There's one aspect missing from this documentary. Women who have had to step out of the workforce to take care of their kids and then feel like failures for not being able to work and be financially independent and have some sense of self-worth and identity that paid work would give them. Add to that the fact that they eventually start being looked at as a financial burden by their husbands.

I think the challenge most women face is choosing between being a full time mom to serve at home but possibly face the risk of being financially abused by your partner because you don’t contribute FINANCIALLY. It’s the one thing that pushes most women to being at the mercy of trying to balance the two.

So true:’ you almost feel punished for having a child...’

As a busy working mom, I don't have 42 mins to watch this.

Single moms, power to you 🙌

Although I am not a mother but a father of two, I relate so much to the stories of these women. Here at home, my wife and I split all the house work and taking care of the kids. Usually I am the one taking care of most house chores, taking the kids to the doctors, cooking for the family while working from home. I consider myself lucky enough right now that the company I used to work full time allows me to work remotely part-time from a different province. Unfortunately the pay isn’t enough as a sole provider and I noticed that my boss sees me as a burden more than a potential although she’s never spoken to me about it. I had an important day once when my 1st born was still under 1yo and as I was leaving my home my wife starts having a mental meltdown, I had no choice but take my son with me to be able to get through the important day. I never forget that my boss brings that day back every once in a while to say she can’t fully count on me because that could happen again. Nowadays I’ve opened my own photography business and this is the only way I could come up with to get through this problem as I know no one would hire me knowing I can only work certain hours and have limited access to child care. We feel so powerless sometimes and I really wish all companies would create more opportunities for parents. One thing I can’t wrap my head around is why are so many companies OK with bringing your dog to work but not your children? Things have to change (overdue really), specially for mothers. It’s 2022 but sometimes it feels like the early 90s still. Sorry about the rant, I have a huge respect for working mothers, single or not, you are all so strong and powerful ❤️.

It's just like sometimes they think you have unlimited capacity to just go on and on and on, and with a smile on your face.

I HATE being a working mom. I wish I could stay home with the kids, it’s such a stressful life to have three kids and work. One blessing is I work from home, I can’t imagine working outside the home ever again. That was even worse.

This documentary is so real I am having goosebumps. I am a millennial and I feel like it is never the good time to start a family.

I'm a working mom and I can tell that is better to have well raised kids that chase carrier , eventually you will retired or will be fired , your success in raising kids will stay

And this was pre COVID imagine how we are felling now...

There are a lot of married single mom’s out here.

I am a stay at home mom and housewife. I am happy with that. I am good enough.

My mental health couldn't handle this........ No kids for me 😭😭😭😭😭

We women can have it all. Sometimes not all at the same time. I believe our children should come first.

It really does take a village.

I really wish I can send this to my employer. I currently have an executive director who wants to push for minorities, yet doesn't want to understand the struggle of women and newly mothers returning to the workforce, including minority women. Make that make sense.

Great documentary! I also wonder if we should be talking about the implications on the kids. I know personally that I am a much better Mom when I am not busy with work or when I have had a break from work. I think my kids suffer unfortunately when I am under a lot of stress because of work or I just don’t have as much time… what’s the impact on them (the kids) when both parents work?

Soooooooooooo much truth here. I Hope Men And Dads step up and pay attention

I'm not a mother, I couldn't have children, so please don't judge me. Why are men not helping out? Good God, this is 2020, not 1920! Why are women doing all the cleaning, laundry, cooking, &, child care? Come on ladies! STOP this cycle! Good God! Or have him ✂ the goods!❤

My constant battle of been a good mum and been ambitious

The harsh economic climate is a direct result of two income families becoming the norm.

I know of a man. who stays at home. He has 4 girls. He told me he loves being at home.

Why having a third child?

Man need to be held accountable ASAP ! They need to take on their responsibilities now !!

Almost like having a breadwinner and a homemaker was a common arrangement for a reason!

Literally leaning in made me laugh.

Well, I figured I wasn’t depressed enough already so I watched this documentary. Now I’ll read an update on the gender pay gap. Then I’ll be in the perfect temperature of depression soup.

I think its a bigger problem then just working moms, this same issue impacts working dads who want to be part of the children's lives too! And I think the workforce is less flexible and understanding of dads.

I think the problem is not that you cant have everything is that you cant have it at the same time. I have seen the very successfull men in their careers but they werent the best parents because they werent there they would work from 8 am till 22 pm. I think women dont see this part we want to do it all perfect and the reality is that is impossible, if you try being perfect at everything you are going to end halfassing something. In a perfect world you would try to find a balance but it is not always possible, and you are not going to be super successfull because their is going to be somebody else that is going to give a 100%

I’m to lazy or unmotivated to have children it’s so overwhelming I rather not

I think we need to address the language as well. They keep mentioning “mothering” which reinforces the notion that mothers are the ones raising children. How about a definition of “mothering” and how does it differ from “fathering”. I’m not as interested in the Webster definition but rather what they mean in the documentary.

I couldn’t be happier that the workforce pushed me out when I became a mother. I stay at home now and can take MUCH better care of my children than anyone in some daycare could. No thanks, not coming back to the corporate world. Ever.

Boy do I relate...This is my story. Where is the responsibility of the fathers in this issue?

Hello, I'm from Switzerland m(the german part) here it is even worse. Childcare in way to expensive. most people can't pay it. so... the woman pay the price. I'm a working mum of 2 and I get soooo much negative feedback and bad eyes. No day school. a couple of hours then back home , after 1,5 h back to school ect; there is NO suppervision from the school in between classes. so,.... impossible to work, no boss will be that flexible. really rea

I'm not a mother and have no children. But at the other end of the spectrum it shouldn't be assumed because im single with no kids i can work whenever. Everybody deserves there time off and time to themselves. I feel like if you choose to have kids. You need to consider things. Do you have time will you have time etc. I think folks think because folks are single they should do it all. Well as a single person I have to do it all myself. Because when somebody has a spouse or a significant other. They have a other half that can help out. Whereas a single person doesn't. I have considered having kids. But even if i was married childcare costs alot. Hence why im single. And since i haven't had kids. I cant afford it on my own. Yes i believe the ideal have it all. It never existed. It was kind of a myth. As im reading the comments. All the folks saying that man needs to step up. Its who they decided to marry. If you have a man who you married and stuff hadn't been discussed. And he doesn't step up. That's who you married. Need to make sure you know your significant other etc before you start having kids and get married etc. I get them wanting to give options of hrs to folks having kids. And not making it called a certain thing for only mothers. But at the same time.just because your single and have no kids, doesn't mean you shouldn't have options of certain hrs etc. I mean make it fair across the board?🤷

True

Blackberry? Was this made in 2010 lol. Now I want a Blackberry again 😋

What is the copyright license for this? Could I use it for a short film?

I was moved to a different role because "I was pregnant and wouldn't be able to travel as much" quote unquote.

My husband works 56+ hours a week I work 24/7 on call. 30 percent for my employer 40 hours a week and the rest for my family. If I stop my pile builds up. He clocks out someone else clocks in.I can’t stop. And more we just started going to church my dumb self took on responsibilities there. And just going to church adds to my work load and knocks out a repair day. Motherhood is no joke.

woman tend to be mom and worker, where as men are just working.. so now moms do both jobs.- more guys help now but it is still going to be 1 person who does BOTH jobs.. making it nearly impossible to "do it all"

The problem is the corporate world and the full time jobs. How I made it here is Europe: I am a tax advisor. Did my exams before I got my 2 kids, worked part time for 15 years after that, had my parents near me watching the kids when they were not very ill, devided sick days (2 weeks a year each) with my husband. Oh and in Austria we enjoy social security: between 8 months - 2 years partially paid maturity leave, of course full social insurance, and very cheap kindergartens which cost between 70-250 euro per month, availavle to all who works. Now we are opening our own business in my field, so I hope for even more flexibility working from home, making my own hours, taking holiday when I decide. When I read the book Working Mom I hoped the end would be different: I hoped the Mom would leave her toxic corporation and open her own office or start a free lance, maybe together with other women. I think part time and freelance is the way to go for our world, and men should work part time, too. Like in Scandinavia or in France (maximum 35 hours a week).

We ask working moms who's taking care of the kids but not working dad's the same question. If women are going to financially provide for the family men need to be equal partners and take their domestic portion. Children would love to have their father's care as much as their mother's.

I’m concerned right now. Got married 2 years ago and we want kids but I’m an accounting manager and I work in public accounting and my work is 24/7. A real 9 to 5 would be great haha.

So true !!!! Feminism is not over, children and home need to come into the equation now !!!!

“It seems in the feminist fight for equality something was left out of the equation: children.”

WE DO NOT HAVE GRANDMOTHER'S, GRANDPARENTS 😢

Being childfree does mean you have more money, it's not rocket science. Why are these people complaining? They wanted it all, got it all, and they're still not happy? Maybe they should've done some actual thinking with their brains instead of their egos and who knows, they'd maybe be better off.

Marry before you carry, choose better, raise your own kids and shut up

Kids do not NEED their moms every waking moment of the day - any more than anyone needs anyone else every waking moment of the day. "Working mom" is a human construct with a double disclaimer that caused half the population (women) to examine their identities in polarized, abstract terms - which one are you? It's either/or, but you can't be or do both WELL. When I was 7, my mom stopped working to spend more time with me and my sister. My father was stealing the money she earned (ie forcing her with threats to deposit every last paycheck into his account). And yet, even though I was happy on the one hand to have her around more, eventually I could tell she was somewhat bereft. And since we were in school 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, how much did we NEED her 24-7 when we were already occupied? When she mustered up the courage to return to work 6 years later, I was overjoyed. Because then I thought, "She's going to get to have her OWN MONEY!" Believe it or not, not all children are so selfish as to not comprehend the needs of others, which includes their moms.

This is what I'm going through

“Motherhood is the unfinished business on feminism”…true

well i have a very different opinion on this documentary. Not surprised to hear these women bashing men, blaming the men, etc. the reality is ,whether you want to accept it or not is that God wired women different than men period! This is why men don't feel that they have to "do it all" or "balance it all" because their God given role is to be PROVIDER, and the women to be the nurturer and to care for the children and home, this is not to say that they shouldn't help. On the contrary, it is their obligation as leaders of the home and father. However even if women formed 100% of high power positions, they still would feel guilt!! not because society causes this, but because at their core they know that its their duty. To be honest this feminism movement has only hurt women. It is obvious that women are intelligent and highly capable of achieving "success", but ask yourself, what is true success ?

What about the ones with 1 income (as a solo parent) working full-time as a Mother, with ALL of that guilt and paying full-time child care and at the end of their hectic full-time work still have to be the sole physical and emotional (and financial) support to their children (yet they also have the responsibility to show their kids how to look after themselves as an adult) with 0 support from their 'village' because their parents (grandparents of their children) will only take their Grandchildren 'if they behave' otherwise they can go home! Yet when they as parents left their children on a weekly basis with their parents (grandparents) (ie never actually looked after their own kids) regardless (as they all HAD to work) the hypocrisy is ludicrous!!!!! xo

Emilie's husband needs to step up

Husband must provide and protect their families,mothers have to take care of children,it's natural.

Best thing to do is agree in seperation and do 50/50 with the father 1 week on 1 week off this would tackle the burden Many fathers would be privileged to be able to do 50/50 the issue is alot of mothers want to take on everything 100% after separation so you cant win 😂

I understand the problem but what practical solutions has anyone found other than quit for a while and struggle in all these ways with a loss of income, respect, and self identity or do it all and miss irreplaceable time with the kids

We've empowered women We have not empowered traditional femininity Through the efforts of pioneering feminists, society has become more accepting of women fulfilling traditionally masculine characteristics or roles *SARCASM ALERT* And why wouldn't they? The patriarchy is enraptured by men and traditional masculinity - of course women would want to portray these roles. It's threatening, perhaps, but it's still definitely an improvement on a feminine woman yuck ;) We've successfully taught society that masculinity isn't necessarily tied to one biosex and is equally valuable regardless of its host. Now we have to do that for femininity. How does our society measure value? Money. 1. Parental leave is a must. And parental, not just maternal. Embue parents' workplace w fundamental family values in our capitalist society by ascribing both parents equal capital value of their nurturing potential. 2. Nurturing jobs need to pay more. Emotional labor is labor. Soft skills are skills. Plus, if the jobs pay more, that will serve as an incentive for men to join caring professions. In doing so, they will help to further the crucial disjointing of gender from biosex from capitalistic potential. 3. Hopefully, this will empower men to feel more at home in the home and help women enforce equal distribution of domestic and childcare labor. Bc, even without having had kids, I can understand to some degree what these women are going thru. I have a small nuclear family but a huge extended family. In the extended family, starting at 10 years old, I was responsible for other children. Not my 14yo brother, me. And if I had the gall to point out that not only was that unfair, but I was somewhat unqualified a la age requirements for this sort of work, suddenly "we weren't talking about your brother, we were talking about you" and "you're gonna have to learn to do this and multitask eventually, might as well start building that character now." I mean. Ffs. And for anyone, guys or gals, reading this and not recognizing it: I'm happy to hear that! But for most girls, those from lower class families, those from middle class families clinging to their social status, and those from families w a traditional roles and philosophies informed and enforced by elements of culture such as religion or political philosophy, it's completely normal and encouraged: You're female, so you're there to be a sidekick to maximize associated males' earning potential. You're free domestic and childcare labor; after all, it's not like it's REAL work, right? But also: on top of that, you better be ambitious and self-sufficient in your own career in that extra time that exists in the ether somewhere. Bc otherwise you're a weak, antifeminist failure who proves to the world why women can't handle real, manly responsibilities. It blows.

Add another layer with being a single working mom.... And single not by choice

Vasectomies and tubes tied from birth. I was married 10 years, before having one daughter at 37, and I never killed my unborn. Husband had deal breakers, so I raised her from conception.

The reason why at 30 years old I don't want to have a child.

Try analyzing your life finding out what you really want rather than what everybody expects of you.

Where are the husbands?

Children are not pets. They need lots of love and time with mom and dad. Don't have kids if it's too much.

It's impossibile to be full time working parents and have children. You don't have time for yourself, not talk even about husband and children. People work too much, the quality of life got worst a lot. People are forced to work like slaves, for miserable salary, it's demeaning and degrading. The institute of family is destroyed. Two full time working parents can't family an children, it's impossible. Parents and children are very unhappy in these families.

We as women did this to ourself with feminism. We literally coined the phrase “have it all”, which we currently have. Little did we know no one *should* have it all at the same time, it’s too much! It’s time to admit this was a stupid idea and face the reality that women thrive in different conditions than men do.

If you're not going to stay at home and be devoted to your kids why not give the father custody??.... Because you can't get a check that way

I chose to be a homemaker I live like women for thousands of years. I just can’t cope with modern womanhood. I am home with my kids in a cozy home. My husband takes care of the bills I take care of kids and home. I feel so sad for women who never wanted feminism and are working that want to be home. I also don’t want my husbands taxes to go up to help pay for other’s children childcare. I’m sorry

This shouldn’t be a gender focused conversation. Our society and economy is not set up to allow for one working parent unless they’re helped by relatives, aka free childcare or generational wealth.

I hate the message that others should pay for your childcare. NO! I got a good education so that I can work part time and pay for my own childcare. Quit asking for handouts!

This is ridiculous

Kevin Samuels undefeated. Accountability is kryptonite for these 304's single mothers 🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️😂😂😂😂🤫🤭✌

This is why Im not a mom. I can't fathom working and not being the one raising my kids. The world is not set up for moms

This is why i haven't had children and I'm 39...women can not have it all unless u have a rich husband. My focus has been my career ....i also have a dog she's enough.

Hi

I'm a stay at home mom with no money and the father doesn't even supply anything for us. I have to ask my own mother for the stuff me and my children need.

This is a synopsis of the burden modern "feminism" has placed on women. Many women did not ask for this - to be expected to care for children and household while working. This is what radical feminists have brought on. I have never been optimistic about resorting to childcare, essentially resorting to handing my child to a stranger. We need more traditional approach and appreciate children more. This is not degrading to women by any means. Society should also turn more communal as it was in the past, not closed as it has increasingly become.

Ridiculous expectations and for the most part self inflicted I'm afraid.

Here's an idea, if you want a high-powered, time-consuming career, don't have kids. What's complicated about this? I don't understand where this assumption comes from that every woman has to bear children.

here we go again it is always about white family and single white women so when are you going to included working black family and working single black mothers

Men don’t feel this guilt.

Haha feminist got what they wanted don't cry now you have to work harder then your husband if you haven't been brain washed to dump him to become independent. I stay home clean my home enjoy my life and take care of my two kids happily never wanted to be a working mom it sounds stupid.

Feminism coming to home near you.

Why are woman having kids. Just why

And some of this husband's still cheat lol

All I hear is a bunch of whining. I hate whining. If you are specialized in your field then learn to negotiate for part time work and if they won't do it then look for a place that will or create your own part time work. Don't whine about why a company won't cater to you. Make sure you are invaluable and how you can be efficient with your time and stick to it. Stop playing the victim card. Also you can save up enough money on your own to be off work for 3 months for maternity leave

Oh bo-who, isn't this exactly what women wanted?