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The first story does have an update. Basically, OPs sister did finally realize OP was right and what she was doing wasn't gentle parenting. The BIL also wasn’t on board the whole time. The sister agreed to adjust her parenting and they agreed to stay in hotels until the kids behavior got better.

Gentle parenting is, basically, not losing your shit on the kid, and it requires firm discipline and a strong character. All that lazy, if ever, parenting, is appalling.

Gentle parenting? No. Permissive parenting is what that is.

Story 1 is not gentle parenting. Gentle parenting done correctly DOES NOT mean "let kids get away with everything", no consequences/boundaries, etc. like a lot of people seem to think it does. 🙄

She’s not parenting she’s letting her kids do what ever they want with no consequences

Story 3 - Dude should have said "you're right Gina. I don't like you. Not one bit. Now get the eff out".

Gentle parenting means being tough but fair. Not letting them do anything they want. It means unconditional love for your kids, without tolerating/allowing misbehavior.

As someone who was treated with gentale parenting : The first story is not that its called child neglect...

Drunkeness and loud behavior at 2:00 a.m. is just TOTALLY WRONG. There is no excuse for that kind of behavior. If you're going to live in an apartment complex, you have to be more considerate of those who also live in that building. It's outrageous to even hint that anyone else should just accept being unable to sleep at night, especially when one is working and studying for exams. Loud, drunk and disturbing everyone else is NOT acceptable in an apartment building EVER!

*Story 1:* Talk about delusional sister! I'm not suggesting that they beat the children black and blue, but someone needs to call them out on their wrong behaviour and make sure they don't do again what they did.

Guy: What is the most often thing you hear in each story? Me: The phrase "I seriously don't know what to do"

at a pre school i work at we did not call it time out, we had a thinking chair, we would tell the kids they need to sit in the thinking chair (no more that the minutes they are years old) and think about what they did. I found it worked well it give the kids a cool off peroid and if we asked the kids why they did a certain thing they could tell us and some could even tell us why it was wrong. I would not go as far as my boss and make the kids say they were sorry and not mean it. But what the sister in story 1 was not doing a good job of parenting.

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Story 1: OP is not a jerk here and had every right to kick the sister and the kids out of the house. I would also be sending them a bill for all the damage that was done here. That is totally unacceptable. Also, what is this "gentle parenting" nonsense here? That sounds like non-existant parenting to me. If those kids are acting like this at 3 and 5, then just imagine what they'll be like at 13 and 15. The sister is 100% setting them up for failure here. OP has nothing to regret or feel bad about here. Also, the OPs mom needs to back off here if she thinks for a second that the OP is in the wrong here. Story 2: OP isnt a jerk here.... and if John really was a good friend here, then he would be much more understanding with everything going here, with the upcoming wedding and the OP being pregnant. Life happens, dude, get over yourself. If anything, John should be more supportive here, rather then being bitter then he isn't getting the OPs undivided attention here. John deserves no part in the OPs life after this. Story 3: Gee, Gina, i wonder why the OP wouldnt like you. You are a terrible aunt and sister here. If i were the OP and that was my house, i would've thrown her out for her attitude here. I know i did a lot for my late father when he was going through cancer treatments and no one in the extended family even remotely acted like Gina here. I would've given Gina a big piece of my mind before throwing her out, along with going zero contact with her. Story 4: Yeah, its always a huge red flag when someone doesnt want to introduce their family to you.... mainly because that person is trying to shield you from the craziness in their family. The OP should've left well enough alone at first. While the parents seem alright, the OP should be in zero contact with Lisa here. She is just a vile person. The fact that Lisa would refer to the OP as "that thing" is beyond rude and i know i would've wanted nothing to do with her after that. Also, why on earth is Mark even remotely listening to Lisa here? Its one thing to relay what she is saying, but to start listening is another. This relationship souds extremely rocky and i would probably call the engagement off if things dont improve. Story 5: OP is not a jerk at all here, the sister is. This marriage was doomed right from day one. I still cant understand why a new person comes into someone's life like this, particularly childrens, and just immediately assume that they are going to like you and want you to be a new or replacement parent. That just a delusional way of thinking. Also, with the sister saying she was glad the kids mom was gone was just disgusting.... no wonder they didnt like her, and the ultimatum she gave her now ex was also majorly wrong. Why would he pick her over the kids? OP has done nothing wrong here, and i know i wouldn't support the sister at all here.... she is 100% in the wrong here. Also, im willing to bet that the parents dont know half of the details told here either. The sister has more then likely told a watered down version. Story 6: No way is the OP a jerk here, those loud partygoers were. Im surpised other people didnt call the people before the OP did. It sounds like the individual that was arrested wasn't arrested for having the party, but for being unruly to the police when they were there... but of course, they would leave that detail out in their post. Also, if i were the OP, i would've threatened to call the police on the women that came by for harassing you and threaten you at your door. Let them know that you arent intimidated and you wont back down.

Story 2: I’m not your therapist, nor am I your verbal punching bag for your personal hang ups regarding religion. And that’s on a good day, when I’m not stressed out all to Hell. You’re not helping me in any way, all you’re doing is being an emotion/energy leech. Also relationships change, and you’re not always going to be the center of someone’s social life. Adapt or leave.

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When I was in middle school my mom’s friends came to visit and brought their own kids (around the same age as me) and my mom made the mistake of saying “make yourselves at home.” They did. Let there dog crap everywhere, ate food that was set aside and allotted for certain recipes. And when I said “hey don’t eat that, moms using it for such and such” they literally answered “Your mom said make ourselves at home.”

The first story is just letitng your kids be babysat their whole life

What’s next. Their going to destroy a vase or something that cost like 69420 MILLION DOLLARS💀☠️?

Story 5: Ngl I do kinda feel for the sister because that situation was toxic af for all parties involved. She wasn't perfect but neither were the kids. A person can only take so much before they snap. Story 6: Apologize? Hell no. You're pretty much asking for it by partying at 2 AM. In fact, call the cops again because I'm pretty sure that crazy lady was threatening OP.

This is not gentle parenting. This is lazy parenting. Gentle parenting is incredibly challenging Karma incredibly effective, and truly rewarding

Story 1: That is NOT gentle parenting. Gentle parenting is about being aware of your own behaviour, and the behaviour you model for your child. It encourages building strong connections, empathy, respect, and compassion and focuses on guiding your child towards appropriate behaviours because they are capable beings. Gentle parenting still requires consequences for the child's actions, it's just about explaining why the consequences are necessary, and what is expected of the child going forward.

ah, yes "gentle parenting" aka "we've tried nothing and we're all out of ideas!"

Gentle parenting is the same thing as "lazy parents".

That's just not smart. If you walk into a relationship your spouse is a widower you don't go head first into it. You take things slow you adapt and don't let your jealousy or let your low self-esteem. OP is right. If the sister had any self-awareness instead of trying to be stepmom she should have been a friend first. This comes from a widower

First oh hell no kids need to be punished for things

Now I want an update on the first story when the kids are middle school and teenagers. Jail is in their future.

In that one story about the widower, the children are total jerks in that and quite frankly the woman was stupid. But I would say out of the entire story the one who is most at fault is the father of the children.

In the second story it seems like "John" has feelings for the OP. She has a husband and a baby on the way. She was right to terminate the friendship.

1 min into the video: after what the title said that isn't gentle parenting.

Ok so story one- they pulled the dogs hair and HIT THE DOG they need to be sent to PRISON

"ItS nOt YoUr PlAcE tO dIsCiPlInE tHeM!" -🤓 like you really wanna say that? You're in OP's house. Their house, their rules.

i seriously dont know what to do

Nah this pisses me off because when I was a kid I got beat till his hand hurts if I was acting up “if they all point fingers at each other whoop all of them so Ik I got the right one” - my dad but lil siblings don’t get hit at all even if they kick and scratch me because “general parenting”

Good this bother kicking his sister want because she do do general parenting. Even after seeing want her kids to her 🏡 by destroying and defacing her house.

Nope he wants to be your significant other not a friend

No not the jerk for calling the cops especially when there are noise variances all over the United states. Most places including several apartment complexes damn near all apartment complexes have laws and rules written down in their contracts that say you cannot make loud noises after 10 or 11:00 p.m. at night because that's when the time most people are trying to sleep and also people have children so they have to get up and go to school. And quite frankly if these people keep approaching you I would contact the apartment complex and I would also warn them that they can be evicted. So yeah good luck with being temporarily arrested but when you're permanently kicked out of your home because you're a loud JEEK yeah you're going to really have a good time then.

Yes she is the jerk it doesn't matter if she's getting married every time she called him to vent about anything he was there to listen to her and then she started in flat at ignoring him on the turnaround. So yes yes she's a giant jerk and didn't treat him like a friend either she just treated him like a stress ball

For the original poster in story three: Gee maybe if you didn't push this hard on finding out who your fiance's family was none of this would have happened.

Spoil the child spare the rod does not mean what most people think my parents did that and I got my ass beat when I was wrong and now I am not a karen

Yeah gentle parenting or as its really called “ lazy parenting “ is one of the worst types of parenting that results in kids becoming spoiled and dangerous to be around later in life

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She is raising criminals not kids

This is ridiculous way to raise children. When someone is visiting, you abide by the rules of the homeowner. The first time someone did something like drawing on the walls with crayon. That's not something I would ever tolerate. It's a shame to allow children to grow up without discipline are spoiled brats and will destroy anything that belongs to someone else but will raise he__ if someone destroys their stuff. I just don't understand that philosophy. I'm just not into allowing children to set the rules of their behavior. Children don't have boundaries for behavior -- they have to be taught to behave!

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here before the typo in the title gets fixed also not punishing children when they mess up is basically abuse you're just setting them up for failure in life

Yeah second story is why i won't date women with male best frienda. That ish is exhausting.

The first story damn does parents are lazy. Gentle parenting? Really that sounds like they're lazy and they don't want to take responsibility for what their kids are going to do. That's not parenting. That's just laziness.

Yeah no, fuck that type of parenting, kids need discipline

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Come on, everyone on that subreddit can't seriously end their post with "I seriously don't know what to do" it's getting a bit cringe to hear it at the start and end of every story.

What the flip

The last story is why people carry guns in the US. That's just not smart

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Thats not gentle parenting , as i child of gentle parentint , we get in trouble , if i so something that requires it , my mom would spank me , my mom axtually gets onto me more than most , so yes , we get in trouble , your sisters "gentle parentint" is actually permissive parenting

I’m absolutely not trying to be rude, but the one with the wedding yes technically the original poster was kind of a jerk. She said that she would text her friend to vent and then when she would respond, she would not respond at all and then it sounded like she was getting mad at him.

Mark is a beta male as the youngsters call it now. He should be standing up for you and your child. If he knew how toxic his sister was and his family was and he should at least a really warn you in the beginning. Yeah it sounds like he's taking the cowards approach. OP my advice unless you want to really stay with him it's time to move on and gets on with your life someone better will come.

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Fix the spelling error in the title, would you?

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Gentle parenting is not in fact gentle parenting. It is not even a form of parenting in any sense. It's just a straight-up refusal to parent your child. And those two kids are going to be in for a VERY rude awakening when they learn that not a damn person in the world outside of their parents gives a damn about their feelings.

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