@zoeunlimited 3 жыл бұрын
What are your thoughts on never having a boyfriend (or girlfriend) in your 20s?
@helenareis6454 3 жыл бұрын
My thoughts are : " can relate" ahhahaha almost 23 too and there we are
@angiedamien137 3 жыл бұрын
I am 28 Zoe and I never had a boyfriend either, it's okay to be single and we shouldn't feel pressured to date anyone. You are a special girl who deserves all the best, I love your videos ❤️ I'm a night nurse and I watch your videos while my patients sleep for inspiration. I also have been fasting on the right track because of you, so thank you! Much love to you! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@an_seiji 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 20 and doing fine. Still waiting for that perfect timing wherein I no longer have to stress myself out by balancing love life and studies. Having a boyfriend is a full- time job. You can never ran away unless you would really quit.
@jaylenegarci3448 3 жыл бұрын
My thoughts are that you shouldn't be pressured to be in a relationship and honestly I think it's fine being single at the age of 23 or any age because you get to focus on your own goals and what's matters is focusing and working on yourself as a person.
@kalea7874 3 жыл бұрын
Na-ah! I am just 11 but i have crush and its my profile ahhhh! Are u kpop fan?
@a.m4520 3 жыл бұрын
I also hate how like in your teens and/or early twenties your parents are firmly against you having a relationship, yet once you hit like 25 they're asking for grandchildren.
@aSerendipityCalledBTS 2 жыл бұрын
For me was: in my teens "NO BOYFRIEND, just study, don't be like those grazy for boys girls, you don't need a boy". Once I finished school and entered University was "when I'll see you in a wedding dress?" and now at 24 is a "I want grandchildrens hurry up and find someone" 🤦♀️
@jakesimdumbdidumb3373 2 жыл бұрын
For real lol
@imane5819 2 жыл бұрын
@@aSerendipityCalledBTS im 24 and it s hilarious. My mom started doing the same but not as intensely (im gonna graduate this year god willing). Lmao she keeps asking if i like anybody. No, I love my tea and I wanna enjoy nature once Im done with uni. 💖🙈
@aSerendipityCalledBTS 2 жыл бұрын
@@imane5819 Haha, same I just want to relax and hang out with my friends after finishing uni 🙈
@user-xr2eu8qf2f 2 жыл бұрын
Oh god please no, I’m 20 and I’m already tired of those “do you have a boyfriend?” questions from family members
@Lordsiddhi 3 жыл бұрын
Girls we are not alone , we are all in this together and there is no shame in being single 🙌
@Mikey_57 3 жыл бұрын
Ya
@angelconstantino6551 3 жыл бұрын
Plus being a virgin
@Lordsiddhi 3 жыл бұрын
@@Fullofpetals whoa, so happy for u😊
@pigsthesedays2304 3 жыл бұрын
That's so freaking cringey. Like shut up instead
@benzzz9291 3 жыл бұрын
Totally agree with you sis nd m so proud
@squidwardtentacles4234 3 жыл бұрын
the pressure to lose your virginity at a young age is insane. I’ve had “friends” endlessly tease me and make jokes about my “innocence” and lack of experience. It made me feel like there was something wrong with me and that I should have done all these things by 18. Now that I don’t have ppl like that around me anymore I’ve become comfortable with it. Everything happens for a reason, how it should and when it should and I will never settle :)
@sofiaa5255 3 жыл бұрын
So true! When I was in highschool teachers were like "don't have sex, you are still young" and when I started college everyone have had sex. I felt like I didn't enjoyed my teens as I should LOL
@Valentina-eh5zf 3 жыл бұрын
This is so toxic. I never had any boyfriend or sexual experiences until I married (21 years old). But since I turned 16 I felt this toxic sexual pressure to lose my virginity and being target from other girls as prude and bigot and from the boys the arrogant difficult entitled girl who doesn’t date anyone. Like wut
@Valentina-eh5zf 3 жыл бұрын
@@sofiaa5255 you lost nothing.
@tealafoster2334 3 жыл бұрын
I'd genuinely like to know why that would make you feel weird/ something wrong about yourself? Because I feel like they're all bloody ridiculous... like they're literally making fun of us for not being used? Umm reality check, we've not met the rite person, have no want for someone atm, mental health like endless of logical reasons! But they still would like us to get under a rando to "fit in" When you think about, are they really our friends?
@hoseokimchi7605 3 жыл бұрын
for real and friendly advice to everyone going through a similar situation, CUT THESE PEOPLE TF OUT. i started developing several depression from hanging out with invasive, borderline abusive people who would inquire me about my sex life. having alone time to really know myself and understand myself i realized im a gray-ace. so please, dont let others dictate your life, surrond yourself only with people who understand your true nature
@Sunflower-fh1nw 2 жыл бұрын
People take life as a supermarket list, "You need to graduate school, go to college, have a boyfriend, get married, have children and so on" but happiness has a different meaning for each person, there is no magic check list to achieve it.
@dessa05 2 жыл бұрын
I loved each of your words
@veronikafarkasova4091 2 жыл бұрын
right!
@user-xr2eu8qf2f 2 жыл бұрын
right, dating is the least of my priorities
@returnoftheromans6726 2 жыл бұрын
Please say it again, for the people in the BACK!!!! 👏
@user-qp6jt7mk8r 2 жыл бұрын
Perfectly said:) i haven’t gone to college or dated but still finding the path meant for me
@naminegirl21 3 жыл бұрын
I'm a 29 year old virgin. Never had a boyfriend, not even a date. I'm comfortable with that, but people made it seem like something was wrong with me. It's "normal and healthy" to want love, dates, marriage, and it's "normal and healthy" to want to bang all the time. Bruh, you do you. You wanna have fun and date and sleep with people? Go ahead! Have fun! More power to you! I'm not judging! Be yourself! But don't tell ME I'm "wrong" or "childish". And please, my favorite aunt, I love you, but for the last time, I'M NOT GAY🤣
@kit8342 3 жыл бұрын
I’m 26 and I haven’t had a boyfriend either. I’ve never held hands with anyone more than 3 seconds, never been kissed. I had 2 dates and didn’t even know they were dates until later. I never thought much about it but old friends started getting married and suddenly people started asking me about why I haven’t had a boyfriend and why I haven’t done anything. They’re respectful about it but it’s like I’ve become a circus freak. I started wondering if there really was something wrong with me.
@naminegirl21 3 жыл бұрын
@@kit8342 yeah, people used to get in my head, make me feel like I'm missing out on something I wasn't interested in. I used to think "maybe I SHOULD date? What if I DO need experience? Is something wrong with me? Maybe I should date my friend who has a crush on me, what if he's The One? Maybe I should go sleep with someone and then I'll be normal..." But luckily I didn't make myself do something I'd regret. There are people out there who have slept with others just to feel normal and they regretted it. It's good to be in your own comfort zone.❤️
@tera7621 3 жыл бұрын
I don’t understand why people don’t think that’s an uncomfortable question. To me thats equivalent to “when are you getting married? when are you having kids? when are you getting a new job? ”. Which society knows to stop. Like sometimes if its already a discussion or it’s just a friend genuinely asking without singling you out it still can be self-conscious and awkward but I appreciate its done out of respectful curiosity. And especially the gay thing!!! I’ve been constantly ask that since I’ve never had a BF. Like nooo how many times I have to say it. I’m already feeling judge and now you want to judge me harder!
@giuliarizzo344 3 жыл бұрын
You know that is (IDK in your case you should see if it fits)an orientation? It's called asexual someone that isn't sexually attracted to anyone and Aromantic someone that isn't romantic attracted to anyone
@franz3810 3 жыл бұрын
30 y/o woman here, had many chances but didn't want to have sex, I maybe asexual I guess
@lizushian9660 3 жыл бұрын
Seeing this type of content makes me feel less bad about myself, especially when everyone on media seems so happy about their relationships. At 22 years old, I haven't had a bf/gf or sex. However I enjoy the time on my own! Don't feel pressured, everything comes at the right time.
@RaquelAbracadabrantes 3 жыл бұрын
Its The same for me 😌😌😌
@nicolejarel5953 3 жыл бұрын
I think the thing is just to not force anything. Everything will come at the right time.
@EXOistheStandard 3 жыл бұрын
Me too. I wanna take my time and find a nice guy to finally settle down.
@Ghost-vg6iq 3 жыл бұрын
Young girls better be beware of narcissists and love bombing. I am hearing a lot of disturbing stories about girls naively trusting them. Find a good guy and don't move too fast in relationships - a guy
@EXOistheStandard 3 жыл бұрын
@@Ghost-vg6iq Thank you for advising us. I have heard things like this, that is why i have decided to be traditional in relationship.
@natalija7 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 22 and I've never been in a relationship, kissed someone or been on a date. Sometimes I really struggle with this. Thank you so much for this video, it helps a lot knowing you're not alone. ❤
@joseescobar2076 2 жыл бұрын
U
@pinkyg0916 2 жыл бұрын
Me too. My introvert personality plays a big part of it too 😂 never really cross my comfort zone and always stay at home
@Rose-gy1cc 2 жыл бұрын
Me to. Your not alone.
@katiecook6332 2 жыл бұрын
Same here.
@ajokeshoyoola4755 2 жыл бұрын
Me too
@oppserve 3 жыл бұрын
honestly tho, u are right, the ultimate key is to love ourselves first. I was single and hate myself for 22 years until I realised that happiness can only be 'created' by ourselves and added on by others, never the other way round
@bhagyamk9155 2 жыл бұрын
OMFG😭✨✋🏻queens supporting queenzzzz 😍😍
@pabloooytb 2 жыл бұрын
facts
@imannasan 3 жыл бұрын
The pressure in Asian households to be married by 30 is so toxic where they literally call you “leftover women” if you aren’t married by then. Well said our self worth isn’t based on relationship status, marriage status, or our tie to a man!
@hamdadaha2984 3 жыл бұрын
Same in African countries 😔
@Wondering-Why 3 жыл бұрын
Just curious/ Is that marriage pressure also putted on males?
@imannasan 3 жыл бұрын
@@Wondering-Why mostly females, in China they are called “剩女”
@zoeunlimited 3 жыл бұрын
So true💔
@sumayamashiyat 3 жыл бұрын
@@imannasan what that mean?
@cloudyktten 3 жыл бұрын
zoe isn’t single, she’s already married to avocados 🥑😂
@zoeunlimited 3 жыл бұрын
Hahaha so true!!
@ashrafmelody4236 3 жыл бұрын
500thhggg like
@tofu6274 3 жыл бұрын
@NS 317 bruh! It's a joke
@ihssansej 3 жыл бұрын
Same 😩✨
@ashrafmelody4236 3 жыл бұрын
@@tofu6274 that's also a joke😂😂
@atiyarahman3089 2 жыл бұрын
"Luck is a big element when it comes to relationship" Finally someone said it😑❤️
@merit4078 2 жыл бұрын
Honestly! Like yes: I know I’m not the most extroverted girl and prefer to be more by myself then outside, but I still do go outside, I still have friends I spend time with, I travel, I got to university- etc, there were plenty of times in my 19 years of living where I could’ve met someone but I just never did yet my parents pretend like it’s somehow my fault that I haven’t found anyone and that I should try harder It’s honestly such a shitty mindset
@hannahg.5268 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 25 and I've never had a boyfriend. I'd rather be single while improving myself than to be with a low value man. I want to invest my time and effort to a person who will value me,respect me, and love me for who I am. Ladies, let's not settle for anything less! ☺️
@pls-shanice 2 жыл бұрын
I'm exactly the same!
@user-ds6pk8wt3k 2 жыл бұрын
Same, sis. What is a low value man? Like, a balding 5'4'' tiny pp weakling beta male?
@sarabeatriz5569 2 жыл бұрын
@@user-ds6pk8wt3k I think this "low value" thing shouldn't refer to people considered unattractive by societal standards but rather to people with a poor character and a bad personality. Defining someone's entire value by their physical attributes is an awful thing to do imo
@user-ds6pk8wt3k 2 жыл бұрын
@@sarabeatriz5569 wake up to the reality, kiddo.
@sarabeatriz5569 2 жыл бұрын
@@user-ds6pk8wt3k lmao just noticed the comment history, I should have realized
@KellyStamps 3 жыл бұрын
I love this video so much. I’ve had a boyfriend, but I’ve been celibate for over year and I value sex even more than before! There’s no rush whatsoever and being a relationship isn’t ALL that great anyway.
@zoeunlimited 3 жыл бұрын
I love YOU so much! Thanks for sharing that radiating celibate queen energy ❤️🔥✨
@charos6316 3 жыл бұрын
Oh hi Queen of stampede, thank you for sharing Kelly 💜
@milkandspice1074 3 жыл бұрын
Really? I love being in my relationship.
@TeexMack 3 жыл бұрын
A relationship is great with the right person, but single life is amazing as well.
@milkandspice1074 3 жыл бұрын
@@TeexMack very true!
@jasminetan2234 3 жыл бұрын
I met someone when I was 27. We have been together for a year now. It did drive me a little crazy before we met, I kept thinking if there was something about me that just wasn’t attractive. And the constant uneasiness that I’ll be alone for the rest of my life. But, I have realised that 27 years being alone was such a luxury that I’m so grateful for today. I spent a lot of time focusing on myself while I was single. I had time to build deep relationships with family and friends who are my biggest pillars of support even till today. I got used to being comfortable with spending time alone. I had time to understand my strengths and weaknesses, my triggers and what heals me. And all that 27 years of being alone, helped me to build a healthy and fulfilling relationship with my partner today. This time we have with ourselves is magical. The most important chapter of our lives is this time we have alone, because it will shape everything else. Be so rooted in yourself that nobody’s absence or presence can disturb your inner peace.
@sonderexpeditions 3 жыл бұрын
Literally how I feel being single my whole life. Just behan dating and already trying to figure out how I'd fit them in.
@podedeja2656 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I just turned 26, never in a relationship and I am starting panicking. Needed to hear this 💗
@sofiakvonpfistner 3 жыл бұрын
This comment is beautiful❤️ thank you so much for sharing your wisdom
@misonyathikazi 3 жыл бұрын
This gives me so much hope. I’m 27 and never been in a relationship. I think I’m ready though 🤗
@flowerdeul 3 жыл бұрын
Lovely words. Thank you for this ♡
@oppserve 3 жыл бұрын
My parents didn't allow me to be in a relationship before I graduated university lmao
@nyumi493 2 жыл бұрын
Same 😂😂
@ashley_brown6106 2 жыл бұрын
Umm if you went to university couldn't you just date someone without them realizing??🤣
@honkhonk3192 2 жыл бұрын
girll wyd listening to your parents so much at your age 😂 like that's absolutely not their decision, it's yours
@h.a.w.k7169 2 жыл бұрын
@@honkhonk3192 some of us respect our parents, we need to trust their judgments
@g-cellatwork5406 2 жыл бұрын
I had that rule too but even after 5 years, still single 😁
@Mibs-Mibby 2 жыл бұрын
I have a cousin who finally got her first boyfriend at age 27 and my aunt, her mother, told me and my mom, “Thank God, I thought something was wrong with her!” That makes me feel so bad for my cousin. Her mom thought her not having a boyfriend was problematic. My aunt must think something is wrong with me too as I also never been in a relationship 💀
@amay304 3 жыл бұрын
One thing that bothers me about the couple culture we live in, is often couples tend to ignore the other relationships in their lives. Friends and family get pushed aside for a stranger who often leaves you stressed and more alone then you felt before. While in college I decided to do the opposite and prioritize the non-romantic relationships in my life and found that I learned more about how to create lasting bonds with people more than my friends who dated around. Now at 24 I'm a year into my first relationship with someone who treats me with the same respect and love my friends and family do and I couldn't have gotten here if I didn't take the time to learn about myself while single.
@drnkndmn 2 жыл бұрын
exactly. friendships are in fact equally exciting
@jessiecanning5445 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah man. Me and my best friend had a really good thing going but then she got a boyfriend and forgot I exist. When they break up she ain’t gonna have no friends left to cry to. Maintaining other relationships is so important. It’ll keep you happy in the long run and it’ll be keeping your friends happy
@zuzkapavlikova2542 4 ай бұрын
@@jessiecanning5445 the same thing happened to me
@sabi06 3 жыл бұрын
THIS IS WHAT IM SAYING. I DO NOT NEED A BOYFRIEND AND RELATIONSHIPS ARE ALWAYS SO STRESSFUL. I FIND IT MORE SAFE AND COMFORTABLE TO LOVE AND TREAT MYSELF. HAVING CLOSE FRIENDS ALLOWS US TO HAVE FUN TO WITHOUT WORRYING ABOUT ANYTHING MORE. PLUS I CAN BARELY TAKE CARE OF MYSELF MENTAL HEALTH IS MORE IMPORTANT TO ME.
@namjinsopevminkook12 3 жыл бұрын
You're soo true sis, but my Asian parents don't leave me alone 💔😑
@kexinchen8368 3 жыл бұрын
@@namjinsopevminkook12 I can imagine it happen to me, when i am getting older. Remember your Parents want the best for you. I think it's always like the elder generation thinks at a certain age, you need to have a boyfriend and kids. Which doesn't really help us our younger generation. You know what is best for you and just live your life how you want.💚
@namjinsopevminkook12 3 жыл бұрын
@@kexinchen8368 I'll try to...
@sabi06 3 жыл бұрын
@@namjinsopevminkook12 Fr I’m Asian to and they think I’m bisexual or asexual😭
@hobi1535 3 жыл бұрын
@@kexinchen8368 you got beomgyu 🧍♀️💗. But yes, take care of yourself and your mental health. You have to prioritize yourself first before you prioritize a significant other
@patricelinman7183 3 жыл бұрын
I think the media is a HUGE influence on this. I remember feeling this way at FOURTEEN bc all my friends were in relationships and the way high school is portrayed in media made it seem like I was doing something wrong (or there was something wrong with me) for not having a relationship. I'm 22 now and I still have never had a serious relationship. I have been debating if I want to try dating apps but I'm mostly okay with being single right now. I just graduated college so I'm still trying to figure myself out. Also we're still in a pandemic so meeting people feels weird. One good thing to come out of quarantine is that I have had a lot of time for self reflection and realized I don't need to be in a relationship right now.
@tommyvercetti9322 2 жыл бұрын
It's better to have boyfriend when you hit The wall
@xSaveTheGummyBearsx 3 жыл бұрын
The comments in this video are making me feel so much better about myself. I’m 26, no boyfriend, ever. I don’t really feel like I need one, but everyone around me has one or has had one at some point and it’s made me feel so abnormal. Glad to see I’m not alone. ❤️
@annabell648 3 жыл бұрын
I’m always giving my friend advice but I’m single because coaches don’t play 😎
@nottie9358 3 жыл бұрын
omggg period
@annagyes6152 3 жыл бұрын
Same 😄
@Michaela-sh9mw 3 жыл бұрын
lol that's totally me
@Chirag7344 3 жыл бұрын
Lol🤣🩸
@imjoohoneysjamz3295 3 жыл бұрын
Periodttt 😎
@viny9784 3 жыл бұрын
So I'm not the only one right. Why need a bf when we can do everything by ourself. I can treat my self , love myself, enjoy by myself, gift my self.. Then who needs a bf
@jkkim8433 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, sis. Same thoughts! I like to remind myself that I cam cry alone by myself all alone😂😂😂
@elenavalentina4608 3 жыл бұрын
Well you've probably met mediocre men who make you think that. When you find a true man who will support you and treat you like a queen you'll understand why it's so much easier to have someone like that in your life. I know us women can do everything by ourselves. But why should we? We already have to go through so much, why not lean back and accept help?
@viny9784 3 жыл бұрын
@a user yes... I'm proud of you girl...
@kexinchen8368 3 жыл бұрын
@@elenavalentina4608 I know it's beautiful to have a boyfriend who supports and protects you. But when we don't have a boyfriend, we shouldn't be eager to find someone and think being single is a shame. We woman can love ourself and some just don't need man. We woman can still be happy without a boyfriend and just have one in the right time. Age shouldn't pressure someone and being single also has many good things.
@elenavalentina4608 3 жыл бұрын
@@kexinchen8368 oh yes totally. You stay single until you want a boyfriend. Even if you are in your 50s. You are whole and loved with or without a boyfriend. All I am saying is that I hear far too many feminists claim that men are useless etc and women can do everything without them. None of the sexes can. Having said that I am 21 and I have never been in a relationship so I totally understand where you are coming from and can see myself in what you say.
@soniachristine9450 2 жыл бұрын
I met my first boyfriend at the age of 27, while living abroad and walking through a museum with my friend. I never looked for a relationship and even had my dad begging me to go on dates at some point. I'm romantic, but I've always enjoyed being single and doing my own thing. I had a clear idea of what a healthy relationship should be like and thankfully I've found it. Getting married to my first boyfriend in November and I couldn't be happier. Don't rush things just because you don't want to be alone, guys. You also don't need a relationship just because you're horny lol trying to rush and force it just ends up in toxic relationships and heartbreak for all I've seen.
@Soso-ce4op 2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations 💕💕
@Anastasiabruno 2 жыл бұрын
This gives me much more hope, i am 19 and everyone here has already someone, i have never seriously liked anyone but i know I'm straight I want to find someone good
@shivanivyas2709 Жыл бұрын
I will soon 23 nd still single
@kdjoshi726 10 ай бұрын
Yeah exactly! My dad too took keen interest in my *ahem* non-existent love life. Mhm, maybe because I'm 20 now & I'd soon be travelling for jobs & such. He may think that I'll get "wasted" if I had bfs & such. Yeah its shit to be born in a VERY conservative family. I honestly really just want the freedom to atleast choose a partner for myself. Atleast give me that freedom as my mom, grandma & aunts are VERY controlling. And goddamn its always women in here, laughing at you on yo face, pulling you down. F*ck this shit
@talesoffay2164 2 жыл бұрын
I was single for 24 years. I even thought I was a lesbian or going to be that rich aunt. I had suitors but no one felt like the right one. So I became single for more than two decades. I enjoyed my singleness. But it came to a point where I honestly felt stuck, as one of the things I wanted to have in life is a lifelong partner and a family of my own. I didn't want to ruin that by biting the very first cake I see. I had a great job, I was doing things I want, I had freedom, I traveled, but there came a point where it felt like there is something missing and I had all of this but it felt like I am going to nowhere and all these achievements is for nothing. But.... Suddenly and unexpectedly, my path intertwined with Jun (my fiancee now). I am so grateful I waited and didn't rush things, because I am so happy with our relationship. It is so warm and he is my home. I am now 26 and we're getting married this Dec 2021.
@Soso-ce4op 2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations 🎊💕
@decembrre 2 жыл бұрын
Congrats, I really appreciate the fact that you don’t rush things. In our society, we usually feel like we’re forced to do sth, finding someone who fits in our social class or the stereotype, but never someone who we truly love
@talesoffay2164 2 жыл бұрын
@@decembrre UPDATE: Really appreciate your comment. We are now expecting our first child this Nov 2022 :)
@jiminniecrickets2125 2 жыл бұрын
congratulations!! :) 🤍
@elodie5251 2 жыл бұрын
@@talesoffay2164 Congrats 🎉🎉🎉 Wish you lots of happiness and love ❤
@booyah9263 3 жыл бұрын
THNAK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS! I AM A 22 YEAR OLD VIRGIN AND THE PRESSURE IS REAL. I AM SO THANKFUL FOR THIS VIDEO 💖 I really really needed this! Much love from India 💖🥺💖🥺💖 🇮🇳
@RadEdits 3 жыл бұрын
can I just say you are literally so pretty omg 🥺
@booyah9263 3 жыл бұрын
@@RadEdits oh my god this is the first time someone’s told me this on KZfaq. Thank you so much you made my day!💖🙏🙏
@annekeemolenaar2756 3 жыл бұрын
Dont stress! You have all the time of the world baby🥰🙈♥️
@meemoo7 3 жыл бұрын
I thought you get an arranged marriage in india? I don‘t mean to be rude just want to know because I watched a video from Karl Rock who lives in India and girls and boys who date got harrassed in one of his videos thats why I‘m curious 🥺❤️
@booyah9263 3 жыл бұрын
@@meemoo7 ohh, Karl Rock’s videos show a different story of India. Arrange marriages do happen but thankfully not in my family 🙈. I’m from Mumbai (home of Bollywood) no one gets harassed for dating (at least over here) (I’m talking about middle / upper middle / higher society)
@xrubyxlightx 3 жыл бұрын
28 turning 29, and i aint had one either baybeeee. Seriously tho, dating has N E V E R been a priority. To me, a romantic partner is a possibility that could lead to more possibilities. Theyre nothing essential. I just hate getting shocked reactions when i say i've never had a relationship and that i'd strongly prefer to pursue a guy and lead.
@nicolea5992 3 жыл бұрын
Omg! I just turned 28 and have never had a relationship either! This comment makes me feel normal!
@chas353 3 жыл бұрын
As a girl you should never pursue a boy. You are the prize !
@xrubyxlightx 3 жыл бұрын
@@chas353 That's nice but i dont want to be a prize; i want to be a Winner
@celty7535 3 жыл бұрын
@@xrubyxlightx ^^ periodt 💅
@nikolnolastname4473 3 жыл бұрын
@@nicolea5992 same here. Whenever the question comes up I lie or curve it like my life depends on it. Mentally and emotionally I'm not there so I don't see the point.
@callnight1441 2 жыл бұрын
as a guy whos never had a gf at 20, i also get those aunts and grandmas where the first thing they ask is "do you have a gf?". from my POV, i always had the feeling guys who are in relationships are also perceived as more sucessful and more attractive. therefore ive also always been a bit ashamed for never having a gf. yes, being single as a guy is always portrayed as "exciting", but thats more when you just came out of a relationship. But when you've never been in one, it starts to become a part of "your ability to be a man". or people will start asking you if youre gay
@mr.beancouldbreakmyspleen643 2 жыл бұрын
^well said. I feel as though no gender really gets the better end of the stick in this situation.
@returnoftheromans6726 2 жыл бұрын
The struggle is real, for both guys and gals.
@antoinecharlesdegaulle580 2 жыл бұрын
I feel you man. My parents are a bit like that
@merit4078 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah I gotta say I didn’t agree with that point in the video. At least in my case, my brother gets pressured about this just as much if not more than I do It’s really just screwed up social expectations
@antoinecharlesdegaulle580 2 жыл бұрын
@@merit4078 agreed
@canterbury_nelle9158 3 жыл бұрын
All this pressure to have had boyfriends from your teens to early twenties, get married, and then have kids by the time you're 30 🙄 Man, I'd rather be the cool middle aged auntie who travels all around the world, living her best single life, and comes back home to bring souvenirs and gifts and tell stories of her adventures to her nieces and nephews😎
@flaky.-3492 3 жыл бұрын
Yes👌
@patriher8537 2 жыл бұрын
omg ahaha i dream of being *that* aunty
@Mia-ei4mh 2 жыл бұрын
Yessss
@Unicornmazda 2 жыл бұрын
Me 2 we need those kind of people
@thismoment23 3 жыл бұрын
I have never had a boyfriend (I just turned 28 few days ago). The older I get, the more I get to know exactly what do I want in a relationship. Girls, never ever lower your standards due to pressure from outside. Everything has its right time, grow and embrace yourself first, then await eagerly HIM to come
@user-xu2ps9oo5n 3 жыл бұрын
Happy late bday!! Thx for the advice
@thismoment23 3 жыл бұрын
@V King we all have different lives but there is 1 thing in common: we are the own author of our lives. At any time you can choose start all over again or fix it as long as you fell it right for you. Dont regret for the past. You have a whole future ahead of you. Be strong, be present
@mariaijebd1637 3 жыл бұрын
@@milkytanpie5810 Well, I watch asian dramas, so I KNOW my standards are high 😂😂
@gliderarts3573 2 жыл бұрын
chad dont want u get over urself
@user-ds6pk8wt3k 2 жыл бұрын
Chadsexual at her finest.
@duongphuonglinh7069 3 жыл бұрын
I’m 22 and still single. My family, friends and basically everyone keep asking me why I’ve never had a boyfriend, even my best friend. So sometimes I feel like I need to have a boyfriend to be considered normal. But I know I need to work on my self-confidence and learn how to love myself before starting a serious relationship with anyone. Thanks for sharing Zoe, you make me feel so much better 💕💕💕
@esthermartinez6496 3 жыл бұрын
👏👏👏👏
@franz3810 3 жыл бұрын
you are valid, don't let anyone pressure you
@giuliana3818 3 жыл бұрын
@V King love this
@hazelzuniga3323 2 жыл бұрын
@V King true 💯💯💯💯
@whocares897 2 жыл бұрын
It’s sad more people don’t realize how common this is and that there’s nothing wrong with you if you’ve never had a relationship well into your 20s. Society tries to rush people wayyy too much and most people are NOT emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship in their teens. Forget sex, the fact teens are pressured to have sex is a mess on its own. All these loud people making others feel bad for never being in a relationship have A LOT of baggage from all their failed relationships that they rushed into just to have someone and be “normal”.
@dappidy3763 2 жыл бұрын
I blame comprehensive sex ed. Too often it’s considered the “safe” sex wellll it’s sure as hell NOT when there’s lack of emotional safety in teen years!!
@artemis2520 2 жыл бұрын
Its unfortunate that so many people at that age lack self control as well and get really pissed when told not to have sex.
@re--l 3 жыл бұрын
girl, i'm 18 and also never dated let alone hold hands romantically. for me I just feel like this generation especially since it's kind of a big hook up culture or people wanting to move fast/get into a relationship cause they can handle being lonely and base their happiness off their relationship status just isn't for me. it's so dumb and cliche but I grew up on romance books and i've always been such a sucker for romance. I just feel like this generation of guys don't have what I want and I feel like i'm going to be single with cats when i'm older.
@sunnyshin6298 2 жыл бұрын
this is why I want an older guy/millennial lol
@tom4412 2 жыл бұрын
Get a boyfriend that doesn’t mind cats
@antoinecharlesdegaulle580 2 жыл бұрын
Well with that mindset you will probably never find the right one
@rayoflight7416 2 жыл бұрын
@@antoinecharlesdegaulle580 having standards?? hahah
@antoinecharlesdegaulle580 2 жыл бұрын
@@rayoflight7416 no I mean generalising a whole group of people which in this case are men. We are not all about hookup culture you know
@concurseiradosurf 3 жыл бұрын
I’m 28 and never had a boyfriend… lemme tell you something: I look younger than my friends who had plants of boys 😂😂 I’m living a “no stress life” style 🤣😝
@SARAVANDEGIRL 3 жыл бұрын
Same LOL! But I’m not that sure about looking younger than my friends LOL but yeah overall 0 love life problems (because its non existent LOL)
@franz3810 3 жыл бұрын
like for real, my skin screams : we are chill and it shows hahha
@petitpapier4973 3 жыл бұрын
Haha same I'm 27 and never had a bf
@deliiii1901 3 жыл бұрын
same same!!!hahaaa people think I'm 19 but I'm 27
@requiem3402 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 28 as well not even halfway done with my glow up yet and people think that I'm 19 or 20 😅 only two people said that I look old but they're the most bitter and hateful individuals that I've ever met I only see pros of not having love life problems👌
@immateenypotato3523 3 жыл бұрын
As a 22 year old whose never had a boyfriend thank you! It’s nice to know I’m not the only one sometimes.
@marci.fernandes 3 жыл бұрын
Me too
@EXOistheStandard 3 жыл бұрын
Today i got to know that there are so many single girls who is actually waiting for true love like me, rather than fooling around
@satanwithoutskeletonhats7867 3 жыл бұрын
Me
@Valentina-eh5zf 3 жыл бұрын
@@EXOistheStandard Its the best you can do. I did the same and ended up meeting my husband and marrying at 21.
@EXOistheStandard 3 жыл бұрын
@@Valentina-eh5zf omg wow how cute😍. It's really rare to find this nowadays in our fucked up society. Congratulations i am really happy hearing your love story. It's Perfect and you two make it more than perfect ❤❤
@anniefox23 2 жыл бұрын
I’m only 19 but I totally get the pressure of family asking about if you’re dating. If I even mention a male person their first instinct is “is he cute?” “is he single?” “do you like him?” “Let’s stalk all his social media and tease you about this for months 😃” I’m not allowed to just have friends. Thank you for this video ♥️
@moonskimmer 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 22 and have never been in a relationship or even went on a date and I feel so comfortable in this comment section. Thank you for this video
@alessia9328 3 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend never had a girlfriend until he was 23... then we met online completely random and we fell in love an now we have been together for 2 years and 9 months... it's all about luck, there's nothing wrong with you, you just haven't met the right person yet. And maybe you'll meet them soon!
@ludwigvanbeethoven3896 3 жыл бұрын
Wow! I'd love to hear your story more
@alessia9328 3 жыл бұрын
@@ludwigvanbeethoven3896 i'm having lots of difficulties responding because i post my comments and then they disappear
@ludwigvanbeethoven3896 3 жыл бұрын
@@alessia9328 I guess it's the auto moderator for comments or something¿
@lissy.f03 2 жыл бұрын
If I’m right y’all would be together for 3 years around this time so congratulations
@alessia9328 2 жыл бұрын
@@lissy.f03 Yess!!! We just had our 3 years anniversary 1 month ago! Thank you!
@ces0404 3 жыл бұрын
Oh don't worry Zoe, you'll be the rich, single and pretty aunt of the family 💖💖
@zoeunlimited 3 жыл бұрын
Hahaha I’d love that
@mammoney384 3 жыл бұрын
Actually that's what my friend and I plan to do. Lmao!!
@ces0404 3 жыл бұрын
@@mammoney384 hahaha same
@mammoney384 3 жыл бұрын
@@ces0404 LET'S JUST BE RICH, COOL AUNT. AND SINCE WE'RE RICH, INVEST ON SKIN CARE AND PLASTIC SURGERY TO BE FOREVER YOUNG. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@ces0404 3 жыл бұрын
@@mammoney384 lool, nice idea, sis 🤣
@itsmishyto 2 жыл бұрын
i’m turning 29 and still a virgin and terrified to be in relationship. i literally learned how to start loving myself in 2019, when i went through most of my childhood, fighting to live, because of a disorder and letdowns. LOVE YOURSELF FIRST AND BE UNEXPECTED! btw, i DEFINITELY understand the whole “judgey” asian family situation. they want to compare me to my other cousin who does have a boyfriend, a family and etcera etcera. i apparently have a “secret” boyfriend hiding somewhere.
@istilldontknowmyname7324 2 жыл бұрын
Growing up is realizing how common this actually is. There's so many of us
@lilisolyom6074 3 жыл бұрын
Same here! I'm almost 24, never had a kiss before, haven't been on a date for YEARS and I'm totally fine with that. Btw, you're an inspiration. 💖 EDIT: Thank you for the likes guys/girls, I've never had so many!!
@buket7106 3 жыл бұрын
Im 30 years old and dont even know how to kiss 😂🤭😇
@mouna628 3 жыл бұрын
24´ club and having NO problem with it yayaaaay 🤝
@karlaflores245 2 жыл бұрын
Same I’ll be 24 in a few days and honestly this appearing in my recommended is kinda funny😅
@user-ds6pk8wt3k 2 жыл бұрын
It's easy for women.
@angiedamien137 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 28 and I never had a boyfriend. I've been on several dates, it's been hard to find people and I'm also used to being alone. I do believe in love and we will all find the right one ladies, don't rush it's okay ❤️❤️❤️ we should be the ones to make ourselves happy, no one else ❤️❤️❤️ ^-^ (Also I love you Zoe, you're beautiful and inspiring!) ❤️
@goblinearthling 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 26 and same! I enjoy my "freedom" and focusing on my own desires but ofc I hope to find genuine love some day!
@angiedamien137 3 жыл бұрын
@@goblinearthling much love to you !! Good luck❤️ I wish you all the best in life ^-^
@franz3810 3 жыл бұрын
girrrl me too, I'm so used to be alone that having someone around feels weird
@sonderexpeditions 3 жыл бұрын
Feel this 💖
@paoloedddu7605 3 жыл бұрын
I think i'm the only boy here
@PaleBlueTHOT 2 жыл бұрын
I feel ya. I was 22 when I entered my first romantic relationship (never dated prior to that either). I felt ashamed and freakish. Maaaany years later I look back on that time and wonder why I was so hard on myself. For what it's worth, when I finally decided I was ready to date I went out with this super nice guy who totally liked me, and encouraged me to be comfortable in my skin. 16 years later we're still going strong and he's my best friend.
@dawnarxtic 2 жыл бұрын
I’m 20 an i’ve never had a boyfriend, kissed, or went on a date. But I’ve always wondered with long term relationships, have you ever had any thoughts of what would it be like if you were with someone else? I would love to have a relationship with longevity but i’m scared that I won’t commit for that long.
@PaleBlueTHOT 2 жыл бұрын
@@dawnarxtic When I started dating my partner I considered him kind of a "starter boyfriend". We had been friends for months. I liked and trusted him, and he was pretty flirtatious with me. I figured that the best way to get rid of my anxiety around dating was to try it out with a really nice person. I assumed we'd go on a couple dates, realize we were better off as friends, and that would be the end of it. But our feelings for eachother grew and our lives totally meshed. I don't want to set false expectations that you'll click with someone that quickly, or that you'll definitely find someone you want spend your life with. But I think there's no reason to worry about commitment before you've started dating. And as you your question about if I've wondered what it would be like if I were with someone else: yeah, totally! I wonder who I'd be if I had made a ton of different choices. What would my life be like if I had asked Doug out instead of James? What if I had gone to college across the country? What if I had run for student council, or taken up an athletic hobby? What if I had been bolder or braver? In any of those cases I'd be a different me living a different life. But I'm not concerned that the choice I've made is a mistake. I'm happy with the life I've have. ... And besides, there are endless ways a person can course-correct if something isn't working in their life.
@dawnarxtic 2 жыл бұрын
@@PaleBlueTHOT Wow! Thank you for replying this really gave me some insight on dating.
@jessicatatum7769 2 жыл бұрын
I turn 26 in a month, straight, and STILL completely alone. Partly bc I hate online dating, and partly bc I was shamed my entire childhood (in an evangelical Christian church) about any kind of intimacy with boys. So sorry that I can't magically get rid of all that fear planted into me when I was young. If this comes off as angry, good! I AM both angry and sexually frustrated.
@mariaqm4208 3 жыл бұрын
"I am not going to lower my standars or be in a relationship just to meet some outdated expectations for someone of my age" LOVE THIS!! 💜❤💜
@cindymargaretha5900 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 23 yrs old, I've never had a boyfriend, never had a date. I could relate at spiritual level with you, Zoe :)
@bloom7722 2 жыл бұрын
Me too 😭
@dianar6600 2 жыл бұрын
Same
@misspumpkin5807 2 жыл бұрын
24 here, same
@ariannahardy6476 2 жыл бұрын
I'm 23 and never had a boyfriend because I wasn't allowed to. My parents, especially my mother, made it seem like it was taboo for me to have a relationship when I was a teenager. Now that I'm older, I still hesitate to date because of my parents pressuring not to back then. It still sticks with me. I don't have much confidence in being in a relationship and I've become anti social. The older I get, the more people think it's weird for me to be single. It makes me feel like I'm going to be alone forever.
@dont.look.at.G 2 жыл бұрын
as a 18 year old that never dated or anything, I felt this pressure and panic not because I cared; but because of society...thank you for this video!
@chocolatedonut6312 3 жыл бұрын
Family constantly asking “when will you have a boyfriend” is so irritating and emotionally draining. Like leave me alone it’s literally none of yours businesses
@Nethmi3 3 жыл бұрын
as an asian, my family would rather me *not* have a bf lol i don't want one rn anyway
@nznfthma 3 жыл бұрын
@@Nethmi3 exactly 🌝
@nottie9358 3 жыл бұрын
fr and its even worse when all your cousins and people your age in your fam have partners 😭😭
@suaashetty3920 3 жыл бұрын
@@Nethmi3 same sis(•́ ‿ ,•̀)
@Nethmi3 3 жыл бұрын
@@nottie9358 ikr 😵💫
@poppycalliope 3 жыл бұрын
There's NOTHING wrong with not having a boyfriend or not fooling around with people. Waiting for the person who will make you feel special and happy is the best thing that someone can do. Don't waste your time on immature people who don't know what they want. When someone cares about you ,they will show it every single day ❤
@Casxa 3 жыл бұрын
LOVE THIS. I'm 19 and I've already been in a few relationships that all ended up becoming toxic. My last one ended a month and a half ago, and he was sooo immature & confused about what he wanted, which brought a lot of stress into my life too. Take care of yourself & love yourself before (and while) you get into a relationship, it will save you and your partner from a lot of potential problems.
@poppycalliope 3 жыл бұрын
@@Casxa 👏👏👏🔥🔥🔥❤❤❤❤
@nicolettazenobini4632 3 жыл бұрын
This is so true! I'm 23 and last year I was in a relationship with a guy. Since I'd never had a boyfriend before I was so terrified of losing him that I tried hard to please him and be the "perfect" girlfriend... After eight months he broke up with me, showing no respect for my feelings for him (because I did love him, but I'm not sure he loved me back... Maybe I was just a toy) and for me in general as a person: he stopped texting me and on our ninth month together, after weeks of me asking what was going on, he just said that we were friends and that he kept ignoring me hoping that I would have understood our relationship was over. It's been a year now, but I still feel like he threw me away like a broken toy... Maybe he didn't care about me the same way I cared about him, maybe I was just something he wanted to get rid of as soon as possible. Never thought a heartbreak would be this painful. The fact that I am the only person I know who's still single at the age of 23, while all my friends and relatives are already talking about getting married and living together with their partners, makes me really upset sometimes. I know now that there's nothing wrong with me, and that the right time and the right person will come for me too, but still I really hate it when people make assumptions about me and started questioning my sexuality just because I don't have a boyfriend
@poppycalliope 3 жыл бұрын
@@nicolettazenobini4632 SENDING YOU LOVE QUEEN! you're still so so so so young! Live your life the way YOU want and the right person will come along one day. No need to feel pressured by others. The 1st heartbreak can be very painful I know but one day you'll realize how this person was just not worth it , yet still you will learn from this experience! When the right person will come you will just know, but life is not all about romantic relationships. That special someone will come, until then try to be the best version of yourself and live your life the way it makes you happy 💖
@nicolettazenobini4632 3 жыл бұрын
@@poppycalliope thank you! Your words really mean a lot❤️
@jk22222sd 2 жыл бұрын
25 year old guy here who’s in the same position. Only society makes it a big deal. Everyone has their own journey and I wish society wouldn’t make stupid expectations on us. I didn’t go to college right after high school, and lost a bunch of friends and spent my time as an introvert, alone. Didn't actively date as much either. Even though I went back to college at 23, COVID has made everything hard for everyone. Stay strong!
@x_astrid_x 2 жыл бұрын
Being an introvert and a shy person makes it difficult for me to go and tell the opposite person how I feel so that's why I've been single for 21 years.. Either way I prefer focusing on my career right now rather than getting into relationships and hopefully someday the person that I love approaches me or maybe I'll gather some courage and go to that person PS : I'm not ashamed of myself for not dating and so should no one else, I believe there's a perfect timing for everything. Great video Zoe!!
@Solararisa 3 жыл бұрын
I really needed this content. At 19 y/o, every one of my peers are in relationships, and then there is me who has never had a boyfriend and a virgin. I really just want to wait for the right opportunity and wait, I don't really feel like dating, atm. There is this weird pressure nowdays to be in a relationship and have sex. Really just wanna focus on my career and secure that bag 💪👜
@n.n8991 3 жыл бұрын
19 year old here too! In fact, I don’t want to date until after college, and I’ve traveled a bit, and just grow more mature. There’s no rush.
@user-xr2eu8qf2f 3 жыл бұрын
I’m 19 too! I’ve never been in a relationship and it has never really interested me. It’s just not my priority tbh, I’d rather be rich than find true love 😶
@mutsawashemaregedze4394 3 жыл бұрын
19 as well, let's just finish college yall😂😫also I've learnt/ been told to focus on platonic relationships, on family.
@wanda5548 3 жыл бұрын
omg same!
@user-xi9ti3si7p 3 жыл бұрын
Graduated college. Back then, I thought I'll have my first bf after graduating but nah 😂😂😂
@wutanglza1235 3 жыл бұрын
Hey Zoe! It‘s not that uncommon, a lot of my friends didn’t find their significant other until their mid/late 20s. Actually it‘s really rare to find someone who is compatible to you early on! So don‘t feel bad! I know the feeling of thinking that time is passing so fast and that your "youth" is fading away, wanting to make memories with a partner, wanting to be loved, but these are all things that can't be forced and related to luck and some kind of destiny. I have tried to force it with some guys and I just ended up feeling empty and like I betrayed myself.
@getreadywithmaddie4656 3 жыл бұрын
I agree! My situation is truly very uncommon in a way that I’ve met my life partner at 13 and we’ve been together ever since (I’m 26). A lot of people judge us for being together for so long (but i don’t care because we are freaking happy and in love still, so they can suck it!) it was completely dumb luck, for I wasn’t looking and I always thought I would find my first bf at university. Then I know a friend who met the love of her life at 32 when she decided not to care about relationships anymore. age is truly just a number and things happen when the time is right ❤️ don’t let society pressure you into following the “norm”! Just do you!
@elliebell842 3 жыл бұрын
@@getreadywithmaddie4656 that time is right thing is just bs though, time is a neutral thing and it can't be 'right' on itself, only you can make it 'right' on your own because time has a subjective meaning to you
@magicmushroom8687 3 жыл бұрын
@@elliebell842 finally someone with brains who doesn't buy that whenever the time is right crap either
@elliebell842 3 жыл бұрын
@@magicmushroom8687 it pisses me off😂 just like it will happen when you least expect it
@magicmushroom8687 3 жыл бұрын
@@elliebell842 cringeeeee
@charlotteleates9375 3 жыл бұрын
I’m 24 and I’ve never had a boyfriend, either. Self love and working on feeling whole is the journey I’m on right now. 🙌🏻
@giovannam.1325 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 20 and I never had a boyfriend. I'm okay with being single. I'm still focusing on my journey with self love and if I do find love one day it's because I am ready not because of being pressured. My mother and her friends often ask when I'll find one because I won't be young forever but honestly I don't care and I enjoy being alone.
@user-vf8wi9lz9k 3 жыл бұрын
Gurl I'm 20 and you literally summed up my life.
@user-qj1jz3xm1m 3 жыл бұрын
im 20 too and i'll try to apply your advice in my life as well, thank u!!
@bevstrong3651 2 жыл бұрын
I’m 20 and never had a boyfriend either. I will remember your advice. It also feels good to not be alone in this.
@didibennie5481 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Zoe I used to had a boyfriend but it’s totally useless trust me girls you should focus on urself not on how to get a boyfriend actually I didn’t rush myself but even though.. having a boyfriend at a young age is USELESS I mean don’t rush it, just focus on yourself before thinking about a boyfriend live your life Love you Zoe and I love your beautiful content 💗
@yalajujosephine9710 3 жыл бұрын
Goal
@cysioserankiita4994 3 жыл бұрын
Can confirm, had a bf at young age, not worth it. Focus on yourself, ladies 🌸
@juicydoge6129 3 жыл бұрын
same here, I totally agree with you queen👑 not only it’s useless, but also A HUGE WASTE OF TIME… please do what’s best for you! remember girls, a bf won’t solve your problems, he’s more likely to bring some extra😘
@paola7943 2 жыл бұрын
I'm almost 18 and I have never had a boyfriend, not even at the kindergarten... to be clear. Once, I didn't care so much because one of my best friends was like me: an insecure and modest girl. But recently things have changed fast. Now she has become popular, she found a boyfriend effortless and, after their break-up, boys flirts with her at parties and she makes up with strangers; while I'm just the same as I was back then. I try hard to control my envy because she is a friend of mine, but it is not easy when you feel so unfairly single. Thank you Zoe for this video: you made me feel understood and a little bit less alone ♡♡
@nicky7738 Жыл бұрын
I’m 23, and I’ve never dated or even been kissed before. I always worry that when I do have my first kiss, I’ll be really, noticeably bad at it, and the person will think it’s weird that I haven’t kissed. To anyone who had their first kiss in their 20s or later: what was the experience like for you?
@kajal0541 Жыл бұрын
Bro same 23 here ,never been in a relationship,nor kissed anyone and everyday this fact bother me a lot ,bcoz i know everyone judge me for this that I've high standard and whatsoever that sometimes it's really break my confidence ,so it's good to know that I'm not the only one
@moonmeadow Жыл бұрын
Im 22, same situation and same feelings as you
@AnaLu07 Жыл бұрын
I am 21 and never been kissed too. I have the same fear as you.
@fruityeva Жыл бұрын
Same but then the guy that I dated was really nice to me. Teached me how to kiss and became my boyfriend. We broke up eventually but I'm grateful for the relationship.☺️🌞
@kdjoshi726 10 ай бұрын
Oh I'm 20. Had my very first kiss this summer with my ex. It was also his first time kissing. I didn't felt anything bad as such. Just his soft lips lol. But he was awkward af lol since he bit my lips (I even complained him that). Honestly, it's nothing that bad. And you don't really have to feel any sense of insecurity. In fact I feel like some people find it cute if you never really kissed anyone.
@EGGrun 3 жыл бұрын
You know, being "chosen" and having a relationship is not going to cure your insecurities as many women believe. Also, it is 21st century, Christ. It is not our only job to get a guy to date us, marry us and produce children. We can choose nowadays.
@radiationshepherd 3 жыл бұрын
Society still seems to be built around couples tbh
@sofiaa5255 3 жыл бұрын
My friend was really good with being along until she knew her bf ( maybe ex now) and now all her insecurities showed up, she is almost begging him to make up I was shocked and eventhough I told her to love herself more she is afraid to be alone now. People if you want a bf or gf first be sure you respect and love yourself
@jessicaguzman8054 3 жыл бұрын
Society needs to start normalizing not having a relationship in your 20s or 30s is normal! I had my first relationship at 27.
@TS-rn6fl 2 жыл бұрын
I’m 30 and still single. Never had a boyfriend. I think I have to agree with the whole confidence thing. I have been and is still building my confidence and I need to learn to not feel the need for validation. It’s hard but no pressure. I’d rather wait than be stressed about it. I deserve a good relationship. I’ve already waited for long. We deserve someone special. I really enjoyed watching your video.
@eduardacecchet1954 2 жыл бұрын
I'm also a "late bloomer" (compared to my friends), I had my first boyfriend with 25 (I'm now 28) and what I can say is that I don't regret. I did things respecting my own time and limits, and I'm sure this helped me understand better what I wanted from a relationship. You are not late or early when you are respecting your own time. (:
@majaditolovercjc547 3 жыл бұрын
“Why am I letting MY self worth be based on someone ELSE’S acceptance of me” Oh man took this to a personal level… Thank you so much for talking about this topic, there’s a lot of people that think there’s “equality” nowadays without realizing that things only changed a little. Also as a 16-almost 17 year old girl there’s a lot of times I feel bad about myself for never having been in a date nor had a boyfriend so I appreciate this video as a whole. I already know you for your diet videos but this time I’m gonna subscribe, hope you do content alike in the future :)
@ladypterodactyl5044 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 29, never been a relationship (and don't even want to), never had a boyfriend/girlfriend, but was able to pay more attention to my family, pursue education in a desired university and get my dream job. Not having a relationship doesn't make a loser (nor am I saying that having a boyfriend would reduce your chances to acomplish anything you want), it just gives you more time to pay attention to other important aspects of your life.
@Traumatised311 2 жыл бұрын
Education career n backstabber friends fucked me big time Health COVID depression exes also
@arrydoll2021 3 жыл бұрын
Yesss, another member of the club! ✌🏻I’m 26 and have never been in a serious relationship. I just haven’t came across the right person yet. There’s no use in pushing myself to be with someone that I’m not wholly attracted to just for the sake of being partnered.
@marianneberja5381 2 жыл бұрын
This makes me feel happy, I'm 19 and only dated someone when I was 15 and it just lasted for a week and never had my first kiss and everything. I'm in college and all my friends are experiencing their first but not me, I feel that I'm unattractive because no one wants a serious relationship with me. But because of this vid I feel heard and included because of this. Thank you
@MsJaystars 3 жыл бұрын
I never had a boyfriend until I turned 23. I remember stressing about it a lot when I was younger. Now I think that it was silly, there is time in life for everything and even if one stays single forever, it can still be a great and fullfilling life. Just don't stress and enjoy the freedom (and free time) that you have 🌼
@artemisa1688 3 жыл бұрын
I've been being asked multiple times if I'm asexual when people find out I've never been in a relationship, which made me question myself if I'm actually am and if I should found someone to find that out or something. For now, I consider myself as someone that is not actively looking for a relationship and feel comfortable alone. 😌
@carolynj6144 3 жыл бұрын
I’m 27, my first & current boyfriend and I met 2 1/2 years ago. I love him, but I do miss my single days as well because relationships are STRESSFUL. People will make you feel like there’s something wrong with you for not dating/having sex when you’re in your 20s, but my advice is to ignore the haters and enjoy your peace lol
@cutecrochet 2 жыл бұрын
Everyone has a different story but my experience has been completely different. I was at an extremely low point in my life when I met my boyfriend. I didn't even like him that much when he asked me out but I just said yes because he was the only decent guy who asked me out, and I just didn't want to be alone anymore. But with time I got to know him, saw the parts of him that makes him the most beautiful human being. It took years, we have been together 5 years now and even now I find out new things about him that makes me fall in love with him even more, much more than I thought I was capable of. I was completely broken, I didn't love myself at all. He carefully picked me back up and literally glued me back together. I could lean on him for support. He definitely helped my self worth.It might not have been fair to him I understand that but he did it of his own free will. I gave him the option to leave me many times but he stayed. It just stayed and it made a world of difference. I guess not everyone can be as lucky as I have been.
@Lyra_Ivy 3 жыл бұрын
So I'm not alone. Good to know.
@cassandra_cassowary 3 жыл бұрын
I'm almost 22 and same, love the honesty and relatability. Whenever the subject comes up I just say my standards are just high 💅
@debashreekonwar061 3 жыл бұрын
And I am kinda of scared that is it really someone who can meet my standards? Nevertheless I will not lower it.
@nityamehra5479 3 жыл бұрын
Omg I was literally starting to be anxious about these topics and your video was suggested to me on YT. Thank you for making this video and talking about it. As a 27 yr old woman who hasn't even gone on a date. I have literally been okay with it and if I don't date anytime soon I am actually comfortable with that thought but the Societal pressure of having a set liner life timeline was really getting to me today. Reading other people's comments made me feel so much better. I totally agree. I finally wanna do things for myself and lead a life I am happy at and Marriage is far away from it. It's SOOOOO NICE KNOWING I AM NOT ALONE. Just reading the comments lifted my anxiety. I never comment on videos but how could I not share my emotions. I want to say thank you to all the women who shared their story. Appreciate it.
@isabelagarcia2729 3 жыл бұрын
I fell so much relief after watching this video. I´m 24, going on 25 and I also never been in a relacionship before and sometimes the fellings of anxiety anf shame are to real for my mental health to take. Thank you so much for this words of kindness and suport.
@lari_xxx7090 3 жыл бұрын
Same. I turned 23 at the beginning of the month and never had a boyfriend too. I would love to be in a relationship, but honestly? Just never had the feeling of "I want to date him". Don't get me wrong, I had some crushes, but somehow I didn't want to commit. Probably partly because I was to shy to even try and partly because I had the crushes in the past 5 years and didn't want to consider someoneelse in my life plans. I moved quite far away for university and with the beginning of next year I'll move again. (And I would have no interest in a long-distance-relationship). I think I have this internal fear that a relationship would hold me back in some aspects. Maybe that's not true. But yeah, my feelings just told me "he's not the one/this is not what you want". Oh, and the last thing I want, is to be in a relationship "just because".
@laurine1263 3 жыл бұрын
Wow this is exactly how I feel thank you for writing this I feel less alone :)
@joye4624 3 жыл бұрын
Wow same!
@jknsjsdj5751 2 жыл бұрын
Wow this is what i feel!!
@clare8146 3 жыл бұрын
this comment section (& the video) is literally making me feel reaffirmed/content in my singleness. I needed this so much, and everyone in the comments is so lovely I wish for the best for all of you!
@angelisri 3 жыл бұрын
I’m 26 and never had a boyfriend. I think most of my friends felt quite insecure growing up because they were always either persuing someone or trying to make someone jealous with their looks. Whereas I had no one to impress but my DAMN SELF so I was always comfortable with the way I was. “If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” Love ya RuPaul!
@marsblack17 2 жыл бұрын
As a 32 yr old woman and virgin, I just discovered 4 years ago that I belong to the category of "aroace". I'm actually the type of person where my head rules my heart and I'm obsessed with privacy. I'm also not emotionally needy and not craving for any attention. That's why I cannot date at all. Dating is not really for me. My advice to 20s and under 20s women out there, if you're not really craving for male attention, you just want to date because everyone else is dating, and lastly you're craving for validation, then DON'T DATE. don't gamble yourself. I know many colleagues before who have a long dating history, but they ended up being damaged. I understand there's no perfect relationship. If you feel like you will survive the life of being a "girlfriend" then go ahead and date.
@nicoleonfeels 3 жыл бұрын
being single is such a great time for growth. all this time, energy, & love to devote to you 💞
@nandhinishankar6144 3 жыл бұрын
Me too bestie, and I’m 24! (Just saw the title of the video, can’t wait to watch it)
@reginaphalange686 2 жыл бұрын
I needed this video so much! not everyone talks about it mostly because its normal to be in a relationship at very young age. All the media shows it too. Everyone finding love at a very young age and having a lot of boyfriends and having lots of sex. This does put a lot of pressure on young girls to jump into relationships they are not ready for and get seriously hurt. I have never been in a relationship before so the anxiety and self doubt that comes with the "no experience" thing have affected me a lot. This video and the comment section definitely helped me feel better!! 😊❤️❤️
@khalibarnard1261 2 жыл бұрын
Im 22 years old. Never had a boyfriend. It's largely because I struggled with self-esteem and self love a lot , but I do love romance I am just not ready to have it until I can love and value myself. Thank you so much for this Video ❤ .
@Angel-ld1cu 3 жыл бұрын
When you're still a teenager, you're prohibited to have a boyfriend 'coz you're still young. Having a boyfriend during you're teenage years is definitely a no. And if you reach your 20s and still haven't gotten yourself any boyfriend, you are definitely weird. YEAH, ✨ASIAN THINGS✨
@Shady._.boiedits 3 жыл бұрын
MY 30 YO OLD AUNT HAS ALSO NEVER BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP ur not alone ZOE JUST LIVE LIFE LIKE U DO😃💙💙💙 the video was really good it can influence so many people
@sara1011 2 жыл бұрын
I was single too at 23, now I'm almost 27 and just started dating.. do not pressure yourself, do not let others put pressure on you! Things will come at the right time
@happinessismyname1472 2 жыл бұрын
I'm 18 years old, never had a boyfriend, never been on a date, never had sex, never kissed someone. Although a few guys have asked me out, but I never accepted because I honestly have never been attracted to the guy, (fictional guys?? yasss, the list does not end) and also I didn't want to invest my time on a relationship that I never saw developing into something real. I'm not saying that I am too good looking but I feel like guys only ask me out because of how I look, not because of how I am, you know what I mean? I want somebody who likes me because of my personality and not just because of my looks. I see everyone around me dating, going out, meeting new people and it makes me feel like I'm missing out on something. Everyone I know has had atleast one boyfriend and in every conversation the question of boyfriend comes up. Sometimes it makes me wonder whether something is wrong me or its something else? Are my standards too high? Maybe I'm expecting something that doesn't happen in real life??
@Ren-er7fg 2 жыл бұрын
Omg sameeee. I turned 18 in November and it really hit me that all the guys I’ve liked have been fictional characters in movies, shows, and books. Honestly the whole reason I watch anime is so I can find a guy I like and then look for fan fiction on him. And now it’s been stuck in my head. What if I never like someone irl? And Ik for a fact I have an avoidant type personality so I tell myself some times it’s good that I’m not dating anyone and wasting their time knowing I’m not gonna be able to open up to them emotionally or even physically yet. And to this day I just can’t get over how my coworker asked why I wasn’t spending time with my boyfriend on my bday
@AS-rd4xi 2 жыл бұрын
These are prime examples for the fact that hollywood/film/anime-industry are the female equivalent of porn. Rather than meeting people irl they stick to fiction that has been deliberately created to be "perfect". Its fucked.
@Zoe-yo5wo 3 жыл бұрын
I'm 22 and never had someone in my life EVER. I remember having a lot of insecurities about this at school, I thought I didn't deserve to be loved or "how can someone put up with me?". Since I entered uni it's different, I don't care anymore, I don't even think about it, I just want to focus on myself, on what I already have and being okay :,) You always reassure me a lot so I want to say thank you :")))
@MadhavsIshita 3 жыл бұрын
I will be single until I find someone who adds value to my life or be forever single ✨😌
@reya7373 Жыл бұрын
let me be honest, by now its become a routine for me to come back to this video and its comment section whenever i feel overwhelmed by all the questions about being single and seeing people around me in happy relationships
@thelordraj5412 Жыл бұрын
I hope you're happy and well and that things are going good for you
@nochill5996 3 жыл бұрын
Honestly the relationship that I am in with myself is beautiful. I love my own company. I am my own best friend. I don't require anyone at the moment. I can literally meet all of my needs . Love an affection? Give that to my self . Time and attention ? Given . I am a great listener to my own thoughts.💕💕💕💕💕💕
@wanda5548 3 жыл бұрын
i love this comment
@BowTheBoo 3 жыл бұрын
Socially awkward 31 year old here-- today I'm going to call a guy who took me out on a first date last Friday and tell him that I we're not compatible. Why am I doing this after only one date? Because he was pretty much pushing commitment the entire evening (he's also almost a decade older than myself) I was going to talk to him now, on my lunch break, but I have to say thanks for this video, I'm feeling much more confident about this conversation later today.
@RadEdits 3 жыл бұрын
Tbh, him pushing commitment on the _first_ date is kinda weird (but that’s just my opinion). And remember: he should respect your boundaries and what you feel comfortable with. Good luck with your phone call! 💗
@ig1441 3 жыл бұрын
If you don’t mind me asking, what exactly was he doing?
@raracinta 3 жыл бұрын
considering his age, he probably just rushing to get married asap. good thing you say bye
@livymandonguilles 3 жыл бұрын
Doing the right thing girl, don't feel like you're gonna regret it AT ALL
@sonderexpeditions 3 жыл бұрын
Yea, I couldn't date that much older. Age gaps have challenges.
@user-ct9en9wh9x 2 жыл бұрын
The main reason why I'm single, no kisses no, hand holding (...) at 23 Is due to insecurities. I don't think I'm pretty enough for anyone, if anyone shows interest or compliments me, I always disregard that and deny. Because, how could anyone actually mean that? They're saying it out of pity or haven't looked at me long enough. I hope one day I'll allow myself to be loved. Because up to this point, it feels like it's for everybody else but me.
@maceyr.6583 2 жыл бұрын
Same 🥺
@daniellelopez3342 Жыл бұрын
Trust me. I used to feel that way. Anybody that would tell me I'm pretty I would get angry because I thought they were lying to me. You have to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you're hot. Will feel silly at first but if you keep it up you will start to believe it. Just fake it til you make it.
@softieesh_ Жыл бұрын
OMG! Girl let me tell you this myself. Usually I’m a silent watcher but this time I feel like I have to say something. Just because you aren’t objectively pretty or smart or rich or popular with everyone does NOT mean that you CAN’T be confident and undeserving of love!!! I said it once I’ll say it again; you alone, and your existence itself is enough!! I understand it can be hard when no one tells you compliments about how pretty or great you are from the get go and it’s quite unfair, but NO ONE is allowed to make you feel inferior! Remember that ❤ ily
@arcie3716 2 жыл бұрын
I recently just turned 21 and I cannot stress how much I relate to you. So many of my friends and family members are in relationships.( I was the only family member that was single during Christmas…and with an Asian family 😮💨.) I feel like I have a a lot of healing to do before I can fall in love. Thank you for making this.❤️
@nochill5996 3 жыл бұрын
Broooo if I'm even gonna entertain the idea of a relationship I want it to be one that I do not have to force. You got to add value to my life and inspire me. And match the type of energy that I give myself. I also want you to be your own person and not need me for your validation, or your attention or your happiness. I want to enter a relationship from a place of abundance not from a place of lack or need. Sure being single can be lonely sometimes but you know what's worse being in a wrong relationship that does not add value to your life.
@it9634 3 жыл бұрын
I am 27 and i have never had a bf ever. Idk why it's hard for people to believe. If its ok to be in a relationship , it is ok to not be in one.
@sirjeonjungkook5980 2 жыл бұрын
Zoe, you are an Angel in disguise. I'm turning 21 in less than a month. I've always been confident and successful until now but it all spiralled down since last 3 years and I begin wanting to be someone else. You reminded me my real self and that my choices are valid. Love you ❤️
@kirstyjoyner8171 Жыл бұрын
At 26 I'd never had a boyfriend, was a huge introvert. I'd finally made my peace with being by myself for the rest of my life, but then a few months later I met the man im now married to with a kid. Life is weird
@grimmoldpea1568 3 жыл бұрын
I’m a guy and I like watching your videos. You even inspired me to finally make the jump and open my own clothing brand with the short you made about passive income. And I’m loving it. Thank you! P.s. relationships ain’t all they are made out to be anyway. Unless they are on the same wave length as you, it’s so stressful and ends toxic most cases. At least in my experience anyway
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