Stay madly in love while raising kids

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Stay madly in love while raising kids | Ellen Fisher Podcast

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That fire-filled love you had when you first sparked up a relationship does not have to disappear over time, and especially doesn’t have to end once you have kids. Sometimes relationships can be put on the back burner when kids, jobs, and household becomes overwhelming. But with the right tools and mindset, you can restore your relationship and experience both unconditional love and hot steamy fire love too.
Don’t go pointing the finger and wait for your partner to change first. With your unconditional love and direction you can rally a shift within both of you.
This episode covers:
- Restoring your relationship when you’re in a rut
- Bringing back the fire and steamy feelings for each other
- How to show your partner love in the way they receive it best, and receive love back to way you want too
- Navigating different ideologies on how to raise your kids
- Co-parenting harmoniously
- Handling arguments/disagreements in front of your kids
- Sex life: make it amazing and fiery
- Having each other’s back while parenting your kids
- The 5 Love languages
- How every experience with your partner either adds love to or takes away from your partner’s “love bank”
- Long lasting unconditional love is the answer
**If you are in an abusive relationship please seek immediate support and help at places like www.thehotline...
This episode does not cover the immensely important topic of domestic and child abuse which requires an obviously much different route than what’s covered in this episode. If you are in an abusive relationship, please disregard the message in this episode and reach out for professional support. I hope to have on guests which have expertise on this subject down the road, to adequately cover this topic.***
Where to find me:
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Resources:
“The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman
“How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk” by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
Kim Anami kimanami.com

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@dwybranowski 3 жыл бұрын

For the 5 love languages, I remember them as The Five T's. Time, talk, touch, tasks (acts of service), & treasures (gifts and notes) Change will come even if only one person makes change. Don't wait for anyone to reciprocate. Just start.

@tereza2271 3 жыл бұрын

While having self awareness when raising kids is important, it has also become scary too. Everything kittle thing nowadays, an arguement, the wrong word etc..could cause trauma or behavioural issues. I am 42, and my mum talks to me about how different parenting was back then.

@honestmomvlog 3 жыл бұрын

I love the love language book, another spin that has been CRAZY beneficial to my husband and I is, become bilingual in the love languages. My husband is words and I am acts. I had to teach myself to notice when he was complimenting me and being sweet verbally to me so that I was not only giving his language more often, but also receiving his primary language more often. I still don’t care much about other people’s words, but now when my husband compliments me it makes me a little more fuzzy and lovey than before

@camilahufnagel 3 жыл бұрын

Amazing episode! I watched it with my husband and it was a beautiful time together, we had deep conversations after and it definitely connected us even more.

@greentree730 3 жыл бұрын

A good topic is when one partner wants to be intimate and the other does not. This is a regular part of being married. You know what my friends have discussed, sleeping in a bed with someone who snores, or moves, or wakes up earlier than you and wakes you up. This stuff is not in the romance movies...lol

@holistic-bienestarintegral5452 3 жыл бұрын

We don't have kids and we're not even married but we live together now and even if we're really happy about sharing our lives almost 24/7 we're starting to understand the "life as couple", the dynamics, the importance of knowing how to argue or discuss in a healthy way, respecting our times alone, showig love in the other's language, reaching agreements, etc etc. It's so complex but beautiful at the same time ! I'm happy for this kind of podcasts-videos. Thank you Ellen !

@melaniebuchanan780 3 жыл бұрын

The fact that your hubby seems allergic to shirts has to help. 😜😂

@MGoblivion 3 жыл бұрын

Wow 🤣🤣🤣

@branielleheddings3909 2 жыл бұрын

Lol

@adinabadina 3 жыл бұрын

Everything you're saying sounds like Marriage Fitness with Mort Fertel! He always talks about how to save your marriage when your spouse isn't on board/returning the love. Such a great video, thank you!

@KristineOleary 2 жыл бұрын

I love that you covered all types of partners and addressed realistic situations such as "partner doesn't like reading".

@leatolno222 3 жыл бұрын

This was really "Rich Roll" podcast style, and I mean that as the biggest compliment! 👌🏽 Congratulations Ellen, this is definitely media that suits you! 💙

@abbyK4932 Жыл бұрын

And don’t forget, our kids have love languages too!

@equilibrium9196 3 жыл бұрын

This resonate soooo much with me and my partner right now....we have 4 kids in your age and its a huge challenge every day to deal with everything that need to be done and in the same time keep the love alive, we are struggling with that right now. I feel he need to show me more love but in the same time I know I need to show HIM love aswell, Know that I maybe need to be te first one to take the first step, take away the ego and its get easier...thank you for a great podcast and keep going strong! Love from a swedish in uruguay!

@cars4558 3 жыл бұрын

Wise words, Ellen. Thank you xx

@DelilahMatilda Жыл бұрын

The way the world is now it’s sad that people need help and counseling just for simple things in life like what you talk about with making the little things be little things instead of blaming and shaming. So many people take people for granted now a days and it’s so sad. I am so grateful to have found your channel 6 years ago. You are such an inspiration and such a great role model and I hope I can be the same kind of mother to my children and spouse to my partner.

@MarthaSachserNY 3 жыл бұрын

Im not a podcast person but I love all of your videos talking about different things so I’m obsessed with the podcast ❤️❤️❤️ thank you so much!

@josiecameron3395 3 жыл бұрын

Ellen! Thank you for this. I so agree with letting your children see how we resolve conflicts. It's so important for them to develop coping mechanisms & for them to know compassion as they get older since it's so inherent when they are young.

@valisesgourmandises2571 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this episode! I've looked up to you ever since I started following you back when Sandy was a little baby. I didn't want children, partly because I thought I wouldn't be a great mom... and I was always impressed by your calm presence and positivity. Well, I have a 10 month old now, surprise pregnancy, and she's the best thing that ever happened to me. Even though being a parent is far from easy, I love it and find myself very naturally gravitating towards positive parenting. I fully agree that disagreeing in front of the child and saying I'm sorry and showing kindness is so important to teach them how to interact with other people! 💕

@universpresent9845 3 жыл бұрын

I think I needed this right now. Thank you very much, I will try to apply your advices. Just told my husband I listened to this podcast, he seemed genuinely suprised and we already connected by speaking about what we both need... :)

@user-vn6xo2tc9r 3 жыл бұрын

Love the topic! Kind of threw me off that there wasn’t an intro to the topic, but the content was strong and informative ☀️

@MichaelaHutchison 3 жыл бұрын

Such great reminders! Thank you for this episode!

@virginiee9624 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. It s a pleasure listening to you. I like the way you talk "real life". It resonate in me. Thank you!!!!

@jessicareis7546 2 жыл бұрын

I loved it!!!! Thank you so much for this! Is good to have advice for people who have been in relationships for longer! 💚💚

@migunova.art.restoration 3 жыл бұрын

This is my faaaaavourite episode so far❤️‍🔥 Thank you so much!!! Она такая лапочка, я обожаю✨🧊✨🧊✨🧊

@AG-io5wr 2 жыл бұрын

"Robert Smith is our love language." Me to my partner last week. She agreed.

@adelineteh5636 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your sharing

@stephybartholomae6207 3 жыл бұрын

This is great! As a mom of 3 kids 4 and under this is definitely a topic I needed to hear about and am passionate about!!

@katiestegman8083 2 жыл бұрын

Really enjoying your podcast. There are not many that I will listen to all the way through, but I have been with yours. Keep up the great work.

@TAdams-tt8sf 2 жыл бұрын

Your partner can also be they :) Helpful info, thank you for sharing!

@westcoastlass 3 жыл бұрын

This video has made me see you in a different light. This was amazing. Thanks for this video 💗

@dianalouise9018 3 жыл бұрын

I have been following you for years now, bought the cookbooks and I have to say this is by far the most helpful to me. Thanks!! Looking forward to your next episodes.

@aleksandra1275 3 жыл бұрын

My partner's main love language is physical touch which is not so high up in my list so I really try to remember to give him hugs and hold hands. Also I just gave him (in my opinion) the best birthday present which was massage oil with massage tokens from me so that he can use them when he wants a massage from me :)

@okdanae 2 жыл бұрын

Great podcast episode this is the first one I’ve been able to listen to and I am so happy I did !

@aimeebennett7958 2 жыл бұрын

Listened to this it was lovely and reminded me of all things great. Small, mindful ways to reconnect are vital. I’m not a podcast person but I totally listened to this one (because I adore you) on a long drive yesterday and it was perfect listening. Thank you x

@judybeliveau2370 3 жыл бұрын

I love your podcast so much! I’m pregnant at the moment and I find it SO helpful. Thank you so much 💗💗

@heather593 3 жыл бұрын

Another thing with finding time to be intimate as a mom is feeling touched out and not in the mood for more touching after a day of “momming.” Hard to separate the two some days.

@LisaRenee_ 2 жыл бұрын

Ellen, Thank you. Thank you so much for your wisdom and being so generous enough to share it 💜. Much love.

@TheMartasputo 3 жыл бұрын

Ellen Thank you so much for this podcast! Totally packed with an amazing thoughts and soooooooo helpful! Definitely I’m going to implement many things you mentioned in my daily life ❤️ And I will make sure my husband listens to it too 🌸

@jessicagerretsen5500 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Ellen. This podcast was/is exactly what I need(ed).

@stephaniecardeman9717 3 жыл бұрын

Are you going to do episodes about positive parenting? I would love to know more about raising your kids!

@MilaDanceSport 3 жыл бұрын

Such great job, Ellen! You are so natural at this, and I so much enjoyed this. Thanks :)

@tofferarvid6589 3 жыл бұрын

What an amazing topic!! 👍✌️ We need to talk about these things, heal the world... there are many more topics that are not touched by most... Connection is key to learning the possibilities of life .. learning and unlearning

@CustomComfyCrochetByDawnMarie 3 жыл бұрын

Awesome video. I don’t agree with all of your views, but I agree with everything you’ve said about mothering and relationships. Great job Ellen!

@megandesann5235 3 жыл бұрын

Such an amazing podcast! I am beginning to look up to you, and you are such an inspiration to me. I can't wait for future podcasts! I am a Podcast girl :) Great work Ellen!

@MomandBuggs 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, kids do what they see the adults do and they see how you handle conflict.

@justaluckybug 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this Ellen

@radotmuziku 2 жыл бұрын

Amazing💡

@AmberlyPerez 2 жыл бұрын

I just adore you, Ellen! Thank you for putting your heart out there ❤️❤️

@honestmomvlog 3 жыл бұрын

Ugh!! My 8 month old refuses to sleep unless he is on me. I’ve tried everything. Short of cry it out (which I won’t/can’t) do….. I know this is just a phase but holy moly! How do you have intimate connection like that. We don’t live near much family and are new to the area so not many friends yet

@user-kx2no6zi7b 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the episode invested! You added a lot of deeper knowledge and understanding to me, just fun to listen to!

@clairemerryfull7464 3 жыл бұрын

I was so excited to see you launch your podcast. Absolutely loving it! 6mins in - such good reminders! Thank you for all your efforts 💕

@amybostic1439 3 жыл бұрын

Ellen- you’ve been spot on this entire podcast! Kudos to you for wonderful, sound advice

@maati109 3 жыл бұрын

I loved this Ellen!! Amazing ❤️ definately wonna watch the next episodes

@freethinker1551 3 жыл бұрын

This was a wake up call that I needed. Thankyou Ellen 🙏🏼

@elenapolenichkina6460 2 жыл бұрын

Great information! Thanks

@vtinecali 3 жыл бұрын

This definitely got me thinking about my family relationships. Good episode

@jessikavilla4962 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this episode 🙏 is a relief to know other woman experience this too 🙏

@corndawg123 3 жыл бұрын

Love this! Thank you for sharing.

@carly.taylor42 3 жыл бұрын

Such valuable advice. My favourite podcast episode yet ❤️

@kippdeefamily5875 3 жыл бұрын

Great episode, thanks Ellen!

@flanaganashley9871 3 жыл бұрын

Amazing! This is so helpful! Ty

@tlinks11 2 жыл бұрын

Wow just wow. This was amazing! Thank you!! Can’t wait to implement this into our relationship. 💕🔥

@sierramingo3618 3 жыл бұрын

Love this so much! Congrats on your new podcast Ellen :)!

@ani_yu 2 жыл бұрын

What if after showing your partner love and being always the first, it never comes back? Or at least not at the amplitude that you are showing it?

@artemis1style 3 жыл бұрын

Single mama here. Parenting is tough in general no matter your situation.

@lipa-art 2 жыл бұрын

Thank u ellen, just what I needed❤️

@daplantgirl 3 жыл бұрын

I llsten to you on iTunes but i must say this is a fantastic topic you dealt with humanity. Thanks for that

@marthaanderson7157 3 жыл бұрын

this is so good! thankyou!

@nininini00111 3 жыл бұрын

Im single and 20 watching this hehehehe. Loved it and will be back to watch in the future :)

@taylorlaverdiere2463 3 жыл бұрын

I gotta know the word that wasn’t for the podcast about how your friend looked! Haha too spicy?? Eat move rest is someone who I would love to see you interview!

@autismenlightenment 3 жыл бұрын

The word is wellf***ed, lol that is what Kim calls it. I checked her out and she was not to my taste but whatever floats your boat is fine w me.

@anajelacic9729 3 жыл бұрын

Very helpful video. Thank you ❤️

@bellis7772 3 жыл бұрын

Such an interesting topic. Always good to hear other people's thoughts om this. And great tips👍 Especially that one with the love coins - it's so simple, but it was a great visual for me. Which I think is gonna make it more likely to pop up in my mind in every day life. Keep up the good work 👌😊

@roisinbarrett6998 3 жыл бұрын

Brilliant, such help thank you

@daniellezaloudek4776 3 жыл бұрын

Loooved this podcast thank you so much ❤🙏

@hayleysmith9656 3 жыл бұрын

So much wisdom!!! 🙌

@mlynne5440 3 жыл бұрын

Love these podcasts ellen!

@alexjones1641 2 жыл бұрын

Loved this 💁🏻‍♀️💚🤘🏻

@prettypurplekao 3 жыл бұрын

I would love more about the conversation. I find myself and many of my friends struggle with having a partner that isn’t that involved with childcare and helping around the house. How to approach this with a partner and not feel resentful toward them for taking the lions share of “me time” for themselves?

@SupremeChii 2 жыл бұрын

Please look up the term "weaponized incompetence" if you don't know it already. It's an unfortunately common tactic many partners adopt (often subconsciously) to put the emotional and physical labor of a house and children on the other partner instead. It's a lesson reason for divorces. It IS fixable of the manipulation is made apparent and the person ends the behavior.

@wendellmonster6179 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Very true

@vonnie959 3 жыл бұрын

All of this! ❤

@milenak.e5191 3 жыл бұрын

Good podcast thanks 🙏🏽

@iwonadziegielewska 3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful 🤩 thank you

@vickie3272 3 жыл бұрын

Wow.this is a nice podcast

@pja9142 2 жыл бұрын

Perfect words ✨🙏💫🌱💚🕊️🌴

@erikahespinozah5160 2 жыл бұрын

You did such a great job, Ellen!!! So authentic and lovely. You flow'd super well

@wild.beautifulchaos1638 2 жыл бұрын

Hiya, hope you're well? Just wondering what is the marriage course you did? I'm interested in doing one. Also could you suggest any course etc for self discovery? I know you did a big bundle last year, of heaps of things, of courses, wondering would you do that bundle again? Thanks

@paolarosichetti899 2 жыл бұрын

You have discovered the warm water.

@honestmomvlog 3 жыл бұрын

Right I understand about being respectful, but if what is happening to your children is abusive…. How do you just stand there?

@honestmomvlog 3 жыл бұрын

My husband struggles with PTSD and other trauma he is working through. So he is trying, but also there are moments where I see real lasting damage happening… do I just stand there? Idk how to do that

@sunnyshine6609 3 жыл бұрын

Tried and true lol

@TheSwimTeacher 3 жыл бұрын

You have such amazing skin what is your facial routine? You literally have no wrinkles is this due to your diet? I have recently become vegan thanks to you and your videos and I can honestly say I’m just feeling so much better so thank you for making such quality content🙏