You’re welcome

Stopping the overcompensation is more about stopping behaviours. You still need to feel the emotions so bring in your Healthy Adult to validate the emotions skilfully.

@@thePSYCHcollective unfortunatley my overcompensator largely occurs in the cognitive form of overthinking about how to deal with distress, analysing situations and researching etc. At times there are no emotions present and sometimes the overthinking itself leads to emotions of confusion, fear and frustration. Recently the desire to not avoid emotions has led to greater hyper-villigance which actually drives and allows the overcompesator/ overthinking. Hence, do yo think perhaps a better approach is to use meditation/grounding tools to acknowledge the overcompensator based thoughts/emotions and the return focus back to present moment? Perhaps when emotions are really strong then one can also focus on soothing?

@the PSYCH collective, can you please provide some guidance on this it is causing a great deal of concern and confusion?

Sameer Choudhari these are really detailed and complicated questions, so I think it would be best for you to explore this further with your own therapist.

the PSYCH collective thanks. Do you provide one-on-one therapy as well, or are aware of any good schema therapists in Sydney?

Sometimes. There will be times when the PO nails it, so the VC feels protected and everything seems alright. Other times the PO can’t achieve perfection because it’s unattainable or due to exhaustion and that’s when the problems start, because the Demand Parent has an over-the-top response that triggers a shame spiral for the VC.

@@thePSYCHcollective Thanks! I recognize what you’re saying also in clients with (traits of) ocpd.