The church is a family. Who throws a birthday party after losing three members of the family. What is there to celebrate? If she had lost her biological child would she had gone ahead with the party, and she is supposed to be a mother in the church. It's not about his financial contributions. It's about mourning with those who are mourning. What she did was very insensitive.

When that lady said "they did not break any law", does she know the ONE LAW Jesus gave? "Love the Lord your God....and Love your neighbor as yourself. Well, did the pastors demonstrate love towards God and their neighbors...the Wigwe family, by their senseless lavish display? Madam, that's the law they broke!

They broke the law of "Humanity and Emotional Intelligence." What they did amounts to "celebrating the catastrophe that befell the Wigwes and we should be Investigating why.

Abeg, this Amaka is not making good sense today, sorry

What Pastor Iluyomade and his wife did defies all decency and any rational explanation. This is insensitivity at his highest level. The Iluyomades have disgraced the Church. That party should have been cancelled outright. Amaka saying there's equality in the Catholic Church is far from the truth. Not all members of the Catholic Church are equal, and we know this to be a fact.

Nigeria mourned the Wiwges. A man, a woman, and a their son died, ladies, it was a sober period. Wiwge was important. Do not beef his memory. Wiwge impacted lives and livelihoods. The party was insensitive.

This Amaka is just capping in so many ways How can you be a leader and not lead by example

Sis all things are lawful but not all things are expedient. They did wrong sha.

This our Anty Mariam eeeh.....her wisdom, carriage and the way she calmly and gently says her thoughts. It's her calmness for me.

Our Amaka has shown she has no knowledge of scripture by her wild utterances! The word of God teaches us through his word, his statutes, his precepts as well as his laws & commandment. Any behavior or action, that does not align with God’s teachings is tantamount to breaking of the law! Madame Amaka needs to school herself on the Bible! We cherish opinions that are based on substantiated readings!!

Not just a matter of a benefactor dying. The flamboyant ceremony by a pastor’s wife is uncalled for. As a pastor’s spouse, you are a standard and a role model for alot of people. There should be moderation and decency in your conduct and actions.

63 years 😮 - Sister Yeni, you look good!

There are so many wrongs with what the pastor did....to start with, they lost Church members, they should be in a sober mood, then you bring flavour to perform that's just wrong.

Give honor to whom honor is due. He was a public figure and the loss was huge for the nation as a whole. For that reason the church as the spiritual family who lost their family members are the chief mourners and should sober.

Amaka is lying,in Catholic Church too,there are big big men who are given big man treatment.

Which one is wow. Let us stop playing ostrich with these issues. What it is, is what it is. It was wrong for the Iluyomades to have gone ahead to celebrate a lavish pagan ceremony

Am even shocked that it took this long to suspend Iluyomades. Listen and listen good people, Churches have become business centres. Humanity, sensitivity, care, compassion, sympathy have been thrown out of the windows. Their actions is disgraceful .

I don't know what Amaka is defending, there's no justification for what they did, it was her party and she had a right to decide what happens, and the committee would work with her.

I am disappointed at some of the comments from Amaka. Kudos to YK and others. Your views are not just about commentary but about objectivity optics sensitivity and decorum. As an insider, the ILUYOMADES are both egocentric insensitive and unrepentant and have messianic tendencies who think they are untouchable. What happened is a stain on the church, and for some of us, God waited patiently for them to even apologise openly and admit the error of their actions. The bible says, "Work out your faith with fear and trembling, and take heed for he who stands today may fall." The city of David belongs to RCCG and is not owned by the ILUYOMADES. It's not only about WIGWES death but about humility in service and serving others rather than self-service. A family is almost wiped out in a church, and you are celebrating a birthday anniversary in an outlandish way when you can just postpone in honour of the family. God help us.

Mariam your sense three much,on point....more strength n wisdom

I don’t have a problem with any church, na God know but I grew up catholic, and even when I was in the Catholic Church I did not like certain things members do. Amaka just said thank God I am catholic, what does that really mean. Na wa

They were wrong full stop! They should have cancelled the party which was very worldly anyway. And focus on the outreach only. The whole party was so worldly and full of arrogance!

Pastor Mariam, I hail you.

Amaka, your responses on this matter did not sync. The place of leadership is a place of responsibility. The church is not playing God but helping men to be better by them serving their punishment when they go wrong.

How many people are blaming them bcos he is their benefactor? As for me, even if it is the poorest active member of your church that died with his wife and son in such a tragic incident, the church and its leadership owe them that empathy not to hold such flamboyant celebration at that time. So it has nothing to do with being a benefactor. His being a benefactor only made the case worse for them.

Amala should think before responding. A man dies together with his wife and first son. If it is you Will you rejoice

Too late. Any apologies is like closing the stable door after the horse has bolted. Did anyone forget the opulence and extravagant display of glamour wealth and giddy laughter at the party??? Or Flavour belting out AGBA baller (for a pastor’s wife). Let them deal with the consequences although I will watch this space as House or City of David may turn out to be a different kettle of fish for RCCG to deal with.

Hmmm.... that is true ooo.... I experienced same when I lost my mum.... No one from my church was present. The church gave an excuse for not sending a delegate to attend the burial. Same place, a man with plenty money lost his mum...more than half of the church with coaster buses went for the event. May God help us... Salvation is an individual race. It is not by the amount of money you donate to the church.

This Amaka lady is not smart

YK asked a sensitive question if it was the pastor or his wife's brother or sister or even their child that had a tragic death would have gone on with the party?

4:45 Very rude of Tope! Thank you YK,there was absolutely no justification for that party!!!!

1 Peter 5:6: Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time.

That party should not have happened, at least not just yet. It was a show of ignorance and insensitivity at its peak; an absolute misrepresentation of christianity.

It's not my wish for anybody, but my question is if they lost 2 of their kids, suddenly in an accident, would that party still go on? Just thinking .

The issue of benefactor is not the issue. What is important is the fact that 3 souls were lost in a day. This could be anyone. The question is, if these people are the children of the lady could she have gone ahead with the party. By the way, do they need to throw any party at all. Should the party be held so flamboyantly. A Christian should be Christlike and always ask what would Jesus have done under the given situation. The answer seems obvious given the scenario given in the Bible where the parable of a shepherd who lost just one out of hundred left the Ninety nine and go after the lost one. God will help His church and direct us aright.

Insensitivity is a 'sin to humanity' on its own

This Pastor was not suspended, he was transferred

This light skin lady talking is just talking !!!!!

The fair lady's belief is far away from the two other ladies.... Its well.

This is really insensitive of them. If strangers empathize with the Wigwe's family with such tragedy and you went ahead to celebrate yourself few days later? As a pastor too? You should feel more for them because they are your congregation. A whole family almost perished leaving aged parents. Haba

That was not a decision affecting the church over which the pastor had no control but a personal birthday party of the wife of the pastor which they ought to have postponed. That Amaka lady is obviously biased. y

7:29 Thank you Miriam!!!! We would never have known if the church did not publicise it!!!

Romans 12:15 in the Bible says, "Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn". This verse is part of a passage that also includes instructions to live in harmony, not be proud, and associate with people of lower status. And Bible spoke about 40 days Did she wait for 40 days? Even if a person lost thier love ones it takes more more than a year,2 years and more. We can prospone birthdays now, We have to be an a good example to all,as a Christian. God help us. There suppose to be an apology,, That doesn't reduce us from anything, I pray they have learn from thier mistake, And receive God's grace and mercy.

It’s a bit strange how YK is cut off from making her points because ‘we need to move on’ but there is ample time to take calls from the public on the same issue.

To err is humain, May the spirits of the departed rest in perfect peace, I am also a beneficiary of this couple’s ministration though I’m not a member of Redeemed Church

YES!!! It was very necessary!

The caller "Joe" said it ALL, No Justification for the Action.

Good words from Mariam and YK!

Tope was not accommodating of YK. It’s obvious YK’s opinion was not welcomed.

Amaka why do you do after confession to your priest?

Mariam God Bless you o 👍👍👍

It is not an issue to have benefactors in church so far they are indeed God's children and not thieves. Barnabas was called a son of consolation by the Apostles, because he used his wealth to support the church. We must understand that the church is not just an organisation or building, it is a people of God. Recalled how Pastor Illuyomade praised Wigwe in the break of his death. Ps Illuyomade confessed from pulpit that Wigwe personally placed the choir on salary, gave scholarship to indigents but brilliant students and used his personal fund in hundreds of million naira to support different cause and people in the Church. Most people did not know that Lazarus that Jesus raised from the dead was a wealthy man who supported the ministry of Jesus. He was even called Jesus' friend. Lydia the purple dress seller was a benefactor to the church comprising many widows. It was on that strength, the widows had to send message to Peter, so he could come and raise her from the dead. The Centurion's plea to Jesus was supported by people as they said, he built them a synagogue. Based on that Jesus healed his daughter. So, there is nothing wrong for churches to have benefactors who are truly God's children. It is also important to note that the Albert Wigwe's father is an older pastor of RCCG. It is expected that emotional intelligence should guide the Iluyomade's We cannot rule out that the elaborate party with the kind of musician invited berates the modesty and sense of Christian ethics expected from a Pastor and his wife

I don’t B know any of Winges , I don’t step Rccc since 199 something but I always feel sad whenever I remember that day . I thank GOD for what He did to me that very day in which it makes me not to forget the day and the date in my life.How much more to be expecting from their /his Mr/Mrs Pastor that the family is more than a million in their lives/ church. The said family members are their members, friends, benefactors e.t. c. Abba they definitely deserved honourable memories.

This is not about Church programmes, but personal celebration that can be shifted....wigwe is not just a man but a great man that lost his life,wife and a son untimely.....that was a bad time to celebrate conspicuously.....Peter Obi had to cancel his trip to Nigeria Afcon final to honour him as a friend

“Thank God I’m catholic” na lack of objectivity Dey make Nigerians look unwise

Benefactor or not. The party was ill timed. If a poor member died with their family, it would still have been a wrong time to throw that party. I don’t know which church Ms Yeni is talking about. It’s not regular practice.

Amaka you are so ignorant, the church has checks and balances in every church, if you are a worker in any church and you do something wrong there are disciplinary actions that are taken, in all churches including the orthodox churches,

The laws of God are written on our hearts, not on tablets. As far as God is concerned, they broke many laws. Even the Bible says, “Mourn with those who mourn and rejoice with those who rejoice.” (Romans 12:15)

God bless you , this is not the matter of benefactor or not, but 3 members at once from the same family.

You are discussing with limited knowledge. Please discuss with good grasp of what has happened especially with Amaka giving different theories. Especially when you don't know what obtains in other churches. It is better to be well informed

This Amaka’s argument is bringing shame to the name Amaka! Her point is pointless

God holds people accountable for sin and requires repentance, forgiveness and restoration. People are also put in place of authority to reprimand evil and issue consequences to offenders for others to learn from. God bless you all richly!

All Animals are equal but some are more equal than the others!!!! That is what this situation is. If an usher had died, it wont raise dust!!!

In my Church everybody is equal

Thank you Mariam ❤

Your comments did not add up. The husband was the one who went to the altar to mention to the congregation what the man did for them.

Once you open your mouth, you reveal who you are. Amaka is prettier than her word, hence I perceive a great difference between her looks and her REAL person.

Its not the church that had the party its the celebrant

This whole thing happening is because the deceased person was a rich man. If it were to be a very influential servant in the church who was poor, you all in conjuction with that church would have been quoting Sirach chapter 38, verse 16-21. Read it and make your assessments again.

Have you guys considered that the Pastor could be part of the decision to suspend himself? The suspension couldn’t have come to him as a rude shock knowing his level of influence in the church! The probability that he is part of the decision and accepted the suspension is high..just to quiet people. Again, Who determine or give final approval for a member to be part of the church governing board? What is the bylaw of the church board Memeber’s as regard to discipline pastor(s)? “ am I making sense to you…” Why was he not transferred to another parish as a serious consequence? And what exactly is the gravity of the suspension? Will he lose salary or pastoral benefits? The suspension should be defined! The so called church board that suspended him, didn’t most or all of them attended the party? Were they suspended too? Thief dey judge arm robber…bunch of hypocrites.

I don't care if he was their benefactor ( whatever that means), going ahead with that party was in very bad taste, where was the empathy? Last week,a colleague of mine was retiring, before the day of retirement program, another colleague in the same school died. What did this lady do? She cancelled everything, no party, no pulling out parade, even though foods, drinks have been bought, in respect of our dealy departed noble colleague.

😅😅😅😅😂😂😂. Y. K IS always on point mi love her bluntness 🤣🤣🥰

Let us all forgive and move on. We are all thesame people. May the Lord heal the hearts of the people directly involved.

Even among the Stars, some are more Brighter than others.....Samuel told king Saul

its not about laws, its about emotions. most things we call sins are not crimes.

I see Tope and Amaka trying really hard to defend the church. A prominent person from among your church dies, not only him, his wife and son, and you go ahead to throw such a flamboyant party? How is that okay and how can you explain it away.? Also, they should stop pretending like people who give alot aren't treated better than those who give smaller amounts, that goes without saying, they may just try to balance it out but most churches would still acknowledge who brings in millions. For the fact that the Wigwe family didn't invite the church speaks about how they felt they were treated. I'm surprised Tope and Amaka are defending this. Some of the examples they are giving don't follow. The Pastor knew what she was doinf when she went ahead to throw that party, she knew there would be a backlash, she didn't just care.... Its tiring this whole conversation... Throw it away abeg! 😢

She should have postponed her birthday as a result of d Wigwe's family tragic death !

That is not true. Rich people sits in front and poor at the back not in church.

There are rules and regulations and penalties for flouting such in any community or religious bodies

My sister who told you that everybody is qulai in Roman Catholic my dear if you are not paying for anything In Catholic your name na oyo when you die

Tope has such a snobbish and entitled attitude. It’s becoming disgusting..!!

I love Tope's beautiful smile ❤😊

Please when will Christian’s speak with one voice ,l am catholic,l am protestant etc.In my 64 years as a Christian there are benefactors in all churches ,also there are no special seats for the high and mighty .

Just become an important person in society, and you will be deemed valuable, important and adored. Being average and poor is not a way to go….. if you are an average person, no one cares about you

Rccc is over flow that is the reading all things are happening there. It makes me remind me about a vision I had in Apostolic Faith Church around 1991 . In front of me I saw a tree but like a drum with it measures of the churches including CAC that they were overcrowded and busted. That day late Baba Soyinka preached on Spiritual Saboteurs . Let all of us live Christlikeness . HE is coming soon.

Where is the place of Husband at home when wife can not be advised or counselled?

What is the meaning of "thank God I am Catholic" by Amaka? So, what is less about the other churches? Really, in poor taste coming from this presenter.

I have experienced this in many churches. If you have no money, you don’t meet with the pastor right away. If you have big money, you get to meet ASAP! It’s not all churches though.

to top it, flavor was invited to sing, does he now sing praise and worship?

This family lost 3 members the same day without being sick😢. It's sad, we are human and there should be a sober moment for the entire congratulation.

If Wigwe was just an ordinary retched church worker’s and would the pastor & his wife be punished. What I disagree with is repetitive comments that his a church benefactor.

EMPATHY. May God help us have it

Madam Amaka, its not about the benefactor issue. As a Most senior pastor, even as as a Junior pastor even as a normal congregation member, 3 members of your parish died all of a sudden and it was a terrible blow to the nation, it was very wrong to have thrown a party. Even if they had postponed it twice, they can still postpone it as long as there is life they can do party later. It was insensitive of them.

Amaka lacks emotional intelligence and empathy.

Fundamental question, is birthday party even Christian?

The petty, bitter people, angry about everyone and everything. Keep your pettiness in your community or better still take it to your region.

What kind of talk is this? Is it chicken that died? Why are these women talking like this especially the Amaka and Yemi. A man, his wife and son died and within one week, the pastor and his wife were celebrating birthday party. Truly another person's loss is firewood to some people

But don’t let us judge . I believe they have learnt their lessons. Their transfer is biblical since they are called by GOD, JESUS says go ye to all nations Mt 28 vs 19. And if they want to leave let it be but be assured it’s of GOD leadership.

Noticed the anchor has stopped interrupting people. Kudos!!!

I can tell you that Wigwe was not the major "benefactor" of the church. He was a very influential person in the church...but there are other very very weights, even the Pastor ID himself...but Wigwe used his INFLUENCE as a bank CEO to reach the building goals of the church. Knowing Pastor ID and Siju, they must have had very many private moments of reflections and accept the posting...