The First Thing to Do When Someone Dies

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Dr. Sarah Kerr, PhD - Centre for Sacred Deathcare

5 жыл бұрын

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As a sacred deathcare practitioner and teacher, I’m passionate about helping my clients and students meet death and loss in a soul-based way.
I’ve been in practice since 2012, helping people find the healing gifts that can accompany death and loss.
I have a PhD in Transformative Learning, with a focus on contemporary ritual healing. I’ve been a student of cross-cultural energy healing for almost three decades and have studied with many Indigenous and western teachers.
I’ve made my own journeys through death and loss, into healing and resolution.
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@BettyGrin 8 ай бұрын

I was honored to be holding my husband’s hand when he took his last breath. I still see it in my mind every day. I miss him so much.

@melodiejohnston9528 8 ай бұрын

I was lying next to my husband when he died. Even though he was profoundly hard of hearing, I played his favourite music and talked to him the whole time. I know it sounds unbelievable, but I felt an energy pass through me like nothing before. I didn't call anyone for a long time, perhaps 45 minutes. I just wanted to be there. I'm glad I did. Thanks for this.

@stephanielopez6528 8 ай бұрын

I experienced that energy passing through me when my mother passed...strange but awesome...

@gabrielleferris952 8 ай бұрын

Do you not have to call ambulance or doctor for time of death?

@melodiejohnston9528 8 ай бұрын

@gabrielleferris952 If you want time alone and are comfortable, there is no real reason to call immediately. This was an inevitable end of life situation, and a DNR was in place.

@user-od9kw7wb4j 8 ай бұрын

You must be wonderful loving spouse. Very hard to find these days.

@amygalvin1799 8 ай бұрын

I played my father’s favorite music for him during his last few days in hospice. He couldn’t respond, but I knew from the look in his eyes it lit up his brain. I hope I get to hear beautiful music while leaving this world as well. 💙

@godfreydaniel6278 9 ай бұрын

I was with my wife when she died - just a couple feet away. I knew the end was very near - that this would be the day she passed - and I just tried to be there for her. She could no longer speak, but I spoke to her as I always had - greeted her when I entered the room I'd set up for her, told her it was time to adjust the bedding and take her meds - things like that - like we'd been doing for months. I sat with her and held her hand for a while. When I got up to get the glass of water that was on the night stand to moisten her lips, I turned away - and in the time it took to pick it up and turn back around - she'd slipped away. There was absolutely no mistaking the finality of it. I took a deep sigh, said "Oh sweetheart!" quietly, and kissed her on the forehead. I stayed with her for a while, but soon it became clear that I was suddenly truly alone. It wasn't unexpected, of course, but something was very different feeling. So I got up and began to do the many things the living do to serve those who have passed and to continue their lives. It was a profound transition...

@carolebarton776 8 ай бұрын

What a beautiful, loving tribute to her.

@veteranbroad8802 8 ай бұрын

My condolences.

@rhondahulett9763 8 ай бұрын

Very good advice.

@susanbaker-schloth1152 8 ай бұрын

❤

@johnmohanmusic 8 ай бұрын

After reading what you wrote, I am crying.

@samhunt9380 8 ай бұрын

i held my beautiful wife in my arms as she passed from heart failure after fighting MND/ALS for 3 years. The last thing she would have heard was me telling her I loved her. I then curled up alongside her for an unknown amount of time and slept. Later I called the palliative care nurses who came to our home. The rest is a blur now after 8 years.....

@friendlypiranha774 8 ай бұрын

@samhunt - what a beautiful, peaceful way of seeing your partner onto the next step of their journey. Sincere wishes to you.

@williamharris5957 8 ай бұрын

God bless you. What a blessing that God you to experience. I'm sorry she's passes sir.

@annap8867 8 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss. What an incredible gift that you gave to your wife... you holding her in your arms as she passed. She must have felt so safe and loved.

@jimbo33 8 ай бұрын

My dear wife passed in bed next to me while I held her hand at 4:30 am. Her breathing became more and more shallow until her last breath. I did not want to disturb her in any way and often wondered it I should have woken up our sons to see her off but I elected to just lay next to her and allow her to go peacefully. I stayed next to her for the next few hours before calling for her final arrangements. I am glad I was able to be with her and for her to be in peace yet one still wonders it what they have done was right. I miss her terribly but am glad I was able to remain calm during her passing . She was in hospice at home which was very important to us. I would give anything to have her back.

@friendlypiranha774 8 ай бұрын

@jimbo - You, Sir, did the most beautiful thing for your wife. God bless you.

@dolores2716 8 ай бұрын

I think you gave her a lovely departure. Sorry for your loss.

@user-od9kw7wb4j 8 ай бұрын

Bless you my friend.

@MoniqueangeliqueLumpkin 8 ай бұрын

Make u all state planing on paper, died at home, take u time, stay away from hospital, they are vultures. I do not want band-aid b****t around me, just love ones and pets .do not be afraid, a decease love one will help u to transition. God blesd

@ShiestyApe 2 ай бұрын

Making me tear up brother

@duggydugg3937 8 ай бұрын

closure is a myth... finality is real.. my wife died 40 yrs ago,.. miss her all the time

@monicacappetta7017 8 ай бұрын

You never stop missing the people you truly love. My heart goes out to you and everyone that loses someone they love.

@duggydugg3937 8 ай бұрын

@@monicacappetta7017 thanks ❤️

@charlesvandenburgh5295 8 ай бұрын

As someone who has lost loved ones, I can overwhelmingly affirm this advice.

@rachelfrees1268 9 ай бұрын

Dearest message I’ve ever heard. I was blessed to be with my husband who died in hospice. His last breath came slowly after the one before. Held my sister in my arms as she took her last breath. Held my next door neighbor in my arms as he gasped his last breath outside in the hot Texas sun. His wife could not handle what was happening. Found my dear meals on wheels folks dead from the night before. They were alone by choice. Death is the last act for us here on earth. It’s not to be afraid of, it’s an honor to be in their presence.🙏

@grandmajane2593 8 ай бұрын

The meals on wheels people were dead too? Must have been quite a scene. What was it too hot?

@reemclaughlin4260 8 ай бұрын

I agree! 🙏🏼🌸

@linmarie8486 4 жыл бұрын

My heart is so broken. My husband died in the hospital early Saturday morning. I was not allowed to be with him because if COVID-19 rules. They admitted him on Monday, we talked each day until Thursday when he went unconscious, Friday the doctor called to say he wouldn’t make it much longer. Saturday at 3:27 am they called to say he was gone. My heart is broken for not being there to hold his hand in addition to the fact that he’s never coming home. Sometimes I cry so hard I can hardly breathe. My family lives 4 hours away, they’re trying to be of help but can only say so much. My husband family is close by but I don’t know them well and don’t care for the idea of hanging out with them since we never did that even when Joe was here. The journey ahead of me is so long and overwhelming, I dread waking up alone here with no hope in sight. The thought is suffocating. I’m praying for God’s help it’s all I can do.

@SacredDeathcare 4 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear this, Lin Marie. The death of a spouse is heartbreaking at any point, but in these pandemic times, it's made so much harder. My heart goes out to you, and I really hope you can find some support - family and friends, but also a grief counsellor or support group. Maybe through a local hospice? This is way too big to be able to manage alone.

@myaccount6531 3 жыл бұрын

i am so so so sorry hun!

@jelianjamili5627 2 жыл бұрын

You posted a year ago. I hope you are all well, and I will be praying for God's healing and guidance in your life. :)

@dolphinsbarb 2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for this enormous loss. I am praying for support for you as walk through this darkness. 🙏How tragic that you couldn't be with him in the hospital. I am so sorry for what you both went through. 😔

@jaimepena9729 2 жыл бұрын

I am sorry for your lost. I recommend to find happiness and joy in other things. You need to find a purpose and reason to live for. Maybe serving or helping others. Do something that changes your life. Once you will find a good reason or purpose to live, you will find happiness. I am sure you are here in this life for a purpose. Finding the reason or purpose of your existence is the key. I wish you the best….

@zitiden4745 8 ай бұрын

I sit here crying not of sadness but of pride. I'm proud not knowing about this, I did this for my mother. Cared for her in death as I did for her in life. I walk through life wondering if I did right by her. You have just confirmed that I have. For this I thank you good soul. 🙏

@amyexner 8 ай бұрын

It’s not that easy; when my husband died I panicked-he died in the hospital/hospice-i was there when he took his last breath-I could not leave him for many hours, crying crying crying.

@Alces_alces 6 ай бұрын

Amy, your response was yours and yours alone. Your response was valid. You very likely had been through an incredibly taxing and tragic time. You needed that release and you gave yourself that gift. My condolences on your great loss. May sweet memories of your dear husband bring you peace and comfort.

@EagleRockers 9 ай бұрын

My husband will be coming home tomorrow from the hospital and be on hospice. This video made me feel calm and certain. Thank you!

@kellyriley-duckworth4738 8 ай бұрын

You can do this! ♥️

@EagleRockers 8 ай бұрын

@@kellyriley-duckworth4738 He died 3 days after coming home from the hospital, Sept. 28. Family was all around him and I was holding his hand as he passed. I'm grieving now, but I have the comfort of knowing he died at home surrounded by love.

@shelleysteward3041 8 ай бұрын

It’s the hardest but most precious thing to be with them as they go from this world to the next. It’s a gift to be with them when they need you the most. I’m so glad you were able to bring him home for this. My sister and I were able to this this for both our parents. The smile on my dad’s face when they brought him home was something I will remember for the rest of my life. I pray that you will be blessed through this journey. 💝🙏🏻❤️‍🩹

@EagleRockers 8 ай бұрын

@@shelleysteward3041 ♥♥♥

@kbc1883 7 ай бұрын

Sending you support.

@joysteinkraus7947 8 ай бұрын

Interesting that I came across this video today. I am sitting by my husband in hospice wing. He’s been transitioning for 5 days. I needed this today

@lisainvalencia 2 жыл бұрын

Love this. When my dad passed on, we sat with him for a few moments. It was an honor to witness his passing and just to be there.

@francinejacobson865 2 жыл бұрын

I was not there when my mom passed away-- I told my brother to be silent when she was going to die --

@SacredDeathcare 2 жыл бұрын

It is a privilege for sure. Thank you for sharing. All the best, Sarah

@ronsmith2241 8 ай бұрын

So true. Its was sad but also a special time when my wife passed... 26 years of MS was finally over. She wasn't suffering anymore.

@reneelipton695 8 ай бұрын

Hubby became sick a few months back and we both thought he was a goner for sure. He told me that when the time came that he didn't want me to "freak out" and start crying and screening and such. I told him that it would never be my intention that I would likely stay with him for a while that I would be in no hurry to let him go I would want to be in that moment with him. I think it is important to have that special moment of close. I am happy to say that I have been blessed to spend more time with him because of prayers. Have a blessed day.

@firebyrd437 8 ай бұрын

This is an old video, but I saw my husband die. It wasn't a slow death managed with care but an awful experience. He died on the way to the hospital, and he fought every second to live. This kind of death shocks you, and to be honest, it makes you fear death coming. You can not just recover from this kind of death of your loved one as it's a horrible experience

@rubbersole79 8 ай бұрын

I can relatel. My best friends mother was a kindly woman who had great faith and love in her, but dementia and pain created a most traumatic scene of death for her that my friend was forced to endure. It changed her to this day I'm afraid. Going in peace is a gift not given to everyone.

@LadyMaven 8 ай бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss. Everyone's experience is different. There are things we can do to help them cross over with grace and ease. In the end, it helps us, too.

@danielmorgan4899 8 ай бұрын

Praying for you…… may you find peace and comfort

@johnmohanmusic 8 ай бұрын

I am SO sorry you and he went through such a horrible, traumatic experience. I am sure the main reason he fought to stay alive was for you and to continue to be with you. I say that because I have Medullary Thyroid Cancer and the prognosis is not the greatest one. I love my wife so very much and I do not want to leave her alone. Sometimes I fear the future (meaning my death) but really, my biggest fear and worry is for her and the rest of my family missing me when I am gone. I am going to be very pragmatic and direct in what I am about to write: I do not really have what one would call "faith" in an afterlife. But I do have hope that there is an afterlife. I see two distinct possibilities: Worst case scenario, there is no afterlife, but that means that at least those who've departed do not suffer in any way, and are not even aware of their mortality. They no longer feel pain, they no longer feel hurt and they no longer feel worry. But even though they are gone from this existence, they are not really gone, as the memories of them and their existence live on in our minds. Best case scenario, our life here on earth is just sort of "prep school" and great things await us, meaning those who have already departed are experiencing greatness in the next level of immortality. And eventually we'll all be together again with our loved ones. I hope this is of at least small small level of comfort to you.

@jamesa.rodriguez8598 8 ай бұрын

@johnmohanmusic May the grace and peace of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ find His way into your heart and mind. Out of love for my neighbors, I'm praying for you and them. Amen

@bunnystuff2005 8 ай бұрын

Love this. That is exactly how we handled it when Dad passed away at home from cancer. Quiet, peaceful slow and easy. I was his caregiver and as my siblings arrived each one was comforted by other family members and friends. We talked, we laughed, we cried as we sat near dad remembering and honoring him for being our dad. It was a special time I will never forget.

@ashathomas3725 8 ай бұрын

I was sitting beside my father holding one hand when his soul was leaving the body....he had a smile on face while seeing me n just closed his eyes. I know he is happy in heaven ❤️🙏

@friendlypiranha774 8 ай бұрын

This is absolutely wonderful advice. Most of us don't know what to do when the time arrives. Thank you.

@juanitaminch4540 8 ай бұрын

I was with my mother when she took her last breath. I sat on the bed and held her hand and told her it was alright to leave me, I would be fine. I told her to go to heaven and be with dad. I said he probably would say "It's about time you got here, come my love." I miss both of you and I miss my brother Paul . He and I were born close together. Me in 1947 and he in 1948.👱🏻‍♂👩🏻🧍🏻‍♀🧍🏻🧍🏻‍♂

@Eam1213 3 ай бұрын

@juanitaminch my experience was so similar to yours♥️

@GadeadelCid 8 ай бұрын

Excellent advice. When my mom died many years ago,I was alone with her in the bedside in the room. I was observing all the process with calm,love and respect holding her hand and watching her breath going away,I stayed there alone with her holding her hand knowing that now she was gone forever,I waited a few minutes then I went to call the nurse and the family who weren't at the hospital. But up to this day,I regret not being alone with my mom longer time,because as you say , once you tell the people all the hustle and bustle start. It's interesting that all my life my worst fear was to see my mom die,I prayed for not being there because I couldn't tolerate the thought of my mother dying,she was my mom and my best friend too. But God gave ne the gift to be the only one with her at that extraordinary moment,and I'm now very grateful for that. By the way, I feel her very close to me.💐🙏💖

@pettywilliams3987 8 ай бұрын

My father just passed away on September 7 at 6 pm. I missed his last breath because I had to go to the bathroom. I was devastated. I'm an orphan now. Even though I'm in my late 50's. I'm lost, I was daddy's girl and now I don't know what to do. I miss him so much.

@IbMomba 8 ай бұрын

Don’t feel like you missed out on his last breath. Your Dad shared the last breath he wanted you to be present for with you before you stepped out. He did not want you to witness his final breath. Many times loved ones who are getting close to passing will hold on until you do step out or turn your back. They don’t want you to see it. One last act of love and protection he wanted to give to you.

@deborahjohnson3876 8 ай бұрын

@@IbMombaAgree! I have heard of this so many times! I wonder if it is just too hard to let go with a loved one holding your hand.

@evropimilopoulos6643 8 ай бұрын

The first year is the worst but hung on there as the time passes is getting easier, you going to realize some day you are going to see him again. Find some books to read about life after death is going to help you a lot, believe me. I am sorry for your loss.

@TracyD21 8 ай бұрын

😢My father died last month, miss him so much but we could let him go in peace.. Hope you will find peace too, he's always with you in spirit ❤

@Majestic_rains Жыл бұрын

I was able to offer and experience this with my mom when she passed 4 days ago. I sat with her for hours both before and after. I wasn’t confident she would have wanted (or would be comfortable asking) someone sitting with her after, but I was drawn to be there and to stay. I wasn’t familiar with your work, however, after she passed, I found the transcript of this video in her phone notes, which led me here. I’m so glad she had found you and your work and gave me the gift of knowing I did the right thing for her. Thank you ❤

@SacredDeathcare Жыл бұрын

My condolences on your mom's death, Jessica. What a beautiful story, and I'm glad to hear that you were able to spend time with her afterwards. Thanks for sharing the lovely synchronicity around my words. All the best, Sarah

@user-wn3jt2ui3j 8 ай бұрын

I had the privilege of being my dad's side when he died. I put my head on his chest and cried as he took his last breath

@olgasoto9221 8 ай бұрын

She is so point on.seeing the beauty in passing over. As a retired nurse...Always felt it was a privilege for me to be there when someone took there last breath.And staying calm and just being present was so important.

@jamesa.rodriguez8598 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for the advice/reminder. The grace and peace of the Lord be with you always. Amen

@retiredtom1654 8 ай бұрын

Very sensible information. For most of us, our first thought is to call for emergency services. But we know our loved one is gone, and so too our peaceful quiet time is fleeting. Thanks for your common sense on how to deal with death.

@alau2058 2 жыл бұрын

The idea of this sounds very mature and enlightened. I sat by my mother's bedside as she succumbed to cancer in a hospice facility. When she took her last breath, and I knew it was about to happen, I fell completely apart and dissolved in emotional grief. I had to run out of the room to release my sobbing that would not be contained. I wish I could've handled it with the calm and grace of which you speak. Oh well. I miss my mom so much.

@SacredDeathcare 2 жыл бұрын

You handled it in the best way you could. The most important thing is that you were there with her during this sacred moment. All the best, Sarah

@viviankgoale1706 9 ай бұрын

@@SacredDeathcarebut that day I was on my. Way Tu see her there was big storm en rein icould no come that same day it was 2of feb2023at 9thrme call came en say she is gone I know she was waiting for me Tu come cause I was her only child but I came the same night she was still in the house I will never forget the pain for the sake that she was alone I miss my mom so so much iam 70yerars old please help me

@viviankgoale1706 9 ай бұрын

My mom was 101years old bit she ment a lot Tu me

@murielvaillancourt3855 8 ай бұрын

@@viviankgoale1706my mom is dead at 105 years and i miss her. My daughter has a tough cancer with 20% chance and i am bedridden in palliative care, she is my caregiver.

@terryruiz7417 8 ай бұрын

Give yourself grace. Loss is difficult, and we all handle it differently. We often say goodbye when we ourselves are exhausted from keeping vigil. Again, give yourself grace.

@warofsouls9065 9 ай бұрын

My daughter and i where there peacefully with my dad. At the best time posible. We call the other grandkids on the phone to say few words and we read him a letter for his prefer friend in the world, his small grandson. When he took the last breath, I knew it, but I felt at peace. Was very good we where there in his special moment. ❤️go far and high dad❤️❤️❤️

@maureenmoran5465 8 ай бұрын

I remember my moms passing like it was yesterday (2001) as she was actively dying from lung cancer I told my brother to climbe on the bed and sit behind her to try and help her breathing I was sat holding her hand she then stroked my hand with her thumb as I was doing to her when she took her last breaths the room was quiet we sat with her it was as if time stood still it was so beautiful and peaceful I’ve never felt anything like it since the calmness of it was unbelievable it really was so difficult to explain to anyone that feeling and atmosphere, the peace. 💔

@toddsilva8138 2 жыл бұрын

One of the most beautiful things I have ever heard. Thank you!

@SacredDeathcare 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the kind feedback. Many blessings, Sarah

@leslieinglis399 2 жыл бұрын

Was with my daughter, a friend and my Mom as she passed. It was a very special and sacred experience. The quietness was remarkable and I know my Mom transitioned quietly, without worry of the people she left behind. It was definitely a privilege. Her soul was able to fly and leave her very tired and failing body. Thank you for this video. It was exactly as you had recommended!

@lisanidog8178 8 ай бұрын

I saw my father die in hospice in 1989. He was looking right at me when he did. My fiancé passed suddenly in 1994. He sent me home. I think he knew he was going to go. Seeing death is traumatic.

@donnabushka5520 8 ай бұрын

I was with my dad when he passed. It was so peaceful….yes, we knew he was dying…his last hours with us was peaceful. I never experienced that before….we did keep a calm space for him to pass through easily. 💔💔

@YohielSpeaks 8 ай бұрын

This is one of the most apt and beautiful KZfaq videos I have ever seen. Thank you! 🥀

@MrRiprip56 8 ай бұрын

This advice is what I would tell others and that is why Im posting. I had the honor of holding my little Mom when she took her last breaths.

@barbburns2122 8 ай бұрын

Time to adjust is SO IMPORTANT. THANK YOU.

@rlnstn9300 8 ай бұрын

I love every word you said. I had the opportunity to do as you described when my Dad passed away. After a group of our family members had finished supper I went into the kitchen to help with dishes. When we were almost done I walked to Dad's room and stood in his doorway looking at him. He was stretched out in his recliner and looked as if he were sleeping peacefully. I did a double take and realized he had passed on. After telling the rest of my family who were there that night, I went back into his room and took his hand and held it in mine. I gazed at his face and talked to him a bit. I knew this was a very special moment. I did not cry when my Dad passed. He knew where he was going. He was going to be reunited with my Mom. I was happy for him to be on his journey. I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to be there with him in those moments. I truly loved this video. Thank you for sharing it with us. Bless you my friend.

@bethroberts674 8 ай бұрын

I learned this the hard way. It was chaos after my husband recently passed. My husband’s death was a surprise, I wished I had done nothing until the following day.

@bluesman97 8 ай бұрын

I was with my Mother when she died.. I took her hand and told her I loved her at her last breath. Calmly I got up and opened the blinds in the room and let the sunlight in shortly after.

@makeminefreedom 8 ай бұрын

My wife worked in a nursing home and witnessed an elderly woman die. At the moment of death she saw what she described as a butterfly fly up the ceiling and disappear. I have no doubt there is life after death.

@joanwernick6359 8 ай бұрын

Keep sitting with them for at least a half an hour and you will realize you were there when the soul leaves the body. That is an incredible gift. It happened with me and my mom when she died.

@Eam1213 3 ай бұрын

@joanwernick6359 I totally agree with you. It is such an incredible gift and a sacred experience. I was with my mom, holding her hand when she peacefully transitioned to Heaven to be with our Lord❤. Afterwards it felt absolutely incredible to be there.

@floralcouture3763 8 ай бұрын

I, along with my siblings sat at my dear father’s bedside for six hours, we held his hand and played some of his favourite music and bird calls to him as he slipped in and out of consciousness. We kissed him regularly, even beyond death..it was a beautiful experience because shortly after his last breath..😢 the sun’s rays shone through the window and directly onto his body..I couldn’t believe how divine it was😌

@desireelococo1747 8 ай бұрын

Such excellent advice. Even us nurses do this and need to be stewards for families, friends.

@doloresparlato 8 ай бұрын

Sat with my mom and two sisters for four days and witnessed my mom move through that thin place between heaven and earth. As she left her body I put my hand on her forehead, looked into her face and said "Go girl, there's nothing here for you anymore". Then my sisters and I sat there. We didn't call the nurse or the orderly. We sat there. Then we washed her body slowly, put a nice blouse on her and wrapped her in the death shroud I brought for her (a lovely piece of white muslin) for this occasion and we each held her until we didn't need to. THEN we notified the nurse. Her nursing home room was disassembled later, but I had to really push my siblings to leave it be; if they had their way they'd have had everything in boxes within the hour. Anxiety can manifest in many ways, and for most, it looks like "doing something". I sat in the place where my mom's body left this world for a long time and felt every bit of pressure (to pack up mom's room) that has always existed in my family. My oldest sister's response to my request for time (in the room before it was dismantled) was, 'well maybe you go out the car' (in the parking lot). Absolutely clueless (my sister). I'm grateful I did not cave to them. Death is a birthing if you have eyes to see.

@JAYJAYJAY53 8 ай бұрын

With my sisters it was like a scene from Scrooge taking everything of value . Even adult diapers and selling them online. I was the oldest so I took a frog Knicknack and single gold bracelet for my daughter.

@dolores2716 8 ай бұрын

Wow. That sounds like unnecessary stress at a sad time. Sorry for your loss.

@allthingswavy6420 8 ай бұрын

Well expressed. Our sisters are similar :-)

@kellyriley-duckworth4738 8 ай бұрын

♥️

@vangieram7325 2 жыл бұрын

exactly what i and my siblings did. we were all present around the hospital bed, the doctor explaining some procedures they intended to do. then we all stopped...there was this peaceful air in the room, mom took a very gentle breath, then we all knew the soul left the body, quietly, gently..then one by one we in the room moved, walked to the chapel, sat/knelt away from each other. in silence we let her go...allowed the love of God to engulf us. It was the most beautiful way to depart... i still remember that scene to this day, 25 August 1984..

@SacredDeathcare 2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate the sharing of your beautiful story. My hope is that it will bring others peace as well. Many Blessings, Sarah

@AW1Lucky 8 ай бұрын

My wife died in our home December 2021. Long illness, I knew the time was near. Watching TV mid morning, she said she would take a nap on the couch. She fell asleep sitting up, I came and sat down next to her, hugged her and recited our poem: "I loved you then, I love you still. I always have, I always will". She opened her eyes, sat up straight, raised both arms towards a spot on the ceiling exclaiming OH! OH! Dropped her arms and collapsed. I was stunned, got up, rinsed my coffee cup staring at her the whole time. Looking back, I realize she was gone, but at the time I was in shock. Sat back down next to her, checked pulse, breathing and then went into 911 mode. First responders continued CPR and with an AED told me they had a small pulse, transported her to the nearest hospital where she was pronounced. I believe they did this to spare me the trauma of all that happening in our living room. Thank you so very much for this video. God Bless you. It helps me with all the "Coulda, Shoulda, Woulda" guilt.

@johnmohanmusic 8 ай бұрын

As a critical care nurse, it is my opinion that your Wife's Soul passed on in your home, in your presence. As people die (move on, pass away, transition, whatever one wants to call it) in our ICU, despite our best efforts and the chemical, physical and electrical resources we have in a modern ICU, as I am participating in a Code I often feel I can tell when the person is gone, even when we temporarily achieve ROSC (Return of Spontaneous Circulation). The CPR and the doses of epinephrine, amiodarone, atropine, adenosine, etc. along with defibrillator shocks if warranted will often achieve a heartbeat for a few minutes (sometimes just a matter of seconds). But in many of the cases where the Code is ultimately unsuccessful, I often feel the sense during the Code that "Elvis has left the building". I think you were there for your wife. I hope you two are reunited again sometime in the future.

@bobwhammer4237 8 ай бұрын

When my dad died at home, my oldest brother and caretaker were present. They immediately called the police and hospice nurse. While waiting for them to arrive, they called the family.

@stephanietribuna8591 8 ай бұрын

She is completely spot on.

@woohunter1 8 ай бұрын

Years ago when my grandmother passed, we were there, in the hospital room. She was suffering badly the last couple days of her life. We all knew it was time but didn’t talk about it. I remember the minute she passed, it was peaceful, even my mother who is extremely negative and a bit dramatic seemed to be at peace.

@Chick4Biden2024 8 ай бұрын

I appreciate your explanation on what the living should do/not do and prepare themselves. I died twice during child labor and I can say it was so peaceful and comforting over "there" . I appreciate your approach and attitude because it's spot on. Your loved ones are in a great place and everything will be ok over "there". I'm glad to be back but I can't wait because it was so amazing. I wish you all well.

@tevya017 9 ай бұрын

It's easy in theory but everyone behaves differently when it happens.

@jelianjamili5627 2 жыл бұрын

This is very beautiful, even when death is painful and scary. I had the same privilege with my grandmother as she took her last breath. I witnessed how peaceful and quiet her death was. I miss my grandparents. I originally saw this on facebook. :)

@SacredDeathcare 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for comment. It is a privilege to be present during a loved one's passing. I appreciate you taking the time to share your story. Many thanks, Sarah

@joshuacalvert3561 2 жыл бұрын

I can 100 percent confirm this to be true!! I have seen this and experienced this as a person clinician now patient again I was as an autonomous District/ Community Palliative Care Clinical Nurse Specialist. So I can 100 percent relate to this and have explored all of these principles with all of those beautiful people I was privileged enough to be part of their circle of life process

@SacredDeathcare 2 жыл бұрын

It is incredibly important work that you are doing. Thank you for sharing. Many blessings, Sarah

@sotired7453 8 ай бұрын

You might change the title. My husband died suddenly at home unexpectedly and it wasn’t wonderful or peaceful I had to drag him part way down the stairs to lay him flat and tried to call a neighbour but didn’t think he picked up so rang for an ambulance as I did CPR on him but my back is fused so after a bit I had to use my knee on his chest then my neighbours ran in and took over but he had died. All the sudden there were people every time I looked up somebody else had come and I live rural on a farm. I have no purpose now and like another lady here commented my heart is broken so now I work hard outside I have nobody to tell me it’s time to knock off and work till I’m to sore or it’s dark just so I don’t think and plan to be with him,soon.

@walterjunovich6180 9 ай бұрын

The hardest thing for me was being strong for my daughter when my wife / her Mother died. 😪💔

@Tascountrygirl 8 ай бұрын

Thank you. A very beautiful and conscious talk. Very much appreciated. 🙏

@tillymoodley850 2 жыл бұрын

So Beautiful. Very comforting for those left behind. God Bless and Thank you, Thank you.🙏🙏🙏💖

@SacredDeathcare 2 жыл бұрын

I am very grateful for your thoughtful words. Many blessings, Sarah

@SantaWessels 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. 🙌🏻

@luludiamond1182 8 ай бұрын

Beautifully explained. Thank you❤

@user-ie3fl1uy7v 8 ай бұрын

Was holding my wife Sharon hand as she took her last breath, just sat with her for a while crying alone had asked for everyone else to wait outside so I could spend time together with her, just the two of us 😢

@bipolarcollie 8 ай бұрын

As my mother was dying, she couldn't talk but we had eyes locked on each other. I was inches away. It was calm, no real sense of time passing. Suddenly something came into her eyes - a soft light. It surprised me and I drew back slightly "what's that" half formed in my mind. Almost immediately I moved back and watched two presences move away. A dim light (Mom) and the softer light (definitely a presence). It was loving, calm, peaceful and enticing. I leaned in, knowing I could go too. For a millisecond i almost did, but draw back, my soul knowing it wasn't my time, although I knew it was my choice. Mom the light moved away, the light slowly dimming, light a flashlight moving away around a curve. It moved away rather than fading. I still can't describe it, almost 20 years later but i know now with certainty there is something/somewhere after death. I "knew" her parents and sister were present. Watching. Waiting. Calmly. Then they were gone, moments after she died. The moment was special unique and so pure, there aren't any words for it.

@denniscliff2071 8 ай бұрын

Well, just sitting there quietly is going to be a problem when I am racked with the sobbing and pain of grief so terrible that I want to find a moving bus to jump in front of.

@bonnies9861 8 ай бұрын

Great advice ~ things I had never thought of before ~ many thanks for sharing this video! I love you.

@jackraves7363 8 ай бұрын

🙏 thank you for this “episode” and wise words. I was also deeply impressed by some of the comments, making deep sense too. 🙏

@SacredDeathcare 8 ай бұрын

🙏 You're welcome

@aBluegrassPicker 8 ай бұрын

Went through this with my mom. great advice.

@fstagigi 2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful message. I was blessed to be with one of my aunts and an uncle, as well as my mother when they left this earthly home and entered their eternal home. Resting in Paradise. 🕊

@SacredDeathcare 2 жыл бұрын

It is a very sacred experience to be there during the passing of a loved one. Thank you for sharing this story. All The Best, Sarah

@annmatthews196 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for this information 🙏

@jimschuman9926 7 ай бұрын

My two sisters and I were present when our mother passed away in 2022. It was surreal for me, being the first time I’ve ever see someone pass away being present. After her last breath, we all just sat there quietly and did our own reflecting for quite awhile. My two sisters cried some but I have a hard time showing my emotions. During the whole experience which took several hours, we talked to our mom and thanked her for being the best Mom in the world. We believe that she could hear us, even though she wasn’t conscious or awake. When she took her last breath, I felt a presence in the room I have never felt before. A feeling of calmness, peace and relief knowing that she had passed over to the other side, and would no longer be in pain or discomfort. She had been battling dementia for about five years and could no longer communicate through speech. When I think back to that experience, I am so glad that I was there to be with her in her final moments and to celebrate a life well lived. I know to this day, that my Mom’s spirit is always with me and I can talk to her anytime I want. That gives me the greatest comfort. I love and miss you Mom, and I know that one day, we will be together again ❤❤.

@christinefrances5598 8 ай бұрын

Hank you for this lovely advice. Sacred space. Yes.

@JLR4244 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for your beautiful words Dr Sarah. It was an honor and a privilege to be with my 45 yr old daughter, Laura when she was dying from cancer. She died at home. I had fallen asleep in a recliner near her bed and suddenly woke up to find her no longer breathing. I'm sure I awoke at that moment because she was saying goodbye. You're right about how special that moment was, incredibly sad and unthinkable, but very special. Her husband and I just sat quietly with her for a few moments each dealing with our own private thoughts and emotions. Again, thank you for helping me to understand the dying process on a deeper level. Bless you!

@daisys8052 8 ай бұрын

Lovely, precious tips. Thanks a lot.

@sunjay-sd6hx 8 ай бұрын

Good one thanks for sharing 👍🙏

@DrModestMom 8 ай бұрын

This is excellent advice.

@whimsicalprofessor3963 Жыл бұрын

This is so beautiful... thank you♥️💫

@SacredDeathcare Жыл бұрын

I am so glad that it resonated

@marccheban194 8 ай бұрын

This is a beautifully done video; full of Love and Sacred Wisdom......

@drtcason 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for that. I was very calming and reassuring! Glad I found this video.

@SacredDeathcare 2 жыл бұрын

I'm happy to hear that :)

@j.taires5889 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for this lovely guidance 🙏🍃🧡🍃🙏 namaste

@goldenoak8164 8 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your good advice.

@lindaweber3137 2 жыл бұрын

Very good, reassuring and calm, thank you!

@SacredDeathcare 2 жыл бұрын

I am glad to hear these words resonated with you. Many thanks, Sarah

@harriettepearson9819 8 ай бұрын

Love this x

@ObamAmerican48 8 ай бұрын

I so appreciate this video.

@tigalbaby 8 ай бұрын

Beautifully articulated. Very important to create a peaceful state for the departing so departure seems natural … as it indeed is

@allthingswavy6420 8 ай бұрын

This is a beautiful video. I'm just seeing it now for some reason (no accident probably), but it is lovely. Thank you for this expression

@creekwoodjoe1607 8 ай бұрын

What you said was so beautiful.

@danmiller7568 8 ай бұрын

Such wonderful advice. How priceless and true.

@squaredtony 8 ай бұрын

excellent advice

@TheJuryIsOut Жыл бұрын

Brilliantly said!

@SacredDeathcare Жыл бұрын

Thank you for those kind words!

@mollypatrick7636 11 ай бұрын

That was very helpful, thank you.

@SacredDeathcare 10 ай бұрын

I'm so glad you found it helpful

@lindathompson4770 8 ай бұрын

Beautiful! 💝

@luckytc5115 9 ай бұрын

Thank You. 2019 I was holding my mother hand until the very last breath. I was watching her slowly exhales and the last breath is unbeliavable. I just felt everything stop and the surrounding stop. I'm at the hospital. i freeze about 20 to 30 seconds before i inform nurse that my mom pass away at 3.30+AM just 10 steps away. Until now i do not know whether i have disturb my mother next journey by holding her hand but seems like verything is OK. Thank You again for sharing.

@marquamfurniture 8 ай бұрын

This is wonderful advice! (Even as a non-spiritual person, I wish I'd known on two prior occasions.)

@timmotel5804 8 ай бұрын

Thank You. Peace

@shellywinney7115 Жыл бұрын

You're amazing thank you.

@bessiemann7468 8 ай бұрын

My daughter passed away of heart hemorrhaged I miss her so much. I did hold her for a while until the nurse came in but I am not the same. She was only 32