I love the use of the whiteboard and I'd love to see you use it again! The only thing I would say is you should probably use a darker marker since the green is a little tough to read.

Oh that totally makes sense! Thank you!! ❤️

Loved the white board!!! 😍😍

Definitely approve of the whiteboard! Nice to have a visual

Love the whiteboard idea! And the flow chart is clever. However, please use a darker marker & maybe set the board more facing the camera. 💞 one of my fav relationship advisors!

YES!! Totally!

Allison Lucas Your church is very smart to do this! Men and Women need to interact in a healthy way!

That is SUCH a cool and fun idea!!! Wow!!

Now there's an idea! I know I'd likely "hesitate" (I.e. overthink) at first; buy that's actually a great idea.

I'm so glad this could help!! I totally did the same thing in the past: Jumping right to "could I marry this guy?" before we'd even hung out once!! 😂🙈 Like you said, it's so easy to psyche yourself out.

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It really is how our grandparents approached dating! As James says, "Coffee is just that - coffee." Thank you for the whiteboard feedback too!

@@TiffanyDawn "Coffee is *just that* - coffee." I love how freeing that is!

I totally relate to your comment! That's how I approached guy friendships too for a long time! I'm so glad this video could encourage you!

Hey Lynsey, just know I appreciate your honesty and as a single Christian guy, you're in a vast majority of Christian girls. No pressure but tell everyone about This CHANNEL!! Also read the book How to Get a Date Worth Keeping.

Exactly!! It's just too much precious for the beginning of the relationship.

Yay!!! I'm so glad you enjoyed it! Thank you so much for the encouragement!! (And for the hair/ earrings compliment 😍 It was my first time ever doing my hair like that!)

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That's a great way to put it!!

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Oh that's SUCH a great question!! So do you mean that you overthink things so much that you can't decide if you're interested in becoming exclusive with the guy? In that situation, I would lean toward giving the relationship a try. If you are in the relationship awhile and you continue second guessing it, then you can end it. But I know with James, I almost broke up with him a few days into our exclusive relationship because I was overthinking it so much! And man am I glad I just gave it some time. He's so good for me! Also, here's a video I did about second guessing a relationship. I hope this can help! :) kzfaq.info/get/bejne/r9Nidspk37jZnXk.html

@@TiffanyDawn Thanks! I ended it because I was so stressed, I was putting off responding to his messages, and he lived 1.5-2 hours away and we were both too busy for that. I didn't want to waste his time and I couldn't see anything developing if I was going to stress about it that much

I'm so glad it could be helpful!!❤️

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Ohhh what a great video idea!!!

Oh yay!! Thank you!! It was my first time ever doing my hair like that 😍

Can I just say that I LOVE this sentence you wrote: " we can guard our hearts in a way pleasing to God and at the same time say "yes!" to the adventures He wants us to grab hold!" What a great way to put it!! 🙌 Also thank you for that link of Natalie's older twin from afar! ❤️

Congratulations on your engagement!! 😍

@@TiffanyDawn thank you we are looking to get married October 9th 2021 at 3 pm

Awww!! This comment just made my day!! ❤️❤️

I'm so glad this was helpful! I agree - I think if someone can't decide whether or not to date you after a month of hanging out every day - that's a good time for you to step away and say, "This isn't for me." That takes a lot of wisdom and courage - it's awesome you were able to do that! ❤️

What a great story you guys have to tell about getting lost together! I'm glad he wasn't a creeper LOL - and thank you for sharing this with your single girls! ❤️❤️

I loved hearing a little bit of your story! It's so easy to just jump to "is he the one." In past relationships, I totally did that even before the first time we hung out! I'm glad you've been able to slow down and enjoy. ❤️

Hahahaha I relate!! Babies on the second date 😂👏

That is so exciting you are moving to phase 3 after being friends for a long time!! How exciting, and how neat to have the friendship and really know each other first! If you ever have certain topics you want advice on, please let me know! That can give me more video ideas! 😍❤️

@@TiffanyDawn thank you so much sis☺️ I was definitely wondering if you could talk about being strong in keeping boundaries so that a couple can be faithful to God and not fail him with pre-marital sex. Also, what are your thoughts on long distance relationships. Do you think they can truly work? The guy I like is such a good man with a heart after God, but my parents are so hesitant because of the distance. Do you have any advice? I want to honor and respect my parent's advice but at the same time I am so sure about how I feel for this guy. So much love and blessings to you and your family 💕😋 Thank you for being so amazing!

I'm so glad!!! That makes me so happy!

Awwww thank you!! This comment just made my day!! ❤️❤️

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Ohh great question! I actually have some blog posts about this! Here are the links: How I set up my first speaking tour: tiffanydawn.wordpress.com/2018/07/27/how-i-set-up-my-first-speaking-tour/ How to Start Public Speaking: tiffanydawn.wordpress.com/2016/12/30/how-to-start-speaking-for-an-audience/ I hope those can help! :)

@@TiffanyDawn Thank you so much!

Hahahahaha!!! Girl, I FEEL YOU. I am SUCH an overthinker. James likes to tease me by saying, "I'm Tiffany Dawn and if I don't have something to worry about, I'll find something!" 😂😂😂

Oh that TOTALLY makes sense. Thank you for that feedback!

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Tiffany Dawn It would work if you used a black or darker marker than the light green one :)

I totally did too!!

Oh yay!! So glad you enjoyed it! 🙌❤️

Ohhh yes - such a good idea. Thank you!!

I'm so glad this video could simplify things! I think we make dating way more complicated than it needs to be. 🙈

I'm so glad it could encourage you!

I'm so glad it could help!! ❤️❤️

To be totally honest, that's exactly what I did!! In fact, on the week I went on my first date with James, I also had first dates with two other guys. I thought, "I've gone out with guys before and it never works out, so why wait and see how the first date goes before scheduling another first date?" lol - granted, once I went out with James, I had no interest in seeing the other guys again. I was totally intrigued by James. 😍💕

@@TiffanyDawn Lovely! That makes sense! I'm waiting for something that feels just as natural as that :D

Oh wow that is a REALLY good (and hard!) question. James and I did a video about when your parents don't like your boyfriend - and I think it might help in your situation too. (Link is below.) The biggest thing I would recommend right now, is that you start to develop a relationship with a healthy and wise adult outside your family. Someone who can have your best interests in mind and help you navigate, "How do I approach dating? And guy friendships? Even when my family might not approve? And how do I know if their disapproval is a true red flag or not?" That adult could be a professional counselor, someone from your church, etc. But I think developing that relationship now can help when you meet a guy you'd like to get to know. Oh and here's the video link that I mentioned: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jsCeltSnrduokaM.html

@@TiffanyDawn thank you for replying but in my situation it's a little bit difficult becuase my mom does not allow me to be close friends even when adult family members. I understand her concern becuase she was a teenage mother and she wants the best for me and I love her for that but I really domt know how my future might look like considering my protective mother. But who knows might change as I get closer to being an adult and I will take your advice as long as my mom is okay with it!:)and thank you again for your positive videos I really love them!

I hear you!!

Thank you!! I'm so glad you enjoyed it!

I'm so glad this could help simplify it! 🙌

That's a great question! I'm not sure how the language differences might affect this, like you said. I guess in my personal opinion, when you are spending a lot of time with someone for a long time, or kissing etc, I think it can lead to a lot of hurt if it's not in the context of an exclusive relationship. Just because if you guys are doing that, it tends to lead to at least one person wanting it to be exclusive, or thinking it is, and feeling hurt if the other person is still doing that with multiple people. I think the beginning 2 phases are totally fine to do with multiple with people at the same time, but it's good to not drag those phases on TOO long or it can lead to someone getting hurt. That's my personal opinion, anyway. I hope that helps! ❤️❤️

Woohoo!!! So exciting!!😍😍

I agree - you don't want to go too long before you realize your life goals are totally opposite! But I do think you need to get to know each other first. For example, James really wanted lots of kids and I (surprisingly) didn't want any kids! But our desires can change -& God can work in our hearts. So we talked about that and prayed about it several times as soon as we moved into stage 4, which was only 2-3 months after we started dating. (We were in our late 20s and had grown up together, so we moved a little faster than if we'd been in our teens.) If I'd said, "No, this is a dealbreaker for me," then we would have been able to break up without dragging it out too long. But we'd already been able to get to know each other first. And it was really good that we already knew each other by then. Because if he'd said that on our first date, I would have run!! LOL. But as it is, I am SO THANKFUL God changed my heart because I LOVE being a mom. 🙌❤️ I'm not saying that'll happen to everyone, but just that sometimes we think our lives are going one direction, when they're actually going to head another direction. Another example is my childhood youth pastor. When they started dating, his wife had always thought she'd be a pastor's wife, but he had no interest in pastoring. But as they got to know each other, she really felt like, "This is who I want to be with." And turns out, eventually he became a youth pastor and then a senior pastor! Of course, you want to talk about dealbreakers, and really pay attention to them. But it's also important to remember that life often goes differently than we think it will. ❤️❤️

I don't know but i will pray for you. You both need to have other Christians in your lives helping you. That always helped me.