Oh my days. I do not know where to start. A lot I shared this day, I’ve never really shared on any public platform because I wasn’t comfortable (not even on my platforms) so a huge thank you Mpho & Caiah for creating such a warm space for, not just me, but so many others as well. This was such a necessary conversation and I am truly blessed and grateful to have been a part of it. Late to the party because my body was glitching a bit last week lmfao but ahh this was worth the wait ♥️♥️
@thandombathane8635Ай бұрын
We love you so much bestie and marn we miss you🥹❤️❤️
@sandrac.mudavanhunawa11 күн бұрын
🤗
@sinomsibi922711 күн бұрын
We love you so much❤❤❤❤
@sinomsibi922711 күн бұрын
We love you so much❤❤❤❤
@Sally_chisengaАй бұрын
Watching this made me realise that a lot of us grew up in toxic households💔sending healing prayers 🕯️❤️
@pettycashentertainment1380Ай бұрын
Hence I'm sceptical about having kids and or starting a family.
@ThatohatsiiiiiiiiiiiАй бұрын
"My biggest fear is like being my mom in a relationship" same sis same😭😭
@__sheiskingАй бұрын
yooh sana😭😭I related so bad
@AthandiweMncwabeАй бұрын
This one hit home 😭😭
@Anoint_KokiАй бұрын
I think Caiah and Mpho don't understand how much we need them everyday 😭❤. It's already painful to spend six days without a new episode, so when more days are added that's an emotional damage on it's own😔💔. This is a safe space for some of us 😭🫂❤, we get healing at some point and we become better versions of ourselves 🥺❤. Can we just have an episode every week 🥺❤ some of us we get to be happy and forget about how difficult this life is by just listening to you🥺❤ You guys have a huge impact in our lives 🫂🫂❤ and you are highly appreciated for that😭❤. We love you guys a lot😫❤
@mmasechabamotsepeАй бұрын
Facts!!! This is our safe space fr!!😢
@zekhethelongobese9530Ай бұрын
Im here as someone who never comments on KZfaq vidoes. Theres no way i was gonna let this episode go by without me saying Caiah & Mpho? Thank you for creating this space for us. It is so beautiful to tap into different facets of myself weekly catalyzed by you ladies. I am truly humbled at how God is using you both as vessels for healing our generation. What a beautiful podcast. Thank you so much ❤️
@Mpho_TАй бұрын
My childhood trauma is the need for academic validation. When i was in primary my father would pressure me so much and nothing was ever good enough for him . I was constantly compared with other learners .Right now i feed off academic validation, no mark is ever good enough for me . I cry at getting a missed distinction and it feels like my world is over😢
@LethoMbonaneАй бұрын
Coffeenomilk when it came to traumas she just described me, this is what I’ve been going through but didn’t have the words for it and people used to think I’m a people pleaser but it was a trauma response of me trying to make things perfect or be perfect for the next person so they wouldn’t shout or insult me because I couldn’t take it
@Cole.x238Ай бұрын
That's how I feel too. She really put it into words for me❤
@Lefa_GivenessАй бұрын
Thank you Editor for the sparkles, the way we've been crying for them😂
@Botse_MaaboiАй бұрын
Using trauma to justify wrong actions: Whenever my mom did anything to my sis and I people would justify it because shes a widow. Id also bully people in primary because of trauma. Please never leave us again this show actually heals my inner child. Caiah , Mpho and Clarissa are the big sisters I never but wished had🥺💕💕
@ntsakanimabasa4940Ай бұрын
caiah looks like tumi moloko here , maybe its because of hairstyles . im happy that you had our bestie as a guest🥺
@panatsolo2432Ай бұрын
The comment about first born daughters from Mami touched me because I am in the same exact position.
@thandi_khesaАй бұрын
Clarissa 🤦I have similar childhood trauma sis. My mom stayed through it all and my God I relate so much to what you shared cause I also had to walk on egg shells around my father and thst kept me in this bubble of feeling small wherever I am. I just joined the worship team at my church last week and I felt like I didn't even deserve to be on that stage when it's everything I've ever wanted. It manifested in so many areas in my life and thank you for making me aware of where it sterms from. God is working within me with building my confidence and affirming myself that I'm worthy of being heard and one day I'll have a platform to share my story too to encourage others the way you did for me❤
@mandy_mbonambiАй бұрын
This podcast is HUGE ! ❤ Rampedi Media, please be a little more professional, check mics before the podcast starts ( the interference during the show is a bit disturbing) and please ensure the set is quiet out of respect for the girls, cause they doing great. Lastly, it would be great to keep a consistent schedule, if Mondays don't work out for you any more, let us as the audience know and be consistent with whatever other day is convenient for yall.
@JBD-007Ай бұрын
First of all, I commend you guys for being able to speak out publicly about your traumas like that (not even the president can get this information out of me) especially with it being on such a big platform. That is very powerful and it makes people like us who can't speak out to save our lives feel very validated and realize that we are not alone, we're not the first people to go through such and definitely not the last, so thank you. Secondly, not a single tear was shed, I believe that you guys are on the right path with healing and God is right there next to you guys. I relate to each of what you spoke about, all of it, I been through it and it's harder to heal when it is very much still my reality. I am trusting God with everything though, He has never failed and He won't start with me. This is really a great podcast and a very validating voice if I can say, especially for black girlies in South Ahh, so kudos to you guys, you are literally doing the Lord's work and may He expand your territory because you are definitely called for this.
@Chidzy.MАй бұрын
You couldn't have chosen a better guest guys for these topics guys😩🙌🏽!!! Clarissa is definitely the she think she is... It's so refreshing to see girls our age talking about the topics we all go through in our personal coners. THANK YOU SO MUCH🥺
@coffeenomilkАй бұрын
@@Chidzy.M appreciate you🥹♥️
@onthatileMarumoАй бұрын
Clarissa has to be the third Host 😅😅. Y’all make so much sense
@_lele_sАй бұрын
Coffee beans where you at?😍😅
@Mikerly45612 күн бұрын
You know bestieeee!!
@Zimqueen1Ай бұрын
This made me realize that the day I vent to my family,alot of them are not gonna look at me the same😭😂!But we thank God for Grace!!!!!💋
@thabileesther4294Ай бұрын
This just gave us a little piece of coffeenomilk. Thank you so much for opening up and thank you Mpho and Chaiah for giving her that space. God bless you guys❤
@ThatohatsiiiiiiiiiiiАй бұрын
My parents are also in a toxic relationship and i am suffering. I even fear being in a relationship with someone because that is how I view all relationships. Even seeing successful relationships feels so wrong to me. I cant wait for my parent to get divorced yohhh😭
@TraceTheFace62Ай бұрын
You guys are so real and so raw man! ❤️🥹. Also please bring Clarissa back for another episode 🥺
@simplymahleАй бұрын
"Our experiences are really not unique" - what I was thinking the entire time. Clarrisa's telling my and my siblings' story bar for bar. God, however, has graciously provided me with the blessing of being surrounded by strong and integral men in _most_ parts of my life. May we continue healing❤❤
@Anoint_Koki14 күн бұрын
Lets gather here if we are patiently waiting for the next episode 😭😭. A mouth without Thought Digest is an emotional damage
@user-sk3jc2jb6gАй бұрын
One thing that pushed me to forgiving my parents and having empathy towards them was this quote I once heard that says 'Just because your parents didn't break all the generational curses, doesn't mean that they didn't break any'
@neonation6801Ай бұрын
that dress makes mommy dearest looks so scrumcious
@kamo..Ай бұрын
Right? She looks like a ladyyy 😍🔥
@akhonadlamini5306Ай бұрын
I got so emotional watching this episode but then it had me reflecting on a lot of things. New journal prompts and new things to work on🤗. Thank you for the free therapy guys❤
@rosemaeselaАй бұрын
Yet another beautiful episode.❤ My plea is to Rampedi Media, please ensure that you’re consistent in posting the episodes to this podcast! These ladies are doing so well… they deserve the same respect, professionalism and priority given to ASM.
@BigMami123Ай бұрын
Clarissa’s reaction to Caiah’s love life. 😭😭
@Mbongie-BLАй бұрын
Here for coffeenomilk
@kimmyathi13 күн бұрын
Man y'all got thinking about tightening my grip with god , it's so inspiring . I thank you .❤
@ItsSiihleАй бұрын
Coffeenomilk is such a beautiful soul inside and outside. Her positive energy is so contagious ❤
@que_felaАй бұрын
Caiah, the openness is so refreshing, I completely get and know where you're at! Pray God keeps and continues to hide you from anything that's not part of his plan. You ladies are amazing! Coffeenomilk is a fave of mine ke😍😍
@coffeenomilkАй бұрын
@@que_fela ahh bestie, I appreciate you 🥺♥️
@PhebeonaАй бұрын
Thought digest don't leave us like that 😭😭we need you
@that.ego_rsa1146Ай бұрын
Give bestie her flowers💐❤️
@KarieT.Ай бұрын
This was up last week. Why was it deleted. Spent a week without thought digest😢, I'm emotionally unstable.
@katlegoporoga901Ай бұрын
I feel so validated 😭 saw this last week and then when I checked if the episode was up it was no longer there. This whole time I've been thinking I imagined it😢
@PulenglebotseАй бұрын
They are not consistent shem yooh
@ndooh_nsibandeАй бұрын
Didn’t they put it up on membership channel
@dimakatsomojapelo8938Ай бұрын
Definitely Thato😢
@AziwenambaАй бұрын
I listened to it on podcast they forgot to take it down there😂😂
@ZusakheThantzi3Ай бұрын
Please I ran from Spotify after listening to the episode just to read the comments 😂😂😭😭😭whuuu what a heavy yet needed episode 😭😭✋🏼
@zadzisaimelissadhliwayo4766Ай бұрын
We love you so much Clarissa ❤
@MatlhogonoloKeemetsweАй бұрын
coffeenomilk literally described me when she was talking about her childhood trauma and also caiah when she was talking about how she runs away from confrontation but runs to conflict
@italiatsotetsi8347Ай бұрын
Oh my word this was amazing🥰 I could relate so much with Mpho I’m also a first born and trust me the relationship between us and our siblings gets better as they grow older, I’m 31 with two siblings who are 24 and 18 we are best friends now but I had to take a step to create the friendship over always being Deputy Mom 😅so honey it gets better with time ❤️❤️❤️
@lulo_mАй бұрын
This was such a beautiful and emotional episode, I enjoyed how vulnerable and cosy it was. It literally felt like we were catching up as besties 💋 💋
@mbalenhlemhlanga2386Ай бұрын
💋💋💋
@TumiMnisiАй бұрын
i wanted to comment on the point of forgiveness, so i was watching Rorisang Thandekiso’s Thursday lives and she was speaking on forgiveness. I understand that it can be hard to forgive sometimes but we MUST bc God brought His only Son into the world in order to take away our sins, basically forgiving us. Now, it is a MUST for us to forgive just as God forgave us. You can read about the story of forgiveness in Matthew 18:21-35.
@gailsepeane9919Ай бұрын
Please add coffee to the team this episode was so therapeutic ❤😭
@potsisomudzusiАй бұрын
Congratulations to caiah 😭❤️ This is something most of us as Christians are struggling with..God definitely has big plans,The fact that you can trust him with this? Girl.
@Lulue-ql6yfАй бұрын
What a great conversation ❤out of it all let’s learn to be better parents to our kids and pray for your future husbands so that God leads us to right people❤❤
@liisaimmanuelАй бұрын
Thato? You cooked my guy, thank you for this episode. Girls you did so well, thank you 💜
@amukelanisiwela1358Ай бұрын
Yoh the sacrifice conversation especially lifestyle and love life is really a hard one and what Caiah explained is exactly how it feels(that time you had the best according to your standard and not God's), when you go through it and having to let go and trust God completely it's really really hard. Jesus warned us that he didn't come for peace but division of the world and also gives us peace that surpasses our understanding.
@RelebogileSeloanaАй бұрын
Not me being “men” as well since I still use dove and Vaseline 😂 but I’ll definitely add sunscreen to my routine, thank you for the tips.
@KeneilweBacelaАй бұрын
Clarissa my dear ? I thought I knew you my coffee Bean i relate heavy on the long topic❤what a wholesome episode mxm
@lesegomphoeng6210Ай бұрын
55:33 "I couldn't love my siblings because they were my responsibility". REAL.
@worldofcasseyАй бұрын
My three favourite girlies in one video 🥹🥹🥹 Love to see it 🥹🥹🥹❤️
@kamvelihle_nАй бұрын
Oww my God, I'm literally 56 seconds into the video and I'm getting so emotional 😭😭😭
@hloniebless4092Ай бұрын
I’m part of the woman of the word ❤and thank you Caiah
@Remza-LuvАй бұрын
This was such a powerful, eye opening conversation...I always say your experiences define how mature you are not your age, and you ladies keep proving that. May God continue working in and through you. May peace and healing locate you. Thank you for giving yourselves ❤❤❤
@LUPASHAJАй бұрын
This was such a good and impactful conversation. Definitely gave way for a needed self introspection.❤❤
@Zimqueen1Ай бұрын
Love how you guys involve God so much!I love how our relationship with God mainly alters how you think,act,perceive and speak!😚And how the ladies give to God the glory on how they overcome their traumas.
@trustmungungu6686Ай бұрын
This combo is so healthy..❤
@faithkatlego7100Ай бұрын
“So where is your father?”😭😩😂
@coffeenomilkАй бұрын
@@faithkatlego7100 lmfaooooo🤣🤣🤣
@KaleyakankwendeАй бұрын
Aggg… girl I wanna cry on your behalf (literal tears came out) because that man made you happy😭😭… I’m so sorry❤️❤️ sending love No one talks about how obeying God can break your heart😭😭 yoh I had a guy I loved (still love) with my entire being… my soulmate that one… and i remember the day God was like yall are gonna break up… I was like cap cause we were so happy😂😪❤️literally a month later😪😭… still hurts a bit but what can we do❤️😭 I just wish God could sometimes remove the memories cause why must my mind, my heart, my spirit remember him🌚🙄 when God Himself said we will break up like God please be serious 😪 I guess everything works out for the good of those who believe in Him😭❤️😪
@annie_nattyАй бұрын
Didn’t thought I will made it this far, but here I am💋💋💋 I even put my studying schedule aside lol😅 love the episode and love you all❤
@cha_nee1Ай бұрын
Ohhh how i relate with Mpho, first born daughter traumas 🥺🥺🥺🥺
@NompiloNonjabulo-mw9rrАй бұрын
Ahh guys 💋💋💋. Thank you for opening this space for us. It sure feels like home and y'all's experiences are so relatable omg, guess one is not so unique after all as Mpho said. Love you love you love you
@beneletwiggy5373Ай бұрын
thank you guys for this was heart warming 🥰
@ItsRauhaАй бұрын
Wholesome conversations ❤
@ofentsemorobe28 күн бұрын
Aww guys, please don't tell me we have to spend 2 weeks without an episode, one week was enough now 2 yohh😭
@my_world779221 күн бұрын
😭🤚🏽I’m gonna stop checking cause I can’t handle the heartbreak
@ntsakanimabasa4940Ай бұрын
i love the entire conversation omg 😭😭😭😭
@ms_lerato23Ай бұрын
Clarissa is so beautiful ❤
@coffeenomilkАй бұрын
@@ms_lerato23 thank you bestie 🥹♥️
@amogelangmokaila1011Ай бұрын
1:08:42 How is Caiah and Clarissa so in sync 😂❤
@stephnepuseletso12627 күн бұрын
We all have that childhood trauma that is holding us from moving forward or accomplishing our purpose but the is nothing that is bigger then God , we need to get closer to God to heal and pray for healing
@ofentsemaleka9346Ай бұрын
Beautiful episode guys. Message to the editor. Can we have the same font for the sparkles like at the beginning and please place the sparkles at the head of the presenters. It is a bit disturbing when it is at the middle of the screen pleaaaseeee. Love Thoughtie ❤️
@Imvubu.dablackАй бұрын
😂😂😂 Limpopo snakes is wild
@sharlottelebogang7088Ай бұрын
Mammi I'm literally you right now with the dove soap and Vaseline😭 Which products do you use now ?
@loatilemaphopha9731Ай бұрын
We will camp here, since our boys podcast is lacking on commitment with episodes 😔💔
@iamNotYourStudАй бұрын
As a Christian l kinda saw Caiah's relationship under the water especially when we saw his ego “ youtube beef” we didnt want non of that in our girl's environment ye ☺️
@basadimatlala8184Ай бұрын
Loved this episode ❤️
@hloniebless4092Ай бұрын
Please bring Clarissa back ❤🎉😊
@bonolomohanoeАй бұрын
Y'all are so pretty❤😍
@oratilekoketsoАй бұрын
True discipleship is complete surrender to His Will , and God is not unjust sis (@Caiah) He rewards, He Blesses & will Empower you to maintain such a heart of surrender. May the good Lord give you more grace and desire for His Will , in Jesus Name , Amen 😊❤️
@NaomiChionaАй бұрын
Thank you for the wonderful podcast girls it is literary food for my soul keep up the good work Ciah coddles to you for making a hard decision like that it made me reflect also on my current situation thank you for that .......
@kelebogilelebo892Ай бұрын
Whatever Clarissa said about her mother and father 😢, is exactly what i wish for my mom and step father. I genuinely want them to separate cause they are hurting me and my twin brother because of the behavior. We literally have to beg him to support the twins and he earns double my moms salary
@radebeandisiwe254824 күн бұрын
I love thought digest I just feel cheated when every time they don't upload when they supposed to
@nombulelomm25 күн бұрын
This was very educative on skin care, learnt some new interesting information
@ziche001Ай бұрын
I can't access membership perks/extended versions of the podcast. Please help
@chitsanzompasu56112 күн бұрын
God bless y’all ✝️
@ntshepisengkhanyiАй бұрын
Okay but why was the song not played to finish at the end, broke my heart. 😩
@blessjoyАй бұрын
Yoh!!!this generation doesn't bottle things up like us❤
@user-bi8zx9jb7dАй бұрын
My three favourite people in one place
@authenticstories257125 күн бұрын
Goosebumps 🤥
@KaleyakankwendeАй бұрын
I didn’t do life science but I think it’s giving Octopi😬😂
@liisaimmanuelАй бұрын
😘😘😘For Clarissa💋
@OmolemoMarole24 күн бұрын
So guys when are you posting again , I rewashing episodes I miss you guys like I have been waiting for you guys to post again .... let's start the month on a good foot
@quelleryhuisemas5866Ай бұрын
ATE with this episode.❤️✨
@NalediMthwakazi-v4o19 күн бұрын
i honestly thought a tortoise is the one that cant jump.
@chroniclesofgwakatoma286625 күн бұрын
if only i could get paid everytime @coffeenomilk said ''I GET THAT'' I'd be RICH RICH😂
@kgaogelomaila89409 күн бұрын
Love coffeenmilk❤️
@0k_hope8 сағат бұрын
My favs❤
@BYE-kv5rhАй бұрын
My mom and I got into a huge fight when she told me that she was pregnant. I didn't talk to her for weeks. I was even planning on leaving.
@nompumelelomdodana3867Ай бұрын
Coffee no milk❤
@emillyananias731025 күн бұрын
The advert was for protex deep clean
@aglanceofpАй бұрын
why isnt their vns for comments like wat anyways enjoyed this alot