stop wasting your single era

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stop wasting your single era

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how to THRIVE (not survive) in your single era 💘✨🪩
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0:00 - intro
1:22 self acceptance over self improvement
4:11 attachment styles
8:21 your standards don’t matter but your self worth does
11:35 people aren’t as put together as you think
15:18 work on your confidence not on your looks
18:21 being interesting over being attractive
19:28 outro
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@l4ur158 Ай бұрын

I think personally my desire to get into a relationship mainly stems from never being in one, not even a date, so it also partially stems from a giant feeling of curiosity too not just plain romantic desperation. i been trying to work on my confidence recently, i now dont really have trouble talking to people that much, although i still feel that i dont have too much to talk about unless it's someone i know well to delve into topics that they won't find boring.

@bby_olympias111 Ай бұрын

omggg frikkin sameee, you said it all to a T for me 😭

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

ooooh i agree with this too, i lowkey wanna see what it's like

@calistaj2284 Ай бұрын

I hear you. That's me too. I'm only 16 and I know everyone says but that's so young you have plenty of time. But people don't know what I go through. I see teen couples all the time. At school,at the amusement parks,on the internet and it already feels like I'm so behind and everyone's in a relationship but I have to remind myself such is not the case. Influencers say have standards,don't be desperate but how can you when you've never been in a relationship. Maybe I am a bit desperate but for a person whose never been in a real life relationship and seeing them constantly flashed before your eyes it's kind of hard.

@EvanKepler Ай бұрын

THIS

@herospeedy3174 Күн бұрын

relationships are like black magic to me, how does a girl get so interested in you or me that thay want to be in a relationship... thay is a spelling bee but fuck it 💅

@ryeofoatmeal Ай бұрын

I CLICKED SO FAST OMG I NEED THIS 💀

@lifeisthisway Ай бұрын

I feel so seen rn with over 200 self-improvement videos on my watch later playlist 👀

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

relatable 🤣 mine used to be 150+ back in the day

@calistaj2284 Ай бұрын

That's my problem. I had a goal for myself at the start of my junior year that I'd learn to be confident. But I put so much pressure on myself that now that it's summer and I'm soon to become a Senior I feel like just as much of a failure as I did last year.

@lifeisthisway Ай бұрын

@@calistaj2284 ikr, becoming confident feels like a never ending journey, i really hope consistency and patience will save us 🙏

@madizzen Ай бұрын

@@calistaj2284same girl same. i’m litteraly about to be a senior in highschool and had the desire each year to be in a relationship and often told myself that next year i’ll get a bf or be more confident and it’s just like not happening lol. i’ve never talked to a boy romantically, held hands, kissed,hugged and all that good stuff so it’s like so awkward and i feel like i’m just falling behind 😍

@Doraemon00912 Ай бұрын

Girl your biceps look damn toned❤😮

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

i am hench 😩 idk why i never go to the gym

@Dodohulahoop757 Ай бұрын

I’m 24 and I haven’t even been on my first date yet. It's challenging not to feel anxious when you've been single your entire life and all you want is to find someone to love and be loved by. I worry about ending up alone. At this point, I feel like I've over-improved myself.

@Supb-1010 Ай бұрын

I feel the same but idk I'm hopeless Romantic... Btw overly self improved ain't a bad thing tho? Maybe try to be grateful and enjoy the little things u do

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

girl, it's never too late. i always tell myself if you exist they exist. there's something looking for exactly the quality and traits you have 🦋

@bcn938 Ай бұрын

The self acceptance part was so refreshing to hear. We put so much pressure on ourselves and that's probably what is stoping us from getting what we want. Thanks for this video💕

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

so true 🥲

@calistaj2284 Ай бұрын

Also it's important to know that if some man can't accept you unless you act a different way that's not someone you want in your life. He'll cheat on you the instant you don't meet his standards and that's just not real love

@CaptainYaadie Ай бұрын

This is some good gender neutral advice everybody should take. I like self improvement as most men, but I think we can benefit from this viewpoint as well. I like it! I’ve caught myself being in some of those bad mindsets and it had definitely played a part in the end of my last relationship. Good video!

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

thanks yaadie!

@gamermapper Ай бұрын

I unfortunately kinda am wasting my single era. Not only an I single but also pretty lonely. And I have ADHD. So it's really not great. Sometimes for days I'm on my phone and even forget to eat. It's sometimes hard to concentrate when I'm not with others. I do try to go out and meet new people but often times I meet amazing new folks and then I can't spend so much time with them cuz everyone is occupied and on the phone. Meanwhile the only places where I can go to hang out actually regularly and socialise usually are places where you need to pay a lot of money to go to. Like the sports things. I hate this world and I feel lonely.

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

i'm so sorry u feel this way, it sounds like you're being really hard on yourself. you don't have to be perfect all the time or even most of the time. we should be allowed to exist and mess up. we are human after all. we all make mistakes + self sabotage :(( you're not alone in feeling like your efforts aren't appreciated, i've felt that way too, we just have to keep showing up, and keep being ourselves, so when the right people come around we'll be ready 🙏🏽 finding the right people is a game of patience i've noticed 🌿

@gamermapper 21 күн бұрын

@@ChristinaAaliyah I'm not wasting my single years anymore. I went to a summer camp. Even tho I'm like 20 ans most people were like 5 years younger honestly it was still just simply amazing and unbelievable and it's so cool and so much positive emotions it's insane man.

@armanibasi8702 Ай бұрын

Thank you for introducing the self-acceptance aspect, I never really considered it enough until now. Another video that's so helpful, thank you girl💕

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

You're so welcome!

@magueysunset Ай бұрын

I had to stop feeling sorry for myself and other. That meditation book called 30 Days to Stop Apologizing by Harper Daniels was helpful.

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

omg ill have to check this out

@alexe2980 Ай бұрын

Hey Christina ! I just wanted to leave a comment saying thank you for posting this video. I was feeling really down today seeing all my family members and friends getting into relationships meanwhile I have never been in one, this video really cheered me up and made me realize that being single for now is okay. A relationship won’t magically solve all my problems and I should be confident in myself before even thinking about starting one. ❤

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

literally!! you've got this alex ❤ 🥹i also think we can only really enjoy a relationship when we're fully happy + content with ourselves. if we still have anxieties and insecurities they can pop up and possibly self sabotage the relationship, & like you said being single means we can work on our confidence so when the time is right we are ready 💘

@murasakiusagi5124 Ай бұрын

There's also disorganized attachment (fearful-avoidant) a mixture of anxious and avoidant attachment styles, the hot and cold one

@AnnaGrace603 Ай бұрын

Girls listen up. I was despreadly in love with a man who strung me along, never comitted, cheated on me and dumped me. For a long time I was shattered. Then I decided to stay single. I discovered Tango. Fell in love with it and it became my new exiting life. I started acting. I got an exiting job. I started my self love yourney. My life is soooo much better! My standarts are so high because I respect myself and have clear boudaries. Bad men stand no chance. Use your single times girlies! Milk it for all its worth. Dont sit miserable at home....watching his social media and being sad and lazy. Laziness is a silent killer

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

Love this for u!! I'm all for people have a life outside of dating, via hobbies/fun activities!! There is os much more to life than people validating you on the dating apps 😭

@Harsheyyy Ай бұрын

Prove it in your actions!!!! THIS HIT ME

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

😮‍💨

@itzanaa1408 Ай бұрын

This is a great video analysis. It’s refreshing to see videos like this since there’s so many “self help videos” in KZfaq now days saying the same repeated advice when all we need to improve on is our own self acceptance than focusing 80% of the time doing self improvement

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

i agree!! some great creators out there but i feel like they all say the same stuff

@GeorgiaHiggs Ай бұрын

hey christina! i never comment on youtube videos, but i just wanted to hopefully brighten your day. you are one of my favourite youtubers and although this isnt relevent to the video i thought id say i really love your content, i am a very confident social person but i resonante with your videos still being an overachiever, perfectionist and hugeeee people pleaser. im working on myself and find your advice so true from the heart and so helpful and i wanted to thank you for giving it to the world. listening to you is addicting, you really speak with so much expression and if i knew you in real life i know we would click, you are the exact sort of person i want to be friends with, and want to be seen like to others. so thank you once again for everything you do you really do make a difference in people's lives, well done for all the growth you most definetely deserve and hopefully much more is on its way.

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

georgia!! you've literally made my day 🥹 not me tearing up over a yt comment 💀 thank you so much this literally means the world, just from this comment alone i know we would click too 😭 **the biggest virtual hug** 🤗 🤗

@GeorgiaHiggs Ай бұрын

@@ChristinaAaliyah virtual hugs back🥹🤗🤗

@kaitlyng7850 Ай бұрын

haven't gotten your videos recommended to me until today, and omg the algorithm never fails! I'm on a binge watch of your videos and honestly they help me feel soooo much better about dating and not being alone.

@miraysolen Ай бұрын

Your channel is the best REALLY.

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

you're making me shy

@ClaireLeslie-eu4tl Ай бұрын

So wise for your age

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

thank u Claire

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

@kkasiakk368 Ай бұрын

Christina you're a breath of fresh air, and I mean it. Thank u for this video, it's eye-opening!

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

you're gonna make me cry 😩

@swaymj6792 Ай бұрын

your channel is gonna keep becoming bigger and bigger bestie! you’re helping us all so much and so consistent. keep doing ur thing will forever support🙂‍↕️🥳☝🏾❤️‍🔥‼️

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

i love you

@sfmmmo7599 Ай бұрын

Girl, this is exactly what I need!! AHHHH 🛐✨️

@millysmanifestations Ай бұрын

i needed to see this TODAY, thank you universe

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

amen

@SparklyPsychic Ай бұрын

Gurllll I feel called out 😂😭

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

i'm just doing my job 😭

@celestinerarieya665 Ай бұрын

you are changing my perspective so much.

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

mission accomplished! hehe

@msdamiana1114 Ай бұрын

You’ve unlocked the cheat codes to life omg lol

@georginaaltmann7292 Ай бұрын

Thank you! Loved this video 📹. I needed to hear this. The algorithm. I agree it's a friendship with kissing and sex in my book 📙.

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

hahah this made me cackle, agreed

@ccclaudia8 Ай бұрын

Love you girl, thank you for this video from the bottom of my heart

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

likewise

@legendaryzebra95 Ай бұрын

Girl your channel is amazing!! Thank you for all these videos and the effort you put in each of them💗

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

thank you so much 🥹 truly

@oOOoOphidian Ай бұрын

I'm struggling to get through a recurrence of depression now, after one partner completely fucked with my head and then I dated someone who came on really strong but also seemingly healthier and it just didn't work out. I'm trying to attract a good partner and I think I am doing well with that, but I don't know how to hold someone's interest for long. I've been working on finding fulfillment in my own life but I can't help but compare how much better I handle life with a partner.

@ilosheher Ай бұрын

needed this video tysm manifesting the best things for you

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

thank u queen

@dlakey099 Ай бұрын

Thanks girl love all your videos you’ve helped me soo much luv ya ❤

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

i love u 2

@ellouisebadger849 Ай бұрын

Surviving not thriving in all aspects I'll be honest 🤣

@calistaj2284 Ай бұрын

People that are in relationships who give advice to single people are always saying you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else and I hate that quote so much. It's more easier for me to love someone else because they don't have the flaws that I have. While I do believe it's important to be confident in who you are and stable on your own I believe the saying can go both ways. You can love someone else but not love yourself because you obviously see them as perfect compared to yourself.

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

yeah it's a very popular quote and i don't think it's 100% true either. bc even in platonic or family relationships. for me, i know FOR SURE i love my mom wayyy more than i love myself. and i think my mom probably loves me more than she loves herself too. i think as long as you have some element of self love that's fine, you just need to start there. and it's very common for us to love partners, friends and family more than we love ourselves

@calistaj2284 Ай бұрын

@@ChristinaAaliyah Yes and loving others can remind you to treat yourself with the same love

@LOVEAapjes Ай бұрын

So smart yet so young. 💪

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

thanks :')

@scarlett9750 Ай бұрын

Eye opener video omgg

@umbra9029 Ай бұрын

I need this!!♡ omg are u stalking me? Like literally I was thinking about this

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

you told me telepathically hehe

@Jaxzyexe Ай бұрын

you're the realest person I swear, I'm sick of some of those content creators who has that unrealistic standards (⁠ ⁠；⁠∀⁠；⁠)

@MainlyInLove Ай бұрын

Thank you

@PresidentHeartbeat 3 күн бұрын

Just out of curiosity: you mentioned being insecure of your height, is it more like "I'm so tall, no one's gonna date me because guys like shorter girls" or more like "I'm so tall, there are so few guys above this height, my options are limited"?

@aaliyaa2550 Ай бұрын

You're missing a finger in your thumbnail! Regardless great videooooo

@Damngoodchicken_ Ай бұрын

😂😂

@RockingRebelYell Ай бұрын

Great video

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

thanks

@orlaneland78 Ай бұрын

Girlie can you make content for pre-meds pleaseeeeeee??? id love to know how you got into med school

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

check out my old vids! i made soooooo many

@khoakdoan Ай бұрын

As a male, please make more videos 😅

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

i'm here every sunday 😎

@noided5599 Ай бұрын

this is advice primarily for women and I understand that's your demographic. But as a man if you don't improve constantly and aren't mindful of your position in the hierarchy and constantly strive to be better, no matter how many friendships you have , you won't be able to get any romantic relationships.

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

hot take but i think self acceptance has to come in at some point

@khoakdoan Ай бұрын

Calling me out

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

doing my job 😎