Okay I’d also like to acknowledge though that sometimes it’s not you, it’s the group of people you’re with. Like if you’re trying to speak up and voice your opinion and get ignored by your group of friends multiple times like it’s an obvious pattern- they’re toxic. They’re the problem not you. They don’t care about you so stop wasting your time. I learned this the hard way. True friends help create a space where you can have a voice too.

thumbs up if you've ever been ignored in a group convo 🫠

honestly im glad im really social, i love redirecting questions to those that are more quiet because im sure they wanna be heard too

“You are not their Netflix” I love that

Liked immediately! “I have nothing to say” was always what I thought of in group gatherings

I’ve watched three of your videos and you’ve given the most authentic and sensible advice I have ever heard regarding social awkwardness!!! Holy shit thank you!!😂👍

ehh i dunno the only situations ive been in like these are groups i generally don't really like to begin with.

Ughhh I feel like I need to perform because then no one will think im interesting 😭 like how do i get people to like me if Im not interesting/impressive. Especially when everyone else seems to have something "interesting"?

Ahh I love your Channel. I feel like you are the antidote to my negative thoughts. You Get it. Thank You I didn’t know people also had these feelings.

Group chats, Group Texts , Never was a first picked until I gave my life to Christ cause he picked me first

Hey! So I am going to Uni next year and I met some new students at a pre-reunion yesterday. During the outing I kept thinking about your videos and trully, being confident was such a game changer. (Keep in mind I never interacted with strangers in such a lovely way) The way you talk and present yourself in your videos makes us all look so human at the end. So thanks a lot ♡

To everyone please be able to acknowledge when it may be ur friends who are the problem, through 2022 I was friends with this group who had technically known each other for ages and I was the ‘new one’ and i was basically ignored and they used to hang out in each others homes but always made dumb excuses like their parents only allowed those particular friends and they didn’t tell their parents about me and I basically used to walk home alone in the dark while all around me I could see friends talking and cycling and parents going on a walk basically people having fun.I developed serious insecurities and anxiety after that and became really quiet. Then in 2023 I found this rlly good group of friends but now I’ve shifted and I’m starting new and I really feel the urge to revamp how others view me now , lol they all probably think I’m an introvert but I just don’t know how to rlly open up to these new people, summer breaks getting done and I’m hoping to be a bit more outspoken than the the months of ‘bridgecourse’ I had in April.

omg i love your videos, the difference about you and other creators on this spectrum of confidence,mindeset,selfsteem and stuff is that you take things deeper , is a another level, make us feel seen

This vid deserves more recognition

I'd rather not communicate to anyone, I'd rather be invisible.

girl how do you only have 13k??? your content is so amazing, Ive been binge watching the entire evening

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literally love this video ❤

I really enjoyed watching this❤thank u very much I needed it

I don’t usually comment but this is the first video I’ve watched from you and your energy and advice resonates with me a lot! As an ex-people pleaser, ex-socially awkward and high achiever 😆 will have to watch more videos !

Love this!!!

Christina... I am literally crying as I am watching your video. Currently at good conversations are not your responsibility. It really hit hard.. Thank you so much.. ❤️

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It’s my first time seeing you in you tube and i absolutely love these videos especially about the confidence tips. Ur account is amazing 🤩

I just came across you, and you're amaziiiing!!

Today I tried to follow your tips a bit and my anxiety got so much better

I'd love more videos on people pleasing because as a recovering one that's what I struggle with the most. I'm in this in between where I want to connect with people again but I feel like everything I do/say is "fawning/pleasing"

Haven’t finished the video yet, but I’m very intrigued by what you’re saying. I’m a natural born people pleaser (not like traumatized into it or anything, it’s just genetic in both sides I think lol). And I smile a lot, definitely get that one from my mom. But I think there’s a difference between what I do and the “desperate” smiling at everyone that you demonstrated. Your smile and mannerisms came across as timid and almost embarrassed, and since you mentioned people pleasing, maybe subconsciously you did it to appear submissive or non-threatening. But I’m always walking confidently with my head up, and when I smile at people, it’s a genuine smile, sometimes with a brief wave and/or a hello if I am in a setting where I know lots of people and I’m passing someone I know. I think exuding real confidence + true friendliness is the most important thing here. So a smile that says “please don’t hate me” will be more off putting than a smile that says “I’m happy to see you.” Also I’m from West Virginia and it’s quite common for people to smile and be friendly here. But it’s also very common for strangers to stare (especially if you’re black in certain areas), so I decided to start holding eye contact and smiling at people until they smile back because I find it so irritating and rude. I don’t think they’re always trying to be, but I’m just like if you’re gonna stare at me, the least you could do is smile when I look at you! 😂 Anyways, that’s my take, I love to get anyone else’s thoughts!

I love your channel and I love the effort it's clear you put into your videos (editing, lighting, content etc)! So refreshing and you have such a good perspective on things. Thanks for the great video.

is there a chance you could do a vid about 1:1 conversation? note: your so underrated new sub!!! 💖

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I’ve seen a couple of videos on your channel and i think Is really good advice, I’m starting to see what can I do to become more social and share more with people as an introverted and shy person and you talk so clearly and things that are “real” I guess. I like it. Great content girl! 🫶

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omg i fucking love u!! def watching more of ur vids

I learn English whit this video.

I take your last tip to “stop caring” to mean ‘stop caring what people think of you’ not so much ‘stop caring about people.’ Since you mentioned not taking others people actions so personally, I think the first interpretation is more what you meant. Would you agree?

bro what if i smile a lot and i cant control it bc i just smile a lot or im just happy everyday😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

All the women dislike me because i am fabulous

why not smile at strangers? i didnt get that part

your videos are great and extremely helpful! but the constant dramatic sound effect makes it a little difficult to focus on what you're saying.

you're so beautiful. i just have to say.

but what happens if you genuinely don't feel like connecting with someone you've been assigned to interact with? like, you :have: to interact with them otherwise it will be awkward or its needed for work or etc? like, it always feels so performative and exhausting to me, it feels stiff and unnatural, and I feel like the other person can sense that in a way. I tend to close up when I don't feel the energy/chemistry/potential for deeper friendship with the other person because so many times casual talk and acquaintances drain my energy a lot as an introvert so if I see that I don't have a similar wavelength, I just know that the friendship wont go much further than casual talk and then never seeing that person again (happens from both ends because I stop 'performing' so its not entertaining enough for the other person to want to meet me again and I also don't end up creating a connection making me not want to pursue a potential friendship). Because sometimes you -have- to have these social skills, so how do you make it feel normal without making it feel like a performance? like you are the clown that :has: to entertain everyone always?

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Aaron Burr does not approve this message (the smile less part hahaha)

This channel is like my free therapy 🫶🎀💌

i’ve grown a lot on this in this area on my own but I loved all of the tips. super insightful and got down to the main insecurities that stop us from having good conversations. one of the best videos I’ve seen on the subject 🩷💕

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