Let it be Relax Who cares? Only you Take it easy. Slowly, let's not Rush Pace ourselves and time.
@janise.ke65 Жыл бұрын
Yesss!!! God in charge anyhow, so TRUST & believe 😔🙏💕
@janethomas789 ай бұрын
Very helpful. My mom was traumatized when her mother abandoned the 7 kids when she was 7. She did the same thing to me. ALWAYS, over and over. She was MEAN. I always felt bad about myself. This channel has helped me move OUT of the TRAUMA RESPONSES.
@10024westsidenyc Жыл бұрын
Oh no, I missed your live broadcast! Glad to catch the video now though.
@ivanaveltmeyer6373 Жыл бұрын
Nice to catch up Tamara ( sorry but you tube notification bells is suck and keep missing your live chat) but as Carl J. said “ even a happy life can not be without a measure of darkness, and the word HAPPY would lose its meaning if were not balanced by sadness.” I learned that the hard way as I’m now recovering from cPTSD from (escaping narcissist or sociopath ) relationship. I have been put on disability pension and I felt that my life fouled apart. But now I have 18 months recovery behind me and life is slowly coming back together. There are days were I think that I will never get there but other days I feel that I’m going forward. I’m palliative care RN by profession but now I’m at home. Tamara do you think that I’ll be able to work again? I miss my work. God Bless you Tamara ❤
@bridgettetraveler658 Жыл бұрын
Thank u so much for staying up & sharing your time with this team. I have fam who strangely wants to be apart of my life. Because of them I had decades of hell & now they want to be around me. I truly want nothing to do with them. I find it funny!! When I felt like I needed them I nor my children were important enough to hangout with them or be invited to their affairs or functions. I built a life with JESUS, my husband & my offsprings. Those ppl broke me down & JESUS picked me up. They can't stand the fact that JESUS has Blessed & Highly Favored me!! ❤❤❤❤❤
@JustHeavenlyThings Жыл бұрын
you covered so much that applies to me. I really appreciate the insight from the community. Thank you
@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful! And you're welcome. Thank you for rewatching too.
@AdamantlyAdams Жыл бұрын
Thanks again Tamara for another wonderful lesson. What's fascinating is that I've identified I am in good company with your community. I can relate with everyone on the chat board, and everything else you talked about. I feel for everyone here!
@janise.ke65 Жыл бұрын
The description of this sounds like exactly what I & others close to me could all benefit from so I already shared with a few select others. Ty & blessings all! 💕🙏
@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын
Thank you! I'm glad it was helpful!
@slimdusty6328 Жыл бұрын
It was interesting for me to note how you stated that your clients can struggle with their decision-making skill. Which is why you'll offer to assist them in this area of life. I have also noted that another lady i know , who runs a support network for a group of people who are escaping from within a cult, said that she also finds that one area of expertise they'd need assistance with is within decision making too. Just like how you've also made it clear that its likewise your own experience as well. And yet i know how ive spent a whole lot of my own lifetime (ie: up around 60 years) in attempting to describe these exact same symptoms to doctors and assorted mental health professional they'd sent me to see here over the years here within our health system , and yet ive never felt as if i'd actually been believed. Ive never felt like im believed. I've long felt as if the people from our health department here are acting towards us as if they'd feel we must be only imagining that we struggle more with decision making than what other people will. And sometimes they'll even go so far, in attempting to deny the validity of our claim to this symptom by pointing out how there's always going to be some people who'll naturally be smarter and better at making decisions than what others would. As if to say, its actually nothing out of the ordinary "at all". Which is like they are denying your claim automatically. Are glossing over the hell on earth you might have experienced. And meanwhile it can also create a situation whereby we will even start to "double question ourselves" about whether we are simply insane & mistaken in our feelings surrounding the disability. So i personally found it comforting to hear this theory being put forward here by a health professional with loads of experience in this field of mental health support.
@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this Mark. I know so many clients and strangers I have met in my community who feel as you do -- and as you mention there. It's never therapeutic to make someone feel like they are "crazy" or "imagining" something. That's not how things should be -- whether it is true or not. We can only get through to the person, support them well, and help them move from one place to the other (or even heal) when we show that anything is possible and anything that is mentioned as an experience should be considered well and never dismissed. That's not healing in my mind!
@slimdusty6328 Жыл бұрын
@@TherapistTamaraHill i agree Tamara. It's certainly not therapeutic. I feel like my own experience has been that "the lack of" knowledge/understanding with health professional has in around about way kind of served "to extend" the traumas within our lives. Because of how it served to create "yet another barrier/mountain/hurdle we would have need to struggle to climb over (ie: like when we find we need to attempt to learn psychology online, hoping to then be able to help school "our health supporter", while hoping that this might then help them "to know" how to assist us, afterwards, as the mentally sick patients that we are). Once we have managed to escape from a cult, we were then faced with health profession who've been incapable of understanding the "reason for" the symptoms we've been describing to them. They've been so far behind the 8 ball, in regard to "their level of" knowledge surrounding childhood abuses and understanding mental health problems what's centered in trauma that they've even acted toward us patient as if perhaps we must surely be only imaging our symptom. Few of them even seem to understand, even right now, about how agonizing this must have surely been for us. We are supported by "an abounding" ignorance basically. What worries me most of all is that i'm now worrying about our youth here in this country. What about their hope to heal?. I'm getting old and ive been strong enough to survive. I'm thankful. But not everyone will survive sadly. Too many wont. Especially when this sort of ignorance seems to still be far too common (ie: in my personal view/opinion)
@Andronicus2007 Жыл бұрын
I don't feel broken, damaged yes. I have been through a lot, my whole family is toxic, my Mother even tried to have me certified insane in an effort to control me. My current counsellor thinks she had Munchausen by Proxy. How on earth do I process my own Mother did that to me? I have no family support, theres no love, a bad, bad situation. At least I have a lovely wife and a few solid friends.
@pamelapowell446311 ай бұрын
You not alone I have the same I realize now I need lean my on Jesus then my family no emotional connection no empathy! Going though depression an they think just get over it walking in Christ struggling in truth ! Ego death I think but not sure
@melliecrann-gaoth47899 ай бұрын
Adronicos- you have a whole lot having a lovely wife. Many of us married another type of abuser. It really helped me watch Tamara’a S video on psychopathic mothers. I read the comments and yes lots of people there- their mother tried to kill them too. None of these women have major mental illness like schizophrenia- My first experience of yeah same….
@kdizzleambitious_as_key8 ай бұрын
tuning in fpr the first time and i enjoy your positive energy on getting connected audibly at the beginning. Staying tuned to hear your content. Thanks for this topic praying for clarification in my new journey. thanks in advance
@TherapistTamaraHill8 ай бұрын
Welcome aboard! You're welcome. And thank you 😊 😁
@aresedgar8 ай бұрын
Tamara is a Godsend
@TherapistTamaraHill8 ай бұрын
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@kiskakuznetsova50311 ай бұрын
Thank you for all of your work and I'm sorry that you've been dealing with a concussion, that's very serious. Your recent videos have been especially helpful and interesting. I feel like we're on the precipice of a cultural shift -- we are beginning to recognize trauma and abuse and hopefully be kinder to ourselves and understand others, too. It will take a while, but I feel like it's happening. I've been lurking but not commenting because in a chat I snapped at another commenter who was saying things about their foster child that I took issue with. It was a surprise, I don't typically take issue with other commenters in chats, I'm an adult, but I think the high emotionality of the video made me feel vulnerable and I was surprised by the person's venting. Lesson learned that even an old dog can get her fur up.
@TherapistTamaraHill11 ай бұрын
Thank you for these kind and senstive words. It is no joke and I'm 2-3 months in and still feeling symptoms. :( I agree with you regarding the most recent videos and a cultural shift. We've needed one for a long time. And my recent chats and videos seems to have garnered a lot of engagement and I think that's because people are starving for therapeutic and psychological answers. Thank you for being honest about the chat exchange. I never want you or anyone to feel attacked or ashamed. I wish I would have been able to pay more attention to that commenter because perhaps the comments being made could be triggering. I will watch more closely for sure. Don't feel bad. Everyone has those moments.
@user-je5cv9co7t6 ай бұрын
You save people ❤
@TherapistTamaraHill6 ай бұрын
❤🙏Answered prayer. Thank you! I receive that. Glad this was helpful to you too.
@chikFromMTL Жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙌🏾
@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@sondrareams8014 Жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@TherapistTamaraHill Жыл бұрын
You’re welcome 😊
@damaris768711 ай бұрын
This was so insightful. Thank you.
@TherapistTamaraHill11 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful! You're welcome and thank you!