The 4 Minute Guide to Getting (Hard) Things Done

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2 жыл бұрын

Here's a random weekend rant on something I just really wanted to talk about today :)
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@anushadewase6089 2 жыл бұрын

"Between planning and execution my desire gets lost", more truer words have never been said

@chamallow989 2 жыл бұрын

Which is why I don’t understand how the productivity youtubers who plan everything all the time do stuff. They litteraly spend HOURS planning stuff they could have started or even finished by the time they are done planning.

@fatimamentoor4983 2 жыл бұрын

"don't believe everything you think" is the best advice I've ever received. Thanks for sharing this very helpful video , Elizabeth !

@abdallababikir4473 2 жыл бұрын

it's the definition of critical thinking

@phanlehongvan Жыл бұрын

@@abdallababikir4473 oh, thank you, actually, I didn't understand it. Now I get it. Thanks so much.

@abdallababikir4473 Жыл бұрын

@@phanlehongvan thank you for the thanks :)

@abhiyanbeta 2 жыл бұрын

This level of self awareness is amazing, deffo got me thinking about how I run my life as well

@avachen9270 Жыл бұрын

Why does she feel so relatable to me ? She just seems like that one friend that u resonate with and wanna talk about urself for hours coz u both r same. 🖤

@speakingfreely6770 2 жыл бұрын

You content is going at a whole new level. This is such a radical way of thinking. The voice over artist in me has been blocking all my youtube videos. The only me that is a problem. Thanks for giving me this thought construct.

@elizabethfilips 2 жыл бұрын

AH THANK YOU FOR THIS!

@annahenne4790 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely brilliant. That is exactly the way we should treat ourselves. The saying: treat yourself like you would treat your best friend in the same situation.

@gannahossam2820 2 жыл бұрын

What an interesting ideology. Honestly kind of wild that you’re applying things that work for interpersonal relationships to your own mindset and self talk. Elizabeth you never NOT give me something to think of

@elizabethfilips 2 жыл бұрын

Ah LOVE this comment, thank you!

@leocdms 2 жыл бұрын

She indeed always came up with something brilliant. That is exactly why sometimes I think it is too much for a human being to bear. Maybe it is a curse to be so "enlightened". I'm scared when I try to put myself on her skin.

@ZoeysMusings 2 жыл бұрын

I love how you acknowledge that you have different versions of yourself. love this rant because it's so relatable! We probably all need to fire our manager "selves" at some point 😅

@Abrpatel 2 жыл бұрын

We’re a one man / woman theater troupe in the play of our lives. One of the key insights I got after reading infinite game. I think there is a season for everything, and doing everything you want is a recipe to get none of it done. What are the 5 key roles you need to play in this season to build the 3 core identities you want to have by the end of this decade? Every other role gets benched. This will require some introspection but I think you have the intelligence and courage to pull it off.

@juliethurmond7648 2 жыл бұрын

Yes! This is along the lines of what I've been thinking for myself, too. Thank you for putting yourself out there and sharing this!

@DoctorAzmain 2 жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh this is too relatable… I never realised there are so many different Azmains that I need to negotiate with lol 😂 Doctor, son, KZfaqr, chronic procrastinator, creator, artist, musician, anime binger, pathological perfectionist - I’m good at managing others, but NOT myself lmao

@MichaelNealeYT 2 жыл бұрын

It's impressive that you have sat down to think about all the different versions of yourself and what they require to get things done in a way that doesn't cause suffering. It's good that you are taking steps to improve this and I wish you the best of luck.

@mcmaschio 2 жыл бұрын

I love the way you approached this … im feeling the same thing being a physiotherapist , buisness owner , youtuber and having a social life .. thanks for sharing ❤️💯

@laugh2live1230 2 жыл бұрын

What a genius and clever analogy to express something that is SO relatable to many of us!!

@EmandLloyd 2 жыл бұрын

Wow this video came at just the right time! Having recently transitioned from working at a law firm to working for myself, I (Em) only just realized that the way I talk to and treat myself (ie never satisfied, bad at taking leave, etc.) would have been a totally unacceptable way to treat someone else if I were at my previous job. It would definitely have - as you excellently put it - gotten me sent to HR lol! Really love this idea of firing yourself as manager, which I will now promptly to do myself as well :)

@JoseGarcia-vr8mx 2 жыл бұрын

Great points! I recently starting doing Bullet Journaling and I have found it to be an extremely helpful framework to get myself organized, mindful, and purpose-driven.

@naymanasrin4094 2 жыл бұрын

I absolutely loved it! I was going through this same thing and I just couldn't figure out how to manage all the different versions of myself. Thank you for this video. Now I will try to be a better manager😇😇

@froydianslips392 2 жыл бұрын

I so relate to this! I think I’ve gotten so far as thinking about different roles I have in my life, but I’ve never thought about how I’m the manager of all those roles as well. Love to hear more about what you’re trying out to manage yourself better or things you’re reading to learn about it!

@Zaraatje20 Жыл бұрын

Brilliant. You keep making me think about approaching things in new ways. So glad I found your channel last month, thank you!

@matthewtaylor8668 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely correct. Be nice to yourself just like you would be to others. This is a great video. I am really enjoy your videos. Thanks

@urvashi893 2 жыл бұрын

Couldn't agree more. And i really liked the concept of seeing yourself in the different roles and how to manage them. Thank you Elizabeth it was really helpful.

@vedantlalit7018 2 жыл бұрын

fantastic! I never thought of different aspects of life as different people with different needs, its truly eye opening

@liviafatan1655 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, I just loved this so much! Approaching the management of your own roles and the different sides of yourself exactly how you would approach the management of other people at work... Sounds so simple when you say it, like it's the next logical thing to say, but why have I never ever ever thought of it that way? Lately I've been adding to my reading list a bunch of management books, wondering why am I so interested in this subject since I don't seem to be heading in that direction at work. Well, now I know why I'm reading them. Thanks Elizabeth!

@user-ml1dq9mz3i 2 ай бұрын

Thank you! I COMPLETELY resonated with you. I just try to get better just like you. All the best!

@tshetij 2 жыл бұрын

This is yet another brilliant and insightful video from Elizabeth... I really loved the idea of jotting down the roles and personalities of different versions of ourselves and then working on them individually rather than a collective whole... Will start doing the same for myself asap...💪✌ Thanks...

@clevergirl772 2 жыл бұрын

This is a great new perspective! Thanks for sharing :)

@ShalomSimplified Жыл бұрын

It's interesting to hear you talking like this just a day after I read about "subpersonalities," which is kind of what you're talking about here. I appreciate this approach, 'cause I have a lot of tendencies toward procrastination, yet another part of me wants to get this stuff done _yesterday_ and thinking of it this way might be a good way to negotiate between these two extremes. This is why it can be truly useful to watch these kinds of videos. It's not that you will necessarily find the great secret to success in life, but it allows you to stretch your mind to consider another way of thinking. Thank you for sharing yours!

@nhvkuy4675 Жыл бұрын

That is genius! You are the only productivity KZfaqr I'm following and I'm binging your videos.

@sharathbhat1720 2 жыл бұрын

Love your content, it's very unique and honest. I think you are over ambitious with having so many parallel tracks, it's hard for any manager to run. I maybe wrong here, only you can question yourself and really know the answer. I feel that it is OK to take it slow, as long as you are growing.

@sanjanasshrivastav7432 Жыл бұрын

I love the the way you think! I'm so glad I came across your channel!!

@Alisha0413 2 жыл бұрын

This is amazing, I don't know if you are a bad manager or just putting too much on yourself but firing yourself takes a lot of strength to look inward and figure out yourself, even if you don't find just good stuff. Maybe you are a bad manager but holy shit you are a fantastic youtuber and the way you speak grabs my attention and not many people do that for me and I watch a lot of content similar to yours in terms of content

@begoawadlobato Жыл бұрын

This is brilliant. Thank you so much for your videos, for sharing all these things and for sharing a lot of tips and tricks/wisdom. I can relate so much and to so many things you tell on this channel. It is comforting to know that others struggle with the same things hahaha but it is a lot better when you find someone who could find a way and hack those struggles, use them instead of dreading them. So they don’t become a struggle anymore. My mind also wonders (ADHD thing 😅). I read and searched a lot about many topics you speak on your youtube channel, and I finally feel I’m getting answers that make sense, that I can actually implement. Somehow I feel relieved. I feel you understand me hahaha. So thank you so much!

@dynamicfasaem5312 2 жыл бұрын

very relatable … i didnt have words to explain what really happens when I want to work, its really true that whenever I (we) want get get a chore ticked from the list - I negotiate with my other personality roles ,, thanks for putting it out there!!

@SoniaDekker Жыл бұрын

I am so glad to have found someone who o feel is like me. So many of your videos have saved me from myself.

@joeking6972 Жыл бұрын

I also have ADHD and I’ve found that the single most useful technique for getting things done is to count to 3 and then just do the thing. This interrupts my natural tendency to get lost in thought and before I know it I’ve gained momentum and the task is already halfway done.

@HaileyAnnReads 2 жыл бұрын

Wow I really loved this video! I just found your channel and this was so helpful. I don’t think that we consider the way we manage all of the parts of ourselves often enough. Thank you for this 💕

@mayday2211 5 ай бұрын

This is honestly amazing. I would have never thought to frame this issue this way and it makes complete sense!!! It's brilliant... and as a job I have been a manager and I treat everyone so much better than I ever treat myself - I never thought of it until now. Even as an "employee" to myself, I treat my manager-self worse, and am a terrible employee in that job than I would ever be for a "real" job. As you said, for some people this is basic knowledge, but I am like you - I never take time off, Im constantly frustrated with myself, I am always trying to do everything rather than being at one job/role at a time - figuratively. Thank you, so much. I can now see small ways to be better by treating myself better - from both sides.

@ericprincen3345 Жыл бұрын

I wish self acceptance existed when I was your age.😄 OK, seriously. I deeply appreciate your insights. They are so applicable to my life as well. After a lifetime of pushing myself hard, which has just led to frustration and resignation, I'm taking on a new strategy of listening to myself and working out how best to work with my complex and fabulous mind. Thank you for all the things you have shared in your various videos. Too many great points to individually acknowledge. And thank you for being you publicly. It's a gift for the rest of us who have been stuck for a long time.

@maryaRa2 2 жыл бұрын

Great advice, as usual! I feel ready for my break now! :)

@LucaAnamaria Жыл бұрын

This is such a brilliant idea! I often feel as though I am twelve or more people in one due to the many number of things I want to get done in life. And I'm a terrible manager! I've gotten a bit better over the years, but what a wonderful idea to write down all the roles / needs / feelings and try to consciously toggle between them. I will definitely try this. ☺️ Sounds a bit like IFS therapy!

@salome10011 2 жыл бұрын

So insightful and inspiring! Thank you for sharing. ❤️

@umarjamal7253 2 жыл бұрын

The most meaningful video i have seen in a really long time. Thankyou for such thoughtful words, its really helps me a lot too.

@elizabethfilips 2 жыл бұрын

Oh thank you!

@EmmaMarch Жыл бұрын

I love this... It's a wonderful thought ! ♥

@danlardi 2 жыл бұрын

It’s a sign of excellence to have the humility to know we’re not good at something… yet. Maybe you’re not “bad” at it. Maybe you’re exactly where you need to be and just need to change the direction.

@roofchild2290 2 жыл бұрын

This might sound ridiculous, but the way you vocalise experiences , I myself am going through, has been the best of help. Whether its being of similar generation or how you rationalise trains of thought, I have been able to feel better knowing I'm not the only one going through such struggles. Keep on doing you best and thanks.

@Ileanapros 2 жыл бұрын

Great perspective you’ve shared here! I thought the video was going to be something else based on the title but this was better

@jeongminlee1551 2 жыл бұрын

I watched this in 2x speed and I couldn’t process what just happened in my mind but I think your self-esteem has grown so much

@shwetayadav7404 2 жыл бұрын

Hats offf..to you Elizabeth mam how you single handedly manage all these stuff I had watch many content in which along with speeker there bunch of team one is the editor ,the other one is script writter and graphics designer and so on .So you are doing such great job with such beauty and perfection . Again hats off to you

@alexaaziz5930 2 жыл бұрын

Love this way of thinking, great video ♥️

@bodhichaithali861 2 жыл бұрын

This talk truly helped me, I never think about myself like that, I'm going to be a medical student👩‍⚕️ this year, but I'm not satisfied with my life. I need a more adventurous existence, to explore different fields like painting, architecture, cooking, dancing, Tai chi, astronomy, piano or harp ( however I can't afford either😅), knitting, travelling and so much more... So, I never find what I want to be, or where to categorise myself as a person. What I am more artistic or scientific kind of a person? But this talk made me deeply realise 'I am all of these. Things I don't know are -: 1. Where to start (what to learn first)? 2. How to manage all these different personalities of myself? 🌻Seems like have to learn a lot of lessons and a new perspective to see me as an individual with diverse interests. 💐Thank you for your intellectual words.

@michaela9039 Жыл бұрын

life changing video! Thank you so much!!

@mavvi3303 Жыл бұрын

I had something similar but not as sophisticated, where I would think of my self in two ways; the responsible planner or the creative doer. I did that cause I could never connect these two roles I needed to play into one mindset ever. One side of me wants to constantly plan and organize, the other part wants to forget time or responsibilities and lose herself in any activity she feels like partaking in. I think I will definitely try to apply your approach to how I manage my life because I think there are more than just two roles I play, it's just some of them align with the "responsible planner" more while some with "creative doer" more. Who knows, maybe some are somewhere in between and I never even noticed? Anyways, that was a loooong comment :P Thank you for sharing this

@tiffanysmith4046 8 ай бұрын

Wow this makes so much sense to me now. I would struggle to understand why on one hand it would be great to be a morning person on a set sleep schedule but on the other hand, some of my best work is in the dead of night. There are so many of these kinds contradictions and this video just made everything click! Also seeing yourself as a manager is brilliant bc I am guilty of all those same "bad boss" traits. And recently to try to get myself going on some creative projects I have begun to ask myself "What would you do if you were your own Creative Director? (Or like your own talent agent)" and this takes that idea to another level. I love your videos. The one on how to live a chaotically organized life also resonated deeply with me. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us fellow neurodivergents

@monikap7321 2 жыл бұрын

I've never realised there are so maby Shauryas I need to handle😂 The student, the writer, the reader, the procastrinator, the daughter, the depressed 😂 This is such a good perspective. Thank you Elizabeth. Keep up the good work😄

@hamzashabbir3589 2 жыл бұрын

Read your newsletter today !!! This resonates with me so much!

@elizabethfilips 2 жыл бұрын

:)))

@akritiyadav. 2 жыл бұрын

wow, this was such an amazing and useful video !! thank you

@carlykit2975 Жыл бұрын

This a great idea. Love it

@PriyankaArora997 2 жыл бұрын

I love this so much - so relatable

@ngkaruku 2 жыл бұрын

this is a good take, resonates , crazy though is that i knew it was a problem when scolding myself , bad management style .

@miaandhernook 2 жыл бұрын

This video is hard to watch, as I’ve been in the same situation as you were last year. And it hurts. Not because of what others think, but because I kept on disappointing myself with the result that I get from myself. I hope you’ll be ok with yourself, and don’t push yourself too hard to all things, and be all things. It will be too much, too soon. Take a breath and put little task to the big result you want to get done. One step at a time ☺️ much love!

@bigthebla 2 жыл бұрын

This resonates with me so deeply 🥺

@meriamnjah8633 2 жыл бұрын

I sooo needed to watch this (even though I initially was doing so to avoid doing my piles of work). But Yes! Can we talk about this more often?! It took going through surgery over winter break for me to realize how mean my manager was to all the different parts of myself, and how much expectations she had on all of them. I didn't have the language for it then, but I now know that I made a subconscious decision to fire her, but she's been sooo adamant about getting her job back over the past 2 months, and has succeed in some sneaky ways.. But I needed to watch your video to recommit to firing her :')

@pajazet 2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes I feel like you just take my feelings and transform them into a video the way I'm not able to express... and I basically platonically love you for this. :)

@ananthapadmanabhanss4553 2 жыл бұрын

Keep it going buddy :) you always rock. Stay safe amidst Covid times!!

@miriamajigboye7473 Жыл бұрын

This is amazing self awareness ❤

@hambski 2 жыл бұрын

I really like this concept Elizabeth. I'm curious about how you think about the difference between being a manager and leader? Do you want to be a better self manager and achieve goals or be a leader and create a vision?

@heynergarcia7587 Ай бұрын

That's exactly what i feel all the time Eli

@hikikomori6956 2 жыл бұрын

Nice approach you've detailed here, and thanks for sharing your experience. I was reminded of another approach I heard where you negotiate with yourself instead of being an authoritarian (Example: I will work on my needed tasks but will watch Netflix after X hours on the task).

@plantifulalexandra Жыл бұрын

I feel this so much.

@bellashah172 2 жыл бұрын

Lol... I so relate to this. Fab video. Thanks for sharing

@nicoleenesse 2 жыл бұрын

Love this!

@carlosandressorianogonzale1523 2 жыл бұрын

I love all your videos. Thanks

@aliceleys1166 2 жыл бұрын

This sounds like you're describing the IFS (Internal Family Systems) theory, which has been gaining traction in psychotherapy in recent years! Might be something you could look into more if you're interested :)

@kierlak 2 жыл бұрын

Started IFS therapy with a therapist 2 months ago. Highly recommend it to anyone.

@krisz9010 2 жыл бұрын

As a manager, I haven't found that learning to be a manager helped me be more kind to myself...necessarily. I love the idea of indexing personas, I've done similar with indexing my hobbies. A great start is advice by Agent Cooper from Twin Peaks: "Every day, once a day, give yourself a present. Don't plan it. Don't wait for it. Just let it happen. It could be a new shirt at the men's store, a catnap in your office chair, or two cups of good hot black coffee"

@genzvideos Жыл бұрын

I love your ideas

@frankunderwood8357 2 жыл бұрын

You have multiple conflicting goals pulling you in different directions. That is why you have these problems. I'd recommend reading Willpower by Roy F. Baumeister and Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins.

@s.1469 2 жыл бұрын

loving the middle part!

@yves6180 10 ай бұрын

You are describing my life. Too many interests, passions and roles.

@hashysh1607 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks again!

@diegodisena 2 жыл бұрын

Random video and I love it!!

@76BedfordStreet Жыл бұрын

This is brilliant.

@mastandstars5869 Жыл бұрын

This sounds really helpful. My next page in Notion will be... 😉

@dMilkShakeSS 2 жыл бұрын

I dont think i ever saw such beautiful hair!!! Can you do a video on your routine an how you style it? ❤️

@kathahahn20 Жыл бұрын

That'sa very insightful approach to see oneself and sill social media is an issue we all eed to talk about. It's some kind of manager kryptonite 🤔

@joeljaison3358 2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful video eli

@pearlofillusions6270 2 жыл бұрын

As weird as it sounded, it all made so much sense! 😂😅 Absolutely love your thought process!

@umakirola8617 2 жыл бұрын

May be the problem is that you are good at so many different things and you want to do them all perfectly and then learn new things also and do that also perfectly. The more important thing that you are very genuine and empathetic. You never stop going to the core and so it's a constant struggle everytime. May be less of multitasking and not holding on to everything can help loosen up a bit. As Naval Ravikant said that may be choose your most important desire for which getting overwhelmed is ok and leave rest all. You cannot be overwhelmed about everything.