Swedish Death Cleaning vs. Decluttering With MOM

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@lisicius 2 жыл бұрын

Your mom is a movie star level beautiful and charismatic! And great sense of humour as well, you both have great dynamic together.

@user-hi8rg7bl2s Жыл бұрын

I was thinking same thing. A beautiful mum with a sense of humour and willingness to grow. A lovely grandmum, too. :)

@maureeneverson383 2 жыл бұрын

Yay well done ladies. I’m nearly 70 and have been doing this for a few years. I no longer save clothes, glassware and dinner services for best, I use them, anything which has not been used in 12 months goes to our local charity shop for someone else to make use of. Xx

@PenMom9 Жыл бұрын

Love it! I’m starting at 55. I think it’s easier to be less emotional about it when not immediately faced with a forced/essential move.

@kaseyjondahl7979 2 жыл бұрын

your mom is just the best! I can't wait till she has some more decluttering she wants to do lol

@susannovak8263 2 жыл бұрын

I am Swedish and I helped my grandmother with her “Swedish death cleaning“ 55 years ago when I was 15. Maybe the concept became popular just a few years ago, but this has been a practice of ours for generations. I always enjoy seeing your mom in your videos! Beautiful lady

@user-wp7zn8ii5u 10 ай бұрын

The mom and daughter relationship is what is so wonderful about your videos. I was with my elderly mother (who had very bad eyesight) shopping for a light fixture for her home and I was describing the light fixtures to her and we were both laughing and the store clerk said "you two are adorable together". That was 24 years ago and I still remember that moment. You and your mom are adorable together.

@gailtester8749 2 жыл бұрын

So fun! I am 66 and although I've never read the book about Death Cleaning, I definitely have it in mind as I de-clutter. My parents did not de-clutter and clearing out their stuff is when my minimalism journey took root! I don't want my kids to have to take that on! Your mama makes me lol!

@jeanmcgahey1143 Жыл бұрын

Oh my word you ladies are hilarious. I love my socks too. Hiking socks sneaker socks work socks tennis socks boot socks.... 😂

@rajeshwarihemmadi3229 2 жыл бұрын

When I see u & ur sweet mother Declutter... , I remember my decluttering day with my mother... same happy , sweetness in eyes like ur mother... no my mother is 91. & paralysis stroke ..now I kind of try to search my mother .... now I need to Declutter again ..finding self lonely.. ur videos r soothing as well as emotional too for me God bless u all

@mrsjulie11 2 жыл бұрын

She is hilarious 😂 And I love how women in our mom's age range decorate their houses, it's homey and elegant at the same time and the furniture is the real deal!

@Debbiesdilemmas 2 жыл бұрын

I’m going to have my mom watch this video. She is 84 and I’ve been bugging her to start decluttering her condominium. I’m the only child and I just can’t go through all of her things. I don’t have good health and I’m already drowning in my own stuff. Maybe this will give her a push although we have been discussing it more lately.

@deidremoon2690 2 жыл бұрын

Maybe if you start decluttering your own stuff it will motivate your mom to get to hers, although she may need more help with hers (at her age)

@cristaltownsend5605 Жыл бұрын

Good luck.

@sonyachavez8032 2 жыл бұрын

I enjoy watching you, and I really enjoy when your mom is on with you. She's such a sweet and funny person. I know you appreciate her!

@adhaincroi Жыл бұрын

Your mom is a treat lol. She and my mom would get along. My mom told us all to come and get our crap, then she downsized everything else and moved into a tiny one bed one bath. She kep a few decorative items and paintings and her art supplies. She says she's never been happier.

@mahuabhattacharjee2262 Жыл бұрын

I am 35 yr old single woman and started the Swedish death cleaning in 2022. I was a hoarder ( I used the word collector for myself) I have a lung condition and while I might not die immediately, It is overwhelming to keep track of stuff. I literally want to breathe easy...lots of stuff more to declutter including endless flower pots and dying plants. Just putting it out there, ypu are never too young for the Swedish death clean. Love and power to anyone who needs it out there..

@isabelkassan5244 Жыл бұрын

That quantity certainly gave me hope! My dear mum left little notes that I even find now! 30 years later! I am very slowly doing it!

@patriciarouse2801 2 жыл бұрын

One of the most powerful moving creations I happened upon : a rosary made from a mother's jewelry. May this inspire descendants of any mother/ father a means to make profound the personal items of beloved.

@Beverly2020 Жыл бұрын

So much like my daughter and me. Love the laughter. I also try to make her want things I’m throwing out 😂

@marthaandrade2585 Жыл бұрын

Im a single mom with a teenager. I live in S. CALif. . Fatal accidents daily. So I started to think if I pass my son and his aunt will be in charge of getting rid of sooo much stuff. So I started to declutter. Now we are living as minimalist. And so happy I also have a bigger savings account. I hated getting rid of clothes that still had tags on them, and kitchen gadgets that I don't use anymore. Shoes never been worn, but they were on sale. But I did this because I was thinking of my demise, there is no age for death, so folks let's love our loved ones and not leave them another burden during there mourning time.

@shannontorrens1 Жыл бұрын

Yes! I agree so much about this. Also by dealing with all this extra stuff in our lives now it makes daily life much more enjoyable too. I hope you have a good day.

@holly5791 2 жыл бұрын

I wish I had a daughter to help me. By the time I was 65, I was already disabled. I would move that time frame for Swedish Death Decluttering back to maybe 60. I am on my own with a 2 story house to declutter and it's barely happening. It is so good to see the two of you, working at this together. One day, Shannon, you won't have to wonder IF(?)

@laura6796 Жыл бұрын

Your mom has the best sense of humor!!

@lauramatsuyama9742 Жыл бұрын

Your Mom is back at it! If you ask one person to declutter with wouldn't be her...!! there's always a laugh in there somewhere and that is how the job moves faster. Way to go on all those things your guys are able to get gone.

@shannontorrens1 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Laura! It's all about having fun when you can. =)

@MelindaPlainandSimple 2 жыл бұрын

Shannon, I know you aren't commenting or monitoring comments any longer, but I just have to say...I was already smiling throughout this video, but by the end I was laughing so hard my eyes were leaking. You guys are so cute together. Your mom is my kind of goofy and you're my kind of sweet. Thanks again for a great video and for sharing your knowledge and experience.

@rebeccarendle3706 2 жыл бұрын

I love Swedish Death Cleaning... I used it last year in lockdown to go through my sentiment stuff again.. I always asked "if I died tomorrow, would I want my family to see/read this?"... My answer to old Diaries and letters was generally "no way".. It helped me decluttering 95% for my sentiment diaries and letters. Zoom in on the letter in German.. I can translate it for you🤗

@marilyn48ful Жыл бұрын

Omg! I just found this show on Peacock, it made me smile and cry. I realize I need to get rid of a lot of junk in my house.

@Debbiesdilemmas 2 жыл бұрын

I wish my in-laws had known about this although I’m sure my mother-in-law would have thought that we’d want all of her things. We inherited so many little figurines and they’ve been in a box since 1999. My husband is a bit of a hoarder and cannot get rid of things for sentimental reasons. I cannot understand that way of thinking anymore especially when things have been in a box for over 20 years and could be there for another 30. Through watching minimalism videos I realize that we still have the memories and don’t need to hold on to every little item that is sentimental. I may keep a few very special items but I can declutter the majority. I’m in the mindset now thinking ahead for my son. I’m sure he won’t need or want my high school yearbooks, etc. I don’t want him to have the same burden that I have.😩

@melissagladstone5968 2 жыл бұрын

I went thru my mom's highschool yearbook when I was younger, looking at the pictures and telling the stories. I expect she'll have it down to me and it'll be a great way to show my kids how their grandparents generation went to school. You'd be surprised the things of your's that your kids will cherish

@BullyPorterJones Жыл бұрын

Becky here - been decluttering for some time now…if the kids don’t want it, I can’t sell it, it gets donated. Glad seeing my kids get some of the family items from their Grandparents…

@nlgb4202 2 жыл бұрын

What a great explanation of the difference between Swedish Death Cleaning and de-cluttering. I've had so much trouble de-cluttering, but if I begin with the Swedish Death Cleaning mindset, I think that will help me over the hurdles! Thank you, and thanks to your Mom!

@WendyBWilde 2 жыл бұрын

Children and relatives often JUST DON'T WANT THIS STUFF. I've had great experiences donating through the Mormons. They have resale shops but also seem to be able to move less saleable stuff on to needy people. I am not Mormon myself but I have found this method to be so helpful and satisfying for the last few years.

@alsoarod 2 жыл бұрын

How lucky your mom is to have you help her out with this! You're having so much fun, both of you! I'm over here by myself trying to get the same thing done in my dog is so bored with me…

@cindym6138 2 жыл бұрын

I'm 67. I started this process 2 years ago when my mom passed. I knew that I didn't want to leave the burden of my 'stuff' to my only child. I've given so much to family members and found organizations that will give things directly to people who will benefit from them. This week I have been working on the final load that I will take to a resale shop. I had a tall bookcase that I repainted and have limited myself to only keeping the mementos that are important to me. I also bought a label maker and attached comments to alot of items. Clearing it out is a wonderful freeing feeling. Wish I had done it YEARS ago.

@JaniceHylton 2 жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed this video. We've been decluttering and just putting our stuff on the lawn for others to take, and they're usually gone in hours.

@mmulligan7360 2 жыл бұрын

I could watch you and your mom declutter all day 😀 great job ladies 💕 Your bloopers at the end were hilarious😂

@cindywilkinson1610 2 жыл бұрын

This was delightful to watch. I too have 6+ beach towels I never use and dishes from older generations that I've been storing for decades.

@susan5661 2 жыл бұрын

Great compare and contrast. I had not thought about what is different with Swedish cleaning. Very thoughtful

@danabrown2391 2 жыл бұрын

I can't wait for your next declutter with mom video; they are the best! The two of you together are so much fun!

@dawnkelly7648 2 жыл бұрын

The bloopers at the end were so funny!!! You're mom cracks me up!

@QualeHouse Жыл бұрын

Your mom is the cutest!! She’s so much fun!!!

@mariatheresaevangelista7818 Жыл бұрын

i love your mom... she has a great sense of humor and charismatic

@joycedykes5364 2 жыл бұрын

I did a death clean of my house last year, having time on my hands, during lockdown & it has been really uplifting. Your video today reminded me as to why I did it in the first place (not to burden my children with the job after my time). Your videos are full of good advice & you are a such a great role model to your children. Thank you Shannon. Love from Wales x

@psymompa 2 жыл бұрын

Wish my parents had done this.

@mrsgbracing6012 2 жыл бұрын

You two are so cute…relieved some of my anxiety about some of the decluttering I need to do after being death cleaned on.

@Lglandorf6 Жыл бұрын

I love how you two have so much fun! I wish I had my mom around to do my Swedish death cleaning. She would have fun making fun of what I have around here. I sure miss her and her sense of humor. She had done a great job of getting rid of stuff before she passed. Being from Finland, I wonder if that had anything to do with it. She started getting rid of stuff probably 30 years before she died. My husband would walk into her place and announce, "We are here to visit. We are not taking anything home with us."

@shannontorrens1 Жыл бұрын

Oh your husband sounds very funny! That is something my husband would say too. I hope you are doing well.

@Lglandorf6 Жыл бұрын

@@shannontorrens1, yes, doing well as I am working on getting rid of stuff so my daughter doesn’t get frustrated with me when I am gone 😊

@Nessa___ Жыл бұрын

I want to do this with my mum so bad. She’s a hoarder of keeping so much unreasonable stuff for the sake of it. She even has books she’s read and kept 20+ years , dvds for my kids that they will never watch. And like 100s of clothes she will never wear. She’s 62 so it has to be done.

@poppylove3673 Жыл бұрын

You guys are so funny together!

@glendajorde9062 2 жыл бұрын

I just love your Mom's fun loving personality

@vivianhudacek1556 2 жыл бұрын

Just revisited this video for motivation. Y’all are so cute! Your mom & I have similar inventories> :).

@shannontorrens1 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 🤗

@joycemechaber5819 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful! I started this when I retired. Pictures were hard but my son said pictures I love will not mean the same to family members left behind. So true. I also declutted deordant I had bought when on sale and realized they had outdated. Now I buy small travel size and replace more often. Linens also seem to multiply so I keep ony three sets...one being used, one clean and one for guests. Probably could get rid of towels for guests,

@wandrousvindella716 2 жыл бұрын

Love your mom! I would never have gotten thru my 10 closets when downsizing~ She and I would be having too much fun~ But seriously everyone should do the Swedish death cleaning. Give things away now that others want and enjoy what is really special to YOU!

@jmsoffice8961 2 жыл бұрын

My Swedish grandmother has been death cleaning for over a decade now. Probably two decades! I love to hear the stories of the items she gives me. And she is sure to note that if I don’t find use for it, it’s totally fine to pass it along to someone or somewhere else

@flexkitten 2 жыл бұрын

Omg your mom needs her own channel!

@donnamanitu8673 2 жыл бұрын

I am so blessed because it was my Dad who suggested that we start going thru things to make the transition easier on us when he passes. We have given many things to charity and lucky to have a recycling center that takes all electronics and cleaning items etc for free. I found some cleaning items that are from at least the 1970's so I wanted them to be disposed of properly.

@gapeach51170 Жыл бұрын

My dad is 80 and he did this last year. I have my mothers (who passed in 2001) vintage ceramic Christmas tree that I have put out and LOVE the last 2 years and a vintage cowboy hat that my dad bought and wore when we lived in Wyoming (that was 42 years ago) when he worked at a Western store. I love both items and they don't take up a lot of room.

@shannontorrens1 Жыл бұрын

That is awesome! Those sound like sentimental items that would I would also keep ❤

@miarchey Жыл бұрын

Great video - good information, but the BEST was the outtakes at the end! Your mom is hilarious and it reminded me of the fun, silly times I used to have with my mom. Thank you!!

@margaretd2924 2 жыл бұрын

Your mom is the best! I love watching the two of you together. ♥️

@kellyhudspeth1736 Жыл бұрын

This is the best and so very encouraging to those of us who need these tips.

@HibiscusHigh 2 жыл бұрын

What a sweet and hilarious mama.

@serendipityshopnyc Жыл бұрын

The bloopers are at least as good as the main show! You might want to include more of the joking around in the main part to lighten the mood.

@monamorgan8614 2 жыл бұрын

Wishing you a bright and happy Christmas and a Happy, healthy New Year

@DemetriPanici 2 жыл бұрын

I love this style of cleaning!

@caw7007 Жыл бұрын

Excellent comparison! Thank you! Last week of Dec Is my declutter/Swedish death cleaning week. This video is helping me psych myself up for the emotional choices. 💖

@shannontorrens1 Жыл бұрын

Hi Cathy, I hope it's helpful =)

@caw7007 Жыл бұрын

@@shannontorrens1 it already is! I’ve watched it twice to get it in my head! A long time friend is coming to help me. 💖

@MOTHCAT3o4 2 жыл бұрын

When removing the red chair from the living room all I could think was how does her mom keep those white carpets so clean! Lol

@nlgb4202 2 жыл бұрын

GMTA... so was I!!! LOL

@angelfain8040 Жыл бұрын

I am 51 years old, and my husband passed away back in October at the age of 53, since then I have started Swedish Death Cleaning, I just don't need as much stuff as I did when he was alive. I have not read the book, but I plan too, but I am getting rid of stuff like crazy.

@cindynielson4231 2 жыл бұрын

You and your Mom are so funny together. Her sense of humor is priceless. I just turned 61 and really want to decrease my inventory as Minimal Mom would say. TFS 🤣🤣👍👏🥰

@mollyeason8795 Жыл бұрын

Your mom is hilarious! I loved the bloopers at the end!

@shannontorrens1 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Molly!!

@janetta5827 2 жыл бұрын

Always enjoy your videos adding your mom in is a great bonus. But let's talk about those bloopers.....mom your hilarious and so fun I was cracking up.😆 I too love hanging out with my grown children. You are both so blessed.

@laurabotts4064 Жыл бұрын

Your mom is cute and funny. Nice to see mother and daughter have fun together.

@fiddlejillm 2 жыл бұрын

i really appreciate you explaining the difference between these two methods. I've read books about both methods, but this was really helpful. It's also given me an idea for decluttering my own journals, while still preserving one source that my kids could one day read and get a glimpse of my life without also getting all the private thoughts and details!

@shannontorrens1 2 жыл бұрын

I love that idea of keeping parts of journals and getting rid of the private things, thank you for that idea =)

@orlahayes6943 Жыл бұрын

Your mum is FAB-U-LOUS! I love her :D

@LindsayDroke 2 жыл бұрын

Your mom seems so fun and full of life!

@cornwallsharon81 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve recently been helping my mum declutter photographs. And as a result, for my Xmas present this year I’ve asked her to put together a small photo album of family photos - but crucially with ANNOTATIONS! So not only “this is Uncle Ron”, but crucially “and he was your maternal Grandad’s eldest brother”. Because otherwise when she eventually goes I won’t know who any of the photos are of. There were a large number of photos we got rid of because my dad and gran are dead and we needed them to tell us who/what the photo was of. Side note: your and your mum are adorable and hilarious! 😂

@AbideInMeToday 2 жыл бұрын

I just turned 63 this past Oct 30. I started decluttering in 2014 when we were planning on moving house. We ended up not moving - but I had been bitten by the decluttering bug! By the time I was finished, I'm sure the neighbors thought we were moving house lol! Just call me Ruth Less! Something I discovered - my grown children do not want ANY of my crap....including the boxes of stuff I saved for them from their childhood! Only ONE of my children wanted their 'Baby's 1st Christmas' ornament! I've already gifted my (real) gold jewelry to my girls.

@MsBettyRubble 2 жыл бұрын

I've been decluttering since I was 10 as a reaction to my mother's hoarding. So many of my American friends are afraid of death; I think it's why they think it's sad or morbid.

@marumariful 2 жыл бұрын

Your mom is such a beautiful person! Thank you, this video made me so happy! God bless you, your family and everyone who is reading this comment, amen 🙏🏼❤️

@jandramardges3368 Жыл бұрын

We are 85 and 82 and have been “death cleaning” for five years……though I never knew there was a book about it. Just common sense to us. Each child has come and hauled away anything they wanted…..we have given things to grandchildren too and are now down to what the youngest grandchild might want as she is only 13 so we are trying to pick out things we hope/think she might want after we are gone. When we asked her what she would like she immediately pointed to all my sea shells which made us laugh. We have some beauties and she played with the smaller and less expensive ones since she was very young. Also, we have simplified our estate in such a way there will only be two children involved in the ridding of the household items left so they can keep what they want and just give away or sell the rest.

@danixoxo8637 2 жыл бұрын

I too have a lot of socks but it's really about your life style and work. My feet get cold and have a predisposition for athletes feet so I must change them and I wear them until the end of their life

@jeannecharlson9678 Жыл бұрын

I absolutely loved watching these videos. The laughter and joy that your Mom and you shared was so wonderful to see. Hopefully you will save these videos for years to come so you are reminded of these wonderful times!

@shannontorrens1 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

@jlw1524 2 жыл бұрын

You and your mom are adorable!!

@sandhunt9989 2 жыл бұрын

I rarely comment on videos, but I just gotta say I thoroughly enjoy watching you and your mom. I was literally laughing out loud. Thanks for letting us share in these little highlights of your life. ❤️

@vivecah6011 2 жыл бұрын

Just love ur mum so much. I cud waqtch her more. She is so real. Thanks for sharing. Great video.

@sofieplasman3379 Жыл бұрын

A mum in 100 000 ❤ you have a real nice connection . Your mum is funny en so happy. A bright light

@donnagrifford7142 2 жыл бұрын

Ur Mom is so beautiful! I so enjoy watching Ur relationship with her! I treasure the fun times n relationship that I have with my 2 daughters! There's Never a lack of crazy silliness n joy! No matter what we r tackling! Laughter makes any job or task more enjoyable! 🥰

@agiulian8710 2 жыл бұрын

Such a great idea but I don’t think I’ll wait until I’m 65. Your mom did such a great job.. I luv her energy❤️

@kcadra2771 2 жыл бұрын

That was so fun watching your Mom. Good times together doing drudging job

@carolynhiscock9457 2 жыл бұрын

I’m surprised you get so much done ,with all the laughs with your Mom.

@alexisquinn2784 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Shannon for your insightful approach to multigenerational decluttering. Your down to earth and positive attitudes shared between your and your charming mother sets a wonderful example for how others may approach what, for many people, is a taboo subject. You are a highly skilled communicator and a caring daughter. What a winning combination. I am sure many viewers would love to see a complete series and perhaps a collaborative workbook or guide demonstrating how you and you mom have learned to worked together so effectively. Thank you.

@gabbydithy1234 2 жыл бұрын

Your mom is a gem! You're lucky to have been raised by such a beautiful person!

@irenehinojosa6629 2 жыл бұрын

Way to go ladies!

@katiegilbert1131 2 жыл бұрын

This may be the best decluttering video ever. Love it. I will have to watch it over and over to motivate me.

@sharonshmuel3386 2 жыл бұрын

Shannon your Mum is hilarious 😂 loved this video - I am almost 63 & started Swedish death cleaning last year - so refreshing to get all the unnecessary stuff out of my apartment lol 💖🇮🇱❤️💝

@conniemiller1232 2 ай бұрын

You two crack me up! I love the special relationship/friendship that you have with each other. 😊

@susanstrong4277 2 жыл бұрын

What a fun mom you have!!!

@yolandapagan5656 2 жыл бұрын

Your Mom is a hoot. I really enjoyed how much fun she was having during the “bloopers.” Great job clearing out her house. You’re a great daughter!!

@QueenD75172 2 жыл бұрын

This is a great video. Thank you for explaining the difference. I am 47 yrs soon and I am on a good road of my version of minimalism. I think that is a great starting point for the swedish death cleaning at some point.

@m.harris2429 Жыл бұрын

I loved this…your Mom is awesome. I’m going to ask my daughter to “Swedish death clean” with me. Thanks for posting.😊

@tammyi363 Жыл бұрын

Enjoy watching you and your mom. I’ve been binge watching while cleaning out my wardrobe (3rd time in 2 yrs). Your mom is awesome!

@queenvalentine7944 2 жыл бұрын

I just love watching you two together!

@chloeruegg2352 Жыл бұрын

Watching this again, Shannon, because I find this one of the best videos and I needed some reinforcement. Always love when you’re mom is included too. Hugs to you both today.💕

@judyellen4412 2 жыл бұрын

I gotta say it again...I just love seeing your Mom in your videos with you.

@angeliegreen8915 2 жыл бұрын

Your mom is so fun to work with....it just makes me smile as though I was with you guys....

@judylloyd7901 2 жыл бұрын

Your mother is so hilarious! What a fun video. You look as though you have fun together 👍😊😊

@dina3396 Жыл бұрын

Your mom is so funny😂. Together you look like you both are having fun. Makes me miss my mom😢. Thx for video. Im definitely going to declutter my house when I'm done clearing out my mom's. She passed away in May & I'm still clearing her house here in July. Dont want to do that to my 2 boys when I pass. ( years& years from now 😊)