There was a time in high school where all I wanted was to be kissed, but after a while I just realized that it would cause emotional attachment and decided to wait. I actually wanted to wait until marriage to have my first kiss, but the idea of doing that in front of a bunch of people is somewhat terrifying, so now I'm thinking I'll either stick with that or wait until I get engaged, but I trust that'll be a conversation between my future hubs and I!

I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and we're waiting until marriage to have sex but I do think it's kind of silly to wait until marriage to kiss. It's really easy for us to stop ourselves before things get too out of hand. But I guess not everyone has that control. We did set very important boundaries before we ever kissed so I think that helped a lot.

Having remorse the rest of my life over kissing someone... sorry what?

This really rubs me wrong, my husband and I dated for 4 years before we got married we kissed made out whatever you want to call it for those four years and not once did we have sex until our wedding night, so saying that it just doesn’t work like that just simply isn’t true. You and your partner have to be on that same understanding and level. I don’t think all Christians should be put under one umbrella 🤔

I totally respect people who choose to wait to kiss until marriage, but I definitely don't think it's necessary. I was JUST 16 when I started dating the man I've been with now for over 3 years and will marry. We waited a month to kiss, until we were really sure that what we had was special and real.

My hubby and I saved our first kiss at our wedding ceremony and we never regret the decision we made. We totally agree on the progression and that’s exactly our concern, we also wanna flee from temptation of premarital sex and save more for our marriage life. Glad to hear other Christian couples pursuing the same direction :)) May the videos you made give insights and wisdom to the youths who need guidance and examples on relationship! Bless you two :))

Kissing is not necessarily sexual. I've had makeout sessions that were completely out of the emotions that I had for that person and not lust. It's a way to express your adoration for them. I can't imagine not kissing someone passionately before marriage and then going straight to full on sex the day of. It's not natural. And not kissing because it might cause more heartache after a breakup? Grow up! Heart breaks are part of being human. If you're constantly guarding yourself that much, you're gonna have no idea how to handle a bad heartbreak when you have no control over it. This video is full of judgmental opinions. No one loses their value or worth as a person or a spouse by how many people they've kissed!

Being hurt by your boyfriend having kissed someone before they even knew you is a weird construct to me. Seems like insecurity to me.

I am so grateful for this helpful advice. As a Christian 26 year old woman to be a virgin and still never kissing a guy before I’ve been seen as a bit odd. But I always felt that that was a connection that you should feel with someone you love and the one you want to marry. It’s nice finding someone in this generation that believes that.

next time maybe use some scripture or biblical context to back up your claims and beliefs....

Thank you guys for uploading content like this. As a young 17-year-old girl coming out of a very secular and God-denying relationship, It's so great to have people like you on social media to keep me encouraged and excited for the greater plan that God has in store for me - in a future lasting relationship and in my relationship with God. It's a scary and crazy world that we live in, today...yet how uplifting it is to stumble across people like you! :)

"I don't want to know she's kissed numerous guys. Like, that hurts me." It's one thing to say you want to save kissing as a special connection with someone; it's quite another to claim you're actually 'hurt' by the thought of a woman kissing people before she kissed you. It's just being melodramatic and it's the start of the slippery slope to 'Biblical womanhood' and the notion that it's women's fault when men's lustful thoughts turn into bad actions. I wish Christians would spend more time making videos about stuff that's REALLY hurtful, like child poverty, and systemic racism and the sexual abuse in the Quiverfull movement. That stuff REALLY hurts people - most of them children.

This video just affirmed my decision (that I made in high school, now 23) to save my first kiss for my wedding day. And I have to believe that a guy who will respect my decision is out there.

When I was a teenager, I thought it was crazy! But as I got older, God and relationships showed me this is just real WISDOM! I want to wait til my wedding day to kiss my future husband

I THINK YALL DID IT A PERFECT WAY!!! I would want my guy to commit before I let the relationship get deeper. And y’all are so right after kissing it progresses faster and it gets harder to resist so when the right one comes I think it is such a good idea to wait till engagement to kiss so that you ensure he wants you for your heart and to ensure that the relationship is built on Christ alone that he is the foundation. So important and so cool that y’all did that. When I am old enough I hope my boyfriend will wait to kiss me!

You guys should make a video about how to deal with sexual regret! Just another hot topic.

Thank you for filming this! Whenever I've thought about kissing in a relationship, I never took it very seriously. You guys had a lot of really solid points, and reasons to wait in an effort to keep kissing special and for the right person. I really appreciate your honesty and boldness, particularly in your reminder that we are not as strong as we think. I totally had that mindset with basically every aspect in dating, and didn't even realize how naive I was until watching this. So, thank you. I'll remember this. :)

I'm saving my first kiss for my husband. I've been in a previous relationship where we reached engagement, so I'm glad we went that extra step of saving it until marriage, because that guy is not my husband now.

Waiting to kiss until your wedding day is ideal. Not everyone is convicted to wait til marriage to kiss. But, kissing your one and only love on that special day sounds magical and meaningful.

I want to save my first kiss for marriage. I’m 19 and everyone thinks I’m crazy, but I believe God intended all of that to be shared only with your husband...

At first, I thought this question was ridiculous and just weird. But after listening to what you two were saying, I have a change of heart. I don't know that I'll save kissing until I'm engaged to someone, but it might be worth considering.

I will never feel comfortable about the whole ‘asking for your father/parents permission’ to marry someone. It feels really possessive and unhealthy to me, like your body and life belongs to your parents, not yourself. The same goes with ‘I didn’t want my future wife to have kissed any one else.’ It’s like someone is ‘tainted’ or something because they aren’t ‘all for you’ which honestly again, sounds sooo possessive. Isn’t it amazing enough that someone proclaims their love for you and wants to commit to marriage and spending your lives together? I feel like judging someone’s past is the most unchristian thing ever. I don’t judge anyone for saving intimacy or anything for marriage, every relationship is different, just the whole possessive aspect of a few of your points really disturb me.

Liked hearing your all’s perspective on this. I think even a simple touch can arouse someone! I guess you can never be too careful. I still have my virgin lips and hope to keep them that way for the guy I marry:)

Woww, I didnt knew you guys before but everything is touching my heart soo deep!! Its amazing that a young couple like you have so amazing and godly standards AND that you share those!! God bless you ❤️❤️ Oh and youre already invited to my wedding whenever that will be!! 😜

When it comes to physical contact like this, I'm pretty sure we all have different perspectives, but from all the comments I've read, I think most of them misunderstood this video. This video is not SHOVING-OFF-down-your-throat that kissing is bad. This is them, sharing their journeys of discernment between their relationship and God. They shared it because they care to those people out there who's looking directions on the path of being pure as woman/man. This is a pretty serious video and you both lead me to be more cautious and pure. Praise God for you both!

Hi Guys!! Thanks so much for this video. This is a great topic to discuss and I also feel more people should talk about these relationship issues. I've been married for almost two years now and both my husband and I decided to save our first kiss for our wedding day. This seemed crazy at first, but now looking back, I am so grateful that we saved EVERYTHING for marriage. I will never take it back. As you mentioned in the video kissing is not such a bid deal, BUT it does lead to bigger things making it very difficult to completely stay pure and wait for marriage. I so agree with your video, but can also testify of the great reward God gives when you safe everything, even kissing, for marriage.

I probably wouldn't wait for marriage with just kissing, BUT I definitely think you should wait a certain time to kiss your boyfriend/girlfriend until you know you are ready for it and comfortable enough with that person.

I totally agree! I am in high school right now and made the decision to save my first kiss for my wedding day last year. Like I said, I am in high school so it can be hard at times waiting to date/court while seeing all my friends dating and stuff, but God always reminds me that He has a special man out there for me and it is worth waiting!

In my experience, i have 5 cousins who are all christians. the worst marriage that has no love and no respect is the one where they didn't kiss or even touch until their wedding. they had no chemistry, no connection. it feels like they don't even know each other. this mentality absolutely isn't for me

Paul I respect you for keeping your standards. You're inspiring me. Keep running the race. Morgan thank you for being supportive and willing to learn and understand your 'other half' (even if at first your did not understand). Being tolerant and willing to learn from each other takes away selfishness and conceit and open the door to 'oneness' (of mind) which shows unconditional love. That is because we have to love and accept people for what they choose to be even if we do not agree will all they say or do. May the Lord continue to bless your relationship and your channel and all your endeavors. We are having fun and laughing 'cause you guys are hilarious in your videos but the work that you do helps a lot of people who tune (in including myself). Stay woke

I personally don't think Kissing before marriage is a big deal. But SEX before Marriage is nothing but wickedness. And nastiness.

When Paul was kissing his hands and Morgan was like 😯 oh woah 🤣🤣🤣

Im soooo glad I found you two because I’ve always wanted to talk to my parents and sisters about this kind of stuff, but I was too embarrassed hahaaa thanks sooo much for making videos like this!!! God has truly blessed you guys!!! Sending luv ❤️❤️

This video is full of wisdom, and I can see that you both fully believe it. It is true, once you kiss someone, there is that line that you cross. Once over it you aren't able to go back to the light feeling and friend stage, especially if you do not have a close friendship yet. It's harder to get to know someone once you are involved physically because naturally, that is all your bodies want to do. It's in our DNA, so that is very wise. Thank you for being real. God bless you both, love watching your channel :)

yall give me so much hope. THANK YOU. I admire you deeeeply

Kissing, hugging, prolonged eye contact, and other gestures are all signs of intimacy, connection, and soul ties. In my case, not doing them does not seem to make a great deal of difference, as the emotional connection is still there. However, if things do not work out, not only is there immense heartbreak over that person no longer being there, but now there are memories to contend with. That is pain I would not wish on anyone. Thank you for shedding light on this topic.

Personally, I'm a Christian woman and know that I am just as strong as I think if I have the Lord's strength on my side. I was in a situation back in high school where we were kissing and we could have gone all the way if we both wanted to since we were alone. I stopped him when he tried to take some clothes off and I explained that it wasn't that I didn't find him attractive (because it's important that your partner knows that you're attracted to them), but that I wasn't ready to go forward. He was 100% respectful of where I was coming from. Looking back, if he wasn't ok with the fact that I wasn't ready, it would have lead to us breaking up. To this day, I don't regret waiting and I still am waiting for marriage. That said, I don't think that kissing always has to lead to sex. It's up to you to make your intentions known.

To each his own but I couldn't wait until marriage for a kiss. I crave that kind of intimacy. Without it my boyfriend would feel like he's just a friend. Besides, the bible doesn't even say abstain from kissing until you're married, and it doesn't say you'll be heart broken after breaking up because you kissed. It's sex that creates soul ties, not kissing.....

Hey Fam! What do you think? Not a big deal or wait to kiss? 😊

There is definitely wisdom to what you are saying. I come from a very, very conservative background where we aren't allowed to sit next to or touch guys who aren't related to us or aren't our husband. Being very sensitive, I totally understand how any little touch can excite a courting couple and can easily lead to something more. Understanding this, I totally agree that these things should be avoided until marriage. People think it's crazy, but you're staying separate in order to keep pure and please G-d.

"I thought i was strong enough to stop at just a mwah" I feel you... i didn't know i was as weak as I am until the past few months, and I'm enjoying your videos a lot

I always love your videos but this was particularly good. You're right, we're not as strong as we think. I've made mistakes in this respect that I regret. So yeah, good advice P + M !

It’s so good to hear that another couple agrees with me. I’ve had plenty of people laugh at me because of the thought of not kissing. But because of my past dating experience, I want to be able to keep myself pure for my husband. Thank you very much for making this video!

Yasss PREACH!!! Just found ya'll and love your channel!

Just found y’all’s youtube and I love your content! I’ve been a Christian all of my life and have never thought about waiting to kiss until you’re engaged or almost engaged! But I’m thankful you guys addressed the issue!! It definitely made me think about how I want to walk into a future relationship!

I don’t care what everyone else is saying in the comments. People don’t like to hear the truth, especially when it goes against how they’ve been living. Paul and Morgan, you guys are such an inspiration and you’re absolutely right. God bless you both!!! ❤️❤️

That's so true. Well but speaking from a guy breaking up after kissing still does cause some heart ache. Guys let's be honest😋😂😂. Its true. I dated a girl for a week and we kissed on our second date. To this day I wish I wouldn't have done that. Cause that caused a lot of problems when we broke up. But ya definitely I agree. Great video!! Keep up the good work.

u guys need to make a video on communicate skills cause i never met a guy so honest about his feelings n sharing it lengthy

This brings a even deeper conviction to my beliefs! I love you guys!!

You guys are amazing :D thank you for speaking the truth. I really enjoy your videos! Be blessed and continue being a blessing for (young) people :) greetings from Switzerland

I feel like it's less about heartbreak although that does factor into it. I think it's about being pure and saving kissing and sex for marriage so it is only with the one person you will marry. And I think it should wait until marriage itself bc it's more special and bc in case something happens between you before you get married, you won't have kissed someone you're not married to. If that makes sense lolol

Okay- It is VERY TRUE that kissing accelerates the emotional and physical affection towards both parties!!! When i asked my mom how she didn't see certain traits (she doesn't like in my dad)before marrying him, she said he didn't behave that way when they were dating. That got me thinking, if we're doing physical stuff and it accelerates things between us, i am going to be blindsided by the red flags that would have popped up if i was taking the time to study you. Again, its a personal choice, but that's why we have the Bible to guide us and people like Paul and Morgan to inspire us with their stories!!❤

Yeah, I think that you're crazy 'cause nowadays, nobody wants to hear something like this, and believe, I really admire you. You are brave enough to obey God and to teach to the Youth to wait. I'm 16 and I agree with all those things. My friends are trying to find me a boyfriend. 😂😂😂 but I really wanna wait, God's purpose is perfect, even if the World says that it's alright... we need more people that talk about it, and say «Hey, World, Hey, Culture, maybe you're not right». It challenges us to wait, Thanks! (Writing from Colombia 💛💙❤, God bless you!)

Loved all the honesty in this video, guys, and the way you emphasized that the physical progression is something that's God-given and so isn't sinful; what's sinful is when the progression is happening outside of God's boundaries (now I'm just gonna start using "progression" in my everyday speech to talk about this kinda stuff and no one's gonna understand what I'm saying hahaha) I completely agree with you guys!! Kristen from Girl Defined made a good point when she said that she waited to kiss her husband instead of kissing other guys she'd just dated because she didn't want to compare their kisses to his and I thought that was a really good point as well.

God bless you! I am so grateful for you guys! And so blessed that my precious daughter, who is a freshman in college, is the one who pointed you out to me! I have believe in this ever since I was saved in 1996, and am always cheered when the message is reinforced; especially by such an attractive, young, couple like you two! So grateful my message got through to my kids! Again, God bless you!!!!

Always love watching your videos. I never thought of kissing as a big deal, but I think it would be wise to think about who your kissing before you do. What if you dont want to kiss them and they do? Then don't kiss them. I've been in relationships where I felt I had to to make them happy. I finally came to terms that I need to stop doing that and if I don't feel like doing that then I won't. But I do see a lot of wisdom to it too.

Thank you so much for posting this video!!! Sometimes with the world around you it's hard to stick to the rules I've made for myself. And while I'm not dating/courting anyone yet, I really want to save myself for my future husband.

But honestly. Everything they said is actually so right. Thanks so much for this video & channel!

Morgan, were on earth did you find a guy like Paul??!!! You guys are so awesome... I love your videos and this is so trueeeee!! 😭😭 I love you all!! 💞

Absolutely wise guys that how it be when in a relationship is to wait for when the time is right to do things such as kissing amen thank you guys have an awesome day

I am 16 year old Christian and I have never been kissed and have never had a boyfriend. My friends I hang out with at school have had their first kiss and have lost their virginity (non-Christian school). My friends at school know that I am set in my ways, and that I wont have my first kiss till I have met the one and that I wont lose my virginity till marriage. i am torn between two worlds as i feel pressured to do those things. Can someone please help me and give me guidance?

“...know that she’s kissed numerous guys...” wow. You guys are so awesome and i love your channel but you also make me feel horrible about myself for things that I’ve done. No ones perfect. Hugging and kissing isn’t wrong. Sorry just had to put that out there!

Am I the only one who thinks caring about how many people your girlfriend has kissed when she chose to date you and not kiss other people while dating you is creepy and sexist.

One correction it's not 2nd base it's 1st base. 2nd base is quite a bit more.

Agree with you Paul and Morgan. Great value you share, keep it up.

I'm not even or haven't been in a relationship yet. I have thought about the idea off and on for a few years and then I started thinking more about it like a month ago. Its so nice to hear your guy's points of view. I had never even thought about waiting untill your engaged,that is a good idea! Because I always never wanted to have my first kiss in front of a bunch of people................ awkward!

How do you think my boyfriend would react if i didn't kiss him anymore? hmmm.

Just found y’all. Loving it, it’s like water in the desert.... and then it’s hurtful at times to watch. I think feeling hurt from a woman’s past (that she kissed a lot of men) is a little bigger of a flaw as a Christian than whether you wait to kiss her as your fiancé. Yeah, you can’t help but be hurt by her past (if it’s something that bothers you), but gosh the focus is so twisted. You highlight your discomfort as if you’re more concerned with whether you kiss her as your fiancé than whether you can let go of her past before she met you? What is Christianity all about again? I’m a single mom, and I’m starting to feel like if I take your advice... which I have been for years since this is what the Church teaches... all this time I’ve been taking advice from men who wouldn’t even date me whether I am living like this now or not... because of my past. ??? I think you should make your channel more clear as being one for Christians with relatively squeaky clean pasts.

Good job guys totally agree! God bless!

What about dating for 5 months of dating, would you guys say that could be an acceptable timeline?

Loved this video. My parents didn't kiss until they got engaged so I understand. You guys do a great job

I'm just curious to see if your opinions change if you separate or divorce your spouse? Does this still apply if one chooses to get married more than once? Does anything have any thoughts on this?

There is serious wisdom with this. Great vid ya'll!

0:46-0:54 The part where you talk about butterflies flying out of your mouth and you roll the hen's morning crows just left me dead😂😂😂😂😂 omg i love your videos so much!!!!!! Ok, back to the actual video as i haven't finished watching it☺😂😂😂

i completely agree but what if you're in high school and don't plan on getting married till after college? any advise for having to stay pure for literally several years?? we can't get married anytime soon, but wish we could. please help!!!!!

I love watching yalls video and knowing that im not the onky one that thinks this way the coming to the comment section and realising there are so many other people who are on the same page too.

How do you talk about boundaries like this with your boyfriend tho? Like I feel like if you talked to your partner about this and they didn't have sexual thoughts about kissing and hugging then, they definitely would after the talk... so how would you go about that? Bc it's definitely a conversation I would like to have

Seriously appreciating your videos guys! Cheers to new boundaries! :)

Ughhhhhhh i wanna cry! Thank you guys so much for your channel..this video alone has helped me so much. I really struggle with being easily sexual with guys and ive been wanting to stop everything with guys to hold out for my husband. This is so reassuring

GOD convicted me years ago to have my first kiss at the Altar when I say I DO! This is so refreshing to see how devoted you are to live a godly lifestyle. It’s almost a lost art these days. Plus you guys a SUPER Funny!! God bless you

Thank you!!! This is raw...love it💜

What advice would you guys have for people who’ve already crossed he line, but wanna create those boundaries again and start anew ?

Ok compared to you both I’m an “old or older generation” but I gotta say I love this video. Waiting to (fill in the blank) until marriage is a thing of the past. It’s so sad. I read the “ideal” number of sexual partners before marriage is 12????? That’s more then a soccer, football and baseball team. I believe it’s always better to wait for EVERYTHING including kissing and hugs.

I most definitely agree with you guys. As someone who has been there and failed dismally I agree and wish I had head this sooner.

Oh I understand what you're saying. But do you think kissing is ok without progression with someone you're dating?

I generally agree, if not completely too, with what you two said. I see no problem with a peck on the cheek with someone you're engaged with. I heard a speaker talk about this. Absolutely I see no problem with the kisses and sex in marriage, and The Song of Solomon certainly recommends it! Withholding is for releasing, and if someone's not withheld, and won't, what is there to give?! I feel that long engagements--to be sure--are a temptation and a waste of time, too. If you know you know!

LOL that ending with the “butterflies flying out of your mouth! *incoherent high pitched noise*”

Hi! I’m new here! And can I just say wow, you guys are goals and you guys give me hope and joy ❤️

I guess that there is so much wisdom in that !! I congratulations

Paul you give me hope that men like you still exist. I'll wait on God for man of God.

it'd be super great if you could not perpetuate the nonsensical idea that women are just SO emotional that if they kissed someone and then ended it one week later that that would just be SO devastating to them while the guy walks away feeling nothing. it's ridiculous to think like that and it's honestly insulting to women to act like we're that weak. it's also toxic to guys because you're continuing to perpetuate this idea that men don't have feelings or shouldn't. men and women are honestly not that different when it comes to emotions and mood swings. the only difference is that people like you continue to push this idea that women are fragile and emotional while men are tough and untouched by emotion. the difference is in our perception, not reality. also, if you're in a relationship with someone, you should feel comfortable with them. you should feel emotionally connected to them. that's not a bad thing. those things don't HAVE to lead to sex if you want to wait till marriage. finally, I don't know you guys and I've honestly only seen a couple of videos of yours. but from what I've seen, it already seems like paul has straight up brainwashed morgan into his stricter beliefs. morgan was more lenient in a lot of ways till paul came along. like okay...I just really hope that isn't the case because that's messed up. it also is crazy to think no one has any self control. if you want to wait till marriage to have sex..you 100% can kiss someone and not have it go further. I can't relate because under no circumstance was I waiting till marriage. but don't act like humans are wild animals with no self control. clearly morgan understood that it can be done..until paul told her otherwise. see what I mean about the brainwashing 🙄

How do y'all feel about hand holding and just small amounts of physical touch because physical touch is my first love language and it's just how I feel affection, so where is the middle man?

i think its very wise to wait to kiss until marriage. It is definitely a gateway into other things and just makes things more intense so if you are wanting to pursue marriage with that person waiting for those things will not be a big deal at all.

Again, such an amazing video - kissing before marriage can lead to other things that can push us further away from God. Thumbs up to this video!!

People are so horrible with these comments, like honestly. U guys are awesome and true Christians, not caring about what the world thinks.👊💯🔥

I love what you’re saying here and I agree with it but i feel like I won’t be able to not kiss my future boyfriend. Any tips cuz even now, being the romantic I am, I kinda want my first kiss

Me and my girl French kiss a lot, we don’t fall into sin at all.

just started watching u guys today and am in love with u both. U guys are amazing, and Morgan ur so beautiful

I'm bothered by the fact that the lady would sometimes be in a position where the horn on the background would be exactly at her back. And it looks like she has horns 😱😱😱

I never thought about it that way. I haven’t kissed any guy yet and I don’t think it’s going to happen any time soon. Thanks for the advice!