Sociopath: A Memoir by Patric Gagne 📚😨 Review & Reflections
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Күн бұрынLet's talk about a sociopath - whatever that is! I read Sociopath by Patric Gagne, or rather I listened to it on audiobook, and I have lots of thoughts. If you have read it, I'm so curious to hear what you think of it! Let's discuss! 😀
In this video I give a brief synopsis and my general thoughts about the book, the writing style, and so on, and then I discuss a few criticisms that I have seen or heard about this book and about this author. It is not a comrehensive deep dive into all of its aspects, because there are so many! But these are my main impressions and reflections having read it.
As it says in the video, I have a few DISCLAIMERS:
🔹 I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist, I have no degree in psychology whatsoever.
🔹 Wanting to understand more about sociopathy
does not mean condoning bad actions or bad behavior,
especially not if and when they are harmful to anyone.
On the contrary, it is the only way to find potential solutions.
🔹 I have tried my best to express my thoughts,
reflections, and opinions as respectfully as possible,
and, if you choose to leave a comment,
I hope that you will do the same.
Thanks!
I hope you're having a fantastic day, and if not that it gets better. I'm very happy to have you here.
💜
📚 In this video:
00:00 Intro
00:09 Disclaimers
00:36 General thoughts & Brief synopsis
03:51 The Factuality
07:02 The Bragging
09:53 The Ph.D.
13:10 The Lying
17:10 Conclusions, Questions, & Bloopers
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@books_and_bocadillos Ай бұрын
I really liked this memoir. I found her voice to be authentic and vulnerable. I found myself holding empathy for her and I rooted for her to find acceptance and love. ✨
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
Yes, me too. I'm never one to trust anyone completely, I always leave some room for critical thinking, and in this case I found myself questioning myself questioning her, because of her diagnosis. And then when I read other reviews, I found myself questioning her and myself even more, but also sort of defending her in my mind. I think it's interesting to say that she is lying because she is a sociopath, because why would she lie unless she is... I could talk about this for hours haha! Really enjoyed it though!
@BonnieNicoleWrites Ай бұрын
This book sounds like such an interesting read! I find the dialogue surrounding the book and her story quite interesting. I really appreciate how you talked about empathy, understanding her, lying, and all of the nuanced pieces of the conversation.
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
Yea I highly recommend! It’s a really good time and then you can turn things over in your head for a really long time haha 😂 Thank you so much, I appreciate that! There are so many aspects to it so it was hard to do all of it justice (and I left out a lot) but I tried, so thank you for saying that 😊
@TheLinguistsLibrary Ай бұрын
I always listen to memoirs too, as oppose to reading them... something about listening to the author's voice. The last one I listen to was Dave Grohl and it was AMAZING, I so recommend!
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
Absolutely, it makes a big difference. I’ve heard that one’s supposed to be good, I’ll seen if it’s available on my app. Thanks 😊
@awebofstories Ай бұрын
Thank you for this review! I've been on the hold list for this book for MONTHS! I can't wait to read it.
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
You're welcome! 😁 Glad you liked it! I hope you can get your hands (or ears!) on it soon, I thought it was very enjoyable!
@itsmimiduong Ай бұрын
If you haven't listened to "I'm Glad My Mom Died", I recommend it as well! It's a memoir about a famous child star actress & the psychological and familial abuse she went through in the industry. It is very similar to Sociopath in terms of pacing, storytelling, and feelings. I really enjoyed it and would also recommend listening to it as an audiobook! You already know my opinion about sociopath. I really enjoyed it! I didn't recognize it at the time, but yeah! I also agree it felt like the Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo.I love how you broke down the book. I really enjoyed listening it in your perspective! I can't believe they're trying to find proof of the author's credentials 😭Regardless, it's a memoir (IMO), so I don't find it 100% necessary?
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
Yes I know the one, I have it saved on audiobook as well, so I will get to that eventually! It seems awful and relly good. Haha right? There was something about it that felt so similar. Thank you for that, I feel like I could have talked about it for hours haha! Yes, it's so weird. It is a memoir, but she is also challenging the science and the diagnostics of it, so I get that people are critical. And that's a good thing, we shouldn't just take one person's word for anything, and perhaps especially not from someone who is admittedly a liar. But it's the assumptions that people make that everything she says is therefore a lie. People just say "it felt off to me" and then go down a rabbit hole of trying to find "proof" of what they already think, when they really don't have the facts themselves. Which is not usually a great way to go about things 😅 I'm not sure what to believe about any of it, but I just keep an open mind, because I'm not the right person to decide what's what.
@Curious-Cat Ай бұрын
This book sounds so interesting! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I also really appreciate your point about how not everything that we learn is straight up facts, but can just be something that helps us shift our perspective. I think that is the whole essence of literature -- it's not fact (duh, it's fiction), and yet, we can still learn so much from it!
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
It is! Thank you 😊 Yes, asa grayscale person it's hard for me to see things in black and white anyway haha but some people seem to have the opposite struggle, and I think that's usually more harmful. I felt the same way after university, I did learn a lot but my biggest takaway was that there is SO much I don't know. And that's also a valuable lesson ^^
@KimReadsandReviews Ай бұрын
I really enjoyed your review on it! I'm still sorting through my thoughts on it, but overall I enjoyed listening to her describing her experiences and journey. Particularly the first half of the book when she was describing growing up.
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
Thank you! Yes, there are a lot of thoughts to be had! 😂 I'm still thinking of new things I could have talked about in the video, but if I waited until I had sorted my thoughts completely there probably would never be a video at all ^^ I mean I read it in april! I liked the first part too, and the parts where she talks about the why and how of it all and how much information is missing. Which is part of what I'm still thinking about, so many things that feel unclear. But very enjoyable to read and thought-provoking for sure! 😊
@elmossy Ай бұрын
This sounds like something I'd love to read! I'm not sure what the non fiction term would be, but this emmoir sound like an interesting character study. I'll have to add it to my read list! ❤
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
Yes, there are so many angles, I feel like I could discuss it for days 😅 It's a little bit like reality tv, where it seems superficial and outrageous, but then you get to "know" them a bit and they're people and there are relatable situations and you find yourself taking sides and then you add the diagnostics on top of that! Like guilty pleasure mixed with really interesting psychological elements... Highly recommend! 💜💜
@MyMessyBookshelf Ай бұрын
This sounds intriguing!
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
Yes! Highly recommend it 😊
@Bryndisdaugtherofgunnar Ай бұрын
This sounds like such an interesting read!
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
It is! Highly recommend, so many aspects of this is rolling around in my brain. I thought this video was long, but it doesn't give it justice in terms of how many thoughts I have about it. Also really recommend the audiobook, great experience.
@BookChatWithPat8668 Ай бұрын
This sounds fascinating. I am intrigued. I heard her interviewed, I think when the book first came out, on NPR, and I had a lot of questions. Does she talk at all in the memoir on her thoughts or feelings about the root or cause of her sociopathy? Does she talk about her earliest relationships with her caregivers? Just curious....
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
It is fascinating! And very thought-provoking. I've seen more reviews since I filmed this, and there are so many aspects to discuss, or turn over and over in your head if you're so inclined :D Some seem to believe everything she says and almost pity her. Someone said she's just autistic, and others contradict themselves a bit, simultaneously criticising her for embellishing in a memoir, and also saying things like "she must have an amazing memory to remember all of these sitcom level conversations"... as if the embellishments were suddenly reality. So no matter the facts, it is quite polarizing and fascinating. She does talk about her relationship with her parents growing up, and in adult life, and as fas as I can remember she doesn't put that as the reason for the way she is, but they also didn't exactly help. She also has a younger sister who is "normal". So it's not what you might see in a typical true crime documentary where a child was abused and grew up to be an abuser. Which is also an intesting topic, but that's perhaps for another time. I would highly recommend reading it, or listening to it. It is entertaining but also has a lot of depth, especially on a more general level, regardless of what one might think of her as a person. If I were still in school, I could pick out plenty of topics for essays from this book! ^^
@BookChatWithPat8668 Ай бұрын
@@ellenmadebookclub Thanks for this thoughtful response. I'm very interested....I am going to resist right now, for June, because I'm already taking on so much to read, but I have added this to my books to read sometime soon....Thank you!
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
@@BookChatWithPat8668 Of course, you'll get to it when you get to it! 😊
@TheBookHerm Ай бұрын
I'm reading this soon. People behave in a very fearful with people that have certain mental operating systems. I hope books like this help us become less afraid and therefore less prejudicial. Also, why would someone lie about having something that is so negatively treated. I think people who instantly feel the desire to discredit probably need to take some self reflection time.
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
Yes you’re right, there is a lot of prejudice involved. And I think that’s inevitable when there isn’t enough information provided, it’s just how our brains work. When we only have partial info our brains fill in the rest. And the results aren’t always great. I think in this case there is cause for some of it, but I would hope that this book could be the start of something positive, whether it be understanding or treatment. I would love to hear your thoughts once you’ve read it! 😊
@TheBookHerm Ай бұрын
@@ellenmadebookclub I may include it in a video but will definitely let you know my thoughts when I get to it! It’s looking like I will get to it as part of Summerween.
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
@@TheBookHerm I’ve subscribed so hopefully I’ll see it, but you’re very welcome to let me know here! What on earth is summerween?! 😂 The first year around booktube is a whole new vocabulary
@TheBookHerm Ай бұрын
@@ellenmadebookclub ahh thanks! Oh I know what you mean! I’ve only been on booktube since February and it feels like a whole new world! 😂 Summerween is a week long Readathon run by Gabby from Gabby Reads. I’ll also be doing Mermaid Marathon (run by Maci at The Brightside Girl) and Mid-year Scramble (by Margaret over at The Word N3rd)
@ellenmadebookclub Ай бұрын
@@TheBookHerm Yes me too! 😂 Thank you, I’ll be looking into those! 😊
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