Im crying while watching this. Life is so unfair sometimes not taking away anyone else's problem. Its just a tough pill to swallow.

“Let your ex girlfriend or ex-boyfriend get married. Move on”. Well said. Don’t ever divorce or remarry, though. It is treachery and violence and makes things worse.

When you know that one day your ex will get married to someone and you mentally prepare yourself for it as well but it's still not enough to stop the sadness and shock... Thankyou, I felt really lonely... I needed to hear some comforting words

You probably won't read this, it's now december 2020. I found out through Facebook that my ex got married 4 days ago, and you're describing EVERYTHING I have been feeling: Body slammed, a visceral reaction (I actually felt like I wanted to puke), being back to square one, the dejá vu feeling with pictures, seeing him so happy and I so miserable, struggling with sleep, everything! And I know the day he has a baby it will be worse for me. Thanks for the video, I finally found someone out there who gets the situation

I don't want him back and I don't regret it ending, which is why I'm confused that I'm a little...hurt? I'm trying to work out what im feeling because it's keeping me awake tonight. I found out by accident. He met someone so soon after me and is now engaged after a year together, and I've been having horrible luck dating and I'm still single. The funny thing as well is that I got to the point where I was contentedly single!! I guess I still want to find someone in the long term, it's just that right now I want to be single. Maybe I'm hurt that he moved on so soon

Each and every point you spoke, each and every word resonated with my situation. I happened to accidentally stumble upon the engagement video of my ex. My body and mind just went into shock mode and there was this deep, deep sadness and unexplainable tears rolling down my cheeks. Lack of sleep, unable to concentrate on work, for more than three days. But thank you very much for your sincere video, it is so heartfelt. Sending love to you too! Your words are coming from your heart.

Just dont date at all. No expections = no dissapointment/heartache.

The closer their wedding date draws near, the worse my dreams get at night. Those dreams destroy my whole day. I keep trying to act like I don't care and my brain keeps reminding me that I definitely do. Thank you for the words of encouragement.

This told me what I need to hear. I was the one who broke off the engagement, and here I sit. I’ve been moving on with my life in a tangible meaningful way, and then I see their photos with my dogs. I hate social media. Absolute body slam. Absolute hardest shit ever.

Thank you!!!! Let them have a taste of that relationship/marriage to realize what they've lost forever.

"... The sun is still gonna come up the following day, your life is gonna continue and you're gonna be just fine." Well said. 😢

She just got married today with the guy she cheated me from, I still love her but I need to face the reality. It's been a year since we broke up but I feel like being stab in the heart everyday.

My ex and I were together for many years. It felt like there was no way he'd ever want to leave me and was in love with me (we were never married.) He'd often tell me he was crazy about me and how he never felt this way before, how he'd loved, but it never felt like this. He'd tell me that I was the most beautiful woman he'd ever seen, and I'd be the one leaving him when I realized I was too good for him. We also had a spark, and we hit it off. We lived harmoniously together. (It was love-bombing, and I thought the next woman would fade on him too, but... they got married.) In our relationship, he started making little jabs at me, and it got worse the longer we were together. He began finding things he didn't like, telling me I needed to dress more stylishly and that I needed to lose weight (he liked 'very skinny,' which I am not, but wasn't when he started dating me either and I wasn't overweight or at an unhealthy weight.) He told me that he wanted us to move to a larger city. When we broke up, he barely gave me an explanation. He said we wanted different things and shifted it on me, putting words into my mouth that "You don't love me anymore" and "You're not attracted to me," and I was gaslit. I tried to get him to talk with me, but as soon as it happened, he was gone and never going to talk to me about it. It was more about him and what he wanted, not about us growing together. It was like he outgrew me. I was devastated, heartbroken, and confused. What just happened? What did I do wrong? How could I make things better? Does one disagreement about moving change how a person feels about you? I found out he left for another woman he met at work. He once brought up in an open discussion that he was really into her style and liked her body type. She is also 13-15 years younger than him. It made me feel ugly. She is petite and lived in a bigger city, where he moved to not even a month after our breakup. With her, he always seemed to show her off on Facebook. He hearted photos of hers, even dated back to before they were together. He never hearted my photos, he'd like them, but not heart them. He had multiple profile pictures with them but never had a profile picture of us when we were together, never posted our trips or anything about us, but with her, he shares it. It always felt unfair, like "What even was I to you?" It might just be Facebook, and when we were together, I didn't worry that he didn't heart my photos or post profile pictures of us. He can do what he would like with his social media, I'm not a controller, but it hurt when it was so different on his social media with her than it was for me. He wanted to make it very obvious that he was with her and happy, and I wasn't a part of his life that was worth sharing the same way. It made me feel deprecated. They have been together for longer than we have now. They moved out of the big city and closer to where we lived, and they just got married. I hadn't thought about him in a while, but I heard from a mutual friend that they saw he moved and is now married. My curiosity got the best of me, and I crept them both on Facebook, which was a bad idea. It brought immediate sadness and dreadful emotions. Even though I am in a relationship with an amazing guy and already knew long ago that if my ex had come back, I would not go down that road again, it still brought up some painful feelings, and feelings of wonder if the grass is greener or if they both got happiness even though it feels unfair with what happened and how. I've still always felt hurt by many of the things he said to me and how he left me the way he did and with a feeling of unworthiness and poking at me to compare myself because of his constant body shaming towards me. It took me a long time to move on, and I believe healing is a continuous road. You might be over a person but not healed from the wounds they caused. I feel guilty that seeing that they got married brought me sadness and bitter feelings. I know that I'm in a better place, and I have a partner who loves me for me. My partner is understanding, kind and never tries to make me someone I'm not. My partner is aware of my insecurities and loves my body. He makes me feel seen and loved. He's not artificial or looking for me to meet expectations. He's easy-going, and we grow together and lift each other up. He loves me for me for who I am. I'm done wearing rose-colored glasses. If I found a healthy partner, I hope he stays, and we can work through things and talk, just 'be,' and love each other for our authentic selves.

Thank you so much for being the voice to so many people going through a situation like this 🙏🏻🙏🏻😔 so much comfort in this video 🤍

I’ve been in a relationship with my ex since 15 he was literally the only guy i ever knew/dated we broke up and got back together so many times i’m 26 now and our last brake up was april 2020 and now its October 2020 and he got engaged already!!! And its like you said I thought i was over him but this news was too much to handle thank you for the video i needed this🥺

The bit that hacked me off is I've spent a lifetime thinking love was a lie and a weakness. They made me believe then proved I was right all along.

Your video nailed SO many points that I'm going thru in regards to my ex remarrying in the next 2 weeks. I've struggled to put my feelings into words and repeatedly I stopped the video and wrote them down. Wow. Thank you. You nailed it.

The way I see it, the right girl or the right guy wouldn't make you feel the way that you do. You are better off.

Thanks for making this video Lisa! Every word you said is what is happening to me. I've been divorced for three years now after a 10 years relationship. It was really tough to go through it. Has been a year and a half since I last saw her. I was doing good, doing my stuff, working a lot, excited to what has to come in the future. Not taking and anti depression meds for a long time. I thought I was healed and I knew that she was going to get married with the guy she had lined up after the separation. I thought that this information would make me sad but it was really painful as when we broke up. I found out a few days ago. Like you said, I thought that after three years I got back to square one again. Now, the little hope that I had that, one day we were going to reconciate is gone. This is the real end now. Is indeed really unfair that while she moved on and to be able to love again while I get stuck in time. Time won't stop, I'm going to try to rise again but I hope it won't take years.

Im so happy that i came here to watch this. I'm in pain now because of the news but you just said what i felt from inside. Thank you❤

Thank you for this. I was trying to figure out what I was feeling and this has helped a lot.

I needed this. Thank you. Our story finally comes to a final closure

My ex isn't just getting married; she also just told me that she's never been happier or more fulfilled. I feel like I'm falling to pieces.

Watching this video gives me comfort but knowing my ex Marilyn Jonhson is engaged, I felt my life is over. You know what it's like getting up every morning feeling hopeless, feeling like the love of your life is waking up with the wrong man? But, at the same time, hoping that she still finds happiness, even if it's never going to be with me? Love makes you crazy you keep seeing all those special tender moments, all the sweetness, intimacy that we shared, you just can't forget no matter how hard you try, they won't just go away and it makes you crazy and now she's marrying this guy to our special place and seeing those FB pictures how happy she was with the new guy. I knew I ruined my life and I was never gonna get her back, so I don't wanna live anymore, I didn't wanna live in a world without her. It hurts.

Great video, mine was a relationship situation not an ex-spouse. I knew he was dating someone but didn't realize she was someone recently divorced with two kids (when he was always firm on being childfree). They just got engaged after 7 months. Thank you so much for the video. Rewatched the last part a few times.

This was excellent. Today it was a body slam. Tomorrow...a time to heal. I don't dare think of the wedding day....not yet.

Beautifully put. What a graceful lady!

it's suffocating... I'll never get over this...i begged him to end this engagement but he said he loves her and this makes me wanna hurt myself

He left me because I wanted serious relationship but he doesn’t leave me alone and after 10 month he got married cripy

Found out not one but two of my exes recently got married. I don't have feelings for either one but I feel a sort of way.. it's good to know that this is a normal feeling.

It’s a strange thing when you can just feel it, makes you think there was a connection so strong. Went through a similar situation, couldn’t be together because of cultural & religious differences. We knew it wouldn’t work out but still gave it a shot because we kept talking n ending up in the same place. Eventually we agreed to stop talking n broke up on a fairly okay note, I never made it known how much he hurt me how much pain he put me through and that’s the only thing I regret. He thinks everything was okay but has no idea of the hell I went through yet I still wished & prayed only for his happiness. Recently just found he is now married and don’t know how to process everything even though I have completely moved on. It triggered some sort of emotion I didn’t know I had left in me, couldn’t even cry anymore just felt numb. It hurts to think you shaped someone n made them a better person for someone else.

I just found out that my ex boyfriend paid lobola for someone else, honestly this kind of news it’s disturbing, I thought I have moved on but i feel like I’m back to square one of healing. The saddest part is that although we were not together, we were still seeing each other and that gives me some little hope that Maybe things will work out for us one day.

THANK YOU. Tough stuff.

seriously tho!!!!! crazy how much PAIN you feel!!!! my highschool sweetheart left me after 12 years and a duaghter later for another tattoo artist like myself... found out that not only did she move in with him but also got engaged and no one had the heart to tell me... lets just say the pain is unreal!!!!!! i know if we finally tried being together now that we're older and wiser, we can be a happy family!! i love her so much! shes the ONLY woman i have ever loved or been with seriously. i dont want to give my daughter a broken home and all the statistics on child abuse and what not, go way way up!!!!... just fucking sucks..... im completely crushed and lost... i try and try to get over her but we have a daughter so we have to talk, and she tells me she loves and misses me but i dont know how to take that.... it gives me hope but i know its probably just fuals hope.... i dont know, just SUCKS!!!!.... blah! total loser shit... smh

I’m so angry, bitter, and there’s no outlet for my pettiness.

Lisa thanks for how you explained it it was perfect!!!!

It feels like burning inside, but the worse part im not dying.. We broke up 4 years ago..then why this hurt?

Thank you mam!!! Your video really helped me a lot!!! I am currently going through this and you helped me to get better a little!!❤

As a single father I feel for all of those who have been through it. I’m fine myself and I moved on years before I filed and had only stayed for my kids because I didn’t want to disrupt my children and their childhood. But sometimes you can only deal with so much before you realize that toxic person would be better off with someone more compatible. . Seeing that person get married should help many of you with closure. They have moved on and it seals the door for you so you should also do the same. You should never be hung up on an ex. They are an ex for a reason. Instead look at what you learned about them and yourself. What you take from that experience can help you succeed with the next relationship and also help you set ground rules. People are not perfect and you decide what you can and can not handle. I wish you all the best and remember when one door closes another always opens. Find someone who truly makes you happy to come home. There are a lot of good people out there looking for someone just like you.

You know exactly how I felt for years. This pain comes in waves. Some days I don't even think of what happend, and then some days I felt lost and hurt, felt like she was the only one. No smile would replace it, No laugh would Replace it, No voice would be hers. I were fine for many many months, Then the other day, I had scary nightmares about her husband got hurt, not by me. Somehow I feel like I have a hate to this dude. I always try to be cool about it, and be nice and for years I try not talk to her. What I hate is seeing her acting very sweet the exact same way she did to me. I always think about life. Like some days I feel like everything sucks, and I were just send to this world filled with bad luck and wrong decisions. But at least I became a better person. But something inside me always longing for this laugh and warm feeling that she gave me. I even dated a girl, and The reason I dated her, were because she were similar to my ex. Feelings is like drugs. Its can tear us and everything apart. I am focusing on finding my own happiness again. Time passed so fast. I were in chok seeing how fast they got married. Just within 1 year only talking though the internet. It felt like, that were her way to escape from me. I were a bad boyfriend. I didn't appreciate her enough, I were somethimes too childish and my ego took over. Music always helped me to stay calm. How comes it alot of people find another person to move on? I always had so many question after we got apart. Why this guy I thought, because I even met this guy before she ever did. I had a bad first impression of him. All I want is her to be happy. But I also want me to be happy. Just even after so many years. It's always hard to let go. This connection that can be between 2 persons can feel so intense. Time always flew when we were together. It was like I wanted to stop time but without any luck. I will try just not to focus on her and hope I will feel better tomorrow 😅maybe sleep is all I need. THANKS FOR A GREAT VIDEO 🌸

Thank you 🤍 for sharing this

I saw my ex getting married i am happy for her. I have my life goals and that is my mission! And i have a lovely girlfriend.

Best advice I've heard..

Thank you for making this video.

My ex is getting remarried. It's my fault. I want out and cheated on her. Now I am feeling the pain for real.

Great message

my ex and I knew from the start the we weren't gonna end up together given the Racial and cultural difference between us. I knew, that he will be with someone else. But we knew we love each other and went on with our RS that lasted 3 yrs. We broke up 5mos ago because he's getting engage but we still have a connection, we still talk and text each other, up until this past 2 months when he totally blocked me from everything after a simple argument. Needless to say, we didnt end well as I expected. I let it go, crying and hurt but I let him go. Now here comes the weird part. Days gone by and i thought that i was doing okay and he barely crossed my mind when that particular days (thu-sun) when I felt this huge amount of anxiety and longing for him. I miss him soo much and kept thinking about him on those days, that I myself cant explain why I suddenly felt like that. Then last night I finally decided to checked his sisters profile and there it was, on their mother's profile was the picture of his engagement Last Saturday. And honestly, my emotions was so confused that I felt numb, I knew it was coming but seeing it was still surreal for me. Was that the reason why I suddenly missed him at the same time he was getting engage?

Two days after our divorce was final, I stumbled upon me ex-wife getting married here on youtube. She has been Hoovering me, love bombing me and this was quite a shock. Even telling me, that him (Her Rebound) and her were more like just live-in companions. She was hinting that things were not at all great between them. Divorce was final on 12/2/2021 and the wedding video was 12/4/2021. Almost as if she couldn't wait. But the false love bombing and stringing me along with Breadcrumbs, this came as a shock. But strength prevails and life goes on.

I wished that your video didn t finish, thank you for every word, it s a horrible situation, it s been more than one year from our breakup, he met a girl after 1 month of our breakup and he got engaged to her, now he s getting married and I didn t move on

I will never be happy for my ex. She took advantage of my low self esteem and used me as a doormat. She doesn't deserve happiness.

I found out my ex is engaged and I really wasn’t expecting to be affected by this. I told myself that if he ever moved on I would be okay with it but I’m not. I can’t stop thinking about all the times we shared. He reached out to me last year and I didn’t respond because I was scared of getting hurt again. Now I’m kicking myself thinking that we could have been together right now. How I wish I had never discovered this news…

Man I feel your pain bro I'm going true the samething but I'm getting on with my life

Thank you

I’m in that shock now. Realizing the door is closed and there is no possibility of reconciliation in the future like I always hoped for in the future. He waited years before getting engaged which makes it easier to process, but it sucks when I am not yet secure in a relationship leading to marriage anytime soon. So he is happy and loved like he wanted to be and I am still sad and searching . It sucks!!!!

I’m also experiencing it right now in fact I really feel like I’m back to square one omg

Thank you for your kind words

Thank you so much.

I’ve got a load of problems with this alone, we left off on a bad note, and not only was I jealous when I find out she was getting married, but her moving back into my town with her fiancée, she used to live an hour away, but she and her fiancée decided this was one of the best towns to live in. Why did it have to be my town she and her fiancée moved to?

Jézus, how sad that woman were. I feel her pain .this is a 4 years old video, I hope she is much much better now.

Thank you 😢

my luck was that I had already been married & divorced. So by the time the guy I liked got married to someone else, I already knew that being married doesn't mean what magazines and movies make it out to be. It needs way more than a pretty woman or a handsome man to hold a couple together through the storms of life.

My ex started dating a guy the same week we broke up. 4 months later is engaged and now they are going to marry in 3 more months. Absolutely gut wrenching. Im getting absolutely pummeled. Ive been trying to get over this and i keep getting beat down

You took the feelings right out of my mind and heart. We move forward strong. Thank you for uploading this video.

I got to your video bc i was searching the same thing. 😢

I like the way you speak

Thank you so much

this resonated with my story as i was exact same age when i dated him and now he is getting married this year we broke up in 2018.. it hurtss like he is still happy after doing all bad things and i am still sad after suffering that much

Unbelievably this has happened to me twice already. Once with an ex-boyfriend and once with an ex-spouse. I know I’m the problem but don’t know how to fix it. I found out a year and half later… even though he wished me a Happy Birthday months ago. I had no clue and he never said anything during our interactions of finalizing divorce details.

Thank you 💕

He got married months after our break up.

Yes replaced. Rejected.

it doesnt seem fair. he was not good to me even though i was there during the bad times. now he is getting everything he wants, and i can't find someone to date. i don't understand why he is getting rewarded and i'm still stuck.

Unless you have children with an ex, you should not be within ear shot of this news. Stop stalking an ex on social media. Cutt off people you know who will have the audacity to tell you about it.

I was hoping that I can have a chance again after a long time and a found out today, I’m happy for them and wish them the absolute best, but it changed me deep down and idk if I’ll ever be the same

I knew it would happen one day, just not a year after we broke up... he readded me on fb a few months ago, it's like he WANTED me to see all these "happy" moments with his new gf, well today after seeing this news I unfriended him again. putting my mental health first is most important.

This is a very kind and loving video. I found out today that my ex boyfriend who I was with for 4 years is getting married. I wish them the best, but it’s true that you never know what’s going on in the relationship. It’s not my business to know, but it’s hard just to “move on” it’s impossible to do in a short period of time. It took me three years of healing and work, and now I’m with someone I deeply love, who I don’t have to second guess their love for me. I have my happy ending, you just need to give it time. At the time it’s so painful, but for me: the door is closed and I’m with someone who is a much better fit. If the ex was really “the one” they would be with you now. Do the work, be kind to yourself and it will heal in it’s own time. You come first. The relationship they portray, may not be as perfect as you think. My ex partner wanted to marry me, and was obsessed with settling down, so I don’t feel like I’ve missed out. If anything, I’ve escaped a life with someone who would have made me miserable. Fate gave me the man of my dreams, so I’m thankful for the relationship and how it changed me, and my work and healing paid off. I hope anyone watching this video gets some kind of peace from it

There is a way to stop this. Start treating your husband right and make him a priority rather than using him or making him less of a person because you want to be with a Chad or Tyrone or listen to your girl circle which gives stupid advices rather than good advices.

my ex left me after four and a half years; she said it was because she wanted to go to school out of state, and wasn't ready to settle down. a year later, she's still in the state, not in school, and is getting married to a guy after just a few months.

Im experiencing it right now 🥺😭

One day during afternoon tym I was working on my report and was just surfing through the WhatsApp status and suddenly saw a post that she got married in the morning, i felt a huge lighting strike on my heart. I thought I can take it but it's not at all like that ... Hope she's happy ... She shd be ..

My ex is getting married and she checks in on me from time to time

My ex used to fart out loud. That was the beginning of the downfall of us. I couldn't believe he let himself do it next to me and then add "oops". Since I yelled at him that night he made some diet changes that solved that problem, and now he's getting married. I fixed him.for her in more than that one way. Now he's getting married on my birthday

My ex got in a relationship with someone overseas 2 months after we broke up in 2016 and engaged few months later, got married in July 2019. I am hurting because he told me they weren’t together and we went on dates, then I found out he proposed to her on social media. I did not get closure, I was wondering if I should meet up and get it off my chest so I can move on as well.

If you have an ex and hes getting married or married get lost or get dusty! He us NO LONGER YOUR BUSSINESS! Your time with then is a wrap- DEAD & BURRIED!

Had some friends tell me the other day that my ex is not only pregnant, but got pregnant less than a year after we broke up. She had only been with her new BF for 6-7 months when she got pregnant and is due in September. Its hard because we were together for five years, lived together and were actively house shopping when we split up. For all practical purposes we were married besides the legal aspects. This news hit me like a ton of bricks.

Despite not meaning it, I wished my ex congrats...got a passive aggressive response and she blocked my number...

Repeat after me girls and guys: Hair toss, check my nails, baby how're you feeling? - Good as hell. 😝

Yes..this how everything i feel..he is getting engaged..yes it over finally..i haven't spoken with him in 2 years..but still it hurt like hell..i just wondering why can't he treat me like that

Destroyed. I've never been like this. 5 months..... and she gets married.

telling my very story here

After exactly 35 days of our breakup, my ex started dating and marrying someone else. During the 1st mnth i tried convince him but after 5 days I got to know that he decided his marriage

As a woman who has had 1) a Finance who married her best friend. The best friend who late would steal her identity bTw and go to prison 2) a husband who conceived a child during the marriage 3) a man I loved the most and wanted to marry give another woman that exact thing for no definite reason 4) a man ask me to move 8 hours out of state just to abuse & mistreat me 5) a man I stood by through a lengthy prison sentence who left me pregnant You’ll be okay. I’m still standing….leaning…but I’m standing ❤️ And all of these scenarios were different relationships.

Thank some mach lisa for making this vedio ,am of them how dealing such news and Yesterday I hear my ex wife getting married so I send here congratulations then I delete here number, picture I except the lesson and move one because I always stay positive and appreciate the past and press on ,

I almost passed out when I heard my ex got married

We did not breakup.. He d treat me worse sometimes but I tolerated everything bcoz I lovedhim so much that I could not bear the thought of losing him. But he married someone else and now all of a sudden he changes into very good man and I don't understand y.. Is it bcoz he lately understood me.. And I know now noting matters. 😒😞😪

I never laid a hand on my ex, it's just distance between us but I begged on her to move in with me, kept on visiting her every year but in Feb she broke up with me and in December 21st she's wedding someone else I'm hurt, broken down and extremely depressed I can't help myself at all.

Should i congratulate if it ended on a bad note????

I mean my ex of 6 years cheated several times (found out about all of them when i caught her 1 time) and i forgave her and tried to move past it and we were together another few months then she did it again so i left her but now shes gotten married a couple weekd ago and what bugs me is like WTF why couldnt you get your shit together when we were together? But im happily married and have kids now and i feel guilty for wondering this about my ex. Any answers? Lol anyone have somthing similar happen?

Thank u it helps

Tomorrow my ex is getting married ...i don't know how to control my pain my tears...i m numb....should i see his wife's photo ???