Why does he Look like he belongs in the chainsmokers

"Queer events in your town" Ha Haha Hahahahahaaaa You thought, my town is so religious and conservative church is full half an hour before service, every day of the week. There's four churches, all full.

it took me 6 months to even accept the fact that i 'might' be trans but after 2 years i know i am

I’m exploring first by cutting all my hair off

I realized I am trans ftm because since I was 7 I thought it's cooler and easier to be a boy. At 10 I realized I don't want to be a girl. Now at 12 I realize I am trans

I live in the South with an extremely homophobic/transphobic family, and honestly, for me I want to transition and come out as fast as possible.

This is so perfect for me right now! I have had a rough day, I had panic earlier about my trans identity. I worry that I'm making it all up and this is a life changing decision that i might regret. When you said "try out pronouns, it's a feeling" I really realised that my identity is true, I am ok. I want to be known as he/him. She/her feels very uncomfortable. Thank you for your words on time. The waiting list is 15 months here in the uk for your first gender identity clinic appointment, and I am ready to wait and feel completely sure.

I'm 33 and I'm going through the experiment phase right now. I bought a few feminine things off Amazon the other day just to try it out. Makeup a skirt and a cute wig.

you kissing a cat is the purest thing I've seen today

I’m an 11 year old girl and I just tried putting my hair in a ponytail and hiding it in a hoodie and I looked in a mirror and loved it

I'm so confused, I need help. I like my feminine body and long hair but I'd also like to have a deep voice, beard and masculine body. I wish there was a way to be fully bigender, so I could choose when I want to look like a man and when I want to look like a woman.

I feel the rush for trans women is super valid, however. The rush to get puberty blockers or E before your voice breaks and bone structure changes can be important as testosterone is super powerful! I’m eternally fascinated to learn of the trans masc community to get a better idea of our community ❤️🌹

I'm non-binary but desperately want top surgery and I don't know how to feel about that honestly.

Thank you for this video! I am a german Trans male. Since 3 years I know I'm Transgender. My parents did not understand first. I went a year ago to a therapy I thought It doesn't help. But now I know it helps very much and now, now I'm allowed to tell my class that I'm Trans and my sister tries to call me by my boy name. On Thursday I'm gonna tell my new teacher (I'm in a new/next school) I'm sooo nervous about that because I know my class and my teacher since that week...not so long...

When I figured out I'm trans it felt right, I would look in the mirror and my reflection finally felt real, like it was me for once. Then I think about transitioning socially (which is terrifying and something only a few people can know) and I get scared shitless and it makes me was to kinda just stop and never transition. When I get like that tho I either just think how badly I want and how great I feel when I think of myself with a low voice and a flat chest and a dick and I'm just like, really reassured like "well shit yeah i really am trans" Thanks for this video!!!!! It's really reassuring

Thanks for the advice. I'm struggling with a lot in my head at moment.

I'm currently 24, suffer from major depression, anxiety, and agoraphobia so my issue is putting myself OUT THERE to get what I need. I've known for several years that I am trans, but leaving the house or making those important phone calls are a huge challenge. I'm always feeling like I'm wasting my life the way I am. getting on T seems like the first step to STARTING my life. anyway, I don't mean to toss out my life story here or rant lmao but I just wanna say, I've been following u since I started questioning my gender and you've certainly helped me over the years come to terms with certain things. I appreciate u so much, aydian. thank you!

Thanks ! I'm actually mtf and started transitioning at the age of 17! Love your videos keep it up !

Mine seemed like such a sudden rushed thing because I spent years contemplating by myself. I didn't involve anyone because I thought I couldn't tell anyone until I was sure. I also lived in a space that was questionable on how friendly people could be. I knew my parents didn't agree with trans rights so I was planning to live in secret. But eventually I broke down in my shower one day as I realised I'd rather die than keep living as the gender I was put as for birth. I started therapy and after 7 months of therapy I came out to my parents and 2 months after that was starting hormone therapy. 4 months after starting hormone therapy, I legally changed my name. It seems fast especially since it's only been 1 year and 3 months since I started therapy, but I've never been happier. I'm not disagreeing with your take on "time is needed" as I agree. Just more to give a story that you can explore still even if you don't have friends or family that you feel comfortable exploring with.

I identified as genderfluid for a while and slowly realized "Hey, ummm I'm more comfortable and confident as a man" and really as I thought about it had noticed I wasn't exactly ummm comfortable with my girlish body and whatnot ( however I know how it sounds written down I am just reeeeeaaalllly bad at explaining things) anyways, I identify as trans now but have small problems with that as I'm not sure if it's okay for me to like being pretty on occasion or wear makeup even though I see plenty of dudes like that. I also have slight issues with the fact that I look like a 13 year old boy half the time when I'm 19.... due to my small figure and facial features. I've also noticed that ever since I've changed my labels and name around my friends I am a lot more confident and happy? And even my dysphoria isn't AS bad as it was. I'm trying not to rush things as I realize I'm young and have plenty of time. I'm also still in the closet with most people... so I try not to let my old name and pronouns bother me. And it usually works that I can ignore it

My primary fear is that, at 31, my window of opportunity has passed. It just doesn't seem feasible anymore, socially or biologically.

I've been currently exploring my gender and its been so confusing and scary. For awhile I haven't been feeling very confident in general. I remember looking at clothes for females and not feeling very good about them. The thought of wearing them made me uncomfortable in almost a dysphoric sense. My girlfriend picked up on this fear of femininity. I always brushed it off and it was already so hard to come out as gay to my Christian family, i cant imagine coming out as trans. But I've been noticing little behaviors I have such as my dysphoria about my big breasts and how much better i feel with a sports bra that at least hides them a bit. My hips are always concerning me. The idea of femininity makes me uncomfortable and my feminine features cause me lots of distress. I embrace when my voice is a bit deeper as well. Lately I've been browsing the men's section clothes on websites and it feels right to me. Im going shopping next week to see how I feel but I hope to understand more and more each day because its been troubling me for a very long time and the more I look back, the more I realize how much I wanted to live as a man even as a young teenager.

My dad recently came out as trans and I’ve always wanted to be a guy, but my family absolutely hated the idea of my dad doing that and they’re very religious. I’m terrified to explore that part of me. One year, for Halloween, I dressed up like a man and changed my name temporarily and I liked it. I felt free, I just don’t know how to gain the courage to explore that side of me.

I'm at that stage where im nearing 25, and questioning if it's worth it to lose all my loved ones over this. At first it was just my parents (and job) but now its also the man i love.

I cycled through some different gender expressions and labels in my teens. I used to describe myself as genderqueer (later nonbinary) genderfluid. It wasn't until moving out of my house for university and more fully realizing my own perception of self beyond that of my home area and family. That's when I came more firmly into myself as a nonbinary trans man - where I had the space to do so in the fall term at my uni's lbgtq center and then just before the winter term in residence. I put off hrt until my second year (because of family acceptance issues and some preparing myself for change - which was needed but still intimidating). It's a unique process coming to a good understanding and acceptance of one's gender. The suggestions you give are definitley good for anyone questioning gender! We all take different paths at different paces!

I've been experimenting since i entered highschool and figured it out this year as a junior. Im trans ftm and the one thing thats remotely girly i feel comfy wearing is a hair bow. YOU CAN FEEL LIKE WHICHEVER AND LIKE TO WEAR WHATEVER THE FUCK YOU LIKE TO WEAR! DONT LET THE HATERS BRING YOU DOWN! SHOW THEM WHO YOU ARE!!! AND HAVE A NICE DAY YOU BEAUTIFUL HUMAN YOU!

Also one tip that really helped me is doing some internal exploration of your gender identity. Imagine yourself in the future or situations you've never been in and really be in tune to the version of you that your mind automatically creates instinctually and how that version of you feels. you might find that it feels like it's leaning to a specific gender and that might be a clue to where you should start. Imagine yourself as an old person do you see yourself successfully growing old in your current gender or is it kind of a blank slate is it easier to picture yourself growing old as a different gender? even if you don't want kids imagine yourself as a parent do you want to be a mother or a father or some other parental unit. which one just happens right away when you think or feels more natural. Used to think I was just an extreme tomboy, I never thought the version of myself as a guy in my head that I kept seeing and feeling was anything more than a weird day dream because I'm a masculine person. I thought it was just some sort of escape because my life wasn't that great at the time. but now I'm actually getting to be that strong confident badass man I always dreamed of and it's absolutely amazing!

Everyone is different, so my thoughts on this may be different to someone else; I think if you have an online presence pretending to be a guy and asking people to call you 'he/him', whilst hating to wear dresses or acting feminine, loving short hair and think of yourself in a masculine way, then theres a strong possibility you're trans ftm.

"There's no need to rush." One answer: Trump.

I've already been on hrt for 6 months into my transition + I stand firm in my identity, but I still watched to hear what you had to say.

Does testosterone change the jawline? My friend is trans mtf and now KZfaq keeps suggesting these videos :). I feel like Google might be listening to my phone calls

These are great tips! I pretty much did everything you're mentioning and 9 months later I know I'm ready to start transitioning. The not rushing is so hard, but so important.

“There’s no rush” I appreciate you saying this, I’ve gone back and forth on this topic for the past ten years. Every time I’ve comfortably talked myself into being cis, something happens and I fall down the rabbit hole again. I may get there this year. I may get there next year. I may never get there. We’ll see.

The title sounds as if it's one of Captain America's PSA's. I live for it.

What a handsome man

I love your cat so cute I feel like I'm trans but I can't really afford to transition

Just want to say thank you!!! "There is no need to rush" this remain me to stay claim and don't be too frustrate if I can't start hormone right now.

I didn’t think i was trans or anything at all until 14 (i still am) when all these feelings started coming up on me and i was like... “i really do not want to be a girl, it doesnt not feel right to me at all and it makes me unhappy :[”

this is great. i am glad someone came out with a video like this. Your amazing!

I really needed to hear some of the points that you made in this video. Like "There's no need to rush..." Thank you Aydian! I needed this. Been watching you for years now. Keep up the fantastic work!

Thank you for making this video! This is exactly what I have been needing, especially lately. I have felt this pressure since these thoughts started to come through more and be more persistent in my daily life. It feels like I need to go and go as fast as I could without stopping until I got to the end. This is the reminder I needed to slow down and take in the journey.

You're such an inspiration

Great video bro. This is good for all the people that recently found out that maybe they fit this category.

Thank you so much! Listening to you saying explore makes me feel so good... I'm actually crying right now. Thank you so much for you kind words and advices!!!

Thanks for this video! You are a big inspiration to me since im at a really confusing time in my life and your videos had helped me a lot !

I've been struggling for the last 17 years about my identity. And I gotta say, this video really made me feel so much better. I am a 22yr old ftm, and only just came out a couple days ago. I'm still nervous about a few things, but you definitely put my concerns at ease. Thanks so much man! Also, I would like to introduce myself. Mathew L. Drake. But you can call me Matt. It's a pleasure to meet you.

This video has really helped, it's just what I needed right now, so thank you for you words of wisdom x

You are a great role model for the community - thanks for being so public and supportive. I have a question; I'm just about to start my transition and wondering for down the road, if you run into old acquaintances, who didn't know you were trans and if they realize you are the girl they knew many years ago, how have you handled that? Anyone have any advice. I have this lingering feeling that my brother's wedding or Dad's funeral is going to be incredibly awkward and I'd just rather that those days remain about them.

Thank you so much for making this video! It tremendously helped me and it was very different advice from what I usually see and it was the best by far.

Thank you so much! I really needed a video like this!

You are such an amazing and old soul. Sending you positive vibes and continue helping and shaping people questioning. :*

I've been questioning for a few months now, thanks for the video :)

You're so good and important thank you for improving my week 💙

My binder is supposed to arrive tomorrow!

"How you feel is how you are" is a beautifully succinct way to put things.

I'm rushing to hormone therapy. 5 more years to go Or is it 7...?

Thank you so much I found this so helpful I have been so confused lately about me gender identity

I needed this. I made the decision to transition. I seriously need it. The video was very helpful

Ok I loved this tip because it helped me to reaffirm my feelings that I'm trans. I've been questioning and exploring for two years and male pronouns definitely just feel so much better. So it just makes me so happy that I can feel like I have confirmation about my feelings. So thank you

I guess I'll ask here since I don't feel comfortable asking anywhere else: I don't feel uncomfortable in my body per-se, but I envy pretty much everything about a guy. I'm not really girly (I don't like make-up and I don't MIND girly clothes, but I guess I'll wear them), but some of the music and just things I do are (like running outside and having plushes). It's not like I wake up each day and hate myself because I'm a girl. My brain keeps going back and forth like a tug of war between "I'm fine being a girl," and "I wish I was a guy. I envy guys and want to be one." It hurts me to be this confused. Everything is so complicated and I just want to figure out what will make me happier. What should I do?

Among all the videos of this topic yours is the best

Needed this video, thanks!

The best decision I made was to take my time. When I came out as Trans I spent an entire year researching. After 1 year I started T, another year later and I'm about to have a hysterectomy, next year I'll have top surgery..... Part of me wishes I could rush it and be done with it, but another part of me loves taking my time and being fully ready for each step.

I like your smile it's so kind (if that makes sense)

Hi, my middle name is Lucky! I heard you say your cat's name. I thought it was cool.

Aydian!! Once again you've made my day! Thank you so much! I could really benefit from this considering I have a bunch of friends who want to transition.

I know im too late but i really have the need to say, thank you, i really needed this video, today i had a bit of an argue with my mother about my gender identity, and i was really just confused, i dont feel male nor female, i feel both, and this video helped me to think more about myself and my feelings, so thank you, and have a very nice day.😊

Today i came out to my mother as a trans male and she was so accepting, i've been watching transition videos and i came across yours. I thought it was funny because my last name is Dowling as well and i've never met another Dowling who isn't in my family so to think i just found a trans one is pretty cool

I am an afab trans mask enby, my brain has never really fit my body, when I sleep in my dreams I either have a masculine body or an androgynous one. It’s been about five years since I came out to myself and about a few months since I came out to my parents, and next week I have an appointment to go on testosterone. I only just felt like the person in the mirror was myself for the first time half a year ago when I cut my hair off, i had only ever cried tears of pain and hatred of myself if I looked at myself for too long before that day, but when I saw myself from the neck down I was so happy that I cried tears of joy, because I finally saw the true me.

Taking my time on my ride hoo ho ho hoo

Thanks so much. I will be going to a pay Dr on Fri about my feelings of transgender issues.

Thanks, this was really useful!

I'm 39 years old an I've known most of my adult life that was trans ( mtm ) I've always dressed very masculine seen I was 5, it hard cuz I want change my name at work an some of my co- worker know, but I'm so sceard that my customers won't understand or won't like it, so been stopping me alil but if don't have my name tag on I get called sir an I love it! I feel like specially right now our Society is full of hate, an hard to want to go on with what I want in my life. An thing that is funny to me is I am a person who doesn't care what ppl think an know I'm sceard all of the sudden, I just want to finally be happy with myself!! To look in the mirror an feel whole. Thank for all your videos they really help, some days more then others it cool not to feel alone man! Specially in this day an age!

such a good video , thanks

That's kinda what I'm doing now. I chose a name and I'm having my gf and her family call me by that for now, and when I'm able I go out dressed masculinely, (I live in a veeeery conservative household and town), and it feels...right. It's taking some time to get used to calling myself by masculine pronouns but to hear other people use them is great.

I watched this video when I was 13 and questioning if I really was trans, now I'm 17 and 4 months on T. Though I waited such a long time I'm glad I took that time to think about how I wanted to transition and what would make me the happiest. Wish the best of luck to anyone who goes though the same

amazing video. thank you

I've been having trouble with my gender a lot lately. I like they/them and he/him pronouns but I hate she/her. The odd thing is that I still like a feminine clothing sometimes. I like to wear skirts or dress shirts some times and it's really bothering me. Currently I do identify as trans and demifluid, I'm not sure if it's right though.

I’m still absolutely fucking confused but I rly appreciate u trying dude

I was in self denial for so long. I know I’m trans and I’m out to people and my dad ended up leaving me because of it but it’s better off that way

This is the exact journey I've been on! I would add that, beyond just expression and pronouns, I've also explored body stuff. Trying a binder, using FaceApp to look like I have a beard, etc. I haven't tried a packer yet, but all of these things can help us have an idea of how we feel with our body parts. I'm pretty gender-fluid and non-binary. So, this has been a mess trying to sort out over the years, but I'm starting to enjoy the mess rather than be frustrated by it. I have a top surgery consult in February (yay!) and I'm going to explore whether mastectomy or just a reduction would be better for me. I'm not going to make the decision that day. I'm not going to schedule a surgery date. I just want to talk to a surgeon who can give me the facts. Taking it slow is the way to go! (At least for me, that is.)

Muy buen video excelente saludos de mexico!!!

Just cutting my hair masculine made me happy but i keep seeing these boulders on my shoulder and i keep just crying because theyre there

I love this video so much

At age seven, I thought I was one of the boys. Instead of being able to experience things, the feminine role of a woman was immediately pressured onto me. Up until fifteen, I had been brainwashed and manipulated and abused into believing that girls were only for birthing kids, cleaning, and cooking. Skirts and dresses were all I could wear, which wasn't what I wanted. At seventeen, I'm still in a toxic conservative Christian family, but they allowed me to cut my hair, and wear pants. After crying myself to sleep, wondering why I was this way, I finally figured out that this is just who I am. I'm not a girl, I was always a boy, even if the dresses and skirts I wear say otherwise. It isn't what you wear on the outside... Clothes, Body, Voice.. It's you on the inside. You are who you are, you can love you want to love. Stay safe everyone, and stay inside.

Can I do it online because on the games I play their like chatrooms and you can make you avatar male or female, plus I don't feel comfortable experimenting around my parents or siblings and I share a room with my little sister. So would that help me?

Thank you so much

I’ve only recently began questioning my identity. I’ve always felt my hair (even at it’s shoulder length now) is just a bother, and I’ve always wanted to experiment with a short haircut, but my parents don’t let me. I’ve disliked my voice for a long time, even if I don’t think about it 24/7 but whenever I do I feel it’s too high and childish, especially in videos (even though it is more average than high). I’ve always disliked my name, and I usually say it’s because it’s a common name, but I don’t know now if it may be something else. I always feel like people are looking at me, and I am always self conscious of myself and how others see me, though I’m not particularly unhappy with my body, I don’t have body dysmorphia or anything. I’ve also hated more female swin suits-especially 2-piece ones. But all of these things still seem like they could be simple insecurities. I’m still not sure, and I’ve only just started questioning myself. I don’t think I can get a gender therapist to try and help distinguish if this is low self esteem or dysphoria because I’m underage, and my parents don’t know I’m questioning. I’ve asked others and they recommend gender therapy, but I’m looking for more opinions to try and help myself figure this out. Thoughts? (Sorry for the long comment)

I really really want to change my self too😥 it's just came out this way. I am much comfortable of being like this. Than acting a person I am not

4:30 Ohhhhhh shit. I think my egg just cracked.

Sweet cat.

Thank you.

Aww u cat so cute

Ok here is the thing I'm over thinking so much right know

thank you.

Omg I just came from the coming out 2009 video and WOAH

This was a helpful video. Thank you! One thing slightly bothered me; when you said "no one can really tell you you're trans, only you can make that choice". It sounded (to me) like being trans would be a choice. That's not what you meant you meant I'm sure. Maybe I misunderstood cos English isn't my first language. :D

It helps thank you...

*Big time rush*

I really like using he/they pronouns and I'm my parents will probably NEVER accept my real self, but I'm worried something will happen if I take testosterone and if I get the surgeries and something happens that could change my life for a worse state but at the same time I'm insanely wanting to considered as passing as a sort of guy/androgynous being , but then ik that trans people like myself can be killed , Im only a teenager I do have lots of time of course but as soon as I can I'm gonna move out and this will be soon I'm it will ( but on the other note this felt very helpful god knows I need this kind of positivity around )