I don't believe in acting beta or alpha. I believe in being yourself. Now after that. There are definitely some dudes that are better at being genuine and others that are not. Which in turn leads to this alpha and beta category. Some guys try incredible too hard at impressing a girl. Be it money or constant compliments or gifts. Which 99% of girls detest after a short period.

Can we all just admit some of us have been at one point in life obsessed towards someone before we learn to love ourselves?

I dont want to worry about relationships, but my brain doesnt stop worrying about it at random times.

The saddest thing about Mordecai in particular is that when he dials it back a bit, he can be actually pretty charming and genuine. It’s shown when he first meets CJ. He becomes so relaxed around her he just starts acting organic, and that is what draws her to him. As Jake The Dog once said, “You’re getting hung up on imaginary problems. You gotta focus on what’s real.” That’s Mordecai. Too in his own head to just let the moment flow and be himself.

Honestly it's not the feeling of being single that kills me, it's the idea that there's something about me that's so awful that it prevents others from loving me the way they do each other.

I like the episode where Mordecai thought some guy proposed to Margaret and was super depressed, and Benson called him out, saying he had no right to feel like that since he never had the nerve to tell her how he felt about her. Although it turns out the guy was her cousin, and he was showing her his new prosthetic leg.

Nah king kong is king of simping, he fought dinosaurs, airplanes and literally died for a girl who wanted nothing to do with him besides to get away from him

This video actually helped me. Currently in a relationship where my girlfriend doesn’t love me back. I’m glad I’ve seen this video. I need to realize I don’t need to seek validation from this girl anymore. There are so many more who probably actually care about me. Thank you for this video, albeit it wasn’t really what I expected

Relationships should be a positive addition to your life, not the center of your existence. If you can't operate alone, then you seriously need to find some real purpose for your life and make some meaningful goals for yourself. Chasing after a partner or even getting in a relationship isn't going to fix the emptiness caused by a lack of self purpose.

"Stop worrying about people that you know deep down, aren't even your type" Dude that shit hit hard

He really broke up with cj at a wedding in front of everyone.

I actually really like that he never got with Margaret or CJ at the end and just married some random woman we never really meet. It shows that he grew out of himself and gave himself time to meet the right person.

I like the message but I feel like whenever someone tells you to “love yourself” that’s super vague, like what does self love look like in practice and how do u achieve it, people who have always loved themselves don’t know how to explain it because they’ve always had it and people who claim to have learned over time to love themselves tend to also not know because it just sorta happened eventually like a paradigm shift

It is kinda sad that Mordecai and Finn the human are seen only as simps now. There IS more to their characters than that.

Moral of the story: don't let jealousy and negativity get in the way of your personal happiness. As a female, I'm glad to hear I don't have to change to get my crush's attention. I just wanna be at peace with myself, just the way I am.

I actually needed to hear that. I’ve been so worried about relationships, seeing other young couples my age, and I’m wondering when I’m going to find that someone, but now that I know it’s not that important now, I can stop worrying about it and focus on myself and what I’m looking to achieve in life.

When I was in high school I tried making moves on girls I liked but often turned out unsuccessful. I was disappointed sure, but I wasn’t too bothered because normally I’d often be hanging out with my friends and laughing our heads off together every day, and we were all single guys. We liked girls but dating wasn't much of a priority for any of us. The high school I went to was pretty small so prom date pickings were slim for me. For my Junior year I tried asking out a few girls, got rejected, and didn’t sweat not going. My Senior year I tried getting a date, failed multiple times, but decided to go anyway on my own for the sake of it. My Senior prom was one of the worst wastes of time and money I’ve ever spent in my life thus far. Everyone there was a pompous asshole and it was waaay too expensive for the prison-style cafeteria food they gave us for our dinners. A year later after I had graduated high school I went to college and surprisingly pickings were still slim for me. I couldn’t pick out any girls I wanted to go out with and the few that were attractive, had something about their character I didn’t want to date them. I met a girl in my first year of college who was mildly attractive but we were better off as friends. I didn’t worry about trying to be perfectly presentable for her, I was more laid back and I knew she wasn’t future wife material. I think she grew to like me as more-than-a-friend though because sometimes we’d walk together to our next class and she’d get real close to me. She’d smile and rest her head on my shoulder as we walked, and she’d rub up against me almost like a cat when a cat likes a person. She didn't normally wear that much makeup however one time she came to class wearing extra makeup and a blouse that was quite nice. I saw her smiling at me a few times which I didn't think much about at the time. I later complimented her on how she looked after class because she looked nice and that put a big grin on her face. Throughout college and my summers however I tried online dating for the first time. Online dating was the last place I wanted to look but given my options it was the only valid one I had. I’d look through who was available and get increasingly more pissed off about the types of girls I’d see on the market. It was like every girl I saw was a thot in search up a hookup, a gold digger, some disgusting weirdo, or simply someone I just wasn’t attracted too. I eventually reached that conclusion that you touched up on in your video as well. Instead of racking my brain trying to find somebody who wasn’t there, just forget dating for the time being. Don’t hold your breath, work on yourself until a day comes when you do meet someone. I figure by then I’ll be more desirable and put together for them. Currently I’m still single but from that point to now I’ve greatly improved at socializing with girls. It doesn’t have to be romantic, just learn how to socialize with the opposite sex better and figure out what personalities gel with your own. While girls do appreciate certain qualities in a guy, confidence I think being one of them, there isn't an exact copy & paste formula you need to follow to be successful in getting a girlfriend. Be yourself, improve who you already are where needed, and know who you match with when you meet them.

I don't believe in acting beta or alpha, I believe in going outside.

The most alpha thing anyone can do is live their life unapologetically genuine to themselves. Be who you are, embrace your insecurities and everything else will fall into place.

Great message. Learn to love and respect yourself before you love others. Build character and grow. Great message!

I've always been told my whole life, that love isn't something you search for it's something that finds you. When you search for it you feed yourself lies hoping maybe they'll be true, instead of just letting it come naturally and being happier for it.

People are mistaking simps with awkward crushes that young people are continuing to learn from. The end

Idk why people think Mordecai intentionally killed Rigby. Yes, he was angry and frustrated and yelled "I'll kill you!" then pushed Rigby when he and Rigby were riding on the microwave through time dimensions. Right after he pushed him, Rigby disintegrated. Mordecai was so in the moment that he didn't realize that pushing him off would instantly kill him. Just into not even seconds, Mordecai regretted his actions and was sorry for himself cuz he never wanted to kill Rigby.

Can we pretend like airplane in the night sky are like shooting stars

Just wanted to say that "just be yourself' can be VERY bad advice if someone is either not neurotypical, not succeeding in life in the typical way or is a genuinely shitty person in some major capacity. "Just be yourself" really just means "choose one of these preset socially accepted archetypes and stick to the associated behavioural patterns". What if you naturally say really awakward and weird things because you can't read subtext or body language? Society is extremely restrictive when it comes to how you should move and talk and dress and groom, but many people don't realize this because they learn to adapt these behaviours intuitively.

“so mordecai meets GOD.” not what i expected god to look like. i guess god wakes me up everyday

I like how Mordecai is better than Rigby at everything EXEPT talking to girls. Edit: I'm scarred to read the replies

This is the first advice that feels real for teenagers. Man, I love this. I’ve been faking my personality for two years now to “network” with people, but in the process I lost who I am. I feel like a dead man simply living, I prayed to God to help me when I was on the floor in pain from temptation. I felt angered, sad, and frustrated. It felt like I was being punished for trying to do the right thing, yet the temptations grow worse and worse.. but then God showed me this channel. It has really helped me bro, you don’t know how many of us teenagers feel soulless every single day. Keep making videos man, I love you 💚💙💛

Probably the best self help video i've ever seen without claiming to be selfhelp. Thanks for the video

Mordecai is a great representation of what most people in the teen to young adult range are like, not simp, but more or less, confused.

I stopped caring about romantic relationships a long time ago. At this point, I actively avoid them because it just seems like a waste of time and money. I'll probably end up alone, but I've found I'm never lonely as long as I have friends and family.

This is exactly how I feel about people nowadays wanting to build relationships just for the sake of having one and I have always stayed true to the fact that you should put your self up front and work on your self before working on a relationship and I haven't even thought about a relationship ever since...

Couldn't agree more. Nothing worse than creating a persona only to finally get the girl you think you wanted, only to realize she doesn't know you and you never really had her at all.

Me who bottles up every emotion he’s ever felt: I’ve never felt so offended by something I one hundred percent agree with

“Take some time for yourself.” My dude, it’s been 8 years since my last relationship. At this point if I take more time for myself, I’d be a selfish person.

I loved CJ, man. Freaking Mordecai, he blew it.

Hands down the best advice I’ve ever received. I really needed to hear this.

Honestly I just go up to woman and asks her and if she says no I just say ok😂😂

I’m just myself. I don’t go out my way to be liked by anyone or chase anyone.

As a 21 y/o loner, this honestly felt so validating to watch. I always felt like there was something wrong with me as a person to not generate the same positive social outcomes that I see other people getting with each other. This made me realise that it's just the different people that exist in this world who are different, and that it takes time to meet the right people. Nice video 👍

Bro, this entire video felt like one big mic drop. A+

The word "simp" gets thrown around casually these days. The true simps are the ones who cant differentiate simping from giving out compliments, or really being happy for somebody. Ever notice that one person who'll randomly say "simp" after you compliment a beautiful girl, or guy. Being genuinely happy for somebody and simping are different, and the ones who cant tell those apart are the real simpletons.

My only problem with what was said is that you don't have to be 100% accepting of yourself before you seek out a relationship. I don't think anyone is 100% okay with themselves. Yes, your own health and acceptance comes first but you will never achieve perfection so don't let that rule when you choose to start a relationship. You'll never be entirely ready. At some point you have to go for it despite not feeling ready.

Finally someone who speaks me out of the soul this whole thing has gotten out of hand and is even turning into hate and blame for the other sex in many cases

seeing uncle grandpa as a new series shows me how much time has gone and how focusing on oneself should come first

Okay here's my prediction on what this video is going to say: " When it comes to love, things will not always work out the way you want it to. Sometimes love can be messy, brutal and you will end up hurting yourself as well as others. Mordecai is a prime example of that. He's young like all of us and he has high expectations as we all do. What's important is that we do not beat ourselves up about it and learn from our mistakes, unlike Mordecai who keeps repeating mistakes until when he matured later in the series and eventually got married."

Married here. From my own experience, totally agree on the importance of loving yourself first. If you can't love yourself first, how can you expect someone else to love you genuinely as well? My wife and I had to literally go to the opposite sides of the planet to meet each other, but hey, we found each other eventually. Don't get caught up so much in teen romances or super idealistic relationships. Go on dates, make friends, and find someone who really likes you for you. Changing yourself for the better is a good thing and can improve relationships, but changing yourself not because you want to and just to impress or "keep" a relationship you are afraid of losing is closer to "simping" in my opinion.

Crazy mann, its just remarkable how his content brings such great messages out of cartoons

Bro I needed this today. Thanks man

Mordicai is a lesson about growing up and not being a simp. I seriously felt each episode where mordicai obsesses over Margaret ends in a lesson about respect and boundaries

Mordecai is legit everybody at some point. Another reason why folks are mad at him: you were probably mad at YOURSELF after the fact.

Great video bro. Love it how you explain everything about simp, alpha, beta, red pill, blue pill, and other stuff because you choose the right words to describe oneself and be themselves. Thank you brother.

I really did need to hear this 💯

Being yourself is the most alpha thing you could ever do, love yourself for you, and you will find others that love you.

This is tough, especially in a culture that has always lived based on labels, competition, aggression, superficiality. When somebody steps away from the norm, they get eaten up: even if they're in the right

Yes! Totally agree with the ending. Self growth is the way to go

I can´t express with words how thankful I am with your video.

Me after 7 billion people reject me: why must you hurt me this way

It’s ok to be single in your 20’s people. It’s not like you’re supposed to be getting ready for marriage just take time to love and appreciate everything you are and everything you have

That was like a slap in the face for me. Thanks dude

This advice works not only for relationships and love, but also for general purpose. You gotta care for yourself first before wanting anything

This went from how an icon from childhood being a simp to being a video about loving yourself, not what I was looking for but what I needed.

Father time isn't God. He's just the physical embodiment of time. There are more powerful beings in the show like Anti Pops and Pops.

So fresh and so clean (clean!)

Being yourself works really well when your defining traits are charismatic, funny, and confident. Bonus points if you care less about a potential relationship than the other party. But if you're one of the unfortunate people that don't share these traits, have no fear, because there's a lot of people out there. All you have to do is just take a few months off from your life to scour the world, looking for someone who mistakes your awkwardness for charm, who is culturally compatible, who is within your age range, who speaks your language, figure out who will move where, and who cares about you more than you do for them so that they don't get in the way of your self love. It should be easy, I mean after all, if you have a lifestyle where meeting those 7 billion people in the world is an option rather than just sticking to your town, finding people that want to be around you shouldn't be too hard. Man, giving relationship advice is easy when I only suggest what sounds pleasant and lack the ability to empathize.

19 years old, still haven't had a relationship. Tried multiple times, never worked out, so just patiently waiting now

Actually, simp, as far as I've used it, refers to someone who spends a lot of their time, and money, running to the defense of random women. It's like a white knight taken to the extreme. For instance, many people consider guys who throw their money at Twtich Thots to be simps because the content usually isn't good. These guys are essentially just throwing their money at these women because they look beautiful. These guys will also, usually, break their backs trying to defend these women, no matter what they do. Beta is more of a term used to define someone who doesn't fit the typical archetype of masculinity. I'm fairly certain I would be considered a beta simply because I don't do relationships, but that doesn't make me a simp.

This made me think, this gave me the confidence I needed

Damn this was actually one of the most motivational things I have ever watched.

People often use the word “simp” just to troll or for memes/jokes.

From the "S" to the "I" to the "M" to the "P"

Words can not describe how much I needed this video in my life right now

4:34 damn guys do you remember those old days when there were only over 7 billion people on the planet...

How does this channel not have more than 100k subs yet?!

How to get a date with your crush: 1. Tell them "I like you. Let's go on a date!". 2. If they say yes, congratulations, you did what all people are too afraid to do. 3. If they say no, be aware that they can say "no" for one billion reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with you. Accept the result and move on. Yes, rejection sucks, but it better be an option, because you will eventually and inevitably face rejection whether you're ready for it or not.

bro this video is gold, ty for making it

Basically just be yourself and don't take things too seriously. Good advice.

The lie is that your born for someone and someone was born for you, truth is people die everyday without loving someone.

I have been called a simp before just because I have a celebrity crush.

i remember one day hearing "to love someone - love yourself first", but only now, when you explained it to me i get what that means. thank you.

I like the fact that you put up other KZfaq channels that might or might not go against to what you are stating. You aren't only making a point but using evidence to highlight which mistakes some might be making. Life can be rough sometimes but in tend to be our imagination rather than what truly is, and I learned this from your video about Ferb and stoicism. Great content mate.

It's so weird that this video got recommended to me in a period of confusion for me since I coincidentally went on a date with a girl a few days ago (and I don't do this very often, in fact I haven't been on a date for two years since I broke up with my last ex) and it was amazing, we both had fun and even made out, but she just vanished from my life afterwards, stopped replying to my messages and became colder and colder. This video at least gave me some hope so I can learn to focus on myself while she doesn't come back (if she'll ever do that) and just go with the flow, but I'm still very worried I did something wrong and didn't even realize.

In my opinion, it's unhealthy and kind of sociopathic to "unconditionally" love yourself. Everyone has flaws. Not just surface flaws, but deep, unpleasant pieces. I believe in coming to terms with, and accepting what you can't change about yourself, and doing what you can about your worst aspects.

Beautifully said

Self acceptance has been key to instigating a deep healing process within myself. This straight blew my mind. And I'm not one but ashamed it's taken me a good 41 years to arrive at this conclusion, because hot damn, here I am. 🤪 Appreciate this video bro, you're going places.

Is it just me or is any guy that shows any affection or interest in a specific woman immediately labeled as a simp nowadays?

I always thought a simp was an unhealthy obsession.

Thank you. Just yesterday I was thinking a lot about how I was being used by my crush and her friends for academic stuff since I'm basically just their free math tutor but I don't even receive the same treatment as I do to them. I was just scrolling through KZfaq to forget about it and found this video and its comments section. This really, really, really helped me evaluate my actions and I've come to realize that in order for others to treat me with respect, I need to do the same to myself. To you and all the people who commented on this video, thank you. I'll never forget about what I learned today.

Who knew talking about a character from a cartoon would make KZfaq want to put a Suicide Warning before making you watch the video.

People: be yourself and someone will like you Me: *being myself by always staying inside playing video games with a bunch of guys*

This is literally the best relationship advice hidden in a regular show video essay

I got an explicit content warning when the video was auto playing from my feed... and another when I started the video, followed by the suicide prevention phone number being listed front and center. I haven't even watched this yet, and now I'm more intrigued than before on what this video will be Edit: oh, okay. That makes sense now.

Totally love the jazzy take on So Fresh, So Clean yo!

The difficult part about taking on this, self centered act is that so many people who are selfless will have to learn to be selfish. Putting time and emotions into someone is often easier than putting up with ourselves. I wish I could just know how to love and better myself. I really am doing it alone. Interesting video.

Dude outta all the dating and pick up gurus I used to watch back in hs, you give the best and most genuine advice. Literally this is the only video I need. Plus, speaking of expressing yourself, I learned the throughout my teen years that asking out a girl is more of a take-it-or-leave-it type senario than what I thought it was and that's what my mindset should be since I'm expressing my feelings, and if they say no you can always just manifest them back.

Wow! Thanks for the message.

Your take on this is absolutely BASED.

There is nothing more alpha than fully embracing who you are after all and not being afraid to explore new boundaries

"Treat her like a queen, and be left on seen" - bible of misogyny

Brother I needed this....much love bro......