Self-Compassion: Be Kind to Yourself

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The antidote for the poison of self-criticism is self-compassion, and self-kindness is the key. Become your own best friend by changing how you talk to yourself and learning to embrace your flaws.
We are taught to be compassionate and caring to others just as Jesus Christ was. We take care of friends and family without a second thought. So why do we sometimes exclude ourselves from the same compassion?
Elder Jeffrey R. Holland taught that "as children of God, we should not demean or vilify ourselves, as if beating up on ourselves is somehow going to make us the person God wants us to become.” Remember, everyone is a child of God who is deserving of love, forgiveness, and patience-and that includes you.
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@rithistewartx5908 3 жыл бұрын

God !! This is a witness Right now I was feeling so bad about myself, this video came to me as a recommendation , praise God ♥️♥️

@Alexandriafrancescakiel 3 жыл бұрын

Yes me too! Amen!!

@rithistewartx5908 3 жыл бұрын

@@Alexandriafrancescakiel Amen♥️

@elisabethclark9989 3 жыл бұрын

Same🥰

@wanderer-xr5pz 3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@JamesEmeryHill 3 жыл бұрын

Amen.

@debfryer2437 3 жыл бұрын

God told Kory Robertson, wife of Willie Robertson, when she was praying about being a failure as a mother: “ I did not call you to be successful; I called you to be faithful.” That puts the nature of God into perspective. He knows we are limited in this world, and he wants us to take courage, do our best and look to Him. That’s all. If He is not condemning us, then neither should we.

@devochted 3 жыл бұрын

@Deb Fryer 💗💖❤

@amandaondricek2815 3 жыл бұрын

Oh how I needed to read this! Thank you!

@paulahawks1124 3 жыл бұрын

Really appreciate you mentioning this quote from Kory. Do you have a reference for it?

@dmackey2000 3 жыл бұрын

I love seeing more content like this coming from the church. I'm hopeful messages like this will help my children and other church members avoid the same traps of perfectionism and anxiety I think can be too common for members today!

@yellowyosh470 3 жыл бұрын

It's a problem felt like people, not just members. 👍 I also love seeing this content as well!

@davidsradioroom9678 3 жыл бұрын

There are a lot of people who need to see this video.♥

@LHJlives 3 жыл бұрын

If the Lord won't insult or berate us, then why should we do it to ourselves? He lovingly corrects us when we are in the wrong, but He does so out of compassion and a desire for us to be our best selves. We should do the same.

@dennisclark6758 3 жыл бұрын

It is not easy when you are alone. My dog isn't talking much.

@meyersonfire 3 жыл бұрын

@@dennisclark6758 I don't even have a dog

@FromAgonyToLight 3 жыл бұрын

My grandpa reminded of the scripture: "whom the Lord loveth, he chasteneth" that helped me a lot.

@Aaron_Gato123 2 жыл бұрын

@@dennisclark6758 There is always something you can do to be happy. Going out and serve others will replace loneliness. You'll feel that your existence is important because you bless other people's lives. If you can't go out then make a video and tell your story. Perhaps other people can relate and connect with you. Just be proactive. You can win against loneliness. Heavenly Father wants you to be happy po.

@Dolly_Shores 2 жыл бұрын

That first sentence really hit me. Thank you kind stranger.

@DevinBradleySmith 3 жыл бұрын

Self-Compassion is SO IMPORTANT! So grateful the Church is teaching this important concept

@reese924 3 жыл бұрын

“As I have loved you...”

@erictheodorepaul4660 3 жыл бұрын

For a long time I was battling with self-hatred but at the instant I accepted Jesus into my heart and life and I became self-compassionate ❤️ To anyone who's going through this similar situation of self-imcompassion. Jesus loves you and your worth is in Him. Remember you are not a slave to the standards of this world. You are the daughter/son of the MOST HIGH!

@moshito3809 2 жыл бұрын

1 yr late but how did you do it? Did you pray everyday for help and read God’s word? I’m asking cuz I heard it’s a good idea to get advice from believers

@Clone_shark 3 жыл бұрын

I like this, and I could probably do better at applying this in my life.

@vendingguy47 3 жыл бұрын

Me too!! This video was for me.

@teslarowe4849 3 жыл бұрын

May I suggest an old sermon that really helped me overcome self-criticism? It's called "Be Renewed in the Spirit of your Mind" by Patricia Holland. It's on KZfaq. Her husband is actually quoted in this video, but her sermon gave a lot of practical advice for overcoming this. Totally changed my life.

@komjanuszvincent2023 3 жыл бұрын

Don't worry if it's a hard habit to break! Good understands :)

@mimi-xw5se 3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@WellerNFriends 3 жыл бұрын

Being to Kind to oneself can easily be overlooked and forgotten! The great thing about being Kind to others is it also increases your own self worth. That is what I do if I'm not able to treat myself in a Kind way! So many great comments here and I wish I had more people like you all in my community 😊

@martinsanchez1474 3 жыл бұрын

Please translate this one into spanish. I know a lot of spanish speaking friends and family who would benefit from this message

@regasoup9597 3 жыл бұрын

Remember everyone especially in these times so many people are dealing with hard things And You should always be kind to yourself, and others. But yourself is very important because if you keep saying bad things to yourself you will start to belive them, and same goes if you are saying good things about yourself. How are you blessed? Count your blessings What are you good at? Be proud of things you do well at, and enjoy! Thanks for reading! Have a great day 😊

@wiltoncosta3665 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah! I agree with you sometimes is getting hard to know what good you are, however other thinks different

@motherofiv 3 жыл бұрын

a very sweet message during a hard time in society

@WellerNFriends 3 жыл бұрын

Sure is Ashley, "Be kind to yourself and be kind to others" That works for me 😊

@self-developementhub3731 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I am constantly trying to be perfect and when I'm not, I feel like I sinned the worst sin. It is actually a type of anxiety. I am working on being kind to myself.

@lydiacheshire5183 3 жыл бұрын

I do have this same ind of perfection as well. I know it's rough, but hey, we got this! ;)

@seanjackson5527 3 жыл бұрын

I had a bishop who asked me when I felt that way, who wanted me to feel it? Either Heavenly Father or the adversary is saying it and if it's discouraging, who do you think is saying it? I answered the obvious, then my bishop said "That's you how you can recognize who's talking to you and know to ignore it". We all feel we've sunk to far, but the kinder we are to ourselves and the more we choose to believe the Savior is helping us, and to trust Him, that anxiety will disappear and we'll grow stronger.

@self-developementhub3731 3 жыл бұрын

@Shadow Life Thank you :)

@self-developementhub3731 3 жыл бұрын

@@lydiacheshire5183 Ya, we got this. Thx!

@_lavieenrose8687 3 жыл бұрын

You can do it!

@JesusIsLove2512 3 жыл бұрын

Praise the Lord Jesus Christ 🙏 Mother Mary Pray For Us 🙏Abba Father Bless us and we Adore You 🙏

@DoctorSuezz 3 жыл бұрын

Appropriate for the times! ♡♡♡

@rainbowsongbird13 3 жыл бұрын

I really needed this reminder. I am at an eating disorder recovery center and am working on being more gentle with myself.

@robertowens6674 3 жыл бұрын

You are worthy of love from yourself and worthy of God's love. You are stronger than you know and with His help you can overcome. Know that you have helped and touched others...including people you have never met, like me.❤

@peterkennedy8011 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏

@JT-zt7uq 3 жыл бұрын

This is a timely video. Just today I happened to catch a glance of myself in a glass door, I was in my military uniform and wearing a COVID mask. As I walked up to the door it was as if I heard a voice behind me say, "You are so handsome, and successful, and I am so proud of you." It caught me so off guard that it almost brought me to tears.

@viviprince7284 2 жыл бұрын

I feel like this hurt on so many levels because I relate to the self-bullying & hatred more than anything, but eventually I'll get there to that good place with myself somehow, all good things take time, especially with God in the picture☺

@i2rtw 3 жыл бұрын

Simply lovely.

@devin6272 3 жыл бұрын

This comment is just for me, but I need to put it out there. This is precisely the video I needed. I beat myself up for my various mistakes and choices that I feel are me spitting in the face of Jesus. When in reality, I'm not, and I'm doing myself a more significant disservice by not taking advantage of the savior's atonement. He suffered for me; I owe him everything.

@DaveGarber1975 3 жыл бұрын

I had this problem for a long time but, with God's help, I overcame it. Our loving Heavenly Father commands us to love not only Him with all our souls but also our neighbors as ourselves. And that equality is important. Sometimes we may treat ourselves like figurative gold and our neighbors like figurative dirt, but sometimes we can do the opposite instead; in any case, neither is correct. Ideally, we should treat ourselves like the Savior does---with patience and kindness and a sincere desire for us to repent of our sins and to become our best selves.

@fanettaburke4608 3 жыл бұрын

Love yourself and others

@leratokorinaseutloali1845 3 жыл бұрын

If we love one another we will become one 👊🤝

@CMBauer 3 жыл бұрын

And that includes you. ❤️

@alvinokoth9460 3 жыл бұрын

This came at the right time when I was going through a lot .. That I forgot to love myself..

@loiseau2416 2 жыл бұрын

Love ourselves like the lord loves us❤️🙂

@cedricburkhart3738 8 ай бұрын

How do we know of he loves us?

@mmmmmmmmm4334 3 жыл бұрын

A fantastic message, one to keep in mind now and always. D&C 88:63

@yuyunningsih8762 3 жыл бұрын

Self compassion is very important in our life 💖💖💖💖

@Cassia_Morais 3 жыл бұрын

❤️⭐ Beautiful! Thank you. ❤️⭐

@MrSurfferchik 3 жыл бұрын

There are no failures!😄 Only moments for growth, learning, and increased reliance on our Savior!🙌

@cedricburkhart3738 8 ай бұрын

I fail often. I don't believe in God. I don't think he loves me if he's real. Or at least he doesn't really want me to know him. Maybe he's upset with ms so he won't make himself known to me.

@kaylabryant6532 3 жыл бұрын

"You have to love yourself before you love anyone else" 💖

@jillianguilford5191 Жыл бұрын

I'm not at 100% of loving myself. I have to be reminded that I too am a child of God, who is loved by Him totally. I love others as well as I can and grow in capacity to love myself as well as others.

@Elktech_vr 3 жыл бұрын

Thank u very much while watching this video I felt the spirit now I will try to be kind to everyone

@Chilenitos22 3 жыл бұрын

Perfect timing! Thank you!

@user-mm3km5ih4o 3 жыл бұрын

Life, is about learning to appropriately receive ,and, give Love...

@USSResolute 3 жыл бұрын

We are taught that "With what judgment ye shall ye shall also be judged". Why then would that not extend to how we treat ourselves? Of course, Elder Dieter has addressed this in "Forget Me Not". Everyone is a package deal, and remember that Jesus is eager to receive every package, not just the ones you find appealing, exciting and valuable.

@dennisclark6758 3 жыл бұрын

Having been divorced three times takes everything takes a lot out of you. In this condition it is really easy to beat yourself up. This helped me a lot. I watched it several times and will watch it again.

@zachjernigan9976 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@aidenchen1964 3 жыл бұрын

Outstanding message. Thank You! 👍

@aiseu_bingseu 3 жыл бұрын

This is awesome! Thank you

@brtteluguchannel5780 3 жыл бұрын

Love jesus

@debbies27 3 жыл бұрын

Such an important principle!

@vaihauhititeriipaia7061 3 жыл бұрын

I truly help people to be compassion just like god do it

@DindieMarie 3 жыл бұрын

23 people gave this video a thumbs down?? They must be listening to their inner critic.

@veleanwilliams-palmer3456 3 жыл бұрын

At some point or another, we all had to deal with these counterfeits of the adversary--self-criticism, self doubt, and comparing ourselves with others. The realization that we are all unique in our own way, and that we are never defined by our mistakes, is a step into self-compassion and acceptance. Let us remember that we are destined for greatness. If we look at ourselves and others through the eyes of the Savior, then we would see that we are all alike unto Him and He loves us unconditionally.

@emilybailey4283 3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes the people who dislike this are the ones who are struggling the hardest. There are those who haven't felt kindness and who are angry that there are people who have. Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that despitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be the children of your Father which is in Heaven. That doesn't mean try to make their life better, that means know that if they let God in, He can help them come to Him and their lives will be better. Good video.

@jillianguilford5191 Жыл бұрын

The forgiveness can begin even if I feel insincere in it. As I have given daily prayers for the wellbeing of those who have harmed me, I was given everything I needed to see the "enemy" as God's child and desire for that person (groups of people) to have what I most desire for myself.

@navymarie8814 3 жыл бұрын

We should all love each of God's children but you are one of them so love yourself!

@davinamair8311 3 жыл бұрын

your awesome god my father jesusxxawesome mither maruxxx

@CaptainCory 3 жыл бұрын

Great message!

@payothemayo138 3 жыл бұрын

Amen thank you🙏✝️

@garrettpete Жыл бұрын

A beautiful and needed message/reminder to all of us. Thank you!

@jaxonreid7588 2 жыл бұрын

As a member of the Church who is currently undergoing depression, this was very helpful to me, praise the Lord 😄

@treytonburnham3657 3 жыл бұрын

I needed that today! Thanks!

@gambent6853 3 жыл бұрын

I tend to be my own worst enemy, so I'm truly grateful to have seen this today. Thank you.

@abishannefamindalan592 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 😣❣️

@starlegends3092 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for posting

@cookie6111 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you I needed to hear that 🙂

@VixeyTeh 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. God bless you and everyone who sees this.

@ooijoeearn8257 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks you for bring this beautiful message.

@jordangiles4208 3 жыл бұрын

I Love Compassion I use it Everyday it Brings Relieving of Others And Desire to Help Others The World Needs Compassion.

@klewis4377 3 жыл бұрын

Sure did need to hear this today!!! Thank you!!!!!!!!

@annikaohran2347 3 жыл бұрын

love yourself 💜

@abbiluchs2747 3 жыл бұрын

I LOVE THIS! Self compassion is so important! I almost wish the animation at the beginning was a little different though. I wish the girl depicted would have hugged the critical voice in her head. I think that Christ won’t ever take away our difficulties, but he can help us accept and love the parts of ourselves we either can’t change or struggle with. I’m not saying we should listen to what that critical voice says about us, but that we should not be ashamed to struggle with low self esteem or negative thoughts, because that can prevent us from seeking help. As we make efforts to be friends with ourselves, every part of ourselves, I think it is silly to assume that voice will disappear. BUT by having faith in Christ and our own ability to improve, we truly can diminish that voice’s influence!! So appreciate the church speaking to this issue that really persists today!

@zachatkinson1279 3 жыл бұрын

This is a wonderful message!

@leratokorinaseutloali1845 3 жыл бұрын

Alot of people believe that God is their Father but they don't know His ways and His art... Anyway interesting 🌸💘

@ai-aimolar132 3 жыл бұрын

I love the message of this video.

@fanettaburke4608 3 жыл бұрын

That is true be positive with yourself and others

@nidhibinha4844 3 жыл бұрын

GREAT MESSAGE KEEP POSTING 👍 ❤️

@heatherhutton1117 3 жыл бұрын

I was LITERALLY talking about this this morning before this popped up. God made us in his image. Many people take the time to love how God created the trees, sun, animals etc but we dont see ourselves QUITE like God's creation when we think negatively about ourselves. When we talk bad to ourselves or hate ourselves, we are hating or dislike what God created and LOVES. I learned to ask "what right do I have to hate what God loves?"

@Clestea 3 жыл бұрын

Gosh darnit, this made me cry.

@LivingCrusader 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks. I needed this.

@corwinmorton3411 3 жыл бұрын

It's better to understand yourself In the Push yourself to understand better things that might work for you and help you understand others because we're all in this together, we need to understand these Things

@phasein5413 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@coleygyaluv 3 жыл бұрын

Very important message

@SharpLady53 3 жыл бұрын

Wonderful reminder. Self-compassion. Lovely. 🌷 Thank you.

@ellieb.4945 3 жыл бұрын

Love this. ❤️❤️

@noellemcbride6435 3 жыл бұрын

Love this. Thank you.

@thestargazingnurse8605 3 жыл бұрын

What a fantastic message.

@raindropsmac8022 3 жыл бұрын

love it! wonderful message.

@cybeledalmas-lewis2120 3 жыл бұрын

Great message

@valtaylor5787 3 жыл бұрын

I was just thinking bad about myself...as always... thx for this video

@fernandatorres1855 3 жыл бұрын

this is the sweetest thing ever

@jeanettesnow8711 Жыл бұрын

Awesome! Thanks for sharing!

@angelastacks883 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for these kind reminders!

@jaycees9287 3 жыл бұрын

Love this message!

@moroniafrifa614 3 жыл бұрын

One of the most beautiful videos I've seen on youtube!👌

@Mumziesoriginals 3 жыл бұрын

This is so true!,

@jillianguilford5191 Жыл бұрын

I'm watching and saving these. And they are an answer to my prayers. I struggle with depression and chronic pain. There are so many positive changes I want to make, right now I'm stopped. I'm praying to know the next right thing that Father wants me to do.

@churchofjesuschrist Жыл бұрын

We are glad they help. Thanks for tuning in!

@jillianguilford5191 Жыл бұрын

There have been answers to my prayers. Changes within my mind and heart, people including themselves in my life, service opportunities. I'm so grateful. I've gone to my bishop and had discussion with him. I'm so grateful for the counsel he gave. Changes in behavior have been encouraged and I'm in better compliance with commandments. Some areas of selfishness on my part are healing as I choose to be more obedient because I love God, Christ, Heavenly Mother and the Holy Spirit.

@melissarodrigues5702 3 жыл бұрын

I really needed this! Jesus loves me for who i am ❤️⭐

@evawebb6374 3 жыл бұрын

Fantastic! Thank you for the reminder to love myself

@DanielMoroni 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you thank you thank you! I needed this!

@sanyal7388 2 жыл бұрын

We judge our own selves harshly.

@yendorham1007 3 жыл бұрын

That is a GOOD message. I like that!.

@camilorojas2885 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, beautiful message 👏👏👏

@kellioswald4662 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! ❤️

@stand.inholyplaces 2 жыл бұрын

This is fantastic! It’s important to remember that our Heavenly Father created us, so how can we not be kind to ourselves? Being unkind to yourself is almost like disapproving of the person that He created. We have inherent value no matter what. Love God, love others, and love yourself. You are a child of God.

@davidscott5903 3 жыл бұрын

This is great advice. My wife asks me when I make a comment about how I screwed something up, would you say that about me if I had made that mistake? And of course the answer is always no.

@sulatlalaki 3 жыл бұрын

😌

@patmaurer8541 3 жыл бұрын

David, thanks for sharing that, because that's the "HOW" to changing our self-talk. When I start beating myself up for a silly mistake or falling short in some way, I stop and ask, "If my best friend called right now, angry at herself for this exact same thing, would I be saying this to her?" Of course not! I would be kind, comfort her, and not think any less of her as a person; and whatever she needed to do to correct the mistake, I'd encourage her and build her confidence. This one thing--noticing and changing my self talk--has been the key to banishing anxiety and depression!

@miythrandir 3 жыл бұрын

In a day and age when life is so hard, this is a refreshing message. Makes me think of Michael McLean’s song “Gentle.”

@marymechambrough9903 3 жыл бұрын

One of the best song ever written!!!

@tinahuffman588 3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful message. Love one another includes self.

@springsison7 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. I really needed this. There were times when I feel I'm not good enough, defining myself by my failures. A former missionary said to me that Satan always make ways for us to not love others and especially to not love ourselves. And with that, I always remind myself that I am a child of God and I can do better than my inner self is telling me I can't. Loving myself can make me love others too.

@bennevelynt4718 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks again, Church KZfaq channel! The subscription to you is like a personal Liahona at times!

@delinatsehaye3649 3 жыл бұрын

God bless u

@larrainewilde4256 3 жыл бұрын

I am so grateful for this message. I have my whole life been critical of myself and never felt good enough, and always compared myself to others. People have told me that I can't love others unless I love myself 1st. I STILL DON'T BELIEVE THAT ONE. Putting others before myself always made me feel good, and maybe helped me think that I could be as good as others, that I am a good person. Hopefully I can turn to this message and learn to love myself more.