Gorgeous, smart AND sensitive! My kind of man. "I don't just want to be a good man, I want to be a good human." Beautifully said.

liked him in Jane the Virgin...like him more today

"I don't just wanna be a good man. I wanna be a good human."

I am male. I cried while watching this and I AM NOT ASHAMED OF THAT.

Guys who are open about their struggles and don't act like a brick wall when it comes to their feelings are the bomb.

I have so much respect for actors and actresses who use their influence to shed light on important issues and champion the message of inclusion.

I'm a woman, and I'm so happy of listening to thoughts like that. Really, just think that men like this actually exists makes me fell hope.

" Real Manliness is not hurting others, Real manliness is helping those who are weak "

"Instead of teaching our children on; how to be brave boys and pretty girls; can we just teach them how to be good humans" -Justin B. (Challenge accepted)

he should have been casted as Aladdin

"As if being gay makes you less of a man." Eye opener

I'm 17 and I am shocked that this is 3 years old but only has 2.8 million views. This Talk needs to go viral, to come forward.

He needs to do speeches in schools.

This is how a man is suppose to be but when u bring out this side of yourself you are often misjudged. It was around 2 years ago when my class teacher was leaving the school I felt very emotional. I couldn't control my tears I cried . Because of this one day when I was hanging out with my friend he said he has doubt on my sexuality. He thinks that I am probably a gay. From that day onwards I thought I should keep my feeling inside me, I shouldn't express them. Thanks to this "man's" great speech. I think its OK to express ur feelings.

That is exactly how I felt all the way growing up. Growing up in a south asian household every guy around me was just supposed to be masculine and Justin literally spoke my heart out. LY

I’m a 17 year old guy, for reference, and this is potentially one of the best tedtalks I’ve ever heard, and I resignations more with it than any other tedtalk I’ve heard. Well dome mate

Wow...I felt it when he said "are you brave enough to be vulnerable?" It's like I needed to hear it...I don't show any emotion...I don't cry in front of my parents...I cry alone where no one can see me

My dad commit suicide when I was 8. I just learned he was sexually abused and took a really tough role in his childhood. I get it now. I feel sorry he couldn't talk to anybody so he started to drink. I love this talk! Beautiful.

That is a Real man. Who is a compassionate, honest and courageous person

When you asked for forgiveness I started to cry. I can't believe what am seeing. I thought a man like you didn't exist. Thank you. So much. This is very healing for me as a woman. Thank you so much.

Perfect guy doesn’t exi-

What's so problematic is that sometimes when men do find the courage to open up and show some vulnerability, they're told by some women to 'act like a man and toughen up'. It's really the same as telling a woman to 'act like a girl and sit silent and look pretty'.

That story of the proposal had me crying. I love seeing my other men grow and being better.

made me cry. warms my heart to see that there are men like him out there that are actually trying. Gave me a little hope for the rest of them and the future of our society.

I can't believe someone like him actually exist. bless you.

I'm so glad I live at a time and place where this is being talked about. My only wish is that it had happened long before I was born. But at least we have time to do better for the next generations.

Ironically him coming out and saying this for men makes him a brave man! Loved this. Easily one of, if not the most, inspiring and “game-changing” Ted Talks out there that I have seen!

This is one of the most reaching and emotionally well tuned talks I've had the pleasure of being engaged by. Kudos to everyone who put the event together

i knew he was a good actor but damn , the man is woke af

My partner apologies everytime he cries and I always tell him it's a strong man who can cry and cry openly. He always says thankyou and for letting him cry. If only that can come from one of his mates, it would make such a different difference than his gf telling him

This might be the most powerful and beautiful TedTalk I've ever watched

Such a powerful talk! I’ve been struggling with this in ways that for years were not even barely clear to me. As a man (and as a human), the expectations sometimes feel too heavy and pointing in a direction that is not my own, even for a sensitive guy like myself who’s used to crying in front of women and such. To the fellow men out there, I cannot emphasise enough how much therapy has been wonderful in helping me tackle these issues, seeing them for what they really are and becoming not who I want to be, but who I have always been but didn’t have the means to let out freely :)

This guy would've made the PERFECT Aladdin..

I'm a 65 year old guy and this is one of the best messages to young men and even to old farts like me to just be yourself. I've been working on this stuff half my life to become the kind of man he's talking about. What a relief to finally be able to say to another man, "Damn, I am hurting and I'm scared". I'm sending this to my 18 year old son. Thank you Justin!!!

As a 24 year old man. Justin’s acting has been apart of my life for years. This silly little show called “Jane the Virgin” I came across at 17 with my sister at a critical part of my life was an introduction to a man that I never knew would end up helping me work with my vulnerabilities. I followed him into his directing adventures with “Five Feet Apart” after absolutely loving the book and wondering why more of my male friends didn’t get why the story was so good. And now I’m sitting here at 24 after all these years looking inward and understanding the only way to break the pattern is to start with myself. That “feminine” side of me has always been there. Growing up with 3 sisters I was always the emotional one. The one who couldn’t control himself. And as I’ve gotten older it’s become a self destructive trait that I know I have to break. I can’t thank TED enough for giving Justin this platform and I can’t thank Justin enough for being vulnerable in front of the world. I can easily say between this talk and his book, it has allowed me to start opening up and understanding more about myself. It’s crazy to think the man I saw on Hulu at my sisters house by chance turned into one of the most needed male figures in my life to help break the generational stigma. It’s a work in progress but I hope I can help the current and next generation create a better tomorrow with how we treat each other today.

"When will people realize we have both masculine and feminine energy and we naturally use both every day even if we ignore or pretend we don't. The definition of being a man is what you make it not what society makes it. Be you be who you want to be"

Let's raise more good humans.

As soon as those two words were spoken- "Me too". I couldn't take it. I completely broke down. Bless the soul of this wonderful person.

This was so needed. I know way too many men who can’t have healthy relationships with friends and family due to having that “manly” ego instilled in them. Men are humans to. I can tell all you men that most women don’t find it attractive to be overly manly to the point where they have the emotions/personality of a rock. Like he said, balance is everything!

Just saw this. And i didn't even know how much i needed to see another brother speaking out loud about what is to be a man without the thrilled "secure, tough and strong stereotype" Justin now you are my now role model PERIODT!

Wow. He’s so strong for doing this, not physically, but mentally.

Part of this needs to be acknowledged by women also because a lot of women see these things (emotions, vulnerability, etc.) as less masculine also.

2:44 man, it hurts how true this is... even us chicks would look down at eachother if we weren’t strong enough because we always felt like we had to prove ourselves to the guys. Prove that we could be strong too. Fight tooth and nail to show that we’re “okay” at anything that isn’t typically considered “feminine.”

I'm bringing my son up, as a single mother, to be tough but fair. I grew up with only my mum around and though she had MAJOR flaws and almost ruined my life I did walk away with some amazing lessons. I got my sons school report back and they said that he's an amazing listener and a great role model in the class. I couldn't be prouder of him. I consider myself a tough woman and had to take care of myself when no-one else would help me. I'm passing life skills I had to learn the hard way to my son so that he can not only look after himself but others. He constantly asks me if I'm okay, he gets me water and hugs me when I'm upset. I'm raising a GREAT human.

When you are overwhelmed by an emotion, your body needs to release the pressure. You cry because you are able to feel so intensely, because you are human. Cry, let it OUT. You will feel better.

Teach our kids how to be good humans. Yes. Exactly. Perfect. 😊

This man just said what many men on this planet would shy away from. Respect ❤️

Powerful message! I love when I meet a man that uses his qualities to go deeper inside himself to recognize these same things!

His wife must be the luckiest woman .

It's not only men that don't know how to listen. Many people don't. It is a skill that really needs to be taught.

I really appreciate his speech, it was amazing, he is speaking about real and serious stuff which is happening every day. So men, men and men listen his speech and learn to listen as well, it is important to understand and to be understood. Each of us has some weaknesses, let's learn to speak about them with our real friends (they are rare), but we need them, we need their support, we need someone who can listen and encourage us to do this or that thing. It's enough to persuade others that everything is ok, if it is not. Don't hide your feelings,your weak sides speak about them and you will feel much more better than ever.

'Marriage is challenging but beautiful.' --- Been married for 6 years now. Been through tough situations, patience has always been tested, but getting married is one of the best decisions I've ever made. It made me not just a better man, but a better human!

I agree with a lot of this message, but I think it does downplay the role of women in perpetuating the issue. Women also need to learn how to accept and deal with male expressions of emotion and vulnerability. I've been dumped because I was upset and scared before a worrying medical procedure. I've had someone actually stop loving me after I broke down and cried in front of her, because we were going to be apart and I was going to miss her. I know enough men with similar experiences. Telling men to open up and embrace their vulnerability is a good thing, but saying that we are the sole problem is short sighted. Women aren't always the warm, glowing beacons of empathy you paint them as. They are imperfect beings, just like men, and they do play their part in the internalisation of male emotion.

As a man... this is one of the best TED talks i've seen.

The world needs more men like this, there is nothing wrong with being sensitive and emotional, doesn't make you any less of a man

Awesome to see the positive community of men and women in these comments. Very powerful speech and eye-opening. I wish more men had the mentality of you Mr. Baldoni❤️

"As if being gay makes you less of a man" 👏👏👏

That's a man I'm looking for all my life

I am so blessed by your words of wisdom. I watched this Ted Talk for a school assignment, but I plan to share this with my friends and family. As a woman, I wish there were more men out there like Justin Baldoni. I cried. I'm now SUCH a huge fan of his even though I had no idea who he was before watching this.

coming back here after 3 years and I still think this is the BEST TED TALK EVER

This is by far the best Ted Talk that has resonated with me.

I'm experiencing exactly the same thing. I mean I've started acting like *ME* instead of what the world were telling me to be. A man is not like what they say and I was tired about it. Glad he has spoken, because my younger self needed to hear that, I hope this will help others.

I wish I had more role models like this growing up and in general. To tell us it was ok to feel, to talk, to show emotion, to be vulnerable, to show you care and to stand up against toxic masculinity. It's hard and we men don't know that it's a problem since it's unfortunately a norm. My wife somehow got me to the point where it clicked recently and I'm making an effort to do better. I'm still learning, still awkward at times, but we must change.

I shed a tear or two when I finished watching this. My eyes were blood-shot red and face full of emotional expression. I recently TYPED (yes, on a typewriter) a 3-4 page passage to myself about self-acceptance and forgiveness. I forgave myself for some past and deeply psychologically-damaging events in my life. Why? How? Because roughly 5-6 years after they happened, I've "finally" learned what it means to forgive yourself and accept who you are meant to be versus who the world says/said you should become. I've accepted my own apology, even to the point of applying to graduate-level programs of study to further empower myself to help others do the same for themselves in their own, respectively unique, ways.

this man is absolutely perfect. god bless him.

"We don't have to stop being men. But we need balance!"

I got goosebumps a couple of times watching this and I can't believe how every line is relatable to every gender. Seeing the toxic and conventional environment my brother and I grew up in, this changes everything. The mindset, the heart of a person and above all one's approach towards feelings.

My standards for men in future relationships has just reached a new high to the point where i'm probably never going to have a boyfriend

Me before the video: 18 minutes long!!!! 🤔 Me after the video: keep going dude...!!! 😍😭

it's sad that I'm a female but feeling all the things that he's talking about

When will people realize we have both masculine and feminine energy and we naturally use both every day even if we ignore or pretend we don't. The definition of being a man is what you make it not what society makes it. Be you be who you want to be.

As a gay man, this really was good for me to watch which I know it isn't about that. But this was a good ted talk and much needed, we need to keep talking. Loud.

For all those people who are saying women don't need men and vice versa, guys that's not how things work. We are humans and we need each other and we must learn to coexist. To coexist, we need to learn to make peace with ourselves and not pretend and be something what we were taught or what the society wants us to be. He's encouraging men to embrace their weaknesses and talk about them, there's nothing non masculine about it. In fact it will be a better experience since you'll see that so many other men also go through the same things you do.

I want a guy who’s as in touch w his feelings as this man is

Even though I am a woman, this TED talk really hits me hard because I too tend to "suffer in secret" (or silence) when trying to deal with certain things. Thank you so much for talking openly about this, Justin! I think I can speak for a ton of people when I say that we all appreciate it a lot!

I’m a man, and trust me this has inspired me deeply and can’t wait to implement. Following your “man enough” podcasts too. Keep going at it brother. 👊🏻👊🏻

I, a female, will take part in this challenge and be the solution. I will listen to all the men in my life and make sure they feel safe and secure. I already knew abou this problem, but it's high time we all do something to solve it.

Women... we have our issues too. Listen to our men when they call out our toxic behaviours too... We are always ready to discuss what is wrong with men. And how men have to change. Just remember to check yourself first before trying to fix others with a misguided and broken spirit. Edit: it's been a while since I've come back to this video. I appreciate everyone that was able to agree or disagree with my comment without being rude. To the rest, please take it elsewhere. I don't need those vibes in my notifications.

Bravo to Justin Baldoni. This was beautiful. Thank you. I've been saying and doing and making these very same changes in my life.

Watching this literally healed my inner child.

I wish the men in my work office would hear this and wake up. My voice falls on deaf ears regardless of how many times I complained, and I’m seen as the one with all the issues, because I don’t join in on their filthy sexually harassing jokes against women, even in front of the women in my office.

OMYGOD YESS “ are you brave enough to be vulnerable… Are you strong enough to be sensitive” this.

Thank you for this message. Lots of people such as myself struggle. Society has made it tough for men to show what's truely happening inside. Hopefully in time we can all overcome and be more transparent to those around us and be able to support and hold each other up .

Have listened to this message more than once and that Justin so much for stepping up. Using what I heard to teach my grandchildren all boys by the way to better humans. We men and women are in this together.❤️

*No lies, when I first saw Justin's role in a segment as an actor last year I rolled my eyes. "Stereotypical". After seeing this, I don't know if I could identify a stronger man. Vulnerability is the MOMENTUM that starts movement, that will ultimately lead to change. A happier, healthier, more honest world. Who couldn't get behind that? Thank you JustinXTed*

Run for President. I'll vote for you. You got the touch!!

This is one of the most beautiful videos on manhood that exists. God bless Justin. He is such a good man with a healthy outlook on life and a beautiful family to match.

As woman i don't need a strong or muscular man all i want is a man who love me, kind and heartwarming

This hit me hard as a guy who never felt excepted by other guys. I feel encouraged to be me and let positive vibes flow! 👌☺😅😭😂👍😰😱😁

The amount of love I hold for him, one day I pray that I am lucky enough to find and have someone like this in my life.

Rarely do I finish Ted Talk videos but I finished this 😊🙏🏻. As a woman who grew up in a female-led household, the narrative was to be tough to compensate for the loss of male perspective. It did not make it any easier that almost all the males were abusive in one way or another to my female relatives. I can tell you that this talk gave me permission to be vulnerable with others. I don't open up easily to any gender and it's exhausting. I am taking this challenge head-on.

One of the best talks I ever heard. So meaningful so impactful so authentic. Thank you

Being a woman AND a feminist, I really want to support men's rights too now. He's really humane.

Sensitive men face many problems in the world.... Being one myself, finding that balanced viewpoint while still being able to defend my principals is a challenge. But one worthy of my Time

This is one of the most beautiful speeches I have ever heard. It touched my heart , I’m in tears. Thank You.

I honestly feel that, being "man enough" Even though I am female presenting, I still am, in the same mindset of not showing emotions, and being strong, and that it's wrong to cry. Huns, whether you're transgender, nonbinary, male, female, or some other gender identity please know this; It's okay to cry. It's okay to show emotions. It's okay to be nurturing and gentle. Be you. Because your you is beautiful.

Being an actor he is speaking like a motivational speaker

This is such a wonderful TED talk. I hope this touches many men (and women) because he sends an amazing message. Thank you.

M 24 - I've struggled with feminine and masculine traits throughout my life. The problem was I was too much masculine at one point in life and after some time I became so soft that people started pushing me. Now here I'm listening to all the great people on KZfaq, trying to make sense of how to be a human. 2 months ago I was diagnosed with depression because all day I was lost inside my head figuring out what I want. I was(or still am) buried in self-doubt and there is no self love left. After consuming content 13-14 hours a day I can tell you everything there is to know about how to be a "Man" or how be a "Woman" and the things you need to do but still I'm at conflict within myself. Since past few days I started listening to my inner voice and started doing things that would make me happy. I don't think about whether the thing that I'm doing is a sign of masculinity or feminine in nature. I just do it. I believe that rather than looking for ways to be a "man" or "woman" on internet a person should listen to his own heart and reason. That is the hardest thing to do in today's world because almost everyone is trying to be someone else, everyone wants to sound smart in front of people. I don't even know why I'm writing this comment. Maybe I'm talking to myself ? haha

Agree totally and had similar experiences. My Mother taught me respect for other people and how to treat women as people not objects. It got muddled in my teens and early adulthood but in the end, my rearing won out. I am so grateful because I can respect and love my wife and both wings can fly.