How to recognize a master manipulator | Dan Jones

How to recognize a master manipulator | Dan Jones | TEDxReno

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NOTE FROM TED: Please do not look to this talk to diagnose yourself or others. This talk reflects the speaker's interpretation of Machiavellianism and interpersonal relationships, which remains a part of ongoing debate among social scientists. TEDx events are independently organized by volunteers. The guidelines we give TEDx organizers are described in more detail here: storage.ted.com/tedx/manuals/t...
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Some researchers have found Machiavellian personality traits are not fixed across lifespan and may decrease over time. For more information see here: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32145...
Critiques around Machiavellianism and dark triad personality traits in business settings can be found here: www.science.org/content/artic...
Have you ever been the victim of manipulation? Do you need to know how to deal with toxic people? This talk explains dark triad traits, helps you recognize different types of manipulative people, and provides a way of dealing with manipulators by using their strategic thinking against them.
Daniel N. Jones, an Associate Professor at the University of Nevada Reno, is renowned for his research on dark personalities, with over 100 peer-reviewed publications. He's received accolades like the Early Career Award from the Western Psychological Association and grants from entities like the National Science Foundation. Jones delves into the Dark Triad and Tetrad, exploring traits like Machiavellianism and sadism, with a focus on their implications in areas like cyber-security. He's also authored a forthcoming book on "Emophilia: The Science of Serial Romance." Passionate about interdisciplinary solutions, he aims to establish consulting services to implement his evidence-based interventions. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@DoyConocimiento-zq4kr 24 күн бұрын

How to protect yourself from manipulators? Trust your intuition. Set clear boundaries. Don't give in to pressure. Seek support. Walk away if necessary...

@pahorang 7 күн бұрын

I learned this alone in life. "Look at the world for what it is and not what we want it to be" -an Intellectual that I can't remember his name.

@BigMoonShot 4 күн бұрын

Robert Greene?

@saicharanjogu 24 күн бұрын

🎯 Key points for quick navigation: 00:03 *🗣️ Manipulation is common, and many people don't realize they're being manipulated.* 01:07 *🧠 Understanding manipulation is crucial for protection.* 02:02 *📚 The study of manipulative traits like psychopathy, narcissism, and Machiavellianism has a fragmented history.* 02:30 *📖 Machiavellianism involves strategic and cautious manipulation for power.* 03:24 *🌟 The "dark triad" refers to psychopathy, narcissism, and Machiavellianism.* 04:05 *👿 Psychopathy is considered dangerous but lacks long-term strategic planning.* 04:46 *🦁 Machiavellianism is like a lion planning its attack; it's strategic and long-term.* 06:09 *🕵️‍♂️ Machiavellians act strategically, unlike impulsive psychopaths or ego-driven narcissists.* 06:36 *📈 Individuals high in Machiavellianism cope better under destructive leadership and get promoted more often.* 07:31 *🛡️ It's important to defend against manipulation without becoming manipulative.* 08:10 *♟️ Treat interactions with manipulative people like a chess match, focusing on external gains.* 08:36 *❄️ "CBR" method: Cold (emotionally guarded), Bottom line (focus on goals), Rational (outcome-oriented).* 09:22 *💸 Treat manipulative people based on their utility, not as friends.* 10:20 *👫 These tactics are for dealing with manipulative individuals, not for healthy relationships.* 11:14 *🛠️ Recognizing and dealing with manipulation is crucial; future research should focus on practical solutions.* 12:06 *🧩 Using the CBR method helps manage manipulation until one can escape the situation.*

@GbemisolaOluwasina 24 күн бұрын

Thank you.

@nachocheeba 24 күн бұрын

Doing the Lord's work 😂❤ thank you for this

@nellie... 24 күн бұрын

This information should be taught in high schools.

@YouilAushana 10 күн бұрын

Sure it'll probably help

@macareuxmoine 3 күн бұрын

I could not agree more. What would’ve become of so many beautiful souls had that knowledge been hammered into them at a young age? The price society pays for letting dark triads grow like cancer is unimaginable!

@Portia620 2 күн бұрын

Middle school and then again in high school then in college again!

@nellie... 2 күн бұрын

@@Portia620 Agree

@stevengibson5600 Күн бұрын

Then the lesson wouldn’t be well absorbed.. Life is the ultimate grader, and teacher. We need trials and tribulations to learn and grow. ☯️

@alexandrabcarter 13 күн бұрын

This talk captivated both me and my teenager! A topic people of all ages need and can relate to, supported by research that will help many. Congrats Dan!

@KayaStanley 24 күн бұрын

Outstanding talk, Dan! I have thought about this often while dealing with difficult personalities. Thank you for sharing your work in this area!

@AliceHeiman 23 күн бұрын

Such important information here. Dan explains how people use manipulation and what those being manipulated can do about it in a simple way that everyone can understand and use.

@JudyHoPhD 15 күн бұрын

Great to meet with you at TEDx and so glad I got to see this talk in person. Many people feel like it’s their fault when they engage with a manipulator and begin to question their own self-worth. These tips help to put them back on the track to empowerment and trusting themselves again. What a unique way to take back control especially in situations when you can’t immediately get out of interacting with them (like if they’re a co-worker). Thanks so much Dr. Jones for your unique perspective!

@Ariela-ApostolicA238 24 күн бұрын

My experience: I was married to a covert NARCISSIST, with a child!! This is a great perspective, actually! Thanks for sharing!!

@BretSimmons 24 күн бұрын

Great job, Dan! I learned things from this talk that I am already putting to use.

@PaulMawdsley68 24 күн бұрын

Thank-you, thank-you, THANK-YOU!

@Christian_Prepper 2 күн бұрын

*I just noticed some of the other videos suggested in relation to this video are about "Persuasion", "How to get more", "How to be influential", "Prevent emotions from dictating my actions", etc.*

@jodycasey6936 24 күн бұрын

GREAT subject!! Thank you!

@kakarot_gaming662 23 күн бұрын

This should be taught in schools …

@htetkaungkyaw8127 24 күн бұрын

This "CBR" is eye-opening. Thank you...

@joedaley6031 6 күн бұрын

I've listened to this talk and I don't feel that much of it is given over to answering the question of "how do you recognise a master manipulator?"

@zapbutton8553 24 күн бұрын

it is a good outlook, but the title is promising a bit more than it is, but that just shows we need more common knowledge about these characters.

@memig9984 24 күн бұрын

This is soo needed

@faithkoebert406 24 күн бұрын

You are doing the Lords work my man!!!! This is so good!!!!!!

@lorrieannesilvey474 24 күн бұрын

So sad that the world is like this.

@drebugsita 7 күн бұрын

I had to rewatch the second half. Noting CBR to put it into practice! Thank you

@mariehughey5390 24 күн бұрын

I see knowledge as good and helpful especially when needed to understand a n unhealthy relationship. I still mourn the loss of innocence that comes with it.

@SOSSTSE 24 күн бұрын

It's sad that we have these people to deal with. Helping the mental health is serious responsibility. Everyone needs help. SOSSTSE VOICES OF HOPE.❤❤❤

@itzhexen0 24 күн бұрын

There seems to be a lot of master manipulators down here in the comment section.

@hamzahalmajtoomi 24 күн бұрын

Ur one of them 😊

@NickArcade 24 күн бұрын

You manipulated me to reply

@itzhexen0 24 күн бұрын

@@hamzahalmajtoomi Found one.

@NA-tr9yn 24 күн бұрын

@@itzhexen0 fortnite

@istiakopu8521 23 күн бұрын

😂😂😂

@megatronDelaMusa 6 күн бұрын

the lion you don't see. the blow that will knock you out is the one you don't see

@MoSadik-pj5yw 24 күн бұрын

I think I am in danger now😢

@Rod_madk 24 күн бұрын

Literally just ignored someone like this away today Cold Bottom line Rational

@user-ur7hp3gm2i 8 күн бұрын

Give a few examples actually help I am still not sure what is what n which is which

@jonsnow911 6 күн бұрын

6:00 three types, 8:50 charm as a weapon, 10:00

@PolkaDocs 9 сағат бұрын

Okay... So I agree 99%. I have actually done a lot of this with my ex who I question if he was a sociopath. I'm extremely empathetic but also very rational. The one thing I don't agree on is: there's no place for it in a healthy relationship. If you do it right, I disagree. But, I was also still very honest and addressed emotional things as well (rationally) and didn't sweep that under the rug. And I know I made my ex think and won many battles this way that I'm sure planted lil seeds in his mind opening him up to change, as niave as it may sound to some. One tiny example... He'd get verbally abusive sometimes, so I'd always address the behavior itself rather than reacting too much to the things he would say about me. I'd turn it back around on him to make him reflect. He'd get very frustrated that his insults didn't effect me much. He even complained about it once saying something like "except you don't even care [what I say about you]!" Me: "well... Why would I want to let those things bother me?" *Him being confused and stopping to think*: "well... Why do I care them? [The things I say about him] me: "idk! Why do you???" So if you do it with emotional intelligence, I think you can also help someone else to learn emotional intelligence. But it can't be in a patronizing way, it has to be so rational and lead them to make the realizations on their own. The hardest part was not getting caught up in my own emotions and being reactive rather than responsive like he says... This took time. But the more I saw through him and understood him, the easier it became. I got pretty good at getting through to him at times, and I know I'll be in his head for a long time to come.. even if I did eventually have to just walk away, as I felt like it was time. My intuition told me I did enough and the best I could do for him now was push him out of the nest.. because after a certain point, it can be enabling to be there for someone endlessly without making them to the work themselves after you know they know better. Time to fly on your own lil birdie.

@francesbernard2445 3 күн бұрын

In summary: A person who finds themselves in a trap sometimes learns behaviors which in any other context could then be called macheveillianism. Like for example pretending to be asleep or dying first when they are not in hopes of later after their captors are asleep then getting away. People with the personality trait called Macheveillianism in contrast behave in patterns that are predictable in any context once one or more people have their number.

@fillyscandy2734 24 күн бұрын

Il fine giustifica i mezzi!!

@danielapedroso3817 24 күн бұрын

Donde puedo verlo subtitulado

@HakMartin 8 сағат бұрын

Bro literally re-discovered intelligence and gave it a nerdy name.

@Christian_Prepper 2 күн бұрын

*PLOT TWIST: this video is actually the result of paranoia.* 😂

@nannybannany 24 күн бұрын

I appreciate this talk but I also don't understand the extreme solution still. I'll watch again.

@katywallis5016 24 күн бұрын

Agreed…. I think the entire first half of the video was telling us that there’s a problem….

@tracykennedy4589 17 күн бұрын

CBR Cold, Bottom Line & Rational tools

@Raymond-l4w 11 күн бұрын

I prefer to play along and when they least expect it, flip the scrip completely

@Christian_Prepper 2 күн бұрын

8:55 *So the advice on how to handle "manipulators" is to be heartless, selfish and goal-blinded??? Uh, so become a sociopath? ok.*

@dottyp137 24 күн бұрын

How to recognise a master manipulator…. I thought I was going to get some clues on how to spot a master manipulator. 🤷‍♀️🥴. Maybe I missed something 🤷‍♀️

@nachocheeba 24 күн бұрын

He put it right up on the board...

@dottyp137 24 күн бұрын

@@nachocheeba oh I missed it then 🙈🥴, it was very late I probably zoned out and had a little micro sleep. I will have another watch now I know 😝 thank you 🤩

@Blastin7411 17 күн бұрын

@@dottyp137?

@cfleagle1 14 күн бұрын

Is Machiavellianism a learned trait, from a person's upbringing, or genetic? What causes so many people to be like this?

@carlorizzo827 8 күн бұрын

I read Macchiavelli's book The Prince some years ago. Meant to be a guide for those aspiring to a political career. Very interesting & accessible! But my interpretation was not that he was ADVOCATING it, but merely DESCRIBING. He at one point sadly asserted that leaders who operate in an honorable way are all too vulnerable, the bad guys win.

@icy9812 Күн бұрын

I hope you all do realize, despite no doubt on how convincing and probably unquestionably correct his words and studies are, that his words are also impregnated with something I feel as hate-ish towards these kinds of personalities and do not express or promote one very important thing: compassion for these people. So here's the truth and it's here besides you being so toxicly hateful towards these people (and you no doubt have good reasons to be, I'm not saying you don't or shouldn't): they were the abused and controlled ones in the first place, and if their only chance of survival was to develop that kind of a personality, if you are not one of them, well then you surely get the point I'm doing about compassion. He could have just limited himself to saying "hey look, you're in this situation? Well here's what you should do to feel better yourself the fastest way possible" instead of engaging in this hate war spreading hate all around. To me it seems that if his intentions to help were truly sincere he wouldn't have needed the mocking part (which is 90% of the talk btw), instead his speech feels like it is hiding resentment over his past experiences on this topic underneath, and he actually literally tells it at the very start of the talk if you notice. I am no one to say this but, honestly, he feels manipulative himself with how he decided to give the speech. I hope it was just to keep the attention high (not justifying it), after all the goal is always views on these platforms

@Amadioh 24 күн бұрын

Ask drake on how to become a master manipulator

@toneswing6 24 күн бұрын

I was looking for this😂

@namanarora3607 24 күн бұрын

And a habitual liar too

@phired6207 24 күн бұрын

@@namanarora3607but don't tell no lie about me, and I won't tell truths like you 😂

@syedimranullah 24 күн бұрын

Let's manipulate the manipulator strategically.... brilliant 👍

@HardcoreRecovery 24 күн бұрын

The first thing I would ask myself; are they on drugs? Most people in the rooms during their addiction were master manipulators.

@tradermunky1998 24 күн бұрын

So two evils make a right.

@donmulder8061 3 күн бұрын

Try to think of it as self defense.

@SWonYT 24 күн бұрын

Kendrick could have presented a case study.

@jsonlondrew3588 10 күн бұрын

Hey I'm the bad guy you described, how can i help?

@icy9812 Күн бұрын

You just need to be really willing to change and seek help from a therapist if you can't deal with it yourself (which is the case for 99% of people so don't even feel a bit ashamed). And btw, don't know if you red my comment up there but do not feel too bad for the words he uses in the speech, they are kinda hateful.. and also mind that everyone has work to do on the self and therapy is generally a good way

@icy9812 Күн бұрын

Also, do not diagnose yourself based on a ted talk on youtube 😅

@Girz0r 24 күн бұрын

Machiavellianism of the Occupying Nation State

@HertzMiao 22 күн бұрын

Llegué a 200k hoy. Estoy realmente agradecido por todo el conocimiento y las pepitas que me habéis brindado durante los últimos meses. Comenzó con 14k en junio de 2022, gracias Sra. Stacey Meredith

@righteousbyfaithinChrist 11 күн бұрын

Human nature is fully described and explored but then the pages of the Bible... I know that you think that all the science knowledge in the world will help you to understand why... Maybe. And nothing has prepared me more for this broken system been my relationship with God and my knowledge of what's contained within the Bible.... And if you consider me a manipulator to be saying all these things... So be it

@lilshawty2605 8 күн бұрын

I agree. It does give such a deep insight on to the ways people are.

@alenaadamkova5322 24 күн бұрын

Maybe they should create "nice weekend syndrome" The nice man syndrome is on point, Its about men who are not honest about their feelings or actions. but "nice weeked syndrome" can be actually about being honest to yourself and to feelings to others. Make idea once a week going to a nature, camping or hiking with a family, play silly games, with some ball, or do tenis, husband will bond more with wife, wife will bond more with husband, thanks to innocent silly games. I mean games like "who will" make the tent first etc or who will prepare food, or something little just for fun, bringing some mushroom, in such innocent moment wife and husband enjoy the moments of silence, and gentle loving touch, holding hands while walking in nature, or he helps making a camp fire, she will hand him the stuff from bag, without any silly analytical "thoughts" in head looking into each others eyes, without words, Actions speak louder than constantly anlyzing, In silence they actually create "bonding loving" atmposphere in their marriage. People dont practice this silent approach, just sitting looking in camp fire and enjoy family time, or riding a horse together, walking a dog silently, and enjoying the other person´s presence, they are taught by media, to just talk all the time, so they dont have time to fall in love over and over again. But usually you fall in love especially when your mouth are shut, when your mind isnt too rational in prefrontal cortex, and eyes open, not in times of constant analyzis. so ypou let your heart speak sometimes too. Its called brain heart coherence, in state of alpha, theta. Laughter is healling and laughter makes people bond together. Children may learn new hobbies. It is better than being constantly attacked by news and silly topics on social media, or being brainwashed to eat some pills to feel happier. Hobbies and laughter is good stimulation for brain, also it increases immunity of the body, so people feel healthier, happier.

@zeinmushref2753 24 күн бұрын

برأي صبروا شوي كل فترة بصير هيك هوجة وموجة مشانا نحنا السوريين تقولوا بالدور تكاتروا علينا بس النا الله مارح ينسانا ..سلموا أمركم لله عز وجل

@AhmadBajalan 6 күн бұрын

Hot air no meat...

@leo_gamer9 24 күн бұрын

I think I am not in danger I am the danger💀😈

@FealingFealing 24 күн бұрын

Please do Arabic translation for all videos♥️

@davidl9232 17 күн бұрын

Hmm. Question then.? How are you going to prove in a court who the manipulator is and who( at least in the start) who was victimized( targeted)?

@Celena2224 7 күн бұрын

Sorry this is not good advice. First it’s not biblical or practical. It’s fighting fire w fire. You can be wise and loving

@vladtheimpaler7869 24 күн бұрын

I’m beginning to think anyone can book a Ted Talk speaking engagement now a days.

@jeandicarlo-wagner 23 күн бұрын

Spoken like a narcissist

@Beedee664 18 күн бұрын

Ok get to the point

@ericalbright7210 24 күн бұрын

Christine Albright "Brilliant vidio"!... "Thank you"!... "+"!..."❤"!...

@elidragom 24 күн бұрын

did a whole lot of talking & nothing to give lmao

@loveyourketo1433 24 күн бұрын

Exactly

@jeandicarlo-wagner 23 күн бұрын

Went over your head

@elidragom 17 күн бұрын

@@jeandicarlo-wagner break it down in a sentence or two then. you can’t do it😂

@JenJayBanks 24 күн бұрын

Ok, but how?

@loveyourketo1433 24 күн бұрын

Would be helpful to get more info how to identify them. Useless

@jeandicarlo-wagner 23 күн бұрын

Extremely well differentiated in the first six minute. Turn the closed captions on and read them.

@NA-tr9yn 24 күн бұрын

Fortnite

@raviguptaboards 24 күн бұрын

Get to the point ffs

@fireflymary9269 23 күн бұрын

Ha! The entire Republican Party

@rikachiu 24 күн бұрын

Half of america is about to vote for a machiavellian.

@KwadDamyj 24 күн бұрын

Do you have any idea how little that narrows it down?!

@andrewkline 24 күн бұрын

Extremely misleading title. This presentation is a vague introduction to machiavellianism, and practically nothing more. Getting tired of being clickbaited by mouth breathing ted talks...

@jeandicarlo-wagner 23 күн бұрын

Did you stop listening at 6:44?

@andrewkline 23 күн бұрын

@@jeandicarlo-wagner no actually I listened though 2x to make sure I didn't miss something

@fireflymary9269 23 күн бұрын

Ha! The entire Republican party