I do the same thing. I feel like kids need to know they are living things too with a life just like us.

I love this

Does your son eat vegetables?

@@annjames1837 vegetables are the product of a plant. It doesn't plant no good to hang on to dead fruits and vegetables. People plant these plants to grow fruits and vegetables to consume. 🤷

I don't know why that would be considered weird. It's essential to teach kids how to treat everything and everyone in their surrounding. That's also an important part of their emotional development to be able to understand that they can't destroy nature and living creatures just because they want to.

Thank you! I want to slap parents who let their kids terrorize family pets. Animals need to be treated with love and respect!

@@Goat.Cheese same!!!! It’s also dumb especially if you don’t know the animal. What if the dog is scared and bites? It’s not the animals’ fault if the kids all over it.

Goals💯

i once told off this 4 year old at the grocery store because he full on hit his puppy on the head and the mother wasnt around... can't believe people are teaching their kids that it's ok to be mean to animals...

YES. My boy isnt even one and he already stopped pulling our cats ears, tail whatever. I really payed attention when he got interested in her (kitty) and tried to teach him to be gentle, mostly because i didnt wanted to attend them all the time later on. This way cat trusted him and doesnt feel the need to "scold" him (scolding in my cat language is patting with paw and if that doesnt work she would scratch). My cat trusts 1 y.o. more than any other adult now and let's him do his thing :D Baby boy is on it's way to learn how to pet her, he does sometimes "pat" her too strong, but he tries to mimic how we pet her, and that so cute too look at. I cant understand why some parents pretend like they dont see when their child learns bad things like hurting animals etc.

Nice rules! A fix for a bit of your experience Sarah said in one of her older videos, that she doesn't let the child guess what was wrong or be confused about it. She explains what exactly the child has done, why it is wrong and what the disciplinary action will be. I liked this one too :)

I like the part that you said of you put them in time out, you take them out of time out. My sister once put my niece in time out and as soon as my brother in law came home from work, he rushed to her room and got her out of time out. Later she came out sticking her tongue out while smiling... 🤦🏽‍♀️ I don’t have kids yet, but I agree with everything she mentioned on this video..

There's a saying in my culture that can be translated as; "Advice(or for kids education) that is given in front of other people is not advice, it is an assault"

@@melekkeskin4173 I love that!

@@OM08 one day I put my oldest in time out just before my husband walked through the door from work, so he had no idea what was happening. And she yelled at him from her room and I said her name warningly and as soon as my husband heard my tone he went “oops, she’s in timeout” and just sat on the couch 😂. God bless that man

I'd be interested in that video too!

I think she did that video a while back, but I would watch another one!

Yeeeeees!!!!!

Yes! I love to hear opinions....for sure

Repent , Jesus Christ is coming back Repent.

Really?

Yes! As a member of gen z i think that as generation we will raise our kids more off tech. We were raised when smartphones were starting to become mainstream and we know the harms having experienced it ourselves. I feel REALLY bad for the next generation tho they are soooo hooked on screens and they don't hve time to be kids before social media makes them 20 year olds. Most millennials were not raised with A ton of tech and they don't realize the harms. I was lucky because my parents allowed 30 minutes screen time everyday, and that didn't include babies.

my little cousins love to steal my phone and play on it, text people, send snapchats to my friend etc. they nearly texted my boss at midnight the other day... and they also know that they can take it and shove it in my face to unlock it too. soooo annoying and honestly it's just bad behaviour to not respect someones personal item like that

Yes! I know a 3 year old who is constantly on HIS phone, necause yes, they gave him a phone. He downloads his own games, he picks up phone calls (usually his mom calling him but still) and i just think its absolutely crazy. I can understand why parents may give their kids a phone, for example for them to watch educative videos or download them some games that will make them smarter, but definitely not at such a young age, and all day long. Sorry for my english tho...

@@angrygalamb Yep!-it’s crazy.

i have a 2.5 year old and thought I was doing 'well' because he's never touched a phone and I've never bought or let him play on a tablet. i don't have any intentions too either

Yes i wholeheartedly agree, i didn't get a phone until the christmas before my 13th birthday, I hate seeing people too focused on their phones that they don't focus on their children, or worse, they buy the children phones to keep them from annoying them. Having children is a choice, if you don't feel that you can give your children the attention they deserve, don't have kids. Simple as that.🥰

@@caitlindavidson6454 That is way to early. 17 is the best time

@@ACupOfChats your opinion, I was involved in a lot of after school activities and was often dropped off and left at sports centers, my parents felt I was responsible enough and that the necessity was there.

I got my first flip phone when I was 12, but I also had a lot of hobbies that involved me without my parents. So it was mostly for my own safety. But I got my first smartphone when I was 19, and I’m 22 now 😆. That was kind of my choice, I think I could have gotten one a little earlier.

@@lyndsey268 exactly, different people, different needs, different opinions

100% with this.

Dude I totally do this too! My mom (grandma) has a hard time with it. but yeah I don't force my son to show affection even towards me.

I am still trying to teach the Grandparents to ask my children for hugs instead of just demanding it. It is so hard they think I am too controlling.

I’m sorry but i don’t get affection aversion. Do you just throw money and books at them instead? Loyalty for looks alone instead of affection?

@@kathleentaylor8840 teaching kids that affection needs to be wanted and invited helps them learn about consent for physical interactions. Demanding hugs and kisses of a child and giving them no option but to give and accept them against their wishes can lead the child to be a victim of or even a perpetrator of sexual and physical abuse. Think about it.....

That’s wonderful!❤️

@@savinanadab1831 thank you 🖤🖤🖤

That's the first thing that stood out for me.....there's a great teaching lesson in THAT as well; let's teach kids to pick up trash so it doesn't get into our oceans 😃✌

absolutely, we can't raise bystanders...

@Eden Wild well I would say it's not so much the age, it's more the parent's presence. My kids have been doing this since they were one. But I never just let them run around and pick trash, we go for the walk together and I observe what they pick up so I can react if it's something dangerous. Then I gently explain why this is something they shouldn't touch and I usually take care of it myself. Kids are smart and learn super fast if we just let them. For example, they now know not to pick up glass and call me to do it, but it's because we've found glass before and I told them to leave it to me as it can potentialy hurt them ☺️

Yes! I can say this is so beneficial. I have a good friend who's mom was this way and I enjoyed talking with her so much as a young teen. I did not feel the same shame from her as I felt with my parents. It's not that my parents made feel like I should be ashamed for my questions it's just that I am more comfortable asking personal experience questions to strangers than I am to people I know.

@@elizabethann5308 I get that I feel like also her answering the question I asked and if she didnt know helping me to find the answer made much more inquisitive as I knew there was always an answer to any question

Same, my mom was very honest and open about that stuff!

I’m very impressed with your maturity to think ahead like that at your age!

I have a similar situation here I'm 18 now but I've been trying to learn how to be a better parent than mine were and I am afraid of giving birth but absolutely can't wait to be a mom so I can prove my methods of parenting would be way better than how my parents parented me

I'm not a parent, but I can only imagine that to avoid the feelings you have had and still have because of the time outs you had as a child, that maybe having a conversation with the child after the time out, to talk about what happened, and how they are feeling, and what to do or not to do next time, could help? That way parents could still give the kids time out to calm down and cool off, but also take time after with them to process their feelings and so the child know they're still supported and loved?

@@eloiseg8395 well even if you discuss it later on the child is still left alone with all the emotions etc. I'm not a parent either but I get the same vibes from timeout like the just let the baby cry on its own thing.

@@rosaderosee7430 it guess it depends also how the parent tells the child to go in time out... if it's with a loud voice, impatient, rude almost, maybe that does send off the wrong message. But, untill we have children, we can't really understand the patience levels parents need. Sometime my nephew is an actual pain, and I see my sister gentle parent him as much as she can, but sometimes there's a certain limit as well. As much for her as the mom than for him as the child. 🤷🏼‍♀️ so I'm kinda split between both sides (no time outs vs time outs).

I do time ins. So basically I walk my kid over to the side and remove him from whatever is going on. I explain that he needs to calm down/take a break, etc. we sit, I don’t leave him alone. If he’s very upset we take some deep breaths, count, etc. then afterwards I have him explain why he had to take a break and discuss the behavior and ways to behave differently. My kid is 3.5 and will even remove himself from a situation, walk over somewhere and take a few deep breaths, then he jumps back in.

They probably just put you in time out and didn’t talk to you. Like she said after you calm down the parent has to talk to you and tell you what and why you did what you did was wrong

Your doing good boo 🌹

@Raven Carlton Repent , Jesus Christ is coming back Repent.

I was also brought up a way that I was engaged in house chores, even though my family had someone to come and clean, and a gardener. But I had house chores duties and garden work to do alongside them. I did not always like it, but mostly did. And it gave me such good feeling of contributing something to the family, I had a way to express love to them in this way. So it made me happier, I do not get this "let them be kids" in this context. Yes, they are kids, but housework isn't some horrible punishment, it is a way to improve self-respect and self-esteem - as a child would see that they can do something valuable (as I did). So I am very glad I was brought up without being guarded from housework.

@@Mariah-jo1nr my son is the same. He cries if I put away the hand towels as he likes to fold them and put them away together. He also Ives sweeping and vacuuming. And dishes, he loves playing in the sink and helping put away dishes or set the table. He is a good helper and loves it as do I.

I think I agree with this! This is the type of parenting I want for my future kids. I was raised in a house where everything had to be perfect all the time, we basically did all the chores while my dad sat down, and if one thing was out of place we would get in so much trouble. We couldn’t even go to bed any night with dishes in the sink, even if it was a Friday night and we wanted to relax. That’s something I’ve had to unlearn as an adult - because in my situation I really don’t think we were “allowed” to be kids because my dad placed such high/perfectionistic expectations on us.

My neighbour has 4 little girls and they scream all bloody day. Can't stand it

Seriously. I have four kids and I do not allow screaming.

It’s so sad it’s turned into a hobby. Looking at the world and the social media world today we can all see what that’s done to children. When parents are their kids friends instead of their parents.

Wow true!

That's why I decided not to have kids. I have had 7 back surgeries, starting at age 16, and I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to a hands on mom. I didn't want my kids to be a hobby for me and end up letting my mom or mother in law raise them.

@@crystalgriffith1075 I have an autoimmune disease that effects my spine, and joints. I have been on disability since my son was 7 and sick since he was 2. There are definitely some things I cannot do, but there are a lot of things I can! My husband is a great partner, and we support each other in every aspect of parenting! It’s not about the things you can’t do because of your disability that make it a hobby. Sarah’s speaking more of the fact that she has clearly put a lot of thought and planning into her and her husband’s parenting choices!!! It’s people like you, (who worry about being a good and the right, mama) who would make a great mama!!💛💛💛

Parenting used to be a profession because people could afford to stay home….

I think she already made a video on that quite some time ago

Look Up Marshall Rosenberg. I Love His nonviolent communication.

Yes to this I have a 2 year old daughter that literally runs my house 💁‍♀️she's the queen of sass around here 👸 👑

@@MariaGonzalezGifts Because you are allowing it.

This is such helpful advice for the future! I love that.

This works perfectly with my 2 year old. But my 4 year old just just screams and intermittently yells "ITS AN EMERGENCY!!" (even though its not) to justify her screaming. 🙄 Of course we've had countless discussions on why that's not ok. She screams for stimulation and has ever since Day One. Any suggestions anyone??

@@acornsandhoney2763 she sounds advanced enough to have you explain a criteria of what makes a situation an actual emergency

@@acornsandhoney2763 perhaps, institute a consequence for false screaming. Read the boy who cried wolf to show how things can go wrong, or similar story. Provide an alternative to replace screaming. It depends why she is doing it. A 4 year old should know inside and outside voice, especially if she’s been in school.

My new neighbours could do with a chat with you! Their son talks and screams so loud. He had a sleepover the other day with a friend in a tent in the back garden. Up shouting till like 3 in the morning! So annoying.

Yeah, I hate it when kids scream. 😬 The other day I was inside and heard a kid screeching in the most obnoxious way outside for like 5 straight minutes. When they finished I heard parent say "good God!" But did they lift a finger to stop it? No!

Exactly. But at the same time, I always feel horrible for the kids whose parents scream at them for doing anything wrong. It’s super important parents discipline their kids but also respect their kids

@@hayleymarse2853 absolutely!! It's such a fine line. If you scream at your kid as a response to them screaming, that's not gonna do jack squat 😅 And they are little humans. They need to be taught, not punished. There's a big difference between punishment and discipline. The parent I heard the other day was so irritated and rude to their child for screaming (despite doing nothing to stop it). That's not okay. You start out by kindly telling them why screaming isn't good.

^ yes, witnessed this many times too :(

My Mum always uses the saying “screaming is for emergencies” and it was so nice to grow up in a home where nobody screams!

“They aren’t given an option” brilliant! That’s how I train my 4yo. I tell him what he is doing is “not appropriate” and if it continues there will be repercussions. He really does well and all that nonsenses not an option!

It depends on the age but I think most toddlers don’t care if they lose the privilege to go out to eat... most toddlers don’t care to go sit at some restaurant for an hour or more and be expected to sit still and act like an adult when they aren’t an adult. Even I have a hard time sitting still for that long so I definitely don’t expect my toddler to be able to. My son was so good at restaurants up until around 13 months when he started walking and wanting to explore. At that point we just stopped taking him out to eat. Then around 18 ish months he started being able to chill for around 45 min to an hour if we were lucky and I didn’t expect any more than that from him. I try not to have adult expectations on a child. Going out to eat is not that important when they are at such a young age. That’s my opinion anyway.

Same & same. Love to you.

I struggle with seeing myself in certain things like if I raise my voice. Do you experience this?

@@ririimari I do.

I'm glad to hear I am not alone! Thanks and wish u the best :)

@@ririimari me too, same situation here. I never want then to feel how I felt as a child.

maybe taking to your car or outside, would be best as taking to a bathroom may have other worries. Just a thought

We also go to the bathroom usually. Vehicles are too public and still adds shame and humiliation. If your child is shamed, it’s not discipline.

@Mira G if you reread my post you will see i don't leave him alone. I said we discuss it.

@@tiffanywheeler48 that is true. I guess I'm thinking if it is a talk to discipline/educate, then outside or car could work.

@Rebecca Kessler sorry I don't agree. Children need help to regulate first then if they need some time in quiet that is fine. I worked until retirement at Chldren's Aid Society and the best way to help a child is called the Circle of Security. This helps them to regulate their feelings in a supportive way. "Time Outs" does not show they are safe and secure or supported by the adult in their life but sitting with and allowing some time together, then talk and maybe a time for them if they need to adjust.

@Helena Lara Pena I personally agree with you on this not all kids are the same some need to let their feelings, stress, plus energy out

@@mylifeisameme9408 I think it's dependent on the situation and the kid, but i also think there's generally better outlets for emotions than just screaming. You can dance, or stomp around pretending to be a dinosaur who is destroying everything in its path when you're that angry (though the only things you can throw around are soft things and only where things won't get broken). You can sing angry songs as loud as you can. You can punch pillows. You can put on tap shoes and stomp your feet on the concrete. You can scream into a pillow. You can take a baseball bat outside and hit a baseball as hard as you can against the fence. You can flop down on your bed, scream into your pillows and flail your arms and legs around. There's so many other options besides just screaming. And there's a difference between screaming and shouting, right? When i think of screaming, i think of those blood curdling, top of your lungs, something just scared the ever living daylights out of me and im traumatized type of scream. There's two scenarios for that: something terrible is happening, or you're on an amusement park/carnival ride. Screaming into a pillow is fine too, but just screaming at the top of your lungs out into the open air and disturbing anyone and everyone within earshot? That, to me, isn't really acceptable behavior. You can be loud, you can shout, you can make lots of noise. But to me, screams mean something is wrong, someone is injured, someone is in danger (or, you're at a carnival/amusement park on a ride).

I just feel like it’s a normal part of being a kid. It of course depends on what they are doing and the location but for example, spraying the hose at each other in the backyard I would expect them to be screaming and acting silly not being noiseless mice.

I am still very young (23) but I couldn't agree more! I read so many comments on this page of women who seem to be great moms! More people should learn from this!

A variable, or two, that can also affect this is the fact that he was turning 24 months (a developmental milestone) at the same time as introducing TV. His play habits and behavior would've shifted and transitioned around that time, tv or not.

I was raised without a TV and plan to do the same with my kids. I consider my phone to be somewhat Tv like and I really want to keep them from being on a phone too. We will see how that goes tho lol... starts with the parents example!

@@valerieblomquist1253 we don't have a TV accessible to our kids. We have a large fishtank, and a large window that we have a bird feeder to look at. We tell the kids if they want to watch something they can watch the birds outside or the fish. Lol But we started giving them a tablet....witch is my biggest regret. They watch KZfaq. And now constantly ask for the tablet.

I have a 26 month old boy too and we avoid screens as well! Good for you! Remember, Mama. He knows your authority matters. He's trying to confirm exactly what the stable boundary line is. You get to decide what limits to enforce and there's nobody grading us when we realize we backtracked more than we wanted to. If there's an atypical day (week, month, etc), it's never too early and never too late to firmly and gently lay down the boundary again. I have friends with all various circumstances and some of them have decided to let TV time look different day to day while being more regular in other areas. Know where you want to be more or less lenient and how it's serving you guys well. It's *always* the worst the first few days, but it's worth it to rip the bandaid off, so to speak. Whenever you're ready enough to do that, just prepare yourself to be calm and stable in your responses. Reaffirm what choices he still has. You got this! P.s. Colin Kartchner is a great resource on scream time/social media and behavior for kids

It's never too late to make it disappear again! My husband and Inso often say how blessed we are that the kids don't see TV. That said, I think they are.all the more sensitive to it when they do see it bbn other place or when we watch a movie, so we need to be really attentive.

I agree

I think this is totally right but, maybe idk they want to buy a short skirt, they feel comfy and they think they look great on it, why not let them wear those at home until they grow a little older? Maybe that way you could let them choose if they want to wear it without putting them on risk

I was looking for a good descriptive word to use for her, her parenting and just her person in general. That's it. It's refreshing. She is refreshing. Thank you @SarahTherese for being such a refreshment. 😊🍹

Yes 🙌🏻. That’s also what modern psychology is teaching ☺️

Im 25 yo and 9 weeks pregnant with our first baby 😍

Congratulations!!! 🎉🧸🎈

I really enjoy how many of her viewers agree to disagree and respect the other's differences.

❤️❤️❤️

Yessss, this!

I think this may be what people mean when they ask you to share the "raw" stuff.

@@SarahTherese YEEESSS!! The cheeseburger song is my jam!!

@@SarahTherese Don't forget The Hairbrush Song!

@@SarahTherese I'm not Christian but Veggietales songs are bops. I love My Baby Elf.

Agreed. Kids have no business on any adult's cellphone.

I want to add that make sure you talk about kids with disabilities might scream. I have an 8yr old with autism that does this Dino growling sound more then she talks. Is it weird because she's bigger yes but it's alot of behind the scenes therapy that goes on working on that

Yes! Us kids didn't get a phone till age 16, I don't care what anyone says, no child needs a smartphone below the age of 16 or 17. If they need to communicate, a flip phone with no internet is enough. My 14 y old sis still has a flip phone and it's lovely knowing she doesn't spend time watching yt

Haha same! It literally is blue with the ring finger being sparkly 😂 (also chipped btw)

Exactly!!

😂

My mom painted our toenails when we were sleeping in our cribs. Cuz that's when we were still enough for her to paint them & time to dry. 🌹

Are you able to either do a picnic on the floor or tray tables in the same general area? It’s not about the table, it’s about coming together at the same time every night!💛

@@michiebutterfly7785 that's what we do we own a couple of pop up tables/laptop tables and we all sit together in the general area, they also double as desks for school time :)

Same. And no couches

i feel sad that people have to mention that they dont hit their kids. Its illegal to hit your kids, it shouldnt be a thing to even have to mention.

@@DarlingKaya I saw a woman on TikTok that boasted about hitting her kids, and she called her county sheriff to see what was legal and what was not. 🤦🏼‍♀️ I was sick to my stomach when she said she could bend them over and smack them. Then she said “punish your kids”