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Seasoned divorce lawyer here. Great video! For guys over 50 (and over 60) this message is even more important. Take great care of your body, mind, and spirit. Have your finances in order. Do the things that bring you joy. Travel solo. If you are not married, stay unmarried (you can still have great intimate relationships without inviting state laws into your life a.k.a. Divorce laws). Whatever you do, DO NOT CHASE anyone. Ever. Many women will test you for your attention, time and resources. Have strong boundaries and an abundance mindset. Stay safe out there!

As a 51 year old man, I’ve learned that you cannot force someone to like you or love you. The worst thing you can do is change who are just so you are liked. You need to be who you are and the person you’re with should like you and want to be with you as you are. Then and only then can you be free of all the bs stress of trying to impress some one. Don’t be someone else, be you and only you.

I'm 55 with minimal wrinkles. I put it down to a stress free woman free life.

I'm married 24 years and this is solid advice for the single guys! You definitely need to work on yourself first before doing anything else and good things will come to you

A woman once shared with me a secret she said she wasn't supposed to tell me. She said the more you love us the less we will love you. The less you love us the more we will love you. Master this and you will master women. I made this change at age 47 and now women find me irresistible and some even get obsessed. So strange that this works. It's the complete opposite of who I was. I used to give all my heart to women and it only got me cheated on.

Beware the honeymoon phase. It happens quick and is gone. Those little pockets of magic fade. If you not ready to deal with what comes after the honeymoon dont start something you will regret.

Spot on! We should Never look for a woman to complete our lives but rather to compliment the great life we already have. Live the best life we can and be the best version of who we truly are, and it will attract the right kind of woman and friends. Live life boldly, proudly, and with confidence in who we are!!

I'm 55 and I have been chasing! I'm on all the apps getting nowhere. I already dress nice so I've got that going for me. I really took in what you said and I'm dropping the apps, and living my life! Thank you. I am now a subscriber

Since I was a kid I've always used the 50/50 policy. I'll approach and give 50% to the woman as far as interest and such. If I don't get 50% back, I'm off to healthier choices. Always works.

Other than taking more interest in dressing well, the most significant aid in running into women you would be interested in is get off all dating apps. They are playgrounds of the losers and game players and the odds are really poor for men. Go, instead, to events or activities that you enjoy or might where there might be women of the desired class and sophistication you would be interested in. For example if you live near a highly cultured city, attend an opera or ballet performance and that short period between acts for refreshments is a 10-15 minutes of being surrounded by women who would be interested in striking up a short conversation about what you both just experienced. Females out number men by a large number. If you are at all interested in learning to dance well, attend Tango group lessons, there are always more women than men and they all need partners for practice and demonstration, besides being the most sensuous dance imaginable. Visit art exhibitions, again dominated by females, and do not be shy is asking for opinions about pieces of interest. If you do not know very much able art, that is fine, a sincere question will start a conversation. Bars are places adults go where it is expected to interact with people next to them. A place at the bar instead of a table is where people go when they are open for conversation. Any upbeat comment to the woman next to you is enough to start a conversation. If there is a group of women, engage the entire group if there is one in the group who sparks your interest. Spend a little more time talking to her than the others but make them all feel that you are engaging each. How you treat her friends is an indication of your quality. Stop texting for conversation. Use text only for a text instructions of the address, time and day of your next meeting. Develop skills in communicating with women by having female friends. I go to dance clubs a lot and I am usually the oldest person in the club and never ask a girl to dance, and other than starting a conversation at the bar, I limit my contacts with the women to acknowledging their presence with a word or two, to indicate I am not chasing anyone so I am safe to approach because I am equally pleasant to all the women. That seems to be enough so women, even very young women, approach at least to acknowledge they see me as non-threatening while they ignore other older men. It is rare not to end up with 2-5 phone numbers by the end of the evening by being an interesting conversationalist. I am around a lot of attractive women normally, with my side business of working with actors for stage and film doing professional photography. I was in the music recording business for decades as the owner of a large 3 studio recording complex but retired now from that field. Every woman I ever met, including those in the 92 countries I visit often, has albums I recorded, 197 gold and platinum albums. But many of those were before some of these women were born. Do not brag about possessions or accomplishments, focus the conversation on their interests if you have any knowledge of them and if not, ask questions with sincerity about their passions and interests. Never mention money. If you plan an evening, leave some of it as a surprise. If it appears to be spontaneous, for example riding roller coasters after a dinner date or anything not expected will turn out to be the highlight of the evening. Be the first to end the date, on a high note. End it earlier than later because the last feeling of the night will be those remembered most vividly. Women are pickier than even because they are so often around men and so many men are very thirsty for attention from women.

I can honestly say I never chased a woman in my life. thankfully. Good luck straight guys.

Relationships take energy - even casual friendships, and sport teams, musical ensembles, comedy troupes... When both people put energy in there is a synergy that makes the relationship grow organically, becoming more than the sum of the people added together. So if you're interested in a woman who is putting nearly *no energy* into the relationship, or just barely enough to string you along, let her go. In my experience she'll tend to put in less and less over time, until it's like you're trying to water a plant that can't grow because it's not getting any sunlight. The relationship will not grow - even at the level of friendship - and will develop into a parasitic situation where she's just feeding off the energy you put in. Find someone more mature and attentive who also appreciates the spark that comes from reciprocity.

Mgtow is where it's at. I've had more than my share of women. It took me an awfully long time to figure out that they're not worth almost any effort. Super happy and content now.

One of the most important things said in this video - is that a relationship cannot make you happy. It can enhance what’s already there, but will not fill that void…..in fact I would argue that if you’re in a bad place getting into a relationship could make things worse. You will in all probability project those insecurities onto your new partner and that never ends well. At 60 I’ve been through pretty much everything when it comes to relationships - but learning this early on changed everything. Once you get to that place of inner peace and contentment, that brings confidence. It alters the way you interact with women, and more importantly it changes the way women interact with you….

My buddy got divorced and then had 30 dates in 30 days. The guy is good looking, but he got addicted to the hunt after 20 years of marriage. The funny thing is after he put in his profile "I am an 8-9 so "Do not contact me unless you consider yourself an 8 or above." His phone was blowing up after that.

Human nature is people, especially women, do what they want, when they want and with whom they want. It doesn’t matter how busy they say they are, what their job is, etc. When they want to make time, when they want to be with someone they do it. This goes back to what I said in a previous comment for a different video. The best thing that a man can do is to be confident in his personal energy, present himself well and FFS take care of his skin 🤣🤣🤣. Don’t project as needy, don’t project as helpless. When women want a man they find a way to get him just like shoes or sushi. They have their ways.

So right on this. Stay true to yourself and keep your hobbies. Share it with her and/or find new ones together. Be happy gentlemen !

We all become desirable when we mature and put ourselves first, confidence is interesting and stimulating and women die for it. Pursue but don't ever chase

Thanks for the advice. Completely different dating world being recently divorced after almost 30 years of (faithful yet unhappy) marriage. Basic instincts are the same but a lot of the tools and vehicles are radically different. Learned some of the same things you mentioned in the last two years of separation preceding the final divorce. The most important lessons were understanding what I did wrong, knowing my high social value, and therefore believing that I am in a better place (and will do much better in a future relationship if it happens). The challenges now are letting the dust settle, finding my way, and adapting to a new world that relies too much (IMO) on social media. In the mean time just making the best of my circumstances starting today on business travel in sunny San Diego. Have a great day!

That's exactly what happened to me, after me and my wife separated 8 years ago, the first 3 years was spent chasing women, and yes i ended up either creepy or needy to women, i became disillusioned, and focus on my passion which is the outdoors, i stopped chasing them, workout to be healthy and just went out what i loved doing, which is traveling, went to the US (i'm a filipino) Europe and other parts of asia to do Mountaineering, i also surf, and surprisingly that's how i met my 29 yo girlfriend, I'm already 59, now we enjoy doing those things together

Hi John - Your topic really hit home with me. I recently had to end a relationship where I was beginning to do all of the work. I really liked the lady, and in some ways I still do, but it was time to move on. It hurt, but I no longer could all of the lifting. Funny how so many women say they want a decent guy and a gentleman but wind-up chasing them away. Peace.

Stopped chasing entitled and ungrateful women since I was 32 or so. I found out my life is happier and calmer that way.

Outstanding post! High value men value themselves first. Do not chase, do not pedalisize, do NOT reward a sh!t test with attention. Set your standards to reflect your priorities and be prepared to walk away from any woman. Peace men.

Love the channel I was always told as a teenager and just starting dating “The girl worth chasing you don’t need to chase “ So good to hear you say this

Great advice…relationships are not easy married or single. First things first take care of yourself stay healthy, always exercise at all ages. Don’t be selfish but remember what do you want in a relationship, there will always be give and take…I’m 65 and married and still learning. There’s a old saying “Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved” We learn from being in a relationship hopefully we grow wiser and smarter. Good Luck on future relationships guys…..☮️✌️☮️

A lesson I had to learn the hard way, and even then didn't really sink in until watching manosphere videos trying to figure out what I did wrong. Also find out what you need from a woman to complement your life and don't settle just because you're lonely.

John - Your comments are spot on! Even some of us old(er) dogs need reminders from time to time. Not just the young pups. Great content as always. Be well!

Absolutely right!!! I listened to everything you said and very much spot on, I'm in my 40s now and I think everyone deserve better, can't be chasing women at this age of my life and not staying focused. Please keep them coming. 👍👍

Chase the dream, not the dream woman.

Good video, couldn't agree more. There's a big difference between chasing and pursuing. Chasing is desperation, pursuing is showing someone you're interested. When she reciprocates, then you can respond with another message/phone call/plan for a date.

You pulled together a lot of good points I've either read or heard before. At the heart of it you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. Good advice. Hopefully the people watching it can compartmentalize it as well as generalize it.

I grew up pretty introverted. So I never chased girls. One day in my 30's a buddy of mine asked me what I do to get so many women. I told him "nothing". He laughed but I literally meant it. Be receptive and initiate the date or the number exchange when the conversation starts to go dry. They will put themselves in your orbit and make eye contact and touch you or try to to talk to you about any stupid thing. Just be calm and laugh at her

42 and been single almost 14 years now. I forget what a woman even feels like. lol. I can have regular conversation all day long, but I don't approach them romantically, ask them on dates, show interest, and I have the sex drive of a leaf. I'm not fat or unclean, or unattractive. Sort of sucks cause I always imaged myself having a family. That's what I really wanted, and still want. I'm getting to that age where soon it'll be a bit too late to start having kids if I want to see them graduate before I retire. Dating sites are mostly spam/catfish it seems, or women past their prime who gave all their best years to another guy or guys and are now just looking for a meal ticket. They're ready to meet a "real man". I don't know what to do, so I just sit at home with my two young kitties and watch Law & Order. On a positive note, at least I get to experience a modicum of success, peace, and quiet, and I only have to clean up after me and the kitters. Could be worse I suppose.

A high-value woman is one that IS NOT expensive but is there for you during the simple things in life. My girlfriend volunteers to come over when I need to do yard work. Very admirable trait.

Confident, easy to understand and completely devoid of self pity (like some other men's advice channels can be) while you're not saying anything I haven't heard before, this is by far the best version of this kind of video I've watched.

Sir. Best male advice video ever. From a 54yr old who's 27yr marriage has ended so I'm in the dating game, this video is a superb guide. Thanks for putting me and a lot of the male species, on the right track!

Wow! Very well said! I've heard a few videos on this topic and you explained it so well in such a short time, it really hit home for me. I totally get it now. It maybe hard for most of us guys to get it and practice what you explained, but it completely makes sense. And until we stop chasing and start focusing on ourselves, we will be stuck forever in our self made hamster wheel, like a horse and carrot. Thank you so much!

Last night I heard a woman at a bar say that unless a man puts forth a lot of effort (chases after her) she won't bother with him.

I have Greek DNA but yes I workout a lot get V shape 💪 at 49. When I wear tighter clothes etc I get noticed. Women are more visual than we think. Let them come to you. They smell confidence from a mile away.

Become what you want to attract. Keep your hobbies. Keep your friends. ONLY go out with women who show a high level of interest. Women are like cats. They go from hot, to cold, to hot, to cold, etc. Let them and don't chase. Especially, early on, they need to feel free without the guy losing his shit. If you're not in a serious relationship date MULTIPLE women. It helps to maintain an abundance mindset. Great video, as always!

I have been making some of the mistakes that you have mentioned. I’m taking a deep breath and reevaluating my position. It’s time for a change. A better change. I feel like a fool but I know I gotta let that go too. Great things always start small. I have a lot going for me now that I’m going to tap in to them. My income has doubled my rent is way below the National average. I can do this. My options should be more open. I just needed a little push. My thanks to you and I look forward to viewing your future content.

Also check out women from other cultures and countries....a lot of these women are more traditional in their views of relationships...meaning they treat their men like the King...I personally married a Brazilian woman and she treats me soooooo well...America women tend to want to compete with you..my woman just wants affection and nice communication....I am so happy I got out of the American trap...I am so happy with my Brazilian wife..

a lot of good, sound advice here. much appreciated. ironically, i've been aware of many items you mentioned, i see you sharing this video as reminders to uphold those traits and not compromise by chasing the needy gal to boost her ego. thank you again my friend

Yes! You have to be content and happy on your own. I didn’t learn this until 2 years ago at 39. I do my thing and live a joyous life on my own. I can talk to the hottest girl in the room and not care if we aren’t compatible because, I’m not trying to get in her pants. Women do notice your confidence and you’ll begin to see them actually noticing you. Allow her to bring more joy into your life, don’t let her be the reason for your happiness. My confidence has skyrocketed knowing I don’t need a woman to be happy and you’ll see your confidence improve greatly once you stop chasing tail. Let her chase you!

Your pursuit of personal excellence and growth should never end until you do. Live with intention and without waiting for permission. Nature gave you permission at birth. The info in this video should be shared with the young dudes, not just those of us in 40s and 50s. It is sound advice on how to put yourself first. Nice work 40 OF.

Good video basically just be the best person you can be for your self only thing your get from chasing gals is sore legs walk tall with your head up it starts with in your self stay positive my friends

49 & learned all that THE HARD WAY! Great advise!

*“If you don't design your own mind and your life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much!*

Pure gold episode. Thank you for what you do.

I was financially destroyed by women. I'm very careful the last decade or so....many of us men learned the hard way. Shit happens....be careful gents.

Simple changes in attitudes and understanding the reality. This video is spot on.

I did that for 4 good years so I really understang what youre saying hope many will open their eyes

Solid advice. I see guys trying to hard and that makes them look needy. Work on just being the best version of you. Be friendly with everyone and just do you. Eventually it will happen naturally.

And Remember... Rejection is saving you from future regrets.

This is all true stuff and not that difficult to do. We work on ourselves and the rest comes more easily.

You're right.

Every word is gold. Thanks for boosting our confidence. Look good, do good and bring good in life..❤

Great advice! I am going to focus on setting up my online business and put full concentration on it for the next 6 months or so. Not gonna get distracted by women, friends and negative co-workers and relatives.

You..are..right!! Focus..on..your..projects!!

Perfect explanation , Thanks . I've still got some time before I turn 40 but very nice notions you shared with us ! Appreciate that !

Another great video. This was a valuable lesson for me in my own life. Once I quit chasing , I found the woman who became my wife .

I got married for the first time at 38... now I'm wondering if I missed out on dating over 40 lol

100% spot on!

I wish my Dad had told me this years ago. It's true and there's a lot to be said for finding someone interested in you when you're doing something you like.

So true! I wish that I had realized this sooner. A woman should not complicate your life.

Very good video sir. Really makes so much sense especially in today's day and age of social media. Be the high value man that you are and don't lower your standards so someone has to appreciate you. If they truly want to be with you for the right reasons, you know they are a genuine individual...

Good advice, makes a lot of sense. It's a 2-way street, some things have to come your way too. Thanks for the 'heads up'.

You got it!! Well said

On point once again! Great content, advice, and relevant! Keep up the great work!

So basically wanting women makes you unattractive. And when you're so confident that you feel you deserve better then finally they come. It's an unattainable desire. We want what we can't have, and we can't have women at our lowest, neither are we excited for women at our best.

Great insight John!

I now use skin care products, such good advice.

Excellent presentation. I made all my mistakes under 40. Done with that.

Well said. I like the clarity of your presentation. Much better put together than the other crap you often find on YT.

Great video and on point ..I agree you don't need others to validate your self worth... And I've used your advice in dressing better myself ..thanks D...

Hit the nail on the head. One of your best videos John.

Great video! I just signed up for Tiege and am really looking forward to getting on a consistent schedule for skin care. Thanks for all you do.

Spot on , could not say it any better, 8 months in to divorce and separation, I learned this very quickly, every point you said was perfect 👍🏼👏🏼🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🇮🇷, if we follow it we will be in better place and very Happy!

Great video John!

Great Video....Thanks for posting

40 yrs old here. My life/great years didn't start until at least 33 yrs old. I quit booze, hit the gym, and started investing in the market. During these last 7 yrs I've had women but they remain the FARTHEST THING from my mind that I need for happiness. Gym, Health, Invest & prepare for a better tomorrow. 🙌🏽

Great video. The advice from my experience is on point. Keep up the good work.

I'm 39 and I'm happy i bumped into your channel

Those are the facts. Well said!

Excellent video, more on this topic, please!

Insightful words, sir. I am 47 years old and trying to get back into life and pursue what makes me happy. Yes, companionship would be pleasant but it shouldn't be my top priority. Some years ago I lost that fire within me, however my ambition is returning and I really identify with your message. I look forward to listening to more of your instructionals. Cheers

thanks

Thank you for the insight 40 over fashion

My Man deserve to have 500k subscribers with the good advice he gives. I'm married and I'm trying to be there fore my spouse know than ever due to her health issues and my young boy but that doesn't mean I'm gonna let myself down 👇 on my life seen her struggling and feel happy helping her we been 18 years together it's been ups and downs but she stood by my side no matter what. I do everything duties every day most important working out to maintain good health and taking care of them. My salutes my friend keep giving good advice to us guys in our 40s.

Hi John from Athens Greece!! My name is Jonh also, Yiannis in Greeks and I'm also 52 years old....thanks for your video!

A lot of powerful concepts in this vid. Thanks for sharing. Guys being able to take care of yourself is very important because she doesn't want to have to do it for you.

Love this video. Great advice!

Thank you for keeping us grounded. Not sure how it happened but i had fallen into deep pursuit (in a legit way lol...) of a Belarus beauty here in the states. Regardless of my familiarity with the language and culture she clearly wasn't feeling it. A very nice 2nd date. Well groomed, properly scented, dressed, flowers and nice meal. I'm 6'2", in great shape and yet could not crack what felt like a Soviet Tank barracade blocking her emotions. I got no sense this would ever change despite her apparent willingness to meet again. And so.....life goes on 😁

Speaking For Myself Back In My Age Of 20's I Used To Chase Looking For Love and Relationships But After Being Mistreated and Hurt Very Extremely Bad I Took It As A Life Learning Lesson Now That I'm In My Age Of 30's My Chasing Days Are Over Which Means I'd Rather Saddle Down, Relax, Calm My Mind Allowing God To Lead Me On To Get My Life Together First Thank You For This God Continue To Bless You Much Love and Respect Sir 😉

Awesome advice John, always enjoy your content sir!

This is spot on all these points

You are right that if you give the impression that you "don't care about anything" it can be translated to mean "I don't care about me". And so, we must care but be careful & send the message "I don't care what you think about me, since I am for real". This turns the former on its head & gives you the steering wheel in relation to the latter & don't give anyone, especially females, the driving seat to your car!

Im 39...i been chasing women since last breakup 2018.. n now after 9 dates throughout these years..its finally in mind that enough is enough.. im well groomed .discipline but financially not there yet.. i aim to earn alot more..thanks

Ur points are well taken. Ur specific to a T in detail. Love urself first before you love someone else.