November 2023, I knew something was wrong when our house was getting " Decluttered " as she put it. Also asked me if she could have her car put in her name. At this point she had an excuse for everything, I trusted her. I had no idea she had been planning this since late August because she couldn't get the Large House that we were trying to get. On November 20th, 2023, she woke up, kissed me, went to the kitchen to make us coffee, I knew that something was wrong. Went to the kitchen and she said, " Hun, I'm was going to bring you your coffee ". I said, " Something us up, something is wrong "!,,,, she dropped her head, and looked up and replied, " I want to divorce "! I replied , " why what did I do wrong "? , she replied, " You didn't do anything wrong, I'm just not wife material , I don't want to be married to anyone, it's over "! Later , I learned from her family and 2 ex- husband's, she is Narcissistic, Bi-polar, Habitual Liar, and a horrible person. I was Devastated, 8.5 Years down the drain!

When someone pulls you aside to give you a gentle warning about someone-LISTEN.

She was a master at making me believe our problems were my fault. If i was better, the relationship would be "fixed." My ability to self reflect, admit my faults to a fault, and low self- esteem kept me under the narcissist control far too long. Now i am climbing the mountain towards the peak of indifference. May my fellow suvivors find peace and strength ❤.

“narcissists are insecure, and they want you to feel as bad as they do.” if narcissism had to be explained in one sentence…. THAT’S the sentence. your pain is their pleasure. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

Just want to say thank you for your content. I am a narcissist abuse survivor and prayed for the strength to uncover what was wrong with me. And I discovered... it was her. Now I am living my true authentic self. Thank God for people like you who need to warn the world from this kind of evil. Your content really helped me. Thanks Andrew.

On the spot as usual. My ex wife made me snap(reactive abuse) two weeks prior to our wedding and I finally challenged her. That's when she knew I was on to her and it all started going downhill for real. I had been devalued for almost three years(since we found out she was pregnant) and finally had enough. Six months after our wedding I filed for divorce and threw her out after finding out of her lining up the next supply. If you have a bad feeling about your relationship, listen to your guts. I didn't and learned the hard way.

The day it all comes crumbling down is the day we set ourselves free from the deceptions! 🌈 🎀😘

Thank you Andrew. I am 84.I finally exposed my X narc in front of 5 people at once.I have always stood up for myself. I have paid a horrible price for being strong. No one in the family backs me up.The Narc gives them money.Years of defending myself discarded by all family members.No matter how hungry or how hard it becomes. I stand strong.

With my ex, it was when I realized what she was, that my true strength was revealed. I actually slept that night for the first time in a while. She woke me up because how dare I sleep when she's awake. I got up, grabbed my keys and drove up the street, pulled over and went to sleep. Turned my phone off. It was amazing sleep. When I woke up, I was truly awake.

Thank you so much for being here with us 🌞♥️

When that day happens, it's such a difficult day, but you know it's the very beginning of much better things to come.

April 2023, I really had an epiphany and I threw him out. Everything you say to do is so helpful and honestly would have difficulty without helpful people like yourself ❤

The smear campaign was the worst.

"The gut wrenching screams". Never ever forget what these heartless people did to you, and remember how you felt back then, if you ever miss the Narcissist or start remembering the "good times", which were just fake manipulations. Write the abuse down and refer to it if necessary, it really helps to break the traumabond.

Love the long hair! And yes, it is a good day when is finally over! Regardless of the pain. Blessings to all!

I spent more than 4 years trying trying to be the better person. I started praying. Things started being revealed and I learned he had been cheating on me the whole time with numerous women. He would constantly ask me to leave but then when I would try to leave he wouldn't let me. I decided to act like everything was OK and went about my usual routines. I started planning and slowly taking things out of the house that he wouldn't notice was missing. And one night when he was out with one of his girlfriend's I packed up and left without him knowing and blocked him. I found out he was quite angry which I knew he would be because he's a control freak and he wanted to be the one to make the decision to have me leave. He truly thought I was stupid and had no clue what he was doing. I'm not angry about the situation, I learned from it and now I am free.

There’s never just one narcissist. They are like 🪳’s. There’s never just one. Thank you Jesus Christ. ✨♥️✨

January 5th, 2024 was the day for us (my wife and I) that it all came crumbling down. After miserably living with my wife’s 82 year old covert narcissist mother (they both own this home), the mother went into yet another unhinged fit of rage and attacked my wife. She immediately said she was calling the cops and did so, telling the 911 dispatcher my wife put her hands on her. The only problem for this narcissist… she had no idea I filmed the attack with my iPhone. Cops came, interviewed witnesses, had several looks at the video and concluded the 80 year old mother was the aggressor. Her plan to have my wife removed from the house totally backfired. The narcissist was arrested and taken to jail. No contact order implemented. Had I not had the video as proof ,I’m certain my wife would have been arrested for DV. For the longest time I’ve been wanting to video her fits of rage, and I finally did at a crucial time, thank God.

Consistently… over and over again… Andrew speaks the gut punching truth. Every sentence is 110 % accurate. Most of us remember the “day of realization” with grief and mourning for a relationship that never actually was. And I still have occasional random visuals of those black pupils staring at me while he threatened me with the words “If you ever say that again to me, I will strangle you while your daughter watches.” For anyone just starting their healing journey…. YOU WILL BE OKAY. Love yourself and forgive yourself. You are a SURVIVOR. XoXo 💋

Now we cannot become what we want by remaining what we were...New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings....

God sent me to you thank you ANDREW

Lived in a narcissistic home environment for 24 + yers, and born to a narcissistic family system. After all of this, I am now looking ahead to move out of my toxic home environment with barely any money, with nothing more than trust and faith in myself that I've got this and I've got what it takes to make my dream a reality. I hope that brighter days are ahead, and that there will be a world of people waiting and willing to support me for my decision to choose myself and save myself from an environment of endless pain, chaos, trauma, etc. I have no family support, only myself and my own faith to go off of.

Been away a month plus now and the reality of all the abuse I endured is sinking in…and I do mean that almost literally. I am totally exhausted mentally, physically and spiritually. I can barely function, but I am focussing on eating well, exercising and resting/sleeping when needed. However, I have little energy for anything or anyone else. Social stiuations feel impossible and draining. This is not an easy rite of passage from hell to healing.

Ever since that day many things have come to light

November 24, 2023 Thanksgiving night was D Day for me. Andrew you mentioned something I never thought of. The family of my wife may not have had the knowledge of narcissism but days after we wed, her sister told me she's crazy. I laughed it off naturally, but you don't really know a person until you lived with them. Heartache galore.

You are very handsome. So far no one has said anything about these people on alcohol and drugs. They turn into monster people.

Facts,no matter how much money given and energy such as watching their children,we always still are told we owe some debt.SMH

STAY SAFE ANDREW,WE HEAR THE WEATHER IS GONNA BE BAD.STAY COZIED UP NEAR THE FIREPLACE, WE UNDERSTAND.

When the "delayed realization" descended upon me...especially in the case of my 30 year best friend...I could hardly wrap my head around it. She changed in order to please her ultra-covert narcissist husband...then they both ganged up on me. The day I stood up and put a boundary up was the beginning of the ending of my renting one of their properties. The long and the short of it was, I made known that I was not available for mental health crisis calls.

The rage fits... became more frequent....the last one I observed included that gruesome devil. Huffing mucus in and out thru teeth 😮 I had enough!

Great video Andrew! Wishing everyone clarity and peace...

Yes took the vows and stuck with it,,crash,boom,bang,it came crumbling down,,,,and came crumbling down again,,when my family dis owened me,,,after the Divorce,,,Didnt bother me cause it was all about theyre image ❤❤❤

After recovering which takes time it will definatly get better than it ever was. This final challenge will bring out all the inner strength you almost forgotten you had. There is so much more to discover in that wonderful world. As Albert Camus described it: in the midst of winter I found there is within me an invincible summer😊

Thank you Andrew 🤗 The day it all came crashing down for my 30 year relationship, was when my health finally broke down and nothing changed. Sick or not,I was still expected to carry on doing absolutely everything! I have rheumatoid arthritis and the first time it manifested, I had been to the doctor, my knee was swollen, I was in terrible pain, and whenwe got home, he said " just get out and lock up the chickens" as we passed the chicken coop. This was the final straw . I had already been very unhappy and there was a lot of trouble and fights every day. I knew he was a narcissist and had wanted to leave for some time but didn't. 10 years on I've finally had the time to process it all properly and educate myself and I feel amazing and for the first time in my life I can honestly say that I love who I am. Bless you ❤❤❤

I've been free from the narcissist for well over a year now. Your posts helped me get through some of the darkest days. Thank you, Andrew !

I knew what a narcissist was, but i didn't know there were different kinds. It took me 2 years to realize it when i found the needle in the haystack. It confirmed i wasn't insane finally. Its a relief but its also sad because it's an emotionally terminal condition to the relationship. I filed for divorce and i am moving on...

Narcs have always been with us, unfortunately, but they got particularly pernicious during C19. Ironically, rather than introspect/self-reflect and consider improvements, they went the other way and stepped up the heat to become even more insidious. Such nefarious behaviour is utterly shocking :( To come out stronger and to impart wisdom is a real superpower.

Wow Andrew - I remember the final day !! I even used the words ‘I didn’t sign up for this ‘ - hoovered for the 2nd time - on a luxury holiday I’d paid for us - and the woman who told me she wanted to quit smoking - just kept smoking !!! When I challenged her , she blamed it on me !!! I’m so proud of myself for calling her out - the next morning she was packed ready to go home !! BUSTED

For me, the day of the discard was a HUGE weight lifted off my shoulders. After that, I didn't think too much about it. Then, after a period of time, it hit me really hard because nothing about the relationship made sense in retrospect. I became depressed due to the trauma, found out about the smear campaign, then I finally started Googling the symptoms and the experiences like the gaslighting, stonewalling, bait and switch, unexplainable rage fits, etc only to find out there is actually a narcissist checklist. Guess what? I checked off every box! Then I came across this channel and others like it. Thank God it wasn't just me. What a relief! God bless you and the work you do, Andrew.

Hi Andrew Today is my-freedom day- The day God Rescued me many years ago. I am so grateful😊 Wish I had dumped her years ago, but at least, I have had many happy years since Stayed for the kids . Wrong move I am now blessed

Well for me my ex narc discarded me just before covid arrived. And when the gouvernement ordered us to stay isolated in our homes, i had to stay put in the same home as him for almost two years. It was tough but during that time i had started to work from home and i turned the situation into a positive by starting to look for a condo to buy. And when we got the green light that covid was on the decline i bought my condo and i moved out. He did not think that i would do it but i did and i am proud of it. Great video Andrew thanks. Have a wonderful afternoon ❤❤😊

1950s to 2024 people pleasing maybe not have been a thing but most times called manners it’s sad how it’s changed…and being taken advantage of or that’s your way of showing love…or admiration….idk but it’s different now…

How hard it is for some people to see the suffering & destruction that narcissists do. Some may have gotten wrapped up in their lies & that you were “the crazy.”

You are spot on EVERYTIME! TY. This is my story. 😊❤ I have been blessed with the end of the relationship. I see it now.

I am quite enjoying the new version of me - thank you narcissists for being the reason why I am a better person. Thank you Andrew for always speaking sense :). God Bless you all my friends here and I hope you are doing well and in time and as Andrew says in your own time heal...we all put pressure on ourselves thinking that we are not healing fast enough...do not harm yourself thinking that way...we all are different :)

I never knew about narcissism, and like lots of your earlier videos state, you think that other people are nice like you, you would trust a random person Where I went to school, there were no bullies, everyone got along. At least I wasn't bullied, no swearing, gaslighting, stealing, bullying, etc In the real world, I found my trust broken by people so many times because I thought other people were trustworthy like me Thanks for the vids. Me, now 28, now realizes that people don't have my best interest in my mind and I should not assume that. Now I can spot it. Like you said before, people want to sit back and laugh while they make you implode. I never put much thought into why they did that except assuming they were an A**hole. But now it's clear to me that people get some kind of pleasure or making peace with a grudge from their past by hurting other people's feelings it's a joke to the them. Thanks for the vids really youve enlightened me

Yes, they cannot have the Intelligent conversation.

Confession: I made my earlier comment before I had fully finished the video because I was kind of mind blown. But you signed off, saying once you’ve healed, maybe you’ll fall in love again, maybe you’ll read a book or write a book… I fell in love again. I wrote a book. In fact, I wrote four and I’m on my fifth. Books that you can find in bookstores. You’re extremely prescient.

Thank you, Andrew. I appreciate what you do.

Life with a narcissist is like a house of cards... it is destined to fail from the moment they laid their eyes on you, BEFORE you saw them. BEFORE you removed the rose colored glasses... there's a song/ music video, "Rose Colored Glasses," John Connolly ... lol... Yes, you did say ya'll... Lollollol. You sound like you're from "my neck o the woods?" 😊 Great video, Andrew. TY ✌️

Mine day when after 5 years of zero sex and constant rejection in a 20 year long marriage I wanted answers . Not , I’m not talking about that now ..I said , we’re talking about this now …I was discarded right then and there and she had depleted me of everything…6 years later and I often still cannot believe I stayed for so long

After leaving the toxic relationship I noticed a 'friend' who I had met through the narc ex completely ignored me when i texted her and went off the radar. Normally she would message to check up on me and i mentioned about the narcs strange behaviour as i didnt know what it was at that time. I assumed the woman was a good person and confided in her. Now thinking about it, she went silent on me and I suspected she was on his side, i had a feeling she fancied him but she wasnt her type. Most likely she told him things and he probably started a smear campaign against me. It just shows that most people arent trustworthy and that the narcs have strong influences making others turn against you. I shouldnt care, but it hurts and reminds me i am the victim. At the end of the day they can both f off. Toxic fake people in different disguises are not worth my time and energy.

Thanks Andrew. The day it all came crumbling down was not the end. I had 9 kids to care for. They were my adopted foster kids, but from the minute our marriage crumbled, he seriously worse if you can imagine. House in foreclosure, took only the chosen kids, putting the un-chosen ones through devastation, calling Child Protective Services on me every day, having all his friends drive by to give him reports. I'm gonna be 60y.on 1-13 Saturday. Only been able to go no contact for 1 1/2y. Finally healing. Hoping for happily ever after without him. Just me and my disabled daughter, my other kids, grandkids and birth family who have been at my side all my life, but will never realize what hell we went through.

🙏All those horrible things the narc puts one thru. They have a huge advantage we didn't know what we were up for .We slowly get ourselves together. Only to find life is so free fantastic and fun . It certainly is a challenging experience but it's a blessing in discuise. A lesson that is worth it in the end 🌸💡💃😁

Thank you Andrew for sharing your time and information to help us ❤ I am on the path of healing and didn't know and understand the extent of these evil entities until I did research , thank God 🙏 I am out 😊

I feel like you were talking directly to me. Had him arrested for assault this week. May the Love of Jesus Christ bless you Andrew.

My day of reckoning was last August 8th. I was in the kitchen, preparing dinner for my 24-year-old adopted son, when he marched into the house, informed me he was leaving after 6 very happy years (so I thought), and during which I paid out almost $100,000 in college tuition for him. He was accompanied by his toxic girlfriend, 3 other friends with vehicles, to help him move, and three police officers to ensure I didn't resist. It was followed by extreme hostility, a massive smear campaign and several court cases. It has been a dreadful experience, but thankfully, after many tears, I am now on the road to recovery.

ANDREW.....YOU are BRILLIANT.

This day may happen several times as you discover more people in your life are narcissist. It never gets easier but you can recognize in better and that is part of the reason things are blowing up in other relationships. It was just your spouse but now your siblings, parents, and coworkers.

Thankyou, i do believe i was meant to meet and go through the last narcissist ' friend' i did keep notes of strange behaviours, my feelings up and down confusion, frustration to feeling good and calm to round and round repeat repeat. If you have to write notes to try and figure out whats going on, there is definitely something wrong. I was thinking its me, but its not, it was partially of course because of not trusting myself. He from rhe start, was figuring me out, it was all very quick, the charm, the caring lies, the subtle put downs, the stupid statements of how hed be devastated if we werent friends anymore, to then ignore my messages. You know often when i was about to meet him, i had a really anxious feeling there was something evil around but i thought im being too paranoid because its happened to me before. I am glad im out grateful 🙏

Your hairrrr Omg! 😍😍😍😍

You rattled off half a dozen point in this video that made me think Holy FS! Astounding video. But I am getting used to having this reaction with your vids. Thank you.

You are so wise; I have realized that I have gone through multiple narcissistic relationships, mostly romantic, and it was not until I got the education that I was able to finally "GET IT" and break free. People will continue to be drawn into these relationships until you recognize what they are all about. Thank You for being such a great teacher Andrew

Wow he just identified my dad and my sister. They was very abusive towards me as a child. I removed myself from them for years.

I remember that day! It was the day, I didn't want to live like that anymore. You accompanied me on my way out, Andrew. Thank you!❤🙏

After a 3 hr drive home I pulled in the car park - she simply got in the car and drove off

My narcissist exwife was my greatest teacher! One of them! I remember my wedding vows. I said them loud and clear in front of all those witnesses! I’m thankful for the lessons learned! I will always love her till this life ends! Almost 5 years no contact! ! Lessons learned! I’m remembering who I am!

You are so right on! I needed this talk today! ⭐️

Until you do the work, you will always have work. Freedom is awesome. No more overseer. woohoo Toxic. My entire world changed. Peace arrived

Andrew it’s like you have a window into my life…. I have been discarded in the cruelest way! He told me I’m repulsive to him and he’s felt that way for a year and when he kissed me he had to go and scrub his face as I made him physically sick. He’s gone after slamming the door. My head is spinning and I feel totally gutted. I feel you are the only person who understands. Thankyou 🙏

Many Thanks Andrew!⭐🙏❤I’m at the end of my healing path? 🙏 Your videos help me going though a trying time. Even though I ran for the hill it IS hard. I excepted this is my growing pain, I don’t feel angry, pity nor resentment toward the narc. He is his worse enemy and there is nothing anyone can do. The best revenge is going forward with my life and be happy. Every time I feel that spiritual bond. I take a deep breath asking God for protection and sent it back. We suppose to have a storm coming in LI. Love the energy of the storm. May go to the beach and watch the beautiful waves tomorrow. Life is a Grant🙏 stay Strong my brothers and Sisters 💪❤Namaste 🙏

I remember the day… begging for bare minimum and even that was hard since I was conditioned not to rock the boat. He looked me in the eye with this look filled with so much hatred and said “I have the ability to emotionally destroy a person I’m involved with.” Little did I know he had been doing that piece by piece from the beginning. Three years healing. Thank you for your videos. At least I’m at the point I can smile ironically at your videos. Do they all go to a seminar for assholes or something? Glad it’s over. I’ve learned so much about myself and am working on my issues. 🙏🏼

Day of first divorce hearing 🙂 Thank God for KZfaq 😉

Really appreciate today's vid.

I did not know what I was up against sums up the entire relationship. Never knew that there was such stealth manipulation.

I absolutely love this Andrew. I'm prepared for the soon to be ending now. God bless you.

In all honesty, I think my ex was a rather mediocre at being a narcissist. I don't have any money or assets anymore, but I never had that much to deal with initially either. Same with the smear campaign. Sure, all of her family probably thinks I'm the devil, but they never mattered anyway so.

P.s. love your long hair,✨😇

My ex introduced this new one (the one he was cheating with prior to my discard) to his entire family IMMEDIATELY! I recently learned she inherited ALOT of $ from her newly deceased husband.

Thank you for this video. I left 5 days ago before my husband came home, after leaving his job in the morning , knowing I found all his secrets. I had 10 minutes to get out and took it. He found me last night, hiding for my life. I never knew the hell I’ve lived had a name. Stay safe.

True, I have evolved to the stage in my life that I do not recognise the inner change I have gone through. All I know is that I am loving this feeling that I call it kick ass stage.

It took me 22 years to finally see it. I don’t know if it was his promotion at work, his sisters greed or the women who wanted what we had. We were in love. The monster didn’t come out until the childhood sweetheart reappeared in his life via his sister. She was best friends with her. Anyway the sister accused me of taking her brother away from her. I just thought she needed to grow up. We were happy but the last few years of the relationship were different. He wasn’t who I thought he as. He and his childhood sweetheart got married and they destroyed four human beings in their wake. No remorse at all. 13 years later he wanted me back. He didn’t speak to me but sent his son. I wanted to know if his wife was planning to come with? Didn’t happen.

Have an awesome day

Almost 3 years out & it’s a constant battle with your own mind. Healing is it’s a long road, a road back to yourself. Even if you’re still in the relationship just listening to this one video a day makes all the difference education is everything. I’m not where I want to be but I’m no where near where I was. Sending love, support & thanks to this community ❤️🙏😊

Hey Andrew well you were right she was i dont want to say nice to me but a little normal well she back to her own narcissist way she knows now i will not take it anymore i am looking for a way to move on every body is started to see her for what she is its so bad here i want out 50 years of this i need my life back i want to thank you for teaching me and opening my eyes to what she is thanks for your help🙏✌☮

Love is a game to them. They say they know their worth.

Thank you so much-I Thank God that I’m out of that Toxic situation that I thought was a marriage.🫶🏾continued Blessings to you😇

My sister-in-law (she married his brother) did tell me a few days before the wedding "hey, you need to know some things about him.." I proceeded to marry him anyway thinking perhaps he's changed for this marriage. His sister, mother and father however didn't tell me anything negative about him. Now, I'm initiating divorce less than a year after the wedding. I'll be forever grateful for her kindness to forewarn me and I'm sure she will be blessed.

*Pray Scripture* 📖 *upon your enemies: Let mine enemy be as the wicked, and he that riseth up against me as the unrighteous.* (Job 27:7) *KJV* - Luke 18:7-8 - Revelation 2:23 - Proverbs 12:2 - Psalm 145:20 - Psalm 7:13 - Psalm 34:15-16 - Psalm 52:1-5 - *Psalm 55:15* - Psalm 92:7 - Psalm 139:19 - Psalm 104:35 - Psalm 109:15 - Job 18:17-21 - Isaiah 26:14 - Ezekiel 21:32

My in laws knew. I didn't yet. I spoke with a divorce attorney today. No can do anymore. Telling my dad tomorrow. Everything. He knows I have shingles. Great video. I hope all can get out. Terrible relationships. Killer relationships. I have a frozen memory. Boy oh boy.

Good afternoon Andrew. Watching from Canada. Thank you for helping so many people, so many abused victims of these narcissistic monsters. You are helping me and I am so grateful I came to find you and this excellent informative truly helpful channel. The very very best to you my dear friend. David 🇨🇦

hey andrew i am at my aunts house cooking and having a good time love your long beautiful hair have a good evening ❤

You articulate the dynamic so very well. Thank you for what you do. ❤

"Anywhere the wind blows" just sums it all up for me.

One supply to the next. Now I observe from a whole new point of view. 😮

Thank you again NARCDAILY 🙏

They turned my golden child sister into a miserable narcissist... I couldn't win against both of them smearing and devaluing me. I realize now they were showing her a different reality than what they showed me so there's no way for her to see it... and last time I saw her I could already notice the toxic projection patterns in her... unfortunate that I'll have to take a distance. I realize I didn't chose my family in this world and I don't owe abusive mentally ill family members anything... especially not my time or attention at my own expense.

WOW!💡Andrew, you really know how to get to me! Epiphany moment! Your advice & dedication to this community is priceless. Thank you from the depths of my soul. ❤

Straight gold. Keep it up. But again u don’t have to hear it from me. The Most high is working through you. Not a fan but a brother. This message is painful until the point people realize it’s actually a blessing of peace and joy. Great work!!!! All praises. Once you start healing, it continues forever. But that’s the blessing.

Sadly the evening of reckoning came as no surprise to me, everything added up perfectly what a master class in abuse, disgusting, disgraceful and evil. I was on the landline talking to him on loud speaker, he was intoxicated as usual, his mobile rang and he put it on loud speaker and there she was saying how she couldn't stop thinking about him.......I wish he had never entered my life it felt like a punishment. Thank you Andrew for your words of wisdom and most of all hope, hope for a future of happiness, contentment and mutual love and respect 💜