"I was waiting for someone to come an protect me, and I realized the person I was waiting for was me" cut straight to my soul.

This resonated with me! “I no longer outsource my joy. I claim it. I seize it.” “Fashion is external validation but style is internal validation.” I so love this! It is true we do have to heal from within so that we get the chance to love ourselves and loving others can be an extension of that healing. Thank you for the video!

I LOVE when they said "I feel like I'm a polyglot of so many traditions, histories, and cultures" ❤ I have a very similar feeling. Parents are from different countries, I grew up in NJ and I live in Brazil. I feel such a connection to them

I am not homosexual, nor trans, and do not have this around me in my everyday life. I have a wife and 3 kids. That being said, I like Alok. I would definitely associate with Alok and appreciate you for who you are. I enjoy the fact that you are able to live your life the way that you feel is best for you, in a way manner that allows you to respect yourself and be happy.

It would be such an incredible world if we could all accept, display and love ourselves and others wholly as we/they are. Thank you ALOK for giving us this gift.

I was crying and tearing up through almost this whole video. What a beautiful soul.

Alok stuns me with the beauty of their words and their freedom. They're a beacon of hope and love and I'm so lucky to be alive when they are.

This is one of the best and most real videos I’ve ever on the topic of living in self-acceptance, love and freedom of expression. You can truly sense that all he says comes from a place of so much wisdom and strength and truth, acquired from living through the opposite and working his way through healing, reflection and choosing love. This honestly gives me so much courage to show my (dark, obvious) leg hair. I’ve felt for a very long time now that I didn’t want to shave my legs anymore, I’ve never ever ever truly done it for myself. I just cannot lie to myself like that, it feels like the weakest move. But judgement from others still terrifies me, so I didn’t show my legs if it was possible. Now I feel ready to start taking steps to embrace my leg hair and just wearing dresses without tights to hide my natural body behind. I know so many people are going to judge, and it’ll be really hard but I want to respond with love to those people, because love has the power to change. I mean years ago I still felt that it was “ugly” or “gross”! And I know so many people that are unfortunately brainwashed by western beauty standards to feel the same. I just hope that it might change peoples judgements and they start to open up to the possibility that it might be beautiful. They might be beautiful. We all might be fucking beautiful. Thank you so much from a hairy girl🙋🏻‍♀️

This is the most inspiring interview about style and expressing your true self that I have ever seen. Thank you so much Alok and thanks to all the lovely people behind the camera for making it possible for people like me to see and be inspired!

OMG !! Yesterday I thought "I would love to see Alok Vaid-Menon on Style Like U" and now - it is real ❤ My dream came true

Alok always expresses themselves so wonderfully!

Alok has a soothing voice with a soothing philosophy of life to match. The self-regard here is not only important because it exists for us to bear witness to but also because we have so much good to learn from it. Thank you, Alok!

so much love for Alok. gonna watch this again and again

This was so wholesome at so many levels. Alok radiates confidence in the deepest of ways - they're fully, unapologetically themselves, they went deep and went through so much pain and found a gorgeous treasure. What I cherish here is also their intelligence and gentleness mixed with assertiveness and confidence, which truly isn't the "diva attitude" we so often experience in the LGBTQIA+ community: it's the truest form of expression, being confident in who we are without the need to be harsh to others and their own journeys. Being confident, yet gentle and sweet. Being who we are by also taking care of who's around us. That's to me the most attractive trait: self-discovery that is never ego or validation-seeking, it's light for oneself and for others. Thank you for being inspiring, Alok.

Isn’t it absurd that *you’re* scared of colours?! In love with this way of thinking ❤ Power to you, Alok!

this just changed my day and mood around, i needed to hear this. i’m gonna circle back to this all the time. thank you alok. thank you for showing up in the world as who you are and not what conditioning wanted you to be.

Wow. I think I need to listen to this every day for weeks on end. There's so much truth and love here. Thank you, Alok, for being exactly who you are.

“I am the person I’ve been waiting for my entire life.” --> I almost burst out crying. Everything Alok says is such a revelation. They are truly, truly one of the greatest thinkers of our generation and I'm so glad I found them on Instagram. Also, I got major Ms. Frizzle vibes from the sweater with the planets. (Which is obviously a compliment because Ms. Frizzle is obviously a style icon.)

I will never get over the love and grace that Alok exudes. Such a beautiful human

I will use your interview for my patients who are traumatized and feeling they are not worth being. You are a great inspiration. Thank you.

This was so healing to watch. Ive been personally struggling with the concept of forgiveness lately and this interview really helped me to see it from a deeper place. I love the way it feels like Alok is rising above the confusion of other people (who dont even know who they are) into their own freedom of how they want to feel. I feel like this interview helped me see what is gained by forgiveness, the type of liberation and clarity that a person can walk on Earth with when they are not caught up by other peoples emotional and spiritual illnesses. It is extreme in this society how much so many people reject love and freedom, how attached they are to systems that eradicate the embodiment and expression of their true self and how they can feel so threatened by someone who isnt going along with that reality and is instead chosing love and freedom. There is so much deep life wisdom in this interview. Thank you for sharing this.

Every time I see Alok speak I am blown away by how eloquent they are. They also really speak to so much of the intersectional shame and the limitations we face in discovering ourselves. The systems of oppression. Our relationship with ourselves, with empathy. Just a really rich speaker / philosopher.

Alok is definitely a superhero, I can’t get enough of them!! Such an incredible human 💗

OMG. This interview is one of the best of this channel. Lots of wisdom, clarity, and joy. 🥰

I need a transcript of this! I heard so many things I want to make affirmations from. Beautiful.

“Why would I take my style advice from patriarchy?” Yes, yes, YES!!!❤

Listening to you speak felt like a lightning bolt to my soul - I cried. 💕 Thank you for being such a wonderful, colourful, marvellous, joyful beam of light in the world 🙂

"how do we find joy in those impossible places, and how do we live impossible lives...". This one profound person with a lot to teach. So glad this video came up today👌🏽. Bless you and be well always😁🤗❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍

What a genuinely beautiful human 💜 Alok is the kind of person that you would be so fortunate to count as a friend and to have in your corner. i wish nothing but happiness, joy, and beauty for them for all the rest of their days.

This interview is a gift to humanity, Alok is a gift to humanity. Thank you thank you thank you.

I wish I could be brave enough to be myself. Alok radiates strength, love and happiness and of course looks absolutely amazing ❤

Alok is insightful , deeply tuned in , brilliant in the way they discern their truths , amazingly vulnerable and outstandingly honest .

I must say this is probably the most liberating, loving, expansive, Authentic, joyous and Spiritual piece I have ever watched. This is a watch over and over again.🌺💯🎶🔥

I am just always in disbelief. I couldn’t admire a human more. The profound existence and space they seize in the world is so rightly timed. I’m just so thankful that they have such a reach for anyone who needs these lessons at healing and self-acceptance. Me included. Thank you, Alok ✨🥹 always a pleasure to experience your gorgeous personhood 💘

I feel like alok really saved me in the past year. My mental health got so much better since I listened to their interviews and tried to implement in my life what they are saying.

I love that this person is focusing on what makes them happy and not what makes other people happy. I feel like that’s a special kind of self-awareness and maturity.

This person is an angel of beauty! Thanks for this marvelous speech. The world need more courageous people like you! I learned a lot in this 15 minutes video! Thanks! I love you! ❤️

there are so few people older than me that I can look up to and that are further down the path I'm trying to walk. eternally grateful for alok, I know they change the world everyday by existing authentically and I will keep trying to do the same - so much love.

I just saw you perform in Vancouver at the Chan Centre- my husband and I are in mourning for my Mom and care-givers for my Dad- we are in deep grief. Going to your performance was the first fun thing we have done in months, and we almost didn't go. I'm so, so glad we did. It was life and joy-affirming. There can still be joy. Your message about how healing yourself can flow back to your ancestors...that was especially powerful for me in this current situation. Thank you.

I absolutely loved this. The amount of self-love and self-acceptance this radiates is touching to listen to.

This is so wonderful🧡🧡🧡 Alok has been such a light and inspiration in the last year for me. Loved to see this joyful and colourful interview. Also thank you to style like you for bringing the most wonderful and inspiring people to this platform! I feel so grateful and moved🥰

This person Alok literally said "There are no princesses, little girls are also kinky" when talking about the potential of people using the guise of being trans to enter women's spaces and abuse women/girls. STOP GIVING THIS PREDATOR A PLATFORM! You can literally Google this and find the full quote. Appalling. Alok basically said kids are not innocent and may be "into" any potential abuse. I will post this on every video I see with them in it untill people see them for what they are.

Thank you alok. You will never know the impact you’ve had in the world

This is something like i never have heard before. It almost seems like another language full of love ,compassion, and acceptance. I replayed so many parts of this video. I cant thank you enough for sharing your story and being brave enough to live in your truth so that us around you can find inspiration and empowerment in being ourselves 💗

"Maybe I'm someone who..." . I love this. It feels like an ability to open up a whole world of possibilities without it feeling too daunting. Baby steps to becoming who you can/want to be.

This is truly inspirational!

Its just fabric but people are so afraid of self expression that they lash out in violence

Nothing stays at the forefront of my mind other than Alok's words. Billions of people have got so much to learn from you.

Alok smashing it with the style, poetry and grace ❤

This feels like a reset for me

Their truth just poured out of them. Love love loveeeeeed this one.

This shook me to the core. They are such a light in the world. Their ability to put feelings I wasn´t even aware of into words is breathtaking. Thank you so much for this.

they are so gorgeous!

I love how they express their revelation of their true self as worthy of love. Beautiful.

I’ve had the pleasure to see Alok live once in Stockholm now and they are an absolute force of good to be reckoned with. I always feel so empowered after hearing them❤️

I cannot express how deeply Alok speaks to my soul each and every freaking time. What fullness in their words. Amazing amazing amazing. Thank you for having them again as a guest 💙✨💙

Everytime I watch interviews or poetry reads from Alok I question everything and I love it. Thank you Alok and StyleLikeU:)

Thank you for sharing Alok's deeply personal take on their style. I hope you continue to amplify South Asian voices that reimagine their relationship with their culture like Alok has done.

Alok has such a profound message, messages. I'm so glad I listened to them today, thank you.

This cut me to my heart in the gentlest, kindest possible way and I'm grateful for it

I love everything about this. Your words are so inspiring. Your soul expression is truly appreciated 🙏🏾

Right now at a time of self reflection and self deprecating, I hear this person and the wisdom starts in drops and then comes at me faster and faster until it's a flood of realization. I'm already free. Stay that way. Thank you

What a breathtaking interview. So much deep wisdom, joy and inspiration! Thank you Alok, for being ❤️

The amount of times my mind was blown away by his insight. Gorgeous soul !!! ❤

"you get to be free NOW" & "that's hardly being ALIVE, that's just existing" really hits hard

Life is the event. Amen to that, I'm happy I managed to understand that truth still relatively young.

They are speaking on so many important issues and themes. To me the biggest one is body hair!

You give me a new meaning of self acceptance and peace ,thank you Alok ❤ 🇹🇹🥰

They seem so smart and has such a beautiful soul. So much wisdom 🥰

What a well-spoken human. I want to listen to that beautiful voice all day!

You spoke to the bottom of my heart Alok, thank you so much.

I'm 50. I'm learning a lot from this gorgeous human being. These life lessons simply humble you down in the most graceful way! Thank you! ❤❤❤

I’m the person at the end who said “oh my god I think I’m gonna fall on the ground”😂😂 sooo well spoken and so good

Texas was your "Egypt". A lot of us live in spiritually INHOSPITABLE places. I'm glad you were able to escape and come to YOU, love. Congratulations ‼️😊 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Fabulous!!This is a great message, I stopped conforming to euro centric standards when I started my locs!!took years but I'm at peace now!

one of the most powerful interviews i have ever watched. thank you ! thanks for the work you have been doing so that you can share this message (these messages) today.

I am here for Alok. Everything is a pearl of wisdom.

They're so eloquent and they articulated so many things I've felt

That was amazing. That was literally one of the best episodes I've watched and one I identify with closely. I feel exactly the same way! Thank you for manifesting this and putting it out into the collective. I love you both!

Thank you for being so wonderful. This is such a great interview

Thank you so much, Alok, for generously sharing some of your story, your wisdom and your practice of finding joy in hard or (im)possible places 💖

This man is beautiful. Beautiful face, beautiful voice. The style is so creative, it´s like art

Thank you! I’m saving this video! Your insights are powerful!

I love you Alok! You are a Maximalist of the Soul. Merci d'exister!

once again, Alok is there at a time where something in me that feels like it was crushed is becoming a diamond

This might be the most important and healing video I've ever seen. Thank you. ❤

BOOM! What a powerful message. Thank you for what you do and who you are.

We all ought to be a lot more Alok.

Love, you just said exactely what I needed to hear right now. I'm so in tune with every single word you said, you helped SO MUCH with the processes I've been living and fighting you have no Idea. It's a short video that resouded gigantically and amazingly in me. I know I have so much to think and learn about myself after this. Your bare existance is helping people to survive so please keep being you. In fact, I thank your existance ❤️

"Heal" is the best style advice - & direction - I have ever heard.

Standing ovation!!! 👏 Thank you!! We think almost identically.

thank you for telling the truth and living for you 💖 It is so healing to witness and I’m so grateful to be alive when you are.

"What if..." is such a powerful question for bullying survivors. I LOVE this interview. ❤ School bullying isn't pranking, it consists of systematic crimes by children against children at schools and is a prequel to narcissistic abuse and bullying in adulthood. It MUST be addressed appropriately.

I could listen to Alok speak for days on end. Incredible.

As a brown woman with Indian heritage....I 💯 percent love this representation! I appreciate the whole you!

wow, such a great episode, I love Alok so much, they are always so full of wisdom and love.

The most eloquent person !! Could listen to Alok speak forever and beautiful fashion ofc

So much wisdom, I need to watch and listen multiple times over! Love them so much! What a gorgeous role model!

power-clashing yes that is my jam and now i have a lovable phrase for it 💗 thankyou, always, alok! edit: and tysm e & l for sharing xoxoooooooooooo to u 3

You have to have the courage to break your own heart in order to feel pain in order to heal. That’s really powerful. Fashion is how you look for others and style is how you look for yourself. Wow again. I’m really taking these to heart. Thank you Alon for being an excellent example of how to love yourself unconditionally