Mouna sounds like a sound woman but no offense, she was a third who already had kids and not a virgin. She only had gain in marrying you no losses, the way the first did. But one question for you brother, was all this drama over fulfilling your sexual desires worth losing your biological children and breaking your family with the girl who gave her chastity to you. Was it all worth it in the end that you’ve now had years of drama and headaches and divorces and you’re left raising other children while you’ve lost your biological ones and damaged the future and heart of the young girl you married at 19. Genuine question, no shade, was it worth it?

Man this was so needed and beneficial may Allah bless you and your family with good health and long lives.

This will take me days to listen to it all . But my god . I'm loving this so much. Your talking and opening up. And she is talking, and opening up all of it . You have no idea for me it's a joy to learn Through experience from others . Thank you sir for the video.

Bro this was excellent insight. I like to learn from the experience of others and believe me this helps alot. We have no one giving examples on how to live a wholesome life and even the Sunnah way. So for your efforts may Allah swt reward you and protect you family ameen. I hope you continue to improve and your children can be with you Ameen.

Mahdi, if having three wives led to all this drama and in the end divorcing the first two and ending up with one wife, then was it really worth it? Now your first wife who has only known you has to go find another guy, and you’re raising someone else’s kids. Not that there is a problem with the latter, but what was the point now that you broke your home with the first wife? I just could never stay with a man who didn’t value me enough to protect my heart. I’m scared to death of this ever happening, which is probably why I’m watching this. It’s like a train wreck that you can’t look away from.

I like her honesty and openness!

This was really good, a service for the rest of us. Allaah bless you all and guard your family

Allahumma Barik, learnt a lot and you gained much respect from me akhi. It takes courage, self-confidence and a lot of self reflection to put content like this online for the whole world to see. May Allah swt increase you and your family into the highest ranks. Salam Aleykum from Germany

I’ve listened to several of your talks and you have said it talked an exceptional man correct. It also takes exceptional women. May we all become exceptional for the sake of Allah Ameen

Assalamualaikum and jazakhAllah Khairan brother for providing this information to everyone

This was great. Seeing you interact with your wife and seeing how you joke with each other, and that she doesn’t necessarily agree with you on everything, was great.

Men have to understand that you cannot have it both ways. A woman cannot have that intense love for you whilst you have other wives. If she does she will always be jealous and unhappy. It is natural. To survive in this type of relationship you have to restrict the intensity of your love.

This was great and very beneficial bro. I like how u kept Ur cool and tried keep it professional. Ma sha Allah. May Allah aw give you, your family and offspring barakah in your lives and specially relationships...ameen

Masha'Allah tabarakaAllah such great insight. May Allah bless you both.

Alhamdulillah it was very brave of you both to open up aspects of your marriage publicly like this. May Allah Subhanuhu wa'ta'ala use this as a benefit for those who have watched/listened. In shaa Allah I can only hope that the comments reflect the sensitivity of your situation and don't "fault find" unnecessarily. I've never heard this discussed the way you are discussing it and I am grateful for this. Too often - in my experience as a revert - so MUCH is hidden away and never brought into the light... I'm not explaining this very well... I suppose what I mean is that any time I've had questions about lots of things, I've been "encouraged" to be quiet and the response has more than often been "this is Islam, Alhamdulillah" which in itself isn't wrong as such but it just makes me wonder.... how many Muslims are carrying around frustration with regards to unanswered questions? How many push things down inside themselves that fester? I am a revert of a "certain age" and would definitely consider polygyny but... to date... my experiences on supposed "halal" Islamic marriage websites have been dreadful. I don't want to go in to what happened but suffice it to say... my peace (and my head) was wrecked. I know that you both knew each other's families in advance and that's a good thing. Also I imagine that with regard to culture, you have - if not the same - similar backgrounds. I have a strong feeling that both of you will be together for life and that already you bring out the best in each other which is good. Personally, if I were ever to become part of a polygynous marriage, I would have to have a rule that we don't discuss the other wife/wives and would not want to be discussed with my husband's first (other) wife/wives. I think this would be a good standard to keep but of course, life being life, there would likely be occasions where this could not be avoided....but... in all things and putting Allah first, it is vital to be a wise, humble, selfless and cautious about the sensitivities and issues that come as part of being in a polygynous marriage. Anyway, enough from me, well done on putting this out there and May Allah Subhanuhu wa'ta'ala bless your whole family, all the wives and of course you, and keep you all in humility, love, sincerity and strength in the deen, ameen

Marrying more than one wife is permissible, but it's very draining psychologically, financial, physically, emotionally and to some extent spiritually in this country and Europe unless you are good in all of the above departments.

Mona .wow.what a wise ,intelligent and pure soul .Mahdi you are so blessed

whilst having up to 4 wives is allowed in Islam, we cant undermine the importance of the kind of man that can pull this off. Our prophet (pbuh) knew this and advised against it as only a last resort. Men in this day and age do not have the corbels to keep 4 wives equally connected to. Its virtually impossible.

Mashallah amazing conversation thanks for this video

This is soo educational for both men and women who are looking to get into this lifestyle. Learning how to go about managing more than 1 wife has never been openly discuss in the community, usually the standard answer has been you got to be just. Having phone time rules, personal boundaries between each wife, keeping wifes in checking, accepting the reality of jealousy, daily interacting with all the children. The importance that men need to be their purpose -this is huge. This is something that we need to learn as it will increasingly become an option to solving the mass number of unmarried women ratio.

I’m sorry this doesn’t make any sense. You left someone who you were with since y’all were 16, had 5 kids, she never knew anyone but you, to then be with someone who’s been married twice before you and has kids from another man. So it doesn’t seem that virginity or being kidless matters in the end, cuz you can do everything right and still be abandoned. Scary….

Salam mouna, I benefited greatly from you, im not in a polgyny marriage, but I can take many points to better my marriage now, and in the future inshaAllah if he wants to take a on a 2nd wife I feel like I would be in a better state of mind, Allah humma barik ukti 💕

The problem is when illness falls within one household and she needs the man but he has to be shared

Very beneficial insights. Jazakallahu khoiran katheeran

MashaAllah what a well spoken sister ! It seems you choose well brother 👍 Masha’Allah . Very beneficial talk . Much needed for those of us Muslims who are considering polygyny , especially single mothers . Subhan’Allah it goes to show you , any thing that Allah made halal it’s beneficial for us , and what our prophet Muhammad ( peace be upon him ) practiced , Alhamdulilah.

I think the women who gets hurt the most when you take on another women is the one who's lost her virginity to you, has spent her prime with you and hasn't been with any other man. She will inevitably be hurt the most hence her leaving with the kids. I wonder if Mahdi regrets taking on the other wives and losing his kids in the process. I do think it's unfair on the first wife but she did chose to leave. It's sad the family had to break down, in the end the kids and the first wife lost out the most.

How are you brother Mahdi? Your videos helped me immensely. I appreciate your hard work and dedication. Thank you very much.

Yes! I agree - Laura Doyle's work on marriage skills is awesome.

That so the best video on Biblical polygyny yet . I understand what you're saying I was exposed to monogamy And polygyny growing up as a mormon. You make this talk so raw I'm truthful That so many people can learn from it Not just for muslims But for mormons and Jews and Christians . You covered all of the religious aspects of polygyny. Great job sir.

The *3RD WIFE!?* ... I can barely keep a grasp on my *1st and ONLY WIFE.* LOL ....She's a great woman, but it's a lot of *work!*

Mehdi helped a sister out :) Alhmdulillah

As much as this would be difficult for me, I really love this truthful conversation. I wish a lot of plural Muslim couples would be discussing these topics for every to learn more about

Nice to hear from a woman's perspective. Makes alot of sense

The intro 😂

I could never live this life, huge respect to them though.

Wow brother!!! You are a real man. I wish I has 1/10th the cajones you have..

Mona, love your sweetness and humility and emotional maturity. Beats cooking and baking skills any day!

Allahumma barik.. Jazakallah khair.. Barakallahu lakum wa lana ajma'een

This is an example of a woman whose desires to be with a man overriding her desire not to share him. This man truly brings value to her. We all need to chase excellence so that we don't have to worry that the woman we're with will step out on us.

The man needs to be strong enough to say to his other wives do not contact me while I am with my other wife unless it is an emergency. Sisters need to respect each other and allow him private time with his wife. Mutual respect.

She seems happy and they have a great interaction.

Am totally confused can anyone pls clarify Previous videos Mahdi advises not to marrying divorcees and women with children However he is married to a woman with Children.

I m choosing this content over fresh and fit kevin samuels etc Thank you

This one right here has nothing to loose, she's had it all and still got more. Sometimes some women are really selfish ditching young girls men have turned into women and picking up older, divorced or single mothers is the new normal. These men mess up girls lives and live happily everafter with homewreckers 😢

I'm not a commenter by nature but this video is worthwhile. I don't always agree with your style of delivery Mahdi, you can be a bit crude and put question marks on your character, and I am not one to shy away from being direct or blunt, woman or man, however we take the good, and focus on the core of the message, and this video has been the best I've seen from you so far, it's not sensationalist, it's as objective as one can be, it addresses real concerns, and is very beneficial to both Muslims and Muslimas, and I respect the courage of self reflection and admitting your own shortcomings so openly and owning them, which shows you learned and grew. I appreciate you bringing us in to what is essentially private - your marriage - in a healthy and respectable way, and sharing what you have worked out through experience I only ask you continue focused on the message and the benefit, and don't get taken away by hype and reactions to nonsense trends constantly, it brings views but lowers the quality of what you have to say. May Allah bless you and your family Brudda, Assalamu alaykom.

Excellent thank you brilliant couple Mash'Allah

This is a serious question for the sister, so you knew this man abused his wife and kids and you still married him , and brought your babies into a situation that could possible harm them. I don’t care if this man paid for his mistakes, your children need to be protected from all harm and you still went ahead , SubanAllah , last time I comment because I see all these people are not well .I have seen videos in which he says step-children are a burden , how would ur children feel , Wallahi specially if their father has died« listen to someone when they tell you who they are » .

MashAllah TabarakAllah. May Allah taa’la bless your marriage(s) and families inshallah always.May He grant you jannatul Firdaus ameen ya Rab.

You're only entitled to what Allaah has entitled you to, made halaal for you, what you bring to the table and as long as you fulfil your rights and responsibilities towards each other.

This is interesting! I would like to hear the circumstances of how she went from third to first.

She is very smart 👌

brother plz drop some tips on getting married early

How do you (women) handle the jealousy when he's away with another wife. Missing him? Thinking about them. Going through sadness and anger then feeling sorry for getting angry because you knew he was a Polly Muslim man to begin with. But saying you can and then dealing with it for the first time.

My dad had 3 wife's .he said it was hard work

The truth is that man will desire someone else and put up with you when he remarries. This man clearly is putting words into her mouth. The key is to marry a man you don't truly love so if he remarries your not bothered provided he brings something to the table .... This sister sounds a bit simple

You know MashAllah your videos really helped my marriage I’m being more obedient and submissive towards my husband and his attitude towards me has really improved very much change this is the first time I new in my life that I hold the magic or I don’t know what they say in my hands i was never taught so thanks Mahdi and to your wife as well but I still think your masculinity is فتنه استغفروا الله ❤❤❤

I feel kinda discouraged, I came from a extremely dysfunctional family, and a revert so it's discouraging to be told if you come from a messed up background. Then you will not have a good marriage or a good woman will not wanna marry you.

These are “marriages of convenience “ and you get children . If that’s what people really want then I support it . If a woman deep down inside doesn’t approve , it will weaken her and the marriage . / Restriction is a sacred tool, women also have desires

It's called emotional maturity, being able to deal with different situations with the appropriate emotions. Something which Rasul Allah SAW demonstrated many times.

Too much familiarity breeds enmity.

I liked that your wife also held you to check with respect. Something that you clearly appreciate. Learnt alot bro, i don’t agree with all you say. But opening the discussion is important, clearly your wife also doesn’t agree with all you said.

Look at him smile when he talks to his wife . Aw

She is sO intelligent 👍

i am all the way confused. enough internet for today

R u recording your video with your right hand?

People in comments crying on his marriage but adultery, living relationships are freedom of choice for them😮

The best comparison to explain how a man has the ability to love multiple women is like how a mother has the ability to love multiple kids. If she is giving attention to one child, the other child may become jealous, but it does not necessarily mean that she does not like the second child.

The fact that the first family broke down shows you this system does not work in our modern times. Maybe in the khaleej, yes - a completely different culture and social system. In the West-not so much.

You knw what, this cideo eas actually very beneficial in a number of ways, both from questions perspective and from the andwers provided. People think polygamy is a light matter. Its not.

In islam a husband duty is to protect his wife but how can he do that if he stayd with his other wife? Who will give safety to the first wife and first wife's children? Also what if a women needs his husband at night and then she doesnt get that and she commits zina? Who's fault is that?

Honestly I rather be alone then share my husband

As a Muslim myself, I think I can speak for most when I say this man doesn't represent us. When a woman doesn't "look nice" she probably needs to be treated nice the most. We don't choose our looks, and beauty isn't everything. Brother turn back to Allah seriously, this is sad. Downing a woman because of her looks and appearance is sickening.... We're all people

0:31 did he said the cuss word f***k or first 😮??

I totally get what she's saying at 49 minutes. If a woman is sharing her husband she doesn't put all her expectations into that basket, and so won't lose herself to the relationship. She's already accepting him as being with other women and so she is essentially forced to develop the other areas of her life, whether that be with friends, with Allah, with Islam, with herself etc. Whereas a woman who has her husband all to herself has an easy option to just rely on him for all her needs, her life could potentially revolve around him. The more I think about it, polygyny makes so much sense, I don't know why a woman would want a man who is going to just settle for her as if she's the be all and end all, men are wired to persue and build, it just makes sense that she'd *want* him to persue more and not think that she was the end goal. Ofcourse, you can be a man and persue other things, like a career etc, and not just women. But even a man always at his job is gona leave his wife waiting for him a lot of the time.

When I was single, I always said I'd only ever consider polygny with a man who is special and is masculine. Otherwise forget it. Most of the men I came across who were seeking poly were low lives and then had the audacity to insult me because I rejected them. Unfortunately it's very hard to come across a real decent man.

Wait so now you're monogamous?

The fact that she said long time no see made me say goodbye 😂😂

She's wise women, is she psychology

So what are the rights that she has and he doesn't that she sees as equally balanced to his rights to marry an other wife?

Psychologists refer to it as ‘the Repetition Compulsion.’ Re-enacting the environment someone grows up in, in their adult life.

MashaAllah she's wise. She said don't give in to sheytan sisters

Also it is not only about polygamous relations, husbands are more of a social person than wives may you be in polygamous relation or not. He might be shared by his work and other family members as well. and this logic comes in there as well. you cannot claim him to be on constant back and call if he is involved in work or his other family members. Don't fall into the trap of making those affect your relationship with him.

What if the aunts orr fam intervene?

Didn't that Mormon keep all his wives in the same house? That was the problem.

May Allah bless this obedient and submissive woman . Allahumma barik

He said women that have been divorced twice need to dii alone and other women should learn from them. The irony is he’s twice divorced and admitted abuser. The arrogance of this one is out the roof.

The maturity of the younger wife is mostly his problem not yours

How can I contact Mahdi?

1:28:45 Damn that's probably the most black pill thing I've heard on this channel lmao

I am flabbergasted. This sister knew he was abusive so she married him anyway thinking he would be a good husband? And then he beat her once in marriage and ‘repented’ so all is well now? (Not for one second so I believe he suddenly just stopped abusing women). What were you thinking sister??? You are single with kids and was it desperation? Why????

الحمدلله على كل حال 🤲 اللهم يا احد يا صمد ارزقني الزوج الصالح و الولد اللهم امين يارب العالمين 🤲 الله فرحني و فرح جميع المسلمين والمسلمات 🤲

i wish this podcast in Arabic so my mom understand

What you say at 39 minutes regarding women moving on quicker, understood, that might be the case. But I think the reasoning is not true, you mentioned historically women would have to marry again quicker becauser their husbands would die in wars, but that doesn't translate into the evolution of women, women are created the same way 100 years ago as they are today, it must just be in their nature God-given. The historical reality might just be an example of it playing out but not the reason for it.

I’m not gonna lie .. they are a adorable couple

If men are the captains of the ships then pls believe women are the wind/water/ light/ thunder (basically the weather). Men aren’t steering the ship only to get to the destination, navigating the weather is his biggest challenge because it’s always unpredictable.

34:45 - nisa propose to married men more these days

She sounds Somali😅

I missed this live throughout the entire time I have been following you! But anyway, here's a very important correction for you. Have you heard of the term "words of Zihar"? When you call your wife or even compare full or any part of your wife with someone who is prohibited to marry for you, such as your mother or your sister, then it is obligatory for you to give some sadaqah as repentance. Because it is haram and you can not live together until you pay the charity. Hope you don't make such jokes again.

I know plenty of people that came from divorced families and as adukts they learned from their parents mistakes and did their due process and they have wonderful marriages, and i know people whose mothers and fathers are together and the adult children got divorces. Its a bit shallow to judge an indivildual from their family. No one chooses their family and some are the complete opposites of their good or bad families. Children from divorced families were tested and they dont have to miss out on getting married because decisions of their parents. Vet an individual based on their values not their family. You could be mossing out on someone terrific.

Aaahhhh....unless that gelousy you are talking about trully hurts ...polygyny is not for everyone...and it isn't a sin yo believe that either...there is a reason He said "then marry one" ..more than one reason ...yes it works for some and is sunnah,but not a fard and we shouldn't be made to feel shame for not agreeing to this fir our own selves ....sorry but it is the truth....and the way many of us think and feel as well.....none of it is invalid