Im 51, separated for just over a year. I have no desire to get married again. I am embracing my life for me, and being present for my kids. It is a relief to get out from under that cloud of feeling like I was not enough for her.

I'm a single man in my 50s and to be honest, I just don't have the patience anymore for all the bullshit that's involved with the dating scene.

I'm 57 and separated from my wife. As I grow older, I find that I have no tolerance for the over emotional nonsense and BS that comes with the dating scene. Being single is just fine. Marriage was a total waste of 16 years. I got a great daughter out of it, but that's all.

One of the things that I've never forgotten while reading Rollo's book; "A woman should compliment a man's life but never be the focus of it".

I’m 53 and going through a divorce. This video gives me hope. Thanks for sharing this.

I'm so happy about the fact that I'm watching all this stuff at 21. Thanks Richard and Rollo. Anyone here whatching it at early 20's?

I'm 35 right now. There's this kid I met through work. He is 25 and going through a heart break after his girl left him. I borrowed him my copy of the rational male because I didn't wanna see a young man making the same mistakes I made. Fast forward 7 months later the kid thanks me for the book everytime I see him as though I wrote the book. 😂😂😂. His smashing the shit out of these young girls and his ex is one of his spinning plates. Thanks for enlightening us Rollo. It would be nice if he could bring my boom back though. Kid is hogging it. 😂

Sorry about the slight audio problems, I'm learning as I go. The content is still gold, and well worth tolerating the odd audio glitches. New Rollo interview - Tomassi is 49, and married, I asked him what his dating tips for himself would be if things ended with Mrs. Tomassi. To learn more about Rollo and his work, grab a copy of The Rational Male: amzn.to/2i9dfjW or visit his blog at: therationalmale.com

I'm older than ya'll. I'm fine with being single. I don't even wanna mingle. I did my womanizing in my 20's and 30's and I'm all fine with that. Don't feel the need to have a partner and life is best solo. All my friends that chose married life is now divorced. That's the way the cookie crumbles.

I became a a widower in 2003. Met someone in 2006, married her in 2007. I filed for divorce in 2015. The first wife was a NAWALT. Second one became a nightmare. I'm a Monk now.

Rollo has spent to much time out on the lecture circuit. You asked him what his dating strategy would be if he was single and 50. He hit the play button on his hypergamy lecture and wasted 10 minutes. Nice job saving the video by reeling him in at the end.

I think the whole point that Rollo is making is to avoid the pitfalls of marriage and simply enjoy life. We don’t need to overthink this hole adventure we call life. Be content, be happy, and live well. I’m 57 and quite content. 😎

Rollo is on the money . After an 18 year marriage and 4 kids I found my blue pulled self getting dumped by a wife who had been busy monkey branching away completely unknown to me. She was hard work but I was mad about her. The usual followed , anger depression then a lot of self analysis. The red pill moment. I'm now 50 , I date a 33yo and my life is exactly how I want it. Literally exactly how I want it. I'll never Marry again though. I've a lot to offer to a woman but it's on my terms from now on.

abandoning your husband is one thing. abandoning your kids is unconscionable.

Great video guys. I'm 53 and divorcing after 25 years. I've been following both of you for about a year and a half, and look and life and the male/female dynamic with a new lens. Thanks for all you do.

I'm 51. I rarely date. Don't have time for b.s. don't have time for games. Don't need them. Every now and then, I'll met a woman and if she's worth checking out, I'll take a chance on her. But I'll never chase one again. Life is too short. I just want to enjoy myself and take care of me.

I'm a 54 year old guy who has a GF but if I had to get out there dating again it would be very very hard. Most women in their 40s either have kids at home which is a major pain or they're fat or unfit. Yes, there are good women out there but finding them is incredibly difficult. And give that we've only got so much time on this planet is it worth all that work trying to find one?

Well I'm 56 and let me tell you fellas it's all about your shoulder to waist ratio and your personal style. TRUST ME that if you got it together ANY age woman is a option from 18-80 honestly, but a keeper is once in a lifetime.

I like and respect Rollo. I am over 50 years of age. How is a married man not yet 50 going to give me advice on how to date in my 50s?

I feel like one way to severely curtail hypergamy, at least in regards to women with children, would be for ALL men to avoid single mothers. If leaving the father of her children guaranteed she'd be single the rest of her life, how many fewer women would walk away from otherwise perfectly good marriages or relationships? Guys, don't get involved with single mothers!

I am 47 years old and I just go rental. I don't bother dating much anymore.

My brotha I am 52 and this happened to me right after divorce I can’t believe how good my life is, thank you for this video

This information is priceless. Thank you for this gift.

Great video!! Thanks for this as a man who is 49.

Thank you for a great interview. Everything Rollo said I find true for my life. At 56, divorced 16 years ago after 14 years of marriage, this is the best time of my life right now. By a long shot. Still learning about how to be a better man to myself, thanks to this channel.

As long as you keep your inner kid alive..you will never grow old!

I am old now and I wish there had been someone to help me when I was young and a Beta male. I have paid a heavy price and I am now poor but I am also very happy living with no women in my life.

I think Rollo is overconfident. Knowledge isn't the same as experience. He would struggle more than he thinks, at least for a while, if he were ever single again. Long on theory, short on practice.

Warning...all men over 50 thinking he is attractive to women in their 20s and 30s is a ticking time bomb. After she has had the second kid and you are rearing up towards 60 with impotency and age, she will ditch you. Not if but only when. When she starts seeing you take naps, asking her to speak up and hair growing out of your ears....she is outta there. Lol!!!!!

What I can't fucking stand is always being the guy women attempt to approach while abandon their family and I won't do it. I always remain lonely and not laid while being single. Sucks but this channel has helped to find my way.

Rollo just described me at 54! Loving my new lease of life.

Thank you for this video. 54, recently divorced, greatest time of my life right now.

Asking a married guy for dating advice is like asking a broke guy for financial advice.

I'm 27 now and I lost my patience with dating years ago. The constant bullshit and pandering to keep women happy is a waste of time. Instead I invested all that time and effort into my business. I actually have an ROI now.

Well shit Now I’m 54 widowed with 2 young kids and want to get on with life but doesn’t seem to be working that way Kids over relationships

Best dating advice for men in their 50s : Don’t

Best GF I had after divorce was MUCH younger than I. And no F'n way did I marry her.

Self esteem is a big thing after a divorce. Thank you for this video.

Roughly 67% to 80% of second marriages end in divorce, while third marriages crumble at an even higher rate. Why would any man want to take a chance on only 20% successes rate?????

Excellent discussion, thanks Brother. I've turned 60 and over the years dated but always pulled back at points, there something strong within has always asked me: "What the fuck am I doing?"....Maybe Rollo was sending me a message...

Pause the video at the 8 minute mark and ask yourself: Why even bother with women? Because no matter what you have done in the relationship in the past.....and whatever you will do in the future.....she will ALWAYS be thinking, "Can I do better? I think I can!" Well - FUCK THAT!!! I just turned 50 myself. My marriage ended 10 years ago, and I can say from my own experience in dating since then, and from paying attention to the women I know and deal with on a daily basis (I am in sales) that women will crush your heart and your self esteem in the blink of an eye and have NO remorse in doing so!

It still remains difficult to understand why a man in his 50's would even bother spinning plates . To spend time and energy dating a younger women ( who no doubt is laden with daddy issues) would be a complete waste of time.

Pure gold!

Great Video! Thanks for giving me my daily dose of common sense.

some of you dudes are delusional. Women in their 20's and 30's aren't anxious to date 50 something guys. Does it happen, sure, but That is NOT what the vast majority of younger women want.

This dude and your channel changed my life! Thanks!

Great one Boys 👌👌👌👌👌

Good guest and information.

All EXCELLENT points!!!

After 50...,No dating ,only Relating!

Really need this..rollo is fantastic..and clear.. Gives me strenght

Rolls writes a fine book. Wish I read it decades ago.

Why would I be interested in what a married 50 year old guy tells me about dating? Strange.

Seriously funny that Rollo thinks a woman in her late 20s would go for him. I assumed from his looks that he was in his 60s.

Uhg, I recall when I got divorced in my 40’s. I was devastated for a number of reasons. Now in my 50’s I do not even have to chase women. There always one trying to lock me down and usually one or two on deck hoping the current one drops the ball. I am sincerely at a place where I don’t give a crap if ai have a girlfriend or not…. And THAT is an aphrodisiac in and of itself for women.

Good Stuff.!You're starting to enter Beast Mode!.......60,000 subs.....Time to step on the gas through the turn.

I donated 5 of rollo's books to local libraries. I wonder why they never even put them out to the public for check out. Women don't want female nature exposed and treated the books like hate speech to be burned or destroyed.

Respect & Regards, To All My Brothers! So Much Invaluable Guidance Here... 🖖🖖🖖🖖🖖

Hi Richard, question have you done a talk on the importance of spinning plates and why? Positives vs negatives if any? Just wondering I think you would offer value to your audience if you touch on the subject 😀

I love Rollo’s reply, thanks for the good advice

I'm 50, divorced, renting (obviously the ex kept the house) but with a good stable income for myself. I am currently dating and have no desire to get sucked into marriage again. I can honestly say I'm living the best years of my life.

I'm in my thirties and shit this is some solid advice

Marriage is dangerous for the financially better off party unless you get a prenup. This hypergamy theory is a bit thin, since so many women are high earners and are looking not for money but for companionship. Marriage in later life is generally risky for women as they are likely to end up being someone's nurse. Best thing to do is live separately from any partner.

Incredible, incredible, incredible information for the young dudes at 20’s to 25’s who find this information at that age, it is life-changing information! At my age it’s still incredible but if you’re lucky enough to find this channel Richard and Others like Rollo Tomassi you really lucked out early. Take this, devour it and trust it!

I’m 54. I’ve had more than 50 honeymoon type relationships with never being married. No bills no talk of future, no being talked down too. No wondering where she is in the shopping Ille. No problem.I live in a tourist area in Spain. They come ,they go. Although 20 years ago was a lot easier to find . Never get married. My father told me. Only thing I listen to him about.

Hey what kind of headphones are you using

First he did note about an example where the wife at about 38 left her beta husband to marry a bodybuilder and she did. Two minutes later he says any woman past the age of 32 has practically no chance to marry at all. One of these is probably untrue, right. Lay off the shrooms, Mike.

I’m 53 and a bachelor. Never been married. I have no regrets except that I would have liked to have had a kid. But it just wasn’t in the cards. Dating wise I must say I have found my 50s (thus far) to be quite interesting. Sexually speaking I don’t think I will ever get involved with a woman in her 50s and over. I just don’t find them sexually attractive. Actually, the other day I ran into an ex girlfriend I haven’t seen in over 20 years. She was a full of 9 back in the day and had guys throwing dick at her all the time. I don’t want to be cruel. But now? At 53? Let’s put it this way. I didn’t even recognize her when she called my name. I could be friends with a chick over 50 if she’s cool. No problem. But dating? Nope. The women I still seem to attract these days are interestingly enough women in their late 20s to early 30s and of course women in their 50s and up. Women in their 40s don’t seem interested which I can’t figure out as to why? Sometimes women in their early 20s show interest because of the whole silver fox thing but rarely pull the trigger. It’s just an ego thing for them. I’m nowhere near being rich. But I’ve maintained my weight (170lbs at 6’0. 34waist), not ripped, a bit of spare tire that’s a bitch to get rid of over 50, have male pattern baldness though not terrible. If I could give any advice to my aging brothers I would say what’s good for young guys is good for older. Wear clothes that fit, have your own style , don’t try and look “young”, groom regularly and have some game. And don’t get married or have kids. Believe me, you don’t wanna be chasing around rug rats in your mid-50s. You just won’t have the energy that you did in your 20s and 30s.

Wait, you mean joining the 50+ dating site "Our Time" isn't on his list of suggestions?

The topics I yearn to learn more about keep directing me to your site. I find it very helpful to be able to comprehend and communicate to a man, being able to empathize from a male perspective. Thank you for your very frank & enlightening conversations, fella's. However -geesh- listening to you guys makes me so very wary to ever date again! Isn't there any purity & honesty left in the world? Or does dating, especially over the age of 50, dissolve into game playing and tactical moves? 😞 I just find that going about building a relationship/partnership -that one would hope to become deeply tender, trusting, even spiritual- by having to be so "tactical" for lack of a better word, to be so EXHAUSTING and a waste of time --a precious resource. I am just not into game-playing. Maybe I'm a bit too honest & authentic for this world. Naive, even. Maybe what my heart still yearns for isn't going to be as easy as what I had hoped --because there are so many jaded, angry, broken men out there -who can't value what an older woman offers and who want younger women- no less; who aren't able (maybe not even worthy) of a woman who Has taken care of herself, is intelligent & proactive, has a wonderful career & income, doesn't have unhealthy relationships with her children nor a house full of pets. Maybe my time would be better spent alone, investing in building my business, income and educational base rather than to continue hoping to still find & share my life with that one special man..... ~Disillusioned

Once is enough for me. Most women in their 50s are out of shape and want gold. Sorry ladies...go for bronze

Just found this AMAZING awesome

Good video though!!

Hypergamy in older women aka Midwife crisis. They usually end up regretting the stupid choices they’ve made.

Why does the sound keep fading and then coming back to normal???

I'm 60 and I'm having a ball. Thank so much gentlemen

Good show

Hypergamy scares me, I'm 56 in fantastic shape, I believe I am but also been told by women that I'm good looking, "but" I'm 5 months cancer free, unemployed, can't go back to my job or any job where my body is needed, in the middle of Covid19 pandemic, can't do anything as far as training is concerned, so I'm feeling lost and our marriage has been in trouble for a while, I'm afraid she's going to come home one night, in my present situation and I'll be homeless with no job

Dating in your 50s: Form non-legal-binding relationships: DO NOT MARRY, DO NOT LIVE TOGETHER!

I’m reading the first book the rationale male does one of the other books show all the female stages if not could you aim me at a book that does thank you

I am 51 and I don't date at all. I won't date a woman with kids.,......no thank you. Did that once not anymore. I have been single now for a long long time. Don't want to get marryed and don't want kids of my own. It just me and my dog. Women are hard work.

I am over fifty and I want to say that I have never been happier! Thank God that my ex figured out that she could do better than me. So, I am not stuck with her watching her age. (as she has not done well) I hit the weights every day and love my life. I date young women. Why? Because I can. (that is an attempt at humor) I am posting this as a way to try and encourage men over forty or fifty who want to start over. Yes, it's very possible. Again, I am thankful that she left! So thankful! I love my life! Good luck gentlemen!

I'm 45 .. I have never felt so alive & empowered as a man as I do today. RP'd 2-3yrs ago, I found my path & purpose .. Women literally throw themselves at me .. 30yr olds lining up around the block trying to distract me, wanting me to spend what little time I have with them .. My life, my terms .. Do the work & become your best self .. Spin plates & choose from abundance ..

The blind giving advice to the blind and deaf. Your conjectures are just that. Be the right man and marry the right woman...rule #1.

the dating scene is complete crap.Poeple are fake,self absorbed and myopic.There are some good ones but how possibility of finding them.

I want to know what Funko Pop is in Rollo's background.

I’m that guy 😂 I was divorced at 51 and 55 now Having to time of my life! So many women it’s crazy

Another good one by Richard and Rollo

How sad. I love being married and can't imagine how lonely it must be older

In the alternative/counter culture scene: music, art, spirituality...Hypergamy seems to be less of an issue than in main stream society...money and climbing the ladder for both sexes is not such an obsession...becoming single again recently in my mid 50's an unexpected calm has come over me...my life is so good [and with very little money] that I feel like I'm really plugging into my true identity...for the first time in my life I feel no pressure to chase after women whatsoever...

I wish you pressed him when he said women in late 20's to early 30's were NECESSITOUS.... In what way? Are we speaking monetarily (student loans, CC debt)? Psychologically needy? BOTH? Necessitous in other ways? .... I'm 49 [50 in Dec].... Divorced 5 years.... 4 kids.... Last think I want I a 28 - 32 year old girlfriend.... Earn 6 figures - but WON'T ever be a sugar daddy.... / 38 - 45 and still in good shape is fine... and most women 38 - 45 have kids in their teens so not much issues with sitter, etc....

Ive seen a pattern emerge where once Ive bought a nice expensive gift for a girlfriend they tend to either lose respect or end things soon after. Perhaps as they realise it may be a while before getting another gift or even worse they feel like they have to reciprocate and buy me something. Either way i won't be over generous with random women again

50"s Dating, right on. Most woman at around my age seem to be broking in one way or another. so when I just found out that there is a calculation value you can use to find out what is the youngish age to your own. it's "your current age divided by two, then add 7 to that number" and there you go. who know, not me...

Never heard those two word placed in the same sentence,although it makes tons of sense ( doubt and hypergamy)🤔💯

I'm 53, ex left me after 18 years with 3 teenage daughters. Tried online dating, the women are not very attractive and come with a lot of baggage. Is there any hope to find love again?

Ha ha!! You guys couldn't get a kick in a stampede !

Why in the world as a 50 year old male would you ever want to marry again…

Never married no kids why would I kill my soul by hooking up with a crazy ass woman?

Thanks

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