I wake up in fear most days,worrying about the day ahead yet i know it's ridiculous and achieves nothing

Yup. I am older and do not understand why everyone has anxiety.

​@@rejac2833 I'm older too & have more anxiety than ever. This is a darned scary world now. It's good advice, but hard to internalize & put into action. Must have much discipline!

​@@drunkensquirrel7545 I internalize information better when I am relaxed. Repetition helps as we get older. I have Google calendar remind me with a phone notification daily to study. You can also create an Android alarm clock to wake you up, but TITLE it, "Don't Complain". Sorry, but if you simply prefer talking on a landline or wire-more phone, these 5 items can be put on flash cards and those yellow 3M Post It note papers 😊

An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.

Here’s one: Dont tell me how to feel and what to feel: you have a very deranged look in your face dictating to me what I should feel Dont Trivialize and Ignore my pain when I’m suffering

That's obsolete in modern times, dude!

Why did you type that like we didnt hear it aswel

@@tomanasarnas9481 so you can copy/paste it or take a screenshot

@@privateconfidential4775 First of all, he authored this all to himself, as was LITERALLY STATED in the video. Do you think that, in unknowingly revealing your crazed, egotistical nature on a KZfaq comment section, you’re the one who needs to take this advice? Calm the hell down.

Or maybe have an EDUCATED opinion. The thing is out vapid age of idiots....99% of opinions I hear are....not even opinions cuz when you give one you must also include WHY that's. Your opinion ya know .... DETAILS. And as we know most don't do that. So ignorant they don't know ....that's PART OF GIVING ONES OPINION. Duh. But yea.....

No opinion iZ the educated opinion.

As someone who is rarely in a position to change the things i have opinions on this quote along with a few others have helped in a better direction.

@@PanthasEmpressOracleit’s not 😂 at all, not even in the slightest!

Yes, and it seems that part of the human experience IS the paradox of having a higher self in the lower, more dense dimensions..

Leave out emotions? Yea good recipe for diaster. And you can't leave out emotions christ. How is it that the general population ALWAYS hears about a philosophy or idea....then barely reads a bit on it. Thinks they're an expert then BAM....goes hard at it and IGNORES all the nuance & yea. Emotion is healthy, normal and ya kinda need it ij life. What I'm seeing is a lot of young kids....little to no life experience...and a whole lot of emotional repression....and that leads the nothing but a nightmare.

Leaving out emotions is 100% essential to our species survival. But speaking up is taking action. Complain complain complain and complain some more!

Here’s one: Dont tell me how to feel and what to feel: you have a very deranged look in your face dictating to me what I should feel Dont Trivialize and Ignore my pain when I’m suffering

@@privateconfidential4775 cry

This guy is a crook. Buy the books. But screw this guy. Get a real job. Not a single thing stoic about this guy. Never had any real issues in life. Guys privileged.

I love this!! Definitely going to put these where it’s seen daily! Thank you. Btw I didn’t catch the last one either,but I don’t want to complain or make judgements (I crack myself up 😆)

Number 5 is "Focus on doing what is up to you and Trust the process" meaning that you have to show up everyday and do exactly what you need to do although you might not see the results quickly but be sure that nothing goes to waste and you will reap your hardwork.

Bro number 5 was the most important😂😂😂

Thanks for listing!

@@Tony-gh8gg it is what it is 😌

Exceptional comment!

It's the not complaining one that bothers me, especially because it says to not complain at all (at least that's how I perceive it). When we complain, there's valuable emotional information we could get by processing it and letting it run its course. Once you do that, there is immense clarity and sense of agency about the changes one needs to make about a situation.

@@thetuckinlady if you’re processing emotions in a positive way then you’re not complaining. Complaining is negative energy and it drains the people around you, if they care to listen.

@@heisenburg8608 That's the thing. Complaining is not always a negative thing, repeated complaining to express helplessness sure is, but not doing it at all is suppressing valuable emotional information. Complaining shows us where our frustrations and discontent lies, and what changes we can make to make our lives better. Complaining can make us realize another emotion that might be underneath it- anger, very powerful to make us realise our agency and mobilize us to take action.

@@thetuckinlady complaining is an act, you don’t need action in order to understand yourself inside. I’m well aware of when I’m angry and the triggers, I don’t need to act up with that energy and cast spells to people around me (especially loved ones) in order to figure myself out. Instead I observe the thoughts I have so that I decide which my heart leads with. I ignore the complaining negative thoughts and lead with the solutions and the positive thoughts. There’s no escape the negatives of life but self management is key. Negative thoughts and emotions have good value and are essential to us for learning and growing spiritually but it can all be controlled from within, external forces are irrelevant to this journey. In general terms it’s just good habit to be able to deflect the negative thoughts and act on only positives so that you also raise the frequency of propels around you. To me that’s like the basic human requirement, to bring eachother up instead of down, regardless of how one feels inside.

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Here’s one: Dont tell me how to feel and what to feel: you have a very deranged look in your face dictating to me what I should feel Dont Trivialize and Ignore my pain when I’m suffering

And it ain’t what it ain’t

It is what it is detaches you from your responsibilities and potential impact on your life. What he describe is way more nuanced

​@@gabrielfestininot really.

Isn’t this an antithesis to trailering on what is up to you, and accepting what you cannot control

This is just me, it may not apply to you or the questions you ask. For me, I speak facts, have discussions, look into yourself, come to an understanding as to how feel. There’s a reason these things upset me. Then I try to stay in the now, I’ve had to stop dwelling on these things, it destroys my peace. I have a therapist, I try to come to an understanding, not dwell. To me that’s what therapy is all about, to help me grow, look within myself. I’ve found complaining, going over and over something’s tends to only upset me more. In the end I’m no better off then is was. I do talk to friends about things that brother me, and again I try not to dwell on it. I’ve come to an understanding complaining is different then having a discussion, or conversation. Many people have said usually a person wants to just vent, just to have that person listen. Not to try to fix me, or tell me what they’d do, just listen. I’m a recovering addict, like many things I found myself addicted to complaining. At times I have to find a quite space, breath, just center myself as they say. Anyway, somewhere along the way I hope you find the answers to your questions. I seen this one day… “You’re destroying your peace by confronting everything you observe”…. I have it written down, next to my bed. Everyday I have to see it, it helps me to stay in the now. It helps me remember to be good to myself, I deserve my peace. ✨🌹✨❤️‍🔥✨🌹✨

I don't think seeking help or assistance to correct an injustice is "complaining." I think that is a form of taking action, as long as you're not expecting them to just fix it for you. I think complaining is "woe is me, someone take pity on poor poor me." There is no action to it, it's just... complaining. And the worst possible person you can complain to is you. Just tearing yourself down, whining about how terrible this is for you. You're just wallowing in self pity. That's what they're talking about when they say don't complain.

@@twelvecatsinatrenchcoat if that is the case then it makes perfect sense, the reason why I was confused it's because complaining, at least by definition, is not always whining

@@ricardvs7329 Your version of it makes sense too. You're right about it in it's own way. Life's fun like that. Oscar Wilde called it "playing gracefully with ideas."

@@twelvecatsinatrenchcoat This! There is a difference between complaining about the store being sold out of your favourite product, and another thing reporting a crime. The two are simply not remotely similar.

Reverend Ike said that complaining is poverty.

Here’s one: Dont tell me how to feel and what to feel: you have a very deranged look in your face dictating to me what I should feel Dont Trivialize and Ignore my pain when I’m suffering

@@I-Am-Prosperous-I-Am-Grateful and acceptance of being impoverished is also poverty. so then, what to do?

@@stretch1807 Changing the mindset is the answer. Whether a person thinks they are rich or poor, they are right either way. As a man thinketh, so is he.

So now the next time you get kidney stones, you'll suffer for months in silence rather than complaining to a doctor so they can take care of them. Good job, buddy.

I stop trying to control things I leave it to my lord Jesus hands amen 🙏❣️🎉❤.

I have to disagree with number two. Ignoring stuff and not forming opinions on it, is just living in ignorance. Ignorance is bliss until you hit the ground.

Knowing the difference between changeable & accept the situation

The first step towards changing something is accepting it that things are the way they are.

I think “acceptance” has always been a poor choice of words. “Recognition” is far better. “Acceptance” has a connotation of approval. Recognition that some situation exists in reality and must be dealt with because that how things actually are, does not connote any approval or disapproval of that situation. Not everything needs your recognition because not every situation are you in a position to have an effect.

I think you didn't get his point though. You should accept that things will be outside of your control and instead, focus on what you can control and what you can do about it. He was never discouraging improvement.

Yeah, I think "whine" instead of "complain" would be a much better word choice. Complaints are often necessary for change; otherwise, people will lie about the real state of things instead of passing into serious recognition of them in order to obtain improvement.

whenever u have an opinion/whenever u judge smth as good or bad/whenever u have a preference, whenever u have a desire, you will eventually suffer for it. Do not have too many desires and do not pick them unconsciously. Pick just 1 overwhelming desire that is ok to suffer for. What you are saying is the exception, to when it is worth to suffer for it. In everythign that is not ur overwhelming desire, it does not matter, your opinion has no value, it idoes not matter, it is impermaneny and is always changing. It is a delusion, not based in reality, it is based on mental formations. When my brain wants a cigar, i say your opinion does not matter (brains opinion does not matter). Someone said: You will only achieve peace , when u realise ur opinion has no value, it does not matter. It is a sensation in the body that cause a negative emotion and not the reality. You observe this by practicing vipassana meditation, you can play with sensation and emotion, to intensify an emotion or to detensify. Even pain is a sensation, it can be increased or decreased. If u have resentment for it, then it tends to intensify during meditation. If you have attachment for a pleasent sensation it tends to dissapear that sensation. If you are equanim about it, then unpleasant sensations detensify, and pleasant sensations tend to stay longer before they vanish. If you want to learn more about suffering, i suggest 10 day vipassana retreat, buddhism, google attachment/aversion/equanimity and using impermanence as a tool to deal with attachement-the source of suffering.

Adam, I'm really glad you asked this question. These are the kinds of things I think about as well. Sometimes I even wonder if this is a potential downside of stoicism, that at least some people will use this practice to endure 'hard times' imposed by authorities, for example, rather than work to prevent or change those circumstances. I love Ryan's work as well and I definitely see Stoicism as a huge net positive as it certainly promotes responsibility and strength of character. Long story short: I don't know the answer though. 🤷

@@dinocarosi4303 balance. Being too much of anything is detrimental. Just balance whatever stoicism means for you and the rest will follow.

The only Good Message is that of Jesus ❤You’ve heard how it goes but I want to say that Jesus was willingly crushed for our sins. He drank from the cup of wrath appointed for us, in order that we might not suffer but have eternal life. Don’t take the Message for granted, but actually listen to Him. The Word of God allows us to have communion with His Spirit, giving us relief and resting in His grace.

True. “ why do you see the speck in someone else’s eye, and not log in your own?

@@clsieczka i had gotten to the point I was defensive at just about everything, I took most things personal. I’m just beginning to realize there’s a lot of times, even if it is personal I shouldn’t even respond when something is said. My response leads to them responding, than we go back and forth, I hate how that makes me feel. And I’m getting better about closing that door if they are toxic.

@@chaserofthelight1737 I was told “ don’t sweat the small stuff, and most of it is small stuff”. Think about it.

@@chaserofthelight1737 Good news that you’re at this point in thinking. Keep it going. Most battles aren’t worth getting involved in. Consider the source. Sadly, many don’t realize or ever get to the point you’re at.

@@clsieczka thank you for your encouragement, may you keep moving forward too.

If you don’t complain and don’t judge everything, you’re already living an ethical and good life or are on the right path to it.

@@Alex722 judging things that hurt people and not standing idly by while others hurt are required for an ethical life

@@vivianjahncke2140 Yes I didn’t say otherwise. I said not judging everything.

​​@@vivianjahncke2140I'll preface what I say with; I don't follow his content closely, but I already live by these principles because we're taught this in AA recovery. You can still live an ethical life and follow these principles. It's a question of control... A question of whether there is anything inside of your control that you can do to help. You mentioned, "standing idly by"... That means there might be something inside of your control to help a situation. If there is nothing you can do to help, zero actions you could take... Then why worry needlessly about it? Just surrender it to your higher power, and walk away from the burden of worry, fear, and stress. If there's an action you can take to help, then do that action... But you can still surrender the outcome to your higher power, and walk away from worry, fear, and stress... You know you did everything you could do, so you'll sleep soundly at night with a clear conscience. That's my two cents, and I hope it helps.

@@speedyllama8380 I feel there's almost always something you can do though, even if it's just complaining to someone who can do something about it, which is one of the things this guy says you shouldn't do.

These who always complain and try to change everyone learn and change nothing.

Dealing with when to complain and not is such a tough part of life, things that are wrong should be complained about if one believes they can make change but if not it’s probably not as worth it

@@baybears9507 did you even read OP's comment?

And in the end it may lead to you having more to do with it than you ever imagined. True to the motto: Stop the beginnings.

since one of the four virtues of stoicism is Justice, may want to consider it's not a "fuck you, got mine" kind of philosophy.

@@mouse9831 well it depends I have read enough stoics like Seneca, Marcus, etc... and it seems to me stoic ethics is concerned with individual ethics , not really in large social injustices, i have never seen a stoic commentary on any social issue of the time but all emphasis seems to be on the individual. So to me stoicism is lacking when it comes to ethics applied to society. Epictetus, marcus, seneca none ever criticize the state or laws or slavery or roman wars, etc... it kind of its implied they approve of it or at least do not oppose it.

@@Ash-so2sr they were right, ur wrong

@@pyr4625 congrats you get the most ret@rd3d comment award

Wait who's Karen 😂😂😂 jk

Number 6 STOP 🛑 making millions of women named Karen suffer abuse because of your Name calling

Thank you for this, I had the same feeling

This sounds silly.

No the perfect citizen is the complainer and angry man that is so self absorbed he never catches on that he is being fleeced. Look at MAGA.