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😭 tu siab tshaj thaum ib leej txiv tsis muaj kev cia siab rau tej ntxhais, thiab ua tsaug rau txoj kev lawv tsis cia siab ntawv thiaj ua tau rau yus lub siab rau siab kawm kom mus txog lub hom phiaj.

🤧🤧🤧🤧🤧🤧😭😭😭😭😭made me cry a river so relatable what a great story.

Niam Vam Choj, I love this story. I can relate to the main character in the story. My parents put less importance on my sisters and I. Their attentions and money goes to my brothers. Thank you for sharing.

Zoo kawg thov qhuas koj lub peev xwm os me ntxhais aw txoj kev kawm ces leej twg tsis kawm thiab tsis muaj cov me nyuam kawm ntawv qib siab ces yeej tsis paub txoj kev txom nyem os.kuv muaj 5 tug me nyuam xwb tab sis puav leej kawm tag qib siab tag nrho tabsis mas kuv txom nyem kawg li hos .Yog muaj sijhawm no tuaj xyuas kuv nyob hauv yus rhus es yuav pom kuv tsev neeg os ua tsaug ntau2.

kuv nias rau koj lawm nawb viv ncaus kuv nyob thaib teb os viv ncaus

Love this

Peb poj niam ces ntshaw ntshaw kev hlub li ko xwb os. Tsis txhob tu tu siab os mog. Kuv los kuv tus txiv nws twb xiam tau 12 lub xyoo lawm thiab os . Hlub koj nawb mog xav txog peb thiab os, vajtswv txhawb koj lub zog nawb mog…💕💕

😭😭😭 this story made me think about my dad and how deeply hurt I still am at the words he said to me. Glad that her father realized his mistake and was man enough to admit it and change.

Your dad is a particular Hmoob parent just like others who does not love and care about daughters. They look more toward the sons. I glad that you did not let your parents stop you from reaching your goal, sister. That is why we daughters should not try so hard to please them but yourself. Have to love, care, and put yourself first than anyone else even your own parents.

Txawm yog tub thiab ntxhais los puav leej yog yus me nyuam, yuav tau hlub sib npaug, pab txhawb ib yam rau lawv lub neej yav tom ntej. Yog lawm leej twg tseem tsis tau hloov ces tsis txhob tos ntxiv lawm, ntxov tso txoj kev phem ces ntxov tau zoo xwb os

Good

Zoo heev. Ua tsaug ntau.

Amen! There are more untold stories like this. Congrat to you lady! Happy ending....

Tsis txhob tu siab rau peb cov uas yog txiv os cov me ntxhais.

Here's in American don't matter you son/daughters never let your parents say only son can have education they don't understand the concept of education.. very proud of you sister.. even my husband doctor to (surgery)) don't let your parents feeling stopped you and our children education...💝

I'm so glad the father saw that it doesn't matter if you are a girl or a boy... It's your child.... Love them equally.....

Ntuj es ntuj es ua cas hais raug kuv lub neej kawg li thiab. Vim yus Yog ib tug khaub ntxhais xwb os. 😭😭

Thov qhia rau nej cov poj niam siab me paub mog hais txog kev noj haus xwb ces tej laus tias noj qab noj tsuag los tib yam xwb tab sis tshuav lub noob ntawm tsob ntoo no nawv mog. Yog tus txawj xav mas txawm yug tau ntxhais xwb tsis yug tub li ces tus niam tseem yuav yog tus mob siab dua mas thiaj yog nawv vim tus tub thiaj khaws niam txiv np thiab xeem hos nej cov ntxhais ces yuav tsawg zaus txiv hloov tsawg zaus xeem nawv mas thov txim rau kuv cov lus no nawv mog cov me poj niam hmoob uas xav tsis txog tsob ntoo.Hos hais txog tub ntxhais txoj kev kawm ces peb yeej txhawb tib yam nkaus xwb vim nyob rooj teb no kev khwv noj khwv haus nyob ntawm tus hau cwj mem xwb ces peb yeej hlub tib yam xwb mas nawv.

This is sad...Some Hmong Men are still in the mindset of 1975. I've been very blessed to have a Father who actually encourages his Daughters & Son!

Cas zaj no zoo lis yus zaj thiab ne. Mloog mas 😪😪😪. Kuv mas hos yog kuv niam yog tus tsis pab thiab tsis support nws cov ntxhais. I've always love school since I was a little child. When my mother told me at the age of 10 that she'll only support her sons with higher education. All her $$$$ are saved to support her sons. That broke my heart and from that day forward, I knew in my heart that I had to find a husband who would support me and my education. At the age of 14, I found my husband and ran off to get marry. I was very lucky to find my husband and my in-laws who supported me through my education. The sacrifices some Hmong girls have to make to better ourselves and our future. I don't blame my parents because they don't know any better. I'm just grateful that I found a loving husband and in-laws who believes in me. Being born a girl is not a choice, we desired our parents love, support, and equity just like our brothers.

I know that feeling. My mom was the same. I called my mom one day that I am gonna received a scholarship from my teacher. My mom chose to go to the flee market with my aunt. I was so upset. Because she always attend to my sisters and brothers events too. I was the one that my parents never cared much for.

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Sister, thov koj pab tso date rau lub title thiab os.

So old fashioned

Sorry that some of our men taught that only their sons are the most important in their life. But as Hmong man, I love my kids equally.

Tiag tiag mas, peb txhob tu siab, kuv xav tias no body's fault. Qhov believe li leej txiv no, vim yog culture. Nim no hloov yog txhua yam hloov tag lawm, leej txiv no twb xeev xwm mus txog qhov nws hloov. Nyob li niaj hnoob no, neeg Suav tseem tab tom ua li no, suav pub yug ib tug mi nyuam xwb. Suav yug tub xwb, tsis kam yug ntxhais. Yog ua cas? Qhov kawg, koj tus hais tau ceeb tias kom peb cov mloog ho txhob ntshav siab rau koj. Koj yog tus hais, koj yuav tau act as a counselor, es txhob take side xwb mas.

So proud of you for getting your degree. I can feel your pain, my dad was the same when I was growing up. He was never there to support us when we have school events, conference, concerts and school awards. I didn’t have a degree but most of my sisters earned their degrees and none of my brothers went to college. It’s sad but true that typical OGs only supported their sons more and not their daughters.

For me i care both sons and daughters because you don’t know who’s love you in the future it don’t matter daughters or sons tiam21 no

n vam choj lo lus luv fais it's not hmong languase The hmong word is tsheb no nawj

To the lady behind the story…u r not alone in experiencing this. My step father had 6 girls b4 his 2 boys n he openly mistreated the girls while keeping his sons in bubbles. Furthermore, he hated my brother n I even more cus we weren’t his children. Makes me wonder what he was thinking when he married a widow with 2 small children. When he was on his death bed, only a few of my sisters n we, the step children, were by his side. He apologized about his wrongful thinking- not loving his daughters n step children-and told every family member who came by to c him to change their old ways of thinking. I had very mixed feelings then n now. Not sure if his motives were authentic or if he was securing someone to take care of him during his final moments. The more I thought about it, the more I’m tormented. The sad thing is all the siblings suffer from this one man’s old ways of thinking. My step father enabled my brothers because he overprotected them. Most of my sisters’ foundations were ruined so they have broken lives themselves. My mother probably suffered the most because after his passing, my mom talked about how he went shopping for a new car out of spite because my mom was giving birth to their 5th daughter. I’ve tried to and am still rebuilding everyone but we’re all so scarred. I also married young to escape and now have a doctorate degree, but I believe I wouldn’t be the woman I am today if my parents had loved me like parents should. We can’t change the past but we can be better parents to our children.

rawsli kv xav tejzaum kj txiv (your dad)tsuas ym kev mentsis xwbnawb txhob tusiab tas2 nawb tus niam gev kv yug g tau ntxhais tab yg kuv yg tau ntxhais kv yeej lhub & txhawb txhua2 tus tiamsis cv ntxhais kv kuj txhawj tias tsam g tautus txiv lhub vim kv pom ntautus ntxhais lubneej g muaj tustxiv xav lhub vim thaum lojces uadog dig lawm

Poor decisions of the father-pretty typical!

Ob qhov Lawv yuav tsum tau hloov thiab. 1.Yog tsim nej cov uas Yog Pojniam 2. Yus twb muaj Pojniam menyuam lawm los tseem pheej mus Ua hluas. Ob yam no yuav tsum tau tso tseg thiab

Nyob zoo os koj puas yog Vam Choj Vaj uas hais xov xwm txog cov niam nkauj mos ab thiab cov nkauj hmoob nplog dag noj dag haus tus poj niam os?