Which words do you need to stop using?

“Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits, they become character. Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” - Lao Tzu

Victims are those who’ve died. If you’re alive today, you’re a victor. Live like it.

My father used to say I’m broke a lot when I asked him for things when I was a kid. Subconsciously I knew these are words I would never use as an adult. Words are power! Speak strength into your life!

My grandfather always said “Tiredness doesn’t exist - laziness does”. I kept it with me all my life.

Pat I feel like you’re describing me. For 8 years I was 340 pounds a alcoholic coke head who lost everything. My family my Job and myself. Then one day I hit rock and bottom and joined a gym. I lost 100 pounds in 5 months got clean and sober and got my family back and started a business. I’m in 5 in half years clean sober healthy and happy now.

I'm glad you spoke to your child and let him know what you actually meant a lot of children fail because the parents put them down by using the most toxic words and fail to recognize how much harm they are actually doing to the future generations

This man understood the power of words early on. He realised how much words can affect us even if we ourselves don't believe it. He has managed to live his life by keeping his mind clear of negativity by not letting certain words get into his head and therefore letting his mind stay clear of relating to these negative words. I should stop thinking I'm a disappointment. The word disappointing is something I should keep out of my life. Sir, I thank you for your wisdom

I'm 49 years old and I wish my father was half as caring as you. Your chat with your son was so deep and meaningful. He is blessed to have you as his father.

This video might have just boosted my energy levels for life.

"I am not a victim. I don't buy that." Strong words for the majority of the US today.

I’ve been hearing constantly men are cheaters and that I shouldn’t get married. Then I realised I was turning away wonderful men, because I was listening to and repeating these heartbreaking stories. We must use our words and thoughts for positivity 💕

The fact that he spoke about the mistake he committed while referring to "kids being annoying sometimes" reveals how honest he is to admit his mistake in public and how he rectified himself. Salut Patrick

This man is incredible, he passes on great knowledge and sincere presentation.

I felt like Patrick was talking to me as a Son. Thank you Patrick.

Working with children as an art instructor taught me the value of words. After a few years of experience in capturing their attention and focus, I found a constructive way to promote positivity with enforcing the omission of the words ‘hate’ and ‘can’t’. This was a powerful transformation in the kids productivity and general tone of the whole class setting. Thank you for this great content sir!

One of the most powerful videos I’ve seen for the fact that words have so much power and what you did with your son was absolutely brilliant. As I watched that I was thinking how powerful it would be for my dad to say that to me. Thanks for sharing this :)

This is 100% “the secret” that nobody ever talks about.

God this made me cry. His kids are so blessed. This man is such an amazing dad. Happy Fathers day Pat!

Brother I don’t know how to thank you enough. Keep up the good content ❤

This is my favorite video on KZfaq. It was like listening to my own thoughts. Applying this wisdom can be a powerful catalyst to our lives!💪🏾💯

Wise words Patrick. Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Proverbs 18:21

"No, Daddy's in trouble." - Love it. Way to set a Godly example for your family.

I spoke about this to my teachers on Friday! Words have power. Strong and positive affirmations resonate in you and become you! Thank you!

You talking to your son is the conversation I didn’t realize I needed as a kid 😅 Two words I used to describe myself as a kid annoying burden. Now a 31 year old veteran here in those words for the first time out through your video

Pat, I've had 4 cancers stroke and other illnesses. It's all about perseverance and perspective! Love your stuff! Silver lining in everything if you look hard enough. Keep up the great work!

I'm glad I watched this today. I forget how impressionable a child's mind can be.

Pat since my dad passed 7 years ago, I’ve missed talks like this. Your words on words meant a lot to me. Needed to hear it.

Thank you for this. There is so much power and strength in your words and actions that represent masculinity. Yet, you are discerning, empathetic, and were able to take ownership over your actions to develop a stronger relationship with your family. We need more men like this. It is encouraging.

Yes, it's important to guard our spirit. We must be careful what we see, hear and the thoughts we entertain. Thanks, Patrick!

Dude I just came across this video and it hit me hard! Thank you!! I called my daughter immediately and talked to her about some things I said in front of her or to her when she was little, and I reassured her just how important she is to me and that I’m proud of her.. all that good stuff. I’m a believer in this myself, words really do affect our lives.

When I was in my early 20's I used to mutter "it must be nice" when I seen someone better off than me. I was a bitter person, hated everything in the world, a hot head. Then one day after thinking to myself I realized its not fair for me to judge those who seemed to be well off and had it easy or had all the nice things, I don't know what they went through to have those things or be in those positions. That was the 1st time I was truly free and slowly started getting building my self up. I slipped backwards a few times but I always took two steps more than I lost. To this day nearly 15 years latter I still don't say the phrase. I'm over all happy, have a family and not too bad finically. It is nice.

I love this video! I will never say the T word again. I don’t like when people say I can never do or be like that, I tell them you won’t, you just confirmed it. I will never say never do anything in my life. It leaves me open for all possibilities! Thanks again! You’re awesome.

Patrick , this really got me. Growing up my mom has a negative impression of the male species. She would say unkind words about my father which I tended to block out. Because exactly as you said about your father I didn’t want to hear it and wanted to treat people as individuals. That thought process still serves me until today. I think I speak for everyone here when I say ,thank you for an insightful reminder that we are stronger than we think.🥰.

"How I feel is how my family is going to feel",this is very important. The energy of leader is attracted by the followers.

I’m 29 years old and I just learned this lesson not so long ago six months ago I was in a very dark place I didn’t even know who I was and my wife kept on telling me you need to change the way you think about yourself and what you say about yourself so that universe can feed you with positivity and boy my life has changed. I listened and I worked every day very hard to change my mindset. Thank God for my wife, and I thank God for life. This is very true props to you for sharing this through your platform.

Sir, you've become an inspiration for me today. I've been complacent of letting my mouth run wild for far too long. Self-depricating and being ungreatful to myself for the level of success that I've achieved. I've driven myself on a mindset of "impostor syndrome" as an excuse that something's just wrong with me, as if that is normal. Thank you for reminding me, that even God in the bible warns us of what words we speak with our tongues towards ourselves and to others. I feel like I can move on and start maturing this part of me. Thank you for this video!

“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.”

"The tongue has no bones, but is strong enough to break a heart. So be careful with your words." -Unknown

Mr. Bet David, I owe you a HUGE Thank you. I’ve watched several of your videos and have the your book. Your content is so applicable for making wealth and maintaining it as well as everyday living advice for personal growth. Thank you for the mentioning sir, you have made and continue to make a difference.

This is crazy. Just the other day I realized I never say that I’m Tired, Exhausted, Burned Out, Drained…I workout all the time, still go to work, take care of the family, sleep very little hours, do it all again because I love moving…but although I feel like those words, I never say them. Now for me, the reason I never say them out loud is because once it escapes my mouth, I have them told the world what I feel, and therefore must act on that. But if I never share that, the world still thinks I got energy. And damn it. I do. I do still have energy. And words I use all the time are words like Fired Up, Pumped, Energized, Amped, etc. I always use words that empower me, rather than help me “settle for less”. So after watching this, I’m going to focus on it more, make a list, and find some new words to take away and replace. 🤙🏼

Unbelievable self awareness, your son is lucky to have you as a father.

"I'm being protective of my spirit". Thats the best thing I have EVER HEARD YOU SAY!!!

My son was born Jan 17 2012. 6 week premature, and 2 weeks in NICU. Your relationship with your son and me and my son are very close. I admit my mistakes to him. I hate when I let my tongue slip. However I can’t let my pride get in the way of my relationship with him. I strive to be a great example. So admitting I let anger in my speech I want him to see that I am not perfect and am responsible for my words. I also tell him that I love him every chance I get. Thank you for telling that story, makes us all feel human. As far as the rest of the video, priceless.

I love this video and I love the way you spoke to your kid that right there is so important and so powerful because it’s true. Words absolutely do linger and you have to be bold enough have those conversations and eliminate those words that linger & stain the spirit.

It's not often that I completely get drawn into a video and feel like the person is talking to me directly, but this was one of them. Thanks Pat, your content has been so inspirational!

i am energetic, enthusiastic, powerful, carismatic, respectful, smart, fast, strong, wise and unstopable repet 5 tmes a day, every day

I realize this is an old post but it is still very powerful today. I have 5 children and I agree that words are so very powerful! I remember to this day 40+ years ago something my dad said to me that always rubbed me the wrong way. I did something wrong- can’t even recall what it was- I said to my dad “I’m sorry, but you’re not perfect either” his response was “I’m damn close”. Through the years I’ve realized that none of us are damn close. We all fall short and should humble ourselves when appropriate. Bless you Patrick for recognizing the importance of noticing when we say something wrong and being the strong man you are to be a powerful role model to your son! Thank you for what you do . Matt Smith MD (Clermont, FL)

great vid, this is what we need more of passion in a world that has no feelings. I appreciate your ability to speak from the heart and resonate with people

This video made me cry being a grown up man! Especially the part with his son. I learn a lot from you Patrick. Stay blessed and keep motivating us to be on the right and positive path in life.

Patrick, thank you for this...your advice has HELPED SO MUCH! I lost my job due to the pandemic, but since then I’ve started a KZfaq channel on Personal Development and Investing...and is it GROWING!! Thanks again for the advice, and everyone else…NEVER GIVE UP!!!

Thank you for this. I grew up in a family who uses all kinds of words willy nilly. One day I put my foot down in my life and stopped accepting it and it was the best thing I ever did. Even if they treat me like I wronged them because of how I stand up for myself, I still I know I did the right thing.

Man, one of the best things that happened to me this year was to find this channel. I truly wish to have found it sooner.

This is so true. My dad used to call me a loser, good for nothing etc etc ... over and over again. At first I didn't accept that, but later I did (unfortunately begin to accept it) ... I let those words have power. It is unfortunate, but ultimately we have the power. WORDS ARE DEFINITELY POWERFUL.

“Watch your thoughts, for they will become actions. Watch your actions, for they'll become... habits. Watch your habits for they will forge your character. Watch your character, for it will make your destiny.” ― Margaret Thatcher

Such a powerful speech and advice! thank you! Finally, one of the influential people touched the topic of "power of words".

Words! It really was Words! And as true as it was said. And most people don't think about it. They feel it, everyone feels it, but they don't think about it as deeply as you explained it. So thanks for bringing it up @valuetainment, so that others can pay attention to it in itself. Because it is as you say, and it can absolutely change people's lives drastically for the better. So thank you!

Jim rohn. Said don’t let anyone dump crap in your mental factory. This is the greatest video of yours.

Omg my mom talked about being tired everyday growing up. This video speaks to my soul!!

Very powerful and touching video, here Patrick. I agree that certain words need to be used carefully while talking to others. You also need to keep a distance from certain conversations because it can affect you. People who talk like that think others also think in the same way. The one thing I never like to say to people I know is "I don't have time." or "I am busy." It just sort of gives the impression that I don't want to spend time with them.... even if that may or may not be the case, I just don't like to say it like that.

Thank you, that is so true. Helps us realize how powerful we really are. We should always be mindful of what we say for our words are like spells. Much appreciated!

This was surely powerful. I always thought not being able to tolerate such words was a problem only I had. Seeing a person like him saying he doesn't like to hear it brings me confidence to give a stop to it.

Pat - you are speaking timeless, biblical wisdom. In fact, most of what you say fits into this category. For example - Proverbs 18:4 “A person’s words can be life giving water; words of true wisdom are as refreshing as a bubbling brook” Proverbs 18:20 “Wise speech is rarer and more valuable than gold and rubies” Proverbs 18:20 “Words satisfy the souls as much as food satisfies the stomach; the right words on a person’s lips bring satisfaction” Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life is in the power of the tongue And those who love it, will enjoy its fruits” Mathew 12:37 “For by your words you will be justified And by your words, you will be condemned” Patrick - excellent and insightful as always.

This has greatly open my eyes so wide... Considering that everyweekend i felt tired, burn out, depressed and so on, adding to that a lack of social contact and i use that as justification to not do my task and because of that i procrastinate a lot and ended up wasting my day but after scrolling and come upon this video it made me awake... Thank you!

Thank you for this. I've been sober 2.5 years now and I have been feeling stuck. I've gotten to a certain level in my life, but I know I can do better, be better, be further along my journey in life. But I've been spinning my wheels in the f'n' mud for many months now. Staying awake at night wondering why. I've caught myself feeling sorry for myself and stopped it in time to avoid possible relapse. What you have said in this video has opened my eyes ears and mind to fix my stinking thinking problem. The weight of the words I choose to use. Makes a difference. Also have to not let people build houses in my head. Thank you for this. My eyes are open and my ears are tuned once again. Thanks for letting me share this. Hopefully someone else reads this and is going through the same bad place I'm in. And they will know they are not alone. I'm going to take this advice and use it.

Im 23 yrs old and starting my own business , i take all the hints from valuetainement every step of the way .more power to mr. Bet-David🔥

I’m so happy I found Patrick on KZfaq. I didn’t know of his existence 6 months ago. He’s such a winner, and i love his messages to the world. He’s a great influencer in a time when we need them.

I needed this. Thank you. May you be blessed.

Just wanna say, I apprecite these videos bro. 💪

I got really emotional when he was talking about his son. Very beautiful moment I got to witness

You are so right about the power of words. I hate when people say “I can’t…” My response is either “Can’t never could or you won’t be able to if you keep saying you can’t. “

Absolutely love and appreciate this to my core

Pat, teared up talking about your boy. Was thinking about my boy. Thank you for your sacrifice, hard work, and value.

Damn! It's just incredible the way you stare at the camera and say such influential words. "Everything in life is about language."

Very strong message. America needs more people like you.

What a great example of generosity, your values resonate in me, I wish I knew you personally

Yes yes yes. Patrick I'm using this video to get back into my flow state. Thank you for being a strong man and a leader amongst men. You truly are one of the great men of our times.

An incredible dad and son conversation. Thanks for sharing this to the world. I always wished I had a conversation with my dad. I suffered your sons 20 minutes suffering for the first 17 years of my life. I am waiting for my son or daughter, to come to this world to be the best father.

Exactly! early in life I talked to my kids about not being tired nor bored, you will never hear those words from them.

I love this, Never allow anyone to steal your positive energy with their negativity. walk away or tell them to shut up about it. AND it is okay to tell them they are wrong about whatever they are saying.

This is one of the most powerful, life-changing videos I've seen on the internet. I've always chosen to be positive in my life but this really adds some power and emotional "why" to it. The part about refusing to be a victim should be seen by a lot of people. Being a victim is a choice in how you react to life's events. Too many people in our society are walking around looking for reasons to be offended or feel victimized.

I went from being stuck on pain meds with nothing and owning my dealer and nowhere to live. To back on my feet, off pain medication, back in an apartment, 2 cars, a great job and now own my own house. Motivation and relentless dedication to bettering myself and my families life and being positive got me here. No excuse, it's on you. When you hit the bottom, as long as you're not dead, there's nowhere to go but up.

THIS IS THE BEST VIDEO THAT YOU HAVE EVER MADE, IN MY OPINION. I NEEDED TO HEAR EVERYTHING YOU JUST SAID.... YOUR INTERVIEWS ARE AMAZING BUT THIS PAT, REALLY HAD ME GLUED TO THE SCREEN..... AND FROM BROTHER TO BROTHER ( FORMER GREEN BERET ), I THANK YOU SIR!!

Jeez... I never knew how much I needed to hear this.

Yo I just listened and watched that video. Kudos to that guy in the vid. Thank you for hitting it straight home. You have gold content! I am digging all of it!

Words have the power to create or destroy, and should be used responsibly, because someone is always listening, even yourself, and embeds into your spirit or subconscious mind. You blessed and empowered my belief system. Thanks Patrick!

Love this message! I remember after a conversation with people I would always review what I said that made me feel weak and analyze why it did and MAKE sure I NEVER say it again. Words have power and I want to harness that power to empower me, not belittle me. I will be making that list, thank you!

Darn your good PBD real good! Thank you for your efforts to uplift us as you do!

This is the best video you’ve ever made - thank you, I appreciate you!

This is literally the best video i have seen, so much Value in less than 12 min. Thanks Pat

That's one of the first lessons I try to teach someone when it comes to changing their place in life. You must immediately and consistently stop the wrong words and phrases from being used when speaking to you and in your precense. You must

Maan, this video really changed the way I look at words. He was talking about people Influencing other people's thoughts and lifestyle using certain words. I don't know about others, but you sure Influenced me with your words kind sir. Lot of respect. I'm happy I came across this video and I watched it!

I wish I had a father like you Pat. You're a good father to your kids.

I feel your passion man. It touches my soul brotha.

Wow, thank you so much for this,.my husband has been telling me for years "words matter".,"words mean things so use the right words. " Through our separation I finally started to see what he meant in using the words that mattered the most to effectively express to him my faults and own the damage caused, those words deff mattered,.and now the words i say to myself, about myself ,.have dramatically changed and in doing so,.my actions feelings and thoughts have dramatically changed as well. ...full believer in this importance, thank you so much for sharing this with us.

Great message and touching. You are locked on brother. Big respect and love.

Patrick, once Again one of the most powerful videos ever, When ever I want to hear top quality content and not waste my time, I go to your channel first! God Bless you and your family.. Also please give a thank you to your great video producers who finish out your videos before they go live. Excellent work.

This is powerful. Thank you Pat. I'm going to start protecting my spirit and my family's spirit - now. I'm ditching some words!

Sir, this is the first time I ever looked someone in the eyes through a screen while carefully listening to them speaking since I first started using internet in the days of dialed connection. Thanks for sharing this message.

Great video! I salute ALL like-minded individuals who appreciates valuable testimonials.