@melissadougherty, I’m the mother of a trans-identifying adult daughter, and have been in this valley for 6 years. You and Alisa are correct: we cannot compromise on this, or on the x-sex name for that matter. For the reasons you mention (e.g., truth, reality, and the slippery slope of further compromise), and for one more reason: when our daughter finally comes to her senses, she will not likely go to those who’ve lied to her (whatever their reasons) but will seek out those who loved her enough to stand in the truth - even when she was unwilling to accept it. As Christians we are called to be salt and light. Salt preserves the truth, seasons the culture, and makes the lost thirsty. Light shines so that those in the dark can find their way to safety. When my daughter wanted us to use her new name and pronouns, I gently and lovingly declined and told her I couldn’t because it was not true. It was a lie in my opinion. I knew it might cost the relationship, and God had to deal with me on that (idols can be anything, even something wonderful like our children). Eventually, the cost was out relationship - at least temporarily. But, when she reconnected (still sold out to her sin), she returned to a mother resolutely standing on the truth, in love and grace. I’ve kept my promise to her: “I love you no matter what, and I’m not going anywhere.” The estrangement, as heartbreaking as it was, was necessary for the Lord to continue the deeper work in me (which is nothing short of transformational!), and to enable me to birth a ministry to help others struggling to navigate this unique valley with a biblical compass. I’d love to share it with you, Melissa, if you’re up for it. One last thing: most of us are pretty clear on the pronouns, though we might struggle to walk it out, but many lack that same clarity on the name issue. I love how my friend, Laura Perry (Smalts) illuminates it. When the Lord drew her out of the trans life and back to Himself, she wrestled with him over her “male” identity. She sensed the Lord ask her, “When you stand before Me, what name will I use.” I hope to hear from you!

"When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear." Thomas Sowell

Totally agree. When I first heard someone say “my truth” I knew we had a problem. We live in reality. There’s only one truth.

Here’s a third argument: If it’s, “No big deal, it’s just pronouns” Why’s it a big deal if I don’t use them? If it’s such a little insignificant thing, why is such a big deal being made about someone not going along with it?

“Please do not ask me to deny my beliefs so you can affirm yours.”

My daughter started getting in the lgbtq when she was in high school and then probably the last three years she thought she was trans she came very close to transitioning I always stood my ground from what God Said and I always told her she was a she she would always be a she and just prayed for her she is now engaged to a guy so God answered my prayers

The biggest problem I have, is that they are lying, and they want you to submit to their lies and they want you to acknowledge their lies as truth and to lie for them.

I think by allowing oneself to agree to call a person by their pronouns only adds to their delusion. That’s not healthy, logical, truth or honest.

As far as I know, people who work for public entities are not lawfully required to refer to individuals by their preferred pronouns because it violates the First Amendment and specifically the Compelled Speech Doctrine. There have been numerous lawsuits won by teachers who refused to use a student’s preferred pronouns after they were initially punished for not doing so.

I have been on this Earth for 62 years, I have life experience. My comment is that this pronoun nonsense is for two reasons the first is a natural way to attract attention. But the second reason is dark and sinister. These people want confrontation. ALWAYS LOOK AT THEIR EYES.

This argument makes total sense but it makes me scared to take a stand. I'm a teenager at a public school and this basically means it's over for me if I try to stand my ground as a Christian. I've seen a a girl at my school who was ostracized for her faith and it makes me scared to try to carry my cross. If you guys don't mind, can you pray for me? I'm sixteen and I'm trying to do what's right for Christ. I'm trying to do more to understand my faith so I can properly defend it one day. I don't ever comment that much on anything but I just felt really compelled to at this moment. Also, I really love and appreciate what you stand for, Melissa. Now I just need the courage to stand for the same thing as a sister in Christ.

A Christian psychologist I worked with once told me never to enter into another person’s delusion with them. Many types of problems that psychologists see can cause a person to develop delusions, but under no circumstances should we enter into their delusions with them. We think we are being respectful, but as you pointed out, you put yourself in a position where you cannot help them deal with their delusion because you’ve already told them their delusion is reality.

I'm grammarphobic: afraid of using incorrect grammar. A pronoun is only used when the person being referred to is not there (if they were, it would be impolite to use a pronoun *at all*, you should use their name!) When the person is there, I will use their name, or simply "you"; when they are not present, it would be impolite for them to try to control my speech. I'll go with the pronoun that matches their biological sex.

I agree. Like I've heard a pastor say "I would rather anger you into heaven than into flatter you into hell."

One of the simplest criticisms of pronouns that has really stuck with me was that it's not about policing language as much as it is about policing thought. Most of the time when you use someone's pronouns you are referring to them in the third person, not to that person. They want you to train yourself how to think of that person not what to call them to their face to be polite. It's the ultimate in narcissism.

One of my favorite quotes: “In my study of communist societies, I came to the conclusion that the purpose of communist propaganda was not to persuade or convince, not to inform, but to humiliate; and therefore, the less it corresponded to reality the better. When people are forced to remain silent when they are being told the most obvious lies, or even worse when they are forced to repeat the lies themselves, they lose once and for all their sense of probity. To assent to obvious lies is in some small way to become evil oneself. One’s standing to resist anything is thus eroded, and even destroyed. A society of emasculated liars is easy to control. I think if you examine political correctness, it has the same effect and is intended to.” - Theodore Dalrymple

Using someone's "preferred pronouns" is not loving. It affirms psychological disorder and attempts to infect you with it at the same time. The most loving thing we can do with someone who has been affected by this disorder is to attempt to help disabuse them of it.

What about all the people who regret transitioning in the future? They will look back at everyone that affirmed them when they were younger as being complicit in their transitioning because it was the polite thing to do.

How about the old nursery story "The Emperor has no clothes" ? This pronoun Insanity is exactly that!

My brother who transitioned in the late seventies called our mother , who loved him so much, horrible names for forgetting and using his old name and not using "she". We were all called names. She was always one to keep the peace and what she decided was the best way to do that was to "just humor him". And that's what this is. Humoring. Which is the same thing as a lie. She was there for him, she loved and prayed for him but he treated her like she was a terrible person just because she wasn't "happy" for him.

My sister is a lesbian who's partner is transitioning to a man. I flat told my sister I would not refer to her partner as a man. To do so would be to lie to her, and lying is a sin. Also, to affirm their delusion would be to say that God is wrong and a liar and made them wrong. God is not a liar, and he made everyone exactly the way they are on purpose.

Chloe Cole interviewed Katie Anderson, who stated that once people affirmed her male name & pronoun, it helped her to choose to undergo the surgery that she now regrets.

Thanks for this. It is driving me nuts with all this crazy pronoun stuff. How did we get to the place where we have lost the ability to think?

Five years ago the company I was at had a woke female contractor come on board. She pushed to have pronoun's in our signature. I pushed back but was told to put something there. So I put (CDR/Sir) as my pronouns. It pissed her off, but my leadership thought it was funny and I was allowed to not put my "pronouns" in my signature and others followed suit. Five years later I would lose my job. Just crazy.

Melissa, I work as a receptionist in a counselling office. Several of our clients are on the trans path. So far I've managed to just call them by their first names, instead of pronouns. That's a bit problematic as well because "Mary" isn't really "John." But what do we do when we are at work and have no choice? There are days I dream of quitting but I know this nonsense has permeated most places of employment. One other thing I noticed, and which a few others speakers have noted, is that many of the females that think they are male are autistic and often obese. Could it be that they already don't fit in so being trans is an attempt to do that?

Only when I'm alone in the carpool lane do I refer to myself as "we." In all seriousness, I will use their name and not use "preferred pronouns." If they ask me why, I tell the truth as respectfully as I can.

I find it humorous that any time today we talk about anything....we have to set the stage by letting everyone know we are not "Racist" "Homophobe" etc...then we state our position.

As someone who was DEEPLY anti religion for most of my adult life, this very quickly smelled like religion to me. If your don’t follow their prescribed “rules” they go all Pharisee on you, declare you a sinner and want you to pay a heavy price for your “sin” against them (being little gods) via cancel culture. When I was a small child (who attended church twice on sundays) if we didn’t memorize a verse and we’re called upon by the Sunday school teacher to say that verse, we were punished by having to stand against a wall with our nose touching it for the rest of class. This feels VERY similar to me. (Don’t worry, I’ve met Christ Jesus since and given my life to Him :)). Don’t be fooled, this is a man made religion complete with a rule book, definitions of “sin” and “hell” and ugly angry Pharisees walking around everywhere to get/force/redirect/bully everybody to follow the “rules”. This religion has taken over our govt here in Canada as there is now a 25,000 fine for misgendering someone. Yep, no divide between this “church” and state.

I am one of those parents. I refuse to use anything other than the name I gave and pronouns God gave. I will not budge on it at all. I won't reject my child, but I won't affirm her seriously awful choices either. And BTW, pretending that this whole situation only has one group of victims (the alphabet soup crew) is by far the most harmful lie. This and another situation in my immediate family has devastated us, but societally, we aren't allowed to be devastated - in fact we are evil for being so. How twisted is that?

"Pronouns are the little bow." Wow, so well said. Thank you Melissa!

My advice to deal with this on the job is to stray from using pronouns and strictly use the name…. It’s going to sound ridiculous at times but it is a way to respect my beliefs and work guidelines.

I am one of those parents that has a child who “identifies as non-binary”. It is BRUTAL! She wants us to use her preferred pronouns which are “they/them”, and she wants to be called “Wren” instead of the name that she was given at birth which is Sara. I’m struggling with all of this so badly! She’s my child, and I want her to feel safe with me and that I am her safe place when she needs her mother, but I just cannot give into this either. I tried. I did try to do it, but it is just so unnatural and untrue. She told me that she wants me to see a counselor/therapist to help me through this so that I can basically figure out how to get on board with this whole thing.

I will use Ben Shapiro's comment, which I use often in discussions regarding the subject of pronouns, "Facts don't care about your feelings." Period. Affirming the absurdity that has invaded our society is only perpetuating the lie. And who is the master of lies? Great video, thank you and God bless!

Not just that, but how do you communicate with people who can set their own parts of language at will? Suppose you are speaking to a group of a dozen people, how do you remember each person's chosen pronouns? It's a ludicrous situation created by people demanding special attention and control of others and shouldn't be tolerated. Language is a tool for effective communication not a cudgel for social control.

This is the most brilliant and succinct argument I’ve heard for not using “preferred pronouns”! A lie no matter how longed for, will never create truth. Thank you, no matter the original source.

Any time I am asked about my pronouns (which rarely happens, 'cause I don't much like people, and am therefore not prone to talk with them) I say "If you're speaking to me directly, and don't want to call me by name, I prefer you to use 'you.' If you are taling about me behind my back, I really could not care any less, so anything will work."

Exellent points. Our culture is so hypocritical. I am obviously way beyond the age of legal for booze but the cashier was being funny and asked it I was over 18. I was buying WD40 because she informed me that she has to ask. So how come a teen under the age of 18 cannot buy that product but can buy the services of a surgeon to alter them sexually. Society is a muck.

Taking on pronouns is the baptism into this new religion. My baptism in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost is all I need, thank you.

Things I've commented before: 1. I speak English. Pronouns are not yours or mine; they belong to the language. 2. If you are apparently a male, I will refer to you by your name or he or him or his, etc. 3. If you are apparently a female, I will refer to you by your name or she or her or hers, etc. 4. If the person referred to is abstract, meaning singular but sex unknown, I may use s/he, him/her, or (as often for an unborn child) it. 5. If the person or persons referred to are indeterminate in number, I may use they, them, or those, etc. 6. You may go by any name you intend consistently to be known. That is what the law recognizes. Also, people have names among them not universally sex-specific, e.g. Lynn, Dale, Aubrey, Adrian, Casey. I know a woman who goes by Sam and worked with a man named Su, and in neither case was there any "trans" intent. Sometimes people have surnames like Nancy or Anna or William or John. So if I know you are a guy who goes by Wilma or a girl who goes by Milton, I'll likely call you that. I have no obligation to affirm anyone's fantasies, and may well have an obligation not to.

Spot on! I will not affirm what is clearly untrue. If an adult person wants to deny reality, it's not my business, but I will not play along. People who are intensively pronoun sensitive insist that we all use their pronouns because they want to train us to be compliant in little things so we learn to be compliant in big things.

I identify as a "New Creature" My pronouns are "Who-Soever"

Those are great points! I agree 100%. I’ll NEVER use neo-pronouns. I can’t even remember names much less pronouns. What to do when someone asks us to use sex mismatched pronouns. Pronoun Refresher: 1st person: I, me, mine, we, us 2nd: you, yours, y’all, “you guys” 3rd: he, she, they, them, it. Being asked to use alt 3rd person pronouns is being asked to lie based on someone else’s identity. Being asked to use a specific set of pronouns is being asked to engage in reputation building on their behalf. This is the case since you don’t use a persons 3rd person pronouns when speaking with them directly. You’re not being asked to lie to them, but you’re being asked to lie for them and about them to others. So by being asked to support that person’s image of themself to the world is being asked to engage in collusion with that person.

Sorry I won’t lie to people and call names or pronouns that don’t belong to them. If I get canceled so be it.

It worries me that we have to go into deep philosophy to explain what used to be just good sense that nobody needed explained.

My daughter has 2 children who have declared they are the opposite sex. She is broken. It's so hard. I pray for all of them. It's not something out there. It's hot my home dead in the heart.

My daughter is trapped in this lie. She stopped talking to me years ago because I wont agree with her choices. Its extreamely heartbreaking to me but I just cant. I pray Gods mercy on her. She once professed Christ but in collage she got bambuzzled.

When you speak another language other than English where most words are gender specific the whole 'pronouns' ideology flies right out the window. Take the German pronoun for she/her. Is: 'sie'. Sie also means, 'you', 'they', 'them', and even, 'it' depending on how you use it in a sentence. And most romance languages the pronouns are designated to a gender specific noun, adjective, adverb or verb. Only in America does this garbage come out! There are more important things in this world to fret about! 😢

Excellent and simple to understand explanations, Melissa. It might've been Matt Walsh who also said, a few months back, that if someone was anorexic because they were under the delusion that they were really fat, would you ever agree to refer to them as fat? No. It's harming, not helping.

It's the same as lying.

I think we all have to know who WE are and stay true to that regardless of what society wants. I will not play along with somebody that I don’t know that has a delusion about themselves. It’s not helping their delusion to confirm it. Every situation has to be handled accordingly but the pronoun issue is nothing but slashing the English language. I won’t do it.

You can either look at the world as a popularity contest or a battleground - but not both.

I got saved a couple of years ago and you've helped me so much. Never stop teaching and please know that your walk has encouraged so many. I mean that. ❤

There’s 2 sisters at my church that are “asking to be called/ going by” culturally boys names. Their parents are choosing to meet them where they’re at and asking others to affirm it. It’s not a liberal, progressive driven setting at all. While it’s not pronouns, but I have mixed convictions about respecting the parents call. AND this is coming from someone who struggled gender dysphoria before I knew the word for it and before it was a social contagent.

We went to a mission trip designed for youth this summer and everyone gets split into small teams with people from other churches. A couple of our youth were asked their pronouns when they met their teams and the responses were “my pronouns are the ones God gave me” and “I’m normal”

My brother and my female cousin both think they’re the opposite sex. My cousin has had “top surgery.” They’re both on hormones. Our whole (supposedly) Christian conservative extended family completely supports their decisions and call them by their fake pronouns. The only people in our family who have made it clear we won’t be complicit in this lie are my husband and me. We have two very small children, and because we have respectfully told our family that we do not want our kids around these people, as we do not want to even introduce preschoolers/toddlers to this idea, a huge chunk of my family has now cut us out of their lives. My parents (who raised me in the church) have said the most hurtful, condescending, and disrespectful things to me because I want to protect my kids. They have even quoted scripture to me in defense of my brother and cousin’s decisions (I believe the only reason they still talk to us is because our children are their only grandkids). We’ve told them that if our kids were teenagers, it would be a different story because we could talk to them about it, or if we didn’t have kids we would have no issue being around them (although we would still not use their “preferred pronouns”). There is still zero understanding from my family that we are doing this simply to protect our children. What amazes my husband and me the most is that the adults in our family are prioritizing their hurt feelings over the wellbeing of our kids. I have been through some major tribulations in my life, but this is by far the saddest and most heartbreaking. It’s kept me up at night, and I’ve shed countless tears over it. My family used to be as close as can be, and the enemy has infiltrated somehow and is tearing us apart.

You’re right! If we start agreeing with so-called ‘little lies’, what’s the next thing we’re asked to compromise? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Sometimes I wasn't happy in my body. I wanted to be taller. I didn't want to be balding. Etc. But I couldn't just say I was something I wasn't. Accept yourself

Being a huge fan of Rosaria Butterfield, one of the most important comments she made on Becket Cook’s show, was that she repented from using “preferred pronouns”! Yep, repent my friends, and “Dare to be a Daniel”🙏❤️✝️🙏✝️

I will not bear false witness or speak idle words. Lying to my neighbor, even if that lie makes them feel “affirmed” is not loving.

I had a discussion with my daughter who is entering her freshman year in college the other day. She does not have gender confusion. She does wear her hair short (a topic for a different day) and has been called sir, so she said that she has no problem giving her pronouns as she/her because she wants to be clearly identified by others as female. I said I will not even provide pronouns when asked. I explained that when you play the game and provide pronouns, even pronouns that are correct, you are acknowledging that claiming other pronouns is legitimate. I think when I put it that way, she began to see things differently.

On my instagram bio, I have the satirical "preferred pronouns" of "Majesty", "Lord", "Highness". After all, if the left says we can choose our identities, then they should call me by those. 😂😂😂

I was trying desperately to find a good (sane) therapist for my daughter who has struggled with gender issues. I thought I found someone who even claimed to incorporate Christian values into her sessions. After my daughter’s first session I had a short chat at the end with the therapist where she referred to my child as “they”. I am so thankful that God let her slip up!! I knew in that moment she was NOT the right person to help. When she called and asked why we didn’t return I told her with as much poise as I could muster that “they” is not neutral or “meeting a person where they are”. Let’s just say this therapist was astonished that someone had the gall to oppose this crazy ideology. Bruh!! Thank you JESUS!!!

You’re right on target with this issue! If your child or someone you love thinks they’re the opposite sex of what they really are, they need some help, but not cross-sex hormones and surgery. That kind of thinking is more indicative of a mental illness and should be treated as such. It would be like talking to someone who suffers from anorexia and they say “I’m fat” even though they’re down to skin and bones. You wouldn’t say, “I agree. You are fat. Let’s put you on a stricter diet.” That could kill them! You would get them some help for their mind. Clearly it’s their thinking that is the problem; not their body. So why does the health care system push for gender surgery and hormones? One word: money! There’s a lot more money to be made in gender change surgery than medicine or therapy for mental health! God bless you, Melissa! Thank you for the work you do! I love watching your videos! You’re doing the Lord’s work, Sister!

The worst part of this is that it’s almost entirely irrelevant to the person making demands but it forces everyone going along with their crap to become either an enforcer, making demands of you and implicitly threatening to report you to HR if you are at work, or a snitch, going out of their way to hurt the person they imagine they’re helping by upsetting them that people aren’t going along with their demands. This is leaving aside the fact that the person I know who does this literally said “address me with my preferred pronouns,” apparently oblivious to the fact that one cannot address a subject in third person without being REALLY REALLY RUDE. “Oh, look at them, they think they’re people!”

Witnessing to a transgender…”I’ll use your pronouns if you’ll listen to what I’m about to say.” If the hearer agrees, then I’ll give the gospel and reasons why I believe it’s wrong to have pronouns. However they respond, I will then say, “I used your pronouns, but I will never do so in the future.” I actually haven’t done this yet, because I haven’t talked with a transgender, but I hope to do so when it comes up. - Dave

I agree with you Melissa! It's like when "they" mandate wearing masks again we should say "I identify as healthy and unaffected by your rules"!

My daughter no longer speaks to me, or accepts a text, and has deleted me off of all her social media. I cannot affirm my wonderful made by God granddaughter as a boy. I have cried, and gone to the anger. I have come to the acceptance that this will not end for many years. I keep her and my grandchildren in my prayers.

When they change their minds back again to embrace their natural identity they will feel betrayed by all who played along. They will never be able to trust those around them to tell them the truth. 😢

As a public speaker & subject matter expert on the history of money I never connected those Roman / Christian dots. I'm such a "guy". Absolutely beautifully brilliant. Thank you Your brother in Christ ❤

I understand how hard it can be to speak up, but our small everyday actions add up to so much more than what we consider our biggest life moments. Matt. 12 : 36-37 "But I tell you that men will give an account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned."

This is an excellent response, Melissa. It's "just a pinch or a bow for now," but what practice are we being prepared to bow to later? This is just one of Satan's many insidious traps. God bless you in your ministry!

Definitely agree with everything you said!! I think the example of the early believers is powerful. It reminds me of something one of my favorite bible speakers said in a podcast, that this sexual ideology is their religion. So if we affirm any of it, we are essentially affirming another faith, and another Lord besides Jesus. We have to stand strong on this issue and just respectfully explain why we choose not to partake. This is out of true love for these folks. May the Lord give us strength. God bless you and your family, Melissa! ☺️🙏🏽

A few years ago, the YMCA hired a lifeguard who was trans. I had many conversations with him. I told him that I would never honor his preferred pronouns because that would be affirming that this man was a mistake made by God. This man would tear up and THANK me. I cared for this person, but I did end up leaving the YMCA because they are heavily pushing this agenda and celebrating it all in Jesus' Name. Affirming someone's self destruction isn't love and compassion.

Pronouns are used to refer to a person (who is not present usually). It is very presumptuous if these confused people to attempt to police my utterances, especially when I'm talking about them with someone else. And thank you for reminding us that this is like putting a pinch of incense in the pot.

Pronouns (other than "you," "I," and "me") are basically only used when the person being referred to is not present. Therefore, the whole pronoun kerfuffle is not about being polite to someone's face; it's about trying to control others' speech when the person in question is not even around.

Abraham Lincoln is purported to have said we can call a dog's tail a leg but the dog will not then have five legs.

The first step in finding serenity is accepting the things you cannot change. Using preferred pronouns goes directly against this and actually hurts the person you’re talking to. Not to mention that it goes against grammar rules to refer to a single person as “they.”

I lived a life where I always support people regardless of their decision because I thought that I shouldn't be judgemental. I was wrong. I was too comfortable with compromising the truth with lie just to be around the people that I cherish. Recently, I realized that God was there for me first. And he always stays on me. And I am honestly regretting my decisions because they had a lot of impact with my frienships. I left almost all of them and just decided to just focus on God. I truly regret that I didn't even get to know him, that I didn't even realize that he knows what my heart truly desire, and he also knew how chicken I am, who could easily exchange his truth for a lie.

As I watched this, I felt the Lord give me several answers. I knew before all of this that I am not the Judge of man. We are called to truth, no matter how hard the truth will be. That being said, a new answer was whispered in my heart, "Please, I will respect that you have a different religion than me, but I must respect that I follow the teachings of Jesus through the Bible. Would you have me tell a Muslim, or Hindi or any other religion not to follow their faith, please do not ask me not to follow my faith of the living words of the Christian Bible, I am not judging, for I have NO Authority to Judge, but I do have the responsibility to follow my faith and their teachings"

I will not surrender MY preferred pronouns for the sake of someone else's. If I prefer to call someone "he" or "she," their preference does not trump mine.

I do agree. It is terribly hard though. My sisters kids (she has 4) well 3 of them are using different pronouns and unfortunately she 100% supports them... she got incredibly angry at me to the point of tears when I told her I would not use the new pronouns. It's very sad for me because this has really strained our relationship and has made things awkward. I'm thankful she still talks to me and wants a relationship with me but I fear that may end at some point. It's very sad. Please pray for her and her children if you read this, I'd really appreciate it. ❤

Definitely agree. My problem hasn't been taking a stand; as much as showing kindness when doing so. Thank you and we'll said.

Within the spectrum of conflict management. There are 5 options. Avoid, accommodate, collaborate, compromise and demand one's way. The Christian response is typically to collaborate or accommodate. (those 2 are on the spectrum of holding the other person in high esteem). I can collaborate in the ministry of reconciliation, for as long as the other party allows. When they shut down the collaboration.... accommodate is my (humble) choice. So they know, the door is still open; for later, if they so desire to collaborate once again. Disclaimer: I am not pretending it is easy. Honest situational awareness, requires us to learn more about conflict management.

Thanks Melissa, So true great analysis. So sad to affirm a lie in any way.

Your explanation on this helped me to understand what I’ve been feeling toward using someone’s preferred pronouns. The Holy Spirit has been convicting me on that and even went so far as to lead me out of my job at Starbucks and place me in a job where we don’t put up with the lefts agendas. I haven’t used someone’s preferred pronouns since I left over a year ago. It’s not hard to avoid it, so long as you’re not a people pleaser. God is still helping me with that, it’s been quite the journey.

Non-religious, but I think I share your understanding anyway. There is no compassion in facilitating anyone's desire to lie about their sex.

Good points. And to your audience, in WoF or NAR circles, I’ve watched people die from others “affirming” their confidence in their health… excellent example.

It’s compelled for us to lie in order to get along. It sets a dangerous precedent and if you want it to end you have to go against the culture.

The only way to address people and how it should be done if anybody has any manners at all these days is by Mr. and Mrs. and Miss or Ms. their last name. How come that isn't done anymore. I personally don't like being called by my first name I want to be called Mrs and my last name.

This is helpful especially when it's a close family member. I remember recently watching Ray comfort refer to a man by his preferred pronouns and name during the time he shared the Gospel, and when he say that man recognize the truth he loving asked him for his name. I remember thinking that this was wrong and what is mr. Comfort doing? But in the end the man himself allowed Mr. Comfort to call him by his real name. Pray for Carlos 🙏🏽

"This is an odd time to be alive." Understatement of the century! 😅

I feel like giving more than a pinch of salt when there is a pledge of allegiance to a flag and a nation instead of our full allegiance being to Christ. I often get around this because the phrase "under God" is there, and I imagine I am saying that my allegiance to any flag or nation is under my allegiance to Christ and God. If they ever were to take out the phrase "under God", it would exempt me from saying the pledge of allegiance to the flag as currently written.

I agree with your points, Melissa, and would submit a slightly different frame by which to view it: as an issue of authority. "Respecting" pronouns contrary to actual sex is acknowledging that the authority for determining truth is personal, rather than universally and specifically God's. Truth is that there is but one truth, and it is His; the world, in this instance through "preferred" (demanded!) pronouns, dictates we bow to the false idol of multiple truths, of your truth, my truth, his truth, unico's truth. And when they are multiple, then the one real One is thereby dethroned. I will not submit to that.

When I am asked about my pronouns I respond "my adjectives are fed-up, sick and tired".

I really do get frustrated that 90% of all Christians need to give an LGBTQ “disclaimer” prior to discussing this particular sinful activity…

I totally agree! It might be small but when will it end then. At work a minor applied for a job. Her mother in the interview kept using the word “they” I assumed a sibling was also applying for a job since they is plural. The mother corrected me and said her daughter does not identify as he or she but as “they”. I was baffled and so I politely said I was taught in school that “they” was plural not singular.

Thank you for this message. I have a niece who thinks she’s a man. I tried at one time to explain my views in a loving way but by using the truth and it was a disaster. The whole family was torn apart and was frustrated with me. It was so awful. I have now backed off and just pretty much acted like everything is ok. But it is tormenting my mind. I’m afraid to go there again. I don’t know what to do. The family is getting along just like before all this and I don’t even see my niece much anymore because she’s gone to college but I pray for her and her parents. This is so hard. The guilt is constant. 😢

Wow, I'm shaking. I know I can't use preferred pronouns anymore for my friends, but it's just so hard. I know what I must do, and I know the consequences will be rough, but it is for Christ. I must do it, but my flesh really don't want to.

"Fires will be kindled to testify that 2 and 2 makes 4. Swords will be drawn to prove leaves are green in summer" - Chesterton. Great Video!

I agree with your argument. Lying to people about their true identity is not a loving act. Lying and then bowing to that idol has ramifications for me, not for the person wanting me to accept an illusion. By the way, one of the surprising places I found this pronoun and gender-identity affirming problem is on medical forms. Some have male, female, non-binary, and other. Not sure what the "other" is. Saying we identify as other than our biological sex could lead to death, and a lawsuit for that medical establishment. Depending on your actual biological sex, you can't take certain medications. You also won't have certain ailments. I'm thinking that everyone, regardless of how they identify, wants to live a long life.