Romanticization Of Self-isolation As Self-improvement

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Mei Zhu

Mei Zhu

Күн бұрын

There's a very questionable narrative being thrown online around as of lately: It implies that we must separate ourselves from the world, view our friends as obstacles, and retreat into solitude to become this perfect, idealized version of ourselves.. and only then will we be ready to live the life we have always deserved. This narrative may be seductive but it is dangerously incomplete. It's not that we don't need to take care of ourselves or establish healthy boundaries but this idealized view of personal growth ignores the fact that true self-growth often requires engaging with others, even when it's difficult.
The question is: Why has there been a rise in social media trends glorifying self-isolation as a form of self-improvement despite the well-documented negative consequences of self-isolation? What are the communities feeding into this narrative and why? When did this idea first emerge? How did quarantine feed into the growth of these communities? Why is this narrative so popular, especially with young teens and young adults? And lastly, what are the consequences for both individuals and the collective by adopting these narratives? Do they do more harm than good?
I hope to answer these questions throughout the video.
timestamps:
00:00 - 03:53 introduction
03:53 self-isolation as self-improvement:
06:00 i. selfcare era
07:45 ii. selfish era
11:30 iii. healing era
14:10 the art of solitude
17:57 involuntary solitude (or quarantine)
20:32 other factors
20:53 i. individualism
21:44 ii. glorification of suffering
22:24 iii. romanticization
23:04 conclusion
sources
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@ilyfrommei
@ilyfrommei 3 күн бұрын
Btw: If anyone prefers reading, here's a written version! medium.com/@meizhuu/solitude-is-not-always-the-answer-the-romanticization-of-self-isolation-as-self-improvement-a6de037e60c0
@Thistrueone
@Thistrueone 22 күн бұрын
I think society has glamorised loneliness as a way of justifying our inability to form meaningful connections and trick our minds into thinking that we are better off without people
@a.b.7764
@a.b.7764 24 күн бұрын
this sucks cuz i dont have friends
@Sofia-wi4dc
@Sofia-wi4dc 24 күн бұрын
This is so true. I myself was a ‚victim‘ of this mentality and I was so miserable, Even though I dont regret it in the long run, because i was able to cut off the most toxic people in my life… it could have been so much easier afterwards. More people should see this! I wish you the best! Thank you
@ilyfrommei
@ilyfrommei 21 күн бұрын
Thank you!!
@UngaMt
@UngaMt 21 күн бұрын
I love this presentation vid❤first vid from this channel and I already love how you’ve explained both sides of the problem, while keeping it fair and honest on both sides. Would love to see more discussions and absolutely love how you’ve talked on so many points on this topic in such detail, all in a short time!! This girl needs more hype fr, keep up the good work!!!
@ilyfrommei
@ilyfrommei 21 күн бұрын
Thank you so much!!
@Fillup82
@Fillup82 23 күн бұрын
Glad to see you back on KZfaq 👍🏻
@emma-xe3me
@emma-xe3me 24 күн бұрын
this is so real
@Freakazoid12345
@Freakazoid12345 11 күн бұрын
I've been doing this for 2 decades. I don't know how to stop. I'm trying to go to church. I used to go to Meetup but I moved and there's not as much stuff going on out here.
@ilyfrommei
@ilyfrommei 3 күн бұрын
I think the first step would be to figuring out why you keep isolating yourself and working from there. For me, personally, I find that the desire to isolate myself comes from limiting beliefs I had adopted growing up. Ex. "They're gonna leave anyways so I might aswell leave first." or "I am afraid of getting hurt so I refuse to open myself up to people." By figuring out the root issue, I can work on why I have that belief and deconstructing that belief into one that's more healthy. I hope this helps you :)
@recangle
@recangle 25 күн бұрын
WHAT UP
@ilyfrommei
@ilyfrommei 21 күн бұрын
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