triciamedora9274 you don't deserve to be with a narc 😈!

Well put Tricia. Ty

James Gerboc,You are absolutely right

😭😩😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I don't think this is true.

Set yourself free friend, you can make the choice to stop

@@kevinmathewson4272 if you ever go to an AA meeting, you will see that everybody is either smoking or eating sweets

😅

I largely agree with you. However, as someone who's own mother is a true narcissist, I can say there is such a monster. We all have it to some degree. Children naturally have this and most grow out of it. There is a difference between having some traits and having a disorder.

I agree with you. When people like me had two narcissists parents, its hard not to have narcissistic traits, but I don't suffer from NPD like my parents (who were diagnosed). My sister and I were tortured by them and we were emotionally and sexually abused. What Richard and you are saying is true, we ARE all narcissists, but for people like me-our minds were twisted when we were young. So, I watch these videos to stay away from the abusers I keep running to. But, I also recognize the narcissist in myself, because you cannot be raised by one and not be affected. I happen to have turned out to be way more codependent with just narcissistic traits, but my sister is a full-on level 10 NPD. I did stop watching the narcissist channels because many of those people are angry, and right away I saw the problem. it did help identify my boyfriend, who I couldn't get away from and after 5 years of the crazy I finally left him for good. I mostly watch Richard's channel now. Love Pierre! It's more realistic and I'm about developing myself now. I got so tired of being referred to as a pure angelic victim. Gag. I understand I'm responsible for not walking away (even from my parents) for years. I like that Richard puts responsibility on us for that. the part of me that stayed for the abuse was codependent, but it was also narcissistic in a way and I see where he's having us develop that side of ourselves and work on that. Identifying what my boyfriend was was holding up the mirror to myself as well and I hurt him as much as he hurt me. Takes two to make toxic relationship. You can't wrestle with pigs and not get dirty yourself. Cheers to self actualization!

@@aprilstilskin5733 We all have traits on a spectrum but there are some of us who would not manipulate and destroy people for self gratification. Therein lies the difference?

Completely agree. It’s painful to admit you have been part of the problem. As they say if it stinks of shit everywhere you go, it might be you 🤣

@@jennywager6228 agree reading a few of the comments it seems it is still not clearly understood.

Thanks for this. I know I've been spinning my wheels doing "research" and finding those "aha!" moments where I've identified past behaviours of myself and others that were detrimental to my mental and emotional health but this comment and video has just kicked me over to the other side of the fence where I now have to start doing the actual work and living my own truth. It's time to stop the blame game and victimhood bullshit.

Absolutely. My gut is telling me to put the rest watching many of these videos. I keep relapsing in one friendship plus one former LTR and need to realize that watching more these videos isn't going to stop it... That only I can! I've seen more than enough...it's become another addiction/escape I need to break away from

Cindy Mclntyre,I admire your lovely smile 😊

Amen ❤

Defiantely, had to make that transition from victim to survivor before I could make real progress. But these videos and online forums helped me to understand that!

Yes it’s a way of masking pain and disavowing our most “vulnerable” emotions and running from a simple truth: we were in love with them and we are heartbroken. Not “trauma bonded” and “discarded”.

@@RICHARDGRANNON edit: I agree with your sentiment in general but what I'm relating to here is genuinely one of the few rare occurances with someone containing characteristics of the dark traid. I mean this woman, literally left me to the sound of cold cardiac machines trying to translate the sound of a broken heart and while she shat on my heart and left me to bleed I got to experience the cluster-fuck of repressed emotions apparently belonging to me and clogging up my aeteries because she said she wanted kids with my eyes and allayed my mistrust with her security only for me to very quickly find out she was cheating on me. At no point did I ever get an apology.. I just got trauma and a wound to suffice the betrayal. The only real comfort I got was when her boyfriend (the one my intuition was telling me she was cheating on me with) contacted me and said "She's my girlfriend now" because man now I do not feel even half as hurt as I did before because there's little pain in losing someone whose bad for you. Sure some days are better than others and I'll get those emotional flashbacks from it but I feel like I've grown wiser from it and I'm getting over this temporary state to be someone strong.

I completely agree with this .

@@narcismebelgie hello. Where could I find your articles? I am really interested. Thank you.

@@RICHARDGRANNON Even if I'm not Right, it doesn't make me Wrong, Right? You have My attention. Thank you for your Sincerity. I really do appreciate that and that is the truth. Personally I stumbled upon Dr S.V. perhaps a year ago, not exactly sure about the time line. Initially I was looking to educate myself more on this subject because I was trying to help heal myself from my undeniable somewhat self inflicted Pain. It is mind blowing when one comes to the realization of what Jaw Dropping Globally Recognized Platform for exploitation Cluster B Disorders. I unfortunately don't have any privacy whatsoever here or anywhere else for that matter. I have been trying to get ahold of some of my phobias about going back out into the Real World. I slowly ended up isolated partly from apparently a wide range of mental health disorders and partly because I have chosen to, because I don't have any one or anywhere I can go have a real conversation with someone. I am not blameless and I am not as confident as I would like to be albeit, I'm not a victim and I don't have any room in my heart for hate. I seriously just don't like being a target, subject and/or a project to be continually researched. I find it emotional exhausting on top of all the rest of the mind f*ckery fun and games. I hope you get this message. Okay. okay then Thanks again

you can walk away from the toxic dump like the boomers dumped their toxic waste and walked away, leaving it for others to clean up. but would that make you any better ?

Indeed

I understand .. however it doesn’t take a doctorate or even a masters degree to check off the list ( 5 or more) to Put two and two together. There’s common sense and experience.. to know the difference ..

We all appreciate doctors .. I work with them.. but I also know .. they don’t and can’t know everything

I know what you mean, but for the people who are actually dealing with it, these videos are a life saver - You’ll know if you know a narcissist it’s something you almost wouldn’t understand unless you’ve experienced it

Well I think its not about diagnosing people but to share experiences that you're not alone in it.. Ive experienced it with my ex and ex MIL; they were most likely narcisists.. but I never confronted them because that's not my "duty".. what helped me the most was to read that what had happened to me was real and I wasnt the only one.. because I have had some people around me think I exaggerated what had happened.. and they dont think that kind of abuse is real.. while in the comments of these video's, there is understanding, because we've all been through the same thing.. and that's important to know.. all the gaslighting and lying makes you really question your sanity at times.. so for me it's reassuring to know that it wasnt me (only a little as a codependent person) but mostly my ex his narcisistic behaviour..because who would treat people like sh*t when they say they love you...

I definitely understand I was in denial from the beginning of my relationship & feel there was something wrong I just didn't know what it was ,I went so far as marrying this man ,the odd thing about it was after I got married he push me totally out of life , told me he knew he wasn't ready for marriage, I ask God to just remove me completely from the relationship ,I ask God for strength to heal before I catch a case knowing he's not worth it..

@@evonbaity6617 this is why we need to be informed and educated about narcissism, it’s actually a bigger problem than we think. I hope you’re doing better??

They might of warned you but did you know what a narcissistic really was???

@@johnnydiscover2838 Good point! I have only just found out. I thought he was misunderstood. He admitted to his faults without me saying anything and said he was trying to change. Clearly he was worried that his notoriety would precede him. Which it does.

@@silversnow3186 thank you!

Very good points once again Richard thanks

🎯 As the reality is if you don't go within you go without... Season greetings🌹

@Texasgirlinacrazyworld some of them sound deranged pathological especially the christian nutcases.

Lisa D,You are beautiful 😍,Hope you are not with a narcissist!!

Oh! This sentiment so much resonates with my life experiences. Thank you!

Wow!!!

Yes! Red flags i ignored and minimized because I didn't want to face being alone. Ultimately I sacrificed MYSELF! What a realization. Now I am alone, working on me, building a life I love, expressing boundaries in a healthy way. I am fully responsible for me. No victim here.

Sandra Lambert,hope you are not with a narc 😈 cause you are too precious 🌹🌹🌷!

Very true 💖

@@gd8839 🌻🌻

@@emp9413 🌻🌻

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I laughed out loud!

Needs more kermit the frog but yea pretty good not gonna lie.

I Dig Jordan Peterson. Some people DO need to just quit whining and make their beds LOL

@@ElanaVital83 Amen!

@@Huelogy “One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” -C.G. Jung

@@Huelogy And if you gaze into the eyes of an angry feminist you will see hatred and lies.😂🤷‍♂️

@@paulcooper5748 There could be hatred and lies-or truth and love-in any person’s eyes.

@@annacroixx I havnt seen truth and love in their eyes.

@@paulcooper5748 Whoever you are talking about has probably been through a lot of trauma and is now full of rage because they don’t know how to cope. Maybe they will heal. In the meantime, try to put yourself in other people’s shoes and show compassion. Be fully authentic only with those who are being authentic themselves; these are the people who have the most fair and balanced perspectives, curious minds, open hearts, and a willingness to see through the other’s eyes. Good luck.

Leisha Kelly, you deserve better 🙏🙏🙏

You feel like he is in the room with you!

Totally agree @Marc St.Louis!

I could barely get through " a course in miracles" 1st few chapters...but was able to feel comfortable with my responsibility in my current environment... Because of these honest insight videos... I was never interested in blaming anyone for my not standing in courage... I appreciate the kander and inward openly asked questions out loud... As they'll always bring me back to my humility. Such self Love I never want to lose sight of ever again in my life