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Signs You're Trans Bro // FTM

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Mike Duss

Mike Duss

Күн бұрын

Just a few overlooked signs that might have helped 4 years of depression......lets not dwell though!
Have a good one!
Shout out to Mack for being chill af
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@bobtreduis2737
@bobtreduis2737 3 жыл бұрын
Me: “I’m not trans... I just wanna look like a guy, and sound like a guy, I don’t like being addressed as a girl, I like that my chest is flat, I have dysphoria but like I’m not trans, I just use male names for all my accounts and- W A I T . . . “
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Legit
@bobtreduis2737
@bobtreduis2737 3 жыл бұрын
@@MichaelDussault magic, I tried to post this comment like 4 times and the app kept giving me an error so I didn’t even think it posted lmao.
@zvoid_error000
@zvoid_error000 3 жыл бұрын
Mood
@amyrichards6060
@amyrichards6060 3 жыл бұрын
You just explained me
@Idkwhatshappening_
@Idkwhatshappening_ 3 жыл бұрын
I related to this a lot-
@sebpidge8389
@sebpidge8389 4 жыл бұрын
I’m very feminine but I hate others calling me by she/her and seeing me as a female. What I thought was oh “I’m not trans because I still like skirts and dresses” Which is wrong clothing has no gender, what clothes you wear or makeup or shoes don’t define your gender Remember that and wear what you want Male female or binary
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 4 жыл бұрын
PREACH! Wear whatever the hell makes you comfortable. Do not put others comfort above your own
@aldenheterodyne2833
@aldenheterodyne2833 3 жыл бұрын
I keep wanting to be a femboy. Like... Clearly, visibly a guy, but still wearing skirts. And other trans people are like, "but... Why? Why wouldn't you just be content to be a girl?" And I'm like: I'M A MAN BUT I WANT TO WEAR SKIRTS AND DRESSES TOO WHY IS THAT SO HARD TO UNDERSTAND!?! Like, you don't question why drag queens want to wear skirts and stuff! So why are y'all up my ass about this? Ugh. I really liked skirts as a kid, but then I went through a "boy phase" which 'ended' when my mom insisted that I wear 'nice clothes' to school. And then I was super uncomfortable with my appearance and I thought it was because I thought I looked like a middle-aged man in bad drag and it turns out THERE WAS A REASON FOR THAT. (the 'middle age' part of it was just being fat)
@karen5916
@karen5916 3 жыл бұрын
SAME OMG! I'm a very feminine person, but I'm definitely not a girl. I use he/they pronouns and am genderfluid. I wear clothes from Romwe and like makeup. But I still feel euphoric when someone calls me 'he' or 'dude'. One can be a feminine trans male (or trans masculine.). Clothes, makeup, hair, and anything like that don't define gender. The inside does :)
@lifethroughmylens8506
@lifethroughmylens8506 2 жыл бұрын
I’m trans masc but damn some days I just wanna wear a damn pinafore dress coz they’re comfy!
@princy2979
@princy2979 4 жыл бұрын
I was 13 when I realized I was a man . I was so afraid that I was too old to realize it because I was a teenager. Let me just say your never too old to realize who you are
@shrekchan7686
@shrekchan7686 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
facts!
@DEMOMANGUH
@DEMOMANGUH 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks! I'm 12 and I figured that out.... I'm now on tears cus I kind of came out to my dad. (He did'nt get it) I really just I'm not happy with just being called " pretty " or " she/her " pronouns it's just triggering-
@kovu_nonexistent3750
@kovu_nonexistent3750 3 жыл бұрын
This really helps because I am insecure about me being trans because the people I know knew they were trans when they were 5 And I was like, feminine as a kid but it slowly changed when I was 10 and now I'm starting to think I'm more comfortable as a boy than a girl and im scared if im faking it to myself or i just really want to be a boy but I see myself more as a boy when I tried to tell my trans friend he just said I shouldn't be like my other friend so I'm lost and seeing this comment helps me out so thanks :)
@DEMOMANGUH
@DEMOMANGUH 3 жыл бұрын
@@kovu_nonexistent3750 You do you like- do what you - you like or how you feel and you want to express (srry for bad spelling/grammar) your feelings.
@Scififan926
@Scififan926 4 жыл бұрын
You're the first guy with a experience similar to mine, thank you so much, I'm so confused lately
@snow-piper570
@snow-piper570 3 жыл бұрын
Same
@lucavillalobos9327
@lucavillalobos9327 3 жыл бұрын
Yup same here
@riverperfect4149
@riverperfect4149 3 жыл бұрын
I can relate.
@Kamilp03
@Kamilp03 3 жыл бұрын
Same here but I said those things when I was 13 I’m now trans nonbinary and I’m gonna transition when I get out of high school
@quasi8180
@quasi8180 2 жыл бұрын
Same im hella confused and in shock when i look in the mirror i dont see a girl and its been this strange rush of dysphoria and panick super recently. Like why the fuck am i just realizing this now.
@izzypaynee
@izzypaynee 4 жыл бұрын
When u used to scream at the top of your lungs that you wished you were a guy when you were ten
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 4 жыл бұрын
@ me next time lmao
@elliottlupin
@elliottlupin 3 жыл бұрын
One of the biggest signs for me was stealing my brother's hockey jersey and always trying to pee standing up. Like, standing in the tub, in the shower, over the toilet, even outside, just because.
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
JUST BECAUSE ... Love it :)
@todorokisfavouriteobject9109
@todorokisfavouriteobject9109 3 жыл бұрын
Yup, I peed standing up (I don’t know how tf i managed to do that) and I always copied my father’s movements or habits.
@ohnaw8413
@ohnaw8413 3 жыл бұрын
I hate how some people say gay people make being gay their whole personality, when in reality their just spreading awareness for those who are questioning and have self doubt of who they really are.
@Candyrock15
@Candyrock15 7 ай бұрын
This video is about being trans thought I agree with the sentiment
@princy2979
@princy2979 4 жыл бұрын
I tried binding for the first time today (with ace bandages and yes I do know I shouldn’t have however I took it off after like 5 minutes) and I felt so freakin awesome I cried out of happiness
@khudj
@khudj 3 жыл бұрын
That’s really great dude, but PLEASE don’t bind with ace bandages for too long because they can really fuck up your breathing, and can even cause future issues with chest surgery. If you can’t get a hold of a binder, layering sports bras has personally worked well for me! Make sure it isn’t too tight though because if it’s too tight it can cause damage. There’s also many other ways to bind safely too (like making ur own out of pants, etc,) so just use literally anything else but ace bandages please :(
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
That's awesome! If you dig it I would suggest a binder, amazon has some cheap ones. Be careful tho some methods could be harmful. Mike
@alexmarian4642
@alexmarian4642 3 жыл бұрын
Hi bro. If you still don’t have a proper binder, here’s a good DIY one: .Get a sports bra (right size or one size too small, no smaller than that), and a t-shirt bra (correct band size, smallest cup size you can find) .Put on sports bra .Put t-shirt bra on backward, so the band rests over your breasts, just under the nipples. .Adjust shoulder straps so the t-shirt doesn't slip downwards. The band will typically have three clips. The widest one is for - light - exercise, such as walking (wear only the sports bra for more intense exercise) . The middle one is for general use. The tightest one is for short periods of time when dysphoria is worse (eg, going to out in public for a couple of hours) Wear for no more than 10hrs a day, and keep in the tight fit for no more than 3hrs at a time.
@morganrae264
@morganrae264 4 жыл бұрын
I used to wonder what it would be like if I was a guy, to go into the guys bathroom, to hang out and talk about girls. I’m just really confused now
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 4 жыл бұрын
Haha, I feel you there! Try not to get too wrapped up in the label and imagine who would want to be in this world. Always remind yourself that there is no rush or one size fits all. Mike :)
@quasi8180
@quasi8180 2 жыл бұрын
Im having those same exact thoughts recently. And its really scary.
@clay8938
@clay8938 3 жыл бұрын
My friend called me he for the first time yesterday it was the first time anybody didn’t miss gendered me and made me feel so happy
@babyfoxnursery6680
@babyfoxnursery6680 4 жыл бұрын
Hi I’m Ash and I’m 12 and a trans guy and I’m scared to come out I already came out as lesbian and my mom and dad supporters me but I’m scared to come out as trans
@dylanwasshere
@dylanwasshere 4 жыл бұрын
I'm exactly the same but 13
@justapersonbeingstupid3645
@justapersonbeingstupid3645 4 жыл бұрын
I believe in you! Come out when you’re ready!
@roscurro
@roscurro 4 жыл бұрын
@waveyboi1835
@waveyboi1835 4 жыл бұрын
Same
@xxmushr00mxx65
@xxmushr00mxx65 4 жыл бұрын
Same but I'm almost 14
@bloodiedbitch.
@bloodiedbitch. 2 жыл бұрын
signs of me being trans and not knowing it before i realized: • gender envy • wanting a deep voice • liking he/him • thinking it'd be easier as a boy me denying it currently: - wanting a deep voice - wanting to look masc - he/him - changing my name - thinking im not trans enough - euphoria when being called a boy - not liking she/her
@animallander7940
@animallander7940 3 жыл бұрын
I question if I am trans or not because I don't feel trapped in the wrong body I just feel like I would be happier being a male than female and I would rather have male parts. I don't completely hate my female like I do feel a little uncomfortable with my breast but I feel nothing about my lower down part. I feel I would be happier with male parts though. I hate my birth name and like going by a different name I'm not a fan of when people use she/her pronouns I like when people use he/him pronouns I like dressing masculine I don't like wearing dresses and makeupit makes me feel uncomfortable.I don't know I'm just so confused about everything. Sorry if this is a bad explanation I'm not really good at explaining things.
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Sounds like their is a good chance you are trans! I would recommend you find a therapist and get through some of the work that allow you to transition. Take it slow and be kind to yourself. It can be frustrating but you owe it to yourself to be compassion living in this already crazy world. Thanks and take care!
@Persiannn_
@Persiannn_ Жыл бұрын
You might be a demigirl
@daisymae3258
@daisymae3258 Жыл бұрын
Because you all are the “everybody gets a trophy” generation. Geeze..... tomboys were common and doesn’t mean you are trans. Attention seeking...
@noemidemelo8959
@noemidemelo8959 2 ай бұрын
Tbh I relate to your experience a lot. I'm a cis woman, but I've got to admit that I'd rather have male parts if I had a choice, I deeply hate how my genitalia works since I have memory and it only got worse when I started having periods, let alone having sex it was soooo alienating, and I'm aware that many cis women have a quite similar experience with their bodies for one reason or another, for many of us our biology literally works against us. But it doesn't mean that we are men in the wrong body or that we want to see ourselves or be seen by others as men. My advice is that, as you've already been told, you'd better get a good therapist and a lot of time to figure out if you are actually trans or just uncomfortable with your body but still a woman. As well as it's very important to get trans people support and health care, it's not less important to prevent cis people from doing unnecessary and irreversible changes that could lead to a painful detransition.
@secretlysanesparrow1152
@secretlysanesparrow1152 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video!!! My childhood was pretty normal because my brother and dad were never really toxically masculine and my mom wasn’t toxically feminine either. I just did what I wanted and didn’t have to worry. When middle school hit I fell into a deep depression and was in mental hospitals constantly. I was constantly uncomfortable with feminine things that most girls happily embraced. When puberty hit I was depressed and I never put this together until later when I started speculating my gender identity. Now I’m out as transmasc and I’m finally comfortable in my own skin. When I wore “masculine” clothes for the first time with a binder and a haircut I cried because I finally felt comfortable looking in a mirror :)
@ievnux
@ievnux 3 жыл бұрын
I’m having difficulty rn, if I’m being honest. I didn’t question my gender at all years ago but a for a few months, I’ve been wondering whether I’m trans or not. I like being referred to by he/him/they, being seen as a guy in my accounts online, although I would have my moments where I would feel feminine. Lately, I started feeling like “I want to be a boy”, “why am I not a boy” or something along those lines. I can’t tell if this is just me feeling gender envy because of all the boys I’ve been seeing but yeah. I’m just extremely confused atm. Even if I am trans, I don’t ever see myself being able to come out because I come from a catholic family.
@Rohan_Kishibaby
@Rohan_Kishibaby 3 жыл бұрын
I'm in the exact same boat as you, although i remember when i was young wishing that i was a boy, and having had dreams about it and then waking up and being like "well damn i miss that" I like doing feminine things, i wear skirts and dresses and thoroughly enjoy it, but at the same time i sometimes wish that i didn't have breasts or curves, and my friends online call me by he/him and that genuinely makes me happy. My mum knows that i'm questioning, but i don't know if i could ever fully say that i'm trans, or decide that i am trans, even though the label is becoming more and more of a consideration to me. Just know that whatever you're going through, and whatever you find that you are, that i send you all my love and support and i wish you all the best. 💕💕
@fulicious2991
@fulicious2991 2 жыл бұрын
Finding this comforted me, knowing that my experience is also happening to others! Hope we find our way
@quasi8180
@quasi8180 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah ive just now started to.think maybe im a guy. Ive never felt particularly feminine. I feel you soo hard. My family is seventh day adventist and extremely bible loteralist.
@CosmicRetriever
@CosmicRetriever 4 ай бұрын
The story about the mental hospital warmed my heart. So sorry you had to go through all that but I'm so glad you made that kid smile. You seem like such a wholesome and sweet person!
@KayKashi
@KayKashi 3 жыл бұрын
YES looking at dudes like damn why can’t I lol like that!!!
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Facts! That was definitely the first time I started to put the pieces together.
@mk-ir2oz
@mk-ir2oz 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for posting this. I really connected with the part where you said you wished you were that guy you saw. I feel jealous of how guys look often, like that’s not fair!!!! Etc
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 4 жыл бұрын
Definitely not alone with that one!
@aliciamontes13
@aliciamontes13 3 жыл бұрын
hi im miles, im 12 and a trans guy, my parents found out I was trans they did not support, they forcing me to act and dress like a girl :( I wish I had a different family :( no one in my family supports me, they said I was going to hell....
@user-gg5pm6hj4t
@user-gg5pm6hj4t 2 жыл бұрын
I support you so much, you are the most valid person ;I hope ur safe now
@quasi8180
@quasi8180 2 жыл бұрын
My family is hella religious which is why im freaking out over the possibility that Im probably a guy.
@noahvelasco9182
@noahvelasco9182 3 жыл бұрын
I’m ftm but my mom says she likes me being a girl and that she would send to me conversation therapy because I said what if I like girls and guys. I want to cut my hair like a guy but don’t know how to convince her since she doesn’t believe in trans or anything in the lgbtq community
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hey Noah! That’s so tough, I’m sorry. Definitely not surprised you feel that way so be sure to cut yourself some slack. I don’t have a ton of information about you/your family but I think age plays a role in transition. I am glad you have mentioned a bit about gender and sexuality to your mom. Sometimes it takes parents a bit of time to lose some of there hopes/expectations of you (especially around gender roles). Slowly educate her, sometimes it takes a bit for parents to see a different path for there child and accept who they are. Sometimes you have to do way to much to prove you are trans and show you take it seriously. If your mom doesn’t come around and support you I would definitely encourage you to see a therapist or start the transition process slowly. Explore things like binding and have your friends use your preferred name/pronouns. Do what keeps you safe and happy! Hope this helps :) Mike
@sk_matrix4513
@sk_matrix4513 5 ай бұрын
Hey, there are Girls with short hair too, show her images of them, May maybe that will work
@jetsamflotsam4133
@jetsamflotsam4133 5 жыл бұрын
Ah thank goodness, I had pretty much the same experience.
@eddiefairbanks6265
@eddiefairbanks6265 2 жыл бұрын
I told my friend I was trans and my friend told me that I don't have to be a dude to be masculine and referred to herself being a "tomboy" like there's a difference
@thatpoorsandersy32yearsago36
@thatpoorsandersy32yearsago36 2 жыл бұрын
i think some of the biggest signs was me writing fictional characters and remembering that women don't usually act that way and having to remind myself about the ladies even though i thought I was one, another sign was barely relating to girls and i never wanted to hang out with them cause i felt better with my guy friends, i also related a lot to memes that were made by men then after that i was having a crisis on whether i was bisexual or not and just recently i realized that i was attracted to women in a "straight way" and i always wanted to be "the man" in a hetero relationship, i disliked femeninety and i wanted to have a petite androgynous body and lastly, no cis person is heavily questioning their gender for over a month and looking for reassurance that there trans lol
@quasi8180
@quasi8180 2 жыл бұрын
Literally me Ive always felt more at home writing guys and have always felt sone sort of kinship with guy characters like Jim Hawkins Zuko Quasi modo and especially Hunter from owl house. Ive hardly hung out with any of the girls at my old school and always felt super out of place now that i think about it
@thatpoorsandersy32yearsago36
@thatpoorsandersy32yearsago36 2 жыл бұрын
@@quasi8180 same
@quasi8180
@quasi8180 2 жыл бұрын
@@thatpoorsandersy32yearsago36 i thought i was bisexual too but now im really starting to think that trans might be more accurate.
@thatpoorsandersy32yearsago36
@thatpoorsandersy32yearsago36 2 жыл бұрын
@@quasi8180 and im starting to think im actually gay and trans and not bisexual Good luck!
@quasi8180
@quasi8180 2 жыл бұрын
@@thatpoorsandersy32yearsago36 thanks
@feryourmomslover4412
@feryourmomslover4412 3 жыл бұрын
4:35 *talking about serious suicidal shit* My brain instantly: “see I never thought I’d live past 20, where I come from some get half as many”
@apocalypse12345
@apocalypse12345 9 ай бұрын
I had an attempt 😢 when I was 25 .. now I'm 32
@umaruchan6900
@umaruchan6900 3 жыл бұрын
Ok so I think what hold me back so much is 1.) I’m not interested in medically transitioning ( but I do want top surgery) 2.) when I see girls in romance comics I feel kinda bitter because I wish that they’re were more boys that liked boys and it makes me feel like I’ll never have a chance at love if I transition to a boy
@wondertyzipp8260
@wondertyzipp8260 3 жыл бұрын
I also don't want to medically transition aside from top surgery (I would maybe like bottom surgery in the far future but i would need hormones sadly). I don't trust the synthetic hormones, looking at the health complications I just don't see the point in risking it you know? It sucks though because it makes me feel invalid 😔 I mean, even if hormones were less risky, I may still not take it purely because well- I have tiny hands (smaller than most girls) and I'm short and small (Asian small) so I don't feel like it would actually benefit me. I feel like just because of my body and such I'd be better off looking androgynous than getting hormones and looking like an older but very short, small boy.
@annajimmy1725
@annajimmy1725 2 жыл бұрын
Damn bro, u just read my mind nd my problems nd y i just searched this up
@cheyenne8008
@cheyenne8008 3 жыл бұрын
I’m so confused- I don’t mind wearing dresses, skirts, makeup and stuff that’s labeled for girls, but I also like he/they pronouns, I hate my voice bc how high pitched it is, and every time I just look just a little bit like a boy I get super happy and also cry tears of joy and I also get super uncomfortable with the fact that I have boobs and every time I look at them I want to cry bc how uncomfortable I get- also when I was younger I really wanted to be a boy and I thought it was normal to not wanna be a girl and want to have balls but I also really liked to have girly things but also wear boy stuff and now I’m still like that- I just don’t know what to do bc I know for sure I’m not a girl but if I try to tell my family I might get kicked out of the house bc my grandma is not supportive of lgbt also once she was saying sum transphobic so i just started sobbing and ran to my room bc of it (also sorry for the bad grammar I have dyslexia)
@lv4519
@lv4519 3 жыл бұрын
I got the same feelings as you, dude :/
@lucalucaluca93
@lucalucaluca93 2 жыл бұрын
this helped me a lot! i had a similar situation as you growing up, and i just realized something was off in my body when it started developing and i had my first period. it was years of questioning, and i didn’t even know what was the problem, and when i finally felt comfortable i told my parents and they didn’t take me seriously :/ that really hurt me and made me invalidate myself and my dysphoria got worse, and this video made me realize that i am indeed trans. thank you so much
@Whimzymoth
@Whimzymoth 3 жыл бұрын
I am having a really tough time now that I've moved out. My boyfriend is straight and directly told me he would lose attraction if I started transition. He said he wishes he wouldn't because we both really love eachother and we started dating before I really knew it was disphoria. So it's not his fault. And he's not transphobic. He's just *straight*. I've always have discomfort in feminine things, HATED PINK, I would tell people god MADE A MISTAKE making me a girl when I was a child. When I was really young I chose "masculine" toys and colors. I just didn't like girl things. But it was okay. As a kid nobody really cared. And I didn't etheir. Then when I started hitting puberty, I dressed in way bigger clothes to hide my body, I tried to dress like "a tomboy" and alot of people thought I was a lesbian because of the way I dressed. I looked up to men way more than women. I hated myself and my body more than anything. I was going to kill myself before 16. I told myself I wasn't going to live longer because nothing felt right and I never knew what it was. I just always felt gross and disgusting. I HATED my period and would hide in my house untill it was over for a very long time. The consept of pregnancy disgusts me to my core and imaning it happening to me is fucking awful. Recently my bf and I had a small pregnancy scare and it sent me spiraling. Just to imangine the fucking horror of my body being taken over for 9 months and me delivering it makes me want to die. I would legit kill myself if I was pregnant. I get super depressed and disphoric during my period every single cycle. At the same time, I like doing makeup now, I like doing my nails, I like some women's fashion. But I still feel trans. Fully. And I don't know how to handle these opposing thoughts. These opposing feelings. I identify as non binary right now. And it doesn't help that much. But when a young boy at my work asked his dad if "I was a girl or a boy" and the dad thinks I'm a boy, I suddenly feel so amazing. It litrally feels like a drug shooting up my veins. I want to be a boy. I'm trans. Im lost. I could be okay presenting as a girl for him (my partner) but it also tears me up inside. I'm trying to find a middle road, maybe where I just bind and try to present as a boy to everyone else but him. But even then, knowing he won't feel attraction to me as a man hurts. Because I know that's who I am. And it really fucking hurts to have to hold that from myself. But I want to love him. I don't know what to do. I'm scared. I'm scared of how bad my disphoria has been lately in comoarassion to most of my life, and how I keep going back to wanting and needing to start my jorney. And yet I feel like I cant. Ever. Because of how much I love him. And he told me he would try, but I don't want to do that to him. And in also really scared I won't pass. In so scared of "ruining" this body. I'm scared of taking hormones. But I also really really want to. Its fucking hard. I need some advice. Some help. I don't know what to do. I know I'm trans. I feel it in my heart and my disphoria is so bad some days. I really don't know what to do. Me and my partner really love eachother and we're very happy together. I don't want to lose him. But it's just part of life that he likes women. And that I'm a girl right now.
@user-pp6jr5px7f
@user-pp6jr5px7f 3 жыл бұрын
I really don't know what to say it seems like such a complicated situation. My advice would be to go to gender therapy maybe it can clear some things up. As for your boyfriend it sounds like you really love each other but just know your happiness doesnt depend on someone else. Live your life cause it's the only one you got. Wish you nothing but happiness ♥️♥️
@bone_apple_teeth457
@bone_apple_teeth457 3 жыл бұрын
Hey I’m 21 now, and I’m just now questioning. So I don’t think it’s ever too late. For a long time I’ve thought I was lesbian, but now I’m starting to think that the real issue is that I don’t think I’m exactly a girl. So thanks for this.
@libbyhennes1240
@libbyhennes1240 3 жыл бұрын
As long as I can remember every time I was in public and had to use the public restrooms this little voice inside my head would be like: "Well why don't we go into the men's restroom? We should go into the men's restroom. Come on, this way." And I just shrugged it off and figured everyone felt that way and eventually I got so good at shrugging it off that I didn't think twice about that little voice when it would urge me to go into the men's restroom. But then my friend came out to me as questioning their gender and my brain just exploded: "Wait, that's something you can do?" because I thought you just had to know who you were and have like this definitive answer. Shortly after that, I tried binding for the first time and oh my god it felt so good to look in the mirror and not see two budges on my chest. Since then I haven't worn a normal bra until my mom forced me to one time. I actually cried when I looked at myself in the mirror with the normal bra because it was so foreign and just wasn't meant to me. A trans man at my school even walked up to me and complimented me on my binding job a few days ago at school. It freaked me out a little bit because I was like: "Oh my god, is it that obvious?" but at the same time it made my day so much happier because even if some of my closest friends didn't acknowledge me name or pronouns he did and he complimented me the way I look seeing me for the real me instead of this cross-dressing girl that most people see me as. About 2 weeks ago I also cut my hair short for the first time and I have never smiled as much as I did when I looked in the mirror and saw the results. For the first time, I was looking masculine. My friend even called me handsome when I sent them a picture. And for me, being called handsome was so much more amazing and just comfortable than being beautiful ever was. I still don't know who I am or who I want, but I'm okay with that because I know this journey takes time. I'm just going to try to keep my head up and figure things out as I am able to. Thank you for this video it was fantastic and very enlightening. I am sorry you went through all of that though. I hope you're in a better place now and happier now. -Jazz
@rivroyerr
@rivroyerr 2 жыл бұрын
That Christmas part i relate to on a higher level lmao and i used to feel guilty af when i didn’t like something that someone bought me like my grandma bought me this pink dress and i held in tears the whole time and balled my eyes out later that night 1 because i hated it and 2 because i felt so guilty for hating it
@lavendermelo4440
@lavendermelo4440 Жыл бұрын
A couple years ago an old friend of mine(male) pretended to throw water on me(I hate getting wet for no reason) and I screamed, he said, "You scream like a girl!", he didn't register me as female. I was far to happy about this, like I was giggling and feeling all bubbly inside,it just felt so...right. Should have released it then.
@rk800-
@rk800- 3 жыл бұрын
I’m currently non binary but I’m questioning. I was satisfied with it. Until someone called me “boy” and “male.” I freaked OUT and now I’m questioning again and I don’t know if I’m ftm or non binary. I hate my chest, and I’m getting a binder for it. I often go by “Finn” in school and I just, I dunno, I don’t know- A thing I know for sure is I don’t like being referred to being a woman, a girl, a female at all. Im super confused right now. Im not sure how to figure it out
@fizzyplazmuh9024
@fizzyplazmuh9024 2 жыл бұрын
I have only just spent the last few days taking the time to really learn about things from the FTM view since I was 53 and clueless and I found myself still using the wrong pronouns and wrong perspectives and I would catch myself and feel real embarrassment. Today I finally watched you again and found I could not even think of you anymore as having ever been anyone but a dude. I am really proud of you guys and you are my heroes. Keep taking what you want for yourself from life and kick ass when anyone tries to stop you. Do you feel good when guys accept you in or do you and others feel your are even stronger inside than regular cis males? Maybe a stupid question but you have earned certain rights sound the campfire that certain males on have because they are loaded with their own T and never earned it.
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks, my man! Appreciate the support. I am always happy to help people understand or gain new insight into transitioning. I will say living my first 17 ish years as a woman gives me a different prescriptive than most men. I think the most amazing thing is being able to sit at the “campfire” and share any experiences in common on not. I am fortunate to not have to hide my identity with family but am not able to do so with all of my friends/coworkers. It is comments like yours that remind me the world is truly changing and we have not even grasped the total impact that the fight for inclusion will have on future generations. This knowledge is power whether you are a supporter, curious kiddo, or someone concerned with their direct community. Everyone makes mistakes with pronouns! It can be awkward for everyone AT FIRST but the tone you set about it matters. Most transgender people won’t want to make a big deal about it so play it off lightly. Correct yourself at the moment or even individually later. Even at my age (23), I grew up in a world that had extremely limited exposure to the lesbian/gay community never mind including transgender individuals. I would imagine any generation prior to me would have difficulty grasping such concepts. Kudos to you for taking some time to learn and be open-minded. Wishing you all the best my friend :)
@victoriakaercher2755
@victoriakaercher2755 3 жыл бұрын
Im a little late lol. I think i might be trans but like because i like the idea of gay relationships. Like if i ever see two guys dating it makes me really euphoric and i cant tell if that’s a sign i might be a trans gay or if I just have some sort of kink. I cant figure it out. Ive tried dressing like a boy and being refereed to with he him pronouns but I’ve never really passed. And i play on a sports team (girls) for my high school and really don’t want to play on the guys team. But I’ve always gotten along better with guys. And I’ve always been fascinated (interested maybe) with schlongs. I don’t know I’m so confused
@divyabawa267
@divyabawa267 6 жыл бұрын
Yo house in Martha’s Vineyard lets gooooo
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 6 жыл бұрын
Divya Bawa Girl you snoopin. This summer let’s kick it 🤙🏽🌴
@AndesMints94
@AndesMints94 4 жыл бұрын
Are you a christian? Just curious. I felt like everything I did in middle school and high school was pointless, even in college I felt that way. I remember wanting to dissapear when puberty hit, my hips were too big, and my breasts wouldn't go away. I'm not sure if I want to transition, I keep having a hard time deciphering if I really am a guy or non-binary maybe? I've wanted to go by the name "Alex" in high school but never understood how to go about that, and never in my life had thought that I could live life the way that I need in order to feel more in line with myself. But i also worry if it's immoral in God's word, or what the Bible says about this. I hope you have some insight on this, if not, that's okay.
@nerbamas6940
@nerbamas6940 4 жыл бұрын
Hi! Closeted trans kid here (14, figuring out if ftm or nb). So, I'm Sid. My family is Christian, but I'm not, so I'm going off of what they've read from the bible, although I doubt they have the same views. Pretty much the Bible says crossdressing is wrong, but the way I see it is if you identify as a gender, then dressing as that gender isn't crossdressing. Also, God made you the way you were for a reason, so own it!
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 4 жыл бұрын
Hey Andrea! So sorry to just be responding now, I must have overlooked your comment. I was raised catholic then Methodus. I did go to a catholic high school which pushed me to question the trans lifestyle. I think it is completely healthy to challenge both your gender identity and religious views, especially if you have been thinking about them both. As far as my current standing with religion goes I tend to stay away from getting involved at church etc. (mostly bc of COVID) however I believe any "God" or higher power would rather you be your true self and spread kindness rather than bottle up with frustration and hate. Thanks for the comment!
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 4 жыл бұрын
@@nerbamas6940 Agreed!!
@milk3127
@milk3127 3 жыл бұрын
i'm a trans kinda fem boy and no one respects that lol i hate life sometimes but it'll get better i think
@winterhare1251
@winterhare1251 3 жыл бұрын
Same. u_u We are valid though.
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Frankie! Sorry, you are having a tough time. It can be really hard to feel like you fit in when the people around you aren't very much like you. I work with LGBTQ youth and you are not alone in the slightest. Some transguys wake up ad wear skirts, some wear fishnets and chokers and some days they wear baggy basketball shirts and slides. "Normal" is often what you are surrounded by and where you are raised can play a major role in that. I would suggest you try to look at the accounts you follow and the content you view and have it reflect who you want to be. It can be really empowering to see others older than you living a life you hope to live one day. I hope this helps a bit, if you ever have any questions or just want to chat do not hesitate to reach out! If it is not okay, then it is not the end! Mike :)
@Vendetteav
@Vendetteav 3 жыл бұрын
I am trans to becoming a boy thank you because you made me love binding myself more and now i feel little regret on doing this
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hell yea! Do whatever makes you comfortable. Never apologize for being your authentic self, rock on :)
@lucas_is_great_4919
@lucas_is_great_4919 3 жыл бұрын
People always ask me if i had the language as a little boy if i would have used he/him but tbh most of my dysphoria is physical so i probably would have found out around the same time i did when i started to develop and pay attention to my body but I've educated myself i know what surgeries to get now i know one of arms cannot have tattoos i get it and if i knew the language when i was a kid i would still have found out when i was 12
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Such a good point bro! Thanks for sharing
@max-gb7ii
@max-gb7ii 3 жыл бұрын
i’ve been really struggling with my gender lately and this has helped me a lot, thank you❤️
@hollyfaunas
@hollyfaunas 3 жыл бұрын
I think I’m a trans male?? Idk,m,fnfnfnd I’ve never liked being called a girl, I feel disgusted when people use feminine compliments for me, and anytime I even wear feminine clothing (even if I bought it myself) I feel uncomfy. I’ve wanted to use they/them but I don’t feel anything when someone uses those pronouns for me?? I’ve been called male and people have used he/him pronouns for me and it feels good but I’m scared this is just a phase jdjcjxjd. I’ve been questioning for two years and I’ve identified as literally everything under the nonbinary umbrella but nothing feels right. Being called male feels right, but I have a transphobic family and I’m only 13 :,(. My friends know that I use they/them and he/him pronouns but they still misgender and dead name me and it feels like a slap in the face. I’m confused and scared :(
@winterhare1251
@winterhare1251 3 жыл бұрын
It'll be okay. Things will get better and you'll get to meet people who understand you. Why dont you try writing a story about a character with your chosen name and pronouns? See how it feels. Or playing games as a male character? Just little things to affirm yourself. Best of luck.
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hey! Take a deep breath, my friend, it will all be okay. It can be really hard at a young age to figure out who you are while being raised and expected to be a certain way at the same time. You do not need to have any answers right now and honestly, it can take a bit of time even if you think long and hard. I was convinced I was gay/lesbian for the longest time and that was why I felt so uncomfortable in my skin. At about your age I started dating girls and was convinced I was lesbian until I was about 18 when I started to transition. Sometimes things just take a bit of time to figure out but that is kind of how it goes. Keep a close group of friends around you and be really honest with them about how you feel. If it makes you feel any better most people do not even talk to the people they went to highschool with, there is so much more to the world than that All the best my friend and do not hesitate to reach out! If it is not okay, then it is not the end! Mike
@hollyfaunas
@hollyfaunas 3 жыл бұрын
thank u guys so much for the responses I feel a bit better and much calmer now :)
@Ufell4Alex
@Ufell4Alex 2 жыл бұрын
i'm having a really hard time with my gender rn because i don't want people to think i'm a girl i feel more comfortable with them thinking im a boy and i prefer he/they pronouns but when things happen where groups are divided by gender im kinda ok with being grouped with girls and i think it's just cause lots of guys i know make me uncomfortable and im mainly friends with girls but its making me feel like im not trans enough for people
@danielpajda5219
@danielpajda5219 3 жыл бұрын
Honestly, dude this video makes me feel so much better about myself. I never really had a problem wearing dresses or skirts as a little kid probably up until like the age of 8. And I didn't mind girls toys either. But I always hated my birthname and when people would use she/her around me. It made me uncomfortable for some reason. I went into middle school and kinda dormented for like 2 years and by 8th grade I was getting made fun of for not being girly or "looking like a boy" and I started trying to dress more feminine and all of these things, which I regret. It made me so uncomfortable and I hated it. I started transitioning at the end of my freshmen year and fully transitioned socially by sophomore year. I'm a junior now. And honestly this video is so nice. I didn't realize I was trans until I was 14/15. And I had previously came out as liking girls to everyone before. So ya know. But thank you for this video2
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hell Yeah! So true, sometimes it really takes a lot of trial and error to figure out who you are and what makes you comfortable. I think there is little chatter about transguys (some) experience labeling themselves as Lesbian before transition. It can be draining to try to force puzzle pieces that just don't fit. So I totally get why it took a while for you and me! So glad you enjoyed it, take care bro!
@danielpajda5219
@danielpajda5219 3 жыл бұрын
@@MichaelDussault thank you dude :). But yeah I see that as a trend too. I honestly hated identifying as a lesbian but I knew I didn't like men so I thought it was my only option but then I was like "oh yeah, you're gonna be a boy now"💀💀 or at least my brain said that
@silvertongue231
@silvertongue231 Жыл бұрын
Everytime I do anything fem I' always get uncomfortable. I thought I loved skirts and pretty dresses but I was never comfortable. They never felt like me.
@chelsea6584
@chelsea6584 3 жыл бұрын
rn i’m very very confused and i’m not allowed to cut my hair or anything. I can’t get new clothes. And it’s a really big struggle because I feel so ugly in this body.. and there’s nothing I can do. If I asked my mom or told her anything it will really create havoc and I don’t want to make my relationship with my mom worse.
@sichengbestboy9667
@sichengbestboy9667 2 жыл бұрын
I dislike my hips, but not my... tHiNg. I don't hate my top part everyday, but I do feel uncomfortable with it. I love being called he/him when I'm on the internet, I have male names for my accounts even. but, here's the thing, I am more attracted to the idea of being a man but don't feel as masculine as I see other guys in my class. like, I don't hate some eyeliner, nail polish, take a look at fashion magazines, knitting, doing things most females would participate on. idk, I know it's sexist but in my country is not as accepted to be trans, and I'm afraid people will see me only as a tomboy or a weirdo. I want to be taken seriously but I'm still too confused about these concepts. - sorry for my english !! 🙇🏻
@BlakeytheG
@BlakeytheG Жыл бұрын
Trying to figure out if I’m a he/they or a they/them. I am very good at dressing up and acting feminine but it’s an act and I can’t keep it up for more than a couple months at a time before I get depressed. I think it has a lot more to do with feeling validated wanted for my body and being conventionally attractive. But when I told my friend about my journey feeling like I might be non-binary or a boy and he started addressing me with male adjectives and pronouns I just feel… it’s so much MORE validating. Like I am wanted for who I am not for how good I am at enhancing the features that will get me compliments. Since I’ve let myself explore the idea that I might be more comfortable being masculine and not in a lesbian way but in a gender way, I seem to only be becoming more and more masculine and the only days I’ve felt the need to dress feminine are when I’m PMSIng and my binder doesn’t fit. I need to look like a hot girl or a fruity bisexual boy and I hate when I fall into the “butch” category bc it just doesn’t feel like who I am. This shit is so confusing pls help.
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault Жыл бұрын
Hey! First off try not to rush the process as much as you want to. Give yourself the space to learn about who you like and what makes you comfortable. Try not to focus all your energy on fitting the needs of others and think of a safe space where you can be your full self. We get so caught up on pleasing others and fitting in their mold so we can be validated. I urge you to find validation in the small things you realize about yourself. Even if it is something as small as a food you don't like or a style of pants that fits well on you. That being said also try to focus on the thing you like about yourself rather than the bad. For example.. if you are frustrated because you have larger hips try to focus on your wider shoulders or your maybe even your thicker eyebrows. Periods and binding can be super frustrating and uncomfortable. Give yourself the space to not bind and take care of yourself during that time of the month. Be kind to yourself. I promise one day you will have a much better grasp on who you are so just try to allow yourself to be as comfortable and open as possible right now. You got this my friend!
@lottiebex7503
@lottiebex7503 Жыл бұрын
I’m having problems figuring out my gender lol. Because I like being a girl and looking like a girl, I like my chest and genitals as they are but I think I would be happy being seen as more masculine and happier with male genitals. Other times I don’t really mind what people call me and other times I do a lot. I currently identify as a butch Demigirl, but I question myself like once a month lol. :)
@lottiebex7503
@lottiebex7503 Жыл бұрын
I dislike my birth name as it’s really feminine and my parents always called me ‘petite’ etc and girly. I did get called a boy once and just was confused and got on with my life. I think I go by she/they, but don’t mind being called he. I don’t really dress effeminately because I have face dismorphia too atm, and already look like a man (which I don’t really want tbh). I just need some help, and it’s fine if you don’t comment!
@spookyprincessxoxo9269
@spookyprincessxoxo9269 3 жыл бұрын
How do you know if your cis or transgender?? Hi, my name is Jordan and I’m 18 years old. I started questioning my gender around the beginning of 7th grade. I got my period the month before I was supposed to start 7th grade. Getting my period threw me off and made me really uncomfortable. I never could put my finger exactly on why I felt so weird but the way that people were treating me and the way my body was changing, I hated it to say the least. I remember finding out was transgender meant in like the 10th grade but I didn’t really think much of it. It wasn’t until I turned 17 and was a junior in high school that I really began to ask myself if I was transgender female to male or not. I began to wear more guy clothes and wanted a haircut. I went to therapy and concluded that I just liked to wear men’s clothes because they were more comfortable. Then, in my senior year of highschool my gender spun out of control. By the time I was to graduate high school, I had no idea who the heck I was. My mind was always all over the place. I had mental breakdowns a lot and sometimes for no apparent reason. I started to feel really insecure and wanted to get back into therapy since it has previously helped me before. So there I was, back in therapy after I graduated high school. I told my therapist exactly how I had been feeling and we had come to the conclusion that I was probably transgender female to male. For the next six months I identified as transgender female to male. It was hard sometimes and I had a lot of doubt but I pushed through it. However, now my thoughts on my self are very different. I no longer feel like a man or want to be one. The thought of growing facial hair makes me want to literally cry and I actually can appreciate my breasts and love them because they make me feel feminine and make me feel like a woman. I couldn’t imagine transitioning into a man, mainly because I would miss my current body and feel quite out of my element in that type of body. But it’s like now I am so dang confused! Was the whole feeling like a transgender man just a phase?? How do you know if you are cis gender?? How does one tell if they are transgender?? I actually want to be my assigned gender at birth and have so much self love for myself that I never had before. I really do feel like a girl, inside and out. Does this mean that I’m really a cis gender female?? Please leave me your thoughts and advice below, any and every comment of advice is very much appreciated trust me!🥰❤️💓
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hey! The first thing I want to say is that there is no pressure or deadline to have this all figured out by. That is really awesome you have been in therapy it is really helpful but you really need to be open and be honest even when it hurts. Everyone's transition is so different never mind the way they express themselves or present to others. Some men do like facial hair and some don't. A ton of things could have drawn you to present more masculine like the way society idolized growing boys or just simply being a tomboy and liking masculine things. Or you could be transgender but the only person who will ever know or matter enough is you. The best advice that I can give you is to be you and test things out. Some people don't transition until they are in their 40s and 50s. Sounds like therapy might be something you are interested in a general level not necessary because of your gender identity. Take a deep breath, my friend! If it isn't okay, it isn't over :)
@spookyprincessxoxo9269
@spookyprincessxoxo9269 3 жыл бұрын
@@MichaelDussault Thank you so much for replying I was not expecting that at all haha! Hearing you say that really helped me because I have been feeling pressured to find out my identity but hearing that I can take as long as I need really helps! :) It's just hard to take my time with it because it's like I really want an answer. It's also confusing for me because I tried out wearing female presenting clothes and I didn't really much have an opinion or feeling of how wearing that type of clothing made me feel. Also along with that, sometimes I want to have a flat chest and bottom surgery but other times I don't and it makes it hard to figure out what is right for me. I'm just kind of overall scared that I will end up regretting whatever decision I choose in the end.
@sarahward7016
@sarahward7016 2 ай бұрын
I think I might be trans but I'm afraid to take the hormone treatments and get surgeries. I have severe OCD and depression (along with ASD) and I'll be turning thirty later this month, but I've heard transitioning described as a 'second puberty' and I'm afraid of spiraling again. Puberty was not a good time for me, to put it mildly. I wasn't having dysphoria yet (at least not in an obvious way, that came later) but my mental health was at an all-time low. This is the first time I haven't had insane mood swings and been suicidal for the first time in a long time and I'm still not doing WELL mentally. I wish I could spin around like Superman in a phone booth and get rid of this stupid female body. I feel uncomfortable all the time, especially my chest, but I still like some 'girls' things (I wear nightgowns and refer to myself as my dog's 'mommy.') Does anybody have any advice on how to deal with this? 😐btw, my birth name is Sarah but I like to think of myself as Stephen.
@KayKashi
@KayKashi 3 жыл бұрын
Yo you are saying everything I’m thinking!
@Emilyandsam123
@Emilyandsam123 3 жыл бұрын
Lmao this randomly poped up on my recommended but I'm already trans!
@FreneticfangsFL
@FreneticfangsFL 3 жыл бұрын
I complained about getting girl jewelry for Christmas so much. But only internally. Nothing for me clicked until someone asked me which pronouns felt better.
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
HAHA, it really stinks. I had such a difficult time acting appreciative and grateful while being so disappointed. I also have a twin brother who got EVERYTHING I wanted lol. Imagine opening gifts every year you hate and watching someone else get what you want. Roughhhhh
@unnaturaldisaster9093
@unnaturaldisaster9093 3 жыл бұрын
My mom says I can't do anything to my body or go by he/they pronouns until I'm out of the house when I'm 18.....im so happy for all of my friends my age who get to start T, but it makes me sad that I won't be able to do it until I'm 18 and out of the house
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hey Bro! I am sorry that is so frustrating. It sounds like you have some trans friends, I hope that you are comfortable in that space and they respect your name/pronouns. I do not know a ton about your situation but I would be curious to know how long she has known you have been feeling this way. A lot of the time parents have built up so many thoughts and ideas about how their children's lives will go that anything that is different is terrifying to them. It can be really helpful to see a therapist because they can communicate for you, advocate for you, and help you process your feelings/identity. I know those resources aren't always within reach for families so if you can't see a therapist I would recommend sitting her down and just giving her a little summary about how you feel/why you have come to the conclusion you want to transition. She might not hop on amazon and order you a binder or call a doctor for testosterone but it will slowly open her up to the idea. Go easy with yourself, it can be really hard figuring out who you are nevermind having a parent expect you to be a certain way. You can feel upset and frustrated but keep moving forward for you. Hope this helps a bit hang in there my friend! Always here :)
@BobBob-di1ig
@BobBob-di1ig 3 жыл бұрын
(note: i am afab and i think i am a trans man) Hi so um I’m sorry I’m late but I have a question..... Is it normal that i feel dysphoria about my leg hair? For some reason i feel that it isn’t masculine enough... i hate showing my legs in public. Also do you have any tips on how i can make my voice deeper?
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hey Bob Bob! That is totally normal and can be frustrating when first trying to present to people and feel comfortable. Testosterone can really help if you are not taking HRT. Also, I believe there are vitamins (biotin) that help can help a bit if you are not able to use testosterone. Definitely one of those things that gets better with time. As far as deepening your voice there is not much you can do other than testosterone. I found that at the 4-5 month time period I saw improvement. I also found it helped overall to just sing lower songs and try to feel comfortable speaking lower. Hope this helps! Hang in there my friend:)
@renee5506
@renee5506 Жыл бұрын
This sounds like me I planned not to live past certain age I keep pushing the date back and attempting to take my life.
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault Жыл бұрын
Mental health is so hard! If you can't afford therapy with your current situation there are so many free support groups. You deserve support and love. I hope you find it and the peace to keep pushing :) you got this friend
@bluewolfuxx139
@bluewolfuxx139 2 жыл бұрын
I relate to every comment here.
@trinin_0332
@trinin_0332 3 жыл бұрын
I think I might be genderfaun ( idk if that's how you spell. It but it's where your gender fluid but without the female pronouns) and Idk if I should tell anyone because I am very feminine and I want to be a model when I grow up plus almost all my family is close minded except my aunt and I'm afraid they might say "it's just a phase" your too girly" and "your too young to know" I'm 11 btw. I'm debating if I should tell my aunt or my school counselor, but if anyone has advice please share. Edit: Idk if my counselor supports and will out me or not and same with my aunt, I also don't experience dysphoria about my appearance and I'm fine with having a chest n stuff
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hey! Well I definitely have my moments where I can be very binary and even fluid. I have thought hard about where I see myself fitting and find for me personally it’s to overwhelming. I am totally comfortable identifying-as male and using he/him pronouns. That’s definitely not the case for everyone but it can be. Everyone experience is super different so it’s important to also look inward rather then just at whatever society has formed. My advice would be to reach out to a counselor at school and have a conversation about the kinds of things that can be shared in their office and not shared with your family members. I would also suggest just presenting as yourself and finding what truly makes you comfortable. I would highly recommend talking to whoever you are comfortable with whether it’s a friend or your aunt. Just being able to express frustrations, thrills sadness and happiness are super important. Take this time to slow down and figure out what makes you truly comfortable and happy. While your family and others may not be super supportive that doesn’t take away from the support you deserve - even if it is one person , two people or just yourself! Hopefully this was semi helpful! Feel free to reach out again if you need anything! You are super valid don’t forget :)
@trinin_0332
@trinin_0332 3 жыл бұрын
@@MichaelDussault thank you sorry for not replying sooner but school starts tomorrow and I think I'm going to tell my aunt and my counselor your advice did help and thank you again 😄
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
@@trinin_0332 I love to hear that! you deserve to be yourself and be happy at the same time. Cheers to taking steps towards that! Good luck
@jacksnrss5102
@jacksnrss5102 3 жыл бұрын
I've been questioning my gender for quite awhile now probably since around 4th or 5th grade I'm currently in 8th grade and 14 years old so I have a identical twin sister and we did everything together and wore the same clothes until we were around the age of 8 and I never had a problem with wearing dresses or pink frilly things I've never been a super masculine kid but when I got into around 4th grade I started to become super unsure of my personality, sexuality, and gender and got really dysphoric about my chest and bottom parts or when people would tell me how pretty i was becoming or how I was such a nice young lady it made me really uncomfortable and still does I used to always get made fun of in school for not being like all the other girls so I didn't really have a very good self worth at the time so I began to slip into depression I've done minor self harm over the last few years and I've had anxiety all my life from the amount of stress my old school put onto me and the expectation that I had to be perfect to survive but this new doubt brought a whole new amount of it I feel like I could be trans but I'm not super masculine to the point where everything I wear has to be men's but I feel like if I try to dress more feminine I wont pass well enough I've asked my parents to cut my hair to make myself more comfortable but its always a decline so I'm stuck with it long if you have any advice id really appreciate the help :D ty!
@maggielaflorida
@maggielaflorida 5 жыл бұрын
SAAAAMEEEEEE,!,,!
@kaiyodei
@kaiyodei 2 жыл бұрын
how do I deffer personality from gender?
@choccomichio9937
@choccomichio9937 3 жыл бұрын
I'm so late but ive practically come out, there not supporting which really upset me but yesterday I asked my mom for a binder she didn't really yk... She said it was a phase and they say I'm too young im 13 and I've been feeling like this for a year and a half so I just wanna know if im too young to be trans
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hey! Some kids grow up and immediately know that their sex doesn't align with their gender. Often it takes puberty for teens to really defy or feel like their gender identity differs. Some people do not put all the pieces together until they are 18-30 and some people do not even transition until they are 40-60 years old. I think regardless of whether it is a phase or not it is important for you to tell her that it is apart of the process of figuring it out. Binders can be damaging to the body so I would recommend waiting until you have processed things with a counselor or even trusted adult. Do not think that I am dismissing your current thoughts or feelings, you owe it to yourself to take the time to really think about who you are and who you want to be. Hope this helps a bit, hang in there my friend! Mike
@holly9721
@holly9721 3 жыл бұрын
When you brought up about how you saw that guy on the boat n how you wanted to be him hit so hard. I see guys every single day and all I can think about is why am I not them how can I be more like them. I don’t know if I’m trans or not, I feel like I’m faking it in some way but the minute I bind my chest or put masculine clothes on I feel so euphoric. One time my friend used the pronoun he instead of she and it made my day. I don’t know what to do or how to feel. Any advice ?
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hey! Do not focus too much on the label and if you are "actually trans". I find that the pressure can be so overwhelming and it is best to just go with whatever you are comfortable with. I would recommend getting a therapist if you have the resources. It can be a great way to process feelings and your identity in a safe place. It also will help you get the ball rolling if you do want to transition because those supports are essential for medically transitioning. Definitely do not rush anything and take your time with it. If you have any specific questions do not hesitate to reach out. Hang in there and be kind to yourself!
@aliyahmaxwell8127
@aliyahmaxwell8127 3 жыл бұрын
thank you for this
@maxlee3592
@maxlee3592 3 жыл бұрын
I grew up thinking I was a boy that my parents didn't want another son so they dressed me as a girl then middle school happened and I was scared to tell people I was trans until my dad literally forced me to come out and now I feel better but only 4 people in my famiky call me by male pronouns and my male name....my parents are not one of those 4 people...😔
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Damn Max, I'm sorry man! Once you leave the house you are definitely more free to express yourself. Do not feel the need to rush anything, transitioning is a life long process. I know it is super hard when parents do not support pronouns and your chosen name. Hang in there, I promise if you give it some time you will be happy as a clam. being your badass self!
@5mincer
@5mincer 3 жыл бұрын
This is such a helpful video...
@ciennawhale9804
@ciennawhale9804 3 жыл бұрын
I don’t know what I am… it’s almost like I want to be a man, but I am scared of the reactions. I use the name ash every time I play a game or anything like that.. and I like the thought of people seeing me as a guy… help idk
@mrlynx68
@mrlynx68 2 жыл бұрын
......lance?
@chloebug742
@chloebug742 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! 💕
@iiviz3040
@iiviz3040 2 жыл бұрын
Um well for me I just wish I could switch between girl and boy… I like being a girl but like I also really wish I was a boy 😅
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 2 жыл бұрын
Check out some of the terms non-binary, androgynous, and gender fluid. See if you resonate with anything. Remember there is no rush and SOME OF figuring out who you are can be a really beautiful process if you let it. Good luck my friend and never hesitate to give yourself some of the extra love you need!
@i.d.c9414
@i.d.c9414 3 жыл бұрын
Idc if someone calls me she/her or he/him💀 what's that about?
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hey WAP lol That is totally okay! Gender expression can be so different for everyone. The LGBTQ+ community is massive and people's experiences are so similar but so unique. I do not know much about you/ and going off a sentence but it sounds like you might fall somewhere out of the binary (non-binary). I can't really speak on it too much just because I don't know much but there are some really cool KZfaqrs that go into it more. Hope this steers you in the right direction! Take care my friend :)
@ayyeyo18
@ayyeyo18 3 жыл бұрын
How old are you? I’m 24 been dealing with being trans since I was like 10 I know what I wanted, wanted to be but again I’m 24 and I haven’t jumped on anything because of my parents...how can I tell my parents? How can I overcome the fear of them being disappointed or not wanting me? It was hard for them to accept me being gay but that was when I was like 14 since then yes they are completely fine with it. My hair has been short for a while and now finally my mom is used to it being short and when it gets shaggy she even says I need a hair cut! To me that’s progress but now this one last step... how? Can you help? I don’t really have friends I only got my gf and she supports the hell out of me but my parents I need so I feel
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hell yeah, I got some advice for you! Just for some context, I am 21 and typically live on a college campus but it is closed due to COVID. Due to that, I have been at home with my parents/twin brother. It seems like this is something that has been on your mind for a while. Assuming you feel safe enough to come out to your parents I would really suggest it. When doing so try to keep in mind that older generations relied on gender roles for basically everything and your entire life they have thought/dreamed of "your" perfect future. Because of that, I would recommend you give an explanation. This doesn't need to be immediately or the first conversation you have but being upfront about how you came to that conclusion can help parents digest information a bit better. I also think awareness is really key to understanding or at least starting to. At some point, I might sit mom/dad or whoever down and share other transpeople experience. It can normalize it a bit and show you are taking you seriously. I do want to emphasize that you have no responsibility to prove anything to anyone, including your parents. In my opinion, showing my parents that this is important to me and wasn't going away helped them AND me. I was able to move further into my transition with their support and they felt more comfortable giving me the slack to do so. At the end of the day, you have to live in your own skin, not your parents or anyone else. That's why I think being who you are is more important than whatever someone else wants you to be. There are some really cool Facebook groups for transguys if you would like to make some connections, let me know if you are interested. Hang on to the support you do have and best of luck! Always here :)
@memeaddict4714
@memeaddict4714 3 жыл бұрын
I can’t hear the sound?
@mashallaheinfachdiehubsche6203
@mashallaheinfachdiehubsche6203 3 жыл бұрын
I'm questioning my gender for qiet a few months now, I'm born a female, I really like my body and being called "young lady" n stuff but sometimes I feel like a boy and these thoughts take over but then all off the sudden I feel like a girl again and I hate it waking up every morning questioning my gender I don't feel like I can do it it's just No- I don't fucking no what I am
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Hey! It can definitely be frustrating at points when trying to figure out who you are and what you like. Don't feel rushed tho because it really is different for everyone and most importantly it is all about YOU. You also don't have to know now or ever. Transitioning for me was always seemed scary so I just focus on what feels comfortable. Looking into some non binary gender fluid videos might be helpful too. Good luck my friend!
@ChrisVincent-xg7zi
@ChrisVincent-xg7zi 3 жыл бұрын
Wait a while maybe next year you'll want to be a unicorn or firetruck or youtube star. Work on your inside . the outer layer is a facade.
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 3 жыл бұрын
Not sure that's how that works... I do not blame you for being ignorant, if you are not transgender then you probably will never understand. That being said you do not need to understand something to respect it. Transitioning is the most effective treatment by the way. Take your negativity somewhere else, it is not welcome here!
@iamthenrone
@iamthenrone 3 жыл бұрын
The earth is flat.
@shrekchan7686
@shrekchan7686 3 жыл бұрын
Just like how I want my chest to be 😎
@iamthenrone
@iamthenrone 3 жыл бұрын
@@shrekchan7686 I'm sure God made you perfect the way you are
@Juliachretien
@Juliachretien 4 жыл бұрын
I need some j names plz helppppp im ftm my birth name is julia
@parkervalentine4937
@parkervalentine4937 3 жыл бұрын
julian
@Juliachretien
@Juliachretien 3 жыл бұрын
That's the tea tysm!
@Juliachretien
@Juliachretien 3 жыл бұрын
change thank youuuu
@theunofficialpistachio3652
@theunofficialpistachio3652 3 жыл бұрын
Jax, Joseph, Joshua, Jordan, Jackson, James, Jacob, Josiah, Jeremy
@vince8684
@vince8684 3 жыл бұрын
Could you guys comment using my name Vince and he/him pronouns? Kinda still questioning..
@vince8684
@vince8684 3 жыл бұрын
@@rosebud6116 im good thanks for asking :)
@lava3163
@lava3163 3 жыл бұрын
Vince is a great guy, he seems pretty cool I hope his day has been going great!
@TheObserver37
@TheObserver37 6 ай бұрын
What a stupid title you decide NOT realize you want to be something you aren’t . 😂
@MichaelDussault
@MichaelDussault 6 ай бұрын
what a stupid comment to waste your time writing lol thanks for the view!
@devincrumpler4287
@devincrumpler4287 Жыл бұрын
Ur cute
@troyhayder6986
@troyhayder6986 3 жыл бұрын
No homo
@arvo-noon
@arvo-noon 3 жыл бұрын
Wrong video?
@divyabawa267
@divyabawa267 6 жыл бұрын
Did you just ask me to pray for you that is against my religion I am boycotting this channel
@chickpea
@chickpea 5 жыл бұрын
KZfaq's slogan is "Broadcast Yourself" which is what this person is doing, also you are literally taking someone's self expression which, let me tell you is also against your religion
@Spideyface
@Spideyface 4 жыл бұрын
Please for the love of god say this is a joke
@KayKashi
@KayKashi 3 жыл бұрын
Why are you like this
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