STOP Reading Self Help Books, Read THESE Instead

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There are so many personal development books that changed my life, but after getting so many book recommendations and reading all of them, I started to realize that the best books weren't personal growth books at all - the best self help books are the ones that are foundational to improving ourselves but which aren't usually considered self improvement books. These top self help books are ones you'd least expect, but if you read these books FIRST, you'll find yourself far better positioned to actually use a lot of the information you learn in these books.
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00:00-00:27: Books you need BEFORE self help books
00:28-02:20: The book to help you learn faster
02:21-04:50: The book to help you spot BS
04:51-06:35: The book to help you deal with people
06:36-08:12: The book to help your professional life
08:13-10:31: The book to begin your self help journey
10:32-12:56: The most overlooked reading habit

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@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

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@JPsJacket 3 ай бұрын

Limitless by Jimi Kwik Being Logical by D.Q. McInerny Captivate by Vanessa Van Edwards Personal MBA by Josh Kaufman Psycho-Cybernetics by Dr. Maxwell Maltz For your reading list

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for listing them out!

@raquelfigueroa5539 3 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@RohiShetty 11 күн бұрын

@@raquelfigueroa5539 Thanks a ton!

@calonstanni 3 ай бұрын

"BEING LOGICAL!" that's what I'm gonna dive into first.

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

Well worth it!! Let me know what you think about it.

@salonibhagwani5976 17 сағат бұрын

Same here!!!

@jlevans1985 3 ай бұрын

I think another important component to this is understanding how YOU learn. something I did not ever know about until my mid 30s. For example, I'm a tactile and visual learner, which is why I get more out of videos, comics and taking things apart than I do from just reading something which is helpful but I just don't get as much out of. I think it was why I struggled with algebra in school as opposed to geometry which i can visually see or measure if I had the tools.

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

That's true - and actually that's why I really like the book "Limitless" - because it addresses those learning differences. That being said, learning from books in general is very limited. It's only when we apply the principles through real experience that we *actually* learn.

@salonibhagwani5976 16 сағат бұрын

Such a fresh perspective on self-help books and starting this book reading journey! Loved the video, keep making such informative and unique content. 👏

@stephenpetro411 15 сағат бұрын

Thank you - stay tuned for more!

@WilliamSai 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much 😊. Why aren’t there more people talking and sharing about this.

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

You bet! Stay tuned for more!

@ka-fa1500 Ай бұрын

Thanks to this video in this productivity rabbit hole i dont feel lost anymore

@stephenpetro411 Ай бұрын

You're welcome! Stay tuned for more

@LuffyPlus-01 28 күн бұрын

Completed limitless and Captivate got a lot to learn❤❤ thanks again

@stephenpetro411 28 күн бұрын

Awesome! Glad to hear! Keep it up 💪

@gatz900 12 күн бұрын

thanks for this video. I will definitely pick up some of these books if not all eventually

@stephenpetro411 12 күн бұрын

You bet! I'm glad it helped - feel free to reach out and let me know how it's going!

@MrTaserface 3 ай бұрын

thanks, i will check them out.

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

Awesome! Very much worth it.

@mohibquadri4053 3 ай бұрын

Top class analysis with pure facts !! Stephen how to you tackle information overload focus on 1 thing could you practically explain especially when our tasks are somewhat boring ..

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

Thanks! Could you give me an example of the task? That would allow me to help you better.

@mohibquadri4053 3 ай бұрын

@@stephenpetro411 While working in office where somebody/colleague is absent and we have to additional do their work of billing, designing, handling clients and also our own of drawing the site plans before visiting the construction work site..

@mohibquadri4053 3 ай бұрын

@@stephenpetro411 Yes while working in office where somebody/colleague is absent and we have to additional do their work of billing designing then site execution of projects our own work then of handling clients in limited time with full focus..

@mohibquadri4053 3 ай бұрын

@@stephenpetro411while working in office where somebody/colleague is absent and we have to his work of billing designing then site execution of projects our own work..

@CliffordTheCowboyCloser Ай бұрын

This was great brother! Thanks

@stephenpetro411 Ай бұрын

You bet! Stay tuned for more 😎

@jsil_ 3 ай бұрын

Amazing video sir, I'll definitely be sharing your information with my circle and looking into these texts that I'd once looked over. Also, thank you for also explaining the importance of the news. I used to always believe it to be nothing but propaganda and negativity, but there's far more to it than that, and I'm very glad you defined this. Very sound advice in all, subscribed!

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

I appreciate it - and more to come! With respect to the news, yes absolutely it's all about being an active learner and actively seeking out the information we want to stay up-to-date about instead of simply taking on a passive role with respect to news consumption.

@raynoldj 3 ай бұрын

Subscribed! I have many self-help books/audio programs but I still don't see any significant improvement in my life. Will be reading the books you mentioned in the video. Four of the books except Captivate are available in the local book stores in my country.

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

That's awesome to hear! Please let me know how it works out for you!

@shakazaiyah 8 күн бұрын

U need to read Mel Robbins ..and Eric Thomas ..

@erickmsaputra Ай бұрын

Limitless sound great! Thanks!

@stephenpetro411 Ай бұрын

It's SO helpful. You will get a lot from it!

@divyv20 3 ай бұрын

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@CHEWBBACAJHONSON 3 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

You bet!! Stay tuned for more!

@hugoantunesartwithblender 3 ай бұрын

Great video. On tge part how to deal with people i would say fiction books in general. There are so many studies that is almost a fact, creading fiction increase our empathy. And empathy, instintivly will teach how to deal with people.

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

I agree - and I have to admit fiction isn't something I generally enjoy reading, but I definitely should read it more.

@hugoantunesartwithblender 3 ай бұрын

@@stephenpetro411 Probably you havent find the fiction type you like more. Schools kinda ruined it because they give only boring books

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

@@hugoantunesartwithblender I agree that's probably the case. Thanks for the inspiration! Any fiction books you would consider your favorites?

@jrduarte99 3 ай бұрын

Some self help books are really good - the problem in my opinion is just when you start reading it as a hobby, always thinking that you need more books to solve your problems. It’s essential to find a balance between reading and practicing - actually a lack of balance, because you need to output more than you consume

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

You are 100% correct here - exactly. Real learning comes from consuming information, then action, then reviewing/consuming information, then action.

@eyerusm721 28 күн бұрын

Absolutely right ✅

@stephenpetro411 28 күн бұрын

@@eyerusm721 💯

@satoriandren 20 күн бұрын

Well said!

@SimGunther 14 сағат бұрын

That's such a good problem to have! That totally explains why I have such a problem reading self improvement books despite my deep curiosity in the subject. Maybe I'm past them to an extent since I'm so output focused, yet I'm watching videos from the original uploader here, so that must mean the final optimizations are being made to my newsletter curation 😅

@BookLover-gy6zr 2 ай бұрын

you deserve more subs for sure !

@stephenpetro411 2 ай бұрын

I appreciate that! I'm on my way!

@SriRam-ic2vg Ай бұрын

Thanks sir

@stephenpetro411 Ай бұрын

Of course! Stay tuned for more!

@seanslattery5952 3 ай бұрын

Serious comment and question: you recommend a book on good thinking (logic), but on your fifth recommendation you appeal to the celebrities of Robbins and Chopra, both of who are people who rely on illogical, un-scientific, even anti-scientific thinking? How do reconcile this? Thank you in advance

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

This is a great question! I am not a big fan of what they teach either, although many of their ideas have a foundation in scientific findings (i.e., we can trace the simplistic idea of "believe in yourself, and you'll succeed" to the well-demonstrated concept of self-efficacy in social cognitive theory). So actually, if I were to elaborate on that point I made in the video about Psychocybernetics, I believe this book itself to have many sound and legitimately useful claims, but much of what has come after it that expounds upon it has distorted much of it. I hope that helps!

@seanslattery5952 3 ай бұрын

@@stephenpetro411 cheers for the answer. Best of luck with your endeavors on KZfaq

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

@@seanslattery5952 Thanks! And if you loved this, be sure to stick around for more!

@jominksimon9296 29 күн бұрын

Which book you recommand as a starting point? I'm not a native english speaking person and have some difficulties to understand hard stuff. Please recommand....

@stephenpetro411 29 күн бұрын

Honestly, the first one I mentioned: "Limitless". Especially if you're currently learning English - the vocabulary isn't too complex, and it teaches you how to learn everything else.

@FlaschDJ 3 ай бұрын

Is your compensation enhanced when a viewer watches until the end?

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

Hmm interesting question: not directly. Maybe indirectly, you could say.

@Aj-fd4ne 3 ай бұрын

05:40 personality test is also bs but i think you are talking along the lines of introspection , empathy( getting in others prospective or shoe ) , game theory ( here in this context individualistic approach to external stimuli or subject or object to acclaimed internalised goals or prospects) , am i wrong here if so how and why , please also add ( plus english is my 3rd language so sorry if any mistakes and do point them out as it lead to improvement )

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

Hey great thoughts here! And sure! Change "prospective" to "perspective". As for personality tests, in practice, it is extraordinarily difficult to categorize personalities in a rigid way. However, the categories within the OCEAN assessment, specifically, have some usefulness for such things as (as you mentioned) understanding someone else's perspective and the way they receive communication the best. Overall, it's important to understand that many of these social models are tools that help us to a certain extent - but at the end of the day, we have to make sure we stay grounded and humanize the people we're interacting with.

@Aj-fd4ne 3 ай бұрын

@@stephenpetro411 ok so it just just here (big 5 test) as mental model for reducing human interaction complexity as we are limiting the variable to 4 rather than 20 or more factors while considering and respecting other people's personality . Btw ( for 1st categories i think how to read a book , mindmap , make it stick are great for learning how to learn ) once again thanks for the video

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

@@Aj-fd4ne Those are also excellent reads! And yes, exactly - it's limiting it to 5 factors. All models have their limitations. Thanks for sharing!

@omaralamad1701 Ай бұрын

Unfortunately non of these is available here in my country ( Jordan )

@stephenpetro411 Ай бұрын

You can get the ebook versions of most of them

@ratnakarmaurya3066 Күн бұрын

Found an Underdog channel!

@stephenpetro411 Күн бұрын

@@ratnakarmaurya3066 Thanks! Stay tuned for more 😎

@Telugumindset01 14 сағат бұрын

Before watching any self help video.. This is the basis for that self help videos 😊.. But could you suggest me some more good books on critical thinking..?

@stephenpetro411 14 сағат бұрын

Yes, that book by DQ McInerny is a great one for developing critical thinking skills because it lays out all types of logical fallacies to avoid. If you want to go more advanced, I have a whole video about Karl Popper's "The Logic of Scientific Discovery": kzfaq.info/get/bejne/rapnjcSnxLrHoo0.htmlsi=7-MSxcDxNZ2HkfMT

@MeghaParashar-o2g Ай бұрын

Sir please give me the link for your discord channel

@stephenpetro411 Ай бұрын

Hey there! It's in the Description section of this video, but I'll drop it here too: discord.com/invite/vZdjjGXXkz 😎

@consortiumexpert 3 ай бұрын

Do you have to go to school to be logical? You are overestimating the importance of formal education. What matters is education, not necessarily formal education.

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

If by "school" you mean "college," then no - not at all! You can be logical even without a formal education, of course. Critical thinking is a universal skill that everyone can learn, regardless of background. When I was discussing education here, my gripe was not about how you have to go to college, but instead it was about how lots of personal development content is actively anti-formal-education. Everyone's path is different, and it's ok! Regardless of formal or informal education, the point is simply "be educated!"

@consortiumexpert 3 ай бұрын

@@stephenpetro411 Oh, thanks for your response. I am subscribing now.

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

@@consortiumexpert Thanks for your support! Look out for my upcoming videos!

@LuffyPlus-01 Ай бұрын

The best video u will get on KZfaq to recommend u to best books u should read as a beginner or even as a pro telling after checking his 1st 3 books and following him as a new person. I just don't like the book logical thinking because i wasn't much understanding it

@stephenpetro411 Ай бұрын

Thanks for the compliment! And yes, that book can be very difficult at first. The way I recommend reading that one is to take it very slowly, section by section, and actually practice each principle by itself for about a week at a time with specific examples to fully internalize it.

@LuffyPlus-01 Ай бұрын

@@stephenpetro411 I was reading like 1 day 1 chapter 😂 like 40-50 pages of 159 page book that was the blunder thanks for ur help btw and keep growing and stay happy 😁

@stephenpetro411 Ай бұрын

@@LuffyPlus-01 Glad to help! You too!

@arthurwieczorek4894 3 ай бұрын

People in Quandaries, Wendell Johnson, 1946. General Semantics.

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

I will look into this! Semantics is an incredibly important field, especially given the work of Wittgenstein and the Analytic philosophers of the 20th Century.

@arthurwieczorek4894 3 ай бұрын

@@stephenpetro411 Let me jump you right into the heart of GS. Lee's Elucidation is: A finite number of words must be made to represent an infinite number of things and possibilities.

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

@@arthurwieczorek4894 From what I understand, it sounds like it could be related to phenomenology - or postmodernism? I'll have to look into it! But it sounds interesting.

@arthurwieczorek4894 3 ай бұрын

@@stephenpetro411 Rather than comment on a relationship between GS and P or P, let me send you down another road. GS holds that there is a distinction between language used as mere words and language used as concepts.

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

@@arthurwieczorek4894 On its face, I actually agree with that. I'm definitely eager to read it.

@anikatasnim6001 3 ай бұрын

Jim Kwik book recommendation, deal breaker. Guy offers a lot, says a lot of things, at the end of it you don’t learn anything new 🤦‍♀️

@stephenpetro411 3 ай бұрын

You really think so? I learned a TON of practical steps to take to improve my own learning, and they are still actionable steps I implement to this day. Any reason you felt it was not helpful?

@tonispark5626 2 күн бұрын

Have read Psycho cybernetics great book, but dont see why is not a self help book or maybe missed the point here, plus action is the step to take after reading self help books,,says me who still keeps reading other self help books 😂

@stephenpetro411 2 күн бұрын

@@tonispark5626 lol yes - we can definitely consider it a self-help book, BUT seeing as though almost all modern self help literature is based on this book (for instance, Tony Robbins took so much of his content from this), it's a much more foundational (and also science-based) read to start with.

@tonispark5626 2 күн бұрын

@@stephenpetro411 thank you and definetely a great book for improving one,s self image

@stephenpetro411 2 күн бұрын

@@tonispark5626 Exactly 💯 That's the core of all personal progress