i'm 25 and virgin and man nothing feels worse than when all of my friends get gfs and talk about their dating lives with me, while I still haven't gotten a date once 🙃

I’m 25, turning 26 soon, and I’ve never experienced love. You’re not alone ❤

damn bruh. its just kinda crazy how nobody is talking about the forbidden e-book that is called crushanygirl

Worst feeling, ur family asks about it all the time. It hurts.

I'm a grandmother. Let me tell you, young man, youre on the right track! However most girls these days are superficial. Finding your soulmate isn't easy anymore, but don't give up hope and pray on it. I never did. Probably missed him by 100 years! You are very handsome and have a good heart, guard it well. I will pray for you, my Dear!

Hey don't worry about it man. I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend either. The worst part is my friends and relatives all think I'm too good-looking to not have a girlfriend. But because I'm kind of socially awkward and shy, I was never able to get one.

You have a lot of balls to speak of these personal things. It's admirable. You've actually given me the idea of doing it myself here on KZfaq.

24 after 3 months. I just gave up at this point. I think some people destined to live alone forever. I'm one of them.

I'm the same age as you bro and I can totally relate. We are NOT weirdos, we are perfectly normal. We've been taught about a world that is completely different from reality. Discover your passion and go for it, enjoy the little things and strive for great things and if you find someone along the way, good on you, but you must learn to be confortable with being alone because relationships are mostly bs right now.

Hi Mari...my relationship story as a young man was so much like yours! I finally found a girl that I really was drawn to, and I got the "wobbles" for awhile n she almost gave up on me. One day I stepped out and took her out. ...we started getting together to have fun, walk on the beach and stuff. We got engaged. then married. I was 29! ...next August, we will have been married for 50 years. It does happen. My prayers are with you, friend!!

I just turned 24 and never had a girlfriend as well. I don't know anymore at this point. It's hard not to want to give up. I do so much, I'm a great guy (better than most I feel), and I'm still alone. What's crazy is that there's always people them on the internet who will shit on you and minimize you and look for every fault in you to gaslight you. At this point, I'm not sure I want to continue with life. I guess I have my passions and my job but I can't live the rest of my life for those.

Don't overthink.There is nothing wrong with you. The moment you let go of expectations, overthinking, and try to focus on you, everything will fall into place at the right time. That's what i learned after strugling for many, and many years. Just keep moving and growing, you will get there 100% ❤👊🏻

Here's the truth and it might be a little harsh but you need it. In this day and age being 23 and single doesn’t surprise me. With all the tech everyone is socially awkward but that's another topic. You are super likable and attractive but you are gloomy. Just from what I’ve witnessed in your few videos if things don’t come easily you tend to say they aren’t worth it. For instance, life and love. You are too self-conscious. You need to focus on whether or not you like the girl and not care if they like you because they all aren’t going to and that’s fine. You are letting off a vibe and it's probably making the girls you interact with confused. They probably can’t tell you are interested. As a guy you have to put yourself out there and they will choose. The girl in school liked you. I don’t know if you still have a shot. Try asking them to study with you privately. Coffee, whatever. If they say yes, you're half way there. If they say no you won’t die, it doesn’t mean you’re ugly or that life isn't worth it. You are making everything harder than it has to be. Get on it. You aren’t going to be young, fit and good looking forever. And if you show your sensitive side right away, they will run but you haven't got that far yet. Don’t tell them all your problems. Try to have a good time. SHIT YOU WANT TAKES WORK. It's a pain in the ass but that's the way it is. You have all the tools you just have to take them outta the box. Hope this helps.

I am 42 years old and never had a girlfriend. Dude, you are 23, you have still plenty of time but I need to tell you one thing: If you stay negavtive like this things will never change. I know that from my own experience. I can only dream about being 23 again to still be in a position to have my own family. So stay a little bit positive and try to work on yourself before it is too late. And if you wont find a girlfriend, there will be a time when you will accept that. And even if you find a girlfriend, there is a big chance that you will break up. I never had a girlfriend but i am happy that i never experienced how it feels if a woman that you love leaves you.....Being single also has a lot of good things and the best thing is that you have more freedom and dont need to take care of anyone.

I'm 24, and I'm not into girls, I'm into guys. I as well, never have been in a relationship. When I was 23, I had the closest thing to a relationship, though I was never official with him. We didn't work, out and it broke my heart - took several months to get over. It doesn't help that I also have attachment issues too, so that's been a huge disadvantage on my end too. I'm currently in therapy and the thing that they told me (after I ranted to them about me and my personal life) is that I have a void in myself, that I'm trying to get others to fill for me, as I don't have it within myself. As a result, I'm going to others, looking for that acceptance, validation, and looking to be valued. So in a sense for me, I have to better myself, and learn to love myself. Cuz I always hear ... that you can't truly love someone or expect someone to love you, if you don't love yourself. So I think that most of us just need to work on ourselves first and learn to love ourselves before getting into a relationship. For myself, I know that is very true, as I basically have no self-love, and when I am in a relationship, I'm certain it won't work out until I work on myself. There is nothing wrong with you, keep pushing through, you got this.

You're handsome and well-spoken and articulate, your lady is out there somewhere. Keep living and improving yourself and following your dreams and desires.

I’m 29 and I’ve had 1 girlfriend. You are not missing out on anything bro. It’s not normal for people to just bounce around having relationships but for some messed up reason we think it is normal today

I have depression since 10 years, have been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder 3 years ago and also borderline personality disorder 2 years ago, I'm 25 and never had a boyfriend, got mercilessly bullied in school, physically and emotionally abused by my father, and never ever had any friends. We all are struggling in this life no matter how much people show you their vacation pictures, new car, house, perfect partner etc on social media. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Nobody has life figured out. Remember that. Stay resilient, focus on the good, stop comparing and keep going. You are stronger and braver than you think. You've got this.

I know EXACTLY how you feel and I'll be 100% with you. I'm 20 years old soon to be 21 and I've seen a LOT of things for someone my age. And let me just do a mic drop....which means I'm about to tell you just EXACTLY what's going on. #1 The reason why you don't get close to anyone is because you have that internal guide telling you "This person isn't right" and tbh it's a protection. It's literally sparing you all the heartache, baggage and regrets that come from a lot of relationships that form and you see how people treat it. #2 You're a pure-hearted honest soul that isn't about anyone or anything phoney and I can tell that the little show people put on *doesn't* impress you at all. Neither does it impress me either. But those girls can sense that they can't manipulate you and immediately lose interest because they're looking for a puppet so they can pull on the strings. 3# It's not you, it's them. I've been through this too many times. They have yet to grow up in ways. People nowadays are very selfish but I can tell you're quite the opposite. That in itself is attractive. #4 Those boys that seem to get relationships all quick and that seem so "successful" are usually not that developed mentally, emotionally, or psychologically. Nor do they realize that internal growth is *needed* for a relationship. You on the other hand, are someone who recognizes that there are things to work on within yourself and you're growing in those areas. Because you're taking the time to work on those areas, you'll be more successful than them. Most guys I've been in a relationship with, I've come to find out that they have a lot of unresolved and unhealed childhood traumas that they need to fix themselves instead of thinking a mate will undo all of that. And as a result I've been through *so much* unnecessary pain because they WOULDN'T own up to their actions. You on the other hand are working on your communication skills which are *vital* for a relationship. So again, you'll be more successful because as a man you recognize the need to improve in those areas. That's highly respectable and attractive. #5 The media portrays a lot of falsehoods in general including romantic love. That's expected. Reality on the other hand can be painful but you're sparing yourself from a lot of unnecessary baggage that comes from all of that. #6 When it comes to myself, my issue is no one cares long enough to make a relationship last. Even though I'm fully capable I can't hold up 100% of that, it should be 50-50 but sometimes it's 89-11 or 67-33 or 45-55. As you may notice, all of these equal 100 but not everyone wants to do their part to keep it 100% with you. People do this in general. So don't worry you're not alone. #7 Don't give up--in any area of your life. I know it may be difficult because people contribute their two cents to a situation and make it difficult for you at times. You're growing to be more at peace with the fact you're a work in progress. Continue. There is nothing wrong with you. By age 23, folks usually have a bunch of exes, kids, child support, unstable relationships, and have baggage. You on the other hand, are choosing a better route which will be better in the long run. #8 I think you're a great guy. You have integrity which most don't. I'd be more than happy to be close to someone like that because you stand for the truth and don't fall for anything. It's still very possible to be close to someone. I believe in you. If you ever need a close friend, I'm here. _caramel_curlfriend_4u is my insta. I'm glad you are honest with yourself. It'll make the process more bearable and more possible for you to grow. Thanks for sharing. Feel free to give me a follow on my IG or here. I'm here to support.

23 too bro. Good on you for having the balls to speak your mind. I feel somewhat the same about life right now and always have. I was recently the closest to ever having a girlfriend and did things for this girl I had never done in my life for anyone. She broke my heart yesterday bro. Move forward the time and place will present itself. Gods timing. PS I am 6ft 6, I work out am in shape, play football, am in a band and yet I am deep down extremely awkward when it comes to intimacy and opening myself up. Out in public I am confident but not when it comes down to meaningful relationships. I will strive to improve always. Keep your head up we in this together.

i reached my 30 and i've never had any girlfriend either and still a virgin and not planning to lose it and gave up any hope of being in relationship a very long time ago, and to be honest i feel happy about it because i don't get to suffer any consequences by being with the wrong person, as i see a lot of stories on the news of people killing their spouses and divorces that end up with problems in courts and single divorcees with children to take care of

I was like you. Then I managed to finally somehow ask a few girls out in person. Got rejected everytime. Now I'm still alone at 34 and it's pretty obvious it will stay that way. There's nothing wrong with me either. The fact is our current society doesn't allow for our personality type. Our culture is purposely rigged to promote the worst behaviours to dumb down the future populations. If you're not acting like what's promoted, and you won't be able to fake it, then you're going to struggle. You're not perceived as part of the tribe and women want nothing to do with you, you have no social value.

23 year old guy here too and I relate to you bro. At this point I feel a kind of apathy towards the thought of me ever being a relationship or even talking to a woman but for some reason it brings me peace? Like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Having a relationship isn’t a requirement to enjoy life or to get fulfillment. I think we’re gonna be ok and I hope the best for all of you, whatever path you take.

Bro i feel you. You are right with most of what you say. Life for men is not easy. You have to do it like a roleplay Videogame. You can level up in different points. Give yourself some time and every day try to get better in some way. And after 5 - 10 years you will be even greater than you are now my friend. You are intelligent, i see it in the way you think and speak. Use this for your advantage. Never against yourself. Try to find way to get high income and lift weights but give yourself time. It will get you confidence. Maybe there is someone you know you lives life like you want to live it. Go talk to him. Ask him to be a mentor for you on your way in some points. You have nothing to Lose my friend like most of us. Use this for your advantage. Hope the best for you ❤

I'm 31 and never had a girlfriend. Hearing the stories out there with relationships... if that is still true at 40+ I really would not care one way or another. It's not you... everything is indeed broke right now. Work on yourself, work on your spiritual life, and find joy and peace.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You're handsome, well-spoken and a deep thinker.

Really feel this man, 24 and have only had a couple of relationships but nothing lasts. Was lucky to get them off the ground to begin with. No matter how much I’ve tried self improvement and holding myself accountable for my flaws, nothings ever good enough for anyone. I hope more ppl will empathize rather than point and laugh because that’s just inhuman imo. It’s very sad to see so many videos like this now but it’s just becoming a staple on every platform because of how alone so many ppl are, including myself. Im by no means normal and have had a lot of mental health issues develop over time that I’m doing my best to tackle, so I can understand why there isn’t an appeal there. It’s like deep affection is something that no one will ever show towards me and it’s so painful.

You are very sweet. Thank you for having shared all that so openly. You might not even read this, but let me tell you that if you have this deep-seated that you are defective, or that there is something wrong with you, as you kept saying a lot throughout the video, chances are that you have a dismissive avoidant attachment style. With that belief there comes a lot of internalized shame, and guess what? Shame is a very powerful emotion that makes people want to run and hide. So you are feeling all that same, and then you have this automatic coping mechanism that is running away, hiding and so on. It doesn’t have to be that way forever, though. Let me tell you as well that you literally have to question (we all need to do this, of course) everything that your mind tells you. Question that there’s something wrong with you, and look for pieces of proof for why you are normal or acceptable. Do this consistently until it creates emotional resonance with you. Hope it’s helpful, and I wish you all the best. You are definitely very brave for putting yourself out there like that, and of course there is definitely nothing wrong with you 😉

Here's what you should know: Everytime you get into romance, you are risking yourself of a heartbreak. Trust me, it would be like walking barefoot on a burning charcoal. Betrayal is the most painful thing in this lifetime. If you wanna give romance a try, be ready to get hurt. Despite of that, it's not the end of the world.

I’m 20, and relate with what you’re saying so much it hurts. My advice is this, trust god. I started trusting god, and prayed to him asking for him to bring me the one.. almost 30 Minuets later I met the woman. We both never thought we’d talk so corny, sweet and wholesome, but we talk like that to each other. God is good, he will bring you two together

So relatable. Connecting with people seems impossible so I always get crushes on this wholesome chatacters . They are so interesting and easy to connect mentally with even if it's one sided. Its somehow comforting to know someone else , like you , thinks the same way as me

This is probably one of the most relatable videos I've ever seen! God bless you man! The girls these days are just not like how they were before. One day you'll find the one. I hope I do as well.

I feel exactly the same way. it really hurts because so many people get into relationships so quickly and I feel like I'm never the one people pick. keep fighting, I hope better things come your way.

Gosh, this was so relatable. I've been feeling the same way lately about love. I like to watch those movies with the wholesome love stories, but it's all a lie, and reality kinda sucks. I definitely know what you're going through, man, and you are a good-looking dude, and you seem like a nice guy. I know it doesn't mean much, but I hope you find you a nice girl, bro.

Bro.. as a man to man I can say you ARE beautifull! Go out there and bless yourself making contact with the ladies around you! Be genuine and never forget to love yourself more than anything in the world. If you love yourself, you are getting better at recieving and sending love. We all go through rough periods of doubts and insecurity. Fuck that shit and pull yourself together to go fishing in the pond of love. You deserve it! 🍻 🎉

Hey Mate , I've just listened to you, and I really identify with 6:37 I seriously feel your pain. Believe me, more and more people are experiencing what you are, and I understand how hard it is not to have friends. Please don't give up and keep doing your videos, you have no idea how much good you are doing for other people. DONT GIVE UP, and remember this, the only one thing we have control over is how we react to any situations. You do matter and people do care. Trust me, you are feeling this for a reason, you will be the difference between life and death for someone. Hang in there buddy

I understand everything your saying. People like ourselves have these issues at a very complex level. The depths of complexity goes so far it's difficult to explain and describe

Wow! You're just like me. I'm 25 and never had a girlfriend ever . Everything you said is exactly me. Seriously. If anything not having a girlfriend was the best decision. Think about it you have more money, no responsibilities, no stress all you need man is a friend that cares about you.

The last thing you gotta realize is you're not alone in these struggles. I've had childhood trauma, I can't relate to people and I'm an only child. Keep going bro.

I'm 27 and never been in a relationship or at most gotten past the 1st date, I struggle socially and tried many times dating, however because I can't hold a conversation it never works out as I'm seen as weird or whatever they think. Maybe something is wrong with me but I'm tired of being rejected and experiencing failure after failure, it freaking hurts and the whole idea of I have to go out in the world and experience this as a man, which I agree but it comes to a point where there is a pattern of failure and even trying to change and improve doesn't work really feels hopeless. I stopped trying a couple of years ago, and I wish no one has to experience this, but unfortunately, it is a reality for most. My best advice man, focus on your career, health, and future goals. Do well in this and try dating again in a year or 2. I'm trying to focus on my career in tech to maybe help boost my confidence in the future but dating does seem bleak.

dude it's because you're an awesome guy! You're intelligent and different. In a good way. God is protecting you from the evil in this world. STD,etc. God is with you brother.

I'm the same age as you and we share the same situation. I have no experience with love, but it is a very powerful emotion, and it can either build up or wreck your life so be careful. But I don't believe true love by itself is that bad. It takes sacrifice, commitment, and it supersedes all reason and rational thinking. It is not something you can comprehend with the logical mind, and I think that is why it can seem so dark and scary, fear of the unknown. Hats off to you man and hang in there. Peace.

I relate to this a lot and feel the same way, I'm 23 as well and started college recently, the only difference is that i have kissed before but it never went anywhere or lasted more than a month, I'm still a virgin and never really felt intimate with anyone. I've been single and alone for the past 6 years, only recently have i started feeling VERY lonely, the kind of lonely that eats away at you, everywhere i go i see couples, holding hands, kissing, hugging...it's like it keeps getting shoved in my face like something trying to mock me and i keep wondering when or if that will ever happen for me, for every other guy it seems to be so natural while it feels like I'm invisible, I'm forced to constantly hear about the relationship or love life of others i was friends with(whom also kinda disappeared from my life and apparently don't want anything to do with me), the other day a guy i was friends with started dating and my mom told me about it, i really wish she hadn't. Online friends who are younger than me keep talking about their romantic life while i feel detached and isolated from reality, those are the best words i can use to describe it, it feels like I've been out in the cold for too long and can't find the flame anymore. I'm not ugly, in fact i have been told before that I'm actually good looking, I'm just short, and for the longest time i thought that was the reason but I'm always seeing guys the same height as me and uglier getting girls effortlessly, so i keep wondering what is it, you know? Maybe that part of my brain just doesn't work? Maybe it just doesn't compute for me how to actually form relationships? Everyone i try to talk to just looks at me weird or doesn't put a lot of effort in replying back or keeping the conversation going, that's when i push aside my fears and try to start something, when i don't, no one approaches me, ever, and even those who do quickly stop interacting with me or even looking at me, like i did or said something awful, but i never get to know, maybe I'm just weird and something in my brain doesn't work properly, that's the best explanation i can come up with. Which is weird because i can very easily hold a conversation when the other party puts in the least bit amount of effort. But when they don't it's just like "😐" I'm getting to a point where i want to do really stupid things just to see if i get anywhere and end this cycle of being in a void, in a limbo, this cycle of nothingness that hurts a lot. Even if i become the joke all over again, even if i creep people out, I'm slowly feeling as I'm losing my mind and if i don't try something soon I'll snap. In social settings I'm mostly left out and fade in the background as i stand there while everyone talks and laughs and i just watch as no one makes an effort to include me, and if i try to chip in they quickly look at me and don't even acknowledge what i said or outright just ignore me. Which reinforces the question "What the hell is wrong with me?"

Thank you for sharing your story with all of us. I want you to know that there is nothing wrong with what you are facing. Some people are social butterflies but some are really awkward, socially speaking. I am 19 years old and have only gotten my first boyfriend and kiss last year. I might be on the autistic spectrum. Therefore, I can definitely relate to your social struggles especially the kind you faced in high school. I was actually a lot worse off in middle school than you were, socially. By the time of my high school graduation, there wasn't anybody who I still kept as a friend since I wasn't good at maintaining any friendships at the time, much less romantic relationships. By the time I was in university though, I've made many new friends and my social skills improved. After breaking up with my first boyfriend, I've found a guy who can relate to most of my struggles and strengths. He is my boyfriend to this day. Be patient. You may get your first girlfriend sooner or later. It's best not to go find one just because you want to have a girlfriend. When selecting somebody to be your girlfriend, try aiming for somebody who you can click with and who accepts you for who you are. Let it happen naturally instead of trying to force it. I had the exact same thoughts as you about relationships before I got a boyfriend. I wasn't actively searching for a boyfriend at the time and my social skills are still quite poor, but the relationship just sorta happened because we both connected with each other pretty well. There is always a time for everything. You are not alone in this. It was really brave of you telling us your story. I don't think I would have had the courage to record myself openly talking about my own personal struggles. If there is anything a girl worth having would like to see in a guy, it's transparency and honesty. You seem to be quite high in those qualities. Don't give up. You'll eventually find a girl who appreciates you for those qualities.

You're golden bro. Stay authentic in your interactions with others and get out and meet people. Beleive me some girls will swoon over you but you have to be okay with the fact that not everyone will resonate with you, everyone is at a different place in life and what they're attracted to depends on where they're at. Love isn't just a serial drama trope, it exists and it's profound. It doesn't have to be limited to the confides of romantic relationships either. The doubts and lows are all part of the ride and they accentuate the highs when they role around❤. Was nice to hear you speak your mind 😊

I get ALL that you're feeling, I thought I was the only one. But there are aspects to shows I really like essentially one show where a character said "your soulmate is your complement, not your missing piece". In the 1st time of my life I don’t even care about having someone. Yeah I get lonely here and there and I have these strong feelings that there is someone for me. All I try to do is to enjoy myself and work on me, that way things don’t work out. I'm still secure and okay with me and not fall apart

I'm watching this and literally screaming. Take it from someone who has been brought up with similar thoughts: There. Is. Nothing. Wrong. With. You!!! It's actually hard to watch how down you are on yourself when you seem really sweet! Devastating. I literally just came across your video by chance and you seem so likeable it makes me sad that you feel like this. I just... ugh. It's frustrating because I've had similar thoughts. Even down to anime or people in stories not being real. And it's hilarious that through you I'm realizing that maybe we're both loveable. I just think maybe society is rough to live in and isn't built to support healthy or meaningful connections. Honestly, I think you should just focus on doing things that are the most loving for you personally. And maybe select one day of the week to put yourself out there? That's what I'm trying to do. Like going to more concerts and things I love at least once a week. Take small steps outside of your comfort zone if you know it could be good for you. I hope things get better. You have value!!! You just gotta find your people.

same, but dude, its out there. its just a crazy world at the moment, so dont take it personal. youre a young man, finding himself in this experience. be strong and true to yourself and believe it or not, the rest will fall into place :) it sure is tough, i know, but this and feelings like this will make you a greater, wiser man. there will be great tests in life, and this is one of the tougher ones. i promise most other hurdles after this will seem so easy. give your self some credit, we are mirrors to our environment. stand tall, and be proud of the path you can choose to go down. if you can respect what you do, others will too! your good bro! feel what you want to become and take tiny steps to make that possible

I'm 23 and have never been in a relationship either. My high school and college experience featured many girls who I tried to get to know in hopes that I'd end up in a relationship but it failed every time. It's very frustrating and demoralizing. It always hurts to be turned down. I have mental issues as well. I have OCD and social anxiety. My social anxiety makes it so hard for me to spend time with girls, as I'm very afraid of being a creep. I also might be mildly depressed. Furthermore, my social skills aren't great and that might be off putting to some people. I wish you the best in finding a woman who you love. 23 is early in life and there is still plenty of time to mentally heal, learn how to relate to girls, and work towards a better life. I know there are men who found their first girlfriends in their late 20s. There is still lots of hope and I hope you find love, happiness, and peace of mind.

You’re such a bright soul. I can say the world needs more gentlemen such as yourself. You’re on the right track as the lady above stated. Don’t give up. Things will eventually fall into place.

Dude, you are literally blessed!! For now, u might think that ur unlucky cuz u didn't find love, but trust me, ur blessed cuz u don't know how happy you'll be later on. Maintain this single streak, and you'll eventually realize why u were so lucky never having a girlfriend

You got my support, I understand you completely, keep having faith and I know easier said than done , but you got this I believe in u bro

You are very cute and you aren’t weird. You haven’t met the right girl, that all. Be patient there are so many of us who are single and have been for years.

Hey man don't beat yourself up. As someone who has been in a relationship before I wouldn't recommend focusing on getting a girlfriend as modern women nowadays wants to be competitive against men but stay true to yourself and love the person you are today. Try working on self-love and do the things that'll make you happy like focusing on your goals, gaming, watching your favorite shows, etc. It can be difficult to find someone and I struggle with that too but once you decide and learn to love yourself things will get better and you'll view life very differently. There's nothing wrong with you and you're right where you're supposed to be so follow your dreams and always watch your heart too and don't give up on love as it's something that is inside all of us and that love can come in many wonderful and different ways for everyone even when you least expect it so keep doing good and stay safe too king!

Don't worry about it too much, bro. I got my first lover at age 25 and got deflowered at that age as well. Compared to my younger brother and all my male friends, it happened very late. It's only a matter of time. You'll get your chance someday.

I’ve often wondered the same thing. I’ve had so many romantic interests run away from me and hide over the years. I kept wondering what I was doing wrong. Then I took the bold move of looking elsewhere-I mean literally, geographically. I’m not sure where you live, but I had been living in the U.S. and had found relationships of all kinds incredibly complicated. I went to the Philippines and found the people there generally (but not always) to be easier to interact with and less complicated. And whereas in the U.S., I had always had to chase after friends and romantic interests alike, there it was they who were doing the chasing. There is nothing wrong with you. There is something wrong with the people who run away from you. Look somewhere else, and you will probably find someone who chases after you for once. And if you really like that person, then maybe you’ve finally found your soul mate! I don’t know when or where it will happen. What I do know is that you are very much deserving of it.

Dude, honestly never have I ever related to a video more than yours in my entire life. I’m 25 and let me tell you I’ve always been a social outcast my whole entire life girls don’t find me interesting at all. I can be the kindest person in the entire world with a great big heart but no one cares to see that all people care about is the superficial stuff which I just don’t understand, and I agree with all the points that you made that it’s just weird and how we is human beings need to be noticed is odd. Honestly bro I’ve given up as well. I’ve tried everything I possibly can and it just doesn’t work out if you’re too boring, they want nothing to do with you. Not only that but they don’t even know what they want and then they’ll accuse us of not knowing what we want. It’s just kind of this weird game that we’re all playing that no one wants to be playing anymore. Not to mention these days with how girls act online and on social media platforms it’s disturbing because you can’t find a good honest, passionate woman these days that’s also my biggest problem is most of the girls that are beautiful either do some type of work that isn’t really good online, it’s just a mess dude, an absolute mess 7:14 And I understand what you mean. I wish things could be like the way they are in TV shows and anime a lot as well but real life isn’t like that and it’s a damn shame that it can’t be.

bro trust me it’ll all work out in the end god has a plan for everyone you just have to abide your time i feel exactly like you i’m slowly falling out of love as well but we gotta stay strong 💪

This hits home for me in so many ways. I also made a video about my shortcomings with love and relationships. And it also does seem super natural for people to get into relationships, but virtually impossible for others. When I made my video I didn’t realize how common this problem was and I feel like it’s gotten worse over time especially with the advent of social media and texting. Sure ghosting happened in different forms in the 1960s or 5th century (whether the other person wouldn’t call or write back). I learned to count my blessings. I have a good home, stable cash flow, well-fed, I go on vacation every year to a country of my choosing. I look at all that and say I may not have love, but I do have a lot of my other needs that have been met.

hey dude i am in the same situation. I am 23 years old like you. Watching your video I really felt the part when you explained that there were signs this girl liked you but you got overwhelmed with your fears to take it into a deeper level, (a very similar experience happened to me in high school. To this day I really regret it because at one point she came to know that I liked her and was willing to give me a chance until she perceived that I was making no move at all . I really regret it and used to beat me up for it .....because inside I know she would have been worth the struggle. But thankfully it's all getting better, I have accepted the fact that I am just not made for love, and so I m spending my days improving my own flaws and aspects of my life (almost a master degree level computer engineer whatupppp). All the best ahahah

That’s so relatable man! Being vulnerable with a partner is pretty scary but nothing is wrong with you bro, making the video itself took a lot of guts 👍

I feel for you brother. One thing I've learned is that if you don't feel accepted where you're at, you're in the wrong place. I think sometimes we force ourselves to be in a place that hurts us cause that's all we know. I encourage the idea of self exploration and learning about how the relationship of the things you enjoy make you tic and mold the person that you are

Appreciate the raw authenticity in this video, really something special about it.

This is a blessing - in almost EVERY way...I think you are blessed in every way but the comparison to what is "normal" makes you feel like you are not BLESSED af.

The main point of a relationship is "be there". For a relationship to happen you have to prove you can be relied on. From what I have learned in life, I also struggled for a part of my life is that you have to be funny, but not a joker (more leaned to surprising, not to many cause people get board but one/two a month so you keep them guessing what is your next move) and most important you have to be able to prove you can be relied on. The thing is this two things point to two different sides but they are what it counts the most. You have to prove that when you say something you will do that something (don't say stupid things or idiotic things, normal things, but things you can do) and then you have to be able from time to time to make things get exciting. Like after doing same thing every day of the week, do something unannounced (but something you know she will not get bothered with) in the weekend. Just do thins things and be patient. Things will fall in their place with time. There might be other things, but when you seek a serious relationship that means you need to prove that when life gets tough you will not bail out, you will carry and you will KNOW WHAT TO DO, not promises,,,, proofs (again not explicit proofs, but day by day with the things you do). You are right humans are strange and this thing can be strange as a young guy, but the thing is humans search in a relationship for the promise of predictability, not getting board and the strange part comes from, they need to feel it was tested and "certified" (it has been earned not given to them). I can describe this thing in many words. But as I managed to understand it, after being in similar situation, I can at least explain it in a way people like me understand it. Don't lose hope just don't obsess over it!

Feel ya brother. I've had the damndest time getting into a relationship. You're definitely more attractive than I am and way younger. Keep pushing. You have time.

Hey dude. Former finder of true love and expert on potential screwed up relationships here. After years of searching and always foolishly confessing too soon, I have come to learn from my mistakes and work to improve myself. Now I focused all my energy on strengthening and building relationships with people who care about me, friends I love. And you, my friend, should strive for that path, focus on yourself and your passions. You seem like a smart and kind young man with a bright future ahead of him. Stay strong my dude!

Bro no weirdo stuff. You’re a good looking dude, just focus on your priorities and loved ones first. You’ll eventually meet that girl for you. God bless.

You are very good looking and you are a deep thinker, very honest and articulate. You are special- don’t get down on yourself!

There's nothing wrong with you brother. I'm old now and I've been through a similar situation. I need you to understand that the landscape is challenging and at times down right hopeless. You have to make the decision to trust in yourself and progress through life as a man this is part of that. Be aware your not alone I have a happy relationship now because I kept on believing in myself and I went right to my current wife and she saw that I was honest and yes the situation was awkward but we were laughing and giggling I told her a terrible joke and in the awkwardness we both were laughing. Bro just be patient and I encourage you to keep on your path and you will find your partner.

I’m 25 in the same scenario. I can say it’s 100% because I don’t put myself out there at all. Go to work, gym, stay home on weekends, have no social media . When I see someone attractive I don’t do or say anything because I don’t want to make it awkward since I have no clue what I’m doing. I’m very frustrated at myself that I had a few chances in school but never did anything about it

That's because of you're smart. Won't let chaotic come to your life, it's great that you focus on yourself. God Bless You

You are very intelligent and very handsome. Those traits are intimidating to many woman. Not your issue. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you. Don’t give up on love!

I am the same boat dude. I am 23 and never had a girlfriend but I wish the best for you!

I am exactly like you Mari, except I'm gay and I've never had a partner and wonder what is wrong with me. I also grew up having behavioural issues and dropping out of college, and one can't help but become depressed and bitter when you see people, who are simply themselves, getting overflowing love, admiration, opportunities, etc. because of their presentation. I do believe that energy has a lot to do with this, confidence, optimism and authenticity is something very palpable to others, and it can be off-putting if you don't have it. However, it's unfair since at one point in our lives we were all those things but told that we weren't enough, that we needed to change to fit in. When you can't be comfortable or at peace in your own skin or in your mind then anxiety creeps in as well as hypervigilence, you don't know who to be and eventually it's easier to avoid or push people away as a defense mechanism to protect our hearts. Since our society is so individualist, you're expected to mend these internal wounds yourself... But that's why it's great that you are opening up - it's the only true way to let people in again, and find solidarity through your suffering. I for one would love to be friends with you, you seem so honest, and perceptive.

You're gonna be alright. I was a virgin up to my early 30s, and not by choice. I can tell you're going to be okay simply because of how you're putting yourself out there like you are. The one bit of advice I can give you is, know yourself. Who are you? What are your goals and your passions in life? What do you see as your field of endeavour? See, if you throw yourself into that, you'll find a sense of community and the rest will follow. It's not a magic bullet, everything won't necessarily fall together overnight, but it'll get you on the path you need to be on.

I am 41 and my best years have been my 30s and early 40s so far. Keep your chin up, your better years are ahead of you. Until then, work on yourself. Be the man you want to be.

Im 25 year old virgin starting to work on my confidence and my social anxiety. You're not alone dude just don't give up hope

I came across this video and I know that feeling mate! I’m 24 years old and I’ve never had a gf either. I’ve dated a couple of girls but it didn’t go as planned I used to think that it was my fault cuz I’m a complicated person and sometimes I’ve felt judged because of being myself and it doesn’t matter you’ll be fine just don’t give up and that person who is willing to love you the way you’re are will come to your life. It’s all about patience I know it’s frustrating and it sucks but it is what it is. Just be confident keep doing your best. Make yourself proud and all the good things will come to you sooner or later. Thanks for sharing this video!

I'm 23 also bro i feel you i have never been in a relationship as well bro had behavioral issues too growing up i 'm average as well its the generation we live in nobody socializes in person anymore and some women have some of the highest standards known to man kind but there are women out there that want an average normal guy out there i see it daily. don't give up bro and don't settle for less keep doing you

You know because I've been single my whole life, I sometimes wonder if there are any good women left. I also sometimes wonder if I was never meant to have a girlfriend, but that's just me on this and I honestly don't really care anymore

bro you're not alone. I'm a bi guy, only ever had one girlfriend when I was 13....never had sex, never really had a girlfriend and trying to talk to girls now feels weird and foreign. Dating apps have made me feel depressed. I completely understand what you mean about feel about giving up altogether

Oh man. It is almost looking into the mirror when I was a teen into my early 20's watching couple of these videos... I told my self exactly what you been saying. I was actually very shy. No convendence. Afraid of being rejected. Afraid of choosing the wrong person and then to afraid of breaking up with them. Being stuck. I didn't like myself in that time period. I join the military. It did help me but I do not recommend it now. I feel bad for the younger genetation. We really failed them. School and society just made it worse for boys. society telling young men that they are toxic acting a certain way. If you are a nice shy guy, I get held back from social norms. Women today are giving wrong messages to men. It is so toxic. It is easy to tell this guy he has it good for not jumping into a relationship. I also understand feeling of loneliness. Not fitting in. Want a relationship and not experiencing it. It is depressing. Also feeling being afraid to talk to women and starting a relationship and doing something wrong and being hinge in the wrong way. Again, our society failed this good man right here. All I can say .. We are all going to die one day. Do not exist it by giving up. Actually life gets little better for myself when I go to the age 28. I am glad I didn't get any one pregnant. I finally met my now wife in my 30's. I am so lucky. Life sucks. I've been in war. I seen the world. One day I realize man, I do not have it bad as other humans on this planet. I awaken into reality at that moment.

You have no idea how much I relate. I've never had special feelings for someone and just don't know how to get a girlfriend. I basically feel like giving up in even trying.

Hey man, no worries. I just turned 23 on the 5th. And I have yet to have a girlfriend. I have a girl that I call my bestie, but she recently started being distant from me bc she is letting this guy she started seeing tell her she can’t talk to other guys while with him. And she is drawing further away from me. She is allowing it to happen. So I feel abandoned by her. I hope she comes to understand what she is tossing away. But I can’t worry about it anymore. And I have my fair share of missed relationship opportunities as well. So don’t feel bad man. We will both get our woman one day. Btw, there is another girl that I’m really close with that I kinda like to. This clip you made just gave me the motivation to try confessing my feelings towards her. Just need to get it off my chest, whether she accepts or declines, I will still feel better about it. But keep your spirits up high champ, we both have our soul mate somewhere. I believe in ya brother

Stay strong brother. Life can change for the good in the blink of an eye 👍

I used to think like you and was very much the same, But i met this girl while traveling and we connected on the first date, i ended up staying the night, and spending multiple days with her at the end of my trip. After that we kept in contact, I came back to revisit and then she visited me in my country. Ended up being a 3 year relationship. In the end we didn't work out but im thankful for finally getting that intimacy and connection you are talking about. We still remain friends to this day. Now being single im back to square one. But i know it's out there, even though it is extremely hard to find again.

Stay away from dating apps, and if you meet someone that you end up liking you have to get ahead of the game and at least be subliminal about your interest before being placed in the friendzone (easier said than done). I'm an introvert, and started realizing that being direct was hard for me, so I started showing interest to girls "subliminally" to see if there's any chance. Shit sometimes they would end up being more direct with their interest afterwards. This is coming from a dude that doesn't feel good looking. Good luck out there man, just stay away from rushing it cause nothing good comes out of that

there are many cases when couple just got married and love comes itself. make a move to the one you like -thats a key see, who will be good for you to live a life and feeling with your correct approach to her will arrive, cause thats biochemistry, today nothing, tomorrow more, when you win and marry her - feelings will abound with life, sex, good right treat of her, dont worry, in your age it seems rocket science, watch what life will be for her and you together, practically

Keep smiling just like you did at the end, yes you are shy and your going to have to learn to overcome it, but you are handsome, take some more classes you’ll meet more girls and go back and talk to that girl again I promise it won’t be weird.

dude. literally explained my life. you and me are the same my dude. im abt to turn 17, ive always been quiet but my social anxeity and skills have improved a decent amount. However it seems like girls think im weird no matter what i do. I feel the same as you man I might be younger but I understand exactly what your saying

Sometimes I think smartphone and social media have ruined young people's mindsets. Wake up.

Hi am watching your videos prior to you blogging sometime now anyway l hope you are doing well and having positive mindset. Regardless of how people have chosen to comment, remember there are many good people out there it’s how you connect with them

Hey man, don't give up and idk if ur religious but start praying to God and truly know that he always lives you and answers you prayers, might take some time for a few of those prayers but God does not do thing without purpose. I will pray for and just know that when you look for a girl, make pros and cons list of what you like and don't like don't settle for the first thing and when it comes to talking to them, just try not to think about it too hard. Your not ugly in any way. You just gotta pray to God work on your thoughts and your self before trying to get with someone. You can go to the gym it helps alot of us out and just focus on urself first and then start talking to thes girls, don't give up, the right girl doesn't care how you look. The on eyou want is the one that loves you for you try your best man and God bless i will keep you in my prayers bro.

true love is extremely rare in 2023. Just because you see a happy young couple doesn't mean that you'll eventually have it. Average men like us are left out while women our age are given plenty of options. This also explains why there is a rise of young men being single, hence the male loneliness epidemic

Right now it may feel weird currently in your life. But love can be described in different ways. When that time comes you will know. But try not to doubt yourself. Everyone deserves to be loved. Don't give up too quickly. Don't listen to negativity that's set in your mind.

It takes a very strong soul to live an entire life without love. But it is worth it. To learn how to be happy, even if you were to spend an entire lifetime by yourself, is priceless, and definitely worth the pain of spending an entire lifetime single.

Hey man. Im 15, so Im really just getting into the dating pool, but i can still sympathize with you on feeling lonely, and feeling like women dont care about you. You seem like a pretty cool person, you arent bad looking by any means, and I honestly admire the courage you have to talk about this stuff. Something that has definitely made me feel better is talking with my family about my stance with women and dating. Not only will they give you advice, but just having someone else who knows where youre coming from is more meaningful than you could ever imagine. Another thing I like to think about is that there are probably women out there who share the same stance and pain as you, and would probably kill to have someone like you who genuinely cares about them. Even though it may seem like they arent out there, they are, you just have to figure out where to find them and what to look for. That's all I have to say. God bless you brother.

Ever since I was a teen, my grandparents would ask me if I already have a girlfriend every time I see them. I'm 26 by now and sometimes I now feel like saying "No, I don't and you'll two will probably die and will never see me with one. Same goes for me."

Mari, I'll be honest with you man, sometimes it's best to be alone. With a majority of the relationships I've been in, I honestly sometimes want to be alone and by myself. Sometimes when you seek something, you'll put yourself through hell just because you think it'll make you happy. It honestly and sadly is only a temporary happiness. Typically it's either an abusive relationship, or they want too much, or they want to rule you. People that come across vulnerable, will sadly be taken advantage of. I've sadly been in that rut my whole life. It's honestly best to work on yourself before you get with someone else. I used to think I needed someone to help me through these things, but what people say is true. You really have to work on and love yourself before you can accurately love another person.