This woman's subject knowledge depth and breath is incredible. Her capacity to make it simple is astounding. Her voice and accent is addictive. Tim asks good questions. This interview is a resource for psychotherapists.
@mars17833 жыл бұрын
I love that field of work, im self taught as an educator and actress, so be it!!!
@thisgustin3 жыл бұрын
Yeah she can sound somewhat confusing at the same time. All over.
@antipupsz24117 жыл бұрын
Show Notes Esther gives us a little background about her life. [07:20] Esther elaborates on the experience of growing up among Holocaust survivors in Antwerp. [08:58] To what combination of “chance and choice” did Esther’s parents attribute their survival of the Holocaust? [17:35] What comes first: trust or vulnerability? [27:12] Thoughts on impermanence as motivation for living life fully. [29:03] Esther considers herself counterphobic. Does she think this is a good thing? [31:25] How did Esther come to study in Jerusalem? [33:53] How should someone seek and approach a mentor? (Sometimes it just takes a healthy dose of chutzpah.) [40:06] What is eroticism, and what does Esther mean when she calls the erotic “an antidote to death?” [49:32] What are the ethical options for an otherwise happy couple experiencing sexual listlessness? [53:08] In a relationship, is there such a thing as too much honesty? How do Americans and Europeans tend to differ on the subject? [1:01:04] Does honesty - or one-hundred percent sharing - equal caring for the other person in a relationship? [1:07:19] If one of her patients wants to disclose an infidelity to a partner, how does Esther walk them through the decision process? [1:08:39] Is it possible for a partner in a non-exclusive relationship to overcome the fear of being left as a result of discussing infidelity? [1:14:09] How would you score on a quarterly relationship report card? [1:22:08] How does Esther feel about a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy for a polyamorous relationship? [1:23:44] The value of innovation and flexibility over rigid ideology in a relationship. [1:26:32] Every relationship is a power dynamic. [1:29:00] What was the research process like for Esther’s upcoming book about “historically condemned and universally practiced” adultery? [1:32:36] Is there an argument for marriage these days? [1:39:22] Why does Esther find divorce rates for second marriages particularly interesting? [1:45:16] Why does marriage often lead to sub-par behavior between people in a relationship? [1:46:57] Through the lens of infidelity, what human questions is Esther trying to answer in her upcoming book? [1:50:00] What books has Esther gifted most and found worth rereading? [1:53:58] What would Esther’s billboard say? [1:55:05]
@DanDascalescu-dandv7 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Here is a doc with the transcript that I started, based on the KZfaq autogenerated captions + about an our of editing I've put in - docs.google.com/document/d/1viXhcoRK6TLk9Ute-LqnOQ92GUjeAMToqFT185v-SuI/edit
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@jendaniel24596 жыл бұрын
thank you :)
@janspale7 жыл бұрын
Interview starts @7:20
@GeorgiaMyname6 жыл бұрын
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@Nvrloptimism6 жыл бұрын
interview mark comments always make me so happy. Thank you!
@JeremyChevallierАй бұрын
Bless
@christineblackmore99774 жыл бұрын
This is my first time listening to Tim, and his questions are pivotal. Esther's answers are emancipating and clarifying. I love the combination.
@chrissnyder20913 жыл бұрын
Esther's presentations never fail to inspire me and give me hope. Her clear and penetrating understanding of relationships love and sex is long overdue.
@IEVAKambarovaite5 жыл бұрын
Hey Tim. Thanks for what you do. It has a massive impact. This was an absolute joy to listen to and thanks for sharing some of your personal experiences as well.
@kasparnguyen79793 жыл бұрын
Her sheer delight with her subject matter is the most compelling thing. She is a remarkable story teller not least because she understands exceptionally well the power of narratives.
@elvansavkl79726 жыл бұрын
she is open and amazing.
@omarianno6 жыл бұрын
Wow, Tim. Thank you so much for asking so many interesting and vulnerable questions.
@marycavanaugh90122 жыл бұрын
Thank you Tim for such an incredible interview. I have loved Esther Perel for years. You really get to the heart of the matter. Thank you for your openness about your own experiences.
@chriscarmona55037 жыл бұрын
She's amazing, one of my favorites. Her logical approach and question probing separate her from the pack.
@jelizabethpetrie66564 жыл бұрын
There is freedom within structure. It is relevant. How you choose to go about it. Esther is it’s truth seeker.
@Ullahussain6 жыл бұрын
OMG YES TIM FERRIS AND ESTHER PEREL THIS IS SUCH A TREAT!!! love u guys, absolute geniuses
@RamSadeh6 жыл бұрын
So very absorbing.. I’d say- Enchanting!! Thank You
@galyefet77187 жыл бұрын
Esther perel i learned some good things from her london real interview i put this one to the watch later, one of the must, thanks tim for bringing her on!!!
@elzahraeelmasry3816 жыл бұрын
loved the show...Esther influenced a lot my way of thinking about relationships..everything she says is authentic, original and novel
@shanikpakeer3 жыл бұрын
Two of my favourite speakers
@mars17833 жыл бұрын
Thank you viewers and listeners, I am a patient patient, and I know Abundance Works, I love these condos, meant convo's. Hi Molly the Doggie!!! I loved the previous conversations about sensuality, rather sensuality. I feel BETTER, N II I SHOUTED ABOUT IT!!!! YAY, WE!!!!
@thebootjournal60377 жыл бұрын
Great interview. Liked the historical explanations on economics. Excellent discussion about TMI (US/European) vs holding back.
@mars17833 жыл бұрын
Me too!!! I often feel like I'm all bark, and not enough, well 😕 ...... or not enough of this, that or the other, its all subjective anyway right
@mars17833 жыл бұрын
P.S.... sorta wished I would a better held back, too late though, namaste and try new things in the future.... growth is who we are anyway, stagnation is what we want to avoid, i suppose
@mercurious66997 жыл бұрын
wonderful. thanks so much for this
@elvansavkli38066 жыл бұрын
yes , why were you not talking about relationships??-_::)).Thanks for this interview.I THINK YOU should talk about this more.
@elvansavkl79726 жыл бұрын
i liked her a lot. but i do not know accepting relationships with a lotof other relationships.
@elvansavkl79726 жыл бұрын
Yes , I agree. She is being a truth telling about what's going on right now in America. Because she sees a lot of people and talks and observes. But I do not agree with her accepting this as normal norm. She is trying to look at thing from very empathic point of view. But there are no empties i think between those people who uses people and disposes the. Society like that gives open ticket to a lot of sociopaths and psychopaths . aND MAKES PEOPEL SO EMPTHY INSIDE.
@DataCenterGuy7 жыл бұрын
Fantastik Tim, just Fantastik, lots of reusable info to use in ones life, and to share. Esther, not sure if you know these words but you, are the Bomb, tightly wired, on-the-pipe, Railed, WFO. Cheers.
@gauravmathur567 жыл бұрын
Thanks Tim... I was waiting for this
@gavete1007 жыл бұрын
thank you tim for all that you do!
@kingjudah273 жыл бұрын
Excellence!!! Love her!!!
@MaikelK7 жыл бұрын
Great interview Tim! Funny enough just heard about Esther, then one day later, bam you do an interview with her, epic. Just ordered the mushroom coffee, im very curious! Already love the reishi
@joyejohnsonauthor3 жыл бұрын
If my partner had sex with someone else, I wouldn't want the sordid details. But for my physical health, I would want to know if it took place. The other person is engaging in behavior that could potentially kill me, and I have the right to know when my life is in danger. Whatever we believe, whatever our boundaries are, sex has consequences and not wanting to know who else your partner is having sex with won't protect you from those consequences. I really liked Esther's comment that it takes a lot to make something mean nothing.
@charliem1233217 жыл бұрын
Liked and favourited!
@kissed_by_sunshine_104 жыл бұрын
Omgosh! Hurry up!
@sami_ek4 жыл бұрын
One thing that the conversation does not touch on, is the societal implications of moving away from monogamy as a model for couples. One distopian path would be that polyamorous/open relationships are only accessible to an elite with an abundance of ressources, time and choices, while the majority of the population is left in a state of sexual despair because monogamy as a moral accountability structure wouldn't work anymore.
@thisgustin3 жыл бұрын
The unfaithful: What is it that you want to tell your partner? 1:09:32
@alexandria57583 жыл бұрын
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@hadriv15 жыл бұрын
Tim's question about marriage failing as an institution... I'd like to answer that
@marbowser7 жыл бұрын
What do you recommend for a 59 year o,d that sits all day at work?
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