I found the BEST (fictional) account of gaslighting in Marion Keyes novel, "Watermelon". Starting in Chapter 23 when the bleep husband comes back, you see the gaslighting and the flying monkeys vividly depicted. Shows very baldly how dreadful and yet how plausible self doubt can be.

Your checklists were the harsh eye opener I needed. At the moment I changed my focus to learning about myself and reclaiming my power. I love the quote: Never put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket. I identified what I valued the most for my life and then started building boundaries around protecting those things. It has made my life so much simpler. I still fight the “people pleaser” mentality, but now I see it and can turn my thinking around. Thank you for sharing your experiences and lessons.

Rip, Dr Shaler. Your work lives on.❤🙏🏾🕊

This is so spot on. Over the years I was programmed to put him at the center, the sun in our solar system. I’ve had to deprogram myself and reprogram to a healthy perspective. You are a blessing and an inspiration. You provide such insight and wisdom. I’m grateful for your KZfaq videos.

So Beautifully said 👍👍👍. Thank you 🥰🥰🤗🤗.

Oooh goody specifi , specific to what I'm really working at more now than ever, esp post- prolonged and acute trauma pulling out of a mid-life rut & some legit physiological changes. Perfectly synchronized timing as usual! So much has taken a toll and after trauma it seems like so much work to get better , let alone keep up with the demands of the hijackal. Physical, emotional, total burnt out is real !! I just turned 40 and am pulling out of that very rut and all it's fallout from two marriages, 4 children between them, and insane amount of insanity the only way forward is to be diligent but forgiving with oneself - It takes a lot of intention especially if you are still dealing with some degree of it in practice and/or things like c-PTSD. I'm working on this so hard in multiple realms at once but it's really great to do practice these tenants in multiple realms of life , it makes it more consistent (but be gentle and don't bite off more than you can really chew). Master steps Best wishes to everyone .

Thank you. Such an important video. Creep up is right.

thank you 😊🤗💖 So Blessed , how you explain and Reveal all things

Thank you, your insight+ wisdom is much appreciated.

I love you. I just . JUST NOW QUIT RESEARCHING 10 YEARS. . I AM ON ME NOW. ❤❤❤❤❤❤ I LIKE VE THIS U LOVE YOU. THANK YOU

We all were taught wrong from parents teachers church. All lies n partners who r jackals abusive world we live trust no one