Telling a young child that their behavior is “sinful” will do nothing to teach that child how to correct that behavior and it will only instill shame in them when they inevitably fail to do so. Children behave “sinfully” because they inherently lack impulse control, empathy, emotional regulation, rational reasoning, coping mechanisms etc. and it’s our job to teach them these things. The natural consequence of spilling a cup of water as you mentioned is not that water falls on the ground; it’s that you have to clean it up (as opposed to getting yelled at as many of us with harsh parents experienced). Gentle parenting is much more about the parents than the children as it’s the parents who have to exhibit self-control, manage triggers, heal their trauma and model “good behavior.”

I feel like there’s a time and place to let children know their behavior is sinful. Telling a toddler their behavior is sinful is expecting them to process emotions and act in a way that even adults can’t.

Permissive parenting is what this sounds like. Gentle parenting is authoritative parenting which has strong boundaries, but delivered with care and love.

I have an early education background, I have either been taking care of kids, in school learning about child development or in a school working with school age kids for the past 18 years. A big piece of authoritative parenting that people miss is the heavy focus and teaching to parents about their child’s brain development. For example, A toddlers brain is incapable of manipulation. Their brains simply cannot do it. If a toddler or young child is displaying/using manipulative tactics it’s because they were taught how to do that, usually by trial and error. For lying for example, that is actually a good sign of a healthy brain development. It’s still important to tell the child that lying is not okay but punishing them harshly for it is not developmentally appropriate and it won’t really do anything besides make them fear you, which can turn into trauma/an abusive situation very quickly. You have to know where your child’s brain is at in its development and then adjust your expectations of them to match and continue to keep track of what is developmentally appropriate for them and what is not. I’m not perfect of course. I am human, and flawed. Understanding brain development to know what is developmentally appropriate is the key here, and that’s what most parents don’t know and what leads to very permissive parenting. Some good points though. It was insightful and helpful and validating in a few areas for me.

I think you should do some research on permissive parenting because that’s exactly what it sounds like you’ve been doing. Gentle parenting is NOT letting your kids walk all over or letting them think it’s their way or no way. Gentle parenting is authoritative parenting. It’s validating your childrens feelings while also setting clear boundaries and teaching appropriate ways to deescalate difficult situations. Also, you can most definitely be a Christian and allow connection with the Lord while also gentle parenting. It seems like you believe it’s one or the other. I don’t understand your statement about how gentle parenting/your child knowing how to regulate their emotions won’t matter in the future if they don’t know Jesus.

A few things the Lord recently showed me in regards to gentle parenting as the movement it is today: Am I spending more time learning from popular IG accounts about parenting than I am from the word of God? Because once I sat down and found all the scripture on parenting, my eyes were opened to see how the Bible doesn’t *always* align with *most* gentle parenting methods. The biggest one- why does the WORLD love gentle parenting so much?? If this is a parenting style that the world endorses and teaches, I HAVE to step back and question if this is biblical parenting to the fullest. Maybe some tips and tools can be helpful from gentle parenting, but I want to be a parent that lives by the Bible and Gods ways for parenting, even when it might be hard or contradictory to what the world does.

I would love for this to turn into a series on biblical parenting and the real life application of it.

If you really break it down, the main differences between gentle parenting vs biblical parenting is that gentle parenting teaches your child is inherently good/good intentioned and you should parent based on that assumption, vs the Bible telling us that we are all sinful and driven by sinful impulses. This is a key difference that changes a lot of the gentle parenting approach if we want to do it in a biblical way.

I am still an advocate for gentle/conscious parenting, but I do have some parts of it that I take into my own discernment. I don't only teach okaying feelings, I tell them it's okay to feel xyz, but it is not okay to exhibit your feelings in this way. And I also don't completely hide my own feelings from my kids lest they think I am a robot or like their actions don't affect the people around them. I will tell them when I'm feeling mad or frustrated, I just make sure to not take it out on them. I don't want my kids to get lost in their feelings, but I also want them to be okay with feeling certain ways because I was definitely made to feel like I was never allowed to be upset or mad or disappointed about things growing up. God does want us to use the feelings He put inside of us, He just does not want us to take our feelings and use them as excuses or weapons on others.

I feel like something else that is so important that I feel gentle parenting lacks, is that sometimes making the right decision hurts. Like sometimes it hurts our feelings and doesn’t feel good. Just because it doesn’t feel good doesn’t mean it’s bad. That’s why it’s so important to know the difference between right and wrong.

The only danger here is not understanding what gentle parenting is. Gentle parenting is parenting with clear boundaries, you all think it's gentle speaking and not taking actions. You think it'd permissive parenting when it's not

Just because you permissive parented and called it “gentle parenting” doesn’t mean that’s what everyone does 🤯

I love your guys hearts for the Lord and how he is using you guys so much lately. I am a a Christian mama, wife myself and I am in the thick of it with an almost 3 year old son and a 9 month old daughter. Ever since you’ve been having God lead you more through your social media content I’ve been listening/following/watching even closer cause it’s been so beyond relevant to what I’ve been dealing with lately also.

Milena, I have watched you off and on for many years and this has made my heart so happy to see your growth! A couple of years ago watching your videos, I did notice your gentle parenting approach and I think it subconsciously made me pull away from your videos a bit. Partly because I have felt the same way about gentle parenting seeming so appealing on the surface, however feeling the conviction about its effectiveness for training them in the way they should go. I have seen a big shift in you as a whole and in your content and I am excited to catch up on a lot of your most recent videos/podcasts! Thank you for sharing truth and boldly discussing topics that can be touchy/controversial these days. Praise God!

I’m so happy to see you coming around to a balanced biblical approach! Perfect!

Good job! Happy to see the changes and growth in you both!

this was so encouraging to me. i never watch your podcasts (i just don’t love podcasts- nothing to do with you!) but i prayed last night for God to show me where i need to make a change in my parenting and then today i just randomly clicked on your podcast channel and this was the first video i saw. thank you for speaking on this! i pray that the Lord encourages you to continue to speak on these “spicy” subjects!

fellow biblical-gentle parenting mama here 👋🏼 + one thing I cling to is that that scripture tells us to first reprove, and then rebuke. the reproving is a gentle correction, and rebuking is a more stern response if the gentle correction isn’t effective. I also always teach my daughter (only two years!) that she has the power of making a decision to either obey her parents or she can choose disobedience, but an age appropriate consequence will follow (we do not spank), and I have found that this is the closest to scripture (because we choose to sin) and most impactful thing I have done thus far. she most always chooses to obey when I use Biblical terminology. 🫶🏼 using Biblical terminology + application to our lives has been a game changer.

THANK YOU. So glad you called this out. I’ve tried gentle parenting my strong-willed 5 year old the last few years and MAN did it back fire. The Lord has been urging me to step it up a notch and do it His way because we are doing her a major disservice the way things are going.

I appreciate you guys being open about your parenting, I'm a mom of two and I'm trying do parenting different than the previous generations before me. There's a lot of fear and anxiety instilled in my family and I don't want to raise codependent children. I'm trying to teach them it's okay to not be perfect and make mistakes while also teaching them to be compassionate and respect boundaries. It's not easy

From MY understanding, Authoritative Parenting is treating your child with respect & understanding their brain development/psychology. (My son is 2, I’ve used a form of ‘gentle parenting’ aka authoritative parenting since he was born.) I’ve had a mind shift change completely when parenting. I always remind myself, “he is 2, he is learning, etc.” so it allowed me to BREAK my own standards of expecting my kid to just listen. I started using phrases like, “okay, let’s skip to the bubble bath” “momma has to cook your pancakes” “we have to cut it before you eat” etc etc etc. I didn’t feel like any of that was permissive. It allows my child insight to like.. you can’t eat a frozen pancake it has to cook and really allowing him to see that.. he’s progressed in a VERY positive way. He now narrates what I’m doing to me.. which I think is a form of him trying to regulate himself in the moment with my support. There will always be an off day. Kids won’t listen at all. Parents won’t have patience. Parents may yell. Children may yell. We are ALL human. I think parenting just has A LOT to do with how well a parent can understand and regulate themselves FIRST, before their child.

I heard a quote I love that speaks to what you’re saying: gentle parenting is not always biblical, but biblical parenting is always gentle. ❤

This was really interesting! I was defensive at first because I love the concept of gentle parenting, but hearing how to parent your children Biblically first, and gently second has really shifted my view point.

really loved everything you guys had to say on this topic. didn’t completely dismiss gentle parenting but explained the positive aspects from a biblical pov! would looove to hear more from you guys on this topic!

I just appreciate how quickly you two got to it! great, honest topic.

I don’t think the word obeying really applies to gentle parenting. But gentle parenting is also not permissive parenting. I think it would be helpful to actually define the parenting style more clearly. I think this is really just an example of that milena and presumably Jordan have moved from one parenting style to another This is essentially a critique of the limitations of gentle parenting.

Love this conversation! Thank you for sharing. I came to the same conclusion and had the same convictions for our son a couple years ago (he’s now 7). Raising him according to the textbook gentle parenting method wasn’t teaching self control or obedience. As a society we tend to go to extremes rather than finding that balance. Would love for you to unpack this further!

I think following one parenting concept is going to be difficult cuz kids need range. They need discipline, order, and guidance that’s laced with gentleness, kindness and love.

Thank y’all for bringing this conversation to your platform. It needs to be had! I’ve had much conviction about gentle parenting and it just did not go well with our 3. It only enabled their sinful nature and we would see where they began to rationalize that their behavior wasn’t problematic. Kids are extremely smart and gauge our behavior towards them very well. To the point my kids wanted to negotiate rather than to obey. We can validate them and their emotions and seek to maintain a heart connection. But children feel most safe when they feel the adult in their life is “in control”. The same way we feel about our Heavenly Father. Parenting is such a huge topic that hardly content or books can span the nuances of it all. It’s a life lived experience. I appreciated the conversation

Thanks for sharing! My husband and I are going through the same type of refinement/season right now. I mostly did gentle parenting and now I'm learning more about how to biblically raise your children. We are reading a book together right now called sheperding a child's heart and its been very resourceful! Thanks for being vulnerable and willing to share this with us.

So encouraged by this! ❤️ Love learning alongside you guys!

Balance is everything! Love this episode 🤍

This has helped me so much guys! I really needed to hear this! I was suffering for so long wondering what was wrong and what was right…. Thank god you guys have opened my eyes. Can you do more of these videos about parenting.

Can you make this a series? I'm currently caring for 2 and 3 year old girls in Believing family and as a Believer myself it's important to me to figure out how to respond in those situations that require discipline. They're so impressionable and they deserve the best I have to offer so I want to learn the best I can.

Cannot wait for a deeper dive into all of these!!

Please understand what gentle parenting IS before you talk about it

I loved this episode so much! Praise God for His faithfulness in pruning your family to become more like Him 🫶🏼

I loved this video. Like you said, it’s finding the balance of the two parenting styles and finding the best of both methods. ❤😊

Absolutely loved this and am in such agreement about balance in parenting techniques. Also, side note, Milena, you look so beautiful like this. This is my favorite look of yours ever. Natural beauty just shining through.

Gentle parenting is not permissive parenting. It is authoritative parenting. Boundaries. Permissive parenting doesn't have boundaries. It seems there is a misunderstanding here. 🤔

I wish Milena wouldn’t interrupt Jordan so much and talk over him. Other than that you guys gave some good points. I always thought gentle parenting was dangerous and won’t ever incorporate it into our household

The happy medium parenting model, filtered through the Bible. Praise God that He placed it on your hearts to share. More of this please!

So happy I stumbled upon this. I have been struggling with some aspects of gentle parenting once of which being the lack of consequences bringing out the worst in my children. As a Christian I whole heartedly believe that a biblical perspective on parenting changes your parenting techniques. Instead of looking to the world for parenting advice we should look to the WORD you are completely correct. Thank you for sharing your prospective.

I love that you touched on getting down on the child’s level. I think that’s something my parents weren’t able to understand and probably didn’t even have the resources in order to do. I think it’s vital to understand where our children are at developmentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually. To gauge what they should understand and how to help them understand what they cannot. Deepening the lessons as they grow older. I think it helps to understand okay my child is 2. What are they going through at this age? What do they know and do not know?etc. Bringing yourself to step into their shoes and as the Bible would say, putting another before yourself. Seeing how they are viewing something can deescalate a temper tantrum, for example, because you are now able to understand why the temper tantrum is even happening and you can help them in the ways they need in that particular situation. I can see that if I had that growing up, how much more I would be able to handle and regulate my own emotions now.

I don't know much about biblical parenting because I'm not a parent yet, but I work with many young children and their parents as an educator. This is what I've gathered: many people try to be a gentle, authoritative parent but unfortunately end up becoming a permissive parent instead. Most parents have the best intentions when raising their kids but don't hold their boundaries firm enough. For example: I had a new child in my class today who refused to speak to me and expected me to baby him like his mother does. I asked him maybe twenty times if he wanted milk or water to drink for lunch. I gave him all of the prompts that he could answer in case he was confused, nervous, or needed help answering... still nothing. He was clearly testing me. (this child has no disabilities or language barrier). At a certain point I raised the stakes and held his lunch over the trash can, asking him if he wanted to eat his lunch... still nothing. He even looked to the other teacher to come "rescue" him... Long story short: I ended up tossing a child's Tupperware lunch container into the garbage can. (I took it out when he wasn't looking, so that he could eat it later. I'm not a monster LOL) It was a logical consequence for disrespecting the person who feeds him-- a lesson that he needed to learn. You bet your bottom he didn't disrespect me after that and answered when spoken to. If I had not held my ground, the child would have been rewarded for his disrespectful behavior. Kids are resilient. They're not stupid or fragile. It is our responsibility as caretakers to teach them how to behave, so that they don't grow up to become monsters. That requires discipline. There's really no way around it. A gentle parent gives opportunities to resolve an issue before delivering the consequence, then uses the consequence as a learning experience. A permissive parent gives in and rewards the disrespectful behavior. Permissive parenting is creating a bunch of little narcissists and I'm not here for it.

Love this perspective. I have felt this way too. I read a book a year or 2 ago called Risen Motherhood and it was SO helpful in parenting in a more biblical way amongst an age where everyone has an opinion/parenting method or advice.

Gentle parenting to me is helping my children through a difficult time without yelling-threatening-hitting-ignoring, getting through it/past it then teaching them or modeling ways to navigate feelings or anything that comes their way. For example yes I will address if my child screamed about not getting something they wanted that it’s obviously not ideal to have such an extreme reaction that will not help them or anyone else involved. I don’t see my kids as being something to dominate rather I see this time to teach and assist. My job is to help them grow into healthy capable adults. Again this is MY personal relationship with parenthood and how I’m raising my children, everyone finds what works for them!

I would love for y’all to go in more depth on this with different approaches of what it looks like to biblically gentle parent at different ages

This was such a good conversation. Can ya'll do a part 2?

Love everything about this! I love hearing specifically what Milena said after watching her past videos where her perspective was different

I’m not a parent or a Christian, so I can’t speak to that part of it, but I am a nanny and have been working with kids for over a decade. It seems like you are making a common mistake of confusing gentle parenting with permissive parenting. Gentle parenting should be authoritative and maintain the appropriate roles of care giver and child. There are a lot of negative consequences with permissive parenting for both child and parent, but you can maintain a respectful relationship with your child while also keeping boundaries and expecting directions to be followed.

Love that Linen Top Milena! So classic and elegant. Love your new style!❤

I'm currently listening to a similar themed video by servantsofgrace (just searched the topic up) which is amazing but wanted to come back and thank you. Was listening to this video just prior and the Lord used it to redirect me toward more biblical parenting and remember the heart toward God and sin. Super helpful for a 'new' mum of 2 under 2 who doesn't have many mummy friends at all. (Need to work on that 😅) God bless you! Will continue to listen to your other podcasts 💓

I went to my parents all throughout my life. It was simple because I trusted them, and I knew they loved me unconditionally. I won't say it was always easy, but I did. My parents were believers, we were loved, and disciplined. They weren't perfect. But one thing that was consistent was we knew we were loved no matter what, and knew we could trust them.

TOTALLY agree on finding that happy medium! Doing one extreme or the another in any aspect of life is never good. And most importantly keeping parenting biblical! And showing our kids love and Grace on top of discipline

Gentle parenting doesn’t equal permissive parenting. I think you may have confused that. It’s a huge misconception.

Thank y’all soooooo much for making this video 🫶🏼

Loved this! Sounds very similar to the parenting style we have been using. We recently did a course with a group of other young parents (hubby and I are 24 and we have a 2yo son and 4mo daughter), it’s called “Growing Kids God’s Way” and it was amazing! Would highly recommend to anyone wanting to do Biblical parenting. They constantly back up all their knowledge with scripture and encourage addressing the child’s heart to point them to Christ. 🤍

👏🏼THIS 👏🏼 RIGHT 👏🏼 HERE. I have been following your channel since before I had my 3 kids and have always loved your parenting style and looked to your channel for insight. Something was always off in my values with gentle parenting but I couldn’t pin point what it was until I read Parenting with Love & Logic. It was like a mixture of gentle parenting but with assertiveness and if I remember correctly had a biblical background (I read a few books lol) this book opened up a new way of parenting for me that sounds a lot like what you guys are talking about here. So glad you felt convicted in this area and are now speaking about it.

Love this podcast! My husband and I have been discussing this topic as well since our oldest is now three and will get so angry he will flip furniture, throw his lamp, etc. we are both like okay there has to come a point where some consequences are needed. Would love to see some practical applications!

I really appreciated your perspective on this! I have an 20 month old, and I have been putting off choosing a parenting style because I’m terrified of making the wrong choice. This is such a good discussion of the best of both ❤

I love this. The word sin itself in the Hebrew means "ignorance of Truth" so when our children ( even us) are acting out it's because we are operating off a belief, thoughts, emotions that are not true. All those things are valid and even the Lord doesn't want us to deny and ignore what we're going through, but God wants us to repent in those moments. That word repentance means "to return to Truth". His truth gives us clarity, peace his truth living in us ground us which is a revealing of who we truly were meant to be.. im learning so much and your channel has truly blessed me. I give you honor for many things you guys have helped me with! Praying the Lord keeps you strong and keeps your heart gentle and quiet to continue to hear his voice 🕊️

I love this convo so much. I also like gentle parenting but don’t agree with everything. It’s great to hear you guys’ perspective as parents. Thank you for sharing guys!!!

I just need to pause the video and say it .. Milena you look absolutely STUNNING ! You are radiating truly !!! God bless❤

I have had these exact thoughts recently about gentle parenting. I am so glad you guys are seeking to get to your kids’ heart level and show them their need for Christ through biblical/gentle discipline. ❤️

My heart is screaming that the biggest misconception is the idea that biblical parenting isn’t gentle. The Word has so much compassion, love and mercy for us to model after, but, as is the habit of man, we’ve departed from that model and labeled our flawed way “biblical”. God’s wisdom isn’t what needs improvement- it’s our application of it. I think we all need a reminder of Proverbs 21:30 sometimes in this world (especially with social media)- “There is no wisdom nor understanding nor counsel against the Lord” P.S. I know we all long to love the best we can, but look at the condition of the world right now. What if it isn’t God’s will to parent “gently” like the world encourages.

I’m so glad you guys are still podcasting, I love listening and learning. I really appreciated how In depth/casual the last podcasts used to be. I could listen to Jordan’s tangents for a long time haha! I also noticed you don’t pray out at the end anymore. Miss some of those old things! But love this still and hope you guys always continue even if it looks a little different!

Where are the linked books and accounts? Loved this though, I’m a new mom and I took a lot of this to heart and it’s so clarifying ❤

Honestly milena I’ve been a long time follower and this podcast really disappointed me. Gentle parenting has nothing to do with the child, but actually with the parent and their traumas and handling their children without their traumas from their childhood. I would think as a person who was brought up in a more traumatic home. You would understand that and give that love to your kids. Yes, God is also love and he instills that an us but you are their parent. I really feel like more research on gentle parenting should’ve been done before making a podcast episode about this.

The child’s temperament is what determines which type of parenting approach works for you and your family. Certain things can be talked out, while other things can’t (safety and non-negotiable issues). When you have more than one child, one may need more discipline than the other but the rules and consequences or rewards should apply across the board for all. Be consistent. Let your yes be yes and no be no.

Milena, regarding your comment on your hope that your teenagers will still want to come to you for advice..I was raised what you were calling 'traditional' until I was about 18 years old, second to oldest of 10..until my Mama was given true understanding on Biblical parenting. She now pursues our hearts through relationships, guiding, nurturing, and teaching The Truth.. allowing us to make choices with the free will God has given us. My closest friends will go to their Mother before any one else for advice, or just to share their hearts. 💕 They respect and value her heart and perspective, genuinely, and don't think she's weird or doesn't get it. It's possible, so beautiful, and the way God's intended, I believe. I'm only 25, have no children of my own yet, but from having experienced both myself and seeing how my younger siblings thrive...I encourage you to never give up on that dream. If your child feels safe & loved unconditionally by you, why would they not want to share their hearts with you? God bless you 🤍🤍

Thank you so much for sharing your perspective on this I don’t have children yet, but I plan to in the future and I love learning from you both! 😊

He was on point when he said teenagers dont want to go to thier parents. There is an overwhelming shane we experience at that point when we let them down-- that we disconnect to protect ourselves

Guys this is so good! Thank u so much for talking about it! Its kind of scary to think off a bunch of kids that have been gentle parented living as adults in the real world! We are doing them such a disservice by not teaching them to obey & listen well! If they do not obey & listen to us well, will they listen to God as an adult?? 😊 food for thought! Thanx again!

I have to say before continuing (I’m only a couple min in) that I have never seen you, milena, look so beautiful! You’re always gorgeous and the spirit of the Lord shines bright through you but you are just glowing here! Anyways going back to the video 😂❤️

It’s so Jesus to speak the same thing at the same time to the parents currently parenting littles!! 🙌🏼 It’s so affirming to hear you all speak and know the same revelations have been apparent to us!! Thank you for being vulnerable and letting us into your journey with Jesus! #discipleship

Love this. Can you please link books/ other things you were talking about! Don’t know where to start!

Very interesting you's made a podcast about this. My husband has been bringing this up to me and at first I was super defensive as I come from a very traumatic home. But I do see where this is coming from. We have recently been called to bring God and Jesus more into our life so it's interesting that this comes up as we're reading the bible more and incorporating it into our parenting.

I loved this episode and I’d love for this to turn into series! I can see God’s wisdom and truth in your words. Thank God for you and this podcast! ❤

As of Mum of three, and with definite anger issues (of which I am working on) gentle parenting to me is providing firm boundaries, to listen and feedback their emotions as well as emulate and be the leader when it comes to regulating my emotions. Not sure what form of gentle parenting you have been exposed to, but it's not the same as I have seen.

I truly need your perspective in how it actually works in real life situations. I agree I’m just struggling to see how that actually looks.

I love what Jordan said about the mega church scene. I wish more people spoke up about this. Most of those people are not even saved but believe they are because they’re preaching a watered down gospel. It’s all about you and how to live your best life now, not reminded we are sinners and need to turn from our sins and pick up our crosses everyday and repent.

Is it not actually important to understand that the Bible was written for adults?? Self control is important...but not actually even possible for a child under 4. I think we have to have the Bible principals and understand what's even possible in the scope of a child's brain development. I think extremes are really detrimental.

I love this so much! I struggle so much for the happy medium!

YES!! Thank you! I really needed this! 🙌🏻🥰💯🙏🏼

I loved this! Thank you! I'm trying to find the line between "gentle" but "biblical." I looked to see if you did a follow up video on this with more examples but couldn't find it. Did I miss it? Would love a video where you go more in depth in this and more of the things you do! Or if you can reference any books or resources that go more into what you are talking about, I'd really appreciate that :)

Yeah this is emotional abuse to the children. They have no idea what “sinful” means- even if you think they do.

Praying for you both and how you’re sharing the gospel. I know it’s tough. Hope you don’t get bugged down by the few bad comments. Nobody cares what the parenting type is called. I agree with what you’ve said in this video 💖🙏🏼 amen god

Are you referring to gentle parenting or respectful parenting? Roslyn Ross & Janet Landsbury do an incredible job laying out the foundation as to why respectful parenting works well. I agree with this to an extent but also keep in mind true respectful parenting sets clear and strong boundaries for children. Sometimes there’s a misconception that it’s “permissive” which is just not the case. I highly recommend The Theory of Objectivist Parenting and No Bad Kids. Great books! Love the viewpoint of approaching this all from a biblical perspective.

My husband and I have been on this same journey with our now 3 and 4 year old daughters. Our church did a parenting class recently with Paul Tripp's videos on The Heart of Parenting (I am pretty sure that is what the series is called) and it was very eye opening. We realized that our parenting was not biblical and now we are on this journey to change that.

I highly recommend "Parenting toward the Kingdom"

Wow this popped up on time when I needed it❤

I’d love to see more podcasts delving deeper into this conversation! I’ve always had a hard time finding that happy medium you’re talking about. Thank you for sharing:)

This conversation!!!!! Couldn't stop listening

Your hair is so cute today!!😍💕 Love y’all!!

I respectfully disagree with your assessment and characterization of gentle parenting. I do think it can for sure be unrealistic and exhausting. But the natural consequences for me, using your example, if the milk is spilled then they no longer have milk (and have to clean it up if old enough to do so). They lose privileges when they don’t follow the expectations that are clearly and repeatedly stated. For me it’s not about obedience and control. I think that viewing parenting through a religious lens may be where we differ, since I am not a religious person. Also I believe gentle parenting is different for various stages of your child’s life-I at least take it as authoritative yet loving (respectful) in a balance that works for the unique situation/ child’s temperament and personality.

These are my exact thoughts too and everyone said I was so wrong. Thank you thank you thank you!

Just now seeing this, 😮wow! Wow! This is the best break down of the need of Biblical parenting!! I’m in awe right now!! Well said!!! Well said!! 🙌🙌🙌 thank you Jesus!! I

I just have to say I am loving this more natural look! Milena, you have brown so much in the 3 years or so that I’ve been watching you, amazing to see!!!

Thank you so much for perfectly outlining my discomfort with adhering to gently parenting exclusively 🎉