Sharing my best relationship advice: online dating, conflict resolution, crushes, & more

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Wouldn't it be nice if we were all given a roadmap to perfectly successful & loving relationships! Unfortunately, the reality is that some of us don't have examples of strong, stable and fulfilling relationships to follow (especially in this age of online dating, breakups via text, and the like).
That's why today I wanted to give you some of the most important tips / advice for those of you who're looking for that special someone right now, based on my own experiences! For those of you already in relationships, I hope the tips give you some clarity over your relationship too. Also, the conflict resolution part at the end is helpful to everyone (even for non romantic relationships - it’s certainly something I'm working on incorporating for my other relationships as well.
🌿 t i m e s t a m p s 🌿
0:00 Let’s talk about love!
0:55 An important primer
2:25 Crushes & Dating!
3:06 About having a “Type”
4:05 The 3Cs of a Healthy Partnership
4:59 Fall in love w the person, not the potential
6:59 Show your interest (or lack of it)
8:26 Do people fear vulnerability?
9:33 My experience: meeting my current partner
10:48 Relationships!
10:55 Defining our incompatibility & deal-breakers
11:39 My experience: online dating
14:17 Conflict is normal!
15:13 Conflict resolution 101
15:27 Don’t be afraid to communicate issues early
15:49 “You & me” vs “the problem”
16:24 Understand how your partner deals w conflict
17:30 Don’t assume
18:09 Fight fair
18:36 Being mean vs being honest
19:00 Make “I feel” statements
19:45 Practice active listening
20:26 Don’t invalidate their needs
21:58 Only 1 of you gets heated at once
23:01 Don’t be afraid of conflict!
23:43 A very late disclaimer, lol
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🌿 a b o u t m e 🌿
Hello hello, I’m Vic, and I make content on post-grad life, adulting, self-care and personal growth. Come with me as we explore what finding balance, staying inspired, and living a meaningful and fulfilling life means to us x
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@jjrocksanduknowit 2 жыл бұрын

I can't wait! 😄😆✨

@victorialim 2 жыл бұрын

😆😆

@senga9 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for all these relatable vlogs and advices. As someone who is going through the same phase of life, some of these advices are helpful to me while others serve as timely reminders in these uncertain times. Also love how eloquent you are in your vlogs

@victorialim 2 жыл бұрын

you just graduated too? well then there will be many more relatable videos coming up then 😊and thank you so much for your kind words!!

@senga9 2 жыл бұрын

@@victorialim last year of uni ✌ But most of my concerns and worries are similar or even the same

@WillZhou Жыл бұрын

Hi Vic! I wanted to ask if you have ever heard of or used the Myers-Briggs types for personal growth? Though I had known about the test for a year and a half, when my friend taught me about each type's cognitive functions, modes of decision-making and thought-processing each of the 16 types uses in different quantities, they took my connection with others up seven notches because I finally understood their language. I would highly recommend using this personality test to strengthen your relationships! Please let me know what you think :) I absolutely love the wisdom you drop in every single one of your self growth videos. Every time I watch them, I can't help but nod my head in agreement with your wisdom. Thank you for making these!!

@chimedolkar1 2 жыл бұрын

yay!!! i watched full in one sitting✨ looooove it😭 realized we are kind of similar; vegan, loving long texts. much love💜

@victorialim 2 жыл бұрын

thank you for watching all the way through!! 💚 and yes, we do sound similar 😊 happy to have you here!

@HarryBalls-kb9yz 22 күн бұрын

Vegan = fkn pusseh psudeo douche

@malharbhende9019 2 жыл бұрын

21.36 imagine Vic replying with aww

@shreyasvyamajala7515 2 жыл бұрын

I guess it was like an important road map for someone looking to get into a relationship for the first time which is very helpful::::))))))

@kthv9678 2 жыл бұрын

I learned a loooot! ✨ I really love your channel 💜

@victorialim 2 жыл бұрын

thank youu 💚

@universe9049 2 жыл бұрын

❤lots of love to you ❤

@SAToomy 2 жыл бұрын

U are amazing it helps me a lot I like this topic I hope you do another chat video in car or cafe it’s very helpful

@victorialim 2 жыл бұрын

let me know if there's anything else relationship related you'd like me to talk about! :)

@SAToomy 2 жыл бұрын

@@victorialim about on side relationship about the difficult to talk about ur self to them like what hurts me what I don’t like I have been with friends who don’t call or talk to me I have to contact with them first I don’t why it’s like a deed relationship I gave up and start to get a new friend but I want to now if there is any hope the are nice some of them I had problems som time I think bc they a long time friend and bc I cuts them off and I get invited again to get back but they treat me with cold I now i should not go back but I don’t now what to do do I have to leave them or just don’t speak to them if they don’t it’s steel bothering me

@SAToomy 2 жыл бұрын

Sorry for the long letter u don’t have to talk about it or reply and sorry for my bad eng