Wedding Ceremony vs Real Marriage | Fridays with Tab and Chance

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Ай бұрын

Todays episode we are talking about the difference between a wedding ceremony and theatrics vs actual marriage. Marriage is a beautiful thing. These days with social media it seems more people are focused on the how the wedding ceremony looks and are spending less time planning and focused for their marriage. Do you agree? Lets get into it!
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Tabitha Brown is the world's favorite mom and auntie! She is an Emmy award winning show host, actress, a 3-time New York Times Best Selling author and a 4 time NAACP Image Award winner. Follow Tabitha Brown: / iamtabithabrown
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@charityskidd Ай бұрын

Our generation needs way more videos on marriage more of these please

@Li-Anderson Ай бұрын

This is so true......

@ryawilliams8445 Ай бұрын

I believe they exist because people are being more transparent. But will people listen to the honesty?

@SummerTyme728 Ай бұрын

Agree… 10 years in and the strugggglesss are struggling

@sweetvictory89 Ай бұрын

I agree

@feliciaallen Ай бұрын

Yes God

@izmane Ай бұрын

Thank you Chance for airing the fact that we as a community need to attend to support the couple and not come just to eat at their expense. We need to change the narrative and financially support couples with a good start.

@millicentgray739 Ай бұрын

Marriage is work!!!! If you are not willing to serve one another it will not work.

@sonyalambcomer1369 Ай бұрын

Say it again, Sis, for those in the back! You both have to be willing to put the work in order to have a successful marriage.

@RicardoCray 8 күн бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@winniewalker4402 Ай бұрын

Married 33yrs and things change everyday. Keep growing and finding different things about yourself.

@tamcole4463 Ай бұрын

Marriage ain't for the weak

@PrincessPink-is6kf Ай бұрын

It’s me, I’m the weak 😂. I know I’m not getting married

@BroadWayJazz120 29 күн бұрын

@@PrincessPink-is6kf🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@sunshineb-d5006 27 күн бұрын

No it's not I've been married 30 years.

@KimberlyCraig60 29 күн бұрын

My uncle and aunt said my husband and I were to young to be married and was having too many babies (that they didn’t have to care for). July 8 it will be 46 years, 3 sons, 3 daughters in love, 8 grandchildren and 1 great grandchild. Our marriage has never been stronger.

@umiiyabode Ай бұрын

I just love y'all! This from two 70 year olds that have been married for 50 years, great conversation!

@GetfitwithSandi129 Ай бұрын

Exactly why we didn’t have a “huge” wedding because ppl just come to eat,drink, and judge. No ma’am no ham no cheese!

@carlaborens4004 Ай бұрын

😂no ham no cheese

@Ami-ml7gp Ай бұрын

Exactly this. We had a small church ceremony --immediate and church family only with no pomp and circumstance. Someone later asked when we were going to have the bigger, more extravagant ceremony. I proudly told her never, that's the ceremony we wanted. ❤❤❤

@teresamcknight5075 Ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@BroadWayJazz120 29 күн бұрын

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@diamondunicorn2421 28 күн бұрын

Yes ma’am! Tiny ceremony here! As well!

@jasminecarter8998 Ай бұрын

Exactly! My husband and I got married with just the 2 of us by our pastor. We didn’t tell anyone and when our families found out almost no one even congratulated us. Think I’m planning a ceremony and reception now? I’m not! 🙅🏽‍♀️😂

@michelletiaraharris 29 күн бұрын

Congratulations sis, I'm sorry family didn't congratulate y'all. Praying God bless your union

@ndominique32 29 күн бұрын

Congratulations on your union…Truly sorry that your families didn’t support you. Hopefully, with time they’ll come around.

@charityskidd Ай бұрын

Next y’all should do a signs your ready for marriage vs signs your not ready

@janaj9798 Ай бұрын

This is a great idea!!!

@MomentswithTiffany Ай бұрын

I agree!

@TheDjGrateful Ай бұрын

Great idea fasho

@courtneymoore9904 28 күн бұрын

Love this idea!

@florencemartin6137 Ай бұрын

There's definitely a difference. I've always considered it an honor to be invited to witness the vows, the actual wedding. The rest is a celebration of those promises.

@Towanda-xq2xg Ай бұрын

Marriage is serious, either you have a ride or die, someone who is a giver, care and love you, like you, like it or not, willing to put God first, staying in gratitude, patient and keep it moving! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

@marydavis8629 Ай бұрын

Take those wedding VOWS seriously! Because that's the road map to a successful marriage. How quickly we forget our VOWS.❤

@kayla7665 Ай бұрын

Chance really snapped on the part about investing in the couple! And not showing up to a wedding empty handed❤ I would also love if you guys did an episode on "People not wishing you well" you touched on it a little bit in terms of the wedding, but can you do an episode maybe talking what it's like to be in your marriage or relationship with family or friends that aren't happy for you? Or are judgemental about your relationship.

@theevolvingmindset333 Ай бұрын

Oh this is a great topic to discuss! 👏🏽👏🏽 I have many who aren't happy for me.

@CreativeMedicine7 29 күн бұрын

We got married in the living room of our then townhouse. I was washing dishes and the pastor rung the doorbell. That was 16 years ago. And you have to also learn how to keep some stuff sacred and private. Everyone does not need to know everything or see every photo or know every trip you take. Marriage is sacred. Its depth. It’s maturing and growing as a unit and as individuals. It’s love when love doesn’t look like unicorns and sparkles.

@MedicalMomsofNICU Ай бұрын

Love all this! We a CourtHouse Couple! We celebrating 10 years of black love and 8 years of marriage! We plan to renew our vows on the beach at 10th year anniversary! We were broke buried in college debt so we decided to go to the courthouse! God is good as we just celebrated homeownership way better than spending thousands on a wedding!

@Backpack16 Ай бұрын

Chance, you gave the people something to think about. If you can afford, it give them something to start the marriage off.

@kanilahyadyamahla2997 Ай бұрын

I currently live in a country that dont give wedding gifts, they give money only to start the couple on the right foot without money issues

@user-mf4kz2dc4f Ай бұрын

Chance and Tabitha, you'll gave some great advice on marriage vs. weddings! Having a good marriage takes a lot of work from both partners. My husband and I have been married for 53 years and we thank God for joining us together.🙏❤️

@candace5648 Ай бұрын

I’m getting married in 2 weeks. Thank yall for this.

@AKAtude08 Ай бұрын

Congratulations!!!

@candace5648 Ай бұрын

Thank you

@CHULOQUAN Ай бұрын

Congrats!!! 🖤

@Li-Anderson Ай бұрын

Congratulations 🎉 This is all so true. 30 yrs and we have really learned how to move out of each other's way and give space when needed. We both over the years learned to listen to each other. We realized after having kids that we really are a team!😉 Each year we pivot and it has been the greatest tool. Kiss and hug each other every day. 😍🔥Pray together every night before you go to sleep. I also read a short scripture to my hubby every night and he loves it.😉 Blessings Always 💞

@Keesh631 Ай бұрын

Congratulations

@kaneya1 Ай бұрын

You guys are speaking the truth! 💯 My husband and I have been married for 25 years, but we didn't have much money to put into our wedding. However, we had a beautiful 20th vow renewal, and that's when we spent money. In short, a nice wedding is great, but what's more important is investing in your marriage (key- invite God into your marriage). 🎉

@apeekinredspocket Ай бұрын

Not the camera stare and the "How you doin?"!🤣🤣🤣 I love the positivity and good energy you two as individuals and a team give off. Thank you for being present for us.💛💯

@sarrindiaclark1317 29 күн бұрын

Omg! I didn’t even catch that cause I was too busy fixing my plate!!! 😩 Now I gotta go back and rewatch it! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@kamemugg1280 27 күн бұрын

Crying. A tainch of petty Betty was received.

@carolynlong8701 Ай бұрын

Married 38 years and yes things do change in the husband and wife but you can make it work. God bless those who are still married ❤🙏🏾

@cynthiagale6794 Ай бұрын

Whoops, yall done stepped on some toes today! The truth is the light though and yall are 100% on point!

@dianajackson7247 Ай бұрын

Marriage is not for the faint of heart.❤

@cll3855 28 күн бұрын

Love how contemplative Chance is before answering a question and how attentive and focused Tab is on him when he's speaking. Great example of good communication skills. What a beautiful couple they are, I love watching their interaction as they share their thoughts. May God continue to bless their beautiful union and make it stronger and more successful everyday!❤

@shirleysmith2879 27 күн бұрын

I noticed that as well!! Awesome!🎉

@sassynola8417 Ай бұрын

You guys spoke truth. July 1st we will be celebrating 46 years of marriage. We faced challenges that were unexpected including my health challenges, raising children and finding out who we are and who each other is. That’s not as easy as you think. Trust in God helped our marriage . The beauty of the wedding alone will not help the marriage survive because a wedding is superficial but BABY making a marriage survive is supernatural and requires understanding divine intervention. Love you guys

@clariseharrington8252 Ай бұрын

🙏🏿❤️🎉

@michelletiaraharris 29 күн бұрын

Happy anniversary!!! @sassynola8417

@sassynola8417 29 күн бұрын

@@clariseharrington8252 thank you

@sassynola8417 29 күн бұрын

@@michelletiaraharris thank you

@sassynola8417 29 күн бұрын

@@michelletiaraharris thank you

@jaisharp1165 Ай бұрын

Invest into that couple 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 and if you don’t believe in marriage don’t go-thanks Chance

@NeicyD14 Ай бұрын

Chance preach!!!! You so right people need to show up to weddings the right way not with bad intentions and empty-handed!

@tamtamz8733 Ай бұрын

That banter about the DOORS in the beginning was so wholesome. 🥰😂 love y’all!

@FittnWell Ай бұрын

I appreciate today’s video because my partner and I will be getting married at the court house next month on the fifth. We have decided to just have a nice reception for certain loved ones to attend to celebrate us

@alexishunt4336 Ай бұрын

Listen, the doors left open, spoke to my soul😂😂

@imanwilliamsflute Ай бұрын

“It’s a time when you need to get out from up there” 😭😭😭😭 you know what uncle chance

@Pynkdymond84 Ай бұрын

Man I could be having the most weird or even horrible week and I’m guaranteed a smile when i watch yall

@angelaspringfield5584 Ай бұрын

👍

@Davidmcheads225 21 күн бұрын

Tep

@user-fm1le1cr8o Ай бұрын

And also include picking your battles is majorly important too.Some people stay in abusive marriages for so long they forget themselves.You have a choice always to pick up and leave or stay and continue to be mistreated.Leaving doors open is waaay more miniscule than being with someone who doesnt like to wash,clean up or is overall unsanitary.

@desiredsolutionz3536 Ай бұрын

First.. The energy and the intro was hilarious 😂. I love yall. But YES, there is a difference in weddings and marriage. My wedding cost $600 and we're still together after 15 years and 4 kids later, because we realized that, this is not that. Chance you are so right about the gifts at weddings, they wanna come eat and talk but leave nothing. Everything you both spoke on was spot and and we need more of that. Also, Chance.. Close the doors😂😂😂.

@AyeeeKeKe 26 күн бұрын

“Y’all keep them doors closed” need that on a t-shirt😂

@gtzion6501 Ай бұрын

I look forward to see the both of you on Friday.😊. Just because at my age of 66 I have never experienced true love, only a broken heart. BUT nevertheless, I am content and celebrate those who have a loving marriage and relationships., which give me great joy😊 from the both of you 🙌🏼

@allisonjones1585 Ай бұрын

@gtzion6501 thank you! I thought I was the only one😢

@loveheals6184 Ай бұрын

@gtzion6501, may God bless you with a superlative love. A couple at my mom's church got married 10yrs ago. They were both about 70. 1st time marriage for both. They dressed to the nines and the focus was thanking God for this answered prayer. Tender and sweet with each other to this day. May you and your divine spouse find, recognize and love each other...soon. Amn. May your love of God and each other illuminate your lives and be a testimony that encourages others. Now and always may the good-heartedness shown in your comment be rewarded by a circle of people who consistently give you love, respect and support 🙏🏿🤗🙋🏿

@patriciaellis4446 Ай бұрын

@@loveheals6184Amen!

@veronicab.12 Ай бұрын

With my first wedding I and my family did all the decorations. Had my dress made by a friend, food catering by a relative. Performed in a small church. When I get married again I don't even need that much. I just need someone that he and I are on the same page striving for the same goals for the rest of our lives together. I don't even need a social media display to a million people I don't even know.

@tyeshacross6421 28 күн бұрын

I’m single and I’m thankful for this topic. ☺️ I feel like some of us have grew up in a society that treats weddings more like a party than a celebration. Thank you Chance for saying that for people(me) in the back!

@LifeWithAlliDaily 28 күн бұрын

We were dating for 1.5 yr before hubby proposed, and we saved up and 1.5 yrs later we were joyfully married, went on the honeymoon in Paris and here we are still going in Christ. 🙌🏾 14yrs this October.... And yes it's Love work and play 💜🎁✨💐💪🏾🤗🥰

@SupaBlessedAries Ай бұрын

A lot of people me included be thinking marriage is a Disney movie and over time since working on myself living anyone is hard and has ups and downs so why wouldn’t a marriage we must start living in reality instead of how We FEEL 🤷🏽‍♀️

@sharonthomas9851 Ай бұрын

Thank you Chance and Tab, this is much needed. On a particular Judge show the bride was asked are you happy with your marriage, she was so focused on an issue that happened at the wedding it appeared she didn’t understand that it wasn’t all about her wedding and it was that she was happy with her marriage. So the judge told her to “look happy” I have been married 46 years and it has been for better or worse. Invest your money in the best marriage counseling and marriage retreats. Marriage is beautiful, but it is work! Pray with and for your spouse.

@LadySmith1120 29 күн бұрын

I love you guys and Thank you for pouring into us all!! My husband and I are celebrating 5yrs in November. Married in Vegas and did our wedding a year later. Only 80 people, spent 8k but we set boundaries and if ANYONE was late or absent for ceremony they were turned around! We poured into our guest with full experience so the least you could do was be on time for the union dedication!!! We specified no gifts only monetary blessings. Thank God for our tribe of people ❤️

@upliftingourchildren Ай бұрын

Well said! Grateful to God for a great wedding in 1984 and just celebrated 40 years of a blessed marriage in better and worse and health and sickness . Yes, we have an intercultural marriage and many didn't think we would make it. We always put God first and not culture. Also, had family who supported us with monetary gifts. Thank you again for this episode.

@pierreajavon4468 Ай бұрын

Them good days leading up to the bad days will have you forgetting about the good days. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 thank you chance. I needed to be reminded of that.

@cabriap.2077 Ай бұрын

I absolutely love y’all to death! We need more “real life” content especially when it’s younger married couples. I love y’all 🤍❤️ thank you for being the best internet fairy god parents

@terrilaurant4116 Ай бұрын

Chance you are PREACHING!!!

@Riaalwayspretty 28 күн бұрын

I’m NOT married. And I will never married 😂 but I grew up around married people and all my friends are married. What I’ve seen and heard smh I said no that’s okay. You really have to work at it 24/7. If you aren’t ready work compromise, communicate, forgive etc. don’t even do it! Love yall so much ❤❤❤

@sharonmitchell8480 Ай бұрын

Not hog tied Tab and Blackie… now that was funny 😂🤣

@frankspencer3440 Ай бұрын

Another great show. 28 years married. Going on 33years together. ❤🙏🏾

@user-vc4cf5vm3w Ай бұрын

I hadn't even heard of Wedding goals and marriage goals!! Haha! You are so right. A lot of people spend so much time and effort preparing for the wedding, but never a minute preparing for the marriage. Good point, Tab!

@rochellebarlow6627 Ай бұрын

I. Like. the wisdom y'all demonstrating & have also experience on FACTS of. your. Own. Marriage is a sacred thing, responsible thing, serious thing, soul ties, partnership, as well as a financial obligation. & agreement. Kinda contract between to ppl. GOD BLESSES that. UNION. 🎉 I like what Chance said regarding ppl. that hate or frown on marriage. I also agree with TAB said it's never to late to get married. But don't put a burden on Ur. Relationship in the beginning as newlyweds. 👍 Very good😊 westside LA Cali auntie Roro ❤

@TheLEGNAAgency Ай бұрын

Chance knows he spoke a word about giving and investing into marriages!!!

@sadetricadennis Ай бұрын

I agree about the gifting aspect because when you look at other cultures, that's what they do. They invest in the marriage to ensure a good start. Much love

@lisameriedy 26 күн бұрын

I like the way Tab throws shade with LOVE! 😮😂😂

@raiinlove6 Ай бұрын

I most definitely want the marriage.

@laurennicholsofficial Ай бұрын

Great topic. Wedding Ceremony/Real Marriage used to scare me. Real Marriage all day. God brought me a mighty blessed long way!

@melissabrownlee-peterson3702 21 күн бұрын

Yesssss, thank y'all soooo much for touching on this topic. My husband and I have been together for 26 years years and have been married for 7 years, we had a small wedding, and our bond is strong....It was all in God's timing....🙏🏽🥰🤗

@gabbymommie2 Ай бұрын

"Get out from up there!" Yes, Unc. 😂😂😂😂

@teach1171 Ай бұрын

Tab, you are beautiful inside and out! You have a light about you. Chance is funny but seems like he would help anyone. Truths about marriage , yes ..❤ Enjoy watching your channel!

@cedniv26 Ай бұрын

People have to realize that they are two different people from different backgrounds upbringing and you have to work to be on the same wavelength or path together. The wedding is one day but the marriage for many will not be like that wedding day.

@lillianchukwueze Ай бұрын

“Better leave one eye open too” 😂😂😂

@EllaineWritS 20 күн бұрын

The good days will outweigh the bad 🥳🥳🥳. Happy to hear that!🙌🏼

@twinmommy48 Ай бұрын

Love this one! Those reasons is why my husband and I did not have a big wedding. We did not want any ill talk, folks coming just because. They are not there for the union of two ppl. Not there for the blessings. Our wedding was just our immediate family and our closest friends that truly was there for us.

@Tubbsmuzik Ай бұрын

Hahaha the ending was hilarious. I love it. Thank you for sharing this great information.

@lovelylanette4184 Ай бұрын

Beautiful convo and much needed thank you both!😊

@michelebcombs5016 Ай бұрын

Thank you for keeping IT REAL!!!

@healingstartswithaconversa3761 28 күн бұрын

Y'all hit us with the double head nod! Y'all meant that!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@gerriaviles8865 Ай бұрын

Loved the intro tonight!!! Great topic❤❤❤

@cynthiagale6794 Ай бұрын

I've been watching you all do these videos since the shut down and still look forward to and enjoy each offering. Thank you both for such authentic sharing. ❤❤

@jennahmiles6748 Ай бұрын

I Flippin love yall!! What a beautiful union you two are

@izmane Ай бұрын

Great conversation and much needed for us to have. Thank you for both of you bringing the discussion up.

@jesusislove336 29 күн бұрын

Love this!! Y'all are too cute! What a blessing! 💜🩵💗

@TheChocBeauty Ай бұрын

I totally agree with everything you two have said. We have got to emphasize this to our loved ones!!💕🙏🏾

@Mrs_Davis Ай бұрын

a pleasant good morning everyone. Thank you for this video Mr and Mrs Brown 🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️

@deidreej 25 күн бұрын

Not my two favorite fellow Aquarians(cause Blackey is one) bout to get kidnapped, oh no 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️ Dem doors Chance 😂😂😂😂 The intro was hilarious 😂😂😂

@shawonnawoods2526 Ай бұрын

Amen Amen we been together 34 years been married 33 we went to court house I don’t regret it family’s and friends ask when your getting remarried I sad I’m not I did it once in 1991 I have nothing to prove to any one I love love my best friend our love is stronger than ever I always say we didn’t have a home we was renter we only had one car so the money ppl was talking about marriage I said no used that money for another car and getting a home once he decided to get out military than we got that home no regrets ❤

@elliotselmon7581 Ай бұрын

I LOVE THIS CONVERSATION, and I LOVE Y'ALL!! 💕❤️💕

@ceejones6489 Ай бұрын

I love hearing your perspectives on life. ❤

@laineygood5816 29 күн бұрын

This was so good!!❤

@TEDDYBEARTOWN1111 27 күн бұрын

Excellent, excellent topic! Very well done!! You both covered everything. Part 2, 3, 4, and 5 need to be done. 😊😊

@tracyheard443 Ай бұрын

This was real good. I wish this segment was longer.❤ you guys 🫶🏽

@re-membered9398 19 күн бұрын

Love this conversation! Ebo Taylor has a song called Love & Death which really sums up what marriage and weddings are about. I’ve been married 10 years and hold on to that song.❤️

@shazp9809 Ай бұрын

Definitely more if this PLEASE 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@candasbrown9891 Ай бұрын

As always, great words of wisdom

@mdjwalker Ай бұрын

Love these conversations!

@cstephens2834 28 күн бұрын

I love the wisdom your individual and collective perspectives bring. I think people see the wedding as the goal not the marriage. The marriage is the ultimate destination. Couples should attend intensive counseling with the understanding that marriage may or may not be the best decision.

@mizzyoung9836 Ай бұрын

This is definitely needed to be said!!👏🏾👍🏾💯 However, I’m in total agreement with Chance!! 💯💯👏🏾

@antoniomckoy21 Ай бұрын

Great video, these are words of wisdom

@nicoleprice354 Ай бұрын

This is very helpful. Thank you❤❤

@sonyalambcomer1369 Ай бұрын

Great topic! What Chance said is Real Talk...Some People Just Need to Keep Their Mouths Closed when they don't believe in something like Marriage for example.

@lisataylor4135 29 күн бұрын

Hello Tabitha & Chance I really enjoyed you sharing the important and difference between a wedding and marriage.💕

@ladiphresh09 14 күн бұрын

I love marriage talk with Tab & Chance…it’s so 🔥🔥🔥

@ceemathis9577 Ай бұрын

Thank you both for sharing. And for letting us know to invest in the couple .

@fxydv62 28 күн бұрын

Wonderful wisdom Chance!❤

@Green-Hypnotherapy Ай бұрын

Thank you both so very much. We just got engaged, and for the past 2 months, I've been looking for videos from married couples on this very subject. Other than the Gottman Institute and Dr. Myles Munroe, I haven't really found any. Thank you for being so real and open, and for listening to Holy Spirit. 🙏🏽