She’s passing her childhood trauma onto her daughter. It’s horrible, the little girl knows nothing more than what she tells her

“I’ve never seen anyone with a monolid who I thought was pretty.” Said in front of her daughter who has a monolid. I can’t even with this…

My mom hated me and told me repeatedly I was ugly. I won a beauty contest and got modeling assignments with top companies but I couldn't shake off that feeling of being ugly. Now I'm fifty and I realize what happened, but I also feel that now aging has caught up with me... Growing up in India as a woman, you are judged by everybody, harsh comments and low self worth haunt all women.

I just paused this & told both my children (9 year old fraternal twins) how beautiful they are. Thank you for bringing light to this. This was truly heart breaking.

“Thank you mommy. You spent all this money to make me cuter. That makes me happy.” Those 3 sentences should never come out of a 9 year olds mouth when it’s a SURGERY shes referring to.

The saddest part of this video was the little girl looking at herself with the markings on her eyes. The thought of her being taught that she needs surgery to be beautiful is so heartbreaking, especially considering her mother, the person that's supposed to affirm and encourage her the most, is the one perpetuating this self-hate. This is so sad.

As a japanese 12 year old, I was shocked to find this out. Sure, I know that Japan has high beauty standards. For example, double eyelids, pale skin, skinny figure is admired, and there's even a saying that translates to "white skin hides 7 flaws". However, I agree that this is waaaaay too much. Thank you for raising awareness about this!

My Mom made me get ear surgery to pin back my ears when I was a little girl. I didn't see the problem but she did. That ordeal still haunts me today and has given me body dysmorphia. Whenever I see little girls with ears that 'stick' out or are prominent, I think they are the most beautiful thing in the world.

When I was little , my mom would take me to the Asian markets with her and strangers would say to my mom , “what a pretty girl “ . Her reply was, “she’s not pretty “. This reminds me of how parents can messed up their little children.

This is just appalling. Hearing her sobbing during the procedure made my stomach hurt. The saddest part to me is that it probably wasn’t just the pain that was scaring her, but the fact that her eyes were being cut into and she would never be able to look the same again. Very traumatizing. She’s only 9, her mother sucks. I hope this stops.

my eyes were the first insecurity i ever developed. my mom and grandma made me very self aware that i had monolids since as far as i can remember as a child. they made me associate monolids as an unattractive physical trait. would tell me to tape my eyelids, etc. now i have such horrible body dysmorphia and im obsessed with plastic surgery. i started onlyfans as soon as i turned 18 in order to afford surgery and move out on my own. i got my eyelids done at 19 and i regret it so much to this day. i wish i gave myself time to learn how to love what i saw as flaws. this video is so heartbreaking to watch. poor girl. i cry for her :/

I grew up in Japan and my mom suggested too when I was pre teen. I didn't do it, but was hurt knowing my parents think I was ugly

It’s a form of child abuse. The mother and now the daughter really need some counseling. It’s heartbreaking. 😢

I live in Japan, and the society here cares so much about beauty standards that I feel bad for everyone really, but especially for young girls. I'm 30 and I've never had any plastic surgeries, and I feel like I'm constantly reminded about how old and ugly I look. The ads for beauty procedures are very aggressive here. The other day I saw a double eye lid surgery ad on the train, it featured three high school girls and said: "The high school life only lasts 3 years. I want to spend every second as cute as I can be". And it made me angry, because it brainwashes girls into thinking that they are not cute without double eye lids. I had serious issues with my self-esteem after I just moved here, had even to get a professional help, and I moved here in my late 20ies. I can only imagine how hard it is for impressive and vulnerable teen girls.

i studied abroad in japan in high school, and my best friend told me she had a double-eyelid surgery in 3rd grade. i was shocked, and assumed it was part of the culture but now that i’m older i realize how crazy that really is. plastic surgery at 8/9 years old….is crazy

Abuse comes in many forms. This certainly ranks among them. It's coercive nature bullies a young mind into acquiescence. What an appalling state of affairs.

I’ve never seen you so upset, Dr Gary, I think it says a lot! You are usually so unshakeable but we can see it in your face how disturbing the video is. It is disturbing to us too, but surely more troubling for you since this is your field of expertise. Very interesting

Dr Gary, at 11:56, there's a misinterpretation. When she had her first plastic surgery at 18, her mother was against it (11:42). The story about the kitchen knife wasn't that her mother was shaming her for not having the perfect face, but more so that the mother was upset that her daughter wanted to change the face she was given, hence why the mother pointed the knife at herself saying "I'm sorry I gave you this face".

Poor little sweetheart, she was already so beautiful. How could her mother say she wasn't. The mother put her daughter through this painful surgery for the mother's own vanity. Shame on her.

That is so sad to have children think beauty comes from how you look on the outside instead of beauty coming from the inside.

The mothers inferiority complex is being pushed onto her daughters. The mother is just passing her pain onto her daughters. Instead of protecting her daughters from the standards that hurt her, she's subjecting them to it in a worse way.

I'm an asian adoptee who grew up in a completely white, Irish American family. While my cultural upbringing was complex, one thing that I'm glad about is that I was never exposed to asian beauty standards growing up. I didn't even realize there was such strong cultural differences in beauty standards until college, when I started making asian friends and they would talk about things like wanting lighter skin or their families pressuring them to get plastic surgery to look more white, essentially (apparently plastic surgery is given as a gift when you graduate high school in Korea). One girl I met, I thought she was incredibly beautiful - but then she told me that according to asian beauty standards in her home country, she was considered unattractive. I was shocked. Growing up in a white household through the 90's, white Americans preferred tanned skin, and an "exotic" look. As culturally problematic as it can be considered nowadays, I had many compliments growing up for my appearance that actually contributed to a positive view of my own body. There were not a lot of asian people around me growing up, or in media, so I had nothing to compare myself to. So I've never had the kind of self esteem issues that so many women go through in their teens. But if I had grown up in an asian household with such strict cultural beauty standards about eye shape and weight and all that, I wonder how different that would have been...

This is horrifying. She's basically calling her child "ugly" right in front of her. Does she really think her daughter will forget all that when she gets older? Memories of childhood trauma are twice as likely to be remembered. She will grow up with painful memories of people including her own mother calling her "ugly" and the pain and fear she endured during her operation.

My family is big on adoption and one of my Korean American cousins has the “mono” eyelid and I think she is so beautiful. I love the way she looks and was even jealous growing up because I thought her eyes were fantastic. I had no idea until I grew up that some people don’t think it’s beautiful! I hope my cousin doesn’t doesn’t feel this way. 😢

This is utterly devastating. As a kid my mom would make me stay out of the sun bc “I was too dark” and she would make lean over a boiling pot to heat up my nose and I’d squeeze it to “make it thinner”… she would tell me I was way too skinny and would point out kids I should look like, and even THAT was enough to do a number on my self esteem. Im 35 now and don’t think I’ll ever recover. These poor kids.

This made me cry because I underwent something similar. I was slightly older, 13, but the surgeries were far more invasive. I am white/Caucasian but was born and raised in Japan, as was my mother, until I left for boarding school in the US and have stayed here since. A few months before my 14th birthday, my parents took me to NYC (they wanted a surgeon that had more practice on non East Asian patients) for rhinoplasty because they thought the tip was just slightly too bulbous. Most surgeons turned down the request, but they found a doctor practicing on the Upper East Side that was willing to do it. And more. He wasn't board certified and lost his license down the road, but that's another story. Instead, shortly before 14, he performed a rhinoplasty on me and, of all things, liposuction. My mother was concerned that my body was developing to be curvier in the hips and legs and wanted me to "fit in" with my classmates (classmates of a totally different race!). The first attempt, I screamed and screamed and threw an absolute fit when they tried to get me into the OR. My parents said they would take me home, so we went back to the hotel. It was a lie. Instead, they had crushed up Valium the surgeon had given them to bring me back to the office so I was unable to really fight back. We had to return to his office periodically for post-op checks on my nose. Well, surprise surprise, on the one year checkup for my nose, I found myself in the same situation and under the knife again. This time? Breast implants. Just slightly before turning 15. I hadn't even properly developed yet, and later in life when I had them removed, my suspicions were confirmed: the doctor put in larger implants than my parents requested without any consent. At the time, the implants took me from a small B cup to a full C cup. By the time I started college, I was 110lbs at 5' 7" with 32E breasts. It looked ridiculous, and I would never wear anything but sports bras and loose shirts or sweatshirts. All of this destroyed my self esteem for a very long time. It also created incredible strain in the relationship dynamics I had with my parents. I learned to accept what happened and move forward, but it wasn't that easy. I've since had to have 2 revision rhinoplasties and am due for a 3rd. There was so little cartilage left in my nose that it has to be built up slowly through rib and ear grafts. The septum was so deviated I could barely breathe through it. Hopefully this next one will be the last. Naturally I also have scars from the breast implant removal and lift (lollipop scars). The liposuction wound up pockmarking my entire lower body. I've been told I need a thigh lift to correct it, but that's yet another major surgery I'm not certain I'm willing to go through with it. So long story short: PARENTS: Please NEVER force your child to get cosmetic surgery or make them feel like they HAVE to get it to be attractive. KIDS, TEENS, AND YOUNG ADULTS: Please wait until you are older and are certain about the cosmetic changes you want. Once your natural features are changes, you can never get them back the same way they were before surgery. Cosmetic surgery is a major decision. Only do it for yourself. Do research when choosing your doctor and don't be afraid to say no if you don't feel comfortable with or on the same page as them. Be certain. Don't do it impulsively, and don't let it define you.

I had a blepharoplasty and ectropion repair surgery done earlier this year under local anaesthetic. I was having both eyes operated on at the same time and they could only finish part of the procedure on my left eye due to me being unable to stop panicking during the surgery. I'm 30 years old and I needed the surgery for medical reasons. I could see, feel and hear everything they were doing and it was awful. I had nightmares about it afterwards! I would NEVER want a child to go through such a thing and put that trauma onto them let alone all of the other emotional trauma that the mother is inflicting onto her daughter. This is highly upsetting to me.

This video also made me realize how lucky I am to have a mom that always told us kids how much she loved us, physical or mental flaws and all. It shouldn't be underestimated how much parent's opinions affect the children. My mom always tried to lose weight and loved corsets because she's a bit chubby, and now that I'm the same way, I find myself always wanting to lose weight and wear corsets. My mom NEVER told me that I needed to lose weight or wear corsets, but since I saw the person I adored the most in the world do that, I've found myself wanting to do that to myself as well. I don't blame my mom for it at all though, her mom (my grandma) and especially her mom (my great grandmother) were REALLY into looks, and pushed that onto their children.

I'm really glad that as a surgeon you're exposing bad laws, surgeon behaviors and practices like this

“For a girl it’s all about looks. Your personality and anything else doesn’t matter.” 25:54 I am so grateful that my mother never imparted such values to me. Like a lot of the girls in the video, I also grew up in an East Asian country, and I was also bullied for the way I looked. Especially by the guys, who ranked every girl in our class by looks and I came in as second to last. I remember being upset about it. My mom told me that my looks will change as I get older so I shouldn’t feel that dejected, and that even if I didn’t become prettier when I grow up, it doesn’t matter because I could still be pretty kind and pretty smart. Then my mom advised me to study, because physical beauty fades with youth, but knowledge stays with you forever. When I was 18, my mom offered to pay for me to get a double eyelid surgery, and I told her that I didn’t spend my childhood coming to terms with my monolids to change them now. Anyway, I realized that my mom wasn’t actually against PS as I originally assumed - she truly just wants me to be happy. More importantly, she lets me decide what makes me happy instead of making the decision for me. For an East Asian parent, that’s honestly pretty rare.

Plastic surgery for KIDs should be ILLEGAL unless it's life threatening for medical reasons

I don't know whether its the artist or human in me, but I think people with monolids are beautiful. It adds a beautiful depth to someone's eyes and face. Gorgeous. This is so incredibly sad to see.

I worked with a woman of Filipino decent and she had constant breathing problems akin to mine after 2 breaks in my nose . We discussed our individual breathing issues one day and she attributed hers to her grandmother pinching her nose daily as a baby through childhood in order to “thin and smooth it” I was heartbroken to hear this and saw how much she was suffering 40 years later

All children of race, are all beautiful. All carry unique features. A child does not need to be compare to any other culture for plastic surgery to occur. Let a child be a child.

I cry because this are so pretty people with beautiful and cute eyes and they say there are ugly wtf. How can it be normal that everyone should look the same

I barely able to watch this, seeing her crying as the surgeon cut her eyelid broke my heart. It's true that every kid deserves to have parents, but not every parents deserve to have kids. I am barren so I could never have children, but if that girl were mine, I will tell her that she's beautiful just the way she is everyday, because SHE IS! 😢💔 I tell my niece and nephews the same thing everyday, that I love them all just the way they uniquely are and that they're all equally beautiful. It's also a blessing that their mother (my closest cousin, I'm an only child) shares my point of views about raising children. I am so glad and proud that my beloved niece (6) and nephews (4 and 9) are all growing up to be kindhearted, empathic kids. They are cute, smart, healthy, and confident children, and I will do anything to keep them in the right, balanced path and education. ❤ They are our future generation

My fiancée had jaw surgery over a month ago. Not for aesthetics, but because his jaw was not properly positioned. He had migraines and started to have arthritis on the jaw. The surgery was to position the jaw correctly, so he wouldn’t have potentially dangerous problems in the future. He is still recovering from the surgery. I took care of him for the first weeks and let me tell you - it was rough. Not being able to eat any food, having to keep his mouth closed all the time, the intense pain and swelling.. The first day after surgery we asked ourselves how the fuck some people do this voluntarily.

That poor baby crying during surgery….probably wishing she had never done it. Broke my heart for her. That’s was like torture and just senseless.

Watching this video was really hard but thank you Dr. Gary for saying all what you said, you're an absolute star.

When I taught in grade schools in South Korea about 6 years ago, a LOT of the 11 to 12-year-olds would get double-eyelid surgery as a gift from their parents. It was normal to have a kid come into class with a patch on one eye at a time so they could still see while it healed. My co-teacher told me that if a female student hadn't had a double-eye lid surgery before high school, their parents must either be poor or not love them! (What?!) As a foreigner, I was the only female teacher at the school who hadn't had plastic surgery, and while I'm considered conventionally very attractive the other teachers would still suggest procedures for me to get done. It didn't bother me, but I did feel uncomfortable that these conversations were happening in the cafeteria with students all around being influenced by overhearing them brag about what they had gotten done or wanted to "fix" next. I'm definitely not saying everyone in S Korea is like this; the culture at that school was toxic in general.

I’m Japanese with monolids and when I was young, I remember wanting to get double eyelid surgery. I’m glad I didn’t, because I’ve learned to appreciate my eyelids and I’m in my 30’s now. I know the feeling of “feeling ugly” as a minor, but I think it’s a normal part of growing up. We all have insecurities but we learn to accept who we are as we get older. By the way, there was one part in the video that didn’t translate well. The hostess was saying that her mom apologized to her because she felt bad that she was not able to give her the face she wanted at birth. She didn’t mean that she regretted having her. The mom regretted the fact that her child had suffered so much emotional pain due to her looks. She blamed herself for giving her “undesirable” facial features. I believe she thought that she failed as a mom, that she had failed to give her daughter what she wanted. She regretted her daughter’s suffering so much that she was willing to take her own life, pointing the knife to herself.

That mom really has to get some mental treatment, its not normal. If you have huge traumas please don't have a child.

My facial structure and eyes actually changed significantly overtime and naturally. I used to have puffier eyes without a noticeable double eyelid, and my eyes miraculously lost fat around the crease and my double eyelids became much more visible at the age of 20. TWENTY! My face also leaned down significantly around age 22, to the point of it even looking like I went through buccal fat removal. But sometimes people’s faces just change for no reason. I hope everyone who sees this message gives their face a chance to fully mature before diving into any surgery. 🙏

These little children are being subjected to horrific trauma, and I'm sure this will have a detrimental impact on their psychology and the relationship with their parents.

I've seen children with Down Syndrome getting eyelid surgey to look "normal" in other children't eyes, which helps with socialization and friendships. Even that is pretty iffy, since parents think that it's easier to change a child's appearance than teach other children to treat all kinds of people without prejustice.

My mom used to critique and criticize other women . We would watch the miss American pageant and she would point out the ones with side saddles that she referred to as pones. Even at 92 she and my sister discuss celebrities that have nice skin , are aging well etc. I just sit there sickened by it.

You have the best attitude about these things. I’m with you about turning kids into models or acting. So many that were young actors grow to have miserable lives. Filled with drugs, in and out of rehab, and eventually suicide. It’s not good for them. And cosmetic surgery, ridiculous!

I can’t see how anyone could look at that little girl’s big, beautiful eyes (pre surgery) and think they need to be changed. This is just insane and heartbreaking

hii i speak japanese, there's a translation error at 18:51. the mom didn't say "I'm very sorry that I made her go through that painful experience." she actually said "I'm so sorry that I couldn't birth her with double eyelids." like the mom's crying feeling bad she couldn't just have given her daughter double eyelids biologically edit!! i just watched the full vice video, in the full thing the mother says is "I'm so sorry that i couldn't birth her with double eyelids. after the procedure i felt terrible making her go through the pain and i told her I'm so sorry, you're so brave. then she [the daughter] said no mommy don't cry, you spent all that money to make me prettier, i am happy. thank you mommy" this is so sick i feel so bad for both of them:(

I was very surprised when I found out that overseas people don't care about single or double eyelids.Recently, some mothers give their babies a massage to be a double eyelid. Being told about your appearance by your closest person greatly influences your self affirmation afterwards

Thank you for bringing up this matter. I did not know it existed.

This reminds me so much of my own mom. We're viet & I was born in US, she immigrated. I went through 7 years of braces & had multiple painful oral surgeries because she wasn't satisfied with my smile. She practically jumped on the option when my orthodontist suggested jaw surgery. Luckily at that point I was 18 & able to say no. She's made several comments about paying for "correcting" my monolids over the years too. She got her eyelids done a couple years back & I def don't think they were worth. She's super thrilled with them though. I think the only reason why she didn't try to truly put me under the cosmetic knife was because she couldn't convince my dad. He never thought I needed any surgery & he'd be footing the bill if it did happen. There's something to be said about women projecting onto their children. She was always ragging on me about my weight & now that I have lost weight (from leading a less stressful lifestyle, stress eater) she refuses to even acknowledge it. Especially when other people compliment me. She has eternally been comparing herself to me since I hit puberty. Her current new fixation is "complaining" about my unladylike behavior to her sisters since she has nothing else to pick on me for anymore. I love the woman to death, but I'll never understand her or the shit she used to put me through. Any verbal abuse I get from her now I just roll my eyes, call her a dinosaur (for her prehistoric views on what an ideal woman should be), or tattle to my husband. Hubby wonderfully has no problems with guilting her & making her feel bad like a teacher scolding a 5 year old. I have long stopped looking for validation from her or anyone else really. Maybe just a little from hubby 😉

Perfect quote sir "of course her life hasn't changed, no one is looking at a 9 year old and judging them on how their eyelids look, that's ridiculous".... that's totally what I took away from another one of your excellent content creations. Much love from the UK ❤️🇬🇧❤️🇬🇧

When I heard that child cries, I instantly crying too, remember my 9 yrs old daughter 😭😭😭

Thanks God we still have a good surgeon with great advice like you

As a Japanese citizen, I'm pretty surprised that there's no regulation to ban a cosmetic surgery for the underage here in Japan. And it's also sad that these people going thru non stop plastic surgeries, including that mom who had her little daughter have one, were all deeply traumatized by their parents constantly calling them ugly. Hope parents let their kids know they are all precious and loved no matter how they look.

Recently there was a big ad campaign in the train/subway of Tokyo promoting double eyelid surgery for teenagers, specifically before they graduate high school (they can change their eyes before starting their "new life" as university student). The price was rather affordable and it was advertised without any mention of risks etc... Very disturbing!

I think it's normal and Korean culture to be so blunt about what they deem to be ugly or beautiful. I've worked with many Korean women and it doesn't matter if they are referring to stretch marks or mono lids on a child the woman I worked with said some harsh things that were mean in my opinion

I came in at 16 for plastic surgery (for medical reasons). Turns out I was the mature one and the doctor screwed things up...a few times. It has been 28 years and I still have problems because I can't afford to get it fixed.

The mother seems to have some narcissistic aspects because she is obviously using her kids as extensions of herself and her own deeply held insecurities about not looking somehow European. Very sad.

As a teen growing up in Asia, my parents couldn't afford the surgery, but I used eyelid tape or glue almost daily and felt I was treated better with them on than without. I'm over all that now and love that I resemble my late grandmother when she was younger.

This is my favourite video of yours thus far. You put out some top tier content and touch on some very valid points. I hope to see more coverage on random beauty standards

I had plastic surgery on my upper lip when I was 4 because I had an escalator accident, there’s still a small scar visible but for cases like this im so happy this exists, but what’s going on in Japan is inhumane…

That poor little girl. Her mother just constantly tells her that she's not good enough the way she is.

I am absolutely shocked! I'm Japanese American, I wasn't a cutie when I was that little girls age either but once I got to be a teenager I really blossomed. You cannot judge someone so young on their looks because that changes as they grow. Plus I've seen many gorgeous Asian women with monolids. Poor little girls!

I'm so glad you made this, thank you.

When I was a kid, I had a monolid. Now I have double lids. No surgery, my skin just grew more around my eyes so there's a fold now. You can actually get double lids from age. Also looking at my dad, he had similar eyes, almond eyes with a double lid, to me at my age, but now he has large rounded hooded eyes.

The impression that I get is that in Japan plastic surgery goes deeper than just self esteem and has implications for jobs and being marriageable later in life. The society is all about fitting in to very strict exacting beauty standards and there needs to be a cultural shift.

She called her own daughter ugly right in front of her face!! If she wasn't feeling bad about herself before, she sure does now! This mother is horrible! This whole "trend" is horrific!!!

This is so sad . I am very sorry for this little girl she had a twisted mum and they actually can share this on social media.😢

Hearing that little girl cry just broke me…

I had plastic surgery on my ears when I was 11 and back then I didn't realize that I was way too young to make that decision. They even do this surgery on 6 years olds and here in Germany the health insurance often pays for it because "the child might get bullied". Personally, I never got any bad comments about my ears from other children - only from adults. And when my mom said "You can't wear a ponytail with those ears" I took it as a fact and thought that getting the surgery was just a cool thing to make me "more beautiful". A few years later protruding ears became a trendy thing in high fashion and nowadays I see a couple of Kpop stars having protruding ears and looking super cute with them. Meanwhile, I got chronically depressed after this surgery and the unpleasant, lonely week I spent in the hospital (bad sleep, allergic reaction, being surrounded by grown up strangers). I know I got really unlucky and others have less problematic experiences with this surgery. But I generally hate this whole societal mindset that leads to these plastic surgeries on children. What if your child gets bullied "because" of their height, skin color, hair texture or voice? Do you wish you could change those features with surgery as well? The good thing is that I am now very aware of the health risks of plastic surgery. So whenever I'm unsatisfied with a visual feature of mine I remind myself that it's not worth the risk to get plastic surgery on it and that the feature makes me look more unique 😊

Very disturbing , these parents are allowing their children to undergo painful procedures that will have more psychological effects. It's abuse !!

I had ear surgery when I was in kindergarten because my ears weren’t fully developed.But that’s a completely different beast than getting unnecessary surgery for no reason especially on children

With parents having children have plastic surgery this is telling the child she is not good enough, so sad

I think the fact that Dr Gary has a lovely young daughter himself makes him even more sensitive to this topic. I don’t think I have ever seen him so opposed to a concept as in this video (and rightly so).

I’m half White and half Asian… I happened to get the double eyelid as a biracial person… and ironically I would often look at my Asian family members and wish I had the monolid, I always thought it was beautiful. So I can’t believe parents are pressuring their kids to change their eyes as such a young age (as a mom this makes my heart hurt)

I grew up in Latin American so when it comes to plastic surgery and beauty standards I can easily recognise “messed up”, but this is another level and that says a lot 😮‍💨 A lot of Aslan people don’t only have self hatred because of their own looks but towards their own ra ce. I’ve travelled around many Asian countries and it’s just so sad to see it 💔

That little girl had a beautiful eye shape before the surgery! She looked absolutely adorable and i love monolid eyes!

Incredibly sad. To me, this is denying your heritage. Additionally, I had a blepharoplasty to correct vision problems. I had a complication, right eyelid really bled. It hurt! I am no wimp either! I had two babies without any meds and this eyelid surgery hurts! I would not want my children to hurt.

My 5 foot four 115 pound daughter had a breast reduction at 15. Her breasts were misshapen and so massive that we had to buy specialty bras. She wore a 32 double H. I took her into a consultation thinking that we would have to wait until she was 18, but the surgeon suggested that we perform it now. I supported my daughter’s decision, and she went through with the surgery, and she said it was the best decision. She is no longer in pain, physically, and emotionally. Watching this, I feel guilty in some respects, because we could have waited until she was 18. But in this rare occasion, I feel this was the right thing to do. I’m willing to hear any respectful thoughts… yes, she menstruated at 10 and wore a 32DDD in fifth grade~

Thank you for this video, exchanging beauty for character as a way of standing out is setting up a society for tragedy.

In Japan, on videos on social media like TikTok and Instagram, some plastic surgeons post photos and videos showing pre and post-op faces of patients who got surgeries as ads luring them into their clinics. You can watch them the same way you watch other kinds of videos like music. I think they can do it too easily. A lot of young people including parents consider plastic surgeries as an easy way to make them look better as a result. Yet, they should be more aware of the mentality of people going through surgery, and the government needs to acknowledge the situation.

I’m half Korean and my eyelids actually did change with age. I have typical hooded Asian eyes but with a small fold so not monolids but as I aged and gained some weight my eyelid crease actually changed position and became bigger and higher up on my eyelid. So honestly if some people saw a before and after they might think I’d had double eyelid surgery. It’s really weird, I’ve never seen or heard of this happening but then again I don’t usually go around scrutinizing peoples’ eyelids. This video is heartbreaking, I truly hope this sweet little girl can eventually heal from this awful indoctrination at the hands of her sick mother.

My parents are Japanese and I grew up in Australia. My mother insisted to use tapes and glues to make me have double eyelids. My Australian side objects to the Japanese culture pursuing beauty but living in Japan at the moment it’s really hard to maintain my objection. So I watch these kind of KZfaq videos to keep reminding me a healthier perspective. Even those who object to plastic surgery on minors, many parents agree on giving their daughter laser hair removal, eyelash extensions and eyelash perms. I want to leave my daughters to live naturally but if the “average” standard here is “unnatural” I don’t know how natural I can keep my girls.

I just can't believe! Some people don't deserve to have children!!! I feel so sorry for this little girl 😟

I am Japanese, and when I was a child, my mother once told me, 'You would be cuter if your nose were a bit higher.' I even tried to mimic Anne of Green Gables by pinching my nose with a clothespin. As an adult, I've asked by foreigner, 'Did you get double eyelid surgery?'. I don't think people will ever stop judging others based on their appearance, but I believe parents should never judge their children's looks.

My mom was abused emotionally and physically by her mom and stepdad. The emotional part was that they constantly told her how ugly she was and how no one would ever love her. Her stepdad was an alcoholic and spent most of their money on gambling and alcohol so my mom remembers going to school in messy rundown clothes and feeling so down on herself from the abuse. As a mom she was very loving in so many ways and didn’t want to continue the cycle of abuse so she really focused a lot on my looks as I grew up. She would tell me how beautiful I was, but she also would focus very closely on my looks (she started taking me for facials when I was 7, because she spotted one small pimple on my face), and really made sure I dressed very well and focused on making sure my weight was just right, etc. I know she genuinely felt that she was helping me be the best physical version of myself (she wanted me to have what she didn’t), but putting a focus on looks at such a young age really messes with you mentally. I have no resentment towards her at all because I know she was very messed up by her childhood and was doing her best. I have learned from the experience how important it is to focus on a child’s heart, their mind, etc, and don’t worry so much about the looks part. Let them be innocent of that as long as possible. The world will already put so much pressure on them to look a certain way, they don’t need their own parents adding on to that. I feel terrible for these poor children getting these cosmetic surgeries at such a young age and having so much focus put on the way they look. The mental damage that this will ultimately do to them will be really rough 😔

For the Rie girl, her mom didn’t regret having her for her looks, what her mom said was along the lines that she felt guilty she could not birth her child the way she (Rie) wanted to be, like appearance wise, and the mom pointed the knife at herself, making Rie feel guilty to make her mom feel like that.

I thought it wasn't right that my friend got her infant daughter's ears pierced. Partly because she can't consent (and I have continuing complications from when I had my ears pierced at 17), and partly because earrings on a baby is disconcerting and it feels like you're setting your kid up from infancy to focus on being pretty.

This is child abuse as far as I’m concerned. So incredibly sad.

As a Japanese woman myself I have to say Japan changed for the worse after world war 2. We have lost almost all of our values and traditions. We live dissociating ourselves all the time. Fragmentation of the spirit, mind and body. My mom told me at the age of 11 "don't worry you can get a double eyelid surgery when you get older" while my dad told me "your eyes are sparkly and beautiful you can not see yourself when you smile" now I understand what my dad told me that.. I can see it in my daughter's eyes ❤I'm glad I've never followed my mother's "advice". I've healed that within myself and now my daughter doesn't carry any burden. Great video as always ❤ Ps: My daughter is 9 also and it broke my heart into million pieces when I watched the vice video. I just wish peace for that little girl 😢🙏

This is very disturbing. Narcissistic mothers should not have children at all. It's absolutely sad and shocking 😲

My heart hurts for this little girl and for all the children who are exposed to this abuse. How can this be socially accepted yet alone legal?

Thank you, Doc, for sharing and spreading. ❤‍🩹

It’s obvious these adults have deep childhood trauma from the rejection they received or felt as children. They really want to “spare” their children of any pain they had to endure. It makes me so sad for both the parents and their children because they obviously carry some deep emotional scars. 😢 Listening to the stories of what they experienced as kids made me empathize with why they feel so strongly about plastic surgery.

As someone who was an extension of my mother's insecurities I wish parents understand how much damage it actually gives their kids. My mom also felt like the ugly sibling and she projected it to me hard. I bleached my skin at 11, couldn't go out without looking "presentable" and picked every little thing in my face and body. I ended up picking apart my looks ever since I could remember. Funny because I was considered a pretty kid but I had to always be the prettiest because my mom wasn't and my face was her pride. I never felt pretty, I ended up with a very bad case of facial dysphoria. I would cry looking at the mirror and pick the little things about myself. My mom now regrets how much damage she's done with my self esteem she tries to compliment my face as much as she can unlike before where she would only see flaws but the damage is already done. I hope parents are aware with how much damage they cause if they act like this because you're actually giving your kids a exponential worse self esteem than you already have because of how much you projected yours to them and it will forever scar them for the rest of their lives.

Absolutely terrible and heartbreaking.

To watch your 8-year old child suffer like that under the knife Is horrific!

low self esteem is the root of a lot of evil in this world