He contacted me after a month of no contact this definitely works. Just go cold and focus on yourself. No matter how long it takes, it’s good to work on yourself because regardless. Pour all that energy and love into yourself. You’ll attract better people and things and find yourself again. Good luck on your decision on letting them back in

my ex texted me while i was watching this video.

Thank you for not trying to make money off of everyone else’s pain. I’ve searched online for a while and they would have a 45 min video trying to sell me their product and reveal nothing. So thank you so much.

I just want all the men here to know that time heals all wounds. My ex left me for another guy this time last year, I watched countless "get your ex back" videos and slowly realized that improving myself was the true answer. I'm much better off without her and my life is going great ever since. Don't put all your eggs in the basket of getting them back.

"What they are really missing is the intimacy with you" - so true 10.30

Ex reached out after 1 year and 2 months. I bid her farewell.

Im not even sure if I want to get my ex back in the first place, but man, just listening to you keeps me calm and feels like I'm learning something new in every other video. Thanks!

Every breakup is different, every person is different. Most of the time it’s lack of communication. People can’t communicate. Everyone is guarding their heart in different ways. And they don’t appreciate each other. It always takes two. Everyone has demons inside. Communication is very important. Women want men to think like them. Men want women to be like them. We are different. People are with each other from different reasons. It sad that we let ego and pride to destroy beautiful things. Play games. Be someone who we are not. That what makes me sad. This videos help us to go through hard times. Give us hope and understand things. We want to know all the answers, but no one knows how others feel.

Cant thank u enough for your advice. No contact works. My ex and I had a good relationship, 7 months long, the breakup wasnt ugly. I went into no contact. 3 weeks later she wanted to meet up and talk, said she really misses me and is still gonna take time to work on herself and be apart but she said she really wants to get back together. It was all very genuine. Great advice coach lee.

My thing is if you are dealing with a narcissistic none of this advice applies. You need to permanently stay no contact. You shouldn’t even want that toxic garbage 🗑

I was devastated and after watching your videos everyday I feel so much better and more confident. Every time I am about to feel anxious or with fear I come to watch your videos and all those bad feelings goes away. Thanks you so much for your videos Coach Lee

Two weeks no contact on my end. She's reached out a handful of times and I've always responded, trying to match her energy but leaving little openings here and there like sending a wink emoji or something. The texts have gotten more frequent and meaningful. Pretty stoked! Dont break no contact. You have to let them come to you and they will figure out if that's what they want or not. Good luck everyone!!

The fact that this man does not break a smile makes the videos that more interesting, he’s so serious but that’s what makes these videos so good, your advice has helped out so much and she just called me halfway through the video to check up on me!! So thank you for the advice Coach Lee

No contact is like going through hell finding yourself and love your videos !!! Thinking of getting your breakup kit soon!

I have 2 ex girlfriends chasing after me ... no contact help me become a better man now I understand the meaning of it

So true. I had a woman I was with for 3 years and she told me I was holding her back. (Unrealistic goals she had) I said ok, and I moved out and didn’t talk to her for three months. She called me and told me she misses me and everything she sees and everywhere she goes she thinks of me. She also told me she misses the way we made love and wishes she would have never let me go. At this point I had already met someone else and was happy. It literally killed her and she was balling like a baby when I told her I have moved on and am happy. Then to top it off, she asked if I would be open to polygamy. Both women were very attractive and as bad as I liked the idea, I remember the pain she put me through and how easy it was for her to help me pack up and leave. Moral to this story is, no contact drove her crazy to the point of calling me from a fake number app to get me to answer. She still texts me and checks up on me through my friends. NO CONTACT WORKS!!!!

I’m going through my first break up and I’m binge watching your videos. Honestly they are helping me loads. Your words are helping me being more stubborn about not contacting him. Been 4 days and I haven’t and won’t. I was stalking him the first two days then deactivated my accounts to stop driving myself insane and let him feel my absence. It is so painful but I guess I’ll be okay sooner than most people do. Thanks to you xx Quick update: He hasn’t contacted me and I’m certain he won’t but it’s starting to feel like it’s for the best. He was a jerk anyway and he didn’t deserve me at all. They don’t deserve us people screw em and work on yourselves. It hurts but it gets better slowly but effectively.

"when people decide to leave your life, let them. But leave theirs too. End the texts. Take the time you would use to write something brilliant back for self-care." "If you feel dread or anxiety at the prospect of communicating with your ex again, or if your relationship with them was unhealthy or abusive, it may be best for your mental well-being to not respond."

I kept liking your videos without subscribing but finally did when in this video you cited my case within the 15th minute. You truly have been in this for 2 decades. Your observations are on point Coach Lee!

For such a young guy, you are so right on relationships. I’m in my seventies and you know more about this stuff then I know in all my years….I’ve always been the door Matt with my men, but after listening to you I’m on the road to recovery in getting my power back. Thank you so much are you a psychiatrist? If not you should be…

I fell for this once with my ex. She left me for her ex boyfriend, and she left me heart broken. We were in the beginning stages of getting to know each other. Etc.. She was so eager, and excited to leave. So she did. It took me some time to get over the situation, but finally. I got over it. I started to work on myself, I got in the gym, ate healthy, and drank lots of water. After 3 months of her leaving. She calls me. I didn’t recognize the number because it had been a long while since the departure. I see the number, didn’t recognize it. But I answered. It was her. She starts to tell me that she missed me, she couldn’t stop thinking of me, and etc. the real reason why she came back was because she wanted me to be there since her ex boyfriend who she left me for cheated on her, and he dumped her. At first I didn’t agree to a meet up, I was very uncomfortable, and I just wanted to be left alone. But after some time of getting some thing’s in order. We started dating. We dated for 9 months. We broke up the week before my birthday. She lied telling me that her close family didn’t like me so they wanted her to leave me. So at first I begged and pleaded because I had some strong feelings for her. But she rejected me. And she didn’t fight for us. I gave up, and then I went right back to working on myself. A week after the breakup. She calls me for a week straight. I was busy on my purpose. Three month’s moving forward she gives me a call. Again, I’m busy on my purpose, and plus I don’t have time to waste on a lying, dirty ex that cheated on me multiple times.after the missed call. I stayed on my purpose, I’m loving myself, I’m doing the things I love with the people I love, and I’m meeting New people. I don’t have time for uncertain women that don’t know what they want. And women that like to leave you for someone else. I let her stay out there because she apparently wanted to leave, she wanted the freedom. I gave it to her. I was patient with her, very supportive. I’m the one that pushed her to keep studying and not giving up on her studies ( We’re both in college ). Because of me, and my support, and motivation. She passed all her classes. I know that this might sound a bit disgusting, but when she would be on her period I would clean her, I didn’t care about blood getting on my hands because to me her blood was also mine. To me we were one. But she didn’t see that. She wanted someone else. So she left. I’m done being nice. She messed that up for the rest.

1. They keep communicating with you. 2. They are curious about your life. (Intimacy) 3. They keep images of you together on social media. 4. Ex reminisces the past with you. 5. If they’re wondering if you talk about them. (Thru friends)

Don't ever go back! They never change they're just contacting you because they don't have anyone else. Mine contacted me after 18 months on a dating site his message was "Hey Stranger!". He crushed my heart. I didn't respond just put a pic up as my profile pic of me with most of him cropped out. Good Riddance!

You sound like a highly educated and professional man who really help us, thank you.

I remember watching this a year ago and having anxiety 😟 now I’m content with what has transpired

This guy makes most sense in comparison to other coaches.

Watching these videos while actually hurting feeling devastated, puts everything in prospective.

I love the clarity and reality in which you speak with and bring to the topic.

Best thing to do is better yourself, be on your purpose, find your gift, and live your life. If someone was able to move on without you first by breaking up with. Why would you want them back?. Don’t hurt yourselves ladies and gentlemen. You deserve better than your ex. A person who truly loves you won’t leave you no matter what challenges may come your way. People who tell you, they love you should see and feel the love. If their actions don’t match heir word’s. Don’t bother with them. Don’t allow anyone to walk all over you. You deserve happiness, love, and peace. Love yourself, be on your purpose, be happy for you. And live for you. Good luck to you all.

After watching many of your videos, I no longer think of my ex the same way but learning from all your videos makes me understand more.

Found your videos when I was looking for help with anxiety post breakup (the advice in your video on that was AMAZING). But now I keep watching videos and realize I have so much to learn in all inter-personal relationships and how I handle feelings of rejection. While I’m not really sure I want this ex back or not, I find these videos so helpful in finding the inner peace I’ve been missing my whole life. Thank you, Coach Lee

Thanks for all your wonderful videos Coach Lee. I've been no contact for 2 months now. I bought you're mergency kit to. You're doing so much for all us broken hearted people. We understand so clearly now. Big thanks from UK x

Every time I watch your videos, you are such an effective coach that I find myself feeling better and more confident and my vibration has raised so much after watching just a few minutes that without fail, I will get a text from the person who I was chasing! Well chase no more! Coach Lee you’re a lifesaver! Keep rocking it!

Thank you Coach Lee for your videos. I have decided that I no longer want to pursue my ex. And in all honesty im glad that I have moved on. I refuse to chase anyone who leaves me especially at a time when I needed them the most. It shows that he just did not care. However, your videos have been very helpful during this time for me. Thank you again.

Everytime I think about him I get emotional almost like an anxiety attack then I'll get a text from him to be honest it getting creepy

Learn from your mistakes. Change your behaviors. End on a positive note. Move on. It's been days 3 for me. I developed a lot of affection in an LDR for someone, and I botched it completely. Saddest part is in real life I am a completely different person in thw best way possible. I've made my peace. Whatever happens happens. I got a bright future😎. Wish them the best.

I like what you said about unnecessary breakups. I think that's what's happening because she's going to college and she sent me a text saying things that didn't seem like her. She was always super invested in the relationship

Your videos give me so much comfort. My ex of 5 years broke up with me as he hasn't worked during the pandemic and needs to focus on work. He keeps texting me and wants to go for walks. I don't want to be just mates with him.

Thank you Coach for making these videos. Makes a huge difference.

I agree with you about ignoring your ex. I went 10 days no contact and thought he would never reach out... well he did on day 10. He told me if i ignored him he would have thought I moved on and wouldn’t reach out anymore... So don’t ignore!!!!

My first non-black content creator I listened to & so open-minded now..Great content..Im fresh out in break up & needed this!!

I love you Coach Lee, I’m always happy when I get a notification from you😘

Thank you so much Lee. You are so sincere. I miss and love the person I have broken up with - or rather, who has broken up with me. I will wait, and focus on me.

Looking at you makes breaking up easy to do!!!!!!! Thanks coach!😘

I wanted to tell you, coach Lee, and everybody hoping for no contact to work, it does. My case was the most desperate. He told me there was no chance for him to come back. And now he's here, after three months(after I begged him and broke no contact once and I had to start no contact all over again) But that's not easy at all. I waited for this moment so bad but this is the most difficult part because I love him but he broke my heart and I don't know if he's just feeling nostalgic or maybe he misses me just sexually. So please coach Lee, after all the help you've given to me, make a video about the cases you should trust your ex or not. Thank you anyway.

Your voice is so calm and it helps relieve all the pain I am going through right now. Thank you coach for all your wonderful advice. It helps me get through day by day. May the Heavens bless you more.

@Coach Lee! Jeez you are so right! I strictly followed the no contacf rule although it was driving me nuts. So i worked more and went on holiday. I wrote last week that he re-contacted me and I came here for advice. You say ignoring is not right and I followed what you said! I didn't ignore but replied and kept it cool and friendly but not too much. Even used your words from video. This week he has been communicating trying harder to make me laugh like the beginning with edited videos of himself. And Today he asked me to meet him again! Can you imagine!??? Like I can't think and need you to tell me what to do next!! He made it clear that he is even jealous of my vacation now (instagram holiday pics) and he wants to know so much! If I met anyone else etc and that he "is still the best for me" now thats some confidence there..🤣 from someone who called it quits Now he asked to meet and implied he misses us! Coach Lee! Please think for me again. What to do? Lets get this baby back! How can I book your time for coaching ?

Coach Lee you are my daily dose of strength 💪, thank you 😊

Your hair looks sooo good! Blond..soft & shiny..💝🎁🎈😘

Genuines. I have no doubt this is highly effective advice. Thanks for sharing.

This is way harder when it's been a seriously long relationship with kids to boot. Not so easy to go cold turkey no contact. I have watched your video several times about what to do in that situation. Keeping it about the kids and nothing else. But it does make it complicated, we have to see each other often and it's in those moments I'm worried about and don't know how to act in front of her. Especially if she ask me anything not pertaining to them, like what do I say or how do I respond? I want to be strong show her everything you're saying. But it makes it so much harder when kids are involved. She wants to be civil for the kids, said she wants us to be a family but needs time and space to process everything that is going on and what I left her with, letting her know I respect her decision but don't agree with it, I respect myself enough to not flip out over it, won't chase or pursue and simply keep it about the kids. She says we can be a family without a title. Which throws me off. It's like let me see if it works with someone else, beat around the bush, talk in riddles and never straight to the point and it drives me crazy. Just say what you mean and follow through. Don't leave me hanging on the back burner while you see if it's better with someone else and then what? It don't work or you're not happy or when the intimacy isn't there and you feel unloved you come running back and I'm supposed to take you back after that? No contact or not that makes me look and actually be weak af! Like I have no self respect and dignity. Sigh...Am I wrong? She also wants us to still go to church as a family once a week. Which really doesn't allow me to give her time and space without me, is this a ruse to shit test me once a week to see if things are better, etc? or an excuse to keep me strung along in case it don't work out if she decides to move? Or is it simply she just needs space and time for us to be together? Like I'm all over the place in my head and it sucks! Also makes me think she is literally using it as an excuse to use on someone else, like oh if you see us all together at church it's simply for the kids, not for us to be together, just trying to be civil and cordial for the kids, not for him or us to get back together. That sounds like an excuse for some other interest right? Or am I over thinking it all and second guessing myself into a hole? Also, I feel like I should go to church FOR MY KIDS, not her, to show I'm strong enough to let OUR issues go and put the kids first which in the end will show me as a mature person who has moved on. But I worry on both ends, will she think we're better off as we are now, saying see we're better off single because there is no attachment in the way or will it work for me? I keep thinking I should just not go to church anymore but I think that makes me look weak and immature as well. God this is so hard to decipher when you're left with tid bits of information and no clear explanation, figure it out on your own type stuff. Sorry for the book everyone. What's the general thought/s here? I need help!

my ex new gf contacted me and called me names even though we stopped talking long time ago .. I feel flattered lol

After 6 yrs, I think it's been and gone. No going back, although I think of her every day. We were together 17yrs, had 3 children together, but definitely no contact in a positive wY from her, for months.

Lee, your tips seem to be working to the BOOK. I'm impressed. I never believed any of this. I thought, nah, it wouldn't work for all cases. And it's working! The summary of my case is: She was always very dominant and I let her be because it didn't bother me much. Then she decided to mess 17 years of friendship and 2 years of relationship. We even had rings and everything, we really went well with each other in many aspects, etc. Then we both were facing real life crysis at that point in our lives. But here's the problem: She is the one that likes to stay by her own while i'm the one that try to work together both our problems. I've learned from that. But it was too late. She literally came another day saying she "doesn't feel anything for me anymore and doesn't even know why". She insulted me in many ways she never did before. She was always an incredibly PROUD and sometimes narcisistic person (although she knew when to dial down) and seeing her looking for me and even saying she "want to talk better in another time" is something i've never seen she going for. I'm keeping it polite and casual but treating it like it's a new relationship with another person. Even if we don't end up together back again, just the fact that i'm seeing a very proud person being humble. It took only 9 days. She still has pictures of us together with rings and all in her social media. She is active on social media daily and even added some male friends but... Our pics are still there. Of course I haven't deleted mines either, as I would still be with her otherwise. And she did delete her other exes pictures before. I'll update this as we go.

Im learning all this and I need to have you videos all day, I don’t know if is going to work, but It makes me feel better

you are the best coach , I've seen others but they you talk is so logical

I loved the cake analogy

Followed no contact after 8 weeks got a message 10 weeks phoned me back together now it has worked be patient focus on yourself this is good advise I found that radio contact silence worked really well go missing.Good luck.

I love Into-Me-See play on words, very clever and insightful.

I've been doing everything you teach in your videos. Going 4 weeks of NC. The only signs I know of right now is that he didn't unfriend me on FB neither deleted our pics together, though his other exes pics had been deleted. Not sure who dumped who, but he got pissed when I called him out on some bs about 2 months ago. It must have really hurt his male ego and he started to pull away. We never argued or anything and I let him do the slow fade until we stopped talking altogether. He actually might think I let go of him haha I'm not reaching out first, did't wish him happy birthday in January, nor will be contacting him on Valentine's. When I get nostalgic, I re-watch your videos that help keep my resolve and determination. Thank you so much for all the support and care, Coach Lee. Much appreciated :-)

Thank you so much 👋 most of the video I have seen are always trying to sell thier product, you hit the right talk I needed I really appreciate u bro...

My ex broke up with me a month ago and we just decided to go no contact last week this shit hurts but these videos are helping

These are all true! Believe Coach Lee!

I am thrilled I found your website! You are a lifesaver. :)

Coach, No contact worked literally within 3 days. My ex reached out to me! Thank you so much

His advice is golden! It literally took 2 weeks of no contact before he broke down and reached out to me. I only respond when he contacted me. Honestly idk if I even want him back at this point but hey, ya never know. 😊

You are exactly right because I used the nobcontact rule for 30 days, & my ex husband wanted me back so bad. So, we tried working it out time & time again. Never moving back in together though. But after several times of me doing a no contact, caused him to get a hobby that he is now obsessed with. Oh mercy! True story

Thank you, we have been split up almost a year but always still keeping contact with each other.. neither one of us has actually broke up with either one. I love this man, I’m ex military I have PTSD and was woke one night him telling me I was hitting the wall in my sleep.. I didn’t believe him it took ppl at a homeless shelter telling me what I do in my sleep and my fiancé was right, Im not homeless anymore and have our home, I just want him to come home..

I blocked him, finally I feel like letting go for good I don't think I will ever be able to look him right in the eyes and pretend to be fine with him while he has hurt me and left me with no clarity 💔 I hate him so much

U sir have all my attention ur the best everr

You are so good, I still watch your videos. Yes he begged me back months later. No I didn't take him back. Its been 2 yrs and I still listed to you. You helped me heal and your voice is still soothing ❤❤❤

I don't need to have him in my life but this video is motivating.

These videos actually help put things in perspective. Over 4 or 5 years me and my ex have broken up in the past once for 3 months. He started seeing someone casually straight away while I cried for a month. I managed to met a guy after a month and we were casually dating, nothing serious. 2 months after that my ex got in contact and when we met up again it was like nothing had happened. Fast forward 2 years and we have broken up again. It's been almost a month. This time I was the one who moved on in 2 weeks and the person I'm seeing is amazing! But I'm just not sure if it's a rebound or if I genuinely am interested in them as I still feel my heart belongs to my ex even though in my head I dont want him back anymore, I truly want to keep them as one of my closest friends. I'm nervous because we are trying to stay friendly while remaining distant, yet I get scared they will see me doing well and moving on and want me back and I will fall for them instantly like last time 😔

My ex reached out to me after a week of the break up. We texted for a bit, she even was open to have a phone coversation. Then she said a few hrs later that she didnt think we should talk or meet up because we had to much chemistry with eachother and something would happen. She said that she didn't desire to share her life with me, and we shouldn't communicate. Then today she kept looking at me while we were at work, then came right to me while I was on my lunch break and talked to me for a bit. Even though I haven't contacted her, I'm confused I want her back. But I dont know what's going on. I was polite, lighthearted, calm, and positive we interacting with her. And have been following coach Lee's advice just don't know how to move forward from here. Still hopeful and not giving up

You’re spot on! Keep up the good work! Thank You!❤

Coach Lee needs to paid for his videos

You’re the best coach Lee.

7 years and he just told me he doesnt love me anymore. It was up and down a lot, and hes been hot and cold last few days. I'm broken every day and i just gotta survive.

I’m very thankful you made this Chanel you make me believe I can actually get her back even tho I didn’t take the break up correctly how I should of I wish I found your channel earlier I would of been better off in the long run

Very clever coach Lee almost mesmerising.

Coach Lee, you're my guiding star, thank you! What about a video on this topic : living with ex AND having children together?

Day 2 on the no contact rule. Day 1: my wife called to tell me about her day, I ignored her call. Day 2: she called in the am and she sounded happy to hear my voice. I’ll keep you posted moving forward.

Good things man!👍🏽

Been two weeks, she asked how I am doing. NC works. I'm both okay with myself, and happy if she'd come back. If not, at least we may go into good terms again :)

Do you think you can make a video focusing on break ups caused by parents?

Lee, I love the advice. Thank you. My wife of 15 years has dumped me for a resident doctor at work. We have 2 little kids. We've never fought, never yelled at each other. Things just cooled over the last 6 months. Any hope???

This is the second time we are in NC. The first time he broke up because he lost interest and we went back together after 6 months (I was just upgrading myself at that time and I just noticed him unblocking me and eventually reached out). This second time, I was the one at fault. He broke up with me but he didn't block me off. He unfollowed me on my socials and I did as well after some time. On the 3rd week, he texted about a news article which may have affected my sister in Estonia. I replied politely and he didn't reach out again. After a week, I texted him saying I was sorry. He did not respond yet. I'm trusting NC and using this time to love myself and not overly obsessing about getting him back. I will be staying away and it's been hard but I am staying the course. Use this time to reflect on yourself and how to become better for you. Whatever happens, the best you can do is to stay away and respect yourself enough to not force another person to be in their life when they don't want to.

Coach Lees Hair is on Point 👦🏼👌🏻

“Better then any love conquered, is that of a lost love that returns. ..” JDD

This is so true , My guy broke up with me in a 1 year and 6 months relationship, because he lost feelings for me and then he went into another relationship a week after we broke up , I was really dissipointed , because it shows me he didn't felt anything for me later in the relationship. We broke up, because he can't handle the truth and he is also a Mamas boy , his parents didn't like me , because me and my guy argued alot and he would tell terable things about me. If his parents says he must leave me then he will do it. He put his parents Always First and Then me. His parents can't also handle the truth that's why. My guy has depression, because of his parents since he was a child. He was lonely, he had a second sibling and that one always had the attention and he not. That's why he has depression, that's also the problem why we broke up.

Intimacy- Into Me See ~Esther Perel Glad to get a hint you like her work Coach Lee. And I Love you both 👌

Wow this made me understand alot

No communication 19days But now im okkk

Watching your videos and paused… think about my ex…paused.. And all of a sudden a have a text message… and it’s was him!!!! Oh my lord!…. Next thing I know, Tears in my eyes. 😢 And it’s not easy to go through breakup but it is for the best… Thanks coach lee! It helps for what I have been through now 😭😢

11 kg down. Running more than I ever have. Fitter and stronger. Mental health under control. Break up gave me a wake up but nc gave me the strength to get back in control.

Great job man thank you 🙏🏻

Wish I had a positive sign sir

You helped me alot but, been 5 months and some days and nothing. She was a bit unstable due to her past relationship. It hurts but, I know there is no hope anymore.

Great insight Thanks coach

Thank you so much for the ideas. Godbless!!!!