thanks! 😂

“it was a lie! it was all a lie, they lied!” 😂😂😂

BOOM!!! 👏🏽

it doesnt need added oils, thats what shampoo and conditioner are for, as well as the oils from your scalp, which is constantly producing oil. for skin you use products that are water based to retain moisture bc water attracts water, which means moisture. and i never said you only spray water in your hair - i dont only do that, i use botanical gels to style my hair when i come out the shower on wash day. the reason yall think like that is bc the natural hair industry misled yall into thinking that moisture comes from a product. it doesnt. btw, hair IS protein. you likely don’t need more of it.

@@sigh_yuri If you bleach your hair you do need to replenish and strengthen the protein bonds, it’s not all a conspiracy lol if you think these botanical gels are moisturizing enough for your hair long term you will constantly be stuck in the cycle of dehydrating and damaging your hair. There’s a reason why the girls who excessively wash their hair, put it up under the dryer and only use gels, have constant split ends, which is the cause of excessive tangling which leads to having to go back to your curl specialists that end up cutting your hair every 4 months. Then you’re back to square one. This method hinders length retention. I have yet to see anyone from this method have long healthy hair. The proof should be in the pudding….I suggest watching channels: Razorempress, joy-el, Afrikan hairgod and crownofglory to reference how to properly moisturize and maintain the length of Type 4 hair.

@@missnicolemarleyI learned the hard way too. I’m definitely going the butter it up, then twist it up route this time once I grow out of my TWA. I’m probably going to blow out my hair on cool first too. The more I can do to keep it stretched and decrease tangling the better.

I avoided the "community" long ago. The writing has been written in graffiti tags, calligraphy, Klingon and other ways for a few decades now. All of that anxiety for nothing.

aww thank you 🥰

Exactly. A lot of people (black women) hate their natural hair and it's sad.

Ancient Africans knew how to take care of their. This "anti-stretch" liberation comes from trying to combat eurocentrism but stretching in the form of braids locs twists and threading has existed for thousands of years before that. Wearing the hair unstyled or unkkempt in some peoples cases (because we have a bad habit of neglect) is not the ultimate symbol of black pride. These anti-stretch girls really want us to walk around with 2 inches of hair on our head to validate their "pride" There are black people with hair 2x the size of their body because they love it and take care of it. Locs twists braids and threading are black styles designed to maintain/retain hair as well as a form of expression and identity. How is doing black styles= self hate?. This girl makes valid points but leaves out the reasons why many black women feel uncomfortable with their hair. There a lot of women who hide from their texture at all costs but can you really sit up on your high horse and blame them? As black women we get judged 10x harder for existing and have to endure racism and conditioning over our hair. You're leaving out the obvious reason many of us don't want to see our hair and it's the texturism + racism we receive from it. Being denied jobs, having people think you're homeless, made to feel less feminine, treated poorly etc..... We can't stop our obsession with comparing our hair care practices to other textures. We want to be like the girls who "don't have to do anything" to their hair. Those girls still have to maintain and take care of their straight/wavy hair. Our texture is tangle-prone and is more difficult to keep moisturized due to its parallel growth. Sebum can't travel upwards with our hair so our routines revolve around stretch, moisturize and protective style to prevent breakage. It has nothing do with not wanting to see it and everything to do with wanting to take care of it. Different textures require different routines. Black women are women too and most women desire traits that are deemed feminine. Why are we being demonized for wanting to grow it out? Ya'll are not happy until we are all bald and rocking fades or super short hair. The new generation of black women are disconnected from that past due to years of colonization and programmed self hate to the point where we believe long hair is not in our DNA and it's eurocentric to take care, maintain, and grow it out. Stretching is not self-hate it is maintenance

i also used to get criticism for it!

Girl!!! Tell me about it 😭

I agree, believe it or not curly hair tangles easier. It’s a fact. Protective styles are stretched states that will prevent tangles and knots therefore retaining length. BUT alot of protective styles we see today are marketed as such but are NOT. I saw a guy say a protective style must protect your edges, ends and roots. Alot of these extremely long braids from extensions are pulling at the roots and removing weak, finer edge strands… how is this protective exactly?? Who told us this lie?? People want to grow their hair but their hair never takes a break. From braids to braids, being straightened etc. Some stylist are also really heavy handed and remove hair manually.. 7:40

Also the longer your hair, lets say you have waist length hair, means that its harder to go along with the defining process of the hair using a ton of gels, raking through, defining. Having a braid out or a twist out is okay… doesn’t mean you hate your hair. It just means its stretched, wont tangle and knot as much, saving you time on your wash day and retains length.

gurrrrrrl you and me both!! i still got a few thats for usses but thats purely cuz of the product itself, not bc its black owned. i WISH black owned guaranteed good formulation, but it makes me feel better that most of the stuff becky an nem can snatch off the shelf at walmart are also trash, i dont put those in my hair either 🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️

The only one I found that works is Mizani. It’s all just marketing though.

I'm doing the same thing. I switched back to good ole herbal essence shampoo. The natural hair ones had too much hair falling out when shampooing. I just bought some regular curl activator and gel to make some patterns come thru. Tired of spending $25 a bottle on products.

don't get stuck on natural

@@Ms_Introvert_4_Life I use Function of Beauty, which I only found out today is sold at Target. The coily hair shampoo was $10

a word!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Thank you so much!!

I think protective styles stop becoming protective styles when it's causing pain, ripping/pulling the hair and causing it pain, and is causing tension on edges and worn WAY too long (past whatever your hair can handle). Overall, I think protective styles are great and actually work. Coils have been my go to protective style and it's beautiful, twists too, but coils are my favorite. It's all about how you use it and if you're doing it properly. After that, it can really help the hair grow especially against tangles and breakage. In fact, I feel it helps the hair grow without any obstacles (also depending on your area/climate.) Not everyone needs protective styles to grow hair, but doing them, will definitely help it grow at the same time.

that’s awesome to hear mama 🥹♥️

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you say this like i came to your house and snatched your prepoo routine out of your hands. wdym “let,” i didnt order you to do anything, if you dont wanna do it than don’t. and “not everyone is the same” is a defense mechanism - nobody complains when the natural hair community gives their “advice.” you don’t have to be me, although im not sure what makes my hair so “different” from yalls

You said ‘pre pooing does not prevent shedding’. Which is false. People complain when the information is false. Your hair is short. And you want to keep it that way, other people grow their hair and want stronger strands to retain that length. Thats what’s different.

​@@hushdolll5112 Got em

proper detangling fixes extreme tangles without stretching. curly hair will tangle. that’s what it does. stretching ruins elasticity and compromises hair health.

As soon as my TWA gets long enough to start tangling, I’m going to stretch it before styling. My number one goal is to mitigate tangles this time. I don’t think stretching our hair when it’s wet ruins our elasticity. We’re just reforming the hydrogen bonds. I got my hair blowdried and styled regularly as a kid and my curls never went anywhere.

@@sigh_yuri by stretching I mean putting your hair especially the ends in some braids or twists or putting the hair in a bun

Glad it was helpful!

Thanks for watching!

that’s different bc the stretching serves a purpose for the style 🙌🏽

i am not. moisture is the prolonged presence of hydration. both come from water. who is confused is the natural hair industry’s consumers as a result of their deceptive marketing. in every other discipline moisture is understood to be water. think abt what it means when someone tells you smth is moist or when the weatherman says there’s moisture in the air.

Both come from water but water alone will not work Other things such as oil, aloe etc prolongs the moisture

@@sigh_yuri.....you are when you say "leave in conditioners aren't moisturizing our hair water is." water is what hydrates our hair, dealing with the inner layers (the cortex/medulla.) Moisturizers (conditioners) deal with the outer layers of the hair (the cuticle) and help retain the hydration in the inner layers of the shaft.

Oil does not moisturize. Oil is a barrier to moisture

oh no those weren’t pro singing lessons, my friend’s uni was having a cultural showcase and asked me to be a part of it, so i was just there for rehearsal for the song

yaaaay that’s the goal!! you’ll get there, i promise!!!

i will never regret learning how to take care of my hair.

yeah it does. thats how you moisturize it. it just doesnt have to stay like that.

@sigh_yuri soaked completed saturated and dripping wet...

Yes, it absolutely does

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devacurl lol

i mean anything the natural hair community calls protective styles, as in styles that we “have to do to protect our hair.” in other words, styles that don’t leave our hair “just out.”

i got a wash video coming out soon 🙏🏽

thats overwashing. i wash twice a week.

I've washed it daily. It hurts nothing. I don't do it because it takes so long to dry because it's long and thick

its def coming!!!

i’ll keep that in mind for future videos 🫶🏽