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My biggest changes to my life came from focusing on lowering my social anxiety and accepting myself for my flaws. It's ok to want to become better and you should work to better yourself in body and in mind, but you have to be ok with being flawed. You will never be perfect, but strive to be better always and accept where you are in the current moment.

A quote I heard young that stuck with me: “I wouldn’t worry so much about what other people thought of me if I realized how rarely if ever they do”

I swear when I was a kid I had this confidence and mental freedom all figured out. Trauma and solitude really screws with your head. Trying to get back to dropping my own emotional baggage. I think I can do it because I’ve done it before, just a matter of time.

There is freedom from being a nobody, irrelevant & forgettable. Don't take that freedom for granted and use it to succeed.

I pay attention to details constantly. I pick up on shit nobody sees. I dropped out of school and did the opposite of everyone else. Now I am killing it in business and happy to be moving forward every day! Great content

Even though there is probably a lot of people that miss the dating/pick up advice that RSD used to be focused on, I feel like this inner game type stuff is far more important in the long run. You need to fix fundamental issues before you can fix everything else, and by fixing the fundamentals you're much closer to fixing everything else anyway.

So far I’ve been more social and started to do and say what I think versus just staying in my head :)

For anyone wondering how they can get used to this mindset: Throw yourselves into highly uncomfortablr situations (maybe in places noone will ever see you again) and whenever you feel the anxiety kicking in, keep telling yourself what these awesome guys here try telling you over and over again. It will become a ,,passive" skill one day

Such a powerful concept. "I know Me better than you" 🙌 it all boils down to self-validation. And I agree about receiving the feedback and having the final say!

I found your content very helpful and it gave me a lot of insight regarding where to look to solve my issues.I have been practicing some of your pieces of advice from other videos and it is changing my life for the better ,I feel that I am improving a lot since I found you guys. I must say that I wasn't aware that the source of my shyness and approach anxiety was related to childhood trauma ,I have memories from the past coming back and I'm able to identify and resolve those issues, deal and disown them ,the results are instant. Thanks a lot! You are playing a huge part in my self development and quest for happiness.forever grateful Julien !🤗

Been making me become a better person since the RSD days, you and Max were my biggest, most impactful teachers in life! Much love

I love your videos, always give a massive value and I experience some sort of resistance, so it motivates me to do subconscious release as soon as the video ends. ty for changing lives for the better!

One of the very few self improvement videos on KZfaq that I've found to be genuine and so relatable to whom i am... Special mention to the shorts clip about producer type goals and consumer type goals where u explain to a guy, hit me in the head like a rock. Please keep up the excellent support!

Bro, I really love watching your videos you're helping me so much like I have a ton of insecurities too and I try to fight em...Finally, I am on the the good side of the internet

The product analogy (14:41) was a huge eye opening for me, finally I understand how to detach my self-worth from my actions. my actions are the way I market myself , NOT my real value.

watching your videos everyday trying to implement your knowledge in my life, making changes progressively and improving, thank you so much Julien

So glad that i recently found this channel. Somehow, just watching those vids without even thinking a lot about them, i got a whole lot more confident and take life much less seriously. It's not that hard after all. Still, way to go for me.

This is awesome and I think hits to a bigger area of personal / spiritual / consciousness evolution . Presence and Mindfulness. And when one embodies Mindful Presence, somehow other people just Feel it, but at that point it doesn't matter if they do or not , because one is fully engaged as both observer and creator (via thoughts / emotions) of one's immediate present -moment state. Just imo .

The tips you guys give are so great because they’re win-win. I want to hookup with some of the women I’ll meet this weekend sure, but not trying to ruin anyone’s “movie” to do it

Very nice. I played this in the same room as my wife who constantly freezes actions because she's always self conscious. This was good teaching for myself of course too and the fact that I had to mention it was because I'm the main character. 😉

I had a speaker say "people are waiting for you to get over yourself" , this takes that to a whole new level.

I am suffering this anxiety from my teenage days still not found any solution what to do. Finally got your gem videos. Now understand the main problems. Promise to best version of myself. Thanks jullien from bottom of my heart.

The emotion and body code is incredibly helpful in releasing these emotions that hold you back.

You have changed my entire life and ive only watched three videos. Thank you

Always love to see you guys together. You got me laid when I was graduating and now I am learning about stuff that actually matters from you, what a journey. You are like internet swag uncles for me.

Game changer! Thank you Julien!

I am grateful for your work.

This is amazing. I needed this. Thank you

Ah this is so great. It’s gonna help so many folks.

1:15 seconds in and had to comment. Dropping life bars🤯 A Reddit post helped change my life explaining why we “Need to learn to get over ourselves”. Same advice from you and got 19mins left…this is the key😂😂

This video is amazing as a musician who is going to start preforming soon huge boost of confidence to know that im not such a big deal. Kind of ironic at the same time. "Your opinion of me holds no weight over my opinion of me because I know me better than you" brilliant!

Never felt so alive and I just love what hvc does to me. I feel so good haha, thank you so much Julien!!!

Genius talk, thank you, Julien and Owen!

Owen picking at their “scandal” nonsense and evolution is awesome 😂 Julien hitting on triggers and perception at the end was on point. There’s a threshold someone’s awareness has to reach on this and few do, because reacting to triggers is reinforced almost everywhere. I’ve cut off real relationships for this. Stay centered, my friends.

This is a great video man. I related deeply to a lot of it! Appreciate the awesome content 🙏🏼

The one thing that I wish you brushed up on was that alot of men project onto woman that they will be like their mothers, and overly care about the small details going on in the man's life. This is furthest from the truth, over the past year I thought I was incredibly close to this one woman. Like I was like dam this person knows everything about me and during some time of separation due to our jobs taking us away from each other. I met up with her after 6 months without seeing her, I was really disappointed to find out that how much I thought I meant to her was def not the way she thought of me. She forgot most of the things we did together in the past and was really obvious she remember most of the conversations we had in the past in detail. Woman are solipsistic, they have a incredibly hard time fully engaging themselves in other peoples lives. Woman are very in the moment and often treat you how they feel about you in that moment. So all in all i found that as interesting, smart and deep conversations that I can have with a woman, it ultimately wont mean anything, because all the really cares about is how I make her feel in the moment and that all these things that I thought had alot of meaning, really didn't. It doesn't make it wrong, but at the same time I have to make myself right, for expecting people to care, remember, or give as much as I do. You will be incredibly frustrated in life if you keep thinking you can control the way people think and take action bout you. Just live and let everything be the way the way they are and accept them. Much love brothers!

Great video!

Thank you for sharing the knowledge.

Another captivating lecture

This is the perfect youtube recommendation ever!! I just got from a botched interview and I am so shitty in that moment like many dead air times, not looking at them directly, looking at side to side because im nervous... But the thing is they wont remember because they don't know me. Or rather they will remember because that's the most unprofessional behavior they've seen...

A lot of these things i have already known/practiced and trained myself to think with but its nice to have something to remind me, hey, you should go back to being smart, cuz you are smart, and definitely have the confidence and self reliance to do or obtain whatever the hell you want in life

Stumbled upon this right now. Needed it.

Wow, this is extremely helpful. Excellent

I realized me being a “people pleaser” and me always being the a idk idc neutral person was my insecurity of not being liked by people. N that my insecurity was from my ego of wanting to be liked by people. Tough to feel worthy without someone else’s validation but that’s just something I need to learn to love myself on.

great stuff. love it. need those reminders to keep that pesky ego in check

Just discovered your channel yesterday but this is so helpful! You completely changed my mindset in just a few video. Thanks so much for that. And by the way I’m from Lausanne, so cheers from Switzerland ;)

I'm impressed by this Julien guy

This is actually helpful, thanks

so true. ! now back to being introvert scared of public speaking heights and dark places - love you all

Thank you❤️

My biggest takeaway from this is the fact that ego in itself isn’t terrible, but how you utilize it in life is going to determine whether or not you will feel free, or locked by the society’s view on urself. Im uncertain if I’m using Ego the right way; identity, right?

Incredible brother

Man this is some life changing perspective.

The analogy of you as the product and the way you connect as your marketing, is essentially the same as balancing authenticity and relatability. Don't question the product of who you TRULY are, but do notice how the way you connect lands with others so you can calibrate your vibe in a way that resonates with them.

I love to see guys fill up the room not just women.

You are very engaging, your confidence speaks about yourself

Great job guys👊🏼

people absolutely do notice you, they compare themselves and try to find flaws to look down at you and feel better about themselves...

Loved this.

Every video is just so fucking good, it’s honestly nuts

Yo Julien brother... just wanted to let you know how much your content has helped me. Thanks man

Hey Julien, great video, subscribed.

thx godspeed m8

Amazing, life changing, and beautiful.

U are describing Illusion of Transparency :)

Its interesting how you literaly get a flow of a good feeling when you flip from being worried that no one cares about me into understanding that strangers never will and never did… so freeing it brings an instant smile!😅 its like we want people to care about us and worry what they would think if they did, but likely they will only ever care for a second and the rest is history. I had this feeling of insane shame, when on vacation, I was swiming under water in a pool near a hotel, that wasnt even deep, I came up out of the water and started choking, cause I breath in a little bit of the water, everyone looked at me at the pool and in couple seconds I was fine, but I couldnt look at anyone, while in reality they prolly just felt relief that I was ok and then second later I was again just a stranger to them…. Its like I worried that these people would always conect me with a memory “the guy that almost drowned in a shallow pool”. It almost resonates with highschool nameshaming, even tho I believe I was never bullied.

Lol I can’t believe I would see clips of y’all on cringe subreddits and all over the internet. Turns out y’all both have some amazing insights, and how to project your mental energy into speaking rather than thinking about yourself. Great work

I lobe these guys. I also however did learn this in my teacher preparation academy. Especially coveys stuff. It works if you work it

Deep insights my brother, deep insights...

This was very good!

yes sir! i have lived this! now when i enter a room and open my mouth i remove the air and there is a dead silence when i speak!

6:07 dude, I really hope you'll put the blueprint out there again. I got a crappy mp3 version. It's amazing, heard it in 2012 for the first time, listened to it recently again. Just what I needed.

Thankyou!!

Thank for sharing this clip. I've known RSD for many years now and you guys still are very inspirational to me.

I love this

This is amazing 👏

If your improving people notice you less but feel you more...if you're projecting or protesting? You give the power back

Thats awesome! 🙏🥰🤙

Watching this video, everything makes sense. Listening to what you’re saying, it’s so obvious now. It’s like something that was right in front of my face, but I didn’t even see it. I don’t have crippling social anxiety, but I’m often in situations where I’m playing it cool on the outside but I’m having a major anxiety attack on the inside. It’s one of the reasons I have never tried stand up comedy which is something that I really want to do. My takeaway is that no one really gives a fuck…especially if you don’t. When you worry about something or try to cover something up, you are only drawing attention to the very thing you don’t want them to notice. If you are unbothered, they have no reason to draw their attention to the thing that you are worried about.

never doubt the product; tweak and adjust the marketing

This is why I stand out. Everyone thinks they’re the main character and I don’t even care about any of that

Shadow work can be qwiit beneficial.. helped me to break away from duality.. which i think many others should realize and no matter the justifications and rationalizing we tell ourselves to believe we are in the right or good..... tho i don't believe i am a bad man.. well that doesn't make me a good one either.. how thankful i am to hold no one above or below me, judge no one... and believe if we're all made of matter, then we all matter.... not just talking about human race either... Although i know to many, to most i mean absolutely nothing. To someone i mean the world. . Tho we are all the lead roles or heroes in our own story... we are the villain in someone elses... empathy over apathy

This makes a lot of sense

This is all stuff I learned very early on & so early in fact, that a lot of this feels like old news. I pay attention to EVERYTHING.

The best personal experience for me was back in highschool when my my facial hair started growing in an ugly way, I used to shave it before school and one day after I had shaved the right side, I realised that I’m late so I got stressed and just went to school with only one side of my face shaved. Guess what, nobody mentioned it and it really seemed like nobody even noticed it lmao

It's true everyone is going through the same experience

Great video.

Amazing stuff

Everyday the human nature doesn't cease to amaze me

In AA they taught us "if you're scared to go to the bathroom in the middle of a meeting because you think everyone will stop and look at you when you get up, WHY ARE YOU SO SELF CENTERED? HOW SPECIAL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?"

thank you

Don’t listen to these guys, they can’t change YOU, the more you look up to people and seeing them as teachers the worse it will be, because you will compare yourself to them all the time. You will wake up when you want to wake up.

I do find myself wanting to tell ppl how young I am when they see the successful things I’m doing. Makes sense

10:00 just brilliant

Great video

Julien: “You’re not that big of a deal” Me: *instantly turns off video*

I need to take this medicine daily dose

Thank you, Julien for these videos. I have one question. I don't go outside too much due to lack of friends. Are there any tips you could give me to help better my mental other than what you two provided in this video? I feel like keeping busy and doing something meaningful lessens my anxiety.

Love your videos julien. :)