Have you ever thought your marriage was a mistake?

Have you ever thought your marriage was a mistake? | Fridays with Tab and Chance

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2 ай бұрын

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@ldkea05 Ай бұрын

All I gots to say is what I have been saying .... getting together is effortless ... and STAYING together requires ALL the EFFORT! From each party involved!

@tboykin13tb Ай бұрын

#Each Party r the 🔑 Words Here!!! 🤩💯

@KwanitaAllen2468 Ай бұрын

This is so goood

@jusdria4132 Ай бұрын

This! Well said

@mrsmurphy6371 Ай бұрын

After 40 years of marriage you have never lied !!

@mrsmurphy6371 Ай бұрын

After 40 years of marriage you have never lied !!

@kenyamcdonald711 Ай бұрын

Married 24 years. There were many times that I thought my marriage was a mistake. I can relate to Kevin's story, but God! We are in a completely different space now. Marriage is not for the weak. You have be in it to win. Keep God first!❤

@douse89 Ай бұрын

“I’ve seen Taken an I don’t have those skills so if you’re taken, you’re took” is such a valid statement! 😂😂😂

@TheProfessor1908 Ай бұрын

Amen. So you better watch out for your people while you can!

@jamalkarahartage4968 Ай бұрын

That was it for me too.

@marieyellow6923 Ай бұрын

😅😂😂😂😂

@lb1798 Ай бұрын

7:29 "Im never so upset that your safety is not my concern"........if a person can say that about their mate...you can STILL WORK ON THE RELATIONSHIP. Thats love❤️💔❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@ScottyLane_ Ай бұрын

Mannnnnn

@reviewranger4202 28 күн бұрын

When you love anybody, that's the thought. I can argue with my sisters or a friend but never will I be mad enough to no worry about them being OK.

@thriftstorescoffeeshops 28 күн бұрын

That PART!!!!!!!

@diversetribe231 26 күн бұрын

No, that’s MEN. You see, without being misogynistic-most women think differently than most men, and when emotions are high, they tend to act only on those emotions. A man will usually be emotional, but still have his logical reasoning still working behind the scenes. The default for men is usually protect the family.

@lb1798 26 күн бұрын

@diversetribe231 I disagree....because when men are mad,they are ÜBER PETTY. A woman will feel sorry first...and do what it takes for others even to the detriment of herself.

@ginawright6232 Ай бұрын

Married 40years~41 this year! We are STILL fighting through ageism and lots of emotional changes. However, we are fighting and loving through it.

@ldkea05 Ай бұрын

Love this.... and Kudos to yall for sticking it out

@SpekkTrumn 28 күн бұрын

😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

@h3artands0uLL 18 күн бұрын

Through ageism? Like you feel ageism toward each other for aging? I’m not understanding

@Iamcherese Ай бұрын

“Y’all know how I’m built” got me CRINEEEEEEEEEE😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@devincognito8932 Ай бұрын

As a man I think the worst thing you can do is match a woman’s energy. There’s no good that will come from that😂😂😂

@TriggaTreDay 28 күн бұрын

Facts 💯. Because my brother and his wife give me the blues. 😭😭😭😭. He just doesn’t get it. But he knew she would wild when he started dating her. 😂. My husband will not match anyone’s energy unless he has to lay paws on you and even then he will calmly lay you down 😂.

@jaytibee 26 күн бұрын

I hate that shit. That's when alot of nonsensical starts getting spoken by the guy because he's just trying to match.

@donovandouglas7587 24 күн бұрын

Amen 🙏🏾.

@dsanders799 22 күн бұрын

Never match a man energy God made man The head for a reason nothing like a strong man

@RadBunny2269 9 күн бұрын

Yup. If you keep up w their varied patterns you’ll not be the stable one.

@shawna-Your-RealEstate-Plug Ай бұрын

Marriage is a lot of work. But it's definitely what you make it. ❤

@sonyablackmon1 20 күн бұрын

Can alllll 4 of yall have some WEEKLY COUPLES conversations on here please! Lawwwd we really need this! ASAP...EVERYYY WEEK...and maybe once per month add in a therapist to talk! Omg this is sooo needed because we all think that it's just in our situation only. Now we need yall.

@user-mf4kz2dc4f Ай бұрын

My Husband and I have been married for 53 years and it was a lot of work. Through the years we learned to lean on God's Word for help in all of our situations 🙏

@JanelAlexis-yo6zc Ай бұрын

"First of all, im a G" is literally me😂😅😂😅😅😂😂 baby you better come get me!!

@sherrihastings2005 Ай бұрын

I loved when he said no matter what her safety was my concern!❤

@tjsyoutube-m7k Ай бұрын

Same❤❤

@tw6361 Ай бұрын

I peeped that too! ❤❤❤

@user-sd1wi1go1q Ай бұрын

I’m almost 7 months in and I’m asking myself this question. I’m praying for better days.

@eb5351 Ай бұрын

STAY. You get the most out of any investment when you hold, even when the stock dips. Your marriage is an investment. The pay off is long term

@akiljones7660 Ай бұрын

Hang in there... you are two people with two different backgrounds. It's gonna be tough sometimes, but you'll get through it. I'm 24 years in and we're still learning each other, but she is definitely my best friend! Life will not always be as it is today, you'll look back at your growth and be AMAZED!

@shenbrown6288 Ай бұрын

Same😢

@roxnmo6624 Ай бұрын

Yall hang in there...

@KiaFlow Ай бұрын

It gets better with growth, change, reflection and calm communication

@qc9329 Ай бұрын

"I'm in my DRAAAAWS!!!"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@momoftheJohnson4 Ай бұрын

Being married going on 21 years this is very refreshing to hear I’m not alone😂❤

@lugo_ayana Ай бұрын

We’ve been married almost 10 years and don’t have any of these kind of stories. Hearing all of them tell their stories about marriage makes me extremely grateful for the best partner I could have ever chosen in this life. We have disagreements, but they are resolved within hours, not days.

@SwissMissss Ай бұрын

These people have been together since highschool. Both couples. I'm sorry, but your 10 years doesn't exactly share the the experience and time they've had. I'm glad you're as happy and content as you are, but just know that your chapter of marriage is still technically in the beginning stages compared to theirs. Shoot Tab and chance been together since 8th grade, and Kev and Liss since early highschool if I'm not mistaken.

@Chin715 Ай бұрын

@@SwissMissssGlad you said it!

@user-kp7bi1ug9e Ай бұрын

@@SwissMissss It's actually proven that couples who get together younger typically have more drama and a higher risk of divorce. So actually, waiting until after high school to meet your partner probably means you will have a more stable marriage. Some people just have more stable relationships than others and that's okay.

@blackscreenrelaxation5824 Ай бұрын

@@user-kp7bi1ug9e Thank you for pointing this out. It’s disappointing that someone expressing gratefulness at a peaceful marriage is met with ‘well, just you wait’, and indirectly told that their experience is less valid because they haven’t been together for as long. I pray that she experiences another 10 years of peaceful marriage.

@Caesar__99 Ай бұрын

I’m with you. Idk why people love to foreshadow negativity. If it’s gonna happen it’s gonna happen, why do we have to look for it. Sounds like you and yours have a great system, just gotta maintain that

@jellieloveee Ай бұрын

This was so needed, I just got married and don’t have any married couples as friends yet ! This was so real and I don’t feel alone !

@whittscalmingwhispers Ай бұрын

We can be friends! ❤

@tarawalker4086 Ай бұрын

This is a level of maturity that we all need in marriage. We need to love the person enough to be vulnerable to share our feelings & to fight for one other. Glad they also realized therapy is key to longevity because sometimes we need help. This session was amazing. Thanks for sharing.

@ensabahnur3104 Ай бұрын

"First of all I'm a G... ain't nothing going to happen." 😊

@TDonni86 Ай бұрын

😂😂

@elleceleste7104 Ай бұрын

Please please please we need more of this!!! Sometime we can’t rely on people in our lives to let us know how to do this!!!This was beautiful and so relatable! ❤️❤️❤️👏🏾👏🏾 Thank you

@Aftermyownheart Ай бұрын

It’s beautiful to see both people committed to the work.

@latoyajohnson2276 Ай бұрын

Thank you all for your transparency, and normalizing real relationship, 19 years strong and I believe it's not about what we go through but how we get through it. Took us time to communicate on a mature level but with time, patience, and maturity we got there❤

@americanbeauty171 2 күн бұрын

I love it!!!❤

@Grow.YT.Views.576 Ай бұрын

This deserves to go viral! 🚀

@ldkea05 Ай бұрын

Frfr tho

@candicane1 Ай бұрын

This is real talk! Sometimes we aren’t on the same page, same chapter or even in the same book during marriage. I almost gave up bc my husband and I stopped liking each other. Just walking around the house would get on our nerves. I would be like, “ugh”, every time I saw him. Now, we are stronger than ever and almost 20 years married! Keep God first! When you know you are with your person, fight for them!

@ChildofGod98765 Ай бұрын

God give me strength to overcome every battle I face as a single mom struggling to provide for both of my sons that are special needs. God please help me. As I struggle to buy groceries and as I struggle to pay bills each and every month I know this struggle is only temporary. God I know you will help me overcome. In Jesus name amen! 💕

@sotoon2219 Ай бұрын

Amen

@ladyindaroom Ай бұрын

Now that you asked God, thank Him for honoring your prayer. Pray in the Holy Spirit. God hears our human, but when we allow the Holy Spirit to intercede that’s music to God’s ears. I too prayed this same way when my two children who are now 19 and 20 were little. God always showed up and showed out. Also a single mother who never married. God is intentional in the way He does things.

@Alexlittle9 Ай бұрын

You got this and God got you❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@knottyandnicehair Ай бұрын

Amen 🙏🏾

@LAmommy Ай бұрын

Amen. My prayer will be specific for you as a mother with a special needs son. I have one and the struggle is beyond real while being married. I know it takes a different kind of strength when doing it alone and having multiple children with special needs. Sending love and peace with a continuing fighting spirit. Praying you feel the Lord wrap you in His arms daily. You are not alone. Not alone.

@maryearl9331 Ай бұрын

Crazy this came on my feed. I'm laying down thinking of pros and cons of my relationship of 18 yrs. My husband and I been sleeping in separate rooms the past couple nights. This conversation came at the right time but idk if I wanna fight for us anymore. Either way Tysm for sharing your story.

@denisecraig5102 Ай бұрын

😮

@BLACKSTONEPOET Ай бұрын

Wow

@shaymayhello Ай бұрын

Praying 🙏🏾 for you

@khiabridges2547 Ай бұрын

Pray and give it to God. Listen for direction and lean on your inner circle of prayer. Let God point you in the right direction

@Artemis-True Ай бұрын

God

@jasminecarter8998 Ай бұрын

Waiting until therapy to argue is wild! Lol my husband has done the same thing. So happy for them getting through it ❤

@yodielonda Ай бұрын

Im crying😂 Me and my ex said the same thing! We wish we would have fought for it!

@nunyabiz12345 Ай бұрын

Which ex? I thought he stepped out and had a baby during the last year of marriage?

@phyllistv9149 Ай бұрын

@@nunyabiz12345😅😅😅😅

@Chin715 Ай бұрын

@@nunyabiz12345Messy 😂

@kaymitchell6143 Ай бұрын

@@Chin715asf 😂😂

@yodielonda Ай бұрын

Wait! I was jumping up and down on the bed!!!😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@trezndawg4240 Ай бұрын

He was on point had he allowed his wife to leave. Both of their minds would have told them all kinds of stupid things to justify their positions. Very likely, they would not be sitting at the table telling their story. It's awesome to see them laughing about it now and encouraging others with their story 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@kindredsurvivors8138 Ай бұрын

I freaking LOVE YALL!! All of yall!! Mark my words, Imma meet and work with yall one day!! My husband and I are a new couple 4 years together, 3 years married!! And yall be preaching TO ME!!!!!!!!! Imma meet yall and talk with yall and learn and laugh and talk with yall one day!! 💯💯

@BriaBarrows Ай бұрын

These convos are so needed for married couples

@MikeMcgaskey Ай бұрын

Why are these grown conversations so hard to find online this was great

@smome7773 23 күн бұрын

Because they require vulnerability. A lot of us think we have it bc we're empathetic but very few people have access to this.

@Jacorolynstans06 25 күн бұрын

God knew I needed to see this!!!!! Me and my husband are on year two of marriage and just had a huge blowout!!! I was ready to run … my defense mechanisms went up real fast!!!

@DenitaGuthery Ай бұрын

This timing is heaven sent. Just got into a "little" fight with my husband and can see similarities in their story. Thank ya'll for the honesty and for showing that so many marriages go thru this. ❤

@nannynewsviews542 Ай бұрын

Same here last night....I needed to watch this

@mommamia9948 Ай бұрын

I was cracking up 😂 Everybody at this table is beautiful! Inside and out

@aelet17 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing! I’m single and waiting for God to send me my mate but I’m looking forward to marriage. So, it’s good to know that these kind of disagreements do exist and doesn’t automatically condemn a marriage 🙏🏽

@kellysmith6632 Ай бұрын

Every other day, if not every day since we said 'I do' (actually questioned before that but counted it as "cold feet") It's beautiful how these couples communicate with one another, even in difficult times.

@user-iz2qq9kg9w Ай бұрын

This was so good. I'm having a tough time. Definitely communicating is so important. Pray for me you all. 🙏🏾

@khristalwoodall6679 Ай бұрын

Hey auntie Tab and uncle Chance! I have always said that yal need a show called " open talk" or whatever and yal talk to anyone that wants to advice about relationships or marriage. Cuz yal arre sooo open❤😂 I am a single mother never been married but take notes of yal advice all the time. Helps me change and elevate whom I don't want or what I do want.❤❤❤❤

@prophetess179 Ай бұрын

Awwww that part when he says he poured 🫗 ❤his heart ❤️ out to her 🥰🥰

@lashun1901 Ай бұрын

I absolutely love this channel & all the conversations that follow.

@ldkea05 Ай бұрын

5:34 this is so true bcz everybody be wanting to be the victor of the argument, prove their point, and claim the spoils of being right 6:45 Kev literally said it as I'm typing !!!!!! It's so true

@amremnant Ай бұрын

I'm so thankful my husband isn't like this, he gives me the floor real quick lol.

@Makeupnista 18 күн бұрын

6:35 we make up stories in our minds and we believe them 🤯- it can be so messy sometimes

@marilynbailey1972 Ай бұрын

The love and level of transparency in this conversation is amazing and much needed. I’m divorced and there was a lack of willingness to fight and respect but lessons in this I’ve learned. Thank you for continuing to have this conversation so that we can all have healthy relationships.

@yodielonda Ай бұрын

We got divorced after 21 years of marriage! He is married again and a 12 year old son. We have been divorced for 12 years! I am single. I trust the Lord. I pray for him and his family. God Bless them!❤

@the5thdim763 Ай бұрын

That’s great he found love again and started a new family ❤️

@TinaTaughtme Ай бұрын

That's amazing that you pray for him and his family. Love, peace, happiness and abundance your way❤

@Brook-ct3kk Ай бұрын

They always move on like you never existed

@yodielonda Ай бұрын

@@Brook-ct3kk you sound so bitter I’m sorry for you. I will keep you in prayer and prayer that the Lord keeps you and changes your heart and that you forgive! I am a child of the most high God, I can never be forgotten. The covering of the Holy Spirit was with me so when I left the relationship, the covering went with me. As well as I have six children, I can never be nonexistent. Love you in the name of Jesus.

@shayp5781 Ай бұрын

I actually think the person was trying to relate to you and you sat there as a "believer" and called them bitter instead of clarifying why you said what you said the way you did. They probably just misinterpreted you. I had a fiance who broke my heart and immediately moved on when we were struggling and asked for his ring back. Had another almost fiance that I was trying to build a life with and that had met my entire family use me for things and betrayed me. So it happens a lot and ofcourse it can happen to anybody but Ive seen this with many of my friends. Men seem to move on faster but im aware I dont know the statistics. Gotta stop using God as a weapon and actually encourage folks. It can be traumatizing and have nothing to do with bitterness. Geesh! I actually pray for you to see your wrong!

@mommyofceos Ай бұрын

I cry every time I hear this story. It just grips the heart ❤

@CraftsbyTheeRose Ай бұрын

Hello Tabitha. Thank you for sharing a wonderful video with us.

@ldkea05 Ай бұрын

I truly appreciate this episode highlight specifically, because, hindsight is 20/20 and sometimes you don't even know what it really was that brought you to the impasse, but now that we here, where do we go from here

@immersiveexperiences4799 Ай бұрын

this was such a great section of this episode .

@KB-504 12 күн бұрын

I LOVE the transparency...thank u for this all 4 of yall

@tboykin13tb Ай бұрын

🤣 That Wedding pic of Chance & Tab that they posted, they faces said A LOT!! 💯

@orlandowilliams6 23 күн бұрын

I appreciate their vulnerability. It is encouraging. Praise God for his mercy and power 🙌🏾.

@demeishalollis3363 23 күн бұрын

I needed this. We are hitting nine years married. Raising three kids 7 and under and in a life transition and hit a road block like this just recently. Thank you for this transparency.

@simplyme7711 Ай бұрын

Thank you for the honesty! It helps me to know that what I/we experience in our marriage is not so abnormal.

@G0DSGL0RY83 29 күн бұрын

This is so good ya'll! Thanks for sharing

@loveheart5578 Ай бұрын

I appreciate their honesty 🙏 so happy they made it through

@TheCPerryExperience Ай бұрын

I needed this message today!!!

@xiic358 Ай бұрын

The way that I said "a hundred and ten pounds!" at the EXACT same time that he said "a hundred and eight pounds" 😂😂😂

@rissaruby1986 22 күн бұрын

“Y’all know how I’m built” 😂😂😂

@ldkea05 Ай бұрын

9:06 chileeeee sayyyyyy this !!!! Bcz the "ima leave" be the bathroom or the other room but that's about it ! lol 😅

@LRuss57 12 күн бұрын

I been with the same man for 38 yrs and married for 28 yrs and I’m finally ready to move on the sad part is I don’t think I was in love but I loved him and we were always you cheated so it’s my turn but now for my mental health it’s time to let go of this toxic relationship and I’m ready 😊

@TheRealGinaB. Ай бұрын

I love the transparency!

@AmandaMuxic Ай бұрын

Bless you for this ❤

@sdowdy9965 Ай бұрын

I so needed to see and hear this today.

@sr-kt9ml Ай бұрын

Great episode

@felishataylor1323 28 күн бұрын

Hats off to the husband who also saw the value in therapy within the marriage not after the divorce ! Often as women we are the only ones willing to commit to therapy and trying to make it work but it really takes two!

@gomolemomanche257 Ай бұрын

This was so good 🙌🏽

@kekybrock Ай бұрын

I love this so much... i can't tell you how many men i've had to explain the concept of irreparable damage. Even if you make up later, you can't unfeel feelings you had the time and opportunity to feel or unthink thoughts you had the space to think.

@triciafrancisjones4682 20 күн бұрын

Having these types of moments does not mean you have a dysfunctional marriage. Some people never have them and good for them. But others do. It’s a part of the process, and it does not speak to the validity of when people got married or even the validity of the two people involved. This is life, and some people just need to hear it.

@annagaddisnetwork Ай бұрын

I’m not even married but have been a what I think “lengthy” relationship and I’m like maybe we aren’t meant to be because of what happens but I also still believe we are but we MUST get pass the things we keep going through.

@rhondawade9229 Ай бұрын

I Absolutely Love this!!!❤❤💜💜

@FUNKYJ5 Ай бұрын

This is fantastic, Thank You.

@ldkea05 Ай бұрын

5:01 this tho !!!! Is what I'm visualizing the whole time Kev is telling the story

@Passion84GodAlways Ай бұрын

I ❤LOVE❤ when these 4 are together! 🏌🏾‍♂️🥑🦋🎬

@janeeross5080 27 күн бұрын

I really appreciate this one

@beautifulblessednolovelost7773 Ай бұрын

I feel that way now 5 years 6 kid's have his family living with us after we've been homeless a year. They not contributing to anything they not young the sister is 49 and unstable her daughter is 30 with a child they living with us he claim he want to help everyone but she's too old to be living with us and kid's

@BearingMySeoul Ай бұрын

Oh no! Use the internet to look up local resources for homlessness, give it to the family and let them know they have 90 days to use those or find somewhere else. It might sound harsh but you and your husband's first priority should be one another then your kids.

@Kgy1371 Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing! ❤

@wattstrending Ай бұрын

This was such a good segment!

@amapparatistkwabena Ай бұрын

This is SO good!

@duke-ndukakufamily4298 25 күн бұрын

I just found this and so happy. Y'all the group marriage therapy for "us"

@kathrynmarrero5263 Ай бұрын

Leaving with money vs broke Lol😂 that’s real Love y’all candidness beautiful I feel you ❤

@Donte0930 Ай бұрын

That's a good cliffhanger. You got me😅

@vincentandbriana 23 күн бұрын

Loved this!

@Thaartofbeauty 28 күн бұрын

I love Kevs perspective and his caring heart. He was more concerned for his wifes safety

@belleaesthetics9240 Ай бұрын

This was great !

@neashia23 Ай бұрын

I adore y’all. Thank you for sharing ❤

@TriggaTreDay 28 күн бұрын

Child that story is so true. My husband and I can relate so much. We both don’t like the pettiness, but once I shut down and stop talking it’s over 😂. But we laugh about everything once we are back to normal. We are not selfish in understanding one another so working through things have become much easier over the years. We are 11yrs married ❤❤❤❤ 15yrs as BestFriends 🥰🥰🥰.

@deborahblackshear3325 Ай бұрын

❤😊. This is so good. I love this 😀❤.

@Mim4043 20 күн бұрын

This was so good 😅 year 14 for us and BABEEE..it’s taking us out lol 😂 whoo 😮‍💨🤪🙃 must listen to the entire interview! We are in therapy..it’s helping but tough..Thank You! 🥹

@khaiahmann9192 Ай бұрын

“I’ve taken and I don’t got those skills” 😂

@AangAtum Ай бұрын

Yall put kev in the channel😂 I'm not even married or dating. It's just kev.

@JessicAShaneE11 Ай бұрын

I love these conversations ❤

@biggechief Ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂 I understand its funny now but back then....ooohhhh chile

@MzTaTaLa87 9 күн бұрын

I don't know how this popped up on my page but baby!!! I thought I was alone 🥴🥴 I love my husband but sometimes it's rough. Therapy/ mediator is definitely needed soon!!