even though you only have 3K views, your content is the charming elite tutorial type of KZfaq videos. similar to the ones that have +10M views and even better. all you need is for the algorithm to pick you up and you'll boom at any moment now. just keep up the good work Bruce.

I am so glad to finally find out this information. I am 54, from California. I was under some impression that being unique and being super -creative was a trait that would make me interesting and likable. Well, well, after years of scaring people, making many people very uncomfortable, and noticing others were backing off, I finally have the answer! People like creativity ? NO! People want predictability! Yes! They want to be able to feel that they can know what is expected, to know what the rules are, to be able to know how they are supposed to respond. It is part of social safety. I now try to stay within social norms when communicating with people I don’t know that well. I was trying to stand out, and I achieved that, but not in the way I hoped. Being a mystery, sounding complicated, just makes people want to back-up. It’s confusing to others. If I want others to feel comfortable and safe- staying within those common phrases, gives people the good feelings like, “ I know this! “ And the joy of feeling successful, “ This makes sense and I know exactly how to respond.” Thanks for the help! ( Normal phrasing) In the past, I would have said something like, “ Your gift of sharing communication rules creates a re-birth of verbal dancing inside my soul, and leaps fourth from my spirit like a Miracle child.” One is safe.The other is interesting if you like to read abstract poetry, but other wise , seems so off the beaten path, that it sets off alarms. Bad alarms.

I like that your channel doesn't focus on how someone got here, but instead on the "what now" aspect. I was diagnosed asd1 at 38. There are numerous channels that help me come to grips with that idea but this one teaches me how to mimic and mesh better with neurotypical people. This video is so true, its all the little phrases that matter in communicating something. Each industry, each hobby, club and group have their own sets of phrases which determine an insider from an outsider pretty quickly. Small phrases can contain volumes of understood information to like-minded people. I started college full time at 14 and had an instructor accuse me of reciting back content from the textbook in my questions and conversation and I just looked at him dumbfounded and said, "... how do you think people learn if not by memorization and repetition?? I'm using the book's words because I don't have my own yet." When I'm learning a new field of study, I like to learn all about the tools and equipment used in that field. How they function, how they operate, how they interface with what that field does. Then I get into the language and start learning to discuss the relevant topics; often relying heavily on many other things I've learned to piece together the overall picture as I'm moving along. But you can learn new material and fields of study very rapidly by learning the phrases, and then soaking in the depth of those phrases over time as your overall framework becomes more fleshed out. Great video, thanks!

It's refreshing to find a channel based on logic when I wasn't expecting it.

The high class speakers I’ve heard deploy idioms to connect their points. One of the best was an English professor who would link his thoughts smoothly with one’s including, “as you can imagine”. I steal this one regularly. They really serve to connect and direct thoughts.

Great video!! Pimsleur does quite a bit of this -- which is why I love Pimsleur. They throw in a ton of little idiomatic phrases and connecting phrases and words. You are right on the money. I wish more people said this. Yes, vocab is the big thing -- the way I think of it is an idiomatic phrase is kind of like a word. Yes, I'm pretty big on learning these short idiomatic phrases. Again, thanks for making this video!

I can't believe I've found you before you blow up. Seriously. You manage to deliver TOUGH things to hear and acknowledge so well. The fact your content has seriously brought about a paradigm shift for me and has led to serious steps in my career is just... so effing impactful. You're doing great work. You were clearly called to do this energetically. As woo-woo as it sounds - it's a fact. I have never commented on a KZfaq video in my life until now (thank God I have the most basic name ever) but I was compelled by your work, Bruce. Considering reaching out soon if you take personal coaching sessions. You have a loyal and very grateful listener in me - your advice has changed my life.

Totally agree. We are much more like computers than we realise or care to admit.

Exactly the channel I need right now! Thank you so much😘😘 I've turned on notification, I'm hoping to get me resourceful content from you

True, we're not all that unique in the regular things we say. It was interesting to watch the progression of one AI program I was using; going from a bit awkward to responding more like myself over time.

I do some ML with health data and agree with your premise. The potential for mis-use is scary. I find your premise of memorizing phrases is useful in learning new language. I have been trying to learn Spanish for more than a year and am still be beginner. Last weekend I was in Mexico with a new girl friend and we depended on Google Translate. I plan to use the phrases from Google to memorize the things I need to be able to say and understand. (you just got to this point! while I was writing this!) It is a better way to learn than the traditional methods. Thank you!

Amazing content... it is simple, pretty well conducted and didactically presented. I'm glad that I came across your channel. Thanks for sharing so pleasantly these truly interesting topics. A hug from Brazil!

Your channel is so under rated

06/28/2022 - am here watching and got an idea to create my own phrasal lexicon later! thanks to this Prof. ✨

Can you make a video on facial expressions during conversations?

This channel is a gem....thank you Sir😎

I have to agree, growing up speaking two languages fluently, understanding a third and busy learning a fourth. The cultural context of idioms is also super important. There are the strange little nuances, that Ai is going to battle with, because they're not logical and can have a dose of humor or sarcasm. The future is going to be interesting.

The same approach exactly applies to foreign language learning and gaining fluency or proficiency in that or those languages

Sorta like Pareto Principle? Great channel sir. I gotta get rid of my ums...

super interesting.. thanks for sharing

As an extreme introvert getting out of a long relationship and finding myself "on the market" as it were at an advancing age, these videos help to give me confidence that I can get back out there again and navigate the modern social miasma. Thank you.

Thank you 🙏

Most excellent.

There is a nice proof to that claim. Try to say random words and count how many you can manage to output. Then try to tell a story as quickly as possible. The brain is not calculating words, it is instantiating phrases.

Where have you been all my life! 😂 your videos are so very helpful thank you

Responding to @Raminakai's thoughtful, fun comment and also generally: The road to a state of desired intimacy or friendship, seems to involve the gradual revealing of what makes one of interest or worthwhile to another - emphasis on the gradual. This is true, not only in Rumanikai's example given at the end, but also when we are certain we share substantive, common, niche interests. Even then, to feel safe with us, a person must not feel overwhelmed. It's an unfolding. We need the confidence to take it slow. On the other hand, it's important to learn gentle honesty - to avoid giving someone the impression we are more interested in them than we are. When we've created too much of a relaxed and comfortable feeling for the circumstances, that can lead to hurt feelings on their part when they realize we're "not that into them". Social engagement is such a dance!

I think the points raised in this video could be super helpful realizations for people with Asperger's.

Great video! 👍🏾

“You hit the nail on the head.” !!! This is interesting to me because I’ve resisted using stock phases because I thought it indicated a lack of critical thinking. But now I see that it sometimes made me seem nerdy with no real benefit.

I've noticed that humans tend to coin words but also stock phrases. Those stock phrases then get tested for intuitive meaning, ease of use and so on in a kind of social linguistic evolution. The best stock phrases iow survive. Some words flow better together because they follow consonant vowel patterns, that's just another ease of use metric. Ease of utterance and ease of recognition. The ear also needs to be able to differentiate the phrase among possible phonic contenders that might cause confusion. So yah, that's one of the next questions...Where do these come from? Can a computer learn to coin stock phrases? Sometimes they do already by way of being taught or programmed. Take PC Load Letter. It may be confusion but it's a cultural survivor due to actual irony in terms of intuitiveness but ease of utterance using alliteration and a staccato plosive signature. How about the phrase "I get it". It's synonymous with I understand but it has picked up strength due to one syllable less and a more staccato signature. You can see this phenomenon in Hindi. There's also the phonestheme quality of "sounding" cohesive with what it represents like an onomatopoeia (the short definition of phonestheme). Linguists (one of my backgrounds) are regularly intrigued by that kind of thing. The adoption of a stock phrase contributes to its frequency of being encountered. The computer is a complex mirror of the social mind. Two word phrases are essential with definitions of their own. Take the word "make". Depending on the preposition that follows, you can create a variety of new semantics like "make up", women's skin care (or to resolve conflict) or make out "kissing" but also "to leave with something". The meaning of the word "make" (synonymous with create) has little to do with the resulting idiom.

I like the adult vocabulary you use 😁

I think this somewhat misses the point of the criticism of the AI models. As described, language models do need to produce the repetitive phases that are part of language use. But to be good AI, it needs to do more than that; it also needs to be able to deal with language outside of those stock phrases. If a model captures a large enough set of phrases, it might give impressive results so long as you're in the right domain, but completely fail outside it-that a hot technology like deep learning is used doesn't give the model that property, since it could just be a really inefficient way to implement a large lookup table. An enormous phrase book might be quite useful while still being uninteresting maching learning research. If you're learning a language, learning idiomatic phrases definitely is a good idea. Just memorizing a bunch of phrase books won't take you far (although might be useful if you're traveling). You might be impressed by a language model that produces, say, rising tricolons. But has it captured that a rising tricolon is an effective rhetorical device, or does it just regurgitate examples from a set list?

I've honestly joked that learning communication feels like relearning English. Because second language learning involves a lot of practicing conversations you might not understand but know you should say in this situation.

I’m a senior project manager wanting to improve my communication skills with high level c-suite executives. How can one learn these key phrases until they are ingrained?

Iv’e been wondering. What is too many questions. What percentage of an average conversation is made up of questions? Thanks.

Where can I get these phrases?

This video, fascinating as it was, would have been better with some examples of the kind of idiomatic phrases you're describing. You used "and so on" in the video. I'm guessing this is a simple example? I.e. if I learn English and learn what those three words mean, I'd still never think to use them in that way.

can u please make a video on eg.scripts or phrases we can memorize we can be better at communication I thought thats what this video was about actually

I love your brain lol MashAllah !

That is the beauty of the King James Bible. It has over 300 idioms that have been passed from generation to generation.

If you want to be generic, sure.